2 Ways a Narcissist Reacts When You become Silent
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- Опубліковано 14 тра 2024
- Master Coparenting with a Narcissist
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CHAPTERS
00:00 introduction
00:38 Workshop announcement
01:21 1.They really panic & become anxious
04:27 2.They take your silence as a sign of agreeableness
09:07 master co-parenting Course
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Danish don't choose this colour for shirts it does not fit you . The model is nice the colour does not suit you .
Are there any free resources for people who don't have the money to buy the workshop?
@@fightback3971❤
Sir, I've already paid . But I can't find out how to access the online course ! Pls pls pls guide me to access the course ... Day by day , it's getting worse , and there is none to help..so many things , which are untold and unexplainable . Pls guide me sir .. pls
The silence has been golden. I don't care how he's handling it. lol
Yes exactly 😂😂
THIS STATEMENT WILL PREACH ALL DAY!!!! AMEN AND AMEN❤❤❤❤❤
She gets 0 stimulus from me and i hope she has moved on and completely forgotten about me.
Ab. So. Lutely.
Yes. I agree. Silence is golden. And duct tape is silver. Very handy that duct tape stuff........just sayin'.......
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.sporessss I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Yes he is. dr.sporessss
Absolutely NO supply!... Not even a drop neither a trickle. ZERO. I AM NOT A SUPPLY.
Someone pin this.
My silence speaks and I don't care what the think or say. I choose my peace over chaos
ppl trying to disturb our peace will bite their teeth without any succes
The silence treatment is the form of abusive, sign of weakness, And a weapon of people who don't know how to deal with their and others emotions. So sad how social media glorify it. Actually those who use silence treatment in order to "test" or cut of others after initial friendship... They are the Real narcissists who blame others of narcissism. If Iam uncomfortable with someone while I get to know him/her closer, first I tell it to the person, then I explain it what manner I don't like.... All what Is neccessary in communication between friends. Silence treatment is most coward way to end any relationships. Both parties have been involved in building up, breaking up is painful, nothing Fast track and easy.
@@voiceofthesoil3131 we talkin about silence and u turn it into silent treatment. well nice try
@@PaXeGo when silence used deliberataly to avoid someone or to test someone's character - it's called silent treatment. Which silence Are you talkin about?
@@voiceofthesoil3131 inner silence. to decide to no longer swallow the baits a narcissist throws right at ya. its no treatment when done to protect oneself its only treatment to manipulate. For Example. i told my narcisstic mother im working on a DIY cat tree and i wanna get me 2 kittys in near future , like this year. everytime its not about her, shes leavin the conversation. Thats silent treatment. right ? so i didnt took that bait. few days later shes throwing the next bait. Are u having a cat that u working on a cattree ? like i just told u about that 2 days ago. so i decided to no react to that. because i already told her. so just like in the video . she couldnt stand to not know whats up. (she felt fear of replacement) and started to stalk me at my door. in that case i did decide for silence to instead for chaos.
They only communicate when they need something so I don’t care how they respond to my silence.
Lol this is the truth. Its funny how when you be nice to then they start asking many questions or just important questions they dont havethe answers too.
When the devil can't get you, he uses a Narcissist 👌
Facts!! 💯💯
True.
Excuse me to correct it a little "when the evil can't make you a bad person otherwise, he makes you to be a Narcissist - a person assuming is right, a judgmental one, the one who withdraw the communication and blame the other one of demanding conversation to be back. Communication is the pillar of any relationship.
Correct ❤
True
the Bible says, "Resist the devil and he will flee from you." GOD said that. So, resist the narcissists and they will flee.
Yep rebuke and call God
Perfect and YES!!!!
Amen 🙏
At the time in the darkness, I thought it was Satan's influence testing my willpower. But God is all knowing...Romans 12:21 "Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good."
And Jesus dying for your sin belief is a narcissist religion. The merciful Creator wants repentance and to become a better being. No demigod can die for your sins.
