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My music teacher once said, "Boys sing fast, girls sing slow!" My enby friend and I were just like, "What if we're non-binary?" So she goes, "You can do whatever you want, and I'm proud of you."
When people say "they" can't be singular, remind them that "you" used to be only plural, but we don't say "thee/thou" anymore because language evolves.
interesting. I'm from Germany I thought that "you" is the equivalent of the German polite direct singular "Sie" address and all people address each other politely, so to speak, and that in English-speaking countries there is no personal address like in German with "Du" address. "Sie" is also the plural form and 2.form feminine singular and therefore unfortunately not suitable as pronouns for talking about non-binary people in Germany.
@@askialuna7717 yeah, in modern English we only have one second-person pronoun. "You" is used for singular, plural, subject, object, and any other use I might have forgotten. It's one of the many things that makes it difficult for native English speakers to learn other languages.
Non-binary just means a gender outside of the gender binary, i.e, someone that isn't either male or female. Which includes agender people. Surprising how it tells you that on the tin, isn't it?
I came out as transmale at the age of 40, I couldn´t live trying to be a woman anymore. I joined a FB group for specifically trans men, I had a photo of myself as I looked then, before any kind of treatment, and I wrote a short presentation and posted it, scared as beep of how people would react. My post was flooded with trans guys all welcoming me and saying, hey man, hey dude and that feeling of being called and seen as a man for the first time in my life... I cried for a whole day, I was so overwhelmed by the feeling of finally being seen as a man, being seen as who I really am. I am now turning 50 but I will never forget that feeling :-)
also my parents are not the kind to kick their own children out of the house. they care about us and my mother would probably be the most accepting out of all of them
I want a gender option for "I *really* don't care. Pick a random one." Ever since my grandparents jokingly told said the saying "I don't care what you call me, as long as you call me to dinner," that's basically been my gender; "Don't care what you called me, food please." Genuinely, the more random and less consistent the pronouns people use for me are, the happier I am.
YES i use he/her but its not like i care which one people use more lmao. Just pick one of the two. In fact its even more confusing for me if people refer to me as both because im like “wait who u talking bout?” And realise they mean me 🗿
Hey, same for me. Well, not the inconsistency - I really don't care. Which lead to most people just assuming "he", because of, well, the beard. He/she/they/it, I don't care, I'm ME. That's all that's important to me.
@@adrian_the_alien That's interesting. I haven't heard of that. As I think about gender right now, I'm not genderless, I very much exist in a knowable gender identity, but what that identity is beyond gender-fluid. The best name for what my gender "is" has been something along the lines of Schrödinger's Gender, at all moments, my gender is and isn't in all possible states, until directly observed (someone asks), then it all collapses into a single state.
hey the original comment is from 9 months ago so im kinda late but i think you might wanna look into what agender is! i am agender and how youre describing how you feel sounds like it would fit that label :) of course, this doesnt mean you are agender (only you can really know haha) and its totally ok if you dont wanna use a label. but if you do wanna use one, i recommend looking into that
I came out to my mom as non-binary a few years ago, and she didn't get it. Last week she came to me asking about a non-binary character in a show so she could understand them more. Progression.
I came out to my parents about me being nonbinary twice. The first time my mom didn't get it at all, didn't ask questions, and dead named me and misgendered me for four years. I recently came out again and re-explained everything, and now she corrects my dad when he accidentally uses the wrong pronouns and name. Character progression!
2:48 my gym teacher did that. He said “girls on one wall, boys on the other”. We were playing dodge ball and me and this kid who I found out was also nonbinary that day, laid in the middle of the gym floor and offered to be the dodge balls. He sent us to the principal and had us put in in-school-suspension.
My gym teacher would split the class up like that to, but then the guys would play against each other and the girls would play against each other. Ot sucked for my friend group, since my non-athletic male friends had to play with the competitive guys (and never got included) and one of my friends had to play in the wrong group (she transitioned after we graduated). I always felt out of place (I’ve since realized that I’m non binary). It also sucked as someone who liked playing sports, because the girls group didn’t really care about playing. I prefered it when the teams were mixed gendered, although usually the competitive guys wouldn’t include anybody else (and there usually had to be a certain number of girls playing at once)
My homeroom teacher likes to do that. She’ll split us up into “girl” and “boy” lines. I would just stand in the middle cuz where do I go? My spanish teacher does it to (ig its cuz spanish has so much gendered language there isnt any allowing for non-binary folk
Hearing these examples of teachers who line their students up by supposed binary gender just had me going "....but why??" Until I realised maybe it's some kind of thing to prevent potential flirting or harassment? Do they think that having mixed gender teams means all the members are gonna start hitting on each other? 😕 Yikes.
They should split up PE classes by "good at/enjoys sports" and "does not" lol. That would have saved a lot of us a lot of stress. Let the try-hards have their game, and leave me at peace to make my dandelion crown in the outfield.
This is how I came out as non-binary: Mum: I want a dog My cousin: I'm a lesbian Me: I like they/them pronouns Mum: alright so what kind of dog do we want
As someone who's just started coming out yesterday after a multiple-year journey of self reflection on the topic, this video feels like it couldn't have been more perfectly timed.
I hope that you know that you are loved and respected. Your pronouns (whatever they may be) are something to be respected. You are awesome! Don't let someone take away your sparkle!
Everyone is a “they” to me until they say otherwise. I play on minecraft and you’d be surprised how many people just assume I’m a guy, I think it’s funny, but I know others would feel uncomfortable
the little skip in my heart i feel whenever a form has an option for neutral pronouns, or has a "nonbinary" checkbox...it's such a simple thing, but it always makes me happy
This reminds me of the one time my cousin invited some friends, who the extended family didn't know yet, to a birthday and my great aunt (in her late 70's back then) said about one of them: "are they a boy or a girl? I can't tell, they're so pretty!"
Don't forget those dark moments at night where you lay awake and question of you really are faking it and then the next day thinking "time and space revolve around me. I may be the center of the universe now that I think about it!"
But I don't get that. How can that be allowed? If you're not allowed to use the wrong pronouns then how can you use they or them? If you have a man then you'd use he. As such, you wouldn't use they. So if you do refer to him as they then surely you've mispronouned him.
@@xinpingdonohoe3978 If you use gendered pronouns without confirming which ones, there’s a risk that you’ll be using pronouns that are outright wrong, whereas neutral pronouns are just less specific than they could have been. For example, I go by she/her, so referring to me as “they/them” is fine whereas referring to me as “he/him” is just plain wrong.
@@xinpingdonohoe3978 I’ve only ever gone by feminine pronouns, but I have no problem with neutral ones being applied to me. Masculine, on the other hand, is outright misgendering.
@@LittleBulleteye Male is still the default gender today; when people hear the word "person", most of them automatically picture a (white, cis, able-bodied, adult) male. Also, the bible uses male pronouns quite often to refer to God. Probably because it was the default gender back then, too. Referring to God as having a gender is part of other anthropomorphic language used to describe God. Others are for example referring to God's hands or mouth. Anthropomorphic means that you describe non-human entities in terms of human attributes. Anthropos = human; morphe = form
Fun fact: when I came out to my parents as genderfluid, I explained my pronouns to them. My mum totally got singular they/them pronouns, but she explained that she felt bad using they/them pronouns for me because to her it's like talking about someone when they're not in the room, like, "ugh, they're so annoying". My mum is great lol 😂 Edit: my mum does use they/them pronouns for me when it's a they/them day, this is just something that happened when I came out (almost a year ago) and I thought that it was funny
But talking about someone when they're not in the room is when people *should* use your pronoun. If you were in the room, then they should refer to you as "you".
