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- Опубліковано 11 лип 2024
- being a transplant is hard
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Time stamps //
0:00 - i'm gonna stop thinking at night
0:49 - the problem with being a transplant
2:57 - keeping lists of all of my friends
4:27 - i have a lot more long distance friendships
7:52 - dyeing my hair red
8:49 - becoming a band kid again
11:14 - feeling isolated
13:10 - i’m having my messy era so late
14:56 - i have issues with permanence
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“I am addicted to novelty” You put it into words!! I’ve been trying to articulate to my friends for a while how the reason im alive is recency bias. Like, every new item of clothing, or piece of art, or song I hear is my new favorite. And I feel so grateful that there will always be new places to visit, new books to read, and new shows to watch, even if I live til 100, I can’t consume it all. I am addicted to novelty!!
recency bias..... huge
the 5-year marriage with renewal, having a wedding every 5 years, while spending like 1/10 you would for a once-in-a-lifetime big wedding. Sounds ideal, more parties, likely less cost, your weddings can get better as the years go by, because you'll likely be making more money.
wait…. hold on a minute i didn’t even consider the wedding extent of this. i would love to have lil weddings reunions every 5 years with all the bride and groom’s friends that you don’t get to see without a party like that!!!
Kat! I'm a (heavily-ish) tattooed person with ~ permanence issues~ and let me assure you I feeeel it. However, idk about others, but when I started getting tattooed, I felt like it was a nice Exposure to Permanence. Did I have this thing on my body forever? Yeah. Did I think about it all the time? Nah. It just exists and I'm fine with it - most of the time I just forget I have tattoos. Idk if this makes sense, but also! my tattoos changed with time- they sometimes got more blurry, or less vibrant, and they changed as my body did.
ok i’ve heard this!! especially folks w OCD the tattoos helped heal their relationship w permanence as a form of exposure therapy in a way
The most permanent thing is going to heaven or hell after you die. The word forever doesn’t even have context in our lives, they only last 80ish years here on earth
Maintaining my friendships is also one of my core values, thank you for putting that into words! And, in regards to the previous video (I am marathoning the three most recent ones now), I am also an extrovert and it's nice to see more of us here ❤️
best line - "ferret, no those bitches live a little longer - LOL that made my day
HAHAHHAHAHAHAH
Omggg I ALSO KEEP A LIST OF FRIENDS my brain can not organize itself so I intensively rely on my lists. I feel seen
OKKKKKKK KINDRED SPIRIT SARAH
Most of my rich friendships are long distance too! I'm seeing a friend this weekend I legit haven't seen since December 2018. 4 freeking years later!!! Also I love your oversharing series! I recently moved from Minnesota to Houston, TX and feel like I have so much to say! I've been thinking of starting an Oversharing in Houston series but that just doesn't sound right & I don't want to copy you, so gonna think of a different name 😆
heart to hearts in houston mayhaps…… you should do one!!! having these diaries is precious to look back on and see your growth
@@Katherout omg I love it 😆
Omg I also moved from Minneapolis to Austin and love love life in Texas! Please start the series would def watch :)
@@dmd2803 omg okay I will 😆😆 I'm loving Hosuton but want to visit Austin soon 😊
i literally have a note on my phone called “friends i can hang out with (you aren’t alone ding dong)!” when i’m lonely/depressed it can feel like i don’t have many friends but when i notice myself feeling that way i can look at my list and be like oh yeah, i have all of these people i can reach out to! as an extrovert and as a person w a lot of love to give, friendship is one of the most important things to me too. i’d love to read a book about friendship by you!
I have yet to watch the entire video, but UgH the genuine energy and honest vulnerability you give in all your oversharing videos is *chef's kiss*
big parasocial hug to u 🫂
I had the same thought recently about possibly joining a community band! I always feel so nostalgic about high school band, those people were my ride or die at the time and I miss them. I like playing guitar at home (not so much saxophone which is what I played in hs) but there is something so special about being a small part of something big with a good group of people.
i'm sooo similar i like playing piano at home but not trumpet
going to make a People I Know list… don’t know if it will be fun or make me spiral lmao
I love that you’re joining a local band group!! Can’t wait to hear updates
Yes, band kids!! I completely agree about loving the community more than the craft :)
Shout out to keeping a friend list! Friendship maintenance is intentional! There is a book called Big Friendship that I’m about to start reading - you might like!
ooooh i listened to an interview with the hosts of the podcast big friendship! i really subscribe to that term but i should put a hold on the real deal at the library 😌
I love watching your channel!!! The way your you with no hesitation is so refreshing to me! Love you and your videos!!! 🫶💫☁️ sending you much love friend!
