10 Antisocial Behaviors and the Thoughts that Cause Them | Antisocial Personality Disorder
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- Опубліковано 19 лют 2020
- This video answers the question: Can I identify some of the beliefs and thoughts behind the behavior associated with antisocial personality disorder?
Antisocial Personality Disorder is a Cluster B Personality Disorder
It has seven symptom criteria:
1: Repeated unlawful behaviors
2: Consistent deceitfulness
3: Impulsivity, poor planning
4: Aggressiveness, physical fights
5: Reckless disregard for safety
6: Consistent irresponsibility
7: Lack of remorse
Many have argued that ASPD is technically the most socially destructive personality disorder, mostly because of its relationship to violence and crime. It’s also the costliest financially, in part because the cost to incarcerate criminal offenders, although one can certainly make the argument that NPD can be more costly because of the mismanagement of resources associated with that disorder.
Baliousis, M., Duggan, C., McCarthy, L., Huband, N., & Völlm, B. (2019). Executive function, attention, and memory deficits in antisocial personality disorder and psychopathy. Psychiatry Research, 278, 151-161.
DeLisi, M., Drury, A. J., & Elbert, M. J. (2019). The etiology of antisocial personality disorder: The differential roles of adverse childhood experiences and childhood psychopathology. Comprehensive Psychiatry, 92, 1-6.
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I just stumbled across this by sheer chance when I randomly typed in the Search field "scientifically informed, insider look, at mental health topics".
OMG! Me too!
This is an amazing video.
And that's exactly the intro lol 😆 That's awesome!
@@erikl4821 do
So funny
I really like these “thoughts and beliefs tied to behaviors” videos. I also like how you show how even though two people may be exhibiting the same behavior, the thought/belief motivating the behavior can be very different for different disorders.
NimbusDX I absolutely agree, it’s helping me see the wood for trees in my discovery of learning more about my son. X
such an important factor the behaviorists don't think it matters...I wish the DSM could be less behavioristic and pay more attention to the pathology's inner world...
Like the disorder that drives the belief that words have power?
Something I appreciate about you, Doctor, is that instead of looking _at_ the camera, you look _through_ the camera at the person watching the video. It's a powerful tool for communicating in this kind of pre-recorded fashion.
Definately Brent, he wouldn't be connecting if he wasn't connecting is how I'd put it.
His delivery is confined to being astute.
I like some of his older publications, where he is wearing pajamas that kind of look Ming Dynasty... 🤭
Really, these ones seam somewhat 'surrealistic' yet the content is more explicit than when doing any of the reviews on some poor or unforunates.
These are the ones that present to us 'game changers'. 🙏
@@BB-wm4ti his mind boggles with hints of refrain while he clearly projects his true interest with the well formulated message and nuances that he has constructed to convey.
That brain deeply relies on all the sustenance it craves for.
I hope he has high helpings of gamma.
@Manek Iridius - I can definitely see where you're coming from. I think the good doctor is using outlines instead of extensive scripts, and speaks in a mildly extemporaneous fashion The fact that he remembers so much from cues is extraordinary... assuming I'm correct in his method.
That's right Brent, he's looking at the deepest corners of our being, laden with cob webs. Better do some spring cleaning before Dr. Todd tracks us down and pries us open with a crowbar !
Amen
Im a bit of a narcissist it takes a lot to admit this but im getting better thanks to your videos Dr Grande. I used to think the world revolved around me and that i was such a gift to the world. Ive learned alot these past months and also dealing with gain and loss teaches you humility.. I hope to let go of these traits that have gotten me nothing in these past 6 years
Would love to know how your doing right now... one year after your comment. Hope you were able to let go of these traits you didn‘t like.🤗
You are brave and your courage will help you immeasurably.
I actually want to be able to feel like you used to)) I was on the opposing side of disorder )
Everybody is a narcissist. Nobody does anything “selflessly.” People just tend to make judgments relative to other people.
Even if you “sacrifice” something, it is done based on a personal value system.
So, stop fighting your narcissism because it is pointless. Instead rise above it and understand how you can use the innate motivations of your narcissism to contribute to the world around you. Everything you do is driven by personal biases, what those biases are associated with is programmable. That’s what the complexity of the cerebrum is for.
Your lizard brain processes emotions, however, it relies on your cerebrum to inform it what is to have emotional values and what to be motivate toward or away from.
@@dmitryasadov9319 If you learned how to use a language, you can learn to adjust what motivates you. That is what CBT is: studying your motivations and mastering them.