Wow, that's so sweet! I'm glad your mom could be supportive and that her only objection was that she feels like she's talking about someone behind their back. Also, love the profile pic. Sincerely, a fellow genderfluid person
This made me feel a lot better about me being nonbinary. This is coming from a person who has not come out to anyone except my sister and a really good friend of mine. Thank you!
I know this comment is a year old, but I just want to say that as a fellow enby, I'm proud of you for having the courage to come out to even a few folks. That's not easy.
the second one, with the hair-- I have the same haircut, and yeah, it's pretty simple upkeep; usually just get my roommate to trim it with a clipper once a month. (I can and have done it myself, but it's much simpler to get a second person to do it!)
When my trans bestie referred to me casually as they in front of other people with no problem my heart melted in the strangest most amazing way. Gave me some euphoria so thanks to that homie lol
Aw it's so amazing when that happens. My brother had some problems adjusting to my new name and pronouns. But one day he was talking over Discord and I started talking too. The people on call asked who that was and my brother said: "that's my sibling they just walked in the room" and I was so happy.
Had a waiter call me "sir" when asking if I needed anything else. Brightened my day and I still smile at the memory. No one "corrected" them, but also we were eating and they walked away letting the moment pass. So thank you random wait-staff that unknowingly directed me towards self-discovery.
So I’m an enby dating a guy that speaks French sometimes (which is extremely gendered) and the other day he made up a new word so he could call me a lil bitch in French while respecting my gender identity. Pretty accurate summary of our relationship 😂
I think the whole written gendering in French is a huge hassle but worthwhile... I keep avoiding gendering in German by using the "occupational passive" whenever applicable but it's becoming more natural.
As an NB person living in France and struggles to even feel like a legit NB person because I just can’t be bothered teaching people how to completely and radically transform the French language... I love this so much.
@@Ulriquinho i’m french and i completely understand. our language is very very gendered but there’s a new word that people are using now to refer to enby people. “iel” which is a mix of “il” (him) and “elle” (her). i still feel like there should be a whole other word tho because it kinda feels like it’s referring to enby people as both boys and girls when that’s not the case, but yeah that’s where french is at :(
@@tree4110 yeah and I am half French and I am a native speaker (born in the US). So I am familiar with it. This gets extra complicated too when you add gendering all of the adjectives too. I envy the Spanish solution of use E instead of A or O endings. But the feminine marker in French involves just pronouncing the consonant at the end of the word, so there is no simple solution there. Like sure in writing I can say, iel est content-E. But like you can’t pronounce that.
Aaa I just remembered that yesterday when I was getting pizza with my friend and we were speaking Afrikaans with the pizza guy and my friend just went "Nee dankie, hulle sal dit vat."(no thank you, they'll take it) when the pizza guy asked if she wanted to take it. I thanked her afterwards and she was so confused because she didn't even notice. I am so thankful for her.
Aww, that's so sweet! Also, I really love using 'hullie' in Dutch, even though it's not officially a word. That would be the perfect amount of chaotic energy for my pronouns if I ever arrive at NB (not sure atm).
My boyfriend once said about me "She is my boyfriend and it uses all pronouns, they would also prefer if you switch up pronouns for xem.'' and i felt so happy in that moment it was unreal.
My sibling identifies as a demi-girl and their pronouns are “she/they”. I’ve gotten really used to calling her by both of her pronouns, and it makes them super happy. You can see them light up when people use both of their pronouns. So, this is your PSA to mix it up when people use more than one pronoun. It genuinely makes most them happy, even if they say that they don’t really care.
At 8:27 there's the dress TikTok. It looks so cool to wear but the material that flags are typically made of is quite rough and seems to be quite uncomfortable. I hope they're comfortable in that dress. Hey, maybe the internal part has a softer material woven into it?
I am genuinely having a terrible morning (woke up crying from a dream and, after laying in bed for two hours, fed my dog then laid on the couch for an hour) & I was finally able to get up and care for my plants/ sit outside while my dog was out, BUT I had yet to remember to drink water (also barely drank any yesterday) and your reminder felt very much cosmically encouraging to my efforts at turning this day around, THANKS YOU! :)
I needed this my ‘friend’ came over and kept saying “she/her” (I’m He/They) and every time I was like “omg this is so masculine or gender neutral! She would say “yah but it’s feminine too” and it got me really sad.. but my mans (fToM) supports me and that’s all I need
When i came out to my mom and she accepted me I was like "oh i thought you wouldn't because..you're Christian and all" And her response was "I'm not stupid" Lol 😂
You're non-binary? Great, can you help me? I'm dating a girl who came out as non binary, which is fine, but I don't know the non binary equivalent of boyfriend/girlfriend. Do you?
Every time I talk with a “they/them” skeptic, I keep the conversation going long enough that eventually they use it on their own instead of “he or she” and I go “SEE????” and the conversation ends.
Thanks Jammi, I rl needed this today after my best friend called me out on my pronouns (wich hardly even affect her) and she's the only one who doesn't respect my pronouns and also she's transphobic and sayed "well, theirs only 2 genders and trans is just like one gender to a different one, so their that gender" And I sayed "HON its literally transGENDER and also by saying that your disapproving that my gender exists and BTFW gender is a social spectrum which is the individuals choice not yours" And hahahaha her face when I just snapped!
jamie, i love watching your positive videos when i’m feeling down, especially when i’m sad about gender stuff. your videos make me feel safe and valid and i’m so thankful for you :)
The first time I started questioning was when my friend got lazy with pronouns and used they/them for everyone and I was like "this is actually kind of nice."
I live in Germany, but am from America and my English teacher literally subtracted points off of one of my tests for using they/them as a singular pronoun. This resulted in my friend and I having an agonizing 15 minute talk with him about the English language resulting in my brain feeling empty from stupidity... Loved this video! ❤️
Some ideas: -height (taller/smaller than x) - winter/fall vs spring/summer birthday - pasta vs pizza eaters - shirt colour - pick from a prepared deck of cards: red vs black - cat vs dog lovers - likes vs hates coriander (cilantro) - can vs can't roll their tongue - born on a day with even vs odd number - one or no siblings vs two or more - pet owners vs non-pet owners Prepare these suggestions and more ideas as cards and let your teachers pick one (lottery). Some of these ideas are best done with closed eyes (if it's about your preferences), so students don't look around for their bestie's choices. They can put up their right hand for choice A and their left for choice B. If you (and/or a classmates) prepare, maintain and build up the system and have it ready when your teachers need them, they'll be much more inclined to use them. What they want is a quick and convenient method of splitting groups. It's actually a fun system and you learn more about your fellow students and what you might have in common with them. It's easy to adapt for more than two groups (4: Summer-Spring-Fall-Winter). It's fun to collect more and more ideas.
As a non-binary person who uses he/him pronouns and dresses masculine most of the time. I am still very much non-binary. Agender to be exact and I am showing the real me. So whatever you feel most comfortable in, it doesn’t matter what others think. Being you is the best thing you can do for yourself💛 Good luck out there sunflowers💛💛 Edit: I finally found the exact term for what gender I am. Boyflux. For me it’s going from 0-100% when it comes to being a man. So sometimes I have no gender and sometimes I am in the middle, and other times I am 100%. It’s nice finally being able to just fit with a label and not have to worry about it anymore. Edit 2: my presentation has nothing to do with my gender. I can be femme, masc or androgynous. And this comment section is literally the best thing ever
@S a f f r o n exactly! And that’s what makes you absolutely perfect. And being perfect is just you being true to yourself. So you go girl:) Unless you prefer something else. I tend to use very masculine language like bro, man, manly so…I wish you the best of luck!
@@niamhbradyhalmschlag5168 aye! Nice to see a fellow Agender as well… I’m also asexual…not aromantic. That way I would have been looking at society and just said “no” because that joke was funny to me when I thought I had no romantic attraction. Anyways…I hope you have an amazing day!
