Oh, this is so difficult for an empath. It takes so much effort to stop caring. I've noticed that if they notice your "indifference", they go ballistic guiltripping us.
My colleague turned up the “charm” on me when he saw that I was completely indifferent and cold to him. No one else can see his tactics - so frustrating - they treat him like he walks on water (and that I am the villain)
When my grandmother couldn’t lie about being “poor” to get my disability check … and I never offered to hand her money, she lost her god dam mind telling others I didn’t love her. Funny enough she wanted desperately to hide the claim she was making, that she was poor.
Yep, then they go off and be a victim. Then the smear campaign narrative is that you're cold, distant, have bad social skills, don't care about other people, etc. And any other personal information or emotions/reactions that they can weaponize against you. Absent that, they just make it up.
@@nvk743Did yours ever bring up a topic you find sensitive on purpose, and pretend to have an extreme opinion just to try to make you mad at them? Mine did this all the time... she pretended to be sexist anti man all men die whatever so that she would get a reaction. But what i never understood was why she hated men so much considering all her fake victim stories were about her mother and grandmother and auntie abusing her, and her dad being the nice one who "saved her"... Nothing added up. She would tell me her ex abused her, (who she was with while with me), and to him that i abused her, to make us hate each other for her... we were literal puppets, its insane how easy it is for them
What helps to be indifferent - always try to see them for who they are, not who are they pretending to be. If you see a monster, you will see it, even when it is crying.
What has helped me was learning about limerence. I was stuck in limerence with them. Once I stopped fantasizing because fantasizing was never reality with them. I was about to see past the rose colored glasses. It was a deathly painful reality
If you ask a covert male narc to be accountable, they turn nasty on you. If you ignore them they still nasty. There's no end to their nasty underhanded ways.
Can’t seem to break them or get them to do what you think or really what the marriage needs: time, affection, attention, date nights,communication, doing things together. They are difficult!
Yes, they'll stalk you sometimes, give you a sign they've been there, break in, hack, take pics without you knowing Block them on phone, social media, maybe talk to your boss, cops, record, document, consult with an attorney
Well shit, yes it is, i've been experiencing it live with covert narcs. They were like cartoon villain that even they've been epic failed today, no matter how hard hit they are being backfire by their own stupid games, they keep persistent trying to comeback by tommorrow, maybe not the day after, it could be weeks, or month, depend on how much they learned about us and feel confident enough to do the execution
Me too. Knew from the start and never lost myself but it did cause me astonishment which makes your head spin how the clown can be. I visualized being without the fool, me and my daughter in a nice place and it became a self fulfilling prophecy cuz my dreams came true.
It’s been 3.5 years since I blocked her and she’s tried contacting me with different numbers and I blocked those too. The best response to a narc is silence, drives them crazy.
Best time of my life was the second he pushed too far for the final time because when he did it I physically felt the last drop of feeling I had for him flow through and out of my body.
The Covert N told me that "It's just SO Hard to Care about someone like me." Oh my. Now decades in I say, It's not that someone can't care about you, it's they realize that you don't care about them and then they give up on the idea.
Its the coldness that did it for me It was so obvious that she knew she messed up when she went cold “Im sorry YOU feel that way” to something she did for the hundredth time Didnt answer for three days and watched her start “apologizing” right away and tried come up with whatever she could to get me to stay when before she “didnt care” it was like she drained the love out but tried to force it back down my throat. Like i would chow down on what i had already threwn up no thank you there were so many chances to change and to apologize
That happen to me. I asked the narc to take of something that needed us both to agree on, and they did with no problem, (so they made it appear at time.) Next day, I was being accused of being "spoiled"..WHAT! I thought. I just let them go into their empty pointless remarks with no reaction from me. That was the end of it.
You've described my former husband of 18 years to a tee. That narcissist got more supply from me than I care to think about, and long after we were divorced. And, Danish, you are right. He played on my sympathies at every turn. In his words, his parents turned him into an emotional cripple, his father never loved him, his mother tormented him, ripped him emotionally, then, bought him things to make up for it. He wanted to eat out all the time, buy new vehicles, buy clothing and shoes from the mall, he wanted gaming computers to distract himself from the unbearable emotional pain. I cannot BELIEVE how much money I sunk into his recreational lifestyle before I came to.
