o̶v̶e̶r̶sharing in seattle: a blind date, antidepressants, and being "too much"
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TIME STAMPS //
0:00 - being ""too much"" & a blind date
2:10 - how it went
4:55 - seasonal depression chat
15:38 - how i manage long nights
19:22 - health issues
22:07 - antidepressant update
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And omg about being proactive in healthcare - I have health anxiety so getting regular checkups annually is really important to me, and one of my things I like to do is an annual skin cancer screening. But the two or three years I’ve done this so far, they’ve been like “so why are you here? Just a screening? You don’t have to do this / you shouldn’t do this” and I’m like?? Why is it so absurd that I’d like to have a doc check all my lil frecks and moles once a year?
LITERALLYYY me every year when i want to get a pap
My dermatologist always validates that it's totally reasonable to do every year! So +1 from my dermatologist :)
thank you for the reminder to buy a SAD lamp and actually take my vitamin D. Been feeling the winter blues already and it’s so upsetting
now is the TIME!!!! we fight back!!!!
ugh I love you
just following after my prophet…. miss shayna klee 😇😇😇
"I get this feeling whenever I feel good it will be the last time" -Phoebe Bridgers
colby you didn’t have to hurt us more
Not me in capitalist dread seeing Katherout has a new video to distract me 0_0 -- also the eyebrows are slaying today girl!
THANK U MAMA
honestly, STAY on the anti-depressies. I went off my anxiety meds earlier this year (after being on them for almost 4 years) and it took less than half a year for me to fully spiral into some of the worst anxiety I've ever had. Went back on the meds in October and I'm just now finally feeling like myself again. Don't think I'll ever go off them again
being from a country with a universal health care system, it's crazy to even grasp the fact that in other countries health care isn't very accessible even to those who are a little more financially privileged. our healthcare system here in brasil isn't the best and it needs A LOT of work to really cater to everyone's needs but it's such a relief that we can talk about how to better our system instead of trying to have discussions about implementing a universal health care system. wish you all the luck to deal with this, kath, i can't imagine how frustrating that is.
we have a far right wing government now that's always trying to make our health care system worse so that people associate it being public with being bad (just like they do with everything that is public: our universities, our schools, our shipping service, just anything public that we have), when in fact they are taking all the money from public institutions to the point they cant even function anymore and then they have a reason to privatize it and people just applaud thinking that privatizing will be better, which NEVER is.
so many more systems beyond healthcare need to be guaranteed for all 😰
Glad you're loving Seattle! Growing up in the area, the best way I would combat the gray / rainy months (literally months of it because the weather goes into Spring as well) was going to a coffee shop that had a fireplace with friends. I cannot tell you how much I looked forward to going to those coffee shops with friends after school / and just hanging out and chatting. It's like this solidary feeling of "wow the weather here is ass, let's go huddle from it together". It's actually some of my fondest memories growing up there and something I wish I could do in Florida more.
If you have not already, I highly recommend visiting Olympia! It's my actual hometown and has so much history and charm to it. The art walk and glass blowing festival is such a great way to connect with people and support local artists.
My doctor in Seattle wouldn’t let me go off antidepressants in the winter. She said it was a bad idea for most people to do that in that time of the year.
that makes so much sense
I felt the SAD creeping up on me today and IMMEDIATELY turned on all my twinkly lights and Christmas tree 😩
I relate to you so much, Kath. thanks for sharing ur journey, and I love the health updates!!
I love you over sharing. It really helps
Go off queen! You are my dinnertime viewing of choice because by the time evening hits this is more my vibe than the more cheery, bright ~lifestyle~ content I watch while I eat breakfast to pick me up. Hits different every time.
I love it when you "over"share Katherine! To me it's just sharing :) Also that cactus pic in your living room is a vibe lol
Cute sweater Kath!
i like when you overshare! You are sharing what most people are going through out loud! i hope your videos start discussions. Thanks to screens, we are now bombarded with all the problems of the world at every minute of the day, no wonder we are all stressed out.
I have this book!
I had already been discovering awesome stairwalks around my neighborhood, and then one day came across this book and HAD to get it! 👌
Planning my move to Seattle soon and the cloudy weather is my main concern so I’m happy to here your experiences!
I moved to seattle in June last year form California after getting in a car accident in 2020 having surgery and Quito g my job of 8 years and it’s been a lot lol but I’m enjoying your vlogs! I love your vibe!! Keep killing it 💛✨
Im soo early ! Im kinda addicted to this series
My experience has been that when you've consistently been in a good, stable place for maybe a few months, that's when you can look at slowly weaning off the med, and evaluate along the way. It's something you should speak to your doctor about beforehand to get their perspective on it, the process will all depend on what you're up against diagnosis wise, do you have a support system etc.
