7 MISTAKES That Make Others Dislike You Immediately
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- Опубліковано 30 чер 2024
- Have you ever wondered why people seem to dislike you right away? In this video, we’ll uncover the 7 mistakes that make others dislike you immediately. These common behaviors can damage your relationships and friendships, but the good news is that they can be changed.
Understanding these mistakes can help you improve your interactions and make people like you more. By recognizing and breaking these bad habits, you can enhance your self-improvement journey and build stronger, more positive relationships.
#relationship #friendship
Writer: Chloe Avenasa & Kelly Soong
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice: Brandon / @littleghostyofficialtm
Animator: Seyoung
UA-cam Manager: Cindy Cheong
Here are some more habits:
1. Constantly interrupting others while they speak.
2. Talking only about oneself without showing interest in others.
3. Frequently being late or canceling plans last minute.
4. Not listening when others are speaking.
5. Being overly critical or judgmental.
6. Failing to follow through on promises.
7. Bragging or boasting about personal achievements.
8. Spreading gossip or rumors.
9. Dominating conversations and not letting others participate.
10. Being overly negative or pessimistic.
As someone with depression, I can’t avoid the last thing..
@@Flutter_Dragonz same I'm depressed
@@Flutter_Dragonz 🎉 congratulations you just demonstrated it perfectly
Oh how I hate when someone interrupts me when I'm about to say something. It feels like they're doing it on purpose! And I've seen couple of those who are overly critical to pretty much anything, but once they get even constructive criticism, they take it personally.
Sounds like this person has some narcissistic qualities. Actually, all of them. All these qualities are totally disrespectful of other people. I've eliminated these toxic types. My circle is small. I prefer quality over quantity.
My family has a lot of these qualities. I know my limit at my mom's house ❤
1. Not recognizing how feelings can spread
2. The Spotlight Effect
3. Vulnerability Dropping
4. Unconscious Micro aggressions
5. Thinking people can read your mind
6. Always taking, never giving
7. Giving, but expecting something in return
Thank you!
7/7 on the test we up 🔥🔥🙏
7/7 I'm miserable 🔥🔥
Two major issues, learn to listen and don’t be rude.
How is learning an issue .
Rudeness is subjective.
Where some people barely find anything rude unless it is specifically directed as an insult to them.
Other people will already find it rude when your personal opinion challenges their opinions.
As an example, there are unfortunately plenty of people who would find my comment towards you, rude as hell and get fuming with anger.
While others will see it as informative, some agree and there are people who may disagree.
Learning to listen I strongly agree with though but I would replace the rudeness with understand who you are before looking for serious relationships in any form since only you can choose what type of people you want to hang around with.
A star shaped object does not fit in a cubed hole, same goes with people.
@@marilynlucero9363 I agree with this a lot. People all interpret things differently. In my experience, it’s especially easy to come off as rude in text. To combat this, I use emojis and other indicators to seem more friendly :)
@@junitori6047👍🏾
You should do the sam as well than
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He's violent. Anyone reading this
Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Yes he is dr.porassss.
The fact I don't have any of this but still people don't like me is kinda brutal-
I just want some appreciation and love from people that's it😭
I just want deep conversation... 🙄😒
Same, I don’t understand why people don’t like me. I try to be nice and I’m helpful and have other good qualities!
For the 2 comments here, I'm sorry to hear that, but I guess that's just the way of life, but I believe someday you'll find someone who will appreciate y'all
@@supermegaawesomeultragal7820you're gonna have one eventually ig..
This is how I felt too, but it turns out I may have undiagnosed autism!
