Stop with the public proposals. She doesn’t owe you a yes either. You don’t know what the dynamics of their relationship is, he could be knocking her head between the washer and dryer.
Thing is, if you tell them yes in public then change your mind or say no in private, you get blamed even if dude isn't violent. Now you become wishy washy in the eyes of your family members, unless they already know what's up. Basically, women seemed to be damned if they do and damned if they don't.
if it's real, 99% chance he never spoke to her about this. the comments have shown that the majority of women would not sprint away from a man even if she didn't want to marry him, so the fact that she did-which she had every right to-shows just how bad he could be.
I heard so many stories from women who were in abusive, draining relationships and the moment it hits them is when there's a proposal, at that moment they realize the weight and the effect of being in this forever, and that's when they find the courage to break it off.
It's funny how men think rings💍 💍 💍 will make women look past the most egregious of transgressions. With 4B and the very real rejection of their proposals, I guess it's FAFO season once again. These women are no longer trying to go from crappy relationships to crappy marriages. We all know rings 💍 don't mean a thing to men except for trying to lock a woman down so she has a harder time leaving him when sh*t hits the fan.
I don't know why anyone would be mad at her. She doesn't owe him a yes, she has the right to say no, and it's his fault to do this in public and now he has to face public rejection. I think it's funny actually, I love when men don't get their way after having it easy their whole life. It's like when you see the bully get bullied back in a movie.
@@seleneledezma3543 Her “running away like a 2 year old” was the no. And you’re right. We don’t know how he treated her/their discussions they had for her to react that way….so don’t call her a “2 year old” if you don’t know her side of the story. Thanks. 😕
@@seleneledezma3543 you're right, running away is even better than a no, it's the immediate removal from a situation where she was made a spectacle. He intentionally put her in a situation where it would have been unfavorable to say no, therefore, I wish her the best and him what he deserves.
I saw a lot of people saying she was wrong and feeling sorry for him but I immediately thought what did he do for her to run away like that ? Did she express to him that she didn’t like public proposals before he proposed to her ?
These public proposal needs to stop because it put us women in a awkward situation were we will only say yes to save face but reject you in private and it is used as a shut up and take the ring tactic.
I never got this. why let strangers influence your decisions? then again, I don't care what people say. I'll say no, if my answer is no regardless of who is there.
She looked so scared!!! That was a run of terror! They could have put that clip of her running in a clip of a running lion to make it look like she was being chased, and it would actually fit. What has this man been doing to her??!😩
Why do we still think it's okay to pressure women to say yes? We do it with marriage proposals, dating, and sex. Women have every right to say no and should never feel ashamed or guilty or afraid for saying no.
Being pressured to say yes to dating is so prevalent and I HATE it. I've been through it and being the people pleaser that I was has put me in situationships that I just hated being in. And blamed for leading people on when I had clearly made it known that I wasn't ready. Maaahn, I feel for her😢
I mean she doesn’t owe him anything. Why do women ALWAYS have to be nice and spare males feelings. She must know why she ran away. Marriage is not the end all be all anymore. If she doesn’t want to get married for whatever reason then she has a right not to. Ppl love to talk about what they don’t know as if women are entitled to marry these males. Also, based on the comments u posted ppl said they saw where he was her stalker. Idk how true that is but I wouldn’t be shocked if he was her stalker. But he’s a male so ofcourse ppl are gonna feel sorry for him without knowing the full story.
Sometimes I'm shocked to how "emotionally soft" men are. And how much we women contribute to that "emotional softness". Lying to spare his feeling? Absolutely not. Lying to spare the embarrassment? No. He did it in public, he gets a public answer.
So he can put her on the spot in front of hundreds of people but when she gives him a public answer in front of the hundreds of people he put her in front of, she’s the bad girl??
Two things about public proposals: 1. If you don't want to be rejected in public, don't propose in public. 2. If your partner says no to a public proposal, that's on you for not knowing them well enough to propose like that. Before you propose , you should a) know how your partner feels about a future with you and b) know how they feel about public proposals. If you are blindsided by a negative reaction to either of those things, you had no business proposing. It's really that simple.
Marriage is a big thing and it should be talked about with your partner before you even buy a ring. That doesn’t mean it will ruin the surprise of the proposal, it means you will not waste a lot of money on a ring if she is not ready to get married
Are we adults or are we children? You're going to lie to a grown ass man to spare his feelings? Is that what men want? To be lied to? To be lied to to have their feelings spared? Regardless if staged or not, they both had a very emotional reaction. She runned for her life, and he dropped (on the other knee 🤭) and sobbing. You ask someone to marry you, theres always a risk they say no.
if a man went on tiktok and said his ex-gf broke up with him in private after accepting a public proposal, the men would be complaining about women always leading them on and giving mixed signals :/
Giving the "no" in public is not only safer in case he gets violent on the spot but also to ensure nobody thinks they are a thing and giving him private information about her as a result of that. Future dating might get difficult too if people think she was engaged or maybe the guy could tell lies about her like that she cheated on him so he broke it off.
