gender affirming things i've done (nonbinary)
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TIMESTAMPS:
0:00 - ranting
0:52 - this video is a podcast!
1:00 - my background
1:18 - getting pierced
2:36 - thank you ana luisa
5:07 - getting a binder
6:19 - cutting my hair
7:56 - exploring my fashion
9:40 - describing myself as nonbinary
10:43 - using more pronouns
11:50 - coming out & conversations about gender
13:21 - last remarks & epilogue
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Age: 21
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things that give me gender euphoria lol
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“How you express yourself doesn’t discredit the way you feel” thank u iris 🥺
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The jewellry and getting the ears pierced - aah that‘s so me, I really really wanna get my ears pierced to wear jewelry the way men wear earrings in a feminine way
exactlyyyyyy
I feel like presenting as over masc and then finding your own expression is the experience of a lot of nb and trans masc people after we have The Realization😭
Hi, so fun story time: I'm a straight, cis woman, so I can't say I've ever been misgendered, but as a kid, I went to a school with a uniform. In elementary school, girls were *required* to wear the uniform dress until a certain date at which the school deemed it was cold enough to justify (?) letting girls wear pants (Catholic school lol). My mother hated that we had to wear the dress because im upstate New York, it got cold before they let us wear the pants. Well, first day of the school year that we could wear pants, my mom sent me to school in them. All my female friends were still in dresses, and they asked me "why I was dressed like a boy." That was upsetting because I wanted to wear what was comfortable for me without being told that invalidated the fact that I am a girl! And obviously those girls wore pants outside of school, but in the context of the school uniform, they had only ever seen the boys wearing uniform pants, so the lack of representation in their minds meant they could not compute. And that is why I will go to bat to defend things like guys wearing dresses (especially since that seems to be much less accepted than women wearing "masculine" clothes). Story time over!
My school (state integrated religious) currently makes girls wear skirts all year round, but I sent my headmaster an essay explaining why students should be able to whichever uniform they want regardless of their gender and he responded really positively and is sending my essay to the school board! Hopefully some changes will be made. Its quite nerve wracking but I just want everyone in these comments to know that if you want your school to make a change, totally go for it! Just take care to be really polite and positive about it because then they’ll be more receptive I think!
I completely understand this even though i go to a school where eveyone wears the same uniform not matter what gender. I guess im pretty lucky and i wish all schools would do this! It even has a gender-neutral bathroom which is cool.
Ok this doesn’t have much to do with the video but for anyone going through anything bad related to gender or sexuality this is for you.
im a 19 year old pan romantic nonbinary person living in saudi arabia.
Last two years have been a combination of the happiest moments and the saddest moments i ever lived, i finally accepted and loved myself, I finally looked in the mirror in loved myself loved who i am, i finally felt so happy to be alone and feel like i dont need people cuz i have myself. but, with that came so much bad from others around me, i have went through everything from suicide attempts, sexual harassment, abuse, assault and losing friends i had for more than 13 years to getting manipulated and stalked by a creep that wanted to at one point rape me. I have even been threatened to be disowned twice!
But with all that happening i came out of it now after two years of hell. I now am able to see the mountains of good that are in life, i look back to what happened and say thank god it did cuz i learned so much from it. I met people who love me for who i am and treat me no differently from anyone else. I now am in a point in my life where i can very proudly say i survived suicide and a whole bunch of garbage. Now you might think that im special, that im so much stronger than the average person. But no, im no different from anyone reading this comment and if you are going through the same thing I promise you you will get out of it and that you are loved and you are valid. Even if you cant see it now I promise life will find a way and it will get better just like it did to me and many others that have even gone through worse. I love you and I believe in you 💜💜💜
P.S. iris you mean the world for some of us and please keep doing the awesome work you do. We love you so much
Hey, I just wanted to say that I'm really sorry you had to go through all of that, and it's total bullshit how people who call themselves friends and family can leave you based off of your sexuality/gender identity. I'd also like to say that I'm incredibly amazed at how you were able to put up with all of it and come out on the other end even stronger. I'm a queer (and possible nb, not sure yet) person living in Sudan, and there's no way I could ever come out to anyone were I to stay here. Everyone is so judgemental (including my parents) and I know for a fact that they would disown me the second they find out. I'm 17 and hopefully I'll be leaving the country for uni soon, which should buy me my independence, but it doesnt make the inevitable seem any easier. I would suggest you travel if you can, but I know that isn't an option for everyone. Just stay strong, and know that there are other people who understand how you feel even if you think that there aren't.