I finally gained access to my diagnosis history, as Im getting back into psych treatment, and found that I was diagnosed with oppositional defiant disorder, but was never made aware of it previously. In researching ODD, I have found that if left untreated it can manifest into ASPD. Mine was left untreated. The more I study ASPD, the more it explains a lot of my feelings, reactions and life. I think I am going to seek a diagnosis to have better access to treatment. I am so tired of only feeling rage and depression, I would like to be able to not act so impulsively all the time too.
Conduct disorder often comes in the middle
best of luck to you!
someone dear to me was diagnosed with ASPD. and while a lot of what has been discussed in this vid applies to him, doesn't change a fact that he's a wonderful person and I wish he would find peace and happiness.
Yes.. I can definitely relate to this. Lying, manipulating, due to environmental factors and seeing that when I was younger, that is what I learned and thought that is what I needed to do to in order to be successful and get ahead in life. Extremely damaging thinking... But over the years, I realized it wasn't benefitting me at all, I saw the damage and pain I was causing the people closest to me.. (even though I didn't care as much as I should, I knew it was wrong..) and I was really conflicted and changed. Change is possible :) but it has to come from within on a visceral level.
I hate that I have done some unforgivable things. I have repented for years and finally am forgiving myself because that in turn caused more suffering and problems in other ways.
Thanks for the informative videos.
I am a bit late to a comment here, but I just want you to know that you ARE forgiven. You have been forgiven by God's grace. You just need to forgive yourself. Sometimes that's the hardest thing to do. Trust me, I know. Your comment resonated within me. I can relate... Forgive yourself and set yourself FREE. 💜✌️
Have you tried to fix the worst of damage? Do something to make it up to people you hurt?
Blaming others right away haha…
@@TitbitistThat’s where they come from, moron.
I was recently diagnosed with this and even in my early childhood moments I can remember red flags and now it all makes sense even my first grade teacher told my mother to watch me closely it all just makes sense now
I love working completely without contact to anybody. Makes me very efficient, and allows me to not think about personal appearance.
To me, that is a kind of luxury.
@islanti ... 15:03
Individuals tend to copy the environment they were brought up in. My parents are not social individuals. I had a hard time discovering why it feels awkward and exhausting for me to be in social situations. I always questioned people who want to befriend me, given that I'm not a peoples' person. But the few friends that I have are similar to me and they mean the world for me, because they understand.
Issue with personality disorder is that people who comitt criminal acts psychopathic people can be born into most nurturing families and it doesn't matter. That's the difference between normal criminals and psychopaths. You are right that people learn from their environment but the issue with sociopaths and psychopaths is that it doesn't apply to them.
@@anna8328 sociopaths are made, psychopaths are born
I am living with a narcissistic sociopath and I need help please.
@@anna8328 no this is not true. This doctor Grande also explained research on this in another video.
So this is your own idea of it.
I dated a diagnosed ASPD. I have diagnosed BPD and wow, was that a trip. But the overlap in Cluster B symptomatology is so strong that for a while, I thought he was BPD as well. The sad part is that he wasn’t receiving treatment for it while I’m receiving treatment for my personality disorder. Needless to say, it didn’t end well.
Skill based matchmaking
I am not grandiose. I may have been in my earlier years but I do believe I am vulnerable / bpd. As long as I'm not in a relationship I do much better. I can focus on my daughter and really be vigilant and help her to not be disordered in her adult years I've read all of tom bradshaws books and pete walker s books and I'm watching these videos . Going on 7 years without a relationship and I am doing better than I ever have.
Keep pushing 👏🏾
Exactly! These people are insane!
Very few people that have PDs ever face it, the defenses won't allow it. So give yourself credit and love for stepping back from the edge.
I have been single for 16 years I've learned that I am incapable of being in a relationship because I am the common denominator in why it never works. I am content and happy in my life now.
@@pamctshll It has been since 2006 for me and prior to that there were long term toxic relationships. I am happier and more successful now yet still long to have a companionship and good things relationship should bring. When I read your comment it hit me in the feelers🥲. I have not surrendered to the truth yet; the truth being I will never be happy in a serious monogamous relationship. How does one get to the point of accepting this?
The Victim should apologize to Me (the Attacker). I can understand on a purely abstract, intellectual level that some may truly think that way. But my cognitive empathy hits a brick wall. Maybe that limitation of mine isn't such a bad thing.
Great Presentation yet again, Doctor Grande! Quite an education in every installment.
Thank You!
When narcissists fool the therapist! Cuz most therapist aren't trained to recognize it and going to couples therapy is useless if they gaslight the therapist also. Being forced to validate a narcs pathology is foolishness cuz it only reinforces their maladapted view of ppl and the world. The therapist is just another person to win and use.
