@@MelaniaRose ikr. They always come with some sob story when they get found out too. Some even begin with a sob story to get pity dates. It’s pathetic and sad.
@@MelaniaRose No because they married to keep the gf they were cheating and dragging along aka shutup marriage. They never really want to marry, they just feel sociatal and family pressure to, and they want offspring to control to push their own egos. They're always single if wifey isn't around.
6:00 that story went on for far too long. Ladies, LETS NORMALIZE CUTTING PEOPLE OFF EARLY AND OFTEN. When someone shows you who they are take it as their truth. You do not have to put up with that level of foolishness. He strung her along because he could and she accepted it. There is no reason to take disrespectful people back. Forget second chances. Let them figure it out with the next one. You don’t have to stick around to find out “why”. We are not rehabilitation centers for broken men.
I think his delusion caused a bit of a brain damage where he thinks he's the princess women should pine after because He has some unresolved issues with his mommy
I've heard men complain about how unfair it is that they barely get any matches while most women get plenty and how damaging it is for their self-esteem. But they never talk about the fact that there are more young men than young women in this world and that most men in most countries have to make a serious effort to find a girlfriend. Doing the quantity strategy on dating apps by giving out as many likes as possible is not "making an effort" ...
@nehalilisays Where did u get this heap of bulls**t from lol? It's almost like u made it up. There is no country on this earth that men outnumber women. And men from other countries never have a hard time finding women. Women in other countries have the common sense to choose their husband while they are still young n pretty. It is women in the US that wanna play the field until their 30, then complain that men good men don't wanna take them seriously
She never should have forgiven David! He showed her f*boy tendencies from the start, and she still kept giving him paces and chances. You played yourself sis!
Attractive young woman. Sad but as the story went on, all I could think about was for her to "bounce". There was never going to be closure. Hopefully, she learned from David.
@@gingerfellah5665 sis stop .. this why these men do this .. real talk she played herself .. stop giving love and affection to ppl who don’t value you or time to even be giving love and attention. That’s like pouring water in a cup full of holes .. knowing the cup has holes and still pouring the water then wondering why the cup not holding water .. that’s madness
When i tell you dating apps are the most depressing thing. I almost cried at how ridiculous it even feels to be on one. Hookups hookups hookups hookups poly threesome hookups like PLEEEASE STOPPP
Yeah I remember when they got really popular during 2013 2014 as it was a huge hookup scene. I was so baffled bc my mom found her second husband using one a couple years prior. All I heard was girls talking about hooking up on tinder etc all the time. I was so disgusted with it.
It’s always “ married” women on there, looking for another woman for “ her and her man” . Lordddd I get so embarrassed seeing that! So he has you- and y’all together, But you gotta get online to help him find some other chick to screw on??? What???
@@thepursuitofknowledge5245 That makes no sense when they are on dating apps for the sole purpose of hooking up and nothing else. They want no commitment or relationship, just s3x and wh0ring around and then wonder why women don't want them.
What shocks😮 me is that people think dating the "old fashioned" way is any better. Look what our mothers, grandmothers, and great grandmothers went through way before dating apps were on the scene. I met my ex-husband and previous boyfriends at church, at family gatherings, at school, at the park while walking, at the mall, and several other places. They turned out to be no better than men on dating apps. They all want the same thing whether you meet them organically or online: for s3x, domestic services, and other financial benefits.
True. One difference I've noticed is that the men who approach me organically tend to be at least age-appropriate and not ugly. But on dating apps, I got approached by all types including the ones who are twice my age, with grey hair and pot bellies. 🤮 It affected my self-esteem enough to make me delete the app. I didn't want to devalue myself by being in a space where I am accessible for these men.
Facts! The whole dating process whether on the streets or online is predatory. We are just making ourselves easier prey on the apps because they can just swipe through and take their pick.
Offline dating can be bad, but if you’re on dating apps you’re setting yourself up. It be liars, cheaters, weirdos, freaks, fix-me men, avoidant or sassy men, overall bums, predators on there. Some dating apps like Hinge had good intentions but men perverted it. Go about your life and pray for the right one to find you fr
And those are the kind who hate baby mamas and child support… Always claiming women own babies on random men- yet that’s what they choose to do in life.