For all these time, I thought he really didn't understand things, and thought he was really vulnerable, didn't know what he did hurt other people, and I played 'parent' towards him, gave him the unconditional love, and explained and taught things to him, and at the same time allowed his double standard and allowed his abuse towards me. Until towards the end of the relationship, I realized that he understood everything, he just manipulated me playing victim!!! He got my empathy and care while doing things hurtful towards me. I have neglected my own feelings to empathize toward the fake him!!
Wow, thanks. Just figured out that's me and my husband. In our first months of marriage I cried all night and he had no idea why I was crying but coldly told me to try and get sleep... He didn't even want to know why I'm crying??? Could not pat me on the back! Could not show any concern, just started snoring... When I bought this up he made out like he just didn't know that you're supposed to comfort people who cry... He said his parents left him to manage his own feelings and I fell for it. I feel like such an idiot and so hurt that I have to have the big D word on my life now (divorce) because of this asshole.
Agreed! My narcissist wants me to do things that I don't want to do, so I now say straight up that I refuse to so-and-so, and he shuts down. It's like he doesn't understand every time. He actually walks away or does something nice for me for once!
That's love bombing to start the abuse circle all over again. Narcs always have an ulterior motive to their niceness. It's to keep you on the hamster wheel period.
Why are you always spot on?? Lol Free from my Narc after 26 years of absolute domination, manipulation and mind control. Honestly it’s only a miracle I’m still alive!
The problem with this is if my mom doesn’t get the exact response she wants she then goes to the extreme in the situation and if you still refuse to play into it she then goes for the throat and says something that she knows will hurt you. That’s my biggest issue.
I abandoned myself for twenty years, caring for someone who never cared for me. I stopped doing that and now I feel great. I decided to take care of myself
Exactly!! You are so accurate in all your videos! I’m sorry for you that you are an expert because of your own suffering with your parents. You have paid a price to be the expert. You are an expert and so articulate in exposing narcissism. Thank you for using your terrible experiences to help all of us trying to understand the covert way we are being exploited and find our way to freedom. God bless you Danish!
“Weaponizing” is a key word with these trolls. The one I was married to weaponized everything from “shared” decisions, to my own vulnerabilities, to therapy.
They’re actions are akin to a newborn baby; when you stop caring for you & care for them; however, since they’re adults, Danish says to do it the other way around. Got it!
6 years stuck in a loop with that selfish, manipulative monster. Been rid of him for 6 months now. Life is beautiful again. I have hope and happiness and my health back again. It didn't just happen overnight. I had to heal, work on boundaries and realize and accept that he was preying on my compassion. Don't know where he is, but I know he's making himself and those around him deeply miserable. Not my concern anymore though. I'm stronger, tougher, smarter and more self compassionate. I put my wellbeing first.
This is my mom and my ex boyfriend. They abuse my kind heart and want me to feel guilty. I won't feel guilt anymore. They did me so bad, I'm gonna be cold towards them now. I need respect and real love. Praying God to send me a real man that really loves me and respects me! ❤🙏🏻
True They will also deflect blame They will gossip mercilessly about others and tell u how others hate and resent you only to cover theor own tracks 👣. It keeps u busy from holding them accountable for their crimes against you
How can I not react when the narcissistic harassment may cause harm or danger to me and my kids? Just yesterday, a car was driving very fast on the slippery road, which caused me to immediately brake. What the narcissistic people did was laugh. As if this is a game to have fun with. This is one of many forms of harassment we experience, including giving us fingers, verbally abusing us by roadrangers, blinding us by putting on headlights or very bright lights, and many others.
Around the 10 year mark of our 18 year so-called marriage, after years of criticizing, belittling, public humiliating, and viciously threatening to divorce me, during another futile argument, again, for the hundredth time, he threatened divorce. I replied, "Notice I'm no longer crying." He was stunned into silence. I should've divorced him right then and there. Actually, I should've never married him. I was a single parent, broke, lonely and had ended a 12 year relationship with another malignant narcissist six years before with whom I had a child, number 2 knew it, so skipped the love bombing phase entirely, and launched straight into spending both our salaries on himself. Fool that I was, self esteem at an all-time low, I married him anyway. Lesson learned.