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one thing about her is she’s going to be gigged up
sooooooo true
Welcome back Katherine!! Hope you had a great holiday weekend my friend!!!
hope you did toooo
I truly enjoy your videos and have been here for a while watching you bloom as I am. It’s awesome having someone else to relate to in this very niche category of people. ❤️
omg so glad you're here
@@Katherout I’m so glad you commented 🥹🥹😭
Can you talk about how you made so many friends in a new place!! Everything seems so isolating
i wouldn’t say it’s so many friends but it’s a solid start!! i have videos on the friendship making pipeline and loneliness already up
“Letting my social battery drain all the way” to me means packing my schedule with social recreation, ha. Introvert or extrovert!
First, totally normal that you have more friends in cities other than your own. There’s so many other reasons to be living somewhere other than the people in it (job, healthcare, weather, etc). Second, I list my friends in my phone too! I think if I’m trying to be a good friend but also do 1,000 other things it makes me remember to reach out regularly. Third, I’m also getting back into my high high school instrument!
I also started a UA-cam channel and your videos were definitely part of giving me the confidence to do it!
You being a band kid makes so much sense 😅 I was always in color guard (and loved it) but vibed with the band kids more than the guard people and secretly wished I played an instrument lol
cannot say i ever knew anyone on color guard but can confirm band kids make excellent friends
I really appreciate this series. This one pulled me out of a bit of a funk with your relatability. Definitely resonate with the desire to have short-term "permanence". A desire for constant change and constant novelty - 100% feel that.
in a season of novelty for sure! wishing you well, funks in winter are a classic combo
I immediately made a list of my friends and a monthly reminder on my phone. What a brilliant solution? Friends are important to me but I’m really bad at maintaining those connections. As an autistic person those thoughts don’t spontaneously pop into my head.
as a non-austistic person those thoughts don't often spontaneously pop into my head either! hope my lil strategy helps
In some ways we are so different. I can't have a proper think if the sun is up. I regularly go a week or two with no social contacts and it suits me fine. In other ways I feel a great deal of affinity with you. Late to rebellion and experimentation with identities and aesthetics. Bounced off corporate despite the obvious benefits. Can't have a pet despite loving animals because I can't deal with the limits it would impose. I just swing by your channel every few months and like to hear what's going on with you. I hope you find the best gigs.
aw thank you! appreciate your ability to pop in and appreciate our similarities + differences
lol fellow band kid here, i definitely just miss MAKING MUSIC WITH MY FRIENDS. i don't know shit about music theory and deffff never spent hours in the practice rooms but i think i need it back again! also HOLY SHIT i also feel you on the pet thing. i take care of animals at work and damn i need a break from keeping things alive
we are so aligned as always shakira.....
Could not click faster with my time difference! I love this series, especially since moving again for my masters and having a lot of long distance friendships. Valuing your roots or old homes is really ambiguous when coming to a new city. But it was very worth it getting a new experience and new people in. I feel the spiral, but I try to focus on the gratitude for people. Maybe I should start a list :D
gratitude is the spiral antidote it's true
About it being too late, I like to think about it like you've had the opportunity to try many different roles and eras in life and this is just the next one. I got my first tattoo at 30 and plan to get a bunch more. Now that I've had my corporate career era, where things had to be buttoned up, now that I don't feel like climbing the corporate ladder much anymore I plan to get some sleeves done and maybe throw in some more colorful hair dye in there too! Cheers to your incredible journey!
LOVE ITTTT LINDAA
Gosh I relate so much on the former band-kid *specifically trumpet* struggle. It has been sitting in the top of my closet like a time capsule since I graduated. I've been needing an extra push to try out community groups since moving to Denver. I think this is the sign. I'm going to do it!
YEEHAW LET'S DO IT TOGETHER
It's so crazy hearing you voice my EXACT thoughts about playing an instrument. I started playing clarinet in 4th grade and I HATED practicing at home but I loved being in band SO MUCH. I did every possible year of marching band, jazz band, pit orchestra, indoor percussion. It was also my safe space bc I had a pretty bad home life. I then got to college where I had to privately study clarinet with a professor and I got burnt out so quick because so much of the community I had felt in middle school and high school seemingly disappeared overnight. I almost couldn't complete the graduation requirements because I was so depressed. Anyway just really nice to hear someone else also felt a similar way :')
we are united!!!
Okay I love that you touched on getting intergenerational relationships going! I truly love to knit and the local yarn store in my town has a stitch circle that I go to every Tuesday and I love chatting with the ladies there even though I’m 25 and they are all at least 20-50 years older than me. BUT!
