I love being childfree. It is my choice. I'm almost 29 and have been married to my husband for 3 years (been together for 7 years). I told him from the moment that our relationship became serious that children would be a deal breaker but happily we are on the same page. No plans for kids now or ever. :) I went through a lot of inner turmoil before I became happy and sure with my decision. Before I wondered if all this warning of "regret" had any merit. I started liking the idea when I was a teenager and then made it a solid decision by my mid-20's. I understand the benefits and love that many people have for their children but the cons far outweigh any desire for me to have children. If you do want to have a child then you give them everything you can and the best of everything. It's about them now, many parts about you are put aside. You're doing this to have someone to share your love, watch them grow, share traditions and want the best for them. It's not right to expect anything in return, many parents expect eternal companionship and care in their old age and that is despicable. That is not the reason you brought this child into this world and this is a burden that shouldn't be expected of your child. I for one, do not like children. I find them annoying, time consuming, dirty, loud, expensive, rude, greedy, exhausting, and sure, they're kids! That's normal! What do you expect? I don't want the responsibility or the commitment because I just know the pros do not outweigh the cons when it comes to me having a child. I am aware of this and I take the proper precautions. I have enough anxiety issues as it is. I love my friends kids because I know them and only for short periods then I can decide when to come and go. It's not fair for people to even ask about my procreating status let alone judge. What if I can't have children? Anyway, I don't need a child to validate my existence, to make me feel love or to deepen the bond between myself and my husband. The growing population also won't suffer without my contribution of 2.2 offspring being added to the mix as we are strong at 7 billion people rushing towards 9 billion by the end of my life time. I like my life. I like to spend my money, use my time and make plans based on myself and my husband. Not a kid. I have the love of my husband, my friends, my parents, my furbabies and many others in my life to make me feel love and be loved. I have the added benefit of having a husband who shares my ideals and my parents are not the type to be hounding for grandchildren. They think it is a marvelous decision and they agree that not having children can lead to a life that can be just as rewarding. I lead a very happy and fulfilled life with my husband and our furbabies (we have 6 kitties and a greyhound), I am much more comfortable and confident in proclaiming my decision than I did in my early 20's. It is really no one's business and they should not question how I wish to lead my life. I choose to be child-free and I relish it.
ZOMG, so true. I LOVE being childfree, I'm glad I made the choice for myself, and I will NEVER regret it! My choice does not effect anyone else. Iris sounds like she's childless, though, not childfree. #nokidsnotnownotever
My 87-year-old grandmother has virtually imprisoned my poor mother. Yes, my mom has always been there for that woman, but at a great cost. She has never had an identity of her own, because my grandmother expected my mom to take care of her- especially in old age. When my grandfather was still living, my grandmother vamped off him plenty, but he passed away at a young age from a heart attack. And so my mom was expected to take the care-taker place. How cruel it is to do that to a kid!
My mom used to work in a nursing home and so did my aunt. They say that a lot of those people that live there are never visited by their kids and grandkids and many of them are very sad and lonely and forgotten.
agentbl Sir amen to that and thank you thank and thank you a million times more because I feel the exact same way no kids for me I'm a child free male and I'm loving and I'm truly blessed by that.
I'm only 20 going on 21, and I know deep in my heart that I will NEVER EVER have any children. I would somday be a great aunt in the future, but a mom is just too much responsibility.
@theSoCalGeek I am in that boat right now. Im a 32 yr old single woman and Im living it up. People give me strange looks and question me. However I stand firm in what I want and know my own worth and value. I avoid dealings with men who want families, if they tell me they want that, they r gone. I like to hang out with friends, drink and smoke and I aint gonna stop bc someone says that i should. People think im arrogant and maybe theyre right but its ok i refuse to follow the crowd.
@Tokyokatt That is so true. The adoption agencies make you jump through so many hoops it's not funny. They even make choices based on things that shouldn't even be issues.
Just remember that just because you have a child doesn't mean that he or she is going to be willing or able to take care of you and move you into their home instead of a nursing home when you get too old to take care of yourself.
Someone in my family had way above average IQ. She then had kids who also were way above average. Unfortunately, this mom was not only very smart, but was also an abuser to her kids. So when those kids grew up, they never really reached their fullest potential, despite their intelligence and gifts. They still act like socially and emotionally crippled 8-year-olds. Being smart is not everything- you also have to be emotionally stable.