Become nonchalant, poker face. I love it, you can see the panic in their eyes and face. They can’t push your buttons and they can tell their time is up, the spell is broken. Remember “stick and stone break bones, but words will never hurt me” you have to live by this code!!! 🫶🏽🙏🏽😁
Sad, but I've been a poker face with my narc parents since before I can remember. 20+ years before I ever knew anything about narcissism or Gray Rock. Narcs weaponize all personal information and any emotions and reactions against you, so you learn to be very private and unemotional around them (and people you don't know).
Me and this guy (10 yrs older) had the same childhood trauma.. i opened up to him about my recent grief n he used it against me and smear campaign once i set boundaries after finding out he had 4 children.. feels like he broke me even more when i was trying to save him till i blocked him
I cried when I learned about Narcissists and the one video that spoke to me, a woman describing Narcissistic mothers. I can never have a conversation with her. I have to walk on eggshells. If I say something wrong, she gets mad. Has temper tantrums. It’s better to avoid some topics. I try to have minimal conversations with them. I need to be on my own. I heard about the Human Magnet Syndrome and how because of my parents, I attract these people to no end. I had to realize my kids father is one too. I think he’s the in the closet type because, I did find things. He probably hates me for not being stupid and find out crap. I have no wool over my eyes. I will find out. I’m not happy that it’s obvious now my children are pawns. They are being used like pawns. He puts me in a situation and now I feel I’ve been robbed from being a mother to them. But I don’t want to think about it.
What an exact description of a covert's response... then ...when you least expect it... they will attack you...they wait... they don't want you to connect the attack with your sin of indifference to which they whined and played you... and then you responded with something conciliatory... but later, they will HAVE to viciously punish you for "nothing out of the blue"... that's how they make you crazy. Best thing you can do is get away.
I may have some Covert Narcissistic traits, and although I am certain I am not a narcissist, I think not caring for one is the best approach in how to deal with them. I realized recently that not only were my online friends toxic after all these years, but that I was ALSO TOXIC. I have said thins that were emotionally manipulative before withoit REALIZING that I was being manipulative. Although i have felt like a victim through most times in my life, I just FELT like was a victim and althougu sometimes i did want the person i was talking to to care, it was NEVER INTENTIONAL to cause any pain to anyone I considered a friend or cared about. To anyone that has to deal with anyone like this, I do believe that letting them think or know that you do not care about them is the best approach because in my experience it hurt me the most. I am now trying to reflect on myself and I have been practicing being more honest and appreciative of those around me, and I hope anyone who suffers from dealing with a narcissist can find their own ways on how to deal with them.
When I ran from my NARC I was asked by the police and housing people by if he was ever violent, I would always say no; the reaction was something of disbelief, but hearing you say that they become the victim is so like him. I'm so glad that you said this publicly; I just hope the authorities hear this and don't judge the REAL victim.
When I show indifference to her frantic ranting she calls me a zombie and says she’s going to tell everyone I’m abusing drugs. (she knows that’s a lie) Mmkay. Go ahead. 😅
My moms is 74 and I talk with her daily, I’ve tried for years to heal our discord. She finally quit drinking at the beginning of the year, and we were healing and was having a great relationship. But she fell off recently and started attacking me again with emotional abuse. She’s always hides and lies about drinking. Every time I tell how her actions make me feel. She changes the subject by shaming me and if that doesn’t work she plays the victim.
Sometimes we can’t leave them. What we can do is train ourselves to deal with them. Amor fati. (Love your fate). No great lesson comes easy, sorry. This didn’t happen to me, it happened for me, to learn from. If you’re grateful of the lessons then you’re definitely on the right path.
Thank you for this take. You're right sometimes we can't leave. When there is any indication of that happening, I suddenly & inexplicably can't get to any of the money. It's been moved, passwords have been changed. Even on accounts in my name.
@@lindacasey5016It's fraudulent to tamper with others accounts. He obviously knows how to access .. maybe via your phone. Can u go to your bank with your ID and report that you didn't change your password ?
The only greater lesson for me was to understand fully, how others have and are suffering from this as well.. both friends and close family. It is very painful for me to witness in full knowledge. I pray their eyes open, and can get away, before they are completely devoured.
I have been hit out of the blue by someone and she now acts like that did not happen, ghosted me completely. She made fun of my disability. I can not believe someone can live like that. She rather forgot about me.