@@thepursuitofknowledge5245 Exactly lol... These women always wanna choose men that are above their level, then act surprised when all he wants is sex. They swipe right on the good looking man standing next to the Mercedes Benz, meanwhile a bunch of hard working blue collar guys got swiped to the left with no second thought. Lol..... Men know their level, women do not
I agree with the other commenters. As women, we have to take accountability. We have to STOP accepting the bare minimum from these men. I deleted the apps years ago. I learned REALLY difficult lessons that I’m not trying to repeat. I’m happy being single right now and I love my peace. I’m not dealing with BS from men anymore.
One guy told me that he assumes that if a woman is on a dating app, she is there for sex. Some guys have serious issues with projections. I haven't bothered with dating apps for years, and im a lot happier.
That's because all dating apps start out as places for people to meet. Then men show up to warp every last one them. Then the bots show up to pretend to be women to exploit these men because they're too dim to realise they're scammers. Then men control the narrative, which is "if you're on a dating app, you're looking for a hook up." Yes, it is 100% male projection because that's all they care about.
@@kikialeaki1850 It doesn't make sense to me. I for the most part was going on dating sites to actually date. It doesn't matter in that case whether or not most men would be with most women. I think a lot of men would just be happier if they went to a site for that purpose or just called a pro.
@@fitthickchic6732 quick, free and easy way to meet people, gain new experiences and get your rocks off, without seeming too raunchy. It literally does matter whether most men would be with most women, that’s what leads to the dating app phenomenon you’re witnessing. “If you can go outside and get almost any guy you want, why are you here?”
9:49 ugh she’s fully aware she’s accepting breadcrumbs. Take the hint like he said and block him! He’s constantly managing her expectations then being cold so no, he doesn’t like her and is playing games.
Yesss, sis doesn't understand that she put herself in a position to be played, especially after he had already shown his true colors before they reconnected smh
Yes! And these guys love when you explain how healed you were, and how he’s messed that up. They get off on the power. Women should stop over explaining and block at the very FIRST sign of disrespect
Omg you're so much better than other women! 👏🏿 For you! You're amazing! You've never been fooled or manipulated! Yes! Let's shame women who tell their stories. That's so helpful! Woohoo! Idiotic.
I have been through this lol. That's why me and him don't talk anymore. I blocked him. Men are so complicated it's very weird to go through. It's almost like a mind game.
@@peachesandpoets SHE WASN'T MANIPULATED. He straight up TOLD her DON'T GET ATTACHED. And she kept going. He blocked her and she kept coming back. He told her again DON'T GET ATTACHED. She . Kept. Going. He pushed her face AWAY. SHE. KEPT. GOING.....
@annjohnson4061 if you don't want someone to get attached to u I would think the logical thing is to just leave them alone to begin with at least that's what I would think
@@shaypope4732Why do you have to bite when someone has told you don’t get attached? Even if they come back you should tell them, you heard the first time.
Dating apps attract the men who are only looking for easy s3x. Alot of these men who are looking for s3x usually get turned down in real life and they go on dating apps
The apps are also part of the problem. They deliberately do not match suitable people together to keep you on the app for longer. If the first day you joined you found your perfect match they wouldn’t make any money. When this realisation dawned on me I deleted all the apps (which had been a complete waste of time anyway). I don’t miss them at all
I’m only 25 but the older I’ve gotten, I have realized we, as ladies, have to stop doing things for “the plot”. Doing so is genuinely dangerous for your physical and mental health. Also, I don’t think we can play the game as they do, especially if you want a long term relationship and they do not. Believe people when they show their true self and remove them from your life.
True alot women want to confront the men to let them know that they are aware of their shit but it only deepens the hole. Like sis, don’t dig deeper, just climb out, run, and don’t look back. We as women are not here to explain and teach men common decency and respect. Let his buddies do that for him. Seriously just leave without a word. Ghost him PERMANENTLY! Boy bye!👋
Also most of the men are cheaters on the apps! When they act funny/hot/cold, its because you are the dirty secret. Most are married,LTr, engaged. They are not confused, they are using you like a SW, except you are not getting paid!