Pls do a vids on this! Thanks for all you do, it is truly appreciated! Cheers mate!
I like the way the Doc explains this stuff. But does narcissism overlap with class B and sometimes class A personality disorders?
@JL-CptAtom the proof is that ASPD and NPD are two different disorders.
@@DjAmaratziOfficial Yes but can several
Love your videos, Todd. I watch a new one every morning before work (before dealing with a company full of manipulative sociopaths, covert, and overt narcissists).
Get out
I love the "thoughts" version you give of these disorders. It makes it easier to know what to look for. 😄😉 It's true! This one seems similar to narcissistic personality disorder with the main theme being _dont put me out in any way or I'll punish you"_ .
Thank you, Dr Grande. 🌹👍
You're gorgeous 😍
BPD and bipolar. I was out of control, reactionary, and impulsive until I was put on mood stabilizers..Lithium and Lamotrigine, plus anti-depressants and anxiety meds... And everyone said "Thank God". But this video has enlightened me to my motivating thought processes as a person with borderline pd.
Wow Doc, very articulate and on point. I'd love to hear you talk about ASPD with occasional waves of short-lived empathy
This is so insightful. No remorse, no plans for changing, and always l no pre concerned with getting caught instead of just doing the right thing in the first place. Unfair rules do not need to be followed.
I think sometimes it's hard to separate personality disorders... I'm a Cluster B (except histrionic), which is really hard, because it's like I have more than one personality and it depends on the situation and on my psychological stability which part is in charge.
I guess only people with that problem are able to understand that. It's hard to explain...
It is now believed that histrionic pd may not even exist. It is almost unheard of too.
It's amazing how many of these characteristics fit with a narcissist that I know. Thank you for this clarification because we have always been led to believe that antisocial behavior was just not wanting a be around people. However, this video taught me that it's so much deeper than that.
No no, what you're thinking is asocial behavior. What we consider the modern vernacular of Antisocial behavior is incorrect. Antisocial means against society. Which means violent or criminal behavior.
@@hamstrungharry259 Thank you for that explanation. 👍😊
You have no idea how much these types of videos are helping me accept what I cannot change and to accept what is. I dont want to believe I am a borderline and bipolar but you know what I am what I am and as long as I am working on myself and I am aware of what is wrong with me. Yes I could try and label myself with cptsd ( because somewhere in my brain I feel that sounds better ) I may have cptsd ontop of borderline and bipolar and I feel and have really come to grips I will be single for the rest of my life and I'm ok with that. Thanks Dr. Todd Grande. 👍💖 never stop giving up and things will work.
You don't know how much you're helping people with this depth of explanation. Thank you.
The world is a hostile place that is literally out to get you. How could anyone not see that
this guy can't he's got his hair cut way up his ass. he's an ass hat.
You have to be strong
@@blueblaze9862 what.about people killing you then good riddance
You have to be smart and this video is helping to even the playing field.
@@blueblaze9862when your not strong enough bad things happen let me explain fight flight or PTSD and if you've been exposed to traumatic stress frequently you adapt to shitty environment and you lose your consciousness
some of these thoughts resonated with me. wondering if I am the only one?
the thought about remorse resonated the most the one "why do I need to feel remorse towards him when nobody ever felt remorse towards me"
but I don't ever act on those thoughts because if everyone acts on those thoughts society would break down, and that's also the best way to think about the effect of certain behaviors, how would the world look and how would I feel if everyone did that.
I have the same mindset as well, if I gave someone who I have given many chances to change and they stubbornly for whatever reasons dont change and continue to disrespect me I will have no remorse, In fact thats the mindset I see quiet often to those people who had suffered traumas. because man, you need to respect yourself as well and dont forgive people who dont deserve to be forgiven. because people dont respect an overly upright man (a crowdpleaser or a seemingly gullible one or just inflexible) you have to be shitty sometimes to show that youre standing on the right path and you wont bend on their play of dominance/manipulation.
Fantastic video with very interesting examples, the more Dr. Grande videos i watch, the easier it gets to figure out the different percentages of personality traits of the people in my surroundings and what may be the possible causes for certain behaviors, fascinating to say the least, thank you Dr.Grande for another enlightening video.
Thank you, Dr. Grande. I bet you've saved lives in your day. Information/knowledge is the first step to logic and common sense. :)
These behaviors and thoughts videos are the best. They go straight to the point and help us understand what we many times would think to be... unbelievable, let alone understandable.