I was filling out my medical information to get my 'rona vax and saw that "nonbinary" was an option. I almost cried. It was the first time I was able to be accurate on my forms.
Y'know, I'm an aro-ace genderfluid, and I got adopted into a rather large friend group (as in, I sat next to someone in class and they basically adopted my introverted butt) and I realized we have only one cishet in the group. Literally just the one.
I keep talking about this meme but I love it so much Teacher: “Boys on one side, girls on the other” Bigender people: *Splits in two* Non-binary people: *Stands in the middle, confused* Agender people: *Leaves to get cake* Genderfluid people: *Running in a circle, screaming*
When people have multiple pronouns I usually use all randomly because 1. Having multiple pronouns is valid and 2. It adds a bit of spice and I love the confusion on people's faces when I use 2 different pronouns for the same person in one sentence
I remember someone who uses multiple pronouns shaming other trans/non binary people for wanting others to use all their pronoun sets instead of just one. They were claiming that it was too hard and confusing, and that it was rude and inconsiderate for multi pronoun people expect that curtesy. They also were pronoun shaming; they called neo/alternative pronouns, “those stupid neo pronouns.” I’m saying all this to say that I appreciate your respect for people’s pronouns.
@@creativedesignation7880 Then just state, "Zed's gender identity is …" instead of playing silly linguistic games with pronouns. Now, if Zed's gender-identity does not make it clear which 3rd person pronouns are appropriate, then telling us what pronouns Zed goes by communicates Zed's gender identity. If Zed tells me, "I'm really fluid, so just pick whatever 3rd-person pronoun makes sense for how I've been presenting lately," that communicates: "I don't want my variability to get in the way of the conversation." If Ted then comes along and insists on using *every* 3rd-person pronoun at random, then Ted: (1) is saying, "I think Zed's identity is confusing b.s. so I'm gonna consider everyone until they agree with me"; (2) is virtue-signaling that he's better than us because he's using All of Teh Pronouns; (3) is intentionally trying to create confusion for confusion's sake, which is childish; (4) is trying to hijack the conversation to make it all about him by using Zed's gender-identity to create chaos; (5) any combination of the above. The end-result is that I no longer want to discuss Zed and I never again want to interact with Ted because he's a childish jerk. Pronouns are not *solely* a gender-identity. Pronouns are a shorthand-reference to previously-discussed nouns or topics, meant to speed up communication, and used in languages that lack verb-endings or particle-words that accomplish the same back-referencing. If you use pronouns randomly, you are making it impossibly to determine what you're referring back to, thereby making the pronouns useless and rendering the conversation pointless.
Trans/Enby/Cis and every letter in LGBTQ+ ; * You are valid! 💜 * You are loved! 💙 * You are not alone! 💚 * I am proud of you! 💛 🧡 Sending Mom-Hugs to everyone who need one! ❤
When I was young, I thought they/them was just as commonly used as she/her/he/him. I would always just use they/them and got so used to it that I never used the others. When I was in like 6th grade, my friends asked why I did it, and I had never even realized it was weird lmao
Relatable lol. I dont use they/them but when i was younger i always thought about how two women or two men would have children and didnt realise homophobia existed.
I know you said it at the beginning, but I literally didn't see the crookedness of your glasses until 7 minutes in, haha. Also, I love the joy of the affirming videos and this helped emphasize the importance of such actions for people. Hopefully I can also be better moving forward.
"How can you be a they, you're only one person" Hah jokes on you I am in fact a rat, a lizard, a possum, a racoon, and a pigeon stacked in a trenchcoat.
I am a mystery and sometimes a boy and sometimes nothing. Yeee. And sometimes I'm all three. I lovingly refer to xie/xir as my mysterie gender. I'm genderfluid.
in bahasa melayu, the 3rd person pronouns are dependent on status (from lowest to highest, dia (general) > beliau (repsected person) > baginda (royal))
I go by she/they pronouns but I get called she because everyone stuck with what they normally use but recently one of my nb friends stopped midway in calling me she and used they instead and it just made me so happy
i would think the general consensus would be They since she or he could be wrong .this is the peculiarity of the english language i speak a specific african language that is entirely genderless, we even have a genderless version of thank you . when i started learning english that i found out everything was binary. my own name could be female or male as the culture does not designate gender but only implies it.
The coffee order one was brilliant: like, you can remember a weird and complicated coffee order without any problems, but can't remember another person's pronouns.
The day i was at school and one of my friends went "yeah, sh-they said that" without skipping a beat or stopping what they were saying, my heart melted. Im so thankful for having a relatively positive coming out and i hope that those who haven't stay safe and find happiness.
2:06 MY EYES LITERALLY JUST FILLED WITH TEARS OF JOY AND I MADE UNEARTHLY HAPPY SQUEAK TOY NOISES i had to watch brainpop so much in school as a kid and it feels so friking nice to know brainpop respects peoples pronouns and gender identities AA
There's always this weight lifted off one's shoulders, when something you love/connect nice memories turns out to be created by people who don't hate you for who you are. It's such a weird but big thing, I've tried describing that to my cishet family once but they don't rly get it...
The person in the roomate tiktok called Sanchez really got to me because they identifyed the same way i do (enby trans-masc) and it felt really validating because in my brain i was like YES I've been saying it right, which i know it doesn't matter what i say but that representation was really validating ccc:
i don't know if anyone answered jammies question about the maintenance of the hair cut (which is called "the warriors wolf tail" if you're interested in getting it for yourself) but for me it's very maintenance an easy to keep up on. an i love it! it's probably easier if you have someone else buzz cut it for you but i love how easy my hair is to deal with now. i used to have to brush my hair between 5-10+ times a day depending on the weather because my hair knots up so easily. now i can just use my fingers to brush out my hair an don't have to worry about breaking my hair brush! i also love it cause it's multiple easy hairstyles in one an it's also like a cool little secret that i get to reveal to people.
I might just be naive, but the “pick a line” gym teacher could’ve been trying to be nice but in a clumsy way. The teacher could’ve forced them to join the line that was their sex. It seems like they needed two lines, and they tried to offer choice. But it did sound rude
The dreaded "pick a line". As a child, we were to line up like that all the time as kids and I never knew where I was supposed to go and got in trouble for picking the wrong line a lot. D:
it seemed more malicious than otherwise since it’s really not that hard to split the class in half in other ways. it takes 0 effort to not invalidate someone
@@sweetenlemons8659 ok?? what do you want?? a cookie??? do u think people learned to separate by gender naturally?? obviously not; everything we know is taught to us or we pick up on it bcs we think it's 'normal'. i think splitting up by gender is stupid anyways fuck that
Hey, first grade teacher here! When we do pronouns in grammar I am always sure to clarify that they/them can be used for a single person and that some people use they/them as their pronouns. As for the boy/girl lines we sometimes have little competitions as movement breaks and when the kids suggest boys vs girls I tell them they can be in whatever team they feel comfortable in or on my team as I am she/they. This video just made my heart so happy
Hey, thank you so much for teaching your kids these things! If I had a teacher like you growing up, I would’ve been more educated and accepting of myself and others, and my life would have been better/easier. I assure you, you’re going to save lives, if you haven’t already. Keep going, and thank you again! ❤️
2:42 That was one of the main sticking points for my only friend who was openly trans in middle school. At recess we had to split into a boy line and a girls line to go inside, and the guys would laugh at him because he didn't pass and had to stand in the girls line or else he might've gotten in trouble. Plus, all of his friends were also in the girls line (all of us identify now as trans in some way but not (openly) back then) so he didn't really have anyone to stand up for him if he went and stood in the other line. That was the only bullying I ever witnessed at that school, but it really hurt him.