As a online only SW I feel so bad for women still on dating apps . They are doing more work than I do , replying to all these men , going on dates , doing sexual things with them in person and not getting payed 🤦🏽♀️ I make about 10k every month and don’t reply to the messages until I get payed and make it clear I’ll never meet them in person. It only makes men want to invest more $ into you when your not desperate to be with them . I don’t understand why women still go on those apps when there are more productive and safer ways to associate with men nowadays
@@jasminexxx3911 I agree, civilian women are very desperate and do way too much. They’re f**king the first date like horny rats, then crying on Are We Dating The Same Guy about getting treated horribly and running to clinics. xy will always respect sw’rs, they pay for what they value.
Chile I met someone in Hinge, dated for 2 months and found out this fucker had a whole long term girlfriend. She called my phone and told me how they have been together for a year, and this man was on a whole dating app.
And ladies, don't think that this only applies to younger men. Some older men aren't any much better. I'm in my 50's and quit dating years ago. I prefer being single and having a peace of mind.
I’m in my 50’s too, not actively dating but I’m still up for it. I’ve raised the bar on men and that’s the way it’ll stay. I had a fun sexy time in 2021 and had a mini relationship and I kinda got it out of my system. I’ve got stuff to do.
Felt so frustrated for her. Even if she accepted breadcrumbs, it was clear he was the problem and needed to get his shit together. But no, David decided to play games and guys like him have a pattern of playing others for fools
It feels like majority of women go on the apps when we're at a better mental space, but boys seem to go on whenever and are in the weirdest head spaces.
You may be right. I was kissing a tinder date and he said “I’m not looking for anything serious”, but I had learned to ask “may I ask why?”, he ended up weeping on my couch because he was still in love with someone else who had pursued her dream job in a country very far away. Imagine if I had slept with him without this conversation, I would have been left wondering what was wrong with me? That would have been dead wrong. He was clearly not ready to date. I said kindly “why are you on tinder, it’s clear you are not ready?” I felt sorry for him in the end.
@@gingerfellah5665 he deserved it. It's great that she left him and that he's miserable. He's clearly not a good or considerate person. Good for you for not being his toilet that evening.
Thank you. As a girls girl who wants all girls to win, I am also about respecting yourself and others. HE TOLD HER "DON'T GET ATTACHED". If I date someone you damn sure I want to get attached. I would've thanked him for the honesty and moved the F on. She can't act like he is at fault when she is the crazy one who contacted a man who BLOCKED HER.
@@annjohnson4061 That "girl's girl" rhetoric quickly became toxic AF. I can't take anyone seriously who uses it anymore. The sell-by date for terms is shorter than ever now, or maybe it was always toxic and loaded.
@@LadyAstarionAncunin The term is for those of us who really stand by women and want them to win. But it has been co opted by too many women who want their friends to "yas girl" them in their delusion so they can feel good for a little while. But truly being there for women has made me friends. And not "yas girling" foolishness has kept me away from violent encounters with foolish women who want to deal with foolish men.
At 11:00 he was dating multiple women like she should’ve been. She was getting too attached and paying him too much attention. Ladies Find hobbies and friends. Not men (wild animals) to keep
Men are being replaced everyday with toys that actually give women orgasms. We aren’t missing out by not having sex with you and it’s less drama which is a plus.
I was on bumble, which is a female lead app, and honestly it just felt like it gave men on there the excuse to be even more lazy. It was supposed to be about empowering women, but really it just gave men license to lean into being even more dull and predictable tbh. I ditched it last year, haven’t looked back.
Agreed. Plus, I won't put past it that some men use it to take "revenge" on women by not answering or ghosting you. They do the same strategy of liking every single match and see where it lands.
ma'am after david responded like that the 1st time, you should have blocked him vs waiting on him to reach out to you again. they know how women respond to rejection:( women please focus on healthy esteem!