My wife does that. Ruined everything for us , guilt trip us all “me,my parents” never take ownership of her mistakes, life is like hell and still she is the victim, she cries like world ended for her, threatening to leave if actually hold her accountable for anything , keeps me under pressure, treat me like shit, and suddenly she is the women of my dream at some particular intervals, that to keep me in the loop but now I understands everything I just don’t know how to react, 😢
Stop caring for them and care for yourself. What a great message.
Oh, this is so difficult for an empath. It takes so much effort to stop caring.
I've noticed that if they notice your "indifference", they go ballistic guiltripping us.
My colleague turned up the “charm” on me when he saw that I was completely indifferent and cold to him. No one else can see his tactics - so frustrating - they treat him like he walks on water (and that I am the villain)
When my grandmother couldn’t lie about being “poor” to get my disability check … and I never offered to hand her money, she lost her god dam mind telling others I didn’t love her. Funny enough she wanted desperately to hide the claim she was making, that she was poor.
💯💯💯🎯
Yes.
@@MrMasterDebatecan be poor but it's your money. What a creep.
There is no defeating a narcissist, and because they can't be wrong the only way to escape and survive a narcissist is to leave and never look back.
There is a way. It's called a gun.
Yep, then they go off and be a victim. Then the smear campaign narrative is that you're cold, distant, have bad social skills, don't care about other people, etc. And any other personal information or emotions/reactions that they can weaponize against you. Absent that, they just make it up.
@chrismc410 😂 we don't want to see you on the news, k? It's tempting but let someone else..another narcissist do it. They go for that kind of thing.
The best way I suppose @@chrismc410
God will take care of them.
I have handed them over to the wrath of God and no longer think about their existence. They’re in my prayers and not my thoughts.
Proud of you
Thats deep!
Vengeance is mine sayeth the Lord. Amen.
Wow. I needed this. Thank you.. seriously
Amen.
Never unblock then after blocking. I made this mistake and the abuse was 10x worse. They deserve to be blocked forever. Act like you don't know them.
Know that you don't know them. To much of a problem.😮
Yes I've heard they punish you for leaving in the first place after you come back after no contact. Punishment always follows
@@nvk743Did yours ever bring up a topic you find sensitive on purpose, and pretend to have an extreme opinion just to try to make you mad at them?
Mine did this all the time... she pretended to be sexist anti man all men die whatever so that she would get a reaction. But what i never understood was why she hated men so much considering all her fake victim stories were about her mother and grandmother and auntie abusing her, and her dad being the nice one who "saved her"... Nothing added up.
She would tell me her ex abused her, (who she was with while with me), and to him that i abused her, to make us hate each other for her... we were literal puppets, its insane how easy it is for them
Yeah and they also start to look older😳😳😳😳 its insane…… i thought i was hallucinating but I think it is real. The demon shows in them…..
Tell me about it
Yes. He would get mad at me when I tried to very nicely explain my feelings and he'd somehow flip it around on me. It was a total mind f*ck.
I understand how you feel. Pray + be strong!
Yes that's what the situation I'm going through now
This exactly happened to me. I told him nicely that I would appreciate more communication and he went 180 on me, shouting,demeaning and blaming me.
@@leyapriya9323 Same
😢😢
What helps to be indifferent - always try to see them for who they are, not who are they pretending to be.
If you see a monster, you will see it, even when it is crying.
That's right...When they show who they are, believe them.
What has helped me was learning about limerence. I was stuck in limerence with them. Once I stopped fantasizing because fantasizing was never reality with them. I was about to see past the rose colored glasses. It was a deathly painful reality
This is very true. It can be very hard but it works.
And not who you want them to be cuz will never happen.
If you ask a covert male narc to be accountable, they turn nasty on you. If you ignore them they still nasty. There's no end to their nasty underhanded ways.
Can’t seem to break them or get them to do what you think or really what the marriage needs: time, affection, attention, date nights,communication, doing things together. They are difficult!