This is something that my ex would do… mind you he is very, very, very abusive. He would literally get down on his knees and beg me to love him in front of people after he has been tormenting me for days and then called me a bunch of names when I didn’t concede to his demands and start destroying my stuff. Then he would have his friends and relatives call me to “forgive him” so they wouldn’t have to deal with him at there house after I left him.
Sameeee. It's crazy bc I was literally thinking about this. Men will slap the fuck out of you and then 10 minutes later want to cozy up next to you with food or something as if that will make up for it or something. It's so sick and vile. They abuse you and then feel entitled to your love and care.
He probably asked her in private she said NO and now he tried to be slick and ask her publicly so she can be pressured to not say no and not look like a bad girlfriend! I'd run and block him on everything!
It's a no in public and a hug if we're on good terms, and I just don't want to get married. But if it's for show, I'd just walk off shaking my head. A no is a, NO! I'm sick of men needing their egos catered to.
Why is it her responsibility to say no in private when he's allowed to ask in public? If you want a private no, ask the question in private. If you're ready to ask the question in public, BE READY FOR A PUBLIC ANSWER.
5:12 Ladies! If you don’t want to say yes in public, DO NOT SAY YES! You are not responsible for his feelings, you can’t help if he ends up embarrassed or not. Why should you? He didn’t care about your personal feelings enough to even come to you to talk about marriage and a possible proposal, to see what you like and if you even want to get married, so why should you care about his feelings on if he’s embarrassed or not. And I’m not saying this to be petty or bitter or anything of the sort. I just feel like marriage should be between two people who genuinely love and care for each other, and if you can’t walk up to your partner and ask them if they are ready for marriage, just what other things was your partner not comfortable doing or something they did want to do but you were just too insensitive to see that or listen to their opinion. That’s just my thought, if they can’t even ask you if you even *WANT* to get married, should you even get married. So I wouldn’t spare his feelings at all. That may sound cruel, but sometimes somethings shouldn’t be sugarcoated.
Funny how we CONSTANTLY have to handle men with white gloves whenever they’re at risk of heartbreak or emotional pain. We’re always expected to handle them with care, not embarrass them, comfort them, etc. It’s like we owe them emotional availability and softness and if we don’t and they hurt, it’s our fault for not treating well or being empathetic. We become the villains. But when the script is flipped men can go out of their way to embarrass women, manhandle women, hurt women and provide us with no emotional availability and it’s our fault because we chose the wrong guy. We don’t get comfort, we don’t get the white gloves, we don’t get the softness, we get nothing. So I’m sorry if I feel no ways about bro getting publicly humiliated. He should’ve known better and planned things better.
EXACTLY. That's why I'm as blunt and rude to men as I notice they are to me or others. If you can dish it you can take it. Women need to get gun licenses and mace(protection) then stop sparing men's feelings altogether. Crazy though bc men act that way bc they know women usually aren't going physically attack them and go insane like they do when we're just being "honest". But women are the "illogical and emotional ones".🙄
My ex tried to force my hand by calling my father and asking for his permission to propose. My dad dogged his calls and informed me of what was happening as I had no idea he was calling my parents’ house. Ex clearly didn’t know what a great father daughter relationship actually means lol.
My ex proposed 4 months after I broke up with him. He knew I could not get away from him fast enough, because of my health issues. And I support the runaway brides as well. It might be the last moment they get to run away from their abusers without being legally attached to them.
That was some runaway bride type of ish 😂😂😂 reminds me of that Julia Robert's movie..where she would run away from every marriage literally Run 🏃♀️😂 Lol
No she doesn’t owe him ish!And if this is really not staged then he should know her better.This was probably a desperate move to save a relationship that is not going well. You win you lose lol!
It looks so fake. I'd put money on a skit too. He messed up by dropping to his knees and crying, there was not embarrassment or shock, just went straight to drama lol
@@elenalizabeth super good point! I just get skit/ fake vibes from the overall video. You know when somehting feels like it's A.I. but you can't pin point why. This clip gives tagged to me. But you make a good point, just bc he isn't embarrassed doesn't make it fake
Its painfully obvious he did not ask her family or friends for their blessings either. If he did they would’ve told him that she doesn’t do public proposals/has social anxiety/and or isn’t ready for an engagement. A considerate person would’ve made sure she felt safe and secure before proposing. He felt entitled to coerce her into a yes. He is not a victim. 😕
We don't have to cater to men’s feelings. Dudes do this sometimes to pressure women knowing their real relationship is in the gutter and the proposal is a last resort to save it. Its always MANipulation
If you ask in public you'll get your answer IN PUBLIC. Dont people discuss marriage during the relationship? I dont want to get married, every dude I was with always knew that Id embarress them if they would have tried.
i'd probably legged it too if i were in here place. i absolutely HATE attention. eta: my parents can't remember who proposed to whom. the only thing they remember is walking home from a friend's wedding and somehow ending up at 'we should get married too!' with no idea how they got there.