Don’t get me wrong I only hang out with them there but it’s still a fun social hour or 2 and they’re all so knowledgeable. It’s kind of refreshing? Idk but all my friends my age think it’s bonkers 🤣🤣
Wanting to watch the vlog asap but not skipping the ads so you can get that full Adsense 💰
OKKKKKK SOMEONE IS TRYING TO KEEP ME UNEMPLOYED AND PAID 😍😍😍
I would totes read your book about friendship! 5:30
And you can always see the pets of friends and family, walk a friend's pet, or volunteer an hour in a humane society's cat room or something like that. 🥰🐾
living in seattle there is certainly no shortage of dogs, they also have literal dog bars you can go to with or without a dog of your own
Lol. So I was the slacker in high school who sort of became a OCD, eating disordered, sober overachiever in college. Never had a sloppy hair dye Era. But am finally feeling balanced at the age of 29.
Please write a book about friendship! We need more of those.
I really resonate with what you said about permanence. I think it's challenging since this age (mid-20s) almost has this expectation that there should be some settling into a more permanent (semi-permanent) situation (career, living location, set friends, set look) but as someone who has been on the overachiever / "clean" life path, there are so many new spaces I still want to explore (including dyeing my hair) and options I want to leave open (like being able to travel easily without having to worry about a pet and how to to care of it)-- and I think that's totally fine. Life is about continuous exploration and learning, and there's no reason why it should be reserved for only a set age/period in your life.
!!!!! loved this
It's Seattle, the sun sets at (I kid you not) 4:20 exactly 😂
it’s a prompt
I enjoy your vlogs. How do you “do” introspection? Your vlogs are always so rich, I feel such a block when it comes to thinking. I want to cry, unpack, and evaluate myself but it’s hard. How do you do it?
Feel that
journaling was my first stab at it! three pages stream of conscious, if you have nothing to write you just write "i have nothing to write" over and over again until you do! introspection is always about going 5 layers deeper than you think you have in you
can totally feel you. Have always been transplants living in the US as I'm an international student and all of my friends are dispered across the country, never in the city that I live in😅
conversely i've always wanted more friends abroad living in other countries! it's so enriching to share perspectives even though we don't get to see each other for years at a time
I agree I am not sure if I could commit to having a pet for 10 to 15 years. One thing that was really nice about having a senior cat is that I got to have this amazing bond that went through so many stages of my life for 7 years. he passed away last year and as heartbroken as I was, I knew it was the right time for him and it was the right time for me. He got to have somebody who loved him so much at the end of his life and die in my arms, and I got to have somebody who was there for me through it all and then freed me when my life started changing in ways that were not going to be sustainable for him. He was also so incredibly chill and loved to cuddle which was.... amazing. I'd do it again.
Would love to affirm the lists of different friends and keeping track of contact/birthdays/presents.
I keep lists of my friends, too! And I'm NYC.
the way i would keep a list by borough if i lived there
Friends after 40 are just "I need $200,000 to build a business idea that's going to make you rich. I starred your linkedin profile. Where's my fucking money!" The friend thrill has passed.
I play the violin I totally relate. I can never get myself to play it by alone. I LOVE playing in the orchestra though 😊
Same here - I never thought about getting tattoos and now at 30 i've started getting more and more and they make me feel great and they also have gotten be comfortable with permanence. Outside of that though, I've also never wanted to die my hair permanently because I was scared of the commitment haha so I started with highlights a few years back and now I'm trying gloss/temporary hair colors to hopefully get the point where I can commit to dying my hair permanently. Baby steps!
we are working at the same thing from different directions!
OMG I also had more friends in the two bigger cities back in the homeland than I did in my hometown since there were more opportunities there.
yes!! it's a global phenomenon then
So many feels in this upload but especially that opener with the deep night thought. The feels are real🌧️, alsooo maybe you’ll wear your cherry hair with your cherry earrings???
(As I type this I noticed your recent video about being hired dropped but I can’t simply skip your “overshares”. One does not simply do that.) lastly: I’m so excited for the vlogmas
omg loved this note! thank you for leaving it
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I don’t think making lists of your friends is weird at all! I think it allows you to be intentional about who/what you want to prioritize in your life. Adult friendships take effort and you are obviously super thoughtful about your approach. ALSO I can totally relate to your philosophy on marriage. I have always thought locking ourselves into a lifelong commitment makes no sense. I have nothing against commitment and am open to the idea of being with my partner for life, but if I or we reach a point where it’s no longer a good fit, then we should be able to move on without shame or guilt. We are all constantly evolving. So many people stay married just to fulfill a promise they made when they were an entirely different person. That said, I’ve never met anyone who agrees with me lol.
life is so ever changing how can we predict 60 years from now!?!?