My main problem is 'forgetting', and it always makes me feel guilty that later on I would start reflecting what I did or said few minutes earlier that can potentially hurt or offended someone. Even though my friends would understand that most of the time I can be airheaded and slow and sometimes I'm unknowledgeable most of the normal stuff from my people of my age.
brainfog from sleep deprivation?
i often feel the same.
id say try get more sleep, but i know how impossible that can be.
wishing you good luck. keep trying
me too, honestly i feel more happier knowing someone out there has the same thing that i do. even still, forgetfulness isnt really perfectionism. im glad i ran into this comment!! hello! 😂😊
"My negativity" depends on how you define "negativity."
That’s one way to put it, and I couldn’t agree more
It really is amazing how you can spread happiness just by looking happy.
feels good until you’re the only one around…
trying to gain internal validation from external sources leads to misery
That's what's so great about giving people random compliments and just smiling at them. It spreads so much joy 😊
I once knew someone that kept talking strangely and kept walking like a robot. Not everyone liked him..
Can be true. I am like that 'someone'
@@shadow1703oh man.. sorry :/
@@JustDilasX
Don't be. I don't mind.
What if ur autistic lol
I was like this. Ppl thought i was trying to be superior. Reality was i was SUPER socially anxious. Just standing there and listening and reacting normally was taking all life off me. Also i was super depressed. Also family problems. Also ovrall bad life. I was bad bad. I did not enjoy walking or talking robotically but my wntire existence of living energy was being used to "look normal"
Honestly just listen! For #3, definitely just listen. Usually people immediately want to fix. But sometimes, even us guys...
We just want someone to hear. To want to listen is to care.
I think it's also super important to remember that nobody follows all these social rules perfectly. We're all going to say dumb and insensitive stuff occasionally, but that doesn't mean we are unworthy of love. Your friends will annoy you and you will annoy them, but you can forgive them and vice versa because that's what real friends do. Make sure to apologize and take responsibility when you say something truly hurtful and if people still don't like you, that's their problem.
These aren't social rules, they're perspectives from self awareness lol. Reflect.
Wow! I guess some of those signs is one of the main reasons why I'm still friendless and single to this day. Problem is: sometimes, I'm not around people all that much. But I am trying to work on it.
(expresses empathy and care for you and your journey)
Here's an internet hug if you need it and an encouragement to keep practicing until your intentions come off clearly.
It's rough and takes years... so... you have my empathy.
@@zerg6205 thank you.
00:03 Recognize and fix habits that hinder forming connections
01:06 Being mindful of the emotional tone while speaking to others is important
02:06 Being self-centered can lead to others disliking you
03:06 Express vulnerability with empathy
04:04 Microaggressions can make others feel unfairly treated
05:05 Not communicating openly can lead to misunderstanding and arguments.
06:09 Giving without expectation leads to stronger relationships.
07:11 Building genuine connections through trust and generosity
Thank you 😊
I was always scared to speak up about my life, because it might ruin the mood of my friends' conversations
Someone once told me that whenever I chimed in about personal experiences of my life, I think nothing of them but apparently they're a real downer. So I learned to just not share unless I'm asked...
But no one ever asks about me 🤷🏽♀️
I'm incredibly lonely 😂
People: Dash, when you are down, please share your problems, a problem shared is a problem solved.
*When Dash shares the problem*
People: Dash drains the life out of us.
People to people: guess what dash told us. Haha, such a looser.
can already tell from the first one that there is not a shred of hope for my social life (as shown in this comment)
being a furry helps, im sure!
(sorry for my dry sarcasm, i am a furry aswell)
*I learned these 5 lessons in life:*
*1. READ THE ROOM BEFORE YOU ACT*
*2. BE YOUR TRUE SELF*
*3. DON’T TAKE THINGS WAY TOO SERIOUSLY*
*4. LIVE IN THE PRESENT*
*5. ALWAYS TELL THE TRUTH, EVEN IF IT CAN BE A HEARTBREAKER*
Be your true self! As someone who is completely blind, on the autism spectrum, and has seaPTSD, I do things differently than the average normal person. For example, I touch and explore everything. Everything that is around me, I touch and explore and feel all over it. This was something that I wasn’t allowed to do. In my opinion, I think it’s just me expressing a feeling of true curiosity. I’m really working hard to remove the mask. To just be my true, authentic self. To allow myself to touch and explore everything, to expressed my emotions, without going overboard or losing control. And to do the other things that truly benefit me, even though society sees them as different. The real truth is, I’m not hurting anybody. And I am not out to hurt anyone.