My cousin came out to me as nonbinary recently. I said I could use they/them pronouns if it makes them more comfortable. The answer was a yes and a smile. They are now a potato because my nonbinary pals are my favorite potatoes. You are all very much valid♡
Oh this rocked out loud!!!!! I am so glad to see the wholesome. I'll share one too. This week, for the first time ever, I visited a new Dr's office (dentist) and the new patient form had gender neutral pronoun options! WOOT!
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My music teacher once said, "Boys sing fast, girls sing slow!" My enby friend and I were just like, "What if we're non-binary?"
So she goes, "You can do whatever you want, and I'm proud of you."
AWWWEE
Now, that's what you call a good teacher
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“Non binary people are gods”
“Non binary people are cheese”
PRAY TO THE ENBY CHEESE
@@sylver8919 YES 🙏
CHEESE FOR THE CHEESE GODS
@@selloutthestupid techno blade but not a murderer
Omg. We're Plagg
@@selloutthestupid CHEESE FOR THE CHEESE GODS!!!
When people say "they" can't be singular, remind them that "you" used to be only plural, but we don't say "thee/thou" anymore because language evolves.
interesting. I'm from Germany I thought that "you" is the equivalent of the German polite direct singular "Sie" address and all people address each other politely,
so to speak, and that in English-speaking countries there is no personal address like in German with "Du" address.
"Sie" is also the plural form and 2.form feminine singular and therefore unfortunately not suitable as pronouns for talking about non-binary people in Germany.
@@askialuna7717 yeah, in modern English we only have one second-person pronoun. "You" is used for singular, plural, subject, object, and any other use I might have forgotten. It's one of the many things that makes it difficult for native English speakers to learn other languages.
@@ronoli9733 it's only awkward because you're not used to it.
@@askialuna7717 Do you know what is used for enbi/genderfluid pronouns in German?
@@ronoli9733 it’s awkward for y o u
"Only god is genderless"
Enbies: "You fool! You've made me more powerful than you could possibly imagine!"
I feel like the way to answer is "precisely."
Although people still mostly refer to God as he 😩
My agender self: SCREEEEEEE
genderless means "no gender", non-binary means "gender in-between boy and girl", and enby means "non-binary person"
Non-binary just means a gender outside of the gender binary, i.e, someone that isn't either male or female. Which includes agender people. Surprising how it tells you that on the tin, isn't it?
I came out as transmale at the age of 40, I couldn´t live trying to be a woman anymore. I joined a FB group for specifically trans men, I had a photo of myself as I looked then, before any kind of treatment, and I wrote a short presentation and posted it, scared as beep of how people would react. My post was flooded with trans guys all welcoming me and saying, hey man, hey dude and that feeling of being called and seen as a man for the first time in my life... I cried for a whole day, I was so overwhelmed by the feeling of finally being seen as a man, being seen as who I really am. I am now turning 50 but I will never forget that feeling :-)
i’m so proud of you. i hope you’re doing well
That's such a beautiful story. I hope all the best for ya
Good for you, sir!
this makes me cry with joy
also my parents are not the kind to kick their own children out of the house. they care about us and my mother would probably be the most accepting out of all of them
I want a gender option for "I *really* don't care. Pick a random one." Ever since my grandparents jokingly told said the saying "I don't care what you call me, as long as you call me to dinner," that's basically been my gender; "Don't care what you called me, food please." Genuinely, the more random and less consistent the pronouns people use for me are, the happier I am.
YES i use he/her but its not like i care which one people use more lmao. Just pick one of the two. In fact its even more confusing for me if people refer to me as both because im like “wait who u talking bout?” And realise they mean me 🗿
Hey, same for me. Well, not the inconsistency - I really don't care. Which lead to most people just assuming "he", because of, well, the beard. He/she/they/it, I don't care, I'm ME. That's all that's important to me.
Have you heard of cassgender? Cassgender is where one feels like their gender is unimportant and doesn’t matter. They dont care about figuring it out.
@@adrian_the_alien That's interesting. I haven't heard of that. As I think about gender right now, I'm not genderless, I very much exist in a knowable gender identity, but what that identity is beyond gender-fluid. The best name for what my gender "is" has been something along the lines of Schrödinger's Gender, at all moments, my gender is and isn't in all possible states, until directly observed (someone asks), then it all collapses into a single state.
hey the original comment is from 9 months ago so im kinda late but i think you might wanna look into what agender is! i am agender and how youre describing how you feel sounds like it would fit that label :) of course, this doesnt mean you are agender (only you can really know haha) and its totally ok if you dont wanna use a label. but if you do wanna use one, i recommend looking into that
I came out to my mom as non-binary a few years ago, and she didn't get it. Last week she came to me asking about a non-binary character in a show so she could understand them more. Progression.
that's nice.
I came out to my parents about me being nonbinary twice. The first time my mom didn't get it at all, didn't ask questions, and dead named me and misgendered me for four years.
I recently came out again and re-explained everything, and now she corrects my dad when he accidentally uses the wrong pronouns and name.
Character progression!
She's making an effort woop
WE STAN!!
aww thats nice!
The last time someone asked if I was plural I said “yes, I’m 53 lizards in a skin suit, why do you need to know?”
You could also start answering by referring to yourself in plural:
We are genderfluid/enbi, resistance is futile!
Fucking awesome
I literally am plural tho, so I would just say "yes" very deadpan
@@e.458 That's very venom-esque
@@justaperson4656 I was thinking more about the Borg.
2:48 my gym teacher did that. He said “girls on one wall, boys on the other”. We were playing dodge ball and me and this kid who I found out was also nonbinary that day, laid in the middle of the gym floor and offered to be the dodge balls. He sent us to the principal and had us put in in-school-suspension.
My gym teacher would split the class up like that to, but then the guys would play against each other and the girls would play against each other. Ot sucked for my friend group, since my non-athletic male friends had to play with the competitive guys (and never got included) and one of my friends had to play in the wrong group (she transitioned after we graduated). I always felt out of place (I’ve since realized that I’m non binary). It also sucked as someone who liked playing sports, because the girls group didn’t really care about playing. I prefered it when the teams were mixed gendered, although usually the competitive guys wouldn’t include anybody else (and there usually had to be a certain number of girls playing at once)
Yo yall are legends
My homeroom teacher likes to do that. She’ll split us up into “girl” and “boy” lines. I would just stand in the middle cuz where do I go? My spanish teacher does it to (ig its cuz spanish has so much gendered language there isnt any allowing for non-binary folk
Bruh
Hearing these examples of teachers who line their students up by supposed binary gender just had me going "....but why??" Until I realised maybe it's some kind of thing to prevent potential flirting or harassment? Do they think that having mixed gender teams means all the members are gonna start hitting on each other? 😕 Yikes.
They should split up PE classes by "good at/enjoys sports" and "does not" lol. That would have saved a lot of us a lot of stress. Let the try-hards have their game, and leave me at peace to make my dandelion crown in the outfield.
oh gosh yes
Please I wanna make dandelion crowns, but also occasionally sweat at sports too
This is the future I want!
This is an excellent idea
we actually do that in my pe class!
"how can you be a they, you're only one person" jokes on you im actually 45 rats in a skin suit
Yes
Im multiple owls operating a human suit
I KNEW IT
i spit out my water lmaoo
Hello Mr. Bobo!
*Teacher:* "Only God is genderless."
*Enbies and agenders:* "IT'S TOUGH TO BE A GOD! TREAD WHERE MORTALS HAVE NOT TROD!"
Genderfluid ppl: "Both. Both is good"
YESSSSS
This is why I love fiction with genderfluid gods 😂 I'll immediately start kinning so hard 🤣🤣🤣
Thank you.