I completely agree with you; on the marriage point. I've been married for 7 years to someone I met in 2009. We've both changed multiple times as we grow and mature that it'll be completely understandable if we grow apart. We had become completely different. It only works as long as it works is our mantra and there's no point in staying on in a bad relationship just because
I also have reoccurring tattoo nightmares that I get an ugly one I hate but I also actually have several large tattoos. As long as you trust your tattooer and get a well done piece, you will love it for life. My oldest one is so dear to me because it represents a time in my life even if I wouldn't choose it now. Just a stranger's two cents :)
I’m a professional violist here in Denver, and I completely agree with all you said about music and community. For so many musicians, their instrument is so deep-rooted in their identity. That has problems, of course, but the shared identity is also the birth of so many meaningful relationships. Pretty much all my friends are musicians, and most of them I met through various ensembles.
Also, if you ever need advice about freelancing as a musician, let me know!
omg!!! how cool. i’m visiting denver in april, what groups do you play for?
@@Katherout
Wow, you are too beautiful!!
whomever sees you shall believe that God is real
and whenever I see you I am always in a dream
and when we wake up we all will realize that all this life was nothing but a dream and that only God is whats true and real.
I dont know how can atheists believe that such a very attractive beauty queen like you came from monkeys hahaha
😄
There was a teacher whom didn't believe in the existence of God, He said to his students do you see God?,
the students replied no we don't see God, so the teacher said if you don't see God it means there is no God,
then a smart student stood up and said to the other students hey guys do you see the teachers brain?,
then the students replied no we don't see the teachers brain, the student then said then the teacher is crazy he got no brain
:0)
عن الإمام علي "عليه السلام": عَجِبتُ لمن شك في الله، وهو يرى خلق الله
Imam Ali, peace be upon him, said: I cant understand how a man-man/women-can doubt in the existence of God-/Allah-although he sees His creation.
وعن الإمام علي "عليه السلام": عَجِبتُ لمن أنكر النشأة الأخرى، وهو يرى النشأة الأولى
Imam Ali, peace be upon him, said: I cant understand how any one denies the second life although he/she seen the first life-this life is actually a living proof of both the existence of its creator, as well as a clear proof that indicates that another life in heaven or hell may also be a very possible chance as well-.
وعن الإمام علي "عليه السلام": عَجِبتُ لعامر دار الفناء، وتارك دار البقاء Imam Ali, peace be upon him, said: I cant understand how any one inhabits this transient abode-and is
so indulged in it-but ignores the everlasting hereafter abode,
one God for all of us, all the universe shows unity with diversity, there are different things different creatures and different materials but are all made of particles and atoms
Even if we will assume that there will not be an atom left of you after death, you still have proven as a created being that there is a Creator,you proved the existence of God even if you do not believe in God.
God initiated everything, and he redo too, and it is evident.
this life is temporary while the next is forever eternal either in paradise or burning in Hell fire
good qualities are beneficial, and bad qualities are harmful
Be good dont be bad and refrain from sins and obey God and worship him alone in the way he wants to be worshiped and you will be saved from Hell fire and will enter paradise and be happy forever
Whoever does an atom’s weight of good will see it, and whoever does an atom’s weight of evil will see it,
or may not see it if God pardons him/her and has mercy on him/her that's if he/she try's to fix what he/she has spoiled, in the right time,
When you give charity God protects you and blesses you with more good things in life or the hereafter.
A teaching from the prophet Mohammed may peace and blessings of God be upon his pure great soul and upon his great honorable progeny.
When you be bad to others you will hurt your own self too,
likewise when you don't do what you should
in the right time.
Having faith in God makes you stronger
and makes you have hope even when things become very difficult for you
and even when you are weak.
Also:
Drinking alcoholic beverages damages the liver and the mind.
Adultery is not good, because it is not true love it is neglect to the lady and to the fetus, and brings sexual diseases,
while marriage on the other hand, ok there is sex in marriage too and thats not a bad thing, its actually good, &is for the continuation of human race, & even for the here after its good for you because if you get children the good deeds of your children are counted as good deeds for both them and you, so they are a continuation of your own good deeds after you die and cant do good deeds any more, they are a continuation of you, & sex is to enjoy too,
there is sex in marriage but marriage unlike adulatory it has love in it, it is a relationship in which the woman and the fetus are cared for, & even if they don't want to continue in a long lasting relationship they would at least be agreeing regarding the baby that the baby should be cared for, especially the guy he is responsible for the child to provide for him/her and to make sure the child becomes a good human being.
Sodomy-same sex marriage-its bad and not part of normal human nature and life &it brings many sexual diseases.
Eating pork can bring cholesterol &some parasitic worms.