Silence is golden. It’s giving you the space to heal. It’s powerful protection.
Definitely!!…I’ve used it countless times & never fail me lol!😅👍👍
"They are a parasite in need of a host". Best description ever!
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her/him?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
She sounds like a witch 😮
Get Fr Ripperger's book 'Deliverance Prayers For The Laity', it's fantastic. He's an exorcist .
My silence saved me by 99.9%
Once I got silent it meant I was preparing for a divorce. He thought he trained me to be obedient. The divorce was a shock to him lol. No contact for two years and it was the best decision of my life.
I went silent and no contact and now he is trying to get in contact with me I refuse I don't want evil and chaos in my life at all the devils advocate can stay outside he isn't my concern no more
I just went silent to match his silent energy. They don't like it and may post passive aggressive things on the internet. They feel entitled to you always initiating contact to validate their importance.
My grandfather never spoke. He had a separate bedroom. He took separate vacations. He lived a separate life. Had separate friends that she was not privy to. Yet lived under the same roof. He never spoke to anybody in the family because he knew if he did, my grandmother would screw it all up. Never expressed any emotion. He knew what he was dealing with. So it came as a big shock when he died of natural causes on the couch one night.
As a child, I thought it odd. But as an adult, I realize now my grandmother was a narc and that's how he dealt with her. In the end, it was very effective.
Was your grandmother a good cook?
Wow!!! 🤦🏽♀️
The silence has been such a blessing I should’ve done this sooner pulled away because now I feel wonderful
U too?😊
@@LysaChampioneI feel at peace and healing. Narc can't touch me since I established boundaries I chose me !
@@Xenlacasa45 we deserve it!!
@@LysaChampione they look so drained and depleted without our supply they are energy vampires
@@Xenlacasa45 they should look and get it somewhere else..
Access denied with this one .. Sorry not 🚫 Sorry 👍😊🦋✅😎
Blessings 💖 💯🏆😇🙏
I walked away and went silent on my ex and his family. Blocked them out of my life including the past friends.
I am happy and doing what I love.
I am really happy that people are being aware of such people thanks to videos like this.
Amen exactly what I do to retrieve peace 🙏🏿
My evil “meat suit” actually said today, “I thought that’s what you wanted was for me to be silent.” This was after I asked him to stop slinging insults; I am getting out now!
Creep
After being texted that I am Medieval, unscientific ,told I need therapy and I'm naive.....I paused,then texted back "text someone who cares." One week silent, so nice, no criticism ❤and sooo peaceful!!!
Yay! 🎉🎉🎉😊 happy for you!
Who says medieval 😂
Wow periodt 💅🏾
You are NEVER deleted from the narcissist's mind. They remain stuck with your introject for the rest of their days, no matter how long you've been gone.
So true!!!
What does that mean? How do they exhibit this?
I agree..
they always think of you each time it goes wrong with the new supply if there is a new one. They always keep an eye on you if they see you doing well they are revengeful .they forget you because they never want you to forget them @sophiasdreamquinnblue8977
Even if you go silent, they will someway, somehow cause drama and play the victim. It's as if their life depends on it.
Facts 💯. The craziest things is alot of males will team up with the spouses to do the drama together...
# pathetic
Remember they are just overgrown babies! The less contact the better if they wanna start stalking well now u can just put em in jail not always easy but u will in the end
I went silent and no contact with my narcissistic brother and sister. They kept trying to bait me putting me down. I gave them no response. So they started attacking my children . that is not on
Get the law and court involved with that, they both are desperate and pathetic for doing that@noelaustin4751
Ok. What about other point of view. Whose? Someone who Once used to be your friend? Sure their life depends on you. Sure they are victim of silent treatment. All the drama Is they want to know why. Why you go silent. Why you destroy friendship. If you don't tell, you're bad guy here. They don't know. They ask you the reason. Anger is emotion. Its part of relationship. Seeking for attention of loved one is natural. Silence is abusive.