@@munchkinmeep pah that’s just every single bigender/multigender person
This is how I came out as non-binary:
Mum: I want a dog
My cousin: I'm a lesbian
Me: I like they/them pronouns
Mum: alright so what kind of dog do we want
This Just In:dog solves homophobia/transphobia
I came out as bi to my dad twice. He’d known since I was 8 or so and he forgot I’d told him.
@@Ajehy what
@@Ajehy classic father
😂😂
"Don't be a dehydrated non binary person, just be non binary" thank you Jamie I acc rly wanted a drink but forgot :)
“They/them? What are you? Plural?”
“YES, CAITLIN I AM. I AM 55 RATS STACKED IN A TRENCH COAT”
This is really funny because I know two people named caitlyn lmao
That is my birth name exactly ,comments why
Honestly I want to be 55 rats in a trench coat... that sounds fun
I'm just imagining Cailtin Jenner feeling so insulted by this lol
@@imjarrifried5819 you want to because then you can say "we are Legion, 'cause we are many.." don't you?
Jamie saying he hopes all us little non-binary people feel loved made me smile so hard
Sameeeee
As someone who's just started coming out yesterday after a multiple-year journey of self reflection on the topic, this video feels like it couldn't have been more perfectly timed.
Whaaa sameeee
I hope that you know that you are loved and respected. Your pronouns (whatever they may be) are something to be respected. You are awesome! Don't let someone take away your sparkle!
@@chrissyxx21 oh gosh 💙
Everyone is a “they” to me until they say otherwise. I play on minecraft and you’d be surprised how many people just assume I’m a guy, I think it’s funny, but I know others would feel uncomfortable
I do a similar thing. I’m not nb myself but I respect people who are, and people may not be comfortable being misgendered
I like the rhyme "everyone is they until they otherwise say"
😒
@@myplaylist7007🤨
the little skip in my heart i feel whenever a form has an option for neutral pronouns, or has a "nonbinary" checkbox...it's such a simple thing, but it always makes me happy
"yOu hAvE tO bE a bOy oR gIrL"
bruh chill out I'm literally just attractive
This reminds me of the one time my cousin invited some friends, who the extended family didn't know yet, to a birthday and my great aunt (in her late 70's back then) said about one of them: "are they a boy or a girl? I can't tell, they're so pretty!"
@@unbekannternutzer25 lol
Mood
@@Teddy-vw1mg yes
A very Keigo response, love it
Enby culture is switching between “I am an all powerful genderless being!” and crying over the fact you burnt your pizza
MOOD.
Yep
Don't forget those dark moments at night where you lay awake and question of you really are faking it and then the next day thinking "time and space revolve around me. I may be the center of the universe now that I think about it!"
@@cyanidesmile7263 oh yeah how could I forget
Accurate
"Someone cannot use they/them. They are only one person!" You just used singular they/them pronouns sweetie ❤
Tip: If you meet a new person and don't know their preferred pronouns, just refer to them as their name or they/them.
But I don't get that. How can that be allowed? If you're not allowed to use the wrong pronouns then how can you use they or them? If you have a man then you'd use he. As such, you wouldn't use they. So if you do refer to him as they then surely you've mispronouned him.
@@xinpingdonohoe3978 It’s quite complicated, but I was newer to the community when I wrote this. Just ask if you don’t know.
@@xinpingdonohoe3978
If you use gendered pronouns without confirming which ones, there’s a risk that you’ll be using pronouns that are outright wrong, whereas neutral pronouns are just less specific than they could have been. For example, I go by she/her, so referring to me as “they/them” is fine whereas referring to me as “he/him” is just plain wrong.
@@ragnkja so you are a they/them person as well as a she/her person, right?
@@xinpingdonohoe3978
I’ve only ever gone by feminine pronouns, but I have no problem with neutral ones being applied to me. Masculine, on the other hand, is outright misgendering.
Religion Teacher:
"There are only two genders, male and female. Only god is genderless."
Nonbinary kid:
Maybe I am god.
If you can’t be described by someone’s limited concept of human terms, then become god.
@꧁Ash Rouge꧂ I guess you're a demigod
Ah another “random” person
I wonder why most Christians refer to God as ‘He’...
@@LittleBulleteye Male is still the default gender today; when people hear the word "person", most of them automatically picture a (white, cis, able-bodied, adult) male.
Also, the bible uses male pronouns quite often to refer to God. Probably because it was the default gender back then, too. Referring to God as having a gender is part of other anthropomorphic language used to describe God. Others are for example referring to God's hands or mouth.
Anthropomorphic means that you describe non-human entities in terms of human attributes. Anthropos = human; morphe = form
Fun fact: when I came out to my parents as genderfluid, I explained my pronouns to them. My mum totally got singular they/them pronouns, but she explained that she felt bad using they/them pronouns for me because to her it's like talking about someone when they're not in the room, like, "ugh, they're so annoying". My mum is great lol 😂
Edit: my mum does use they/them pronouns for me when it's a they/them day, this is just something that happened when I came out (almost a year ago) and I thought that it was funny
But talking about someone when they're not in the room is when people *should* use your pronoun. If you were in the room, then they should refer to you as "you".
Wow, that's so sweet! I'm glad your mom could be supportive and that her only objection was that she feels like she's talking about someone behind their back. Also, love the profile pic. Sincerely, a fellow genderfluid person
@@rai1578 my mum says thank you and also thank you for the compliment lol 😊
YAY A GENDERFLUID BUDDY! I’m closeted so it’s nice to know I’m not alone.
@@Embrrz aw I know that feeling (I'm closeted to my family) but it's great when you find someone like you! 😊
This made me feel a lot better about me being nonbinary. This is coming from a person who has not come out to anyone except my sister and a really good friend of mine. Thank you!
I know this comment is a year old, but I just want to say that as a fellow enby, I'm proud of you for having the courage to come out to even a few folks. That's not easy.
the second one, with the hair-- I have the same haircut, and yeah, it's pretty simple upkeep; usually just get my roommate to trim it with a clipper once a month. (I can and have done it myself, but it's much simpler to get a second person to do it!)
When my trans bestie referred to me casually as they in front of other people with no problem my heart melted in the strangest most amazing way. Gave me some euphoria so thanks to that homie lol
Aw it's so amazing when that happens. My brother had some problems adjusting to my new name and pronouns. But one day he was talking over Discord and I started talking too. The people on call asked who that was and my brother said: "that's my sibling they just walked in the room" and I was so happy.
That happened once and I basically melted with happiness in front everyone
Whenever I correct my friend when she misgenders me and calls me a girl ( I'm they/it ) she gives me the stink eye 😫
Had a waiter call me "sir" when asking if I needed anything else. Brightened my day and I still smile at the memory. No one "corrected" them, but also we were eating and they walked away letting the moment pass. So thank you random wait-staff that unknowingly directed me towards self-discovery.
So I’m an enby dating a guy that speaks French sometimes (which is extremely gendered) and the other day he made up a new word so he could call me a lil bitch in French while respecting my gender identity. Pretty accurate summary of our relationship 😂
Lmao, How can something be so wholesome, yet also not so wholesome at the same time 😭
I think the whole written gendering in French is a huge hassle but worthwhile... I keep avoiding gendering in German by using the "occupational passive" whenever applicable but it's becoming more natural.
As an NB person living in France and struggles to even feel like a legit NB person because I just can’t be bothered teaching people how to completely and radically transform the French language... I love this so much.
@@Ulriquinho i’m french and i completely understand. our language is very very gendered but there’s a new word that people are using now to refer to enby people. “iel” which is a mix of “il” (him) and “elle” (her). i still feel like there should be a whole other word tho because it kinda feels like it’s referring to enby people as both boys and girls when that’s not the case, but yeah that’s where french is at :(
@@tree4110 yeah and I am half French and I am a native speaker (born in the US). So I am familiar with it. This gets extra complicated too when you add gendering all of the adjectives too. I envy the Spanish solution of use E instead of A or O endings. But the feminine marker in French involves just pronouncing the consonant at the end of the word, so there is no simple solution there. Like sure in writing I can say, iel est content-E. But like you can’t pronounce that.