Not cheating, gaining trust by being a trust worthy honest person,
& having good behavior, can help bring more money to you, and is good for you in the next life too.
These are some of the teaching of the prophet Mohammed
The final messenger of God Muhammad is the most perfect human ever, all the good character and all good qualities were found in him, & he was the most intelligent man, his mind was the brightest mind, & he was the most merciful of all people, his heart was the most loving largest whitest & kindest heart, and was the most tolerating and most patient with others, and most pardoning to others, and most forgiving and most kind, but was also brave, Prophet Mohammed was the bravest person ever, and was the firmest person against all types of crimes
and against deviating from the good teachings of God,
&was the most just in his own ways the way of God & most generous & kind, and had God always in his mind and was the most grateful human to God even when he had nothing, and was the most honest most trustworthy person ever, and most persevering human ever, and asked people to do every good deed possible and to refrain from evil deeds and sin, Prophet Mohammed may peace and blessing be upon him and upon his successor imam Ali and his God fearing God loving progeny
taught every good, & taught people to respect & love & care for each other, & for the female, & elder, & children, & to protect the innocent person regardless of what he/she believed in,
(If one of the polytheists seeks protection from you, then grant him protection) Holly Quran,
& taught to either forgive the one who wronged you, or be just & fair when retaliating, or to shock the person and enslave his/her heart by being generous &kind. & taught to not waste money and resources and not to harm the environment, and to try to have a good hygiene and to try to look good and to try to smell good and to take good care of your own self, and to enjoy what God didn't forbid, so to be grateful to God, and protect your self and others from harm, and to defend the religion the final religion which God will accept and will accept no other than it anymore.
& regarding the topic: Who to follow after the prophet!?,
who are the extension of him and his light, well, try to find out by your self, however,
in summery, to give you a hint:
Even if you may think that all the companions of the Messenger were
always good and all of them are like mountains, despite everything that happened between them!!!
the Prophet said: “My family-daughter Fatima the lady of light the lady of heaven and Imam Ali and their great offspring's and special perfect chosen descendants-are like the ark-/ship-of Noah, whomever embarked on it survived, and whomever did not drowned and perished-/died-.
&We know that the son of Noah did not embark on the ark/ship of salvation, rather he climbed a mountain and drowned due to the very high tides and because he didn't follow God command. Don't be like him
spread the light teach what's good &right its best for you and for all and better than letting the wrong things from wrong teachings or bad desires and ill mind happen, prevention is better than cure , ..
@@Katherout Playground Ensemble, Fort Collins Symphony, Cheyenne Symphony, Arapahoe Philharmonic
HI Kat, I sent greetings all the way from Germany. you do everything right!
Yeah. I moved two years ago and have already had a few friends come and go. All my deepest friendships are also long distance... But it would be awesome to have some good friends where I live!
real!
@14:48 😂 that is some real *sh
Lol but in Seattle winter important thinking done before 4pm- let me be u're friend in Seattle :3
i filmed this before daylight savings 😩
Really enjoyed your perspective! Very interesting how a bulk of your friends are in LA & NYC! ...also happy for your band kid resurrection! 🎺
What were the songs used in this vlog? Wanna check them out! (Particularly the hair dyeing scene & outro) - Shazam let me down here
everything was by andy shauf, unreleased tho! they're on youtube / bandcamp - the "Sam Jones Feeds His Demons" EP
The longer you leave anything the harder it is to get it back but it's not impossible lol
The friend thing is the most extroverted thing I’ve ever heard and it’s so foreign to me. I honestly don’t care if I have any friends or if I see them. Lol. But I’m also friends with other introverts and we all feel the same way. A quarterly text is great. 😅 (disclaimer- I could actually be a hermit in the woods.. it’s a life goal)
This is so funny bc I’m the opposite! I’m also an introvert, but speaking with friends regularly really fills my cup(,: but my introvert kicks in, in that I do get *quite* exhausted after events or hang outs with friends. I have to have a recovery period before re-engaging 🤣 Only getting a quarterly text from a friend would actually make me so sad lol
@@akosuakaI was like that when I was younger but as I get older (40 now) I just want to be left alone in peace. 😅 I do still see friends and value them but it’s not a priority at all.
@@Courtney6 fascinating! I wonder if I'll mellow out as I age as well. I'm only 22, so I have some time :P
I have the same issue with permanence and getting bored (in psychology, it’s called habituation). After leaving Seattle i intentionally settled in a smaller Canadian city and bought a house because i wanted to challenge myself to find a sustainable way to live. It’s been really hard, but actually the pandemic and school kind of shook things up a bit. So i guess i still haven’t been really challenged, but the plan is to stay here forever because i value relationships more now and it seemed like in Seattle, people were always coming and going which made it hard.
which town in canada if you don't mind sharing! i want to see more of canada in the next couple years
@@Katherout London-it is located in Southern Ontario with Detroit to the west and Niagara Falls to the east. You’re welcome to hit me up if you ever visit :)
@@Katherout I love your content. I am in Toronto, so if you ever want to visit, I would show you around. Moving is not easy. I moved here during the pandemic and it still has been hard.