I stoped dealing and blocked a guy like that I met in real life he was bread crumbing me. Reached out when he felt like it and he would never stay always had to leave it was always an excuse when I need him he’s nowhere to be found everything was on his terms. He was mad I stopped Talkin to him I didn’t care deleted everything concerning him. He still my stories till this day 😂😂😂
She should have said she didn’t want a relationship either. I dated a Chinese guy and he took me out to eat and shopping on the first date. Same for the second date. Third date he told me that he was married in China and just wanted a gf in the US while he was here for graduate school. I let him take me out one more time but I made sure to shop to my hearts content and I blocked him on everything after that. The nerve.
I stopped internet dating and dating in general when I was 31… I’m now 40 and it’s the best decision I’ve ever made! When you stop GAF about men, learn to be happy on your own and build your life… you’ll wonder why you didn’t do it sooner. Plus you’ll live longer and keep your sanity… when you stop letting dudes play mind games with you, you’ll see them for what they really are 🤙🏻
This is the prime secret "learn to be happy on your own". There is a life to be lived. It shouldn’t depend on whether a man comes in or out of your life. You have to not be affected by them. I used to love the attention and validation and now I couldn’t care less they’re falling over me more than ever 😂🤣 You also ideally want a guy who too can be happy on his own! Then it’s a match. I find desperate guys so unattractive ❤
@@bm5_5_5 Spot on! Especially about finding a guy that’s happy on his own too… it’s so important to have alone time, hang out with mates and not live in each other’s pockets 💖
Last girl is projecting. She highly attracted to him. So everytime he text her, she goes from 0 to 100 and invest everything, instead of accepting when he told you in the very beginning he doesnt want nothing serious. Soon as he matched with her again, she jumped back into his arms.
@AllUserNamesAreUsed but why assume? Why not ask him what he is looking for? This is the issue, too much covert expectations without just asking the person what theh are looking for. He clearly had no issues telling her he wasnt looking for anything serious, she could of found that out on day 1
@AllUserNamesAreUsed In the beginning, when he said that she was "doing too much" just for asking what his schedule was so that they could make plans to meet up, that's when she should've cut him loose. He bugged way the hell out over that question. That should've been an instant turn off for her because (even he said it later down the road) it showed that he has some anger issues to blow up like that. Her deciding to move forward with him, and even sleeping with him after knowing all of this is how she played herself. And that is what @zero1188 is talking about. He didn't hide anything from her-she just refused to listen because of their "instant attraction" to one another.
@@zero1188 She did find out. Listen to her story. SHE. KEPT. GOING. BACK. He told her MORE THAN ONCE "don't get attached." And she went back after each time. He blocked her. SHE CAME BACK. And went on another date with him and in her words got intense.AGAIN. HE PUSHED HER FACE AWAY WHEN SHE TRIED TO HUG HIM. She continued to deal with this guy. He didn't give mixed signals. He told her he wasn't interested several times. She kept giving him attention and probably sex and he kept taking it. She tried to overcome his verbal warnings of don't get attached with sex. This man TOLD HER and she tried to bulldoze right through that. She's too pretty to be so desperate.
The woman who 'dated' David hasn't figured out that he has multiple personalities... David probably doesn't even know himself.. All the voices in his head keep arguing with each other....
David don't have multiple personalities. David likes playing with the heads of low self-esteem girls like her. Listen to ger around 10:25 when she's talking about HE WENT THROUGH ALL THESE HOOPS TO GET BACK WITH HER....... No he didn't. She went through hoopsand loops to get back to him. She's gaslighting herself.
No. He needed a date to seem successful when his friend was in town. She served her purpose for a weekend. Weekend over, he became cruel again, to get rid of her.
the girl who was dating david was just chaotic. she said he tried so hard to get back into her life when in reality all he did was unblocked you and matched you on hinge and you did all the rest of the work. he really didnt do much and didnt even fully apologize.
You could literally tell a man "I am looking for a man to get a mortgage with and to have a large wedding at Lake Tahoe by next week" and they would say "hahaha without me tho? Send pics? U free tonite at 3AM?"