*taking down notes so people will like me less*
Fascination with spiders helps a lot
Bold of you to assume I care about being liked or disliked
You do care. You're probably just angry. Its easier to feel anger than hurt.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I like you already!
Try harder😂
@@debbiechadwick861 I feel neither hurt nor anger, I feel nothing at all
@@claudiamontiel26 you probably have some issues then
I was bullied for being kind in school..........when you be kind to everyone then you become a topic of joke everyone teases you for your kindness and often bully you😢
They think that you're trying to make them look bad. Those bullies are not good people though let them hate you.. you'll be just fine❤
@@Occ881 they severly affect my mental health😢......... And there is not even a single person with whom I can be comfortable 🫠
MOST IMPORTANT MISTAKE: DO NOT CALL THEM A SLUR. THAT WILL ALMOST ALWAYS HAVE HORRIBLE CONSEQUENCES.
His voice is so calming it makes me want to pay attention! I found out how to be a better friend.
I always listen to others and i am not talking while they are...
This makes everyone want to be close to me 😊❤
A couple of these mistakes listed made me realize why i like my best friend so much, because although i really do like him alot, he has- well- flaws. But he makes me feel wanted and loved, he pays attention to me (or well- tries to-), and most importantly, he pulled me out of a rough patch. I could never ask for a better friend, and i genuinely wish he'd see that.
I have always been passive aggressive because I wanted people to like me
Now I’m speaking out on my behalf because I want people to respect me.
There’s a huge difference between the two.
Thanks for the advice! I’ll be sure to use these handy tips 👍
Taking the time to introduce yourself, not trying to be too close, don't over share, people don't need to know everything about you in the first hour, take the time to listen and reading the room.
It's ok to talk about you, but telling what you like instead of what you dislike will make you more likeable in a group.
Those are my thoughts. In my 49 years of life I've never had troubles making friends. Taking your place is important, just don't take all the place, let others talk.
And it's ok if you're not in the mood to listen to someone who only see the negatives.
Tell them as politely as possible that you're not in the mood for this now. You're not everyone psychiatrist. It's not arrogant to do so. It's called respecting your boundaries.
That’s some thing I’m definitely working on. Not Oversharing. When I first meet someone, I just tell them my name, and the diagnoses that I have, so that way they know how to approach me. I used to talk about why I had CPTSD. But now, I just tell someone that I have CPTSD and leave it at that.
Bro ! Do you whatever you want ! This channel is pure misinformation ! You don’t need to defend yourself !
You’re the only one who knows your life ! Don’t be weak !
Thank you very much! I will keep all of this in my mind. I don’t feel well at present and I let everyone know and feel. Not good, I know. But I will improve, I promise… 🥺
I relate to the wanting something back, I fear it comes from my previous friend group as I just didn’t feel cared about. I’m learning though!
The first point and the last two points are the ones I have to work on the most. Fortunately I realized this awhile ago and am slowly improving
Your voice just calms my anxiety
My problem is losing their trust, just gotta give you all an advice to "think about your actions before making it" and unfortunately I learned the hard way. I still heavily regret doing that mistake 6 months ago, but I'm still damn happy that i still have that one friend despite being in the same friend group with the people i used to talk to without the feeling that they're just acting nice, and obviously he knows it is still my true friend up to this day.
A lot of these issues come from personality disorders. So if people act like this around you, it is very likley they dont do it on purpose, but just dont realize its negative
Thanks for the video!❤
I learned something very important in life. Always first ask the person you're with "How are you feeling today?" Or if they're sad, ask them "Is there anything you can do for them to feel a little better?" Or maybe ask "Is there any special things or places that would make you feel less sad?" Or "Do you need a friendly hug 🤗?"