“This relationship is boring” oof! The thought process of my son’s dad 🥴
I have been diagnosed with this disorder since I was a teenager. I don't have any issue and I wish people would stop labeling others with things that, to be sincere, we really just don't understand, such as this "condition". Life throws you lemons. You don't make lemonade. You throw the lemons back. And when they make that lemonade, you take it from them. Double win. It's not a matter of being antisocial, rather its a matter of being your own form of preservative.
That last part was...poetically creative. Wow.
I'm so fucking jealous of you 😭🤬
With all do respect I think you should Speak for yourself & own experience as it relates to the disorder people these disorders have ruined many peoples lives and has caused them to commit suicide
Dr. Grande: what kind of hope is there for people with personality disorders to get better, assuming they want to? What can they do to get better? What kind of rate of success is there for treating personality disorders, cluster B disorders specifically?
I really appreciate the time you take to make these videos and answer requests.
dealing with way too many of them in my life, they don't want to get better often because it's not them with the problem, it's other people who have a problem. My step son did get help (he had no choice as I was the parent!) and he is fine at 32 yrs old. His father, one that will never seek help cuz he is just fine will never get better. It's a long difficult process of retraining the thinking and behavior patterns. It's possible but they have to want it.
Usually people who have anti social personality or narcissistic personality wont ever get help because they dont believe anything is wrong with them. They often get help in jail or are forced to see a psychiatrist by the court. Its almost impossible to help someone with anti social personality as they will only try to manipulate the psychiatrist into believing that they are okay
@@conniethingstad1070 I understand your point, but I am asking the question supposing the person who has a personality disorder wants help.
@@raisinlungs2092 I understand your point, but I am asking the question supposing the person who has a personality disorder wants help.
@@t5396 it's possible, it's unlikely they will come to the conclusion they need help. my stepson is proof it's possible but years and years of being one way, thinking incorrectly for so long, it's going to be a long hard course but I believe it is possible.
That was fantastic! All of those scenarios are daily occurrences at work...sad but true. In addition, your glass frames perfectly coordinate with your shirt! So, the video was well integrated in a visual sense and according to content and structure. Thank you!!!!!!
My now 46-year-old son has ASPD and I, his mom, have codependency. He's finishing 9-year prison sentence the end of this year. He started around age 13. It's a harsh reality but I'm thankful for the knowledge.
Good job raising him dummy 👍
You ruined his life
@@Ssm19494you’re disgusting! Where’s your empathy?
@@acacacacacacaccaca7666 disgraceful comment 🤮
Sorry you’re going through this , sending you good wishes 😢
Thank you for this! I’ve never had hope with my almost 15yr old son until I heard this. Now hopefully someone can start helping him better and help us better understand him.
I used to be very kind, empathetic, fair, attentive, sensitive and caring. As an adult, I learned by pain that the world is a hostile place for me, most times. I consciously became more like the aspd -type. Worked well, now a lot less pain, could even say none at all. Every time I try to introduce the good personality back, I get poorly hidden social backlash and seem to lose respect from others
I feel you Walter!
Yes, exactly this. Stay frosty 🧊
I came here for educational purposes, but i actually recognised every single one of them in myself. I'm not completely ignorant, so of course i considered multipe possibilities when i realised, on an intellectual level, that some of my behaviours and thought processes are quite different from people around me. But i believe self-diagnosing is a thing that should in no case be done seriously and with (unhealthy) conviction and when i first stumbled upon the Term "Aspd" i kinda crossed it out because there were a lot of criteria i met, but also some that i really don't. I've actually read a whole lot about it but this video really suprised me, as i never found something so well explained.
Thank you, Dr. Grande, this was in fact, an interesting video. I'll definitely subscribe
Same
If you really have every single one of these behaviours then its likely that you have aspd. You should get it checked out
It could be a combo or tendencies without it being a disorder. But not everyone can afford getting a dg or therapy that would help with daily interactions and decision making so self diagnosis shouldn't either be an idea that gets shunned. After all if there is no reason to see a doctor no one goes to one either.
Thank you dr. Grande for all your work, the quality of the information you provide is always, and consistently, great
Hahaha, I'm not a narcissist, yet this time the person, who wished this topic, was ME.🙂 Didn't expect you to be sooo fast with it. Thank you so very much.🌹🌹🌹
Lucky you Esther 😃
@@pocoeagle2 Thank you Ben. Have you found your champagne glasses? 😊
No, I can't find them....lol. Don't worry Esther, we still have 2K in time to find the glasses, but it's going fast with our Dr. Have a nice day 😃
@@pocoeagle2 Hahaha, same to you!😊
@@LuciaInman lol...Don't rush him, Lucia. 😉 He's already panicing..."...damn, where are they...????" 😄
Im really loving this series about thoughts in personality disorders.