If you used common sense you would understand why? Learn how to give men want they want and quit trying to get men to do what you want …. It’ll never work
The craziest part is when you remember she said this happened to her back to back 3 times. She was desperate, I wonder if the connection was one sided and she was being a "turn off"
Story 2. Why are you giving red flag David so many chances? You should have blocked him the moment he ghosted you the first time. This man told that woman so many times that he’s not interested and she didn’t take a hint. .
Hello! And I dont give a damn how many Instagram stories he watches! When a man tells you he doesn't want a relationship and you know you do, you are supposed to move around! Or at the very least continue to date others while dating him.
i’m confused about where all this “effort” is from david…sounds like he was keeping up w her on socials, but besides that he was giving nothing. SHE was the one who kept sending follow up texts and taking him back. he supposedly sent an apology to a blocked number, but his instagram wasn’t blocked so he easily could have sent it there too. my guess is, he never sent any type of apology, and he’s in his sassy bad b*tch era. he wants to be the catch😒
That girl with the Asian guy tried way too hard. The moment somebody ghosts you and acts weird to you the first time, THAT'S IT! If you continue to worry about them YOU ARE DESPERATE!
I may be way off but I feel like him being Asian may be important…culturally. She’s not someone he’ll take home to his parents. He was playing with her.
I've always been a solo dolo kinda girl. I'm a introvert and truly enjoy my solitude in private and in public. Ya'll love to psycho analyze people and think everything solo is a trauma response, when its not.. If I wanna go out, I'll go by myself and enjoy myself. Fun activities, I take my kids. We have a blast. Want to have a drink or some delicious food, go by yourself, invite your girlfriends, family etc. There more to life than chasing relationships with men.
am 31, no kids and a nervous introvert if out alone so i want at least one person with me but the trouble now is finding friends who arent looking for male attention when we go out
Lol I’ve met guys organically and they’re no different. Most single guys are on apps even if you aren’t. I’ve ran into guys in public that I’ve seen on apps.. they’re the same guys you’re meeting in the bar, at the cafe, at art club, book club, the museum, etc.
The cap lady is FRUSTRATING me with that story. HOW did she allow the whole mess happen so many times? And she still wanted him to justify his bad behaviour numerous times. Good grief WTF!!!
Ladies, be aware there are thousands of videos and books teaching men how to be assholes to “be cool around woman”. When they are inconsistent and anything less than kind, just run away. Stop trying to figure them out, giving the benefit of the doubt and second chances. Just run, he is playing a cat and mouse game.
I strongly agree. Being inconsistent while trying to win your sympathy with stories of being hurt by women, depressed, or blah are just manipulative ploys to reel women in. It stirs the instinct to figure out and fix someone. If it is inconsistent or confusing, it is all wrong. He is playing games. Just run.
You look amazing Priscilla ❤ I agree it seems women aren't safe regardless if online or on dating apps- i wish us all healing and happiness moving forward
The dating apps pull you in from the beginning with all the the attention you get. Then….they give you the same matches over and over. Most seem to be fake profiles or men who have no intentions on finding anything serious, yet in their profile they’re ready to find “the one”.
I deleted dating apps in 2018 cause after a while it felt like emotional abuse! I actually felt anxiety each time I got a message. Was fully having a triggered reaction. To many men and they were insane.
For me, the major problem with dating apps is that "how you meet them is how you lose them." My thought process was that the app is only a tool, once you found someone and you are committed, you don't need the app anymore. The people I met through apps proved me wrong. They never left the apps or they went back to the apps, even after months and years of "commitment", including marriage, and they all hid and lied about it. Apps are too easy, too available, too little effort. I think people should meet organically, in real life, and if they don't- hey, that's a sign it's not meant to happen.
To be honest I don’t think it’s the dating apps. I experienced all of this 10 years ago dating in NYC. I think this is just how a lot of men are now. At this point I’m just over dating. I’ve got goals ✨
Gen X here. Dating apps are not necessary for dating. Up til the early 2000s, people dated just fine without these apps. I only met 1 man online and it wasn’t through an app. Apps are just used by men for hookups. Deleting them is an excellent idea for all sane women.