If you haven’t gone to see Ahamafule Oluo (Lindy West’s husband) play jazz trumpet in Seattle, you need to! His playing is stunning.
Birdland!!
I do all my serious thinking at night...
Here for this friend list
YASI I LOVE UUUUUUUUUU i love seeing u in my comment section
Ok so I've been a long time subscriber like back in the my preppy style days and holy fuck I've been on this whole journey of watching you grow. I've honestly been somewhat similar I guess. Graduated in 2020 peak covid times and was stuck without work. Fell into scuba diving and became a diving instructor who's bopped round from place to place realizing that capitalism ain't my shit (making money really never has) and wanting to do environmental work somewhere in the world to save our little home that's on fire. Anywho I applied to Peace Corps which I could be doing in the end of January but I feel you on the peramance thing. I know it's 2 years and that feels too permanent for me as it's really stuck doing that whatever comes of it for 27 months. The clearance is strict so I may not even fully get in and then I'm like omg what do I do next really? I want something with more purpose and value and I'm lost of trying to get there. Idk if you or anyone will really ever read this but I believe maybe permanence is what I struggle with and you may have just defined it instead of commitment. Thank you Katherine for showing us your journey and teaching me how I'm not America's #1 fan and I would like to definitely not work in the states. ok mess done bi bi
i hear you soooooo loudly. it's permanence not commitment but maybe that's splitting hairs!!! idk!!
Don’t worry ! I make friends list too
Making friends as an adult is hard but not impossible
I can’t tell if I want to be a friend like you or want friends like you, maybe both! I feel like I don’t value friendships in my actions as much I wish I did, but I also feel like I don’t have friends that value friendships like I wish they did. I crave rich friendships that are prioritized as much as or more than romantic relationships.
^^^ i just feel like my 20s are meant for pouring into my friendships
“UA-cam is the only form of employment- well, not right now, actually…”
ExCUSE me, don’t think we didn’t hear that! Details plz!
yes! Whomst'd've ?!
IT WILL BE ANNOUNCED THE FIRST EPISODE OF VLOGMAS
I have more friends in NYC than in Seattle (where I live too haha)!
Omg I do that too!
Kather is -out- _in_
needed this status update
I recently found out you're mikesmic-pilled too so now I'm just looking at my watch waiting for when the collab happens someday
bella you don't even understand he's #1 on my list of people that i need to shoot down my pipeline to go from oomf to mutuals w....
@@Katherout god the societal collapse if we got katherout x mikes mic content… buildings shattering globally
Yesss
& Maddie Dragsbaek!
have you read the book 'Big Friendship' by Aminatou Sow and Ann Friedman?? I feel like you'd eat it up (they were the hosts of the Call Your Girlfriend podcast, which they've tragically ended, but their minds on this topic!!!)
i haven't but i put a hold on it at the library and am thinking about bringing it to the patreon book club!
I would way rather be called neurotic for being too "mathematical" with maintaining my friendships than for the spiral I would go down if I didn't have any 😅 cheers to being making systems to be intentional
Please write a book about friendship!
it's happening
Did you do orbital decompression ?
What is the song playing during the "dyeing my hair red" chapter? Shazam doesn't recognize!
it's an unreleased one from andy shauf! check out his unrealeased EP sam jones feed his demon
5:28 - if you'd like a proof-reader, I'm down. Not sure if I'd have any useful input on the content, but happy to be an editor type. :D
10:58 - hah, this makes me feel better about being here. 😳😉
12:04 - wow, that's friggin' awesome. I hope it goes well! I look forward to hearing about you having gigs at Jazz Alley or the Triple Door or something. :)
15:23 - Yes! disrupt the "relationship escalator"! It's something well worth unpacking and reconstructing differently.