Aaa I just remembered that yesterday when I was getting pizza with my friend and we were speaking Afrikaans with the pizza guy and my friend just went "Nee dankie, hulle sal dit vat."(no thank you, they'll take it) when the pizza guy asked if she wanted to take it. I thanked her afterwards and she was so confused because she didn't even notice. I am so thankful for her.
Aww, that's so sweet!
Also, I really love using 'hullie' in Dutch, even though it's not officially a word. That would be the perfect amount of chaotic energy for my pronouns if I ever arrive at NB (not sure atm).
My boyfriend once said about me "She is my boyfriend and it uses all pronouns, they would also prefer if you switch up pronouns for xem.'' and i felt so happy in that moment it was unreal.
Marry. Him. I know it’s been 2 years but please.
My sibling identifies as a demi-girl and their pronouns are “she/they”. I’ve gotten really used to calling her by both of her pronouns, and it makes them super happy. You can see them light up when people use both of their pronouns. So, this is your PSA to mix it up when people use more than one pronoun. It genuinely makes most them happy, even if they say that they don’t really care.
We definitely do care! Thanks for being an awesome sib
I’m a demigirl and I’m thinking abt using she/they (im AFAB and grew up w she/her) but I’m not sure...
@@serenasongbird Hey, whatever feels good to you! If it doesn't feel right, you can always change it later
I love how you used a mix in this comment too 😊
@@serenasongbird Honestly, the only thing I can recommend is asking a friend to use they/them for you and see how it makes you feel!
At least the hoodie is a nice shade of red that we can see!
Laughs in colour blind
cries in colourblind
Im... colorblind
wait I commented this without realising other people had the exact same problem. I have protan colorblindness
I think I underestimated the amount of colourblind people that would see this. Did not mean to offend
At 8:27 there's the dress TikTok. It looks so cool to wear but the material that flags are typically made of is quite rough and seems to be quite uncomfortable. I hope they're comfortable in that dress. Hey, maybe the internal part has a softer material woven into it?
Me: drinking water
Jamie: hydration check
Me: starts choking from laughter at the coincidence
"Are you a boy or are you a girl?"
I'm cold. Okay? Bring me a blanket, don't care what color.
Vomit yellow.
@@billystokes3917 sorry, all I have is pride blankets
and get me a purple blanket while youre at it
lol this is so mood tho
*gives blanket*
"No, what's in your pants?"
✨ *"Determination"* ✨
Props to the creator of that comic
Beautiful ✨
yes
@@sylver8919 same
Yeah. Another one you could say is "ur mom"
Just say urine or to make them uncomfortable sa semen
I am genuinely having a terrible morning (woke up crying from a dream and, after laying in bed for two hours, fed my dog then laid on the couch for an hour) & I was finally able to get up and care for my plants/ sit outside while my dog was out, BUT I had yet to remember to drink water (also barely drank any yesterday) and your reminder felt very much cosmically encouraging to my efforts at turning this day around, THANKS YOU! :)
I needed this my ‘friend’ came over and kept saying “she/her” (I’m He/They) and every time I was like “omg this is so masculine or gender neutral! She would say “yah but it’s feminine too” and it got me really sad.. but my mans (fToM) supports me and that’s all I need
When i came out to my mom and she accepted me I was like "oh i thought you wouldn't because..you're Christian and all"
And her response was "I'm not stupid"
Lol 😂
You're non-binary? Great, can you help me?
I'm dating a girl who came out as non binary, which is fine, but I don't know the non binary equivalent of boyfriend/girlfriend. Do you?
@@hallway_revenant7919 I think you could just say partner or ask them what they prefer
@@hallway_revenant7919 Things such as "my beloved" and other such nicknames, from my experience, also work quite well!
@@erensneck Thanks! will do that
You have a joyfriend/datefriend! Or whatever term they prefer ofc
Every time I talk with a “they/them” skeptic, I keep the conversation going long enough that eventually they use it on their own instead of “he or she” and I go “SEE????” and the conversation ends.
Love it
and then Liz Miller says " Ah haaa, see ? T'wasn't that difficult now was it "
The one true alley!
Thanks Jammi, I rl needed this today after my best friend called me out on my pronouns (wich hardly even affect her) and she's the only one who doesn't respect my pronouns and also she's transphobic and sayed "well, theirs only 2 genders and trans is just like one gender to a different one, so their that gender" And I sayed "HON its literally transGENDER and also by saying that your disapproving that my gender exists and BTFW gender is a social spectrum which is the individuals choice not yours"
And hahahaha her face when I just snapped!
jamie, i love watching your positive videos when i’m feeling down, especially when i’m sad about gender stuff. your videos make me feel safe and valid and i’m so thankful for you :)
**enbi twerking**
Enbi, if you will.
@@pluto3194 ah, Yes, ill just edit my comment real quick
*Throwing it back*
Wait I read bi enby lol
What does this twerking mean
Why are you twerking
The first time I started questioning was when my friend got lazy with pronouns and used they/them for everyone and I was like "this is actually kind of nice."
LMAO I do that because you never know when you'll call a closeted non-binary a they and it makes their day :)
Lol yeah I do that too. Hopefully I’ve made someone happy :)
That's how I found out too
@Isabella McGowan I would have to agree with them, you my fellow human are the best of boys
@@hallway_revenant7919 samee
I live in Germany, but am from America and my English teacher literally subtracted points off of one of my tests for using they/them as a singular pronoun. This resulted in my friend and I having an agonizing 15 minute talk with him about the English language resulting in my brain feeling empty from stupidity...
Loved this video! ❤️
Gym teacher: Girls vs boys!
My non-binary non-athletic friend with asthma: I guess I’m sitting out then 🙂👍
my gender therapist is literally gonna call my gym teachers and ask if they can stop splitting the class in boys and girls
yay
:3
Some ideas:
-height (taller/smaller than x)
- winter/fall vs spring/summer birthday
- pasta vs pizza eaters
- shirt colour
- pick from a prepared deck of cards: red vs black
- cat vs dog lovers
- likes vs hates coriander (cilantro)
- can vs can't roll their tongue
- born on a day with even vs odd number
- one or no siblings vs two or more
- pet owners vs non-pet owners
Prepare these suggestions and more ideas as cards and let your teachers pick one (lottery). Some of these ideas are best done with closed eyes (if it's about your preferences), so students don't look around for their bestie's choices. They can put up their right hand for choice A and their left for choice B.
If you (and/or a classmates) prepare, maintain and build up the system and have it ready when your teachers need them, they'll be much more inclined to use them. What they want is a quick and convenient method of splitting groups.
It's actually a fun system and you learn more about your fellow students and what you might have in common with them.
It's easy to adapt for more than two groups (4: Summer-Spring-Fall-Winter). It's fun to collect more and more ideas.
I think the food preferences thing is better IMO
Good for you!!!!! 😁
@@e.458 cutie or non-cutie
there is just gonna be one line :3
@@violasses 😆
"How can you use they/them? You're one person," Jokes on you, I'm actually multiple eldritch entities forced into one body
Lol same
my go to comment is: 'Don't worry, I'm 3 raccoons in a trenchcoat' 😂
NB stands for numerous bees
Hell yeah it does
I am an owl, a raccoon, and a wolf in a trench coat.
1:10 just made me think "Hydrate or die straight" lol
I went to a camp and they said hydrate hydrate hydrate so you don’t die’drate die’drate die’drate I am officially scared, scarred and laughing
Im nonbinary, and whenever im sad because well people don’t reeaally get it, i watch this video and i feel uplifted. ILY Jamie!