Random thought, but I looove watching your curly hair transformation. Our hair is super similar, and seeing you rock your curls makes me love mine more 💁🏻♀️
OOOOWEEEEEE my hair has had such a progression it’s so fun!!!
I’m so sorry but you yelling at the drawer to “get in there!!” made my whole night
my favorite sentence in this video, "That could fucking be gluten"
LOL BUT IT COULD BE!
I love when you talk about your health because I also have Graves Disease, live in Washington. Silverdale to be exact. And have depression, but the depression comes from having Graves. I feel like I can relate.
I agree about Daylight Saving Time being extra rough this year! - I think this year has been challenging becuase we went into this summer thinking "everything is back to normal" and then life sucker-punched us again. I work in the public school system and teachers keep saying that this year is worse than last year, which I think is because we all had high expectations. In summary, we need to have low expectations all the time and then we can't be disappointed.
Exercise is great for SAD: either indoor or outdoor. I'm in a workout challenge right now that helps keep me accountable (and from falling into the cycle of - "eh, maybe tomorrow").
Finally, I live in New England. This is my first year with a good heated blanket. Amazing. It adds 10 to the cozy factor (and it lets me forget that my heat is set to 65).
Also if you see a therapist that is local to you they may be able to recommend a psychiatric nurse practitioner or another mental health professional that accepts your insurance and prescribes.
I've lived in seattle for over a year now and I totally relate to you in how hard it is to establish friendships/connections here. it's really difficult unless you've already established something here via growing up or going to school here. I salute you for trying to evade the seattle freeze
Okay but yes, like healthcare in America. I am an American in France, and like, I picked up two meds for 8 euros then my insurance wired me 6 euros reimbursement that same day. I am like-this is wild!
First winter in Seattle! Ooof we got this bestie!
I am pretty sure people in Cuba don't have accurate healthcare. I can say that as someone who was born in socialism and lived through the transition. I have public healthcare that I give like 20% of my paycheck for, but I don't use it and go to private doctors unless it is an emergency (then I sit in er for 5 hours). Same for my kids. From the same doctors that work in hospitals, they just give you better care in private practice. I would be happy if we had private healthcare since then I would pay much less, since I care of myself and am healthy. Also y'all live in a country where one can make money if they are working hard and educated, which is not the case in Cuba.
I totally agree with this! I wouldn’t compare Cuba’s healthcare system to ours. I’m Cuban, and my family doesn’t even have the option right now to see a doctor because of COVID. Meanwhile, Americans can easily walk into an urgent care if need be. I understand your perspective but it’s invalid to even use Cuba as an example for comparison. Besides this, I truly love you and your channel!
@@christinefleitas1523 Americans can walk into urgent care but you’re going to be chased down for the bill for every single thing they do for you. You’re also not going to receive the best care there. Urgent care is a poor substitute for a primary care physician. Millions of Americans “work hard” and still are paid a pathetic wage. I’ve lived in cuba and been poor in America. You cannot compare the two, you’re right. But the American system is inhumane. Health should not be for profit.
Speaking of video accessibility and captioning, do you think you could put any text blurbs or pop ups such as the stat about Cuban doctors somewhere other than the bottom of the screen? That’s where the UA-cam subtitles show up and the subs always overlap, making it hard to read :(
THANK you for noting this! i never know where to stick em so that they’ll be big enough but i will make sure to avoid the bottom of the screen
I am mad jealous of people who have the motivation and executive functions to do projects on their own in their free time
Any time I'm not scheduled/structured all I do is mindlessly browse the web and watch Netflix
Lol meeeeee
It’s like how on EARTH do I freelance!
The phenomenon that you mentioned about the weather in LA is 100% how I feel about living in Florida. I need seasons and change in my life asap.
Hello from Canada :) that's wild that your psychiatrist in Seattle basically told you to f off until you're in a crisis. It's great that you're finding ways to be proactive about your healthcare despite the systems not being in place to do so in society. Thanks for the video!
I don’t want to scare or trigger anyone but to be honest there’s an extreme history of antidepressants in my family causing the worst outcome possible. I realize i might have depression but I am so terrified of going on antidepressants because of the pattern in my family. These days the gloomy weather (a rarity here!) have been doing WONDERS for my mental health! I strangely find myself more upset in during sunny days than colder days. I am glad though that they are working for you! And i think despite my own personal family medical history people should use antidepressants if it works for them !! :)
there is such a thing as seasonal affective disorder but the OTHER way when it's sunny too often!
can u drop a haircare routine queen re: how u get those curls
Have you ever shared your curl routine? They look so good :)
coming SOOOOOON probably on my tiktok
*spongebob voice* at nightttt. but in all seriousness, thank you for sharing and continuing to share your thoughts, feels, life. i'm by no means a mental health expert, so take this with a grain of salt, but i think that for me depressive episodes slowly get quieter and quieter until it's in the background and then one day you/I recognize, oh, i'm not depressed anymore. ok. it's incredibly subtle and not like flipping a switch for me. hope everyone's taking time for themselves, finding ways to care for themselves, and finding some piece of joy this winter.