Now if you tell them you don't love them anymore and the reason behind... You're doing right. But hey people don't get cruel and Torture others while watching from afar.
You can't wrestle with pigs 🤣
So very true
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As a country girl raised in the woods, you most DEFINITELY CAN wrestle with pigs.
Danish make a video on how their voice changes when they want to impress someone.
Yes, Please do it's hilarious when they behave like clowns. Just sit back, stay silent and observe.
Oh yeah, so ridiculous 😆
Mine was very good as a mime. He could do many voices successfully. I always told him he should be an actor or something. Turned out he was one in real life...
@@quasimodo614HOLY SHIT THANKS FOR POINTING THIS OUT!!!!!!!!! My ex was totally all over the place and even surpassed my own voice/tone when he mirrored me for the first few weeks DAMN! 😭 At this point I jusy get goosebumps and it feels icy cold to recapture this detail ewwwww
(He claimed to be MtX bottom and I had to be the dominant FtM in the whole relationship fuck)
Yess!
Proverbs 18:1
An unfriendly person pursues selfish ends and against all sound judgment starts quarrels.
I started setting boundaries after the children moved out. I didn't care anymore. He burned the house down. Greatest gift I got. Nothing holding me to him or ou4 possessions. I am free✊👑👏⚡
I watch these videos because they do help me with my healing but I don’t wish them any harm, karma none of that. In a way I am thankful because this experience has made me look within and realize what I need to work on. Boundaries, self love and awareness. I walk away taking accountability for my part. It doesn’t matter to me if they ever do. I’ve learned the lesson. I’m so ready to heal and move on with my life.
exactly. forgiveness is the key.. i want nothing but the best for my ex wife of 12 yrs. let us all heal with a clean heart.
This is true. my narcissistic relative lashed out at me one day in front of the family and instead of feeding into it, I looked at them and walked away. When I tell you the scream they hollered out when I walked out could heard a block away😂. They started screaming and crying like a toddler.
At the time, I didn’t know they had narcissistic personality disorder but I knew something wasn’t right. And honestly after finding it out, it’s so much easier to deal with them….They are very predictable. But Now it’s the flying monkeys that annoy me 🤦🏽♀️
One gave me the silent treatment for the second time after I paid for an all expense trip🤔 I responded with NO CONTACT😂 ✌🏾✌🏾 Two years later, many lies later, smear campaigns and everyone still hearing about how I'm horrible for walking away and never speaking to her and flying monkeys again. But my life is extra beautiful absent of her in it💃🏿💯❤️💃🏿💯❤️💃🏿💯❤️
Narc don't like sick people, i underwent surgery...very complicated breakup...he cheated, denied it, came to meet me with a hickey and told me it was a bruise...instead of telling me that he got someone new all he did was to make me understand that i need to go now...he left me into confusion, turned my brain upside down. Im 4 months into it....getting better, listening to music that i used to listen before i met him in my life. Though i still have nightmares...i am getting through it. Im in NC since february...i dont think he will call me since i know that narc does not like sick people. The damage that he caused to me is much more painful than my operation...can you imagine ?. Thanks, i dont want to see him nor hearing his voice....when he comes in my mind my heartbeat races...traumatised
Sry love, you deserve better!
@@MissPhiomena thank you. A positive thing about this horrible journey is that I am getting closer to God, I read my Bible everyday.🙂
Amen... Psalms 23 will help you 💕
Ya, if you're trying to get rid of a narcissist, tell them you need a ride to a doctors appointment & you need them to cook supper for you. 😂 You'll never see them again.
You know what? Just 3 words- f*ck that guy!! 😀😀😀 Sending hugz 😘😘😘
They get dirty, try to be heard and same time command you to answer.
Narcissist hate silence it eats away at their soul when they don't know what you doing? Or worst their mind starts wondering maybe you moved on found someone new they are longer your main focus or prioriy they have been replaced ouch..
