my nonbinary coming out story

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  • Опубліковано 2 лис 2024

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  • @PoliceOfficer-b4d
    @PoliceOfficer-b4d Місяць тому +347

    HELP THIS IS LITERALLY MY WORST FEAR FOR WHEN I GET MY WISDOM TEETH REMOVED

    • @irisolympia
      @irisolympia  Місяць тому +59

      AHAAAA 🥴

    • @via3600
      @via3600 Місяць тому +38

      If it's worth anything, when I got my wisdom teeth out it didn't feel like I was loopy or didn't have control over what I was saying, I was just tired, a bit dizzy, and could barely move my body
      I've woken up from naps more delirious and disoriented than that, and I was terrified before hand of what anesthesia would do to me
      You will be okay!! Please do not put off your health due to fear, it will hurt and we do not want that

    • @moxargent6524
      @moxargent6524 Місяць тому +14

      I got IV sedation and was completely in control of my impulses and emotions, although it took a few minutes for my legs and tongue to start working again. I was worried too, but it was honestly nothing. I slept for a couple of hours at home and was fine afterwards

    • @Very_Coffee
      @Very_Coffee Місяць тому +1

      Same 😭

    • @parkersluck
      @parkersluck Місяць тому +5

      honestly it depends on how your wisdom teeth are, if they’re all the way out already, i just did laughing gas. I was calm and loopy but didn’t say anything funny on laughing gas. taking them out was over fast. you can do one side at a time that way you can still eat. I highly recommend looking into it.

  • @town_mane
    @town_mane Місяць тому +188

    just popping in to say that the thumbnail is wild

    • @irisolympia
      @irisolympia  Місяць тому +31

      in a bad way?? 😭 i can change it lmfao i literally can’t tell

    • @town_mane
      @town_mane Місяць тому +36

      ​@@irisolympianonono i love it! it got my attention really well i like the addition of (consentual) being much smaller. just thought it was clever hehe

  • @rsiogjtsjiflgtksjfijgsrljhlf
    @rsiogjtsjiflgtksjfijgsrljhlf Місяць тому +67

    im terrified of being on any kind of drugs because of this like what if i out myself and share all my deepest darkest secrets 😭

  • @shairneshadowfell9879
    @shairneshadowfell9879 Місяць тому +43

    nah this is literally the scariest possibility to me. When I had to get my appendix removed, this was literally the only reason I was scared about surgery. Luckily I just ended up trying to punch the nurse (no memory of that) and then just started talking about physics (??? I was so pretentious lol, I really said 'it's simple really')

  • @hennyboi
    @hennyboi Місяць тому +115

    I found you through your "how i knew i was nonbinary" video a couple days ago and honestly your channel is exactly what I need right now. I'm amab and I'm not sure what I identify as quite yet, but I know for sure I wanna wear more androgynous/gnc fashion in the near future, and your content has really delivered the positivity and thoughtfulness that I'm looking for right now so thanks for doing what you do!

    • @riv3rw4ter
      @riv3rw4ter Місяць тому +2

      would heavily recommend some starter outfits: the show 'heartbreak high' (the new one not the 1980s(?) one) darren, who is non binary, has some really cool outfits, especially the sleeveless black turtleneck, it has a distinctly androgynous vibe to it and as soon as I get top surgery I'm getting one. hope this helps, would recommend watching the rest of the show as well but its an acquired taste of show so I understand if thats not possible. (its on netflix, but google likely has some pictures of their outfits if watching isn't in your interest)

    • @festivalpirate
      @festivalpirate Місяць тому

      Heartbreak High is amazing! I'd definitely recommend it to anyone who's into queer coming of age or high school shows! ​@riv3rw4ter

    • @riv3rw4ter
      @riv3rw4ter Місяць тому

      @@festivalpirate it is so good I've watched the 1st season 3 times and the second one 2 times

  • @Moonstruck_Arrow
    @Moonstruck_Arrow Місяць тому +34

    A lot of dental surgeons might offer something called “conscious sedation” which is less extreme of an option than general anesthetic and likely safer. The other upside is that you don’t feel delirious when you wake up so you’re worried accidentally saying something, with conscious sedation you probably won’t. After I woke up, even though my memory was spotty for a little bit I felt calm and in control of my actions. The best I can describe it is like being on autopilot for a bit until it fully wears off.