I actually came across a video where a man tried to proposing to his girlfriend in public she said no, he kept trying to get her to say yes and said he had money, she said "you have money so what!" Then when she walked away he threw a tantrum in front of a lot of people
i never understood coddling feelings in front of people. if you want to say no, say no. literally no one is forcing you. it's more disrespectful to yourself to say yes then have everyone asking you about it or cheering for no reason. Those strangers don't have to live your life so don't let them influence your decision.
3:13 the speed she using to run tells me all I need to know. She seems very scared and the comments confirmed it for me. The fact that those ladies were saying they'd say yes at first is why men confidently proposed in public, they know that many women will feel pressure and say yes. There's a video in a Nigerian church and the lady slapped him, dumped his cake on him and stormed out screaming 😂😂😂😂. Now I don't condone violence but if you ask a question, all kinds of responses can be produced 🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️. People should keep their things to themselves, it's not even just to avoid embarrassment.
I hate when people do these public proposals i mean half of the time we want to enjoy the park not be witness to anything weird. It’s a liability to society and public enjoyment.. stop proposing in public!! If not don’t be embarrassed when you get let down. I have no feelings about a public proposal gone wrong. 😑 you should’ve thought about that!
Tell me about it, I HATE it when men pull that stunt at women's college graduations, especially law or med school. Tell me you're a conditionally based, low down, narcissistic sorry mf'er without telling me...and the reason why I don't think it's cute would be because it is HER TIME to shine, it was HER hard work, and men out here trying to steal HER glory with a cheap 100-dollar Walmart ring. Pressuring her in front of HER family and trying to sabotage HER support system if she says NO. . as an older woman, it infuriates me every single time I see those videos.
The entitlement is crazy.. . Women owe you nothing. He only embarrassed himself. I bet he just thought she would've said yes. The way she ran off this isnt a nice guy or maybe he is one of those " Nice Guys."
This reminds me when I said no in private. He then asked me to organize his Bday party for 50 ppl on a budget then in from of his friends and fam proposed again. I said yes in public to avoid the drama and no the following day returning the ring. I felt humiliated and forced. It was so upsetting to be blindsided after saying no. I'm not ready for an engagement. At the end I was right he was not the man for me.
I would say 'no' in public. Someone who is supposed to love me and care about my comfort chose to put me through this, and I'm supposed to spare their feelings or reputation? No, how dare you.
Ef it say no the first time if the answer is no. He probably did it publicly so she would feel compelled to say "yes" as a way to force her to accept; probably knowing that she does not want to marry him.
Honestly, as a woman whose first husband treated me like crap I am proud of this girl. If my daughter did the same thing I would have the door open for her so she had a safe place to run to and I would hug her and tell her she’s brave for protecting herself.
I don’t see anyone comforting the lady for doing the courageous thing of staying true to herself and running away. Why should she save his face by pretending to say yes and then refusing later? That would make her a liar. Well, he certainly shot himself on the foot.
Public proposals are only a good idea if you've discussed it already and you know your partner is going to say yes. This on the other hand, kind of seems like he's proposing in public to force her to say yes in order to "not make a scene". It's manipulative.
There's more to this story because she ran out of fear. She probably had a very good reason to run. Also if she rejects a proposal in private her life could be in danger.
It's manipulative. If she answers 'no' in public, she's the bad guy. If she says 'yes' in public then tells him 'no' in private, she is still the bad guy for leading him on, or some such nonsense.
Had to laugh when the guy crumpled to a ball- what a melodramatic asshole. NO ONE comforted the poor woman running away- but they had to coddle Mr Man. UGH
You should be suspicious of men who do public proposes, without any of your friends and families knowing. Especially infront of strangers as it is probably a shut up ring.
She did the right thing. I think it’s actually worse to get the persons hopes up and make them think you accepted. Then you go out to dinner together or something and he’s texting his whole family that you said yes and they are all blowing up your phones saying congratulations. Then when you get home and let him down softly in private he has to sit there and tell everyone oh false alarm she actually didn’t say yes… that’s actually more effed up in my opinion. Women should be made responsible for grown men’s feelings and shouldn’t feel socially pressured to say yes just because he might suffer five minutes of embarrassment. It would be worse if she waited until later. What if he updated his Facebook status right after proposing? Everyone would know. That would be worse for him.
