asking new yorkers about their friend breakups
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- Опубліковано 11 лип 2024
- how do new yorkers treat their friends??? i'm katheron the street to find out as i conduct my second friendship census. the first 500 people to use my link will receive a one month free trial of Skillshare: skl.sh/katherout11231
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TIME STAMPS //
0:00 - where am i
1:17 - friendship breakups
3:40 - do you have A best friend?
5:00 - do you initiate plans with friends?
6:29 - support for this video
7:50 - how big is your group chat?
9:36 - making friends as you age
10:37 - how big are your bday parties
12:22 - how many people are on your close friends story?
13:33 - advice for making friends in NYC & generally
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"You dont gotta understand me, you just gotta respect me." I don't think I've heard wiser words.
I loved the perspective from the older New Yorkers, especially hearing about making a friend at 80 years old. It's comforting that there's really no point where you're just "set" with your group of friends and that's all you'll ever have (Also the girl who said she's inside 25/8 was so real for that 💀)
i really value intergenerational perspectives so i try to find a few every time i do these!
it was such a joy to witness some of these convos irl! you really never know what stories or wisdom can come from the people you just walk by.
Next friendship census locations (mostly bc I wanna visit them with you lmao) Burlington, VT? Then we can drive up to Montreal 🙏🏻
AWWWW YISS let's go international withit....
Katherine you are *meant* to do these videos!! You're so great with strangers, and you ask genuine, thought-provoking questions. Great interviewer, and it's so fun to see you interact with people 🤗 more street content!
appreciate you
This is so true! I never watch street interviews, I find them too awkward, cringy at times. Katherine's however are 10/10!
16:40 I’m not sure there’s much else I want in life other than to be doing an interview and having a friend spontaneously come up and tell them I am a pathological liar, I love this
the magic of new york's density
My girl, THIS CHANNEL IS NOT IN VAIN! Thank you for doing this... Taking your time to do quality videos benefits you more than quantity. Keep going at your own pace cause this works well. ❤
THANK U that means so much. sometimes i fear my videos can get lost in the shuffle but knowing you've seen it is AFFIRMING
I dont know if you've ever considered this, but you give off therapist vibes. You just really listen to others and are so open to people, but also have such a knowledge about life.
my sister is a therapist! i fear i'm too judgemental hahahah
You’re awesome this exactly what I needed to hear as 23 year old new to nyc going through a friendship break up. You never disappoint
I loved hearing you ask about friend breakups, best friends, and how big the friend group chats are.
YESSSS ONE OF MY FAV KATHEROUT TYPES OF VIDS
Yayyy, another friendship interview installment
The serendipity of this video!! I went to New York for the first time in October - I had such a great time, I’ve been contemplating it being my next move in the next couple years or so. I went to a party last night where I was talking about NYC with a friend, only to then be coincidentally handed a NYC-themed glass of eggnog, and then fell upon this video this morn also having no idea you filmed in the city :’) loved every second of this vid! Feelin like the universe is giving me signs and this was one of em, thanks Kath for continuing to create🫶
I am so glad to come across your channel. What a refreshing energy girl!
Loved it 😊
I live in rural MN and just had multple friend breakups happen to me. The first two happened when i asked for my two roommates to pay their part of the utilities. They just moved. I was friends with them for 7 years and finally realized through therapy that one of them is a maniuplator and had been emotionally abusing me for years. Another is friends with those friends and is picking their side. We havent talked about it much so he is getting all his info from them.
It physically hurts me and i have been depressed about it for months but thankfully therapy is helping me cope with it.
This video is very pertinent to my life right now. Thanks for making it. Keep up the good work.
seriously love these videos so much. never stop!!! advice across generations is so important
HAVE 2 AGREE
I really enjoyed this!! Come to Toronto! Questions to ask "What are frienship dealbreakers? When is it time to walk away from a frienship? Has your frienship style changed as you aged? - for eg. large friendship group with people you are not really close to in your twenties and a handful of ride or die friends in your 40s, 50s etc. Should you tolerate disrespectful behaviour just because you have been best friends with someone your whole life?"
More of these please!
Hello Katherine!! Hope you had a great Holiday break if you celebrate.
The lovely gent at 0:45 was so wholesome. Same with the man at 1:10!! Edward Scissorhands, what a classic!!
Friendship breakups are not talked about much.
love these kind of videos :')
You're good at disarming people!
this editing 😂 chaotic good, that's life
Katherine these are so good!! I feel like you enjoy doing these more than some of your older stuff 🧡
they're so intimidating i have to hype myself up to approach ppl but i'm such an extrovert i love meeting new people in new cities :))))
i love this sm!!!!!!