Great video Dr.Grande! 😆🖒
Wow, I started watching with less than 100k subs and now you have grown so much! Your consistency and hard work seems to pay off. I hope you make at least good money for your free great content.
Thanks Dr. Grande. I enjoy your clinical perspective. Even more so, the temperament of your voice and delivery. Very easy to listen too and recieve. Take care.
That is incredible insight! Thank you so much always, Dr Grande.
Thank you Dr Grande, you're very informative. I found the Cluster B/A behaviour/thought comparisons very helpful also!
The examples of the thoughts for different personality types was extremely helpful. I would love to see more videos of different real world examples and how the Cluster B personalies would think about the situation. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.
These videos help me realize how messed up I am and why.
Good morning ☀️. I love a vid to start my day. Thank you Dr.G and have the best day😉
Thanks Dr Grande. I really needed some soul-searching for a while
I love your videos! I always listen to you while I do my homework for Early childhood education. Thanks to you I have decided to go ahead and minor in psychology once I transfer to work on my BS next year. I am excited and physiology is way too fascinating.
I love you so much! I love how unbiased and compassionate you are
Wow you have so many videos per week! Thank you for bringing psychology knowledge to us :)
It's always an education watching your videos, Dr. Grande. I found many of the examples in this video quite startling, as they're commonly expressed in comments made by "friends" on social media ~ there's that same sense of entitlement and lack of civility and personal insight. Rather frightening to think we live in a time and culture that allows these behaviors to appear "normal." Looking forward to your next talk!
Thank you Dr. Grande!🌷❤️
Keep up the good work, doc. I’ve told you before on other videos, you’re probably the only public psychology professional I respect due to the fact that you’re the only one who shows any true insight rather than just spit out the EXACT SAME THINGS others do. You will actually go in depth and teach and show understanding and I’m here for it!
I HAVE ASPD (for anyone interested feel free to ASK ME ANYTHING) and right off the bat I can agree with you, doc. It’s weird, a lot of people don’t think of this but there’s actually this intense sense of optimism that comes with aspd that really makes you think nothings gonna happen, likely since I have managed to talk my way out of things many times. And cuz things have often worked out for me. (Or if things don’t work out... yup I’ll say I’ll be more careful rather than not to I’d next time) The “did something but then has to brag about it” many times I’m like “I need to just fly under the radar” but literally just CANT HELP MYSELF but to blab. And yeah sometimes it can be for intimidation factor/because just to see the look on their faces, or just so they think of me as a wild card (we love being unpredictable) and know not to take me for granted. Especially in work settings. Ugh.
I have big sensation seeking issues. I almost wonder if there’s an ADHD kind of component to it. Even an addictive component. I’ve exhibited addictive behavior since before I ever did drugs.
And oh god “the unfair rules” thing. ABSOLUTELY so many rules are just so dumb and it’s like dude get real come on these things are not a big deal and they take them so serious.
As far as long term planning I think were ok with that. But short term not at all
As far as “showing remorse” even if I don’t feel it if I’m in trouble I will ALWAYS pretend at least. I do know how to pick up on some social cues to benefit myself
I think a big misconception is that we are actively looking to screw over others at all times. Like we are on constant “predator mode” rather a majority of the things we do/lie about is simply to make our lives easier. But people get caught up in the middle
And omg the relationships... YUP I’ve many times went for men who are “normal/healthy” individuals. After all, they’ll be good to me, maybe balance me out, help me in life, and hey maybe I can even benefit and boss them around hehe. However, they could do/give me everything I want... showed me with affection and love....and do everything that a regular person would love, BUT I WILL GET BORED. Many times I’ve wished I could not get bored (any advice so I don’t die alone? Lol) and I’ve often felt stupid later and been like I could’ve been married... he’s so successful now, etc.
I do however, often keep many of these men still somewhat attached as if I’m storing them for later. If I want them for something later I can call on them.
I’m often told I put a spell on men or have a permanent effect on them. My favorite men are the ones who think they’re an “alpha male” but really I’m the alpha since I’m the brains between the two of us hehe.
Omg the “UNFAIR RULES” so many rules are just dumb to me. And when people really get all worked up over some minor infraction I’ve apparently committed I’m just like... GET REAL! Be more laid back wtf who really cares about shit like that lol
As far as perceived slights against me, yes I need to crush an enemy. If someone has done something to me I will go all out to get back at them. And will often rationalize my anger against someone.
And the truth thing... YUP lol
And yes.... LIFE IS ALL ABOUT FUN for me. I can come across as irresponsible, but I simply want to just have fun, fun, fun.
You really help me understand myself more, doc. Warm regards.