I believe in writing dull stuff back. One guy went on a rant about my age and weight.
So I said, " 9:43 I got your text.
I'm not doing anything interesting, just paperwork, why don't you do something good for your mum. Occupy yourself, read a book."
Then I left my phone off. And blocked him etc.
He drove around my neighbourhood so I parked my car out of sight for a bit, caught the bus and kept a low profile.
Oh, borderline stalking on top of the narcissism. Nice combo. I had a stalker but I made sure he never got to know me. I picked him out of police photos and they told me to literally run and seek safety if I ever encountered him again. A very violent bad person. Bet you he was a narc too.
I am like a lioness with my silence. 😂 thank you.
Total silence
Eid Mubarak Danish and everyone who read this. 🎉❤
Eid moubarak ❤🎉
I wish. Danish makes videos in Urdu
My sister "banished" me from the family, her silient treatment for something I never said hurt the first 9 months, but as time passed, the healing began and I see her casting me out as a blessing. No more mooching, no more lies, no more drama, just pure peace within my life. ❤
Gotta crappy family myself
That's sad when it's family of well fuccem
I also have a narcissistic sister man, I feel you
Silence is golden, duct tape is silver. I was in a gaming community and after realizing a close friend in that community was abusing me emotionally and showing narcissistic traits, I left that community and have gone "no contact." I'm healing but I've found peace with a lot.
I don't fight at all. Ever.
Because that person isn't worth it.
I stay silent and if I MUST address the person, it's on MY terms, and whatever that person says or the reaction is, that's totally irrelevant to me.
FACTS. THEY ALWAYS WANT TO FIGHT!!!
@@amaqueen9012 Oh absolutely.
And my goal is to always demonstrate that I have a say in my reaction. Only I do. They don’t write scripts that I follow.
Silence is meaningless and useless without the accompanying lack of emotional response.
the peace is incredible! period.
My mom gets angry if I don't keep up giving info to her or othewise give massive input to her existence or just keep up the convo that she can then judge, criticize and reject or treat like it was her input and she who said it. She might belittle what I say, my ideas and next moment present them as her own. She's like a parrot. I have learned that I have to push myself to limits to keep up with content to others or otherwise they'll get volatile, angry and explosive 😢
Danish, thank you, this is so very helpful! Broke up with a narc acquaintance recently. He respected my silence from January until Easter, then dropped a greeting card for Easter and some chocolate into my postbox = his way to hoover! I said thx by calling him. That's what he was waiting for. He called me yesterday to remind me to stay in contact with him - which I don't want! This time I ignore his call and stay silent, hopefully forever. He lives in my neighborhood. Next thing he will do is stalking me by watching my place from out the street or try to meet me somewhere in person. I know bc. it's about the third or fourth term of me trying to separate and to get rid of the lonely 79 year old widower. Grhh! - He's pushing my compassion buttons and if nothing else works he's playing the victim bc of various reasons: I'm ill; I lost my dog; I need some body-touch; I am so depressed and so lonely etc.! He is very sly/cunning in getting the supply he is needy for! You bet! 😢 But I learn to sly back! 😂❤🎉
If you answer you get inside his circle. If you want to ignore him you have to ignore his calls. Get a new phone number. It would get worse before it would be better. Put ring cameras on your home. Don’t tell anyone. My ex still stalking me 14 years after divorce. I called the police and police talked to him. He stopped. I don’t wish this to anyone. You must have boundaries and he can’t ignore them. They wanted attention even if is negative don’t give him a chance. I would move away from that area. They are millions of apartments in US. If you say someone you are not interested into a relationship they need to go away. If not you go away. Good luck! 🍀 He is not into you he just wants to make you pay for the emotional pain you caused him even if you didn’t do anything. It’s called narcissistic injury.
Lol mine has told me every single excuse you listed.