Let's be real here, if you're ugly, people just don't wanna talk to you
That, and if they don't need to speak to you in general
Only thing I'm good at is being generous without expecting anything in return.😒
You are very wise 🤍
Thank you!! I will be doing all 8 from now on lol
The way i don't related to most of these but instead this vividly made me think of someone i really don't like who fit all of these
I’ve learned that people care more about themselves than they do about you (same is true for you as well), so talking about others will always make them like you more.
The problem is reciprocity 🤷🏾♀️ deep connection requires that on both ends, so indeed show interest but make sure they are doing the same
for the creators, mistake number six is numbered number 5 in the animation, turns out we all make mistakes LOL.
I'm going to assume that was intentional. 😉
Dear god, I am guilty of so much of this. How did I not know these sooner? 😢
Tbh I’ve been there and done that. I’ve been super lucky and grateful to have two of the greatest friends I could ever ask for cause we’re open and accepting with each other, helped one another through the good and worst times.
I don’t think I’m gonna make any more friends, it could happen but I’m not gonna get my hopes up.
Love wise, yeah there’s a slim to none chance that’s gonna happen so I’m just grateful for what I have. Word of advice: it’s better to choose quality over quantity.
Psychology is such a fine balance, especially those that have variations of autism, social anxiety, trauma, etc Thank you for the reminders
You are so, totally right! As someone who was born completely blind, on the autism spectrum, and has CPTSD, I really think you have such a valid point with this comment! I work hard each and every day to get to where I wanna be! I work each and every day to stop certain things that I might have done in the past, or even right now. I do my best. I don’t try my best. I do my best!
Sometimes, being completely blind, can cause some of these things. Because I rely so much on verbal cues. I don’t always get that. Sometimes I just get a facial expression, and I can’t even see that. It’s part of life. But it doesn’t mean I can’t work on these certain behaviors! It doesn’t mean that I can’t fix them!
grate video, thanks!!
My whole classroom is my friend but i ain't missing psy2go videos 💀
They are my friends because they don't dislike me
Fr
how 😭 pls some tips
It's one of those surface-level relationships right? Where you are fairly liked by people but not really close to anyone and doesn't have a group to belong to. Basically the liked loner-ish. Correct me if I'm wrong, I'm just drawing from my life@_ZO73M_
Same!
7/7 !!!
_Yaaaas, Queeeeen!_
I don't care whether other people like me or not. I'm already not very likeable anyway, even though I'm polite & respectful with everyone.
Same ! I don’t care if people like or dislike me ! And I don’t wanna be likeable too, I’m not an object to please someone ! HAVE A DIGNITY !
I don’t have a love or hate neither !
I just live my beautiful life with myself and my family ! And that’s it ! The rest I really don’t care if it’s good or bad !
KNOW MY OWN LIFE !
guys I really appreciate the comparison that was made with the film 'Elemental'.
I haven't got a social gene in my body, and have serious concerns about putting negative problems in my life onto others in a search for comfort, so I'm hardly worth listening to.
My dad, however is quite the opposite, and can strike up conversations with almost anyone. His advice, always, is to ask people about themselves. I think because it's extending an invitation, even a more introverted person will still respond.
I got a workmate who does all these mistakes, and STILL believes he's approachable 🙄
Last one can be ok if you are open about it... or I'm just some kind of sociopath...
Thank you so much, Psych2go, for making amazing videos that help us everyday 🌠
wow..... its like this video was made for me.... i make every single one of these mistakes and probably more... thank you, ill try to improve from now on
You know this channel is mostly bulshit
I feel a bit more self aware now and intend on improving 💛
I always was generous. My parents (father) always tried to teach me that that's not something good, and you should not gift someone something, without getting a gift back. I try to unlearn this so badly
My existence is the universe’s biggest mistake which makes people dislike me all the time.