I like Dr. Grande's vids very much. Yes, I have BPD from childhood. I also have traits of other personality disorders. Anyway, looking at myself and learning about my behavior is helpful. My insight has always been very good but I procrastinate putting anything into practice cause I'm a self saboteur.
Can you do a video on how children growing up with both parents in active addiction can develop into mental problems such as....? With the last couple of decades being over prescribed opiods and benzos this is very relevant and many young adults are now affected by this upbringing. Seeing parents falling asleep in their food, ect.
I really appreciate finding your videos right now. I have been through hell and just got out of it after 4yrs a week ago.. now I'm trying to heal which I'm finding difficult
Thanks Doctor Grande. I wonder if you could do the Ristevski case, that was committed in Australia. I find this case intriguing; it would be good to hear your analysis. Thanks again Dr.
Dr. G., you're putting theory into practice in these examples. Invaluable, thank you!
Great content. I will watch the whole channel slowly but surely.
I love it when I get to explain why someone possesses a specific kind of behavior
Thanks, Dr. Grande. Would it be possible to do a video outlining the differences between ASPD and sociopathy (and possibly psychopathy), why there are different kinds of diagnoses, and how they differ in terms of symptoms/behaviors and treatment?
Much love! Your videos are tops!
That is a great video idea!
there is no such thing as a diagnosis “psychopath or sociopath” the diagnosis is ASPD and those with it are sociopathic or psychopathic.
@@MrPrush-ji4gsThank you!
Most people copy the environment they grow up in. I struggle with these feelings as well because I come from a very strict, unpredictable, alcoholic, religious, and emotionally abusive household, all while maintaining the perfect “Flanders” family. I harbor a lot of rage for my parents and the way they treated me, and gas lit me into thinking I was never good enough. It manifested in complete distrust in people, compulsive lying, womanizing, and a deep hell hole of craving validation. I’m 26 now, have great friends, hobbies, and a partner that I love and loves me. It took a long time to figure out why I had no personality, no friends, and 0 direction in life. I think the most important first step to coming out of the ASPD cloud is being honest about your environment, do you like it or hate it? Then Understand that changing your environment will change your mindset. Also I’m not even joking magic mushrooms really helped me dismantle my necrotic and abusive ego. Obviously I don’t condone it’s use unless directed by a healthcare practitioner but it’s what really helped me break my toxic thought patterns Dr. G talks about.
you are amazing this is so helpful. this series of behaviors also helps you remember when someone contacts you claiming to be interested in what you are doing then surprises you by making it sexual then without ever following through & attempting to get to know you creates some kind of weird shame based communication based on their sexual attraction for you which is expressed by neglecting all the insight and work that supposedly brought them to you in the first place. Suddenly your mere existence signals a need for attention when ironically enough like zero of your life experience would even remotely point to that being the case, meaning you are the most unlikely. all very abusive behaviors it would be so much better if everyone including women knew how to communicate in ways that are provably communication
I endure BPD, I have to say that it’s extremely important if you want to get better to be willing to make sacrifices. I have many drug addiction issues and impulsivity issues. I got into a bit of legal trouble about 5 years ago. I had one probation violation on a Class D non violent offense and asked my attorney if there were any way I could get help through the court by getting a long term court order in a psychiatric facility. I was at an end. Unsurprisingly they just don’t do that sort of thing but he said he was positive Id get another chance with probation if I wanted. I knew it’d do me no good and I’d probably die. I chose to go to prison after he said it was the place to go if I needed help. It was the biggest step I ever took and I still don’t regret it. I declined parole 2 times and did my full 19 months out of 5 years. It was my first and only time going to prison. I learned alot about myself there. I was given time and space to work things through in my mind. The thing is, I got better in alot of ways. Even after I started using substances again, its never gotten as bad as it was before. I have value in myself. I struggle but haven’t given up like I tried to do every time before. It’s been 5 years since the last intentionally reckless action. I stopped hurting myself. Intentionally I mean. Of course it’s still hard. Life is hard period. But I know thats normal nor for everybody. There is no cure all. Once I began making sacrifices in my life, uncomfortable ones, things did improve beyond what I ever thought. Rewiring the way I think is not easy but I know I can change now and I know emotion is temporary and actions are not. Just figured I’d throw in my two cents. Thanks for your videos and hopefully this gets read and processed and helps somebody.
I've been binge listening (in a non compulsive way...) since stumbling upon your channel a few day ago Doc. I'm finding your breakdown of public figures, in particular, criminals, fascinating.
Once their behaviors are isolated assessed in a more clinical sense, their, in some cases, romanticized public personas, simply crumble and we're left with very ordinary, yet tragic and deeply disturbed individuals. Pity (or not) Anton Chigurh was only a fictitious character..