@fankyrosie uhh i can only speak for myself, but yea i am 😇
@fankyrosie Saudi Arabia 😐, and judging by that question mark you have the arabic keyboard 😆(unless its on other keyboards too idk haha)
@fankyrosie kinda yes and no, I’m not that much into the religion.
Not a subject i will talk about tho, sorry 😅
you'd be surprised at how many young LGBTQ people there is in Saudi Arabia. you are never alone. ❤️
This is such a feel-good video! I'm a bi cis girl but I want to understand and support all members of queer community. Your channel is a safe space for many and it is so beautiful. A close friend of mine was struggling with gender for two years and recently came out to me as non-binary. His girlfriend and us friends were so happy for him. Being queer in Russia is no fun, but we are so lucky to have our little chosen family. Good luck to everyone here, you all deserve love and support.
As a nonbinary person, thank you so much for making the effort to understand all members of the queer community, it means a lot to us!
I got my first binder today :))
yay!!! congratulations 🎉
When I found out I was enby (when I was 15 now I'm 20) I really went into the hyper masc side of expression, cause that made me feel more comfy at the time and it lasted quite a while. Now I'm at a point where I want to feel more androgynous, since last year I got top surgery and I feel so much more comfortable in my body, but I'm having a hard time haha. I want to try more feminine clothes, but when I do I get incredible dysphoric, so I'm currently sticking to nail polish and jewellery for more feminine things in my expression and I'm liking it so far. I'm also trying to grow out my hair a bit, so that might also give me a more andogynous look, cause I really want to try to look more androgynous, it's just hard to find ways without making myself feel dysphoric. I hope someone else can relate and honestly trying new things and exploring yourself can be really fun!
one other thing u could try is super simple make-up as in /just/ using black eyeliner or mascara 💛
@@irisolympia very scary and big step for me haha, but thanks!! Guess I'll give it a try when I'm alone
@@malicetosociety it was very important to me to get top surgery and it is the best thing that has happened to me. I have so much more confidence now it is insane. It took a while to get there cause where I live you need proof from a gender therapist that you have gender dysphoria and my therapist knew immediately that top surgery was needed for me, but because I am non binary people who I didn't even speak to were hesitant, which was so annoying. So it took me a while to get there, but it was worth it
your videos were a big factor in gaining confidence in myself being genderfluid, so thank you !!
yay!!
Getting my head shaved was the biggest bender affirming thing I’ve done, and I like my hair a lot more when it’s longer, but I liked that people didn’t assume I was a girl when my hair was shaved
I've recently started formally identifying as non binary!
Its v exciting and I've enjoyed the experience so far immensely. I've always been quite comfortable in my skin, but now I feel like I want to build like a 'mastery' over it, to be able to express myself and my gender identity effectively.
This has been expressed so fsr through a wardrobe change/update and attempting to learning how to use make up.
The wardrobe stuff has been simple enough and really fun, the make up I'm finding more challenging.
Being raised cis male has meant for most of my life I've either avoided make up, or, as hass been the case more recently, have been intimidated by it. I've got a bit of help, my mum even offered to help out which was really nice
But does anyone have any one have recommendations for stuff to buy or vids to watch for themboys like me starting out?
Take advantage of the products your mom has, it'll help with figuring out what kinds of products you might want to use. Watch videos about beginner/easy makeup to figure out what you should buy. You can start off with buying a foundation, concealer, eyeshadow, eyeliner, mascara, blush, and lipstick. The best thing you can do for yourself is to just buy some stuff and use it. There are a lot of different kinds of products that serve the same function and the only way you'll know what you like is if you use it. Don't buy expensive products to avoid wasting too much money. You're definitely going to end up wasting money since you probably don't know what you like yet so be prepared for that
Watching videos about makeup is important. I don't have any recommendations specifically for masc faces but how makeup can change your face applies to everyone. Like I said earlier you can look for videos for beginners and then look for videos about the items they used to find out which brands are actually good. When you're searching for these videos you should look for people who use drugstore brands since they're cheaper than other brands. Sorry I dont have any specific people to recommend.