I knew at the age of like 10 that I didn't want kids and I never will. I'm selfish just because I don't like children? Please. I love all animals and treat others with respect. I think it's selfish to bring more people into this overpopulated world we live in
I don't want a (crying, needy, smelly) baby. For one hour I'd like a mini-me, but NOT for _________ yrs. Nursing home staff will care for me when I'm old, unless I drive off a cliff. Dogs are nice, but require too much attention/work. Children cut into my book reading time. *I'm somehow surprised when I meet old classmates who did get married/have children & wonder WHY would they want to do that?
I don't mind saying that I am choosing to remain childfree for selfish reasons. People automatically attach a negative stigma to self oriented decisions. I want to spend the rest of MY life living for ME. Screw anyone who has a problem with it. In a few years, I'll be making 7 figures a year and I can travel and do anything I want. I don't mind saying I'll be living completely for me. I'll send all my breeder friends post cards from Tahiti.
@clintonskakun Agreed. We were having a small potluck for our Teacher's 49th bday and one of my classmates wanted to bring her baby around and show him around like he was the best thing in the world. The teacher told her to ask the school about that and she got whiney and say "Why can't I bring baby? I want people to see my baby". Come on! Bring a baby in class? Get over yourself.
@theSoCalGeek I hear your point, but I also know the reality of the situations, which vary greatly. Constant criticism sound dramaticized to me. I don't think people 'have to' explain themselves all the time. I think often that's a smoke-screen for 'people LOVE to' explain their stance, and they don't always do so pleasantly. This issue isn't huge to me. There are dumb reasons for having children, as there are dumb reasons for not doing so. People change.
I enjoy the chaos of having my child, and it's fine that you don't. I don't question your choice to b cf, I don't accuse you or anyone that's cf but don't stand there and tell me What I find fulfilling or not. It's apathetic and condescending as a me telling you you will change your mind about having children.
The thing is...a woman is treated as an idiot incapable of being mature enough about making big decisions. The do not let women get their tubes tied until after they are thirty, they don't let them decide unless the husband is present and informed(even though he can get a vasectomy without her) ect. Plus there is nothing wrong with getting an abortion when you are informed and know what it is..that is yet anothervchoice we don't need others making for us.
@TheDharmawheel I don't believe that their count is accurate to say the least. I maybe wrong but there is more than enough resources for every person on the planet. The problem is the way the government distributes the resources but that is a different subject.
I live in New York City and I see bad ass crying ass whining kids all the time, especially on the subway. They fucking annoy me. This is what I do to avoid them. 1) I tune them out by listening to my music on my MP3 player. 2) I move to another section of the subway car. 3) I go to another subway car altogether.
@heheurfunny they don't have to change their minds cause you want them to how selfish are you its not guarenteed that they will make a difference in this world.
A woman is only damaged when she gets one when she doesn't want one, and is pressured to feel guilty about having one because of religion ect.(look at stats, the most abortions happen in red states) or other reasons. I have had two abortions and was neither emotionally, nor physically damaged because of it. A woman can be emotionally and physically damaged when forced to have a pregnancy..but they don't care about women then..example an ectopic pregnancy, rape, to young..ect
Tell me about your culture or lifestyle, please. I'm attracted to NA women, but not NA culture. I believe in the Bible, but not one that is forced upon anyone. I believe we should see NA's all over the TV, giving the News, etc. & in movies, this should be common.
I don't hate you. I dated outside my race, but was mostly rejected. Perhaps I wasn't "funkified" enough. Now I can't find anyone or a job. I don't understand why many want or need children, for what? I made it to 50 without seeing the inside of a used diaper, good for me!
I love being childfree. It is my choice.
I'm almost 29 and have been married to my husband for 3 years (been together for 7 years). I told him from the moment that our relationship became serious that children would be a deal breaker but happily we are on the same page. No plans for kids now or ever. :)
I went through a lot of inner turmoil before I became happy and sure with my decision. Before I wondered if all this warning of "regret" had any merit. I started liking the idea when I was a teenager and then made it a solid decision by my mid-20's. I understand the benefits and love that many people have for their children but the cons far outweigh any desire for me to have children.
If you do want to have a child then you give them everything you can and the best of everything. It's about them now, many parts about you are put aside. You're doing this to have someone to share your love, watch them grow, share traditions and want the best for them. It's not right to expect anything in return, many parents expect eternal companionship and care in their old age and that is despicable. That is not the reason you brought this child into this world and this is a burden that shouldn't be expected of your child.