Wow. Dr Grande I am so happy that your channel is reaching so many people. 😁 have a great Tuesday!
Mental Health and that Psychology class got me learning this. Prior to me taking that class I didn't know anything about mental disorders.
I like episodes where you clarify the outward behavior, the inner thoughts, and compare how it looks with different conditions.
I agree, I really enjoy the insights with the thoughts and beliefs videos.
DR GRANDE I really like the cadence ,tone and speed of your speech in this video vs others that are a little slower in speech pattern. Do more like this.
Always listening to your lectures here and learning. Thank you
Thank you! I’ve been trying to articulate this into a video but have struggled! This is so good & has definitely inspired a video for me! My boyfriend has ASPD, and now I have clearer examples between his old behaviors and more recent behaviors. He has been working on himself ever since he went to prison in 2011. He still exhibits antisocial behaviors, but they are more mild in comparison now. Think riding his bike on private property now vs breaking into cars for fun 10+ years ago.
and you still date the same guy? good luck...
Damn, that's a huge ass difference.
You are so strong
And such a nice woman
I met one once I think if I met him again I would have a feeling of disgust. He doesn't want to go to therapy
Extremely insightful. Thank you.
Makes a lot of sense!
Very helpful, a lot to think about.
Thank you for making the video.
Wonderful explanation! Thanks so much.
Another interesting video from the good Dr. Grande. Thank you!
I was a psychology minor way back, but I understand the system of the field much better after going through these videos.
2:04 , no mediating thought process and going from the stressor to the behavior is important for sure in understanding antisocial behavior.
The thing is, pwASPD often behave that way to cope with immense amounts of stress and trauma as a way of self-soothing, the main difference between that and the self-soothing in NPD or BPD being that the antisocial doesn’t have to worry about external validation or being abandoned by their source of said validation, or maybe they do but not to the same degree at all.
Most narcissistic and borderline people are neurotypical or ADHD, it seems like antisocial personalities are driven by something a bit more primal and impulse driven. BPD has impulsivity, anger and often antisocial behavior or traits, NPD is callous/unemotional and has the entitlement/rage cycle but both have inhibitions and restraint that antisocials, sociopaths and psychopaths just don’t have.
This is one of the best videos on SO much behavior! Nice.
Thank you this thinking info is helpful in me changing my communication skills = I can learn different sentences & keep learning boundaries no one BUT me has to mind
As I listened to this I recognized some people I've encountered during my life and it was very interesting and it provided some mildly deja vous experiences.
I worked for 7 years at a correctional facility using the Cognitive Behavioral Treatment modality with convicted felons. I heard every one of these thought patterns from residents as reasons for committing property crimes, selling and using drugs, domestic violence, delinquent child-support, etc.
Edited for typos. Just out of my own curiosity, after watching this video, I watched a portion of the Anthony Pardon death penalty trial that just ended yesterday. The part where he was allowed to speak directly to the jury without being cross-examined. I guess that's allowed in Ohio. He spoke for about 15 minutes and based on my lay opinion, explicitly hit 1 through 8 and 10 of each of your examples of the type of thinking for this personality disorder. 9 was shown from testimony of the crime. He especially hammered on 5: "Everyone failed me." With tears too. And not one word or even a hint of remorse for his horrific crimes. Wow...that was something...watching the accuracy of each of your points and all of them at once! He was sentenced to life without parole.
One part, among others, that stuck out to me was when he said to the jurors "I wish we could've met under different circumstances." He is a burglar, rapist and a murderer! Prior to this charge he'd done 35 years in prison. I can only imagine what went through the jurors minds when he said that.
Thank you for another fine and very informative video Dr. Grande. You are appreciated.
From what I've noticed, people do use "I can't help it" or "that's just how I am" to deflect. If you can get someone to admit to even the possibility for more complex reasons for their behavior, consider that a metric of progress.
Fantastic! Helpful, useful and interesting. Thank you
I have really been struggling with wanting to do harm to someone who caused me PTSD (probably Complex PTSD but I’ve yet to be diagnosed). I was a really good person before this happened but I feel like my morals have become much more grey since and I have lost a lot of trust and love I had for people in general following this. It’s exhausting, and everytime I feel like I’m over it I take two steps back. 😓
Good luck. I too suffer from cPTSD.
Babbling Along thank you x
Check out Tim Fletcher's UA-cam videos on complex PTSD
I empathize with you. I hope you're feeling less exhausted now. I have a similar struggle.
@@babblingalong7689Me too! I have failed to realize this until now that I have so much to change about my perspective and way I think.