I'm always very realistic. No one except the man & woman can possibly know the dynamic of their relationship. This young woman has every right to leave & run for her life if she is aware that this man is not the proper person for her to marry. Opinions of the general public (aka strangers) & even her family & friends do not matter whatsoever when the young woman is the only person in a relationship with this man. This guy could've been abusive to this young woman from the start of the relationship & she had a difficult time leaving. If the man was committing financial abuse & the woman was unable to work for whatever reason(s), then she was financially trapped. Escaping abusive relationships is almost impossible with no money, especially if you have babies to care for & protect. He could have been committing adultery against her and threatening her life if she left him. There are too many possibilities as to what is happening behind closed doors within their relationship. All I know is this young woman has to do what is best for her & she also has to think of her babies' safety if she has babies.
A little late but never ever do a public proposal. You have a 50/50 chance of being rejected. Often times, women get scrutinized for rejecting men. They call them bitches and things like that. I remember I rejected a guy and men were upset with me. The fuck am I suppose to say? Say yes to his face and get his hopes up and then say sike? 🤨 Anyway, my girl knew about the truth about marriage and ran for the hill!😂
The people who went to comfort him are something else. We all know that we live in a society where marriage means A LOT to women so if you see one turning down a proposal, you know something is very wrong about that man.
First impression = rage bait! The only other reasonable explanation for her reaction would have been if this man was a stalker. In which case, yes RUN!
A proposal is an offer. It may be accepted or rejected. Marriage is no small matter. So noone owes anyone an acceptance of a marriage proposal, whether in public or in private
Stop with the public proposals. She doesn’t owe you a yes either. You don’t know what the dynamics of their relationship is, he could be knocking her head between the washer and dryer.
Hmmmhmmm
That last sentence is crazy😂😂😂
@@Dubz_moneymaneyou ain’t lying 😂
Exactly, the woman RAN AWAY that should tell you she felt unsafe even in public. Something is not right.
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It's funny how women are always expected to protect the feelings of people who supposedly aren't emotional
I wish this was pinned
Damnnn that needs to be a T-shirt AND a bumper sticker...
Oh my, I feel like I've known this all my life and still oblivious to the fact😅❤
Isn’t that something…damn hearing it worded like that though….
OOF. No crumbs with this comment. This is so real.
Telling him “no” in public is much safer for women!! Some men cannot take “no” and will become violent with a woman! 💔
I agree with this statement...she looked terrified.
These women saying they would say yes in public and no in private, whats keeping him from "unalive"ing her in private?
@@maryjanerxright....how does that make sense?. BW think quite differently...our yes's are yes and our no's are no
I agree* Tell his ass no. You think he would have sympathy for her if the tables were turned? No- in fact men are more brutal. We have to stop this
Thing is, if you tell them yes in public then change your mind or say no in private, you get blamed even if dude isn't violent. Now you become wishy washy in the eyes of your family members, unless they already know what's up. Basically, women seemed to be damned if they do and damned if they don't.
0:51 he didn't ask in private. Why should she respond in private. He got what he asked for.
Simple and great point!
Cheated on her, she ran for her life, it was a shut up ring💍
Exactly. He probably doesn't have a job 😢.
if it's real, 99% chance he never spoke to her about this. the comments have shown that the majority of women would not sprint away from a man even if she didn't want to marry him, so the fact that she did-which she had every right to-shows just how bad he could be.
It's safer to say no in public for a woman than in private please. Stop blaming women for thd position men put themselves in
Right. We are blamed for everything. He should've chosen better .# drizzle drizzle 😅
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I heard so many stories from women who were in abusive, draining relationships and the moment it hits them is when there's a proposal, at that moment they realize the weight and the effect of being in this forever, and that's when they find the courage to break it off.
Exactly. The men feel their workhorse is about to run away , then he proposes. 😢
It's funny how men think rings💍 💍 💍 will make women look past the most egregious of transgressions. With 4B and the very real rejection of their proposals, I guess it's FAFO season once again. These women are no longer trying to go from crappy relationships to crappy marriages. We all know rings 💍 don't mean a thing to men except for trying to lock a woman down so she has a harder time leaving him when sh*t hits the fan.
I don't know why anyone would be mad at her. She doesn't owe him a yes, she has the right to say no, and it's his fault to do this in public and now he has to face public rejection. I think it's funny actually, I love when men don't get their way after having it easy their whole life. It's like when you see the bully get bullied back in a movie.
She didn't say no, she ran away like a two year old. Plus we don't even know what conversations they had about getting engaged....
Ok..I thought I was the only one that laughed
@@seleneledezma3543 Her “running away like a 2 year old” was the no. And you’re right. We don’t know how he treated her/their discussions they had for her to react that way….so don’t call her a “2 year old” if you don’t know her side of the story. Thanks. 😕
@@seleneledezma3543 you're right, running away is even better than a no, it's the immediate removal from a situation where she was made a spectacle. He intentionally put her in a situation where it would have been unfavorable to say no, therefore, I wish her the best and him what he deserves.