Yes, they'll stalk you sometimes, give you a sign they've been there, break in, hack, take pics without you knowing
Block them on phone, social media, maybe talk to your boss, cops, record, document, consult with an attorney
You have to make your mind up! I’ve you except this behaviour or not. If not you have to go your separate ways
🫶🏽🙏🏽😁
It’s exhausting
Well shit, yes it is, i've been experiencing it live with covert narcs. They were like cartoon villain that even they've been epic failed today, no matter how hard hit they are being backfire by their own stupid games, they keep persistent trying to comeback by tommorrow, maybe not the day after, it could be weeks, or month, depend on how much they learned about us and feel confident enough to do the execution
So true. I figured it out and left the clown 🤡
Me too. Knew from the start and never lost myself but it did cause me astonishment which makes your head spin how the clown can be. I visualized being without the fool, me and my daughter in a nice place and it became a self fulfilling prophecy cuz my dreams came true.
@@Leelee-op7vj😊
Emotional indifference ...it 's true !
Women covert narcs are MASTERS at this
It’s been 3.5 years since I blocked her and she’s tried contacting me with different numbers and I blocked those too. The best response to a narc is silence, drives them crazy.
maybe change your number
I WISH I KNEW THIS FIFTY YEARS
AGO THESE NARCOPATHS ARE
COMPLETE SICKOS PERIOD
Best time of my life was the
second he pushed too far for the final time because when he did it I physically felt the last drop of feeling I had for him flow through and out of my body.
THIS RIGHT HERE!!
I wish i knew more about covert narcissists before i got with my ex. I apologized for things i had to reason apologizing for.
In their mind they think they have to win, how could they ever admit they're wrong about anything.? They're too selfish for that
The Covert N told me that "It's just SO Hard to Care about someone like me." Oh my. Now decades in I say, It's not that someone can't care about you, it's they realize that you don't care about them and then they give up on the idea.
So true!
Its the coldness that did it for me
It was so obvious that she knew she messed up when she went cold
“Im sorry YOU feel that way” to something she did for the hundredth time
Didnt answer for three days and watched her start “apologizing” right away and tried come up with whatever she could to get me to stay when before she “didnt care” it was like she drained the love out but tried to force it back down my throat.
Like i would chow down on what i had already threwn up no thank you there were so many chances to change and to apologize
I M OUT OF NARCCIST. THEY MADE ME ENGLITHEN. THANK U NARCCIST 💓
Stronger now because I choose to be. They were a catalyst that's about it. Violent catalysts....
True. Ignore the narcissist, become indifferent, stop caring and thinking about them, let go with a phrase: whatever! Move on, don’t look back.
Right! However, it also enrages them that you don’t react. They will accuse you of acting superior.
And? That is their problem, not yours. Indifference, my friend, leaves nothing for them to prey upon.
In many ways you are Superior 🤗
That happen to me. I asked the narc to take of something that needed us both to agree on, and they did with no problem, (so they made it appear at time.) Next day, I was being accused of being "spoiled"..WHAT! I thought. I just let them go into their empty pointless remarks with no reaction from me. That was the end of it.
OH HOW FITTING!!😂 THEY DO THAT TO US! THE IRONY😂!😊
@@waynerandles6126YES!!
You've described my former husband of 18 years to a tee. That narcissist got more supply from me than I care to think about, and long after we were divorced. And, Danish, you are right. He played on my sympathies at every turn. In his words, his parents turned him into an emotional cripple, his father never loved him, his mother tormented him, ripped him emotionally, then, bought him things to make up for it. He wanted to eat out all the time, buy new vehicles, buy clothing and shoes from the mall, he wanted gaming computers to distract himself from the unbearable emotional pain. I cannot BELIEVE how much money I sunk into his recreational lifestyle before I came to.
For all these time, I thought he really didn't understand things, and thought he was really vulnerable, didn't know what he did hurt other people, and I played 'parent' towards him, gave him the unconditional love, and explained and taught things to him, and at the same time allowed his double standard and allowed his abuse towards me. Until towards the end of the relationship, I realized that he understood everything, he just manipulated me playing victim!!! He got my empathy and care while doing things hurtful towards me. I have neglected my own feelings to empathize toward the fake him!!
Wow, thanks. Just figured out that's me and my husband. In our first months of marriage I cried all night and he had no idea why I was crying but coldly told me to try and get sleep... He didn't even want to know why I'm crying??? Could not pat me on the back! Could not show any concern, just started snoring... When I bought this up he made out like he just didn't know that you're supposed to comfort people who cry... He said his parents left him to manage his own feelings and I fell for it. I feel like such an idiot and so hurt that I have to have the big D word on my life now (divorce) because of this asshole.