Not really,I think we can be friends ❤
you’re wrong…
MY existence is the universes’ biggest mistake which makes people dislike me all the time ;)
I remember feeling that way all the time. It took me 32 years to realize that wasn't true. But I do still deeply feel that way sometimes. It's honestly a daily struggle.
But you are worth just as much love and compassion as you give others.
Open your heart, take that in truly, and remember it 🤍
The only One thing that matters is that God loves you. Fudge what everyone thinks or says.You are a precious jewel in His eyes ❤ Talk to Him, cry out to Him. This world works in mysterious ways.
Don't think like that, God loves all of us and created us equally. Even if you don't feel special at all, you are!
actually i am people pleasing enough to be liked a lot. too much tbh. i do not like most people and I wish I could tell them that.
awesome video :D
An important topic...very well explained Psych2Go...with good animation😊😊.Thanks for sharing 😇😇.
Taking and not giving back 😭😭
Idc what people think about me, but I refuse to put up with any bs. People who have a problem with me can either take it up with me, or go on somewhere.
So... If ur shy, than u have to be hated......awesome.......
I have repeated these mistakes over and over
Wow I need to study this
the people who know me best say I have a horrible personality, but at work and around random people, I can get almost anyone to "like" me (at least on an acquaintance level). You know how? I ask them about themselves, let them talk as much as they want, and I listen. Secret hack to get people to like you, no matter how awful you are.
It is easier said than done.
This was kind of how my father and I are towards each other
As someone else among the many with issues in regards to connecting with other people, I sincerely wish the best for each of us in the comments.
Whether you want a quiet life alone
to find that special person to adventure with as a duo
or to find that group or society where you finally belong.
I always love quiet life alone and with my family !
The rest are not interested in me ! I’m social, polite and respectful but no need a relationship with someone or group !
You know I feel like you should do a favorite animals part 2 as everyone seems to want it plus it's been a long time
I love your video
I do the exact opposite of what's said not to do in the video and with all my previous friendships, it always comes to the point where I become someone's personal therapist, then, when they don't need me anymore,they leave. I know a girl who does exactly what the video recommends not to do (talk exclusively about herself, be the spotlight always, never asks how you are doing) yet people say they find her behavior "cute" so she has long-lasting relationships and easily makes new friends. I don't understand. I don't ask for any of that, I just want a normal friendship in which I'm not taken advantage of.
My friend had a break up, i had to set aside my own problems and help them cope😊 i may relate to some of these
Timestamps!
1- 0:49 (Not recognizing how feelings can spread)
2- 1:55 The spotlight effect
3- 3:05 Vulnerability Dropping
4- 4:00 Unsconscious Microagressions
5- 5:00 Thinking people can read your mind
6- 5:51 Always taking, never giving
(Psych2go, its suppossed to be 6, not 5.)
And then there is being ugly where even if you do everything else right, people will still not want to be your friend and in most cases ignore your existence except when they want something (or want to lash out because they have bumped into you and realise you are a solid person). Most people don't have to worry about ugliness because their parents will get that fixed as soon as those signs are spotted and therefore relatively inexpensive to fix compared to when you are an adult and some of those solutions might not even work.
i don’t need to worry about it i have been a ghost all my existence even when i try to fix in it’s away ends in a get way from me you freak so ok
Thank you 🌺🌸🌷
You are so welcome 🤗
I relate to some of these mistakes
awal gilak aku siniiiii
My Mistake is existing, i don't need a video to tell me that
Same bro
Real, man
Me too.
Same bruh 😢
waiting for someone to make a timestamp
It's interesting, I am reading some comments that are saying they don't do any of these things and they still don't have friends. Sometimes we can have the best of intentions when talking to others, but it might not come across that way. Just remember that people's perception of you is different than how you perceive yourself. Also, if you're still in school and you're struggling to make friends, you'll graduate and find people! Keep an open mind and continue to be social with people that share your interests
Greetings from Venezuela, South America. 🇻🇪✌️
hey guysss!!!!