@@mariapilarmeI'm going to disagree about the moving away part. He's 79yo. Kick him in the balls & send him home limping. 😂 There is no reason to move anywhere.
Get a new dog .. It will love You unconditional ❤️
@@glittergirl2098 Thank you much, 😊, I already have a dog! Big love there between my dog and I! I live alone but am not feeling lonely; except with the narc I feel loneliness!
From lots of experience over the years, the biggest thing narcassists cant stand is silence. It eats away at them. They always need to have some sort of contact with you and reaction. They feed of it
They only pick fight either by crying or abusing
Some of the worst narcissists I've known of have been step children, especially as they get older and become adults. You're their childhood trauma because you're the new partner.
They are failures
Perfectly said 🎉
💯! 👍
Impacted by silence
Starting from scratch, I spent 4 years working day and night about narcissism, learning all the information and now I have become a professional expert in the field of Narcissism.
I believe you may be able to answer this question … after over two months … of a potentially great relationship. She ghosted me … instead of telling me why … she ghosted … she told other mutual associate that it was all my fault …i never saw the discard or slandering comin….which is WHY it affected me so deeply … thus im still watching all these vids on this Narcissist PD…whats her nxt move ? From your experience and expertise … shes 62 fairly attractive … super easy for her to snare new supply… stupid question but i gotta ask … do you think she’ll want my supply again or is she Totally thru with me?
Li
Huh?
@@dnotesdnotes8245 Thank you so much, I love helping people the right way. I understand that you were with a NARCISSIST for only 2 months, then the narcissist took your energy, joy, smile and happiness and left after using you, right?? I understood this from what you wrote. I apologize if I misunderstood... Now I wish you a speedy recovery and I understand you very well. You feel as if a giant public bus has run over you. Don't be afraid, your narcissist partner will definitely come back to you. But I have very bad news for you... When he comes again, he will beg you. He will apologize. He will cry and when you refuse, he will lie at your door for 3-5 days... If he convinces you and you accept this lie and pity him and GIVE HIM AGAIN CHANCE, THE NARCISSIST WILL COMPLETELY DESTROY YOU PSYCHOLOGICALLY. it darkens your life
@@dnotesdnotes8245 I give you very good and I trust you.. I know what you are going through.. I live in Amsterdam, NETHERLANDS and my PhD thesis at the university is ABOUT NARCISSIST. I gave FULLY 4 years. In the first years, I did not understand anything, then I thought calmly and understood everything very well and I succeeded.. I AM TRYING TO HELP THOUSANDS OF PEOPLE.
Thank you Danish ❤ Please continue to share your knowledge to help people fight the demons of NPD to keep the struggle and survive. Include my self
Danish! Thank you for all of your contributions, and your willingness to share details of what you have survived. I am so sorry you went through all of that, and it makes me even more grateful for what you did to overcome it well enough to be able to talk about it. Your father and my mother were very similar in how they managed, only your father sounds more calculated, whereas my mother was just pure nutso control at all costs chaos. My grandmother told me, 'Your mother lacks ruth, and it's my fault for spoiling her rotten'.
I hope your life is better now. You are worthy of wonderful things. I bless you.
When I went NC with my abusive dad and grandma, they said it was me being VIOLENT
That makes no sense honey
Yes..even when it's clearly their own doing they try to put blame on you and tell all sorts of crazy lies about you. Be well.
I just realized something. By "NC" you don't mean North Carolina. You mean No Contact.
I was wondering why everyone was going to North Carolina. I was like "Are there not any narcissists in North Carolina?" Hell, I was about to pack up & move there myself.
Then it finally hit me you guys are saying "No Contact." 😂 It's all making sense now.
SAD
LOVE TO TURN THE TABLES
WHEN ITS REALLY THEM😳
Should have text them back saying "Whose this?" Lol
Your videos helped me a lot to heal and come out very confident and strong ❤
I'm so out of the loop on this and I love it !!