You yourself don't like taking no for an answer, huh?@@seleneledezma3543
If you can't handle a public rejection, don't give a public proposal? She didn't do anything wrong imo.
Him being upset/heartbroken afterwards isn't wrong either
I saw a lot of people saying she was wrong and feeling sorry for him but I immediately thought what did he do for her to run away like that ? Did she express to him that she didn’t like public proposals before he proposed to her ?
True.
Exactly, if she was absolutely on love with that man, she would not have run like that
He proposed in public, why shouldn't he get his answer in public?
Some men don't understand that the point of this question is to get a honest answer. Women are not obligated to say yes
THIS.
These public proposal needs to stop because it put us women in a awkward situation were we will only say yes to save face but reject you in private and it is used as a shut up and take the ring tactic.
And then he could k1ll you the next day in private!!
That's why they do it
I never got this. why let strangers influence your decisions? then again, I don't care what people say. I'll say no, if my answer is no regardless of who is there.
That didn’t look like anger or shock. It looked like fear.
My girl ran off in fear.
She looked so scared!!! That was a run of terror! They could have put that clip of her running in a clip of a running lion to make it look like she was being chased, and it would actually fit. What has this man been doing to her??!😩
Making her life hell
Some of the comments said he was stalking her, so that may be why she was running like her life depended on it
@@heatherlowe7330if he was stalking her, then I understand her reaction. Stalkers are dangerous.
Why do we still think it's okay to pressure women to say yes? We do it with marriage proposals, dating, and sex. Women have every right to say no and should never feel ashamed or guilty or afraid for saying no.
Being pressured to say yes to dating is so prevalent and I HATE it. I've been through it and being the people pleaser that I was has put me in situationships that I just hated being in. And blamed for leading people on when I had clearly made it known that I wasn't ready. Maaahn, I feel for her😢
She ran away in horror. Sis made the right decision if her heart and spirit told her to RUN. 💀
If that was really her stalking ex bf, run girl, run for your life.
I mean she doesn’t owe him anything. Why do women ALWAYS have to be nice and spare males feelings. She must know why she ran away. Marriage is not the end all be all anymore. If she doesn’t want to get married for whatever reason then she has a right not to. Ppl love to talk about what they don’t know as if women are entitled to marry these males. Also, based on the comments u posted ppl said they saw where he was her stalker. Idk how true that is but I wouldn’t be shocked if he was her stalker. But he’s a male so ofcourse ppl are gonna feel sorry for him without knowing the full story.
I agree thanks
Sometimes I'm shocked to how "emotionally soft" men are. And how much we women contribute to that "emotional softness".
Lying to spare his feeling? Absolutely not. Lying to spare the embarrassment? No.
He did it in public, he gets a public answer.
@@MsFadirthat it.
@@MsFadirBINGO 💯
Wholeheartedly agree with everything in this comment and thread.
I wish I had run away 23 years ago when my idiot ex proposed. 😂😂😂
Me too. He proposed to me in front of his family. I wanted to say no. He bullied me into marrying him.
me three
I feel that 🙏🏼
Same, bestie. 😂
Same 😂😂😂😂
So he can put her on the spot in front of hundreds of people but when she gives him a public answer in front of the hundreds of people he put her in front of, she’s the bad girl??
Two things about public proposals:
1. If you don't want to be rejected in public, don't propose in public.
2. If your partner says no to a public proposal, that's on you for not knowing them well enough to propose like that. Before you propose , you should a) know how your partner feels about a future with you and b) know how they feel about public proposals. If you are blindsided by a negative reaction to either of those things, you had no business proposing. It's really that simple.
Marriage is a big thing and it should be talked about with your partner before you even buy a ring. That doesn’t mean it will ruin the surprise of the proposal, it means you will not waste a lot of money on a ring if she is not ready to get married
Lol public proposals = 50/50 chance for public humiliation.
My abusive baby daddy did a somewhat public proposal TWICE and I still told him no. I wanted people to see his reaction and how he ready treated me.
Awwwww. So glad you're done with that.
@@Centimilli thanks
I'm proud of u girly
Did his true colors come out in those moments?
@@karlagonzalvez4703 he threw a temper tantrum
In her defense, RUN is typical advice.
Why do women owe men public submission and compliance and also have to stroke a man's ego in private? This is insane. No is a complete thought!
Are we adults or are we children?
You're going to lie to a grown ass man to spare his feelings? Is that what men want? To be lied to? To be lied to to have their feelings spared?
Regardless if staged or not, they both had a very emotional reaction. She runned for her life, and he dropped (on the other knee 🤭) and sobbing.
You ask someone to marry you, theres always a risk they say no.