Something you should do once you get used to "the fundamentals" is figure out what kind of makeup you want to do. The kinds of makeup you should buy depends on the kind of makeup look you want to achieve. You might be looking for a full face or just eye makeup or a little bit of both. Then theres also full coverage vs minimal coverage makeup. Maybe you want to go for artistic makeup or a makeup look from a certain sub-genre/culture. Or maybe you just want to do simple everyday makeup. Following people on instagram is pretty helpful for this to get inspiration. You're correct in saying makeup is intimidating, theres a lot you can do with makeup. It's a tool for self expression so theres going to be a lot of different ways to do it.
Sorry I know this is really long, but the more I thought about what to say the more questions I had and then I ended up typing a whole essay of information. TLDR: Looking at how other people do their makeup is very helpful for finding out what you'd like, so watch makeup videos. You're not really going to know what products you like until you try using different things so definitely take advantage of your moms makeup so you don't waste too much money. Shop at drug stores to avoid wasting too much money as well. And at some point you should branch out and look for specific kinds of makeup looks. Good luck :)
@@Tiphuhnee I'll do all of this stuff, thankyou Tiffany!!
Yeah luckily I have enough money from my new job to not mind about wasting money on products I'll likely use once
I'll definitely try and look for looks I want to do!
So far I've done eye stuff with relative success, eyeliner is pretty hard though, that's gonna take some time, I'm way too clumsy :/
The Makeup Chair on UA-cam has a great beginner eyeshadow video that I remember using a lot when I was first learning how to do makeup. It’s great for learning how to place eyeshadow colors, and I found that I was able to apply what she shows there to a bunch of different color combinations!
I’d also say that just practicing makeup is the best way to learn, it’s a skill that takes some time to develop. Even if you aren’t going out anywhere, take some time to play with makeup during your free time. That way there’s no pressure, if you don’t like something you can just take it off and try again. If you have any friends who wear makeup, it’s also really fun to have other people do their usual makeup on you. It’s also a good way to learn different ways of doing things.
I hope some of this helped, best of luck to you!
@@harpist. yeah I’m really bad at doing eyeliner too. I usually use a pencil eyeliner or an eyeliner brush with eyeshadow, I find that I have more control with that than a liquid eyeliner.
Iris, no matter what you do you're beautiful. live your best nonbinary life
The binder video I was talking about: ua-cam.com/video/n_i_cnCLssg/v-deo.html ❤️
Happy Holidays!!! 🎁
I think i'm non binary, im still figuring out and this year i was trying new things like wear masculine clothes and jelwery . Also i want to cut my hair short.
i talked with my friends about this and they were very undertanding, but i dont have any nb or trans friends so, sometimes i feel i little bit out.
But this videos have helped me a lot because is nice to hear that other people have the same experiences as you and you can relate to them. So thank you so much !! 🤗
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just discovering your channel, I'm amab and I can relate to so much of what you're saying! When I read the title, piercing my ears was the first thing that came to my mind as a gender affirming thing i've done! Wearing different earrings is such a great way of subtly playing with gender and reclaiming a part of you body, and to hear you talk about that kind of assured me even more of that part of my gender experience!
tip!!