I for one, do not like children. I find them annoying, time consuming, dirty, loud, expensive, rude, greedy, exhausting, and sure, they're kids! That's normal! What do you expect? I don't want the responsibility or the commitment because I just know the pros do not outweigh the cons when it comes to me having a child. I am aware of this and I take the proper precautions. I have enough anxiety issues as it is. I love my friends kids because I know them and only for short periods then I can decide when to come and go.
It's not fair for people to even ask about my procreating status let alone judge. What if I can't have children? Anyway, I don't need a child to validate my existence, to make me feel love or to deepen the bond between myself and my husband. The growing population also won't suffer without my contribution of 2.2 offspring being added to the mix as we are strong at 7 billion people rushing towards 9 billion by the end of my life time.
I like my life. I like to spend my money, use my time and make plans based on myself and my husband. Not a kid. I have the love of my husband, my friends, my parents, my furbabies and many others in my life to make me feel love and be loved. I have the added benefit of having a husband who shares my ideals and my parents are not the type to be hounding for grandchildren. They think it is a marvelous decision and they agree that not having children can lead to a life that can be just as rewarding.
I lead a very happy and fulfilled life with my husband and our furbabies (we have 6 kitties and a greyhound), I am much more comfortable and confident in proclaiming my decision than I did in my early 20's. It is really no one's business and they should not question how I wish to lead my life. I choose to be child-free and I relish it.
Um, I don't want to be bothered by kids because I DO HAVE MY OWN LIFE. Geez........
ZOMG, so true. I LOVE being childfree, I'm glad I made the choice for myself, and I will NEVER regret it! My choice does not effect anyone else.
Iris sounds like she's childless, though, not childfree.
#nokidsnotnownotever
My 87-year-old grandmother has virtually imprisoned my poor mother. Yes, my mom has always been there for that woman, but at a great cost. She has never had an identity of her own, because my grandmother expected my mom to take care of her- especially in old age. When my grandfather was still living, my grandmother vamped off him plenty, but he passed away at a young age from a heart attack. And so my mom was expected to take the care-taker place. How cruel it is to do that to a kid!
My mom used to work in a nursing home and so did my aunt. They say that a lot of those people that live there are never visited by their kids and grandkids and many of them are very sad and lonely and forgotten.
I knew I didn't want kids when I was 11. Haven't changed my mind, and I doubt I ever will!
agentbl Sir amen to that and thank you thank and thank you a million times more because I feel the exact same way no kids for me I'm a child free male and I'm loving and I'm truly blessed by that.
International child free day
Exactly!!!! I TOTALLY agree.
I'm only 20 going on 21, and I know deep in my heart that I will NEVER EVER have any children. I would somday be a great aunt in the future, but a mom is just too much responsibility.
@theSoCalGeek I am in that boat right now. Im a 32 yr old single woman and Im living it up. People give me strange looks and question me. However I stand firm in what I want and know my own worth and value. I avoid dealings with men who want families, if they tell me they want that, they r gone. I like to hang out with friends, drink and smoke and I aint gonna stop bc someone says that i should. People think im arrogant and maybe theyre right but its ok i refuse to follow the crowd.
💕 33 and childfree
@Tokyokatt That is so true. The adoption agencies make you jump through so many hoops it's not funny. They even make choices based on things that shouldn't even be issues.
Just remember that just because you have a child doesn't mean that he or she is going to be willing or able to take care of you and move you into their home instead of a nursing home when you get too old to take care of yourself.
Someone in my family had way above average IQ. She then had kids who also were way above average. Unfortunately, this mom was not only very smart, but was also an abuser to her kids. So when those kids grew up, they never really reached their fullest potential, despite their intelligence and gifts. They still act like socially and emotionally crippled 8-year-olds. Being smart is not everything- you also have to be emotionally stable.
I knew at the age of like 10 that I didn't want kids and I never will. I'm selfish just because I don't like children? Please. I love all animals and treat others with respect. I think it's selfish to bring more people into this overpopulated world we live in
I don't want a (crying, needy, smelly) baby.
For one hour I'd like a mini-me, but NOT for _________ yrs.
Nursing home staff will care for me when I'm old, unless I drive off a cliff.