FANK YEWWWW
Ask people if they are content with the amount of friends they have. Great video as always
Fun idea! I like it
I found very interesting the questions about friend breakups and group chats. I'm in various big group chats. One of them is of people from several nearby neighborhoods. I'm not certain if I have true friends in that chat. However it helps to create a form of community, by sharing information, invitations to meetings, parties and collective projects. All those are good places to start a friendship.
i live in nyc and the way i've made most of my friends by talking to strangers. if i go to a concert alone, i make a point to talk to someone standing near me. i'll talk to strangers in line for the bathroom at the bar or while waiting for drinks. one of my fave connections was made because i had to give a tour to a girl who was looking at the apartment i was moving out of; we've been friends for a few months now. it's a lot of putting yourself out there which is scary, but i haven't had a bad experience doing that yet.
Living in London and it’s way harder to make friends than Paris! Really fun to see how it’s like in NY - would love to see the same thing here and in France!
Next video should be “can guys and girls be best friends”
Reporting from the Bay Area! I would love you to ask people how they feel about their friends' friendships. E.g., do they feel left out when their friends have other friends or hang out with people you both know without you? Also - Do people try to be intentional about inclusion or how do they decide who they will reach out to/invite to events? Also more questions around if people consider their partner(s) their best friend(s) or if they hold that title for someone else in their life! Thanks Kath!
"be respectful. be diligent. hEy"
“Be respectful… be diligent… hey” - wisest words by Rasta man
I live in Chicago and I make friends mostly through school, but I’ve also met friends through my mutual aid network which has changed my life!
omg mutual aid network a sublime way to find compassionate + principled ppl....
would love if you asked strangers how many people they would invite to their wedding? love u kath
the january capricorn 😂 too relatable
would love to see boston because it’s such a segregated city and a lot of it is schools and sometimes since i’m college age but not in college it’s hard for me to find non academic spaces to be in that aren’t extremely segregated by like class, race etc. feel like it would be v interesting :)
come to Chicago!
I want to be his friend 🥺
Also loved this video! You're so great at street interviews 😌
I can't remember the q's from last time, but I appreciate your focus on reciprocity and frequency! Things I stew on often!
Other topics:
- Mixing friend groups/
- Different types of friends, different parts of self around different friends
- Need for depth and vulnerability in all friendships? Do some remain surface-level or fun only (d/t individual limitations)?
- Feeling closer to someone than they feel to you, vice versa
- Navigating conflict in friendships, frequency of conflict
- Remaining friends even if interests and values diverge over time/
- Importance of diversity of friends and dissimilarity from some friends
- Becoming friends with friends' partners/
- How friendships evolve when one friend starts to date
i’m from a small city in the uk, please come here and do a consensus, you can stay at my house cathy! also, question for next time: how do you maintain friendships that you make online, aka bumble or twitter etc?
Do London next 😊🙌🏾
For the Artists Way Book Club, what times will the calls be PST? Asking for a 9-5 lifestyle friend that would love to be able to make it to the book club (aka me) lol thank you!
come to bostonn
I live in the Bay Area :) come back and do a friends video here plsss
I’m a New Yorker. No idea how to make friends here lol
The Jan Cap 🤍
the best kind of ppl OBVIIIIII
This video just reminds me how much I prefer women - and I am straight ❤❤
I live in Portugal, I have a best friend since we were ten - so 16 years of friendship - and most of my close friends are from the university times and friends from two of my best friend's groups that became one bigger one 🎉
i loooove these videos from you, especially the diversity and different generations of people you interview!
need a bay area friend census
@@abbyneal2337 oh and i'll be there in december to deliver on that request 🫡
come to slc!! we have such an interesting granola/hipster/counter culture here resulting from an influx of people leaving the mormon church. utah gets a lot of slander and praise for the social atmosphere
the last guy was on FIRE
he had endless wisdom i could've stood there all NIGHT!
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🤣Enjoyed the video Katherine! I have a few fun question ideas for people:
1) Can men or women in relationships have a best friend of the opposite gender?
2) What's an appropriate age difference in friendships (if any)?
3) Do long distance friendships work or fade?
Yes none work
Ok apparently I'm compelled to answer because I read all the descriptions haha! I had my oldest friend leave me this year because she could not accept me being gay. It was (and still is) really hard, but it was her choice and I hope to take a cue from this video and keep making new friends
60 years woof
She's still got type A tendencies when it comes to friend count.
Alexa, play Friends That Break Your Heart by James Blake 1:22 3:42
Damn how to tall is Kath?
The guy with the dreads making no sense and making all the sense...
Why was it necessary to blur out the hostage posters in the background of this video?