Great job with the video as per usual. Very informative
Mr grande man! What's up man I used to listen to your videos when I worked overnights! Good stuff
Wow! I loved this video alot. Thanks alot for your work and your creative discussion of how ASPD patients' mind think. I hope you can do a video about how to manipulate and hack their mind to force them to behave normally. I am playing an intense mental game with my ASPD family. Sometimes, I have some successful moves and most of the times I fail. I have forced them to respect my bounderies, plus I believe I am making a useful use of their sensation of fear accompanied by their BPD. I think they think too much before they talk to me. Also, my 9 years old nephew whom I raised; is showing some psychopathic and sadistic features, I am trying to change his behaviour mentally through discussing his behaviour with him and comparing it to others' and asking him about his thoughts and whether he accept to be treated in the same manner or no. And, wow! He surprises me alot by his strong will to change, even if it's so hard for him. As if he is swimming aganist the tide, he is trying to defeat his norm. And it is so hard for him. But he is trying hard because of his deep love to ALLAH and me. He is awesome and I wish I know how to make it easy for him. So please if you can guide me, I would be so grateful for you. Thanks alot.
I will watch any ASPD video of yours I can get my hands on. I’ve been involved with someone who has it for about it a year now and it’s ever exhausting. These are insightful and definitely relate.
Really interesting content, thank you Dr Grande!
I don’t know whether you are familar with the Hitchcock’s movie Rope (1948), but I thought a lot about Brandon Shaw during your video. His character meets the majority of the thoughts that you included here. Brilliant video
this is really good parsed out! Thank you ♥️
Fantastic insight. Thank you.
Dr. Grande, have you thought of doing some reactions to movie scenes that are mental health-centric, like Silver Linings Playbook? I know it seems superficial but it serves as a great way to pull in more audience - and a channel like yours getting a bigger audience means people will be more informed!
Thank you for another amazing video Dr. Grande :D Im your biggest fan hehe. All the best!
what are you talking about , IM UNQUESTIONABLY THE BIGGEST FAN HERE, but since you where nice to Dr.Grande, ill let you be second.
Although I’m my family dynamic, I would be considered, perhaps, the most-well adjusted, I have a lot of these thoughts, with the main exception being that I generally like to live in solitude. It has been forced upon me by the circumstances of life but, sometimes, you learn to embrace what you can’t seem to effectively change. So, as a result, there’s nothing I like better than to not be at work and, instead, be at home with my cats. Other than needing to earn a living to pay for life’s expenses, I would choose to spend about 2 days per year with most people as, I don’t feel it is productive time anyway.
I feel that the girl who is told to get a job by her parents does actually have a bit of a point, if her parents did not enforce that upon her brother. Something is wrong with her parents.
I know I would chose to be in a job where I have very little interaction with people because a lot of workplaces are a stewpot for narcissism and other interpersonal issues and I do not, at all, have a taste for having to involve myself in them, merely because I need to pay bills. Most would say, “Oh, you can’t cope?” Is coping what I should be doing or should I be working to earn a living? Also, we go is the psychological authority on whether or not I should cope? Certainly no one I’ve ever worked for. For the majority of managers, while I try to respect that they may have enough experience to handle some of the aspects of their position, most often, managing people isn’t one of them and, quite often, they have no training in the management of people and are no more success at managing people, than they would be at hoarding cats. Like parents, they are tasked with managing people and experience isn’t necessarily a qualifier.
So well explained! Thankyou! Comprehensive and with really relevant and varied examples. Subscribing
This channel is EXCELLENT.
Great video Dr. Grande!
Wow, tremendous lack of insight behind these thoughts.
I also find it puzzling the excitement seeking, or this idea to always have some fun. Maybe the deep emptiness prompt someone to constantly look for excitement outside to fill the void? Hard to understand..
Excellent input as always!!
Omg, 198k Dr. Grande!!! Celebration time is coming soon:) 🙂
Good comment again Rejane. Yeah, I think that this excitement seeking might also has to do with the fact that these kind of people are often more extraverts and get easely feeling bored out of emptiness.
Rejane Oliveira that’s probably a self analysis Rejane. For the rest of us it’s an absolute nightmare!
pocoeagle2 Thank you Ben! I agree with you. You know, it’s so ironic that I never really enjoyed sensation seeking and although I live in New Jersey for many years I am originally from Brazil- the country of excitement, fun! LOL
Talk about feeling isolated 😄
Aaah,.... the country from the delicious Brazilian barbeque tomato salsa 🍅🍅🍅.
Have a nice evening Rejane :-)
Good video, thanks doc.
Thank you! Studying for my MSW!