Dogs are nice, but require too much attention/work.
Children cut into my book reading time.
*I'm somehow surprised when I meet old classmates who did get married/have children & wonder WHY would they want to do that?
I don't mind saying that I am choosing to remain childfree for selfish reasons. People automatically attach a negative stigma to self oriented decisions. I want to spend the rest of MY life living for ME. Screw anyone who has a problem with it. In a few years, I'll be making 7 figures a year and I can travel and do anything I want. I don't mind saying I'll be living completely for me. I'll send all my breeder friends post cards from Tahiti.
@clintonskakun
Agreed. We were having a small potluck for our Teacher's 49th bday and one of my classmates wanted to bring her baby around and show him around like he was the best thing in the world. The teacher told her to ask the school about that and she got whiney and say "Why can't I bring baby? I want people to see my baby". Come on! Bring a baby in class? Get over yourself.
I'm childless by choice, atheist, and date outside of my race...the majority of the world hates me.
@theSoCalGeek I hear your point, but I also know the reality of the situations, which vary greatly. Constant criticism sound dramaticized to me. I don't think people 'have to' explain themselves all the time. I think often that's a smoke-screen for 'people LOVE to' explain their stance, and they don't always do so pleasantly.
This issue isn't huge to me. There are dumb reasons for having children, as there are dumb reasons for not doing so.
People change.
I'll take a dog over a baby any day of the week! To us, our poodle is our "baby". :D
In addition to this, there is no guarantee that the child will have the same genetic coding to be intelligent, or even make intelligent choices.
I enjoy the chaos of having my child, and it's fine that you don't. I don't question your choice to b cf, I don't accuse you or anyone that's cf but don't stand there and tell me What I find fulfilling or not. It's apathetic and condescending as a me telling you you will change your mind about having children.
I never wanted children as well,even as a child myself.Dogs are better!
@stonefiremetal You're very welcome! Just saying how I feel
The thing is...a woman is treated as an idiot incapable of being mature enough about making big decisions. The do not let women get their tubes tied until after they are thirty, they don't let them decide unless the husband is present and informed(even though he can get a vasectomy without her) ect. Plus there is nothing wrong with getting an abortion when you are informed and know what it is..that is yet anothervchoice we don't need others making for us.
@TheDharmawheel I don't believe that their count is accurate to say the least. I maybe wrong but there is more than enough resources for every person on the planet. The problem is the way the government distributes the resources but that is a different subject.
If a million women choose to be a childless they also made the choice a million men will be fatherless and two million denied grandparents.
@tropical481 I agree! It's our body. If people can get a sex change we females should be able to get our tubes tied
I live in New York City and I see bad ass crying ass whining kids all the time, especially on the subway. They fucking annoy me. This is what I do to avoid them.
1) I tune them out by listening to my music on my MP3 player.
2) I move to another section of the subway car.
3) I go to another subway car altogether.
Ill get a dog
Usually it s just:
-i want sex
an then ...ops, i guess i m pregnant
@heheurfunny they don't have to change their minds cause you want them to how selfish are you its not guarenteed that they will make a difference in this world.
A woman is only damaged when she gets one when she doesn't want one, and is pressured to feel guilty about having one because of religion ect.(look at stats, the most abortions happen in red states) or other reasons. I have had two abortions and was neither emotionally, nor physically damaged because of it. A woman can be emotionally and physically damaged when forced to have a pregnancy..but they don't care about women then..example an ectopic pregnancy, rape, to young..ect
The answer is none of your business.
I thought you were Native American/American Indian, just guessing from your user name.
Tell me about your culture or lifestyle, please. I'm attracted to NA women, but not NA culture. I believe in the Bible, but not one that is forced upon anyone. I believe we should see NA's all over the TV, giving the News, etc. & in movies, this should be common.
overpopulation??? who counts everyone in the world?
I don't hate you. I dated outside my race, but was mostly rejected. Perhaps I wasn't "funkified" enough. Now I can't find anyone or a job. I don't understand why many want or need children, for what? I made it to 50 without seeing the inside of a used diaper, good for me!
But who will take care of you when you get older ?
+dark phanthom nurses
Um.no.thats false...you don't need to justify not having kids..nothing wrong with it, but don't use lies
STOP using the word "creepy"!
I'm 90% sure I don't want kids and I'm female. I also think it's selfish to bring kids into this world just because you think they are cute etc.