@@ubootsI know just what you mean!! I'm in the same way!!! Same circumstance!!! 😮🙄
Give them nothing let them grasp at thin air 😈
Agreed! My narcissist wants me to do things that I don't want to do, so I now say straight up that I refuse to so-and-so, and he shuts down. It's like he doesn't understand every time. He actually walks away or does something nice for me for once!
That's love bombing to start the abuse circle all over again. Narcs always have an ulterior motive to their niceness. It's to keep you on the hamster wheel period.
Go through enough abuse, and you will naturally stop giving an F.
I Left Him last October! 😅 A New Church with refreshing loving new people!
Why are you always spot on?? Lol
Free from my Narc after 26 years of absolute domination, manipulation and mind control. Honestly it’s only a miracle I’m still alive!
Glad you are out of it! 👏🏻
YEAH THEY PUT ON THEIR
CROCODILE TEARS
I stopped caring but still working to care less each day
The problem with this is if my mom doesn’t get the exact response she wants she then goes to the extreme in the situation and if you still refuse to play into it she then goes for the throat and says something that she knows will hurt you. That’s my biggest issue.
He's whimpering right now and trying to give me the silent treatment
Except n leave soon as possible before he drains the life energy out of u n then that trauma bond is going to form the longer u stay run away
I abandoned myself for twenty years, caring for someone who never cared for me. I stopped doing that and now I feel great. I decided to take care of myself
They bait you into their trap...Don't fall for it, & DON'T FEEL GUILTY ABOUT IT!
Masters at tears-on-demand to guilt-trip the victim. I am now indefferent and learning how to be unoffendable.
Ugh... if only it where that easy. For me, I just end up looking petty or sour when I'm indifferent.
They blame shift every mistake they make. They'll then shame you for confronting them about something they've very clearly done.
I cannot thank you enough for this. I’m a Borderline in a relationship with a covert narcissist and it’s a DOOZY. Sometimes I need clear reminders.
Narc friend feels like texting me all day as a way to occupy my mental space ! It’s so annoying
Exactly!! You are so accurate in all your videos! I’m sorry for you that you are an expert because of your own suffering with your parents. You have paid a price to be the expert. You are an expert and so articulate in exposing narcissism. Thank you for using your terrible experiences to help all of us trying to understand the covert way we are being exploited and find our way to freedom. God bless you Danish!
Beautifully said.🙏🏽♥️
Agreed! This man is changing and blessing my life!😊❤
Sooo true about their victim- hood & crying & sucking us right back in by preying on our emotions.
You really must have gone through a lot to know this much, Danish.❤
true ! narcissist have world of their own and suck us in without our realization
Geez that makes me feel like the Narc? Mine rages anytime I point anything out
“Weaponizing” is a key word with these trolls. The one I was married to weaponized everything from “shared” decisions, to my own vulnerabilities, to therapy.
They’re actions are akin to a newborn baby; when you stop caring for you & care for them; however, since they’re adults, Danish says to do it the other way around. Got it!
I've watched this many times as this is really how it is...
Have enough self respect to punch the narcissist
I am still so affected by this 🙏 I pray he can leave me alone.
Omg this is soooo trueee😳😳😳🤕🤕🤕🤕....
This is soo scary..people are soo scaryy...
I have experienced all these worse of worse in my life..
Think of the world in terms of: prey vs predators, givers vs takers, compassion vs manipulation, good vs evil
Public humiliation cuts these individuals to the quick, too.
Yes! Detach- pull back- repeat!
My husband is a narcissist …. I’m getting fed up by him everyday.
Caring is the path to righteousness.
You must be a narcissist as well who wants ppl to care for you so you can manipulate them.😂
Thats why I said NO CONTACT blocked everyone thats done me bad. F em I'm happier without them. 💯
Wow. You speaking to me directly on this one. I'm truly trying to practice this with my mil. I can't take her antics anymore. Thank you
6 years stuck in a loop with that selfish, manipulative monster. Been rid of him for 6 months now. Life is beautiful again. I have hope and happiness and my health back again. It didn't just happen overnight. I had to heal, work on boundaries and realize and accept that he was preying on my compassion. Don't know where he is, but I know he's making himself and those around him deeply miserable. Not my concern anymore though. I'm stronger, tougher, smarter and more self compassionate. I put my wellbeing first.