And bonus points:
If he decides not to heal properly and become "the vilan", it's 💯 on him!
if a man went on tiktok and said his ex-gf broke up with him in private after accepting a public proposal, the men would be complaining about women always leading them on and giving mixed signals :/
@@ithoughtiwascishet1316 Exactly!
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Not dropped on the other knee 😭
Giving the "no" in public is not only safer in case he gets violent on the spot but also to ensure nobody thinks they are a thing and giving him private information about her as a result of that. Future dating might get difficult too if people think she was engaged or maybe the guy could tell lies about her like that she cheated on him so he broke it off.
I've been proposed to because he messed up and became desperate to keep me. My love was gone in that moment. But men will do this.
HE PUT ON A BRIGHT RED SUIT
AND PROPOSED IN PUBLIC??
HE WANTED ATTENTION
Maybe that's why some people think it's staged because the suit gets everyone's attention.
@@solitaire10 i think he's just a narcissist
look how he fell on the knees like he's in the movie or something
Staged or not I love that she stood on business and run for her life ❤❤❤
This is something that my ex would do… mind you he is very, very, very abusive. He would literally get down on his knees and beg me to love him in front of people after he has been tormenting me for days and then called me a bunch of names when I didn’t concede to his demands and start destroying my stuff. Then he would have his friends and relatives call me to “forgive him” so they wouldn’t have to deal with him at there house after I left him.
Sameeee. It's crazy bc I was literally thinking about this. Men will slap the fuck out of you and then 10 minutes later want to cozy up next to you with food or something as if that will make up for it or something. It's so sick and vile. They abuse you and then feel entitled to your love and care.
Same. It's literally disgusting and vile.
Men should stop putting women on the spot publicly. Propose privately unless you've discussed it with her and know she's okay with public proposals.
Public proposals give me anxiety. It puts pressure on people, and I think it's some type of coercion.
It most certainly is🤧
He probably asked her in private she said NO and now he tried to be slick and ask her publicly so she can be pressured to not say no and not look like a bad girlfriend! I'd run and block him on everything!
It's a no in public and a hug if we're on good terms, and I just don't want to get married. But if it's for show, I'd just walk off shaking my head. A no is a, NO! I'm sick of men needing their egos catered to.
The woman looks so upset. 💔💔😩😩😭😭
Why is it her responsibility to say no in private when he's allowed to ask in public? If you want a private no, ask the question in private. If you're ready to ask the question in public, BE READY FOR A PUBLIC ANSWER.
I need dudes to stop thinking life is a RomCom. Cause if it’s a no public or private it’s a no.
5:12 Ladies! If you don’t want to say yes in public, DO NOT SAY YES! You are not responsible for his feelings, you can’t help if he ends up embarrassed or not. Why should you? He didn’t care about your personal feelings enough to even come to you to talk about marriage and a possible proposal, to see what you like and if you even want to get married, so why should you care about his feelings on if he’s embarrassed or not. And I’m not saying this to be petty or bitter or anything of the sort. I just feel like marriage should be between two people who genuinely love and care for each other, and if you can’t walk up to your partner and ask them if they are ready for marriage, just what other things was your partner not comfortable doing or something they did want to do but you were just too insensitive to see that or listen to their opinion. That’s just my thought, if they can’t even ask you if you even *WANT* to get married, should you even get married. So I wouldn’t spare his feelings at all. That may sound cruel, but sometimes somethings shouldn’t be sugarcoated.
Funny how we CONSTANTLY have to handle men with white gloves whenever they’re at risk of heartbreak or emotional pain.
We’re always expected to handle them with care, not embarrass them, comfort them, etc.
It’s like we owe them emotional availability and softness and if we don’t and they hurt, it’s our fault for not treating well or being empathetic. We become the villains.
But when the script is flipped men can go out of their way to embarrass women, manhandle women, hurt women and provide us with no emotional availability and it’s our fault because we chose the wrong guy.
We don’t get comfort, we don’t get the white gloves, we don’t get the softness, we get nothing.
So I’m sorry if I feel no ways about bro getting publicly humiliated. He should’ve known better and planned things better.
EXACTLY. That's why I'm as blunt and rude to men as I notice they are to me or others. If you can dish it you can take it. Women need to get gun licenses and mace(protection) then stop sparing men's feelings altogether.
Crazy though bc men act that way bc they know women usually aren't going physically attack them and go insane like they do when we're just being "honest". But women are the "illogical and emotional ones".🙄
My ex tried to force my hand by calling my father and asking for his permission to propose. My dad dogged his calls and informed me of what was happening as I had no idea he was calling my parents’ house. Ex clearly didn’t know what a great father daughter relationship actually means lol.
Saying no in private is not only stupid but also very very dangerous
My ex proposed 4 months after I broke up with him. He knew I could not get away from him fast enough, because of my health issues. And I support the runaway brides as well. It might be the last moment they get to run away from their abusers without being legally attached to them.