YOOOOOOO I get the jewelry thing so much 😭😭 I was so dysphoric over my ear piercings for so long, because most of what my mom bought me were pretty “feminine.” It wasn’t until December 2019 I started buying chain based earrings, because I was getting more into punk fashion. I’m getting my second ear piercing this week since I have so many earrings now adgsdgdghhj
your videos help me so much! im still in the process of figuring out my gender, I know I'm not cis but also don't really feel that much dysphoria etc. I'm very much confused lol.
loved the video and love you
I'm in the same boat, gender is a confusing blur for me atm lol. (I'm also "straight" which makes figuring out my gender even harder, because i wasn't already queer ig.) It's nice to know other people feel the way i do, even if it is just online! wishing you the best
hey you two! take your time figuring things out and learning about yourselves. it's okay to be cis and androgynous, it's okay to identify as non-binary (personal gender) and be straight (sexuality).
i love love love hearing what things ppl do to affirm their gender. for me, having longer hair (ehh, does shoulder length count?) makes me feel so comfortable in my body. gender is so complex but being able to find little things that make it less so is really special imo.
iris olympia is a fire name
thank you!
Love your channel sooo much. I felt uncomfy with being full femme before due to having a strong jawline, prominent cheekbones, and broad shoulders. You helped me discover that I like looking androgynous, and I love how I don't even have a definite adjective for my looks now (in between pretty/handsome). I started to embrace my insecurities basically, and turn them into charms. Thank you so much for helping a GNC gal out!!
big love ❤️
thumbnail looks so cool omg
WAH thank you!!!
looking through gender and sexuality wiki articles, especially for different terms, can be really affirming for me. when you find a term that finally resonates with you, its super satisfying. finding communities like subreddits to express freely about your gender and sexuality experiences is also rewarding!
a big one for me over the years was shaving my head. before i knew i was nb, when it was just a discomfort with being a woman and "overcompensating" with masculine style like iris says in the video, shaving my head was this really cathartic experience of just seeing myself for who i was without any leaning to either gender. so far i've done it three times in the past few years, most recently a week ago after growing it out for 3 years, and it always feels like this healthy, gender identity reset, almost like a clean slate or a blank canvas. it's nice to feel like, oh i don't really look like a woman, but i don't really look like a man either. i just look like myself. and also its kinda trendy lmao! gonna bleach my bald head this week and go pink cheetah print to come into my true cheetah sister self :')
and thanks for the reaffirming words! i feel like we always need a reminder that nothing can invalidate your personal experience with gender, regardless of how you present
I'm still fairly early in my transition, but one thing that's been affirming for me is voice training. I have a naturally deeper voice (for an afab), but I had a habit of pitching my voice up in certain situations to try and fit into womanhood and femininity. I hated it and felt like it wasn't me, it was embarrassing honestly. So I've been training myself to speak in a lower register which is actually more comfortable and natural feeling.
love that I'm not alone in not caring about pronouns and identifying as nonbinary. This made my night cuz I've always felt a bit out of most loops when I just never realy cared too much about them on a personal level. Thanks for sharing.
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when i was little, i got both my ears pierced and i really liked it but as i got older people always said that it was feminine. so, when i figured out that i didn’t really like that i pierced a second hole in my ear and that made me feel very happy and masculine! so, moral of the story, get many ear piercings!!
11:40 bro same :]
also this is a very comforting video to watch
happy holidays everyone!
I can really relate to the hair thing growing it out gave me real euphoria I hadn't experienced before then
Okay so for me at my highschool I’m known as a cis male. which is FANTASTIC- except in a way I still feel limited. Don’t get me wrong, I use the boys toilets (stalls) and the teacher ones occasionally, I have a couple of guy friends but mostly girls because i find them more “refined” and less prone to homophobia and racism, which is just my experience. (i tend to ignore that sense of gender in people, when I look at people they all look i dunno... the same?.. so being friends with boys and girls doesn’t really make much of a difference to me, their all just PEOPLE in that sense). Everyone knows I’m bisexual, and no ones been a sod to me about it so it’s great, even the straight guys compliment my style. I paint my nails and wear jewellery and i look like a boy wearing feminine things. That’s was a gender affirming thing for me.
Now here’s the complicated part.
The fear of being found out, or as an i m p o s t e r (i’m so sorry omg-)
My parents would kill me if they found out what I’ve been doing at school, changing my name, deepening my voice, etc. So what I have at school is delicate, which limits me A LOT. I can’t invite friends over without my parents using my dead name, I can’t have my parents meet my friends for the same reason, and I can’t stop thinking about the day it’ll all crumble, the night where my mum looks through my school papers and finds a different name. The night my perfect safe space gets snared. That anxiety and needless worry drives me MAD!