This is my first time commenting. I have learned so much from your videos. Thank you. When you said, "Silence gives them power" that really hit home with me. My entire life I practiced "gray rock" with my parent. I only recently learned that term. When I was around them it was easier to let them do the talking. It's odd when you come to realize that your parent really doesn't like you or care about with you say. They did like to see/talk to my children. I wouldn't leave them alone with my children and if they spoke on Zoom I made sure to be in the room. I often had to intervene or discuss later with my children that what my parent said was mean or inappropriate. As my children got older and less entertaining to my parent, they started to say mean things about their appearance or tried to guilt trip and manipulate them. I recently went no contact with them and it's the best thing that I've ever done. I survived the abuse. I wasn't going to subject my children to it.
GOOD FOR YOU!!!!
Good parent right here
Thank you for this information, it was very detailed & spot on. Thank you. 🙏🏼
Brilliant, thanks so much!!
I went silent on my mother, who is a narcissist. She has since tried to buy back into my favor, fake nice in front of people with gifts but no real changed behavior or apology. She comes around when it looks good to other for her to do so. I've accepted her gifts, but I've told my husband it doesn't mean she will be able to buy her way back into my life. She has since used other people in the family like my grandmother to guilt trip me and manipulate me to accept her back into my life and her treatment of me. I refuse.
I recently cut my narc mother out of my life. She treated me like shit and will never have the chance to do it again. She taught my brother how to guilt-trip people. But because I'm aware of such methods of manipulation, I laugh to myself when my brother tries to guilt-trip me. It's truly pathetic. How awful of your mother, trying to get other members of the family to manipulate you. I'm glad that you recognize exactly what she's trying to achieve - and that you're immune to her BS. Just as I'm immune to my family's BS.
Well done god is for everyone and so never give up just pray from a distance as the devil is a liar!!
So trying this right now. finding a Narc is an opportunist who will just get on with it.
But you totally right in that the unpredictability really rattles them. Will update.
My silence and all my blocking remains very empowering to me. I cared/care zero whether they were/are reacting or not.
Right on time!
Danish I am doing xactly wat u said ..silence...cutting off...emotionally physically ...it is working....yaaayy
..the narc is crumbling....can see him falling apart..gone into depression...and I am watching his karma taking over
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Thankyou, this is extremely helpful 😊❤
When he discarded me and went silent I went crazy…
It hurts so much
I couldn’t stop writing him, seeking clarity, empathy, closure…
And it bothered him even more
Bring me chaos,bring me spite,I don't CARE,Absolutely ZERO attention,ZERO contact,ZERO hell. All heaven.❤✝️!
Good job! Love the advice 😊
Now I've learned to leave him on his own I just give him his meals and go in my room. Did I mention he does not want to even sleep in the same room? I don't even have conversation with him but I'm enjoying my space and peace❤❤❤
This is so spot on Danish 😅
Thanks for sharing 🙏
I like that drip supply advice- i had not heard of that before
I am currently recovering from having to navigate tolerating the attendance of a sibling plus his family of toxins at our shared mother’s funeral- they previously behaved clearly that i was not any value to them inviting everyone except me to the daughters wedding- i did not care about going to the wedding but the absence of invitation was a glaring obvious statement and hurt a lot but cemented clarity and i in return chose to block them from being a part of my circle as my personal boundary
And so here we all were forced into a shared event and i knew they would act fake as if they could act like they could hug me as tho the higher class citizens than i am again
It was extremely difficult as i knew any contact towards me was not for my benefit and only to charade themselves in their fake self exalting egos
Knowing about this drip supply idea is very helpful as i didn’t want to make a scene so i allowed a half hug from the main predator because she initiated it but I ignored my sibling - but as a Christian thats now tied me into flashbacks like a trauma along with their flying monkeys also making a beeline towards me -
Are you able to do a video on how to navigate attending a funeral that you dont want to miss but the loved one is shared with the attendance of toxic family that you went no contact with
TREAT THEM WITH THE KINDNESS THAT THEY SHOW//
AND KEEP IT MOVING!!!