    • @theiaraine
      @theiaraine Місяць тому +6

      Yeah but when else are you gonna get ketamine legally

  • @XXXEDVII
    @XXXEDVII Місяць тому +89

    Iris, depending on if you see this or not. This is 12 hours before the premiere. Want you to know that I love your channel, and your content is amazing. I fully support you 100 percent. And don’t let any stupid b🕊️ ruin your day. Your perfect the way u are ❤

  • @louie4685
    @louie4685 Місяць тому +5

    Im a straight guy .I just found u on Instagram recently, and I have to say you're so fuckin coool. Plz be yourself at any cost, and remember you're the best😉.

  • @BloomTheBaddie
    @BloomTheBaddie Місяць тому +7

    the song was fire bro

  • @ars0n_lynx
    @ars0n_lynx Місяць тому +24

    i always find comfort in ur videos, if i’m having a bad day i always come to ur channel, love ya!!!
    ok enogh procrastination ill go make them browniessss 🎀😮‍💨

    • @Eden-gt1ni
      @Eden-gt1ni Місяць тому +1

      I agree, your videos always make my day better Iris, thank you so much ❤
      Btw, we made the brownies and they turned out really good!

    • @ars0n_lynx
      @ars0n_lynx Місяць тому +1

      @@Eden-gt1ni YAHHH 🔥🦅🦅

  • @LilGremlin24
    @LilGremlin24 10 днів тому

    The tip about writing heavy topics down to tell someone i think is really going to help me, because i always have an extremely hard time trying to talk about what i feel or experienced to people. Thanks very much for that tip ❤

  • @QuestingRefuge
    @QuestingRefuge Місяць тому +8

    Love hearing these stories and seeing younger folk having supportive parents 💜
    As an aside, it’s cool hearing of others from islands near Seattle. I loved be being on Whidbey (obviously ya may have been a diff one) but the islands are gorgeous out there.

  • @sallysugar5191
    @sallysugar5191 Місяць тому +3

    i love that song snippet! we need a full version :)

  • @sacrificialscavenger
    @sacrificialscavenger Місяць тому +8

    Your videos always bring me so much comfort. 🫶🏻🫶🏻

  • @smartsmartie7142
    @smartsmartie7142 Місяць тому +4

    Hehe if I tell my parents I am in danger
    I just found out that I am nonbinary, before I thought because I don't feel like a woman I am a man, but I experienced such an intense hate for my body for such a long time lol
    Yeah I basically spent my life since puberty extremely dissociated and hiding from the world

  • @severinpaar6757
    @severinpaar6757 Місяць тому +9

    I would love to hear more than just music snippets at some point! 💖

  • @Catstronomy314
    @Catstronomy314 Місяць тому +5

    okay that song was lowkey fire...

  • @thegenderfluidthing8660
    @thegenderfluidthing8660 16 днів тому

    This is so beautiful. The whole thing. The writing it down and putting it into words by your own hands the first time. While your hands were still unsteady. Your experience is literally a poem.

  • @aydenreaume8961
    @aydenreaume8961 Місяць тому +4

    Ong, this is a fear of mine too....that's one of many reasons I put off my wisdom teeth.
    Also, thank you for your videos. I love your videos and you're so inspiring

  • @indigo-creates-chaos
    @indigo-creates-chaos Місяць тому

    This was literally the main reason I was scared to get my wisdom teeth removed. I had read others stories about sharing secrets while waking up and I was so worried I'd do it too... but I literally just woke up, no spotty memory or spilled secrets or anything. The first thing i asked (after being quiet for a bit to gain back enough awareness) was what time it was. I dont remember the time but i know i asked. Maybe the anesthetic that's used where I live (Europe) is different than the one in the USA? Idk, I just know that I was glad that I didn't say anything.
    Also, the written communication thing is so real. I never do it because I'm scared of how people will react but I know that if I'm emotional it's difficult to talk. That's why I wrote a 6 page coming out letter- But hey, I'm at least glad to know that I'm not the only one.

  • @DorianJaekle
    @DorianJaekle Місяць тому +4

    They used the same chemical on me when I was a little kid; I woke up thinking everyone was replaced with imposters.