I can relate SO much to the issues with permanence. I don’t have any tattoos and it’s not because I don’t like them it’s just that I have no clue what I would want on my body for potentially forever. My tastes and interests change so much. Something I love now or have loved for years might become something I don’t love as much later. If you asked me five years ago what I would consider getting a tattoo of I would say something Harry Potter related. Now? I would never get a Harry Potter related tattoo (no offense to anyone who has one.) and what if I want to change its position or location at some point? It’s just too permanent for me lol.
it's the position / location for meeee
I think it’s funny how you use the phrase “let my social batter drain” when you talk about not seeing people. I always say my “social battery is dead/dying” when I have had too little alone time and have been TOO social. Just an interesting different perspective!
i always realize this whenever i talk to my introvert friends! it's a very opposite phenomenon but regardless we're all trying to keep our social batteries charged
I’m 40. Is the idea that I’m a geriatric if I have a hobby that most people in their 70s have? I would love to be in a band with others
we should have ageless hobbies 😌😌
Can I be on your NYC list?☺️ not looking for karaoke but want to also expand my network too
get me on the karaoke invite!!!
omg ur there.. already on the list in truth...
Maybe a guinea pig would be a good pet for you? They live 4-8 years and have fun personalities. Much more personality than a hamster but less commitment than a cat. And you can cuddle them :)
ok i have indeed interacted with guinea pigs but they’re not cuddly enough for me 😔
🎺🎺🎺👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
If you don't genuinely see yourself married to a person for the rest of your life or a huge portion of your life, what's the point of getting married? You might as well just spend your life dating and never committing to anyone.
Perhaps I misunderstand - but - if you have an issue with long-term commitments (house, animals, etc) WTF is a tattoo? I guess unless it's with regards to something your soul will always be committed to - core values, favourite places, parents, children, siblings, etc?
you should get a hamster
Wow, you are too beautiful!!
whomever sees you shall believe that God is real
and whenever I see you I am always in a dream
and when we wake up we all will realize that all this life was nothing but a dream and that only God is whats true and real.
I dont know how can atheists believe that such a very attractive beauty queen like you came from monkeys hahaha
😄
There was a teacher whom didn't believe in the existence of God, He said to his students do you see God?,
the students replied no we don't see God, so the teacher said if you don't see God it means there is no God,
then a smart student stood up and said to the other students hey guys do you see the teachers brain?,
then the students replied no we don't see the teachers brain, the student then said then the teacher is crazy he got no brain
:0)
عن الإمام علي "عليه السلام": عَجِبتُ لمن شك في الله، وهو يرى خلق الله
Imam Ali, peace be upon him, said: I cant understand how a man-man/women-can doubt in the existence of God-/Allah-although he sees His creation.
وعن الإمام علي "عليه السلام": عَجِبتُ لمن أنكر النشأة الأخرى، وهو يرى النشأة الأولى
Imam Ali, peace be upon him, said: I cant understand how any one denies the second life although he/she seen the first life-this life is actually a living proof of both the existence of its creator, as well as a clear proof that indicates that another life in heaven or hell may also be a very possible chance as well-.
وعن الإمام علي "عليه السلام": عَجِبتُ لعامر دار الفناء، وتارك دار البقاء Imam Ali, peace be upon him, said: I cant understand how any one inhabits this transient abode-and is
so indulged in it-but ignores the everlasting hereafter abode,
one God for all of us, all the universe shows unity with diversity, there are different things different creatures and different materials but are all made of particles and atoms
Even if we will assume that there will not be an atom left of you after death, you still have proven as a created being that there is a Creator,you proved the existence of God even if you do not believe in God.
God initiated everything, and he redo too, and it is evident.
this life is temporary while the next is forever eternal either in paradise or burning in Hell fire
good qualities are beneficial, and bad qualities are harmful
Be good dont be bad and refrain from sins and obey God and worship him alone in the way he wants to be worshiped and you will be saved from Hell fire and will enter paradise and be happy forever
Whoever does an atom’s weight of good will see it, and whoever does an atom’s weight of evil will see it,
or may not see it if God pardons him/her and has mercy on him/her that's if he/she try's to fix what he/she has spoiled, in the right time,
When you give charity God protects you and blesses you with more good things in life or the hereafter.
A teaching from the prophet Mohammed may peace and blessings of God be upon his pure great soul and upon his great honorable progeny.
When you be bad to others you will hurt your own self too,
likewise when you don't do what you should
in the right time.
Having faith in God makes you stronger
and makes you have hope even when things become very difficult for you
and even when you are weak.
Also:
Drinking alcoholic beverages damages the liver and the mind.
Adultery is not good, because it is not true love it is neglect to the lady and to the fetus, and brings sexual diseases,
while marriage on the other hand, ok there is sex in marriage too and thats not a bad thing, its actually good, &is for the continuation of human race, & even for the here after its good for you because if you get children the good deeds of your children are counted as good deeds for both them and you, so they are a continuation of your own good deeds after you die and cant do good deeds any more, they are a continuation of you, & sex is to enjoy too,
there is sex in marriage but marriage unlike adulatory it has love in it, it is a relationship in which the woman and the fetus are cared for, & even if they don't want to continue in a long lasting relationship they would at least be agreeing regarding the baby that the baby should be cared for, especially the guy he is responsible for the child to provide for him/her and to make sure the child becomes a good human being.