YOU HAVE WON!!!
Wow! Thank you for this video
Today I go to my Narssict relative his house is very dirty he barks at me like dog.he barks attack at me he shows to everyone that he is joking but I show no reaction no response...!he became like mad dog attacks me..may GOD curse every narcissist..!
I have so appreciated your video's. I feel st 56 I'm learning to have real boundaries, healthy boundaries.
Silence is the best reply to a fool ❤
My silence has begun after 21 years and 2 months. He can feel it and see it. He tried to test me but I was assertive. Then he left. He knows now that I am becoming a different person and he can see he is losing me but instead of changing his behaviors he is trying to accuse me.
He's accusing you because he wants to make you react. Making u react makes him feel like he's in control. So basically it's all about him re-establishing the control he has lost over you.
Don't reply to anything he says, it's all one big game
❤❤❤ Thank you Danish you r truely my savior. Yes I have completely started giving My partner silent treatment and he is driven crazy trying to get out reactions from me. Let see what fate has to bless me 😂❤🎉
Sometimes the truth gets you further abused.
I got numerous beatings including 2 purple eyes. I pressed charges and he is now in a mental facility because he was found incompetent to stand trial. We were together for 4 and a half years. The abuse didn't start till my 40th birthday.
It's really quite funny.. I started doing this 2 days ago to my horrifically reinforced narcisist parents and then I see this video. This explained what I was doing because, honestly, I'm ready to accept homelessness because i feel powerless to them. I don't want to fight with them, and everything i talk to them about is turned around and used against me in surprising and cruel ways. I'm not even afraid of homelessness anymore because i think about it so often and ive mapped the area very well.
So thanks for at least giving me a fighting chance!
Not sure how old you are, please don't make yourself homeless, it is not a good situation to be in, you will become even more vulnerable.
If you are old enough, get a job, enough to pay the rent in a cheap room in a shared house and enough for food. This is your new base. Build your life up from there.
If you are young, ie still at school, go and talk to a teacher or your doctor.
You sound quite mature so likely won't have to wait too long until you can escape.
In the meantime, look up "grey rocking", which is basically making yourself really uninteresting and not giving them any info that they can throw back in your face.
Good Luck.
Your silence makes the narc crazy and ruthless. Be careful!
They're already crazy and ruthless, my ex kicked my back door on a restraining order and I pew pewed him in the leg. Guess who's not coming back my way?! People have to learn to protect themselves all together regardless of the narcissist being the issue or not. Bowing down to them is never the answer.
This is so interesting.
My silence has led to accusations from her! I can't win!
The accusations were to make you REACT and break your silence, that was her whole motive
@@empressb1107 I can't believe they think this through enough to actually do this! Are narcissists that smart? Surely I'm smarter than her!
@Trish-es9qz not smart but DETERMINED! That's why they're so draining, they are determined to get a reaction from you! Once you know that's what they want you don't give it! Use the "D.E.E.P. technique" don't Defend, don't Engage, don't Explain, don't Personalize. Let them bury themselves acting unhinged God has you protected
I was so happy to learn about grey rock
Absolutely right. I learnt many things from your videos. Please suggest some ways that these monsters do not spoil innocent people's life.
The silence treatment is the form of abusive, sign of weakness, And a weapon of people who don't know how to deal with their and others emotions. So sad how social media glorify it. Actually those who use silence treatment in order to "test" or cut of others after initial friendship... They are the Real narcissists who blame others of narcissism. If Iam uncomfortable with someone while I get to know him/her closer, first I tell it to the person, then I explain it what manner I don't like.... All what Is neccessary in communication between friends. Silence treatment is most coward way to end any relationships. Both parties have been involved in building up, breaking up is painful, nothing Fast track and easy.
Finally someone said it!!!!! ❤❤❤❤ thank you! Exactly!!!’