    • @EternalGalaxies
      @EternalGalaxies Місяць тому +1

      Oh no 😭💔 That sounds so scarring honestly did everyone just feel normal after it wore off

    • @DorianJaekle
      @DorianJaekle Місяць тому +1

      @@EternalGalaxies Yeah, I woke up later and everything was fine

  • @tobykennedy9619
    @tobykennedy9619 Місяць тому +2

    this brought a smile to my face today. i struggle to get my words out a lot, similarly to what you were saying (the emotional aspect lmao), and i prefer to write things down. obviously being genderqueer i've been there, and i'm so happy for you having that support in that way straight off the bat. and i can't not say, i love the music at the end!

  • @zaynnarts
    @zaynnarts Місяць тому +9

    WOAH WE GREW UP IN THE SAME AREA??? CRAZY

  • @capcyn1053
    @capcyn1053 Місяць тому +4

    I cried too after I woke up for my wisdom tooth being removed !

  • @nothing.ever.last.forever-369
    @nothing.ever.last.forever-369 Місяць тому +1

    we actually need the all version of the song tho it was awesome

  • @empressdad
    @empressdad 4 дні тому

    your music is so good!!

  • @julidia3439
    @julidia3439 Місяць тому +1

    The song was sooo good!!!! And your voice to it 🥰🥰🥰

  • @koragg_valo5904
    @koragg_valo5904 Місяць тому +1

    writing as a safer communication style could not be any more real
    when i came out to my family as an enby i made a zine and could hardly even say "read this" LOL

  • @christiebecerril8113
    @christiebecerril8113 Місяць тому +1

    Wow I'm so happy you had support from your family and they adjusted well with it! It can be a very scary thing so I'm glad you had people who were positive and understanding around

  • @Nienna_Asyare
    @Nienna_Asyare Місяць тому +2

    It gives me comfort to think they only pulled my wisdom teeth out and not what they actually did, so I hope everyone who doesn’t know also thinks that!

  • @freddogrosso9835
    @freddogrosso9835 Місяць тому

    You're very interesting, and your family sounds AMAZING! Lotta love from Buenos Aires!

  • @ab-mc2nq
    @ab-mc2nq Місяць тому +2

    i thought my parents were supportive and "with it", but in the years following coming out, my dad has become more and more transphobic

  • @lazylama7270
    @lazylama7270 Місяць тому +4

    What was that song in the end? Sounded really good!
    Also, your singing is really cool^^

  • @ismaa69
    @ismaa69 Місяць тому

    You are my spirit animal

  • @Starl1ng.
    @Starl1ng. Місяць тому

    I love love the song omg !!

  • @Famelhaut
    @Famelhaut Місяць тому

    ur fit is fire

  • @julyalbrecht
    @julyalbrecht Місяць тому

    Thanks for Sharing, also the Song 😊

  • @Parisa-g7f
    @Parisa-g7f Місяць тому

    God. I so want to be like u iris!!!❤ ily

  • @zzz0065
    @zzz0065 Місяць тому

    the song was great 👍

  • @crashgaming2694
    @crashgaming2694 Місяць тому

    I almost did that same thing last year when I got mine out lol!

  • @alzbetaflekova-om5jg
    @alzbetaflekova-om5jg Місяць тому +3

    I love you❤

  • @demonofcheese5075
    @demonofcheese5075 Місяць тому +2

    iris i'm going to new york soon, anywhere cool i should go? i'd love to get some clothing as a souvenir

  • @eco2geek.
    @eco2geek. Місяць тому

    "It's a startled sensation -- LIKE YOU'RE UNDER SEDATION" (sorry, couldn't help myself). I had 1 (one) wisdom tooth taken out and have 3 left. No way I was going under just for that, but they did offer! And now the most important part of this comment: I don't understand non-binary at all, and using they/them pronouns is difficult because it's not what I was taught to do.

  • @ZamboniBoi
    @ZamboniBoi 8 днів тому

    I SENT MY MOM A TRANS MEME AND WE TALKED ABOUT IT ONCE AND NEVER AGAIN HELP ;-;

  • @_Suitable
    @_Suitable Місяць тому

    There's one small problem with this if it were me: my writing is borderline hieroglyphics, so a note is out of the question. Also, amazing music, another thing i can't do. Stupid hands.

  • @온새밀
    @온새밀 Місяць тому

    Can you inform me what that song name is? Btw heartfelt story❤ We love a good relationship

  • @fixit9844
    @fixit9844 Місяць тому

    what's the song at the end? did you write it yourself? i rlly like it

  • @Nyx-yq3hs
    @Nyx-yq3hs Місяць тому

    For the algo

  • @voetenlikkerijnl2222
    @voetenlikkerijnl2222 Місяць тому +3

    Why is this a thing in America, I just had a local anaesthetic and I was conscious the entire time.