I feel like your channel should have way more subscribers.
u so sweet 💓💓💓
Moved here to Seattle from TX specifically for the lack of sun! I consider myself a pluviophile, and my mood is definitely a lot better during the gloomy, colder, wet and rainy days!
Hope you don't get sucked into seasonal affective disorder!
Oooo, I've started meds in the past 2 years and Welbutrin has been the only thing that's helped for longer than the first 2 weeks. 6 months in, I still think it's great.
Speaking from personal experience, it sounds like you have some internalized stigma about taking your meds. I went down the same road - it took me a few years to take my antidepressants consistently for fear of "not being myself." If your psychiatrist isn't saying there should be a time limit (Wellbutrin is also used to treat lots of other things), then please consider why you don't want to be taking them. ❤❤❤❤
BUT please don't stop taking your meds without consulting with at least your primary care physician first!
Maybe you can try looking up Scandinavian vloggers and how they deal with having a limited amount of sunshine during winter (max maybe 4 hours). I’ve seen a couple and recommend them if you’re worried about it. I usually try to remind myself that whatever situation I’m in I’m probably not the first person to go thru this and someone else very likely figured it out already.
omg i've never heard anyone talk about how weird it is to live in a place where the weather is basically the same all year round. I moved somewhere with weather like that 6 months ago and it has made the time go so fast, it doesn't feel like the end of the year at all
as someone who loves to navel gaze, seasonal weather gives me more opportunities to adjust my life
You are DEFINITELY not the only one to put themselves out too much, lol. I remember that my first attempt at getting a date with someone literally revolved around me oversharing too fast and expecting them to understand what I was doing when I was very, how do I say it, mentally unwell, at the time. Also, I am literally binge watching your videos while setting up a 1000 piece puzzle.
7th and I'm addicted to this series
“Bio break” omf. Also love your bird hat!
THANK YEWWWWW i knew you’d appreciate it’s my fave ☺️
Seattle isn’t the best place to live when you have depression/ SAD
Washington/Seattle locals are super nice and open to meeting people. It’s the transplants that create the Seattle freeze effect… people can disagree/will hate me for saying that but it’s true lol. Def seek out locals, we da best.
I moved to Seattle 14 years ago - do I qualify as a local : ) - Seattle freeze is a myth perpetrated by introverts that had a voice - made friends our first years we moved with "transplants" and so-called locals
Transplant here, and I actually think it's the other way around. Coming from TX where people are actually outgoing and friendly, you don't get the same initial vibes when encountering locals or people that have lived here their whole lives.
It was a high of 29 today, so hearing you say high 50s was the coldest winter you've experienced made me cackle
I live in Ireland where the system is slightly better in that there is a public system. However, if you want to see a consultant, you could easily be waiting 1-2 years. I've had an issue with for the past year and just went private as I couldn't wait any longer. Luckily I have work health insurance but I've still had to fork out a lot on GP visits etc.
ending zoom meetings form now on with "everybody take a quick pee pee poo poo break and we'll circle back"
but yeah I'm from sunny arizona and have never experienced daylight savings or a real winter, so my first winter in seattle is going rough ahaha
The weather was bad all the way in October. I’m used to seeing it more end of November. So yeah, I am having a horrible time. (in Portland)
watching you talk about Seattles weather is fucking hilarious from Wisconsin. it was 3 degrees yesterday
not to be mean, like it’s hard to adjust and i could never imagine living in so cal or mid cal where it’s the same weather all year
gah you're so pretty.
peepee poo poo tme is the best thing i've ever heard
I live in LA! I am from Chicago! And the weather in LA drives me insane. You literally described it EXACTLY the same way I do, seriously, almost word for word. Except I say “groundhog’s day” the movie instead of Truman Show. But other than that…😂👍
I really appreciate how open + vulnerable you are with your audience, but I wouldn't say what you're doing qualifies as oversharing. Oversharing online is definitely something that exists and something to be careful of - I remember a few years ago Dodie (a youtuber + musician who I love and have adored for years! you probably already know her lol) struggled with what she was sharing online as she was going through a lot of mental health issues and essentially was broadcasting all of it (the ugliest, darkest bits included) to a very young and impressionable audience. She came to terms with it with her audience and kind of realized that what she was sharing was not healthy or helpful to her or her audience, and was really negatively affecting a lot of people to the point of them needing to unfollow her. There are a few videos about it on her side channel I think (unless she eventually removed them which I would understand). Nowadays she has a lot more boundaries and is doing a lot better (from what I can tell as a viewer of hers). I guess what I would say is please continue to speak openly + share your life online (I LOVE this series!!!), but know that oversharing is real and does have the potential to have negative consequences.