You give narcissists the silent treatment because because they don't care about your "no" and are just trying to drag you in that abusive relationship again. They won't move on, that's why you need to move on while ignoring them.
I know that you're a narcissist, gaslighting people on here into thinking that they are the narcissists for trying to get away from an abusive relationship, youre so pathetic😂
Perfect 👌 thank you 🙏
This is so on targett!
Love that "I can't wrestle with pigs"
My silence drives him nuts. He even checks my phone.. he's so insecure and so manipulative. An hour of you not texting or calling telling them you love or miss them is going to be an issue for few days. Its exhausting dealing with this kind of person..what used to piss me off is my silence being seen as stupidity or weeknes. Now that I know what i know...i don't care what he thinks.
Excellent video
I’m not sure I agree. My silence works perfectly for me. I don’t need to push any buttons. I don’t need to set my boundaries or clarify anything to them. I don’t need to respond or retaliate. This only creates a single response in which you have broken the no contact rule. The golden rule is, ignore the bully and the bullying gradually diminishes. I don’t care what they think. It’s none of my business. My peace and my personal space is, my business. Continually focusing on my peace, indeed and quite possibly enrages them and eats away at them but - most importantly, it helps maintain a healthy and carefree lifestyle for me.
I've been married for 16 years, after 14 years of abuse I finally know what he is I thought I was loosing my mind. I finally did some research and know what's been going on. I am now in gray rock been in gray rock for 2 years now, but I'm sick of living and pretending like I don't feel anything. I'm stuck in this marriage financially.
Lisa, hugs. Your job now is figuring out how to break the financial stranglehold he has on you. I'm in the same position except not married. I own "our" house and it's paid for. But he refuses to leave, says I will need a legal eviction. In my state that can take upwards of 6 months and cost me $3-4K which I of course don't have. I'm older, on social security with health problems. Regular work is out, no one left I might inherit from, and we sure can't count on the lottery. But I have a great therapist. She's worked to help me tolerate him but it's not working anymore. He has to go. Don't let it get this bad or go on this long. Deep depression will set in. I let this man destroy my life and rob me of decades of possible happiness. I can't die like this nor should you. Start putting even small amounts of money aside. Maybe get a private bank account with only online banking. Is a woman's shelter in your area. How is your friend network? Can and do you work? Online there are sites where you can do surveys and make some money that are legit. Depending on your state there is assistance if you will be poverty stricken by this. You just to start researching and planning while keeping it all secret from him. Best of luck.🙋♀️
I grew up with a narcissitc family, my parent siblings and husband tried their best to keep me in the box, I received brilliant counselling, narcissism is a mental health issue ❤🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Thanks so much
Thanks for inputs.. I think I have narcissictic traits.. These inputs will help.. 👍👍🙏🙏
Crazy how we live rent free inside these narcissistic heads.
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I went silent and MIL went ballistic😂
I am a tenant in a houseshare arrangement, plus...I just moved out of a situation where I lived with a narcissist that still has his mugshot in the newspaper from three years ago for stalking his wife and other stupid things. What an experience for me! Now, again, I'm living under the roof of a narcissist that called me toxic! Really? Are you nuts, I thought! But, ladies and gents, the silent treatment from me is so nice and peaceful. However, I will see what is in store. Take care everyone. 😊
That’s true💯
The Narc I work with wants me to say something just to get a reaction out of me I literally walk the other way I avoid them all day with my silence
The silence has been wonderful and nice i don't have to deal with difficult situations anymore that was too much for me! No contact means to me happiness and peace no more gaslighting or any more mind games no more acting ! No contact means no more listening to someone talking about things that i don't want to hear or listen to! Or talking about other women besides me making me feel like nothing! No contact means no more love Bombing anymore! No more listening to someone talk about their own self Centered talk about themselves To other people who have no idea that that this person is not a good friend and is indifferent to you or anyone else who doesn't understand what or who this person really is! And that is a narcissist person !!