Women don't run from good men
Thank you. If she said no and ran from his proposal, you know he's a dud.
Exactly she ran like her life depended on it
I’m just impressed she ran up those stairs in those boots. 😳
That was some runaway bride type of ish 😂😂😂 reminds me of that Julia Robert's movie..where she would run away from every marriage literally Run 🏃♀️😂 Lol
HE didn't want privacy.
Nahh, that lady was getting tf outta dodge🏃🏽♀️. She definitely was running for her life
Shoutout to the people who ran to comfort both of them😮😢
When you ask a yes or no question you need to be prepared for both answers
No she doesn’t owe him ish!And if this is really not staged then he should know her better.This was probably a desperate move to save a relationship that is not going well.
You win you lose lol!
I ended a relationship with my ex and his response was "I was going to propose to you" --- ummm no!
I kind of thought it was a skit. Personally, I don't like public proposals. I think proposals should be done in private.
It looks so fake. I'd put money on a skit too. He messed up by dropping to his knees and crying, there was not embarrassment or shock, just went straight to drama lol
I think it was fake too. Got to get like money…
@@lz6364 have you never met a narcissist? They will flip their feelings on a dime if they can get sympathy for “being the victim” in a situation
@@elenalizabeth super good point! I just get skit/ fake vibes from the overall video. You know when somehting feels like it's A.I. but you can't pin point why. This clip gives tagged to me. But you make a good point, just bc he isn't embarrassed doesn't make it fake
This whole scene tells me they do not communicate well each other, and respect is lacking. Why else would she run? I was totally mortified 4 her.
Its painfully obvious he did not ask her family or friends for their blessings either. If he did they would’ve told him that she doesn’t do public proposals/has social anxiety/and or isn’t ready for an engagement. A considerate person would’ve made sure she felt safe and secure before proposing. He felt entitled to coerce her into a yes. He is not a victim. 😕
I’m not about to feel bad and coddle a grown man’s feelings. If you do it in public, be ready for a public answer.
We don't have to cater to men’s feelings. Dudes do this sometimes to pressure women knowing their real relationship is in the gutter and the proposal is a last resort to save it. Its always MANipulation
If you ask in public you'll get your answer IN PUBLIC. Dont people discuss marriage during the relationship? I dont want to get married, every dude I was with always knew that Id embarress them if they would have tried.
i'd probably legged it too if i were in here place. i absolutely HATE attention.
eta: my parents can't remember who proposed to whom. the only thing they remember is walking home from a friend's wedding and somehow ending up at 'we should get married too!' with no idea how they got there.
I actually came across a video where a man tried to proposing to his girlfriend in public she said no, he kept trying to get her to say yes and said he had money, she said "you have money so what!" Then when she walked away he threw a tantrum in front of a lot of people
i never understood coddling feelings in front of people. if you want to say no, say no. literally no one is forcing you. it's more disrespectful to yourself to say yes then have everyone asking you about it or cheering for no reason. Those strangers don't have to live your life so don't let them influence your decision.
Public proposals like these are extremely manipulative
3:13 the speed she using to run tells me all I need to know. She seems very scared and the comments confirmed it for me. The fact that those ladies were saying they'd say yes at first is why men confidently proposed in public, they know that many women will feel pressure and say yes. There's a video in a Nigerian church and the lady slapped him, dumped his cake on him and stormed out screaming 😂😂😂😂. Now I don't condone violence but if you ask a question, all kinds of responses can be produced 🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️. People should keep their things to themselves, it's not even just to avoid embarrassment.
I will definitely be teaching my sons that rejection is apart of life.
I hate when people do these public proposals i mean half of the time we want to enjoy the park not be witness to anything weird. It’s a liability to society and public enjoyment.. stop proposing in public!! If not don’t be embarrassed when you get let down. I have no feelings about a public proposal gone wrong. 😑 you should’ve thought about that!
Tell me about it, I HATE it when men pull that stunt at women's college graduations, especially law or med school. Tell me you're a conditionally based, low down, narcissistic sorry mf'er without telling me...and the reason why I don't think it's cute would be because it is HER TIME to shine, it was HER hard work, and men out here trying to steal HER glory with a cheap 100-dollar Walmart ring. Pressuring her in front of HER family and trying to sabotage HER support system if she says NO. . as an older woman, it infuriates me every single time I see those videos.
The entitlement is crazy.. . Women owe you nothing. He only embarrassed himself. I bet he just thought she would've said yes. The way she ran off this isnt a nice guy or maybe he is one of those " Nice Guys."
This reminds me when I said no in private. He then asked me to organize his Bday party for 50 ppl on a budget then in from of his friends and fam proposed again. I said yes in public to avoid the drama and no the following day returning the ring. I felt humiliated and forced. It was so upsetting to be blindsided after saying no. I'm not ready for an engagement. At the end I was right he was not the man for me.