It’s like i can’t escape this hole i’ve buried. even if the hole has really nice things, it’s still a hole. Nothing changes that fact. I’m just begging that someone won’t find it and bury me inside, drowning me in it.
i’m just so tired yknow?
:)
I don’t want to tell my friends not because of the fear of THEM hating me for it, because i know they won’t.
I just want to feel like I have control of myself and my gender and the people who see me as a cis guy. I don’t want to lose that sense of control. I can’t take another hit because I’m so scared that I might not come back from it.
they helps I find especially for me going from m to f on hrt if I feel I don't pass fully once I start hrt or I just can't be bothered to focus on passing a certain day I can say "they" prounouns and completely rid myself of the societal pressure to pass as fully fem and say you know what today I am just "they" still feminine and beautiful, but okay with not hyper focusing on being so fem presenting. It also helps in the transition phase where you are entering an androgynous look
Loved the video. Thankyou for making a video even just after such a stressful time
Your literally my favorite UA-camr, and you make me feel so understood 🥺❤️
okay I rewatched it a few times already and I usually forget to leave comments but!! I just want to say that you're one of my favourite creators here and every single video of yours makes me feel so much warmth and euphoria! I'm so happy I found your channel months ago and it genuinely helps me a lot during hard times and makes good times even better. thank you, Iris. thank you very much for doing what you're doing. you're a very beautiful person inside and out and I'm just forever grateful that you share your experiences with us, especially queer ones, cuz there're so many queer folks who really need more content like this, more content that makes us feel safe and supported. love you! ☀️
this really really made my day ❤️ best wishes & thank you for this kindness ❤️
I literally love you! You make me feel 10x better about myself by just being you. I hope you are well and happy. Also, you look amazing and I don’t know how you do it. ❤✨
I swear you make these videos at the perfect time every time
Can't wait for this, love your videos!!
Omg ur name is sonic x shrek ❤️🔥🥵😫🤪
@@SevernTheBug PFFFFT 💅✨✨💚💙
0:54 I really apreciate how you stated that this video is a podcast and sugesting I could clean my room a bit
I just have to say I love your pic crew (? I don’t know how to spell it lmao) so much 😅💝
Eek I can’t wait to watch this!!
can i just say your presence is just so comforting to me
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i’d love to see a video on how you film, record and edit your videos! i feel like it’d be very interesting to see the process :)
i been confused about my gender for a while bc i didnt feel totally like a girl but i didnt feel totally like a boy either, this video was just what i needed. i been doing some of this things even before knowing how i felt and this week i will cut my hair shorter. thank u,you made me feel visible.
i love your videos iris, thank u so much ❤️🌈
My aunt is my hairdresser and I showed her a picture of a short haircut I want that is similar to how your hair looks when it was shorter. I showed her another after that. Which was a more feminine looking person and the hair was a big noger and she said she didn't like the short one and likes the longer one. They looked pretty much the same and I'm pretty sure she discouraged the shorter one cus it was more masculine so I'm low-key feeling nervous and discouraged about the haircut because what if she femenizes it? I find it really awkward to ask and say I want it more masculine, so yeah, that's my rant😐
i FEEL this. i know it’s different because this is a family member for you, but for a while I went to salons where i was just so afraid of being feminized when I just wanted my lil eboy haircut lol-maybe you could ask for it to be more “edgy” and that would help? idk but it could be worth a shot and doesn’t explicitly bring in the gender element.