  • @ApnaFriday
    @ApnaFriday Місяць тому

    😊😊😊😊😊😊😊

  • @jenniferfoshee9114
    @jenniferfoshee9114 Місяць тому +1

    Hi, I woke up at 8:30 in the morning just to watch this

  • @SamBeck6090
    @SamBeck6090 Місяць тому +1

    they actualy put u to sleep when u get ur teeth out in america? cos when ive had teath taken out in the uk they just inject ur gums to make it go numb and rip it out and you can feel it moving in your gum

    • @EternalGalaxies
      @EternalGalaxies Місяць тому

      Yeah idk why but they knock you out except I wasn't that high after waking up from mine I think some dentists just use a ton of anesthesia or sthg

    • @SamBeck6090
      @SamBeck6090 Місяць тому

      @EternalGalaxies can't that be bad for you tho, like anesthesia can kill you and cause long time damage

  • @noradi123
    @noradi123 Місяць тому +1

    The thumbnail is insane???😭

  • @babygorilla4233
    @babygorilla4233 Місяць тому +2

    Do NB people like... Idk have to? Like I'm a fairly effininate guy, im queer if you asked me 20 questions sure im essentially a NB... But just its easier to mentally reframe what masculinity is for me than to like ask other people to do things? This is probably disrespectful but i just don't get it? Like its been a massive struggle for every NB i know to be respected or treated the way they ask people to treat them... Like wouldn't it be eaiser to just reframe your mental concept of feminity? We don't live in a society that accepts they them pronouns so it seems like just trying to swim upstream? I've never met someone who uses they them pronouns whos not consistently upset that they don't get respected in the workplace so like. It feels like all the NB people i know are just opting into struggling when they can just be queer and confident in themselves? Seriously im basically a non identifying NB and I just dont see the appeal? Its eaiser to simply decide my flower collecting ass is the peak of masculinity.

    • @musicplaylists6718
      @musicplaylists6718 Місяць тому

      I'm not non-binary but I am a trans guy so though I'm not the best person to respond, I figured I'd be better than nothing. Sorry if you don't think my experience is very applicable here, that would be reasonable. It can be very hard to explain if you've not experienced it, but I think it's like. Gender ≠ expression, right? So what someone could be wanting would be to have their gender observed, not their expression (usually both but yknow). So even if you regroup things that you want to express yourself as into the gender box you were assigned, still being in that gender box at all could be distressing. Being an androgynous woman might not feel like enough, you might need to stop being a woman. I hope that helps, I'm sorry if I misunderstood or wasn't wanted here. If you're still confused or have any questions feel free to ask.

    • @babygorilla4233
      @babygorilla4233 Місяць тому

      @@musicplaylists6718 I guess I just don't get they them pronouns? Like society's gonna put ya in one of two boxes? Asking for a third option? I've known like 3 people who've tried, the sorry truth is no one gives a fuck? I'm nice and supportive to them but no one in their families or professional lives is. Sorry if this is giving old conservative energy but like... If they played by society's rules they wouldn't consider themselves disrespected by most people? It just seems elective and like it just makes there lives way worse. Like trans people I get, they just want to be able to exist in society. But like NBs are trying to change the world and make a third category. But they don't live in a society that sees people that way and they're always mad about it. What are they gaining?

    • @babygorilla4233
      @babygorilla4233 Місяць тому

      @@musicplaylists6718 it just feels like specifically the people who only use they them pronouns are just... It's not working right? Like every one of them I've met has been deeply angry that people don't respect it. And... There kinda not respecting society on a certain level? The gender binary is woven into our very language and reactions, there actively rejecting society's rules and conventions. Then when they meet a new person like every time that person does the human thing and genders them. And it's like a problem for them like every time. Just be an all gender like this content creator actually. Identity isn't just expression, that's the lovely thing about identity. It's something we all make up about ourselves, so simply don't formulate an identity that brings you into conflict with society I guess?

  • @Floppzy
    @Floppzy Місяць тому +2

    that thumbnail is lowkey fucked like yes technically it says 'consensually' but to any victims that see that they are gonna feel like their experiences were just used as a bait thumbnail

    • @irisolympia
      @irisolympia  Місяць тому +2

      i will change it soon! thank you for the feedback ❤️