I still cant wrap my head around how can love be weaponized so cruely. Not even little children does this. Theyre evil.
I realised my mother wants to have the most important problems, so even if you solve them, she'll just come up with some more.
This is my mom and my ex boyfriend. They abuse my kind heart and want me to feel guilty. I won't feel guilt anymore. They did me so bad, I'm gonna be cold towards them now. I need respect and real love. Praying God to send me a real man that really loves me and respects me! ❤🙏🏻
They feed off your reaction and they will do anything they could to get it outta you
Wow
Right on target with your assessment of a narcissist
Yes figured this out a year ago. He’s still chasing as we speak smh 🤦🏽♀️nope I’m good! ✌🏽
I found challenging them to an MMA match more effective.
When they start the crying. I tell my covert narcissist mother that her crying doesn't work .all her drama don't work and that she knows what she does
Yes my father and brother are the true examples I'm still stuck here but I am keeping my faith in god and doing action to get out of it soon
God will comfort you and guide you, even in the smallest details.
I'm praying for you 🙏💕
True
They will also deflect blame
They will gossip mercilessly about others and tell u how others hate and resent you only to cover theor own tracks 👣.
It keeps u busy from holding them accountable for their crimes against you
Such a short video, but probably the best one on the internet to easily expose how narcs work
This is the best advice, I'm doing this now. It's hard but it is very effective.
The best message ever!!! big ❤and respect for this man.
Great advice. I did that a few months ago and I'm really seeing great results.
How can I not react when the narcissistic harassment may cause harm or danger to me and my kids? Just yesterday, a car was driving very fast on the slippery road, which caused me to immediately brake. What the narcissistic people did was laugh. As if this is a game to have fun with. This is one of many forms of harassment we experience, including giving us fingers, verbally abusing us by roadrangers, blinding us by putting on headlights or very bright lights, and many others.
Danish Bashir, thanks for your educational experience and resources and support Narcissistic awareness. GOD-BLESS.
Around the 10 year mark of our 18 year so-called marriage, after years of criticizing, belittling, public humiliating, and viciously threatening to divorce me, during another futile argument, again, for the hundredth time, he threatened divorce. I replied, "Notice I'm no longer crying." He was stunned into silence. I should've divorced him right then and there. Actually, I should've never married him. I was a single parent, broke, lonely and had ended a 12 year relationship with another malignant narcissist six years before with whom I had a child, number 2 knew it, so skipped the love bombing phase entirely, and launched straight into spending both our salaries on himself. Fool that I was, self esteem at an all-time low, I married him anyway. Lesson learned.
100% true. This should be tought to kids in schools!
Stopping caring is the easiest part for me, leaving isn’t. He moved me to another country, and now I’m stuck😭
I have to listen to this every day.
INDIFERENCE n ALL WAYS ALWAYS, yeh buddy💯
Become nonchalant, poker face. I love it, you can see the panic in their eyes and face. They can’t push your buttons and they can tell their time is up, the spell is broken. Remember “stick and stone break bones, but words will never hurt me” you have to live by this code!!!
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Sad, but I've been a poker face with my narc parents since before I can remember. 20+ years before I ever knew anything about narcissism or Gray Rock. Narcs weaponize all personal information and any emotions and reactions against you, so you learn to be very private and unemotional around them (and people you don't know).
Did this just the other day-10/10, would recommend 👍
Me and this guy (10 yrs older) had the same childhood trauma.. i opened up to him about my recent grief n he used it against me and smear campaign once i set boundaries after finding out he had 4 children.. feels like he broke me even more when i was trying to save him till i blocked him
I cried when I learned about Narcissists and the one video that spoke to me, a woman describing Narcissistic mothers. I can never have a conversation with her. I have to walk on eggshells. If I say something wrong, she gets mad. Has temper tantrums. It’s better to avoid some topics. I try to have minimal conversations with them. I need to be on my own. I heard about the Human Magnet Syndrome and how because of my parents, I attract these people to no end. I had to realize my kids father is one too. I think he’s the in the closet type because, I did find things. He probably hates me for not being stupid and find out crap. I have no wool over my eyes. I will find out. I’m not happy that it’s obvious now my children are pawns. They are being used like pawns. He puts me in a situation and now I feel I’ve been robbed from being a mother to them. But I don’t want to think about it.
