7 Signs Your Loved One Is Trapped In A Narcissistic Relationship
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- Опубліковано 8 чер 2024
- In this video, I explain the negative psychological changes that you are likely to observe in a loved one who is in a relationship with a narcissist. At the end of this video, I provide valuable advice on how to best support them.
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If you have thoughts about harming yourself, get help right away by taking one of these actions:
Call 911 or your local emergency number immediately.
Call a suicide hotline number. In the U.S., call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255) In Canada: 1.833.456.4566
Call your mental health provider, doctor or other health care provider.
Reach out to a loved one, trusted friend.
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Introduction (0:00)
An Example (1:13)
#1: Compliant & Submissive (4:56)
#2: State of Confusion (5:24)
#3: High Anxiety (6:29)
#4: Depression (6:50)
#5: Anger and Aggression (7:04)
#6: Emotional And/Or Physical Isolation (7:28)
#7: Loss of Confidence and Self-Worth (9:10)
Outro (11:28)
#NPD #covertnarcissist #narcissism #narcissistic #narcissist
1. Compliant and submissive
2. State of confusion
3. High anxiety
4. Depression
5. Anger and aggression
6. Isolation emotional and/or physical
7. Loss of confidence and self-worth
all of the above
Wow. You just described my brother. He lost his identity , self confidence,, hopes, dreams, to one of these female narcs thirty-five years ago. I hardly know him. Very sad, and very pathetic.
She has been describing my life for the last year or two...It is amazing how accurate these behavire are as lise explaining it
Our AC is, I believe, going through this, she’s distanced herself so don’t know but she’s completely brainwashed
@@Sally-ih6ls what is AC
@@cdorothy444 adult child
What did you do while your brother suffering.
Aren't you the manipulator?
The worst part for me is the vicarious trauma. It's not my place to try to convince the victim to leave. At the same time I have a hard time not cutting them out completely.
My mind goes to the "you need to get out on your own, talk to me when you decide to leave" mode.
Hey, this shit is real! Don’t abandon your brother…they need you more than ever. 😎🙏
You're the best on youtube, hands down
Among a handful of the best without question
Thank you 🙏
@@LiseLeblanc thank you for your efforts to help
You do ❤️
And you do so with the most soothing and comforting demeanor
I could reflectively identify all of these in my dad who remained married to my narcissistic mother up until the day he passed away. Though I never recognized the situation for what it was until relatively recently, I still have clear memories of how his state of emotiinal well being gradually got worse and worse as time.went on.
My ex wife told me this weekend that she had a right to ask me daily for the things she wanted from me. That it is perfectly normal. That I am the one who needed to work on not getting upset that she never takes the word no for an answer no matter how many bad arguments we already had on the issue. Meanwhile she would blatantly try to humiliate me and make me look terrible to her family, friends and adult children. All of her adult relationships were toxic and awful and she was the victim of every one of them. Screaming, physicality, police calls, drama, terrible court battles, you name it. I am blessed to have ended the relationship without any of that type of drama she was accustomed too. Watching videos I was like darn, she has a solid grasp on half of the personality traits of a grandiose narcissist. Your videos taught me of the covert narcissist which I had never heard of. All of the traits laid out in your covert narcissist videos match her perfectly. and I am so happy to know that it exists.
I can’t imagine how taxing that must be. I just recently the day after Christmas broke up with my ex who had BPD and she was covertly narcissistic. It is the most horrific thing to ever process, to even try to process. I am still trying to process and understand everything
Some narcissists vacillates between covert and grandiose traits - a true hybrid
Happy to hear that you got out of the relationship without too much drama.
Amazing how they have zero accountability and the most unreasonable people on the planet. @@Anton-qc1fk
This was just that I had preconceived notions of what a narcissist would look like. It took a lot of videos to understand there are different types of them. Many guys before me lost everything as she took all when she broke up with them. Not only did I get out relatively drama free, I got out with my fair share of what we built together.@@LiseLeblanc
Always life saving information from you Lisa! ❤
These experiences exist. It's often when people hit the bottom of the spiral that changes can happen. That's the time to act. Expect nothing.
If the victim goes into counselling and defends their spouse the counsellor blames her issues on childhood trauma, and the victim believes her behaviour is because of her childhood issues not the narc issues. I pray for her everyday that she gets out
They choose the narc….shes a shell of herself and she won’t talk to us
Thank you so much for helping us 💗
Brothers and sisters can be such life safers. Being from a large family is a blessing. Unless those brothers and sisters are all hoping to rescue one of their parents together instead while continuing to feel sorry for the other parent who is being taken advantage of at work too. While growing up we knew of children who were far worse off than we were at the time. I have since then learned to stop comparing my life with how others have it while practising better boundaries about what I am willing to spend my time doing. Since nobody likes to be faced with having to witness a loved one being emotionally abused which is ourselves being abused too then we are left in a constant ethical dillema. When more than one sibling is going through the same thing it is horrible for everyone involved.
5 months ago I heard Lise, and I got out of the relationship. Am thankful. I wish there is a way to fix the bad sensation post relationship. It was 7 years of hell and it's as if there is some trauma after.
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Is this “loved one” being groomed for a lesser evil like covert narcissism? When a person shows anxiety or anger, they might be exhibiting an internalized rage which a narcissist can manipulate into a contrary personality trait?! I have a friend who works with a grandiose-narcissist, and I sense that his enabling behaviors have been taken for a willingness to become a vampire/ zombie copy of the boss original...what to do?
search for narcissistc flea on youtube. It's likely that they cant really become a narcissist but may become a flying monkey. this behavior may gradually stop after they leave the narcissist.