A death metal show aaaahhhh😭😭😭❤️❤️❤️
FWIW, because Seattle is so much further north than the Bay Area, there are about 2 hours less of sunlight per day. And in the rain and clouds, even the sunlight is not great. I always call it the Big Dark, and its always hard.
But, in 10 days, it starts getting lighter!
dude me too about psychiatry. i can’t get into one i only meet my primary care
Rather than a gift advent calendar you could put little notes into each pocket x
I don’t know what compels me to come to your channel and ask for advice (from you or viewers) but I am a research assistant and my position is ending on December 31st and I’m getting laid off…. And I’m searching for remote jobs and there are like 500-2000 other applicants for these positions. And my depression makes me physically ill, so that’s why I’m trying to go remote again. So yeah. I don’t know what to do and even just sharing feels like a relief
You should do a video with Monica church you guys live in the same area
Wait my psychiatrist just prescribed me Wellbutrin but I’ve been too scared to take it because of the side effects he mentioned 😅
Can I say that I would totally be your friend if I lived in Seattle! We have a lot of similarities and I'm moving to the Bay area soon. Just had a talk with my therapist today about dating and me being a natural talker and not being able to decide if I actually like this person or not.
That's it. This is the final straw. I'm asking my doctor about Wellbutrin.
Preventative care is so important and so much cheaper than treating injury/illness. With the amount of healthcare debt the US has you would think we would put more emphasis and resources into primary prevention and care.
YOU GET IT!!!!!
Girl!!, where is ur small crossbody bag from?
GIRL don't even get me started on the American health care system. I'll just say this about my recent health care experience. I have been struggling for years now to find a good doctor and I finally did a month before I lost my parent's health insurance (and access to that good doctor) and had to go on Medi-cal because I can't work full time and afford my own health care because of my poor health.
I’m giving this video a thumbs up solely because you said “pee pee poo poo time”
always had trouble with every season depression so i don't fuck around this year and fight back the additional seasonal depression with a low dose of vitamin d every day. Please don't do this on your own. If you don't know your vitamin d levels it is better to let them check first because taking an overdose is not fun and can lead to osteoporosis.
Lol literally just got back from Seattle
i feel like getting off your anti-depressant is probably a bad idea. this is my unofficial nonmedical advice, having never been on antidepressants. but i do know from talking to family members that antidepressants are made to take the fog away from your mind and if it's doing that, why stop taking them? are there negative side effects from long term use? xx
ok this is how i feel??? and he confirmed there are no long term effects...
@@Katherout So why come off? I'm assuming it's because we're made to feel bad if we have a chemical imbalance that we need meds for because that makes us "weak" or something, but fuck that. you do you.
What do you use for your eyebrows PLS
pear's soap and a drugstore brow pencil from maybelline!
I find it a bit scary how similar we are, I literally had the same doctor (or at least same last name lol) when I lived in the bay wtf
kaiser??????
@@Katherout yup, shouts out to Patel I've been going to her my whole life basically!
22:41 Genuinely curious where you would have picked up or formed "bullshite" from! :0
Shite is very commonly used (moreso than shit) in Ireland and Scotland, and I've never heard it outside of there or by non-irish/scottish people, but never in a combo like bullshit or shitshow either.
I dunno, small lil thing that made me perk up with interest I guess lol. Pretty cool.
hahahha i think i just mashed it up w the irish form i’ve heard over the years!
How would you react if you show up to a blind date like you did and it turned out the guy is really short?? I ask because I'm not sure how to overcome the initial disappointment girls have felt about my height in those situations where there's no context and well every girl hopes the guy is a 6 footer
it wasn’t set up as a date just two people meeting up so i wasn’t really expecting anything! i usually assume short guys won’t wanna date tall girls which only perpetuates the cycle lol
I wonder how the guy's hires work out when he hires the first person he interviews because they gel right away.
Speaking of women on antidepressants… can we talk about low libido as a woman on antidepressants and the lack of research on this?! Fuck man…
I did learn that working out helps me O.
Wait I did not know proper English was anyway (singular) I’m shook
RIGHT?? i still say anyways cause grammar is dumb
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I searched 'Qtards' and this video came up.
Doctors can be so condescending sometimes it bothers me
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I love you over sharing. It really helps