Yellow
As a non-binary person who uses he/him pronouns and dresses masculine most of the time. I am still very much non-binary. Agender to be exact and I am showing the real me. So whatever you feel most comfortable in, it doesn’t matter what others think. Being you is the best thing you can do for yourself💛
Good luck out there sunflowers💛💛
Edit: I finally found the exact term for what gender I am. Boyflux. For me it’s going from 0-100% when it comes to being a man. So sometimes I have no gender and sometimes I am in the middle, and other times I am 100%. It’s nice finally being able to just fit with a label and not have to worry about it anymore.
Edit 2: my presentation has nothing to do with my gender. I can be femme, masc or androgynous. And this comment section is literally the best thing ever
aye I love your pfp :)
@@els_366 thanks! I like yours too:)
@S a f f r o n exactly! And that’s what makes you absolutely perfect. And being perfect is just you being true to yourself. So you go girl:)
Unless you prefer something else. I tend to use very masculine language like bro, man, manly so…I wish you the best of luck!
Ayy fellow agender :D
@@niamhbradyhalmschlag5168 aye! Nice to see a fellow Agender as well…
I’m also asexual…not aromantic. That way I would have been looking at society and just said “no” because that joke was funny to me when I thought I had no romantic attraction.
Anyways…I hope you have an amazing day!
"Don't be a dehydrated nonbinary person, just be nonbinary."
YOU CAN'T TELL ME WHAT TO DO *doesn't drink the water*
Please. Drink the water, bestie.
@@leodolphin6938 no 😾
Don't be a hydrated nonbinary person, just be nonbinary, you must do what I tell you to do >:(
@@alexdance9232 DRINK THE DAMN WATER
@@alexdance9232 ...please
I was filling out my medical information to get my 'rona vax and saw that "nonbinary" was an option. I almost cried. It was the first time I was able to be accurate on my forms.
3:12 "I'm dead."
Well, that was morbid.
my best friend is non-binary and recently got a legal name change. I was so happy for them.
Awwwww that’s so nice!! Give em a hug for me?
If you can't handle me at my they/them, you don't deserve me at my she/her
(Shout-out to the they/he and they/she/he homies as well)
I love this so much.
they/she/he bitch here
they/he gremlin here :D hello fellow gremlins
@¿sweeze? i just want to say, neos are so cool and i’m glad people are getting comfy with different pronouns! have an amazing day
@Morgan Hilker *same twerking*
I clicked on the like after only 20s of video, you had already made me smile! Thank you, I love your positivity!
I needed to see something like this today, thank you Jamie
Y'know, I'm an aro-ace genderfluid, and I got adopted into a rather large friend group (as in, I sat next to someone in class and they basically adopted my introverted butt) and I realized we have only one cishet in the group. Literally just the one.
They're the token cishet to your cast full of gays.
@@whilenya4714 How the turn tables!
Fellow aro-ace genderfluid peeps unite!!
I wish to be that token cishet one day, these friend groups seem really fun lol
@@gaanadelrey they are i promise
I keep talking about this meme but I love it so much
Teacher: “Boys on one side, girls on the other”
Bigender people: *Splits in two*
Non-binary people: *Stands in the middle, confused*
Agender people: *Leaves to get cake*
Genderfluid people: *Running in a circle, screaming*
I just follow my friends. Don't want to get outed to the bigots just yet
Pangendee people: D, all of the above
demigender ppl: *floats vaguely in some gendered direction*
Lmao
Can confirm, all I do is scream :D
Thanks for the hydration check, Jamie! I'm new to your channel and I already love it! Gonna watch the rest of the video now owo
You genuinely reminded me with your hydration check thanks☺️
When people have multiple pronouns I usually use all randomly because 1. Having multiple pronouns is valid and 2. It adds a bit of spice and I love the confusion on people's faces when I use 2 different pronouns for the same person in one sentence
I remember someone who uses multiple pronouns shaming other trans/non binary people for wanting others to use all their pronoun sets instead of just one. They were claiming that it was too hard and confusing, and that it was rude and inconsiderate for multi pronoun people expect that curtesy. They also were pronoun shaming; they called neo/alternative pronouns, “those stupid neo pronouns.”
I’m saying all this to say that I appreciate your respect for people’s pronouns.
Oh @Vimppu, language is for _communication._
THIS. YES. i will use multiple pronouns in one sentence, for the same three reasons as you listed.
@@John_Weiss Exactly, in this case it is communicating someone's gender identity.
@@creativedesignation7880 Then just state, "Zed's gender identity is …" instead of playing silly linguistic games with pronouns.
Now, if Zed's gender-identity does not make it clear which 3rd person pronouns are appropriate, then telling us what pronouns Zed goes by communicates Zed's gender identity.
If Zed tells me, "I'm really fluid, so just pick whatever 3rd-person pronoun makes sense for how I've been presenting lately," that communicates: "I don't want my variability to get in the way of the conversation."
If Ted then comes along and insists on using *every* 3rd-person pronoun at random, then Ted: (1) is saying, "I think Zed's identity is confusing b.s. so I'm gonna consider everyone until they agree with me"; (2) is virtue-signaling that he's better than us because he's using All of Teh Pronouns; (3) is intentionally trying to create confusion for confusion's sake, which is childish; (4) is trying to hijack the conversation to make it all about him by using Zed's gender-identity to create chaos; (5) any combination of the above. The end-result is that I no longer want to discuss Zed and I never again want to interact with Ted because he's a childish jerk.
Pronouns are not *solely* a gender-identity. Pronouns are a shorthand-reference to previously-discussed nouns or topics, meant to speed up communication, and used in languages that lack verb-endings or particle-words that accomplish the same back-referencing.
If you use pronouns randomly, you are making it impossibly to determine what you're referring back to, thereby making the pronouns useless and rendering the conversation pointless.
Trans/Enby/Cis and every letter in LGBTQ+ ;
* You are valid! 💜
* You are loved! 💙
* You are not alone! 💚
* I am proud of you! 💛
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Sending Mom-Hugs to everyone who need one! ❤
tysm!
thank you💜 this is the perfect first comment.
Damn 47 seconds you saw this and was like VALIDATION
Oml,finally someone who doesn’t say first or just a letter
i only found your channel today, but im already in love with it, thank you
Omg I just found this channel, what an amazing human being I love this!! 🥺🖤
When I was young, I thought they/them was just as commonly used as she/her/he/him. I would always just use they/them and got so used to it that I never used the others. When I was in like 6th grade, my friends asked why I did it, and I had never even realized it was weird lmao
It's not weird.
ahead of your time.
👏👏👏👏👏
I have got so used to using they/them for everything that I even once accedentaly used them on myself even though they are not my pronouns.
Relatable lol. I dont use they/them but when i was younger i always thought about how two women or two men would have children and didnt realise homophobia existed.
English-speaking people: they/them is so complicated
Germans: Hold my beer
French peeps : *watch me*
Russian language has entered the chat
Polish ppl: ok ._.
As an enby german, my brain is in pain damnit-
its called American privelege
4:07 NON-BINARY SENSES TINGLE
(Jammie… thank you awww I’m flattered lol)
Honestly I love these videos, they're so wholesome and they make my bad week better. :>
im sending this to my non binary friend :)
update : they replied really fast and said thx
Lol that's a mood- I always respond quickly when someone sends me some representation
I'm non-binary and this makes me so happy!!
Edit- omg I've never gotten so much response thank you everyone!! Love Spencer!
Same
Same :)
same
Me too!