@@irisolympia thank you so much, I'm going to try that
Ok update I did it and it's amazing I'm do happy with it😌
@@julianna1919 Good for you:)
I watched a few of your vids and I stg Ive never related to sumn sm, and I feel so overwhelmed by that, but in a good way. Anyhow thanks for your channel and just expressing yourself
i think im nonbinary and i really hope i can live like and express myself as comfortably as you do in the future
your vids have recently been reaffirming things i’ve known about myself since i was like 15/16 (now 26) that i guess i’ve just tried to push to the back of my mind. i think i’m non-binary/genderfluid, not sure i’m fully ready to come out to myself or anyone yet. but i am so grateful for your content! thank you
yes it’s mine!! it’s not released yet hehehe
love the point on jewelry 😌
the most gender affirming thing I've done is probably finally accepting that I am non-binary and clearly coming out to the closer people in my life. I've been having this gender crisis for 4 years and had slowly drifted to the more masc side, but now that i know my family and friends actually see me as non-binary, I'm finally more comfortable just dressing and presenting cool or cute or whatever i feel like, regardless of it being more feminine or masculine, and it's soooo affirming. for the first time ever i felt gender euphoria from looking a little feminine, just enough for it to be still me, and it was the best feeling ever :D
Iris,I just have to say, you are fricking amazing! I enjoy watching all your videos (I just recently discovered your channel) and its helped me A LOT,especially lately. I'm Non-binary and Trans-masculine and I am misgendered everyday. It really sucks,but watching your videos and hearing about the things that make you happy and affirm your gender seems to help me feel more confident in myself and my own gender. You're so open about your thoughts and feelings on gender and the way those things effect you and I feel like I can relate to a degree (everyone's gender experiences are different tho). I really needed this today. I've been feeling so anxious about how others perceive me that I forgot that it doesn't matter. As long as I'm happy :) I do think I need to find more things that will help give me gender euphoria because I can't afford things like top surgery and T. (I have a binder,cut my hair,and came out to my whole family....it was kinda rough lol) But seeing you (and all your damn confidence) is really great and it makes me happy knowing that someday I might be able to get to a point in my life where I can be as open as you. Thank you for existing,being who you are and sharing things about your experiences with gender. You are a wonderful person (Who can also right wonderful fricking music) and I hope you're doing well. Please keep making more videos!
thank you so much for this comment ❤️ this is why i make videos and sometimes i forget what it all means
I relate so much to you, it's scary. Thank you for this video!
Your voice is so soothing 😪
Hi !
I "came out" (I changed my pronouns and start talking about myself as nb) as non binary this summer after several month of questioning my gender and talking about it with my boyfriend and a friend who is also non binary. I have very female features (big chest and broad hips) and felt uncomfortable about that because I wasn't looking masculin or androgynous enough, but my friend said exactly the same thing to me, that the way I expressed myself or the way I looked doesn't discredit the way I feel. And even if I did some things to help me, like cutting my hair shorter or stop wearing makeup every day (because before I felt that I had to), understand that statement really helped me accept myself.
So thank you for your videos, ! I just discovered you but they are amazing, and you look gorgeous by te way
As a newly AMAB nonbinary person, I find wearing skirts, and doing/painting my nails to be very gender affirming for me
For some reason Ioved this video
Nice vibe
I got a pair of overalls like five months ago and I realized just how good loose-fitting pants make me feel. I had always thought that I wouldn't look good in them, but really, I looked better in them because I was so happy in them.
I bought loose jeans and some other loose pants a month ago and I'm seriously never going back
First of all iris, you looks absolutely gorgeous! And then i just wanted to tell a little about me. I am a young non binary person and i have really been on a journey to finding myself the past schoon year sinds I switched schools and people became so accepting and open of everyone no matter how they dress or who they like. It was like nothing i have experienced before and it still feels amazing every day, they respect my name and pronouns and they dont shame me for being who i am :) i am still on a journey trying to find a style and label that fits me and I luckily have a very loving space to do that. But i am also very grateful for videos like this one :)
Masculine compensation… I feel that
kinda happy that my older cousins encourage me to get my hair cut short- i don't know about my mom tho.