Sodomy-same sex marriage-its bad and not part of normal human nature and life &it brings many sexual diseases.
Eating pork can bring cholesterol &some parasitic worms.
Not cheating, gaining trust by being a trust worthy honest person,
& having good behavior, can help bring more money to you, and is good for you in the next life too.
These are some of the teaching of the prophet Mohammed
The final messenger of God Muhammad is the most perfect human ever, all the good character and all good qualities were found in him, & he was the most intelligent man, his mind was the brightest mind, & he was the most merciful of all people, his heart was the most loving largest whitest & kindest heart, and was the most tolerating and most patient with others, and most pardoning to others, and most forgiving and most kind, but was also brave, Prophet Mohammed was the bravest person ever, and was the firmest person against all types of crimes
and against deviating from the good teachings of God,
&was the most just in his own ways the way of God & most generous & kind, and had God always in his mind and was the most grateful human to God even when he had nothing, and was the most honest most trustworthy person ever, and most persevering human ever, and asked people to do every good deed possible and to refrain from evil deeds and sin, Prophet Mohammed may peace and blessing be upon him and upon his successor imam Ali and his God fearing God loving progeny
taught every good, & taught people to respect & love & care for each other, & for the female, & elder, & children, & to protect the innocent person regardless of what he/she believed in,
(If one of the polytheists seeks protection from you, then grant him protection) Holly Quran,
& taught to either forgive the one who wronged you, or be just & fair when retaliating, or to shock the person and enslave his/her heart by being generous &kind. & taught to not waste money and resources and not to harm the environment, and to try to have a good hygiene and to try to look good and to try to smell good and to take good care of your own self, and to enjoy what God didn't forbid, so to be grateful to God, and protect your self and others from harm, and to defend the religion the final religion which God will accept and will accept no other than it anymore.
& regarding the topic: Who to follow after the prophet!?,
who are the extension of him and his light, well, try to find out by your self, however,
in summery, to give you a hint:
Even if you may think that all the companions of the Messenger were
always good and all of them are like mountains, despite everything that happened between them!!!
the Prophet said: “My family-daughter Fatima the lady of light the lady of heaven and Imam Ali and their great offspring's and special perfect chosen descendants-are like the ark-/ship-of Noah, whomever embarked on it survived, and whomever did not drowned and perished-/died-.
&We know that the son of Noah did not embark on the ark/ship of salvation, rather he climbed a mountain and drowned due to the very high tides and because he didn't follow God command. Don't be like him
spread the light teach what's good &right its best for you and for all and better than letting the wrong things from wrong teachings or bad desires and ill mind happen, prevention is better than cure , ,,
Omg girl I’d highly recommend Big Friendship by Aminatou Sow and Ann Friedman!! I’m also super interested in how friendship works/how to make it work in different contexts and this was a beautiful read ❤
i listened to an interview with the both of them and now i'm thinking i should read this with patreon book club!!!
@@Katherout yesss I think you’d really like it! People don’t really talk about friendship enough- I think we often expect that friends will just come and we don’t need to actively work on those relationships because they’re a given. I love that you talk about it on your channel and I think this book would be right up your alley☺️
I picture you bopping away on Herb Alpert tunes. 🎺 We wanna see gig footage!
i actually would lovvvvve to vlog me on gigs i think that would be a delightful change of content matter
All my friends are long distant 😅 Also, it would be neat if you did a video of all the places you’ve visited while brick unemployed; I follow you on Instagram and I’m jelly of all the places you’ve been during your “flop era”
my best friends live multiple states away from me it’s so tragic ! i haven’t seen them irl since 2019 (our last Tru Year™️ RIP 😪🫡) and it hurts my heart, i really want to prioritize visiting them next year. also, we’re the same age (shoutout ‘96 babies ✌🏽😚) and i’m also having my crazy, “rebellious” hair era that most people have in middle and high school super late- i dyed/bleached my hair for the first time in 2020 :,) #twins #ageregression im in my teenage dirtbag era but i’ve also recently become a corporate baddie (after previously having jobs/internships where i could wear whatever) during the week and the cognitive dissonance of not being able to express myself via my appearance in an authentic manner for most of the week truly takes a toll on me,,,,,, i’m still trying to figure out how to be my most me self possible while selling my labor to The Man 😪 it’s Ruff™️. i think i’ll stick it out for one year and then pivot back to something where i get my self expression autonomy back bc being able to present myself authentically is so important to my creative brain
wow katherines are UNITED here. the struggle for autonomy is always present