Same
I know you said it at the beginning, but I literally didn't see the crookedness of your glasses until 7 minutes in, haha. Also, I love the joy of the affirming videos and this helped emphasize the importance of such actions for people. Hopefully I can also be better moving forward.
Your enby videos make me so happy! Its just like gahhh so much warm fuzzy feeling! They always make me feel ultra valid and agghhh
"How can you be a they, you're only one person"
Hah jokes on you I am in fact a rat, a lizard, a possum, a racoon, and a pigeon stacked in a trenchcoat.
NB stands for numerous bees
I am, actually, a dolphin, 3 merpeople, 6 cats, and 10 snakes, and 15 triangles stacked in a trenchcoat.
It's a very large trenchcoat.
@@Moo-2310 numerous bagles
This sounds like the kids cartoon I wish I got to watch
I am a mystery and sometimes a boy and sometimes nothing. Yeee. And sometimes I'm all three. I lovingly refer to xie/xir as my mysterie gender. I'm genderfluid.
The guy from brain pop is like my uncle. Literally the funniest dude I’ve ever met, and wholesome af
Brainpop is a company. Which guy from brainpop?
That's so cool lol
@@blueturtle3623 the voice, I guess ...
This is so great you should be back to more of these, there are so many people who Sometimes just need to laugh about their sexuality/gender
I am so happy that in Finland we dont have gendered pronouns, we just have "hän" wich is she, he and they at the same time.❤❤
In Chinese, all 3rd person pronouns are pronounced "tā". They're written differently though (他, 她 and 它) but they're all pronounced the same
in bahasa melayu, the 3rd person pronouns are dependent on status (from lowest to highest, dia (general) > beliau (repsected person) > baginda (royal))
I go by she/they pronouns but I get called she because everyone stuck with what they normally use but recently one of my nb friends stopped midway in calling me she and used they instead and it just made me so happy
i would think the general consensus would be They since she or he could be wrong .this is the peculiarity of the english language i speak a specific african language that is entirely genderless, we even have a genderless version of thank you . when i started learning english that i found out everything was binary. my own name could be female or male as the culture does not designate gender but only implies it.
I use all pronouns but only get called she and yknow i cri🥲
@@renium.loading awwww did you .
@@PHlophe Oooh! May I know what is this language, and from which area in Africa is it talk? :)
I also go by she/they, but like everyone calls me she/her (like they always have) and once one of my siblings called me they and it made my day :)
The coffee order one was brilliant: like, you can remember a weird and complicated coffee order without any problems, but can't remember another person's pronouns.
Can we all just agree that cis/straight people are weird af?
The day i was at school and one of my friends went "yeah, sh-they said that" without skipping a beat or stopping what they were saying, my heart melted.
Im so thankful for having a relatively positive coming out and i hope that those who haven't stay safe and find happiness.
I LOVED this! Tysm! This means a lot to me as an enby myself 💛💜🖤
2:06 MY EYES LITERALLY JUST FILLED WITH TEARS OF JOY AND I MADE UNEARTHLY HAPPY SQUEAK TOY NOISES
i had to watch brainpop so much in school as a kid and it feels so friking nice to know brainpop respects peoples pronouns and gender identities AA
I KNOW RIGHT!!!!!
brainpop was literally my entire education
I learned more from Brainpop than from regular school
The sad part is at least in Florida they've completely removed brain pop from classes according to my little cousin.
There's always this weight lifted off one's shoulders, when something you love/connect nice memories turns out to be created by people who don't hate you for who you are.
It's such a weird but big thing, I've tried describing that to my cishet family once but they don't rly get it...
“dont be a dehydrated nonbinary person... just be nonbinary” that made me take a big swig of my water mug just for u jamie 😂😂
"Hydrate or die straight" is a thing a friend of mine always says to get me to drink enough
i was smiling this whole video- my parents probably think i’m a psychopath
@@gonzbergtv uh- no? i felt accepted and supported and it made me happy
i don’t think you understand how happy i am that brainpop decided to go and support enbies
Hmmm yes beep beep
Same beep boop
Fr brainpop was my childhood
Beep beep
I watched bian pop in my old school and I never got to see this one. I wish I did tho.
"They can't be singular and plural, words aren't like that!!!!"
Moose would like to have a word with you.
And deer as well. And sheep. And...
my brain just decided the plural for moose is meese and now i'm pissed
The person in the roomate tiktok called Sanchez really got to me because they identifyed the same way i do (enby trans-masc) and it felt really validating because in my brain i was like YES I've been saying it right, which i know it doesn't matter what i say but that representation was really validating ccc:
i don't know if anyone answered jammies question about the maintenance of the hair cut (which is called "the warriors wolf tail" if you're interested in getting it for yourself) but for me it's very maintenance an easy to keep up on. an i love it! it's probably easier if you have someone else buzz cut it for you but i love how easy my hair is to deal with now. i used to have to brush my hair between 5-10+ times a day depending on the weather because my hair knots up so easily. now i can just use my fingers to brush out my hair an don't have to worry about breaking my hair brush! i also love it cause it's multiple easy hairstyles in one an it's also like a cool little secret that i get to reveal to people.
I might just be naive, but the “pick a line” gym teacher could’ve been trying to be nice but in a clumsy way. The teacher could’ve forced them to join the line that was their sex. It seems like they needed two lines, and they tried to offer choice.
But it did sound rude
The dreaded "pick a line". As a child, we were to line up like that all the time as kids and I never knew where I was supposed to go and got in trouble for picking the wrong line a lot. D:
My PE teacher did this all the time and I fucking hated it! You can split people in other ways! I see what ur saying tho
it seemed more malicious than otherwise since it’s really not that hard to split the class in half in other ways. it takes 0 effort to not invalidate someone
@@maonaru lmao you can literally just ask the kids to form two even lines and they'll figure shit out themselves 😂
@@sweetenlemons8659 ok?? what do you want?? a cookie??? do u think people learned to separate by gender naturally?? obviously not; everything we know is taught to us or we pick up on it bcs we think it's 'normal'. i think splitting up by gender is stupid anyways fuck that
Hey, first grade teacher here! When we do pronouns in grammar I am always sure to clarify that they/them can be used for a single person and that some people use they/them as their pronouns.
As for the boy/girl lines we sometimes have little competitions as movement breaks and when the kids suggest boys vs girls I tell them they can be in whatever team they feel comfortable in or on my team as I am she/they.
This video just made my heart so happy
Hey, thank you so much for teaching your kids these things! If I had a teacher like you growing up, I would’ve been more educated and accepting of myself and others, and my life would have been better/easier. I assure you, you’re going to save lives, if you haven’t already. Keep going, and thank you again! ❤️
That's awesome
This is teaching done right
We need more teachers like you!
Can we get another one of these. This video is profoundly validating
2:42 That was one of the main sticking points for my only friend who was openly trans in middle school. At recess we had to split into a boy line and a girls line to go inside, and the guys would laugh at him because he didn't pass and had to stand in the girls line or else he might've gotten in trouble. Plus, all of his friends were also in the girls line (all of us identify now as trans in some way but not (openly) back then) so he didn't really have anyone to stand up for him if he went and stood in the other line. That was the only bullying I ever witnessed at that school, but it really hurt him.
When you are nonbinary so youve already seen all the content, but you're just glad Jamie loves them too. Thanks for the recognition and support! 💛
My cousin came out to me as nonbinary recently. I said I could use they/them pronouns if it makes them more comfortable. The answer was a yes and a smile. They are now a potato because my nonbinary pals are my favorite potatoes. You are all very much valid♡
You’re the coolest cousin💜
@Ariella Benor Thank you!
Oh this rocked out loud!!!!!
I am so glad to see the wholesome. I'll share one too. This week, for the first time ever, I visited a new Dr's office (dentist) and the new patient form had gender neutral pronoun options! WOOT!