Good. He must’ve done something trifling/narcissistic for her to respond that way. I hope she tells her side of the story. 😕
I would say 'no' in public. Someone who is supposed to love me and care about my comfort chose to put me through this, and I'm supposed to spare their feelings or reputation? No, how dare you.
I'm definitely on her side on this one. I have no problem saying no to a public proposal. I hate the idea - do it in private!
Ef it say no the first time if the answer is no. He probably did it publicly so she would feel compelled to say "yes" as a way to force her to accept; probably knowing that she does not want to marry him.
The way she ran UP all those stairs lol
Men that propose in public don't propose in private because they know she'll say no. They propose in public in order to force her to say yes.
Honestly, as a woman whose first husband treated me like crap I am proud of this girl. If my daughter did the same thing I would have the door open for her so she had a safe place to run to and I would hug her and tell her she’s brave for protecting herself.
I don’t see anyone comforting the lady for doing the courageous thing of staying true to herself and running away. Why should she save his face by pretending to say yes and then refusing later? That would make her a liar. Well, he certainly shot himself on the foot.
Public proposals are only a good idea if you've discussed it already and you know your partner is going to say yes. This on the other hand, kind of seems like he's proposing in public to force her to say yes in order to "not make a scene". It's manipulative.
Men think they are the prize so they always assume the woman will say yes 😂. Jokes on u
Him doing this seems so…calculated. 🤨
Don't embarrass them? She was running for her life. I suspect DV.
There's more to this story because she ran out of fear. She probably had a very good reason to run. Also if she rejects a proposal in private her life could be in danger.
This kinda looks staged, tbh
Listen she was serious. She ran UP the steps like she was doing 2 a days 🤣🤣🤣
It's manipulative. If she answers 'no' in public, she's the bad guy. If she says 'yes' in public then tells him 'no' in private, she is still the bad guy for leading him on, or some such nonsense.
I told my boyfriend that if he ever proposes in public, I will say NO. Because he knows me this bad and I don't want to be pushed into an answer
I would say no , since when did men spare woman feelings, never! stay safe ladies.
Had to laugh when the guy crumpled to a ball- what a melodramatic asshole.
NO ONE comforted the poor woman running away- but they had to coddle Mr Man. UGH
Wow the way she ran, she looked extremely frightened. That man has done some terrible things to that poor woman.
Why would he embarrass her like that? 😭
You should be suspicious of men who do public proposes, without any of your friends and families knowing. Especially infront of strangers as it is probably a shut up ring.
Public proposals are one of those things that are only romantic in movies! How is that any different from coercion?
She did the right thing. I think it’s actually worse to get the persons hopes up and make them think you accepted. Then you go out to dinner together or something and he’s texting his whole family that you said yes and they are all blowing up your phones saying congratulations. Then when you get home and let him down softly in private he has to sit there and tell everyone oh false alarm she actually didn’t say yes… that’s actually more effed up in my opinion. Women should be made responsible for grown men’s feelings and shouldn’t feel socially pressured to say yes just because he might suffer five minutes of embarrassment. It would be worse if she waited until later. What if he updated his Facebook status right after proposing? Everyone would know. That would be worse for him.
Shouldn’t be made responsible *
I'm always very realistic. No one except the man & woman can possibly know the dynamic of their relationship. This young woman has every right to leave & run for her life if she is aware that this man is not the proper person for her to marry. Opinions of the general public (aka strangers) & even her family & friends do not matter whatsoever when the young woman is the only person in a relationship with this man. This guy could've been abusive to this young woman from the start of the relationship & she had a difficult time leaving. If the man was committing financial abuse & the woman was unable to work for whatever reason(s), then she was financially trapped. Escaping abusive relationships is almost impossible with no money, especially if you have babies to care for & protect. He could have been committing adultery against her and threatening her life if she left him. There are too many possibilities as to what is happening behind closed doors within their relationship. All I know is this young woman has to do what is best for her & she also has to think of her babies' safety if she has babies.
Proposal shouldn’t be a surprise and not done in public
That’s what a lot of men don’t understand
A little late but never ever do a public proposal. You have a 50/50 chance of being rejected. Often times, women get scrutinized for rejecting men. They call them bitches and things like that. I remember I rejected a guy and men were upset with me. The fuck am I suppose to say? Say yes to his face and get his hopes up and then say sike? 🤨 Anyway, my girl knew about the truth about marriage and ran for the hill!😂
The people who went to comfort him are something else. We all know that we live in a society where marriage means A LOT to women so if you see one turning down a proposal, you know something is very wrong about that man.
First impression = rage bait! The only other reasonable explanation for her reaction would have been if this man was a stalker. In which case, yes RUN!
A proposal is an offer. It may be accepted or rejected. Marriage is no small matter. So noone owes anyone an acceptance of a marriage proposal, whether in public or in private