What an exact description of a covert's response... then ...when you least expect it... they will attack you...they wait... they don't want you to connect the attack with your sin of indifference to which they whined and played you... and then you responded with something conciliatory... but later, they will HAVE to viciously punish you for "nothing out of the blue"... that's how they make you crazy. Best thing you can do is get away.
Right stop caring for them period
Thank you. It's very hard. But you know that. I am getting better at it. There are so many people like that out there.
This is beyond true .
I may have some Covert Narcissistic traits, and although I am certain I am not a narcissist, I think not caring for one is the best approach in how to deal with them. I realized recently that not only were my online friends toxic after all these years, but that I was ALSO TOXIC. I have said thins that were emotionally manipulative before withoit REALIZING that I was being manipulative. Although i have felt like a victim through most times in my life, I just FELT like was a victim and althougu sometimes i did want the person i was talking to to care, it was NEVER INTENTIONAL to cause any pain to anyone I considered a friend or cared about. To anyone that has to deal with anyone like this, I do believe that letting them think or know that you do not care about them is the best approach because in my experience it hurt me the most. I am now trying to reflect on myself and I have been practicing being more honest and appreciative of those around me, and I hope anyone who suffers from dealing with a narcissist can find their own ways on how to deal with them.
When I ran from my NARC I was asked by the police and housing people by if he was ever violent, I would always say no; the reaction was something of disbelief, but hearing you say that they become the victim is so like him. I'm so glad that you said this publicly; I just hope the authorities hear this and don't judge the REAL victim.
Thanks Danish!!❤⚘
So cruel! So evil!😮😮😮
When I show indifference to her frantic ranting she calls me a zombie and says she’s going to tell everyone I’m abusing drugs. (she knows that’s a lie)
Mmkay. Go ahead. 😅
I. Can't. Let. Go. Cuz. I. Still. Love. Him
Chai its true, he never crying but u saw he comes more wicked
My moms is 74 and I talk with her daily, I’ve tried for years to heal our discord.
She finally quit drinking at the beginning of the year, and we were healing and was having a great relationship. But she fell off recently and started attacking me again with emotional abuse. She’s always hides and lies about drinking.
Every time I tell how her actions make me feel. She changes the subject by shaming me and if that doesn’t work she plays the victim.
Sometimes we can’t leave them.
What we can do is train ourselves to deal with them. Amor fati. (Love your fate). No great lesson comes easy, sorry. This didn’t happen to me, it happened for me, to learn from.
If you’re grateful of the lessons then you’re definitely on the right path.
Thank you so much great point.
Thank you for this take. You're right sometimes we can't leave. When there is any indication of that happening, I suddenly & inexplicably can't get to any of the money. It's been moved, passwords have been changed. Even on accounts in my name.
@@lindacasey5016It's fraudulent to tamper with others accounts. He obviously knows how to access .. maybe via your phone. Can u go to your bank with your ID and report that you didn't change your password ?
The only greater lesson for me was to understand fully, how others have and are suffering from this as well.. both friends and close family. It is very painful for me to witness in full knowledge. I pray their eyes open, and can get away, before they are completely devoured.
Yes
I tried to do this to my husband, he said I didn't care and ,how could I not care 😂 . LEAVE ZERO WIGGLE ROOM!!!
I’m so tired 😢
SAME
@@melissabyrd1310😢
I have been hit out of the blue by someone and she now acts like that did not happen, ghosted me completely. She made fun of my disability. I can not believe someone can live like that. She rather forgot about me.
The best advice ever. Thanks so much.
Cute hair cut and beard!!best look and style on u!!!!
My wife does that. Ruined everything for us , guilt trip us all “me,my parents” never take ownership of her mistakes, life is like hell and still she is the victim, she cries like world ended for her, threatening to leave if actually hold her accountable for anything , keeps me under pressure, treat me like shit, and suddenly she is the women of my dream at some particular intervals, that to keep me in the loop but now I understands everything I just don’t know how to react, 😢