Yes cutting me hair was so affirming I just did that yesterday
i really love your voice
similar to cutting your hair short, i cut my hair like chin length, but i cut it myself and it made me feel weirdly euphoric :]
jewerly and painted nails changed the whole game for me
I really wanna get my ears pierced (I'm in my mid 20's. Yeah I agree I do feel like society pressures women to get their ears pierced oh and the same thing with the jewelry) And I also wanna get my nose pierced (but I want a fake one first, just to see if I like it or not). The first gender affirming thing I did (this was the first time I came out as nonbinary, now I'm a lot happier with myself after coming out as nb again and I came out as trans (not to anyone irl, just online. - was wearing a gray women's baseball cap that my mom got me for Christmas one year. I put a little Appa pin on it and I definitely wanna wear it again. I also have a chibi atla bag my mom's friend made for me, which is very gender affirming for me. But it would be nice to give little hints about what I'm wearing so other lgbtq+ members know that I'm apart of the community. I also wanna cut my hair shorter, so its to my ears. One time I got a short-hair haircut and I loved it! I complimented one of my online friends and they called me by my chosen name Shiloh, and I beamed! Fantastic video!
I haven't come out to my family yet, and i don't plan on it anytime soon. I'm a nonbinary and (questioning lesbian) aroace. I just asked my mom if I could cut my hair shorter and she litteraly started crying... it kinda hurt mentally to know she didn’t want me to change but even though it upsets her she agreed to let me do it. So I might finally be cutting my hair soon, I'm not sure.
this isnt really something *ive* done but all the lunch ladies call me buddy and he and boy and its nice
any idea what to call ur nb signifigant other tho? like my partner and i recently started formally dating and we agree that we dont want to use gendered terms like bf/gf but partner sounds rlly formal so idk
i like “my person” but that and also partner start to feel more right the longer you are dating in my experience :)
Random but while listening to this I decided to put some jewelry on and I felt so much better abt the way I looked after - a Cis girl :3
1:50 I had the same thing with painting my nails :)
just happy someone feels the same way as me hehe
your videos give me so much peace
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As someone who's learning to accept my own journey and realizing I'm not cis and probably non-binary, your content is so comforting. I relate to it so much. Thank you. :)
i am so glad ❣️ thanks for watching :)
@@irisolympia anytime, I appreciate the energy you're putting out into the world ❤️
as a AMAB it's so fun seeing how some are the opposite for me lol
You really look wonderful in everything you wear Iris.🥰🙏😇
Gets binder, gets sick. Same. Haven't worn it five times yet
i got myself the fortuna necklace for christmas. it rocks
one of my favs!!
@@irisolympia it sure is a look, tho i am suffering from swimmers shoulders and wish it would be just a bit larger to look correct on my frame
ps: much love from germany 💜
Ok so a stranger today used they/them pronouns for me even though I looked very fem and it felt amazing!!!! (I did not even say anything)
This video reassures me that I am Nonbinary when I dont feel like it because people say things that nake me question if I am.
Anyways I am not out but would love to experiment with my style as well.
11:19 i feel this same way, there’s really no way to misgender me bc i don’t really mind what ppl call (im bi afab)
The gender affirming thing I did was telling my car insurance I'm non-binary so it would reduced the costs of my insurance.
Painting my nails is really affirming to me. When I was little, I would love to paint my nails, but when I started to see it as overly feminine, I stopped. Now I know that it is just nail paint and doesn't invalidate my enbiness at all, and I very much still love to paint my nails all sorts of different colors
perfectly describes the narrative arch hahaha
I feel a sense of pride being one of the only ‘normal’ nonbinary people
i know what u mean by this but also we can’t look down on our comrades 🫡 especially cuz so many of us are neurodivergent
I know this is a year old but congratulations on your thesis! 🎉
i feel you about the they/them pronouns thing. im a trans genderqueer man and i used to be super cool with both they/them and he/him but i started to notice people only used they/them because it was easier for them to see me as "not a girl" than it was to see me as male or masculine-aligned in any way. it doesn't bother me when my fellow trans friends use they/them sometimes because i know they get it, but cis people kinda ruined they/them for me now lmao
I have such a low pain tolerance and I would like to get piercing but I’m so scared lol
And i'm affirming my sexuality by having a crush on you.