Its like stockholm syndrome and cognitive dissonance. If you will be fired if you dont agree with your boss with everything. you will brainwash yourself for survival.
I am a new subscriber and I love your videos so far, as I've been watching several. I was wondering if there's any on the workplace w a supervisor not in my department but is constantly trying to find a reason to get me in trouble for personal vendetta. It's so bad that she may even be watching these videos TOO, to understand how not to act in the HR meeting we have coming up. Like.. It's that bad. She has me to the point where I am afraid to even post this bc she may find it and screenshot and say "see, she's trying to find ways to manipulate me".. even tho I am a person who loves and, yes, have some anxiety, and am a quiet person who is so green that I HAVE to watch these videos to understand how to even TALK, Im so intimidated. (I may delete this comment for that very fear). Idk.. Im just going through it.
Thank you for being courageous and commenting. I see you found my video about narcissistic bosses. Have you seen my video on how to talk to a narcissist? It relates more to romantic relationship but many of the strategies apply to all relationships. I hope it helps!
This is my married situation in a hand basket. But trying to leave without money...is almost impossible. I need help but where do I go. I'm 71 n he's 55. Married 15 years n I'm a shell of what I use to be. I see a psychiatrist for depression (I also have chronic pain issues over 20 yrs). Everything we have I brought into the marriage n all he brought was debt n then ruined my A+ credit. He's bipolar, narcissist with psychotic tendencies. My children warned me about marrying him. No sex either! I'm miserable. I have depression from chronic pain n being with him. I'm trying to find a way out. My kids can't help, they're 5 hours away n 2 in different states. It just seems hopeless n he monitors my money, we live like roommates in all ways, split 50-50. I even count out the shrimp so he gets his half. Seriously. I guess that's it for now.
Call elder abuse and see if they have any ideas. Talk to your pastor to see if he has any ideas. See if you can move in with your kids anyway. See if you can visit one of your children for a "vacation" without him so you can talk to your child. Find a girlfriend you can confide in, so that you can go to her house for a visit and make phone calls from there. Call a spousal abuse hotline for ideas. Look up "The wheel of Power and control". I am angry that your psychiatrist is milking the situation instead of HELPING you. And keep watching narcissistic youtubes to gain insight and strength.
Omg i hated spending ALL that time around HIS family!😢 such a drag with nasty spirits
I was that brother, but it was my brother and his wife who kept pushing me to be with her, even though they said she can be a bit emotional sometimes...
Does the abused person show anger to close family members, do they become angry, at others
Yes this can definitely happen. The more you try to help your loved one see the truth, the more they may defend the narcissist and accuse, blame, or getting angry at you.
Yes! They can end up acting like the abuser when pushing their friends and family members away. (It tends to happen when they're trapped in the fog)
@@nateiverson6949 I’m pushed away, what can we do?? In the fog, then do they eventually go to realization? It scares me what she’s going through, I want her to be happy and and see her family again,,do I contact her, even though she says she needs time away?? Should I reach out, been 6 moths..thinking of our grandchild stuck I that toxicity…sad situation
all the things that happened to me and I am trying to un do..but it is slow
Time is your Ally. It takes lots of time. Keep trying. You will get there. and reach out to your family. One or more of them watch this happened to you and tried to help you but you were not in a place to be able to accept that help. Reach out for it now. Let them tell you about who you really are. Let them remind you of what you are really like. Same goes for your lifelong friends. Seek out each and every single one of those people your narcissistic ex used to tell you to keep away from or used to interfere with you hanging out with. There is a reason for that. They would’ve sabotaged the brainwashing. They remember the true you and can help you put it back together. That will help you more than just about anything else. This is because deep down, you knew the truth about yourself in spite of what the narcissist tried to tell you and desperately crave validation for it. Good luck.
This was me mate. Had to marry her due to her suicide threats. But then i also find out i was codependent. Needing to be the helper self sacrifcing guy - bwcause of the abusinve home i was raised in. In a way the civert narcissist has helped me address my entire life before i met her. So in a way im getting positives out of a disasterous situation. Still parenting my son now who is bwing alienated from me week by week
Get a dog before you get a mate. This way the dog can vet the human for high anxiety. Dogs don’t lie though they do clown 🤡 🐕
Over the yrs I have subscribed to you half a dozen times.U/Tube.is forever unsubscribing people!
My mom and sisters saw what was going on. And like an idiot I didn't agree and defended my narc ex. I got discarded not too long ago. I deserve it every time they say "I told you so"
Trying to help my brother who's married to one of these women.
What helped you see there was a problem with your partner so you could get out?
@@dhrlh honestly, I always saw there was problems but was in denial about it. Just brushing it off and immaturity cause she was a few years younger than me, anticipating that it would get better. After 5 years together she was still the same immature entitled brat she was when I first met. People don’t change unless they want to, and narcissists never want to change.
Fuck…🤦♂️
It's getting to the point. : She is an American Woman she has extensively developed Dark Triad Traits and Tactics. Repetition over time = Mastery & Automations all that needs to be done is Understand Dark Triad Traits & Tactics.
ACCURATE statement
And best followed as EXCELLENT guidance
@@garyr1934 thank you for the time and effort in your responding. I don't attempt to Destroy anyone. I only offer everyone knowledge the verification abilities to create their own Reality based on facts rather than creating a fantasy based on deception.