Ty
I have a friend who has been venting a lot to me. It’s already affecting me 😢
Woah im first, Good vid tho
Why not?
I'm watching this to make sure I don't make these mistakes...
*Fear and very possible outcome- watch my social anxiety take over and while trying to think about not doing these, I accidentally do all of them out of nervousness 😅... 😢
It’s like this video is made for me, though I try not do these actions though I keep doing it because of my past and I’m not in a environment where I can be who I am. I want to stop but how? Especially in my environment
Hi psych2go, could you make a video on histrionic personality disorder?
I related with all the mistakes 😢
Timestamps
1). Not recognizing how feelings can spread 0:48
2). The spotlight effect 1:54
3). Vulnerability dropping 3:05
4). Unconscious microaggressions 3:58
5). Thinking people can read your mind 4:58
6). Always taking, taking giving 5:48
7). Giving but expecting something in return 6:33
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
No no, I'm very consciously passive aggressive.
Yeah i do a lot of these a lot-
What should we do when we are good listeners, but people are not comfortable sharing their problems and want to keep secrets? We should not force someone to share their problems.
What should we do when someone stops talking to us just because they feel jealous, even though we did nothing wrong to them?
Yes, we should not expect anything in return when helping needy people, but it is exhausting to always be the giver.
We should not take everything personally, but some people intentionally try to disturb our peace of mind. We have the right to speak about it.
There is a difference between positivity and toxic positivity.
I always think someone is a mind reader so I even keep things that I don't show others and push it away from my mind also like my mental issues, I try to hind them from myself so if someone is a mind reader they wont see it.
34 seconds ago is brutal
Bro think this is ig reels☠️
@@storm-3337i think you forgot to switch alts
the future is screwed
@@JustDilasXreal
@@shawk952ye
I think the biggest one from me, is not speaking up. Not speaking up when I’mdysregulated. Keeping it all to myself. And keeping it from other people. I always deal with it myself, and I don’t ask for help and support. I don’t cry in front of other people. I don’t want them to know that I’m crying. I don’t want them to know that I’m struggling. I don’t want them to know that I’m dysregulated or having a bad day. I definitely don’t complain anymore. I used to. But I feel like I’ve grown out of that.
Sounds exhausting! I’m exactly the same I’m always policing myself!
@@hummingbird4934 another thing I don’t always allowed myself to do, is touch and explore my surroundings. Or run into things. Or do the things that truly benefit me, and I know I’m not hurting anyone. As someone who is completely blind, on the autism spectrum and has PTSD, I do things differently than society. But I find that they don’t hurt me. But I still restrict myself from them. But I have a 100% strong gut feeling that I will remove these restrictions. I will remove these limitations, and just allow myself to be my true, authentic self!
Having a serious poker face without micro gestures.
I have a problem with talking too much and not letting people talk. I used to not be that way, but I’m not sure now. But, I still have problems with connecting with people, even with my family. I feel as though I cannot relate to them anymore which of course makes me feel shitty. I try my best to have deep conversations with them and when trying to talk to new people. Christians talks about “God’s Plan” for what he wants people to do, I’m not religious, but now I’m likely to believe because what’s happening now and what happened in the past. If there is a god, I think this is how he planed my life. He wants me to be alone.
I apologize for rambling here. I just feel as though I just can’t have a relationship with anyone. It doesn’t matter if it’s platonic or romantic. Even if I do have people connects I can’t help but feel alone sometimes, it happens quite often.
If anyone has feels the same way, how did you overcome this? I would love to know. I’ve even been thinking about drifting or disappearing for a short time.
I am... alexithymic. I don't care for relationships. They are not helpful, generally speaking.