Love your videos 😘🇧🇷
I am in gneder crisis and I am non binary how I think wants to be boy mabye in further how knows I am new so I love u
One thing transphobes have to remember is that trans peeps get hate from phobes, they probably have closed minded family members, they had to go through the stressful process of figuring out what they want to identify as, it's just a lot of stress. I'm not trans, but I have some friends who are, and they have had their share of stress and issues
I realized I was non-binary when I was 12 I’m almost 15 and have only told 2 ppl ☹️
Damnit I’m cutting my hair again.
A great idea that I didn't think about at the time, but if you have good hair you can donate it to locks of love, but oh no! Your hair is a bit short for the minimum! Guess you'll have to cut it a bit shorter than normal. (10'' minimum btw)
heyyyyyyy i just wanted to tell someone that im nonbinary!! cheeeers
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I just don’t understand what the big fuss is about. Just wear what you want and feel comfortable in. So many people overthinking. Why make such a big deal about being “non binary” just wear what you want when you want… it’s as simple as that. Why put labels on anything. Just be YOU!!!
This is just a trend, she is just a woman
I'm a transsex male and these people ruined it for us
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Luckily for me, I only have genderqueer friends!
Affirming dysphoria?
Are you on testosterone?
you shouldn't feel privileged to use the word Trans, if you identify with the word then I don't see why you can't see it, sure some Trans people don't see Non Binary as being part of the Trans Umbrella, but that's their problem, NOT YOURS!
Is the person an amalgamation of two or more persons? In that case, I would use "they". If not, the person can select from the singular pronouns "he", "she", or "it".
here’s an article from miriam webster about the singular “they” pronoun: www.merriam-webster.com/words-at-play/singular-nonbinary-they
it’s not new.
-the person
With all these new weird options now I have to describe myself as "gender-stable, binary, straight, cis"? That's really funny.
Maybe there are even a few more attributes needed: "non-aristocratic, human, cis-aged, cis-raced, cis-cultural".
Or simply said: "I'm a real man" (including true gender euphoria). 😎
im part of the nonbinary ( but in the genderfluid class, boys body)
i woudl ike to hav my ears pearce but cause of my needle fear (phobia), i havent done it yet
i lets my hair grow
I have shaved my legs or years alreayd , same for my tummy and arm (but looking for lazer removal)
i got a underwear that make the look of a camel toe crotch" for when i wear pants but foudn myself to wear it even when im in skirt or dress.
but the only time i wear pants is as a girl as a guy i wear kilts.
when i acepted myself for who i was , i didnt knew the word non binary or gender fluid i knew only a few word( transgender, travestite, cross dresser and dragqueen ) so i used the term transvestite (cause trans for me was full time other gender), corss dresser was more sexual, and drag was more showbiz)
athen i foudn bi gender and cause it was switching from male to female bac and forth i felt it match me then i found the term generfluid wish it me even more
and with the paper now allowing in quebec (my province in canada) to have gender set to x i oficialy changed it to x
so i m also part of non binary to me its goes together cause i not persay male or female so im not in the binary so none binary)
for my pronoun i try to use it according to how idress but it was to complicated for others so and sicne i was confortable wiht both e(even tho when ask i tell the truth that when im a girl mode i do like the feminine gender talk, but im confortable by either one ) at work they uses usualy feminine no mather how im dressed.
i had to get used to use feminine adjective and ways to talk about me (sicn n french we have amle and female conjugaison( example male we say a beau gars (hansome guy) wile for a girl we will say a pretty woman( belle femme) or example if i want to say i m happy we can say as boy je suis heureux as girl je suis heureuse. so i oten use the female version but some itme i use the boys one too . cause i have been using the boys version for so many years iim use to use them.
when im a girl i do wear make up ,(¨still learning to do it though).
lately i have been feeling more often girl since i started to ahve girl stuff but a few time i feel guy .
i have been lucky my friends use the new acccept my new name and all ok a few time some accidentally use my dead name but i dont need to correct hem they correct themself .
ok but the not really liking they/them pronouns but being enby... I thought I was the only one. I still use them, on all my social medias and in college it's on the database, but I've never been able to be completely comfortable with it. (although for me it's better than she/he at the same time? ig because it at least affirms that I'm non-binary and doesn't feel like misgendering)
honestly it confuses me so much lmao