It can work successfully for age range especially ladies 30 to late 30s. I met my husband on there just before I turned 33. Our first date was a few days after I turned 33. Three men pursued me for marriage. I eliminated two men within two months. My husband proposed at 5 and a half months of dating. We married on the one year anniversary of our first date a few days after I turned 34. I’ll give birth to our first child a month and a half after I turn 35. Pretty much a husband within one year and a baby within two years. I highly recommend for women who are around 29-39 and also women who work from home
@@DrKrysRacquelI think dating, marriage, and kids within 2-3 yrs is only a flex for older women. That's very much a gen X and older mindset. Millennial women and younger are not interested in the 'but I got a man' nonsense because we're going to check back on you and that 'unicorn' in a few years after you've seen his phone and browser history. Only narcs and cluster Bs want to get a woman trapped as soon as possible before the mask slips. Moving that fast is ill advised and desperate, a great way to end up with a con artist.
I quit the apps and dating sites years ago. The ROI was trash and it will diminish your mental health if you let it. I’ve honestly found dating to be a mostly a waste of time no matter how I did it. The only thing I’ve found for it is to become truly indifferent to romantic relationships. If one comes along that’s worth having, then that’s great. If it doesn’t, the answer for me isn’t to settle for crumbs and dysfunction, but to choose myself, my peace, and my dignity.
CAP GIRLY…you did this to yourself. WHY did you allow this man to breadcrumb and eat them up??? You accepted and participated in this behavior. The fact that you contacted him after you saw he was on a date asking for an explanation is crazy. He owes you no explanation and you gave your valuable energy to him. WHY??? A woman that values herself and is comfortable with who she is will not participate in this foolishness.
I think a lot of men use them to take out their frustration on random women, without any consequence or accountability. Men on dating apps are demented. I have an entirely different experience with men in person than I do with men on dating apps, so clearly it's not me
I deleted those dating apps years ago because men were asking for inappropriate pics or looking to hookup and not looking for love. Plus, men go on these apps to help build their ego by hurting women with mind games. They want women to chase them.
As an introvert I understand the appeal of dating apps. Talking to new people in real life is stressfull, sometimes when you like someone it can even be scary. But this is something I've experienced: when I talk to someone without any expectations, I am so much more relaxed. It gives me the oppertunity to get to know someone and they get to see me as I am. A dating app will not give you the chance of meeting someone and talking without expectations. I truely believe that the whole: 'love finds you, don't look for it' works like what I've just described. Love and attraction grow when meeting the person. Selecting someone based upon a profile (picture) will give you a chance with a curated piece of someone, usually saying all the right things just to hook you. But when you go into a conversation with someone, for example the person you have just danced with in your danceclass, having the knowledge that you are a fun person and you enjoy talking to them because they were nice and had a nice vibe. Chances are that you can have a great connection, even if that does not grow into grand love affair.
I feel like guys treat dating apps as some sort of catalog for prostitutes. Basically they're just on there looking and seeing what they could buy for cheap. I've tried so many dating apps. I'm so happy I stopped using them years ago. It's not worth it
A joke is not a lie. If a man cracks a joke at your expense, he is JOKING but not LYING ☝️👀🤷♂️ * same rules apply to anyone making jokes at your expense
David didn’t make any effort…all he did was cast his rod and she took the bait every time, despite him telling her he doesn’t want a commitment and that she mustn’t get too attached. Ladies, believe a man when he tells you who he is and what he wants from you. Normalise walking away as soon as you know he isn’t aligned to what you want, now or in the future.
To the girl who was talking about the Asian guy David, sis don't you ever let a man play in your face like that over and over again. How many times did that man need to let you know he wasn't tryna deal with you like that? Saying "he tried so hard to get back in contact with me" , how sis? You came up on his Hinge again and he swiped again that's it, then YOU reached out TWICE, once on text and another time on the app when he DIDN'T REPLY ON TEXT. He was not "trying so hard" to contact you. That man was just on the app swiping and you went out of your way to reingage with him and give him access to you again so he could play in your face again. 🤦🏾♀️ If you're going out of your way to let him know the door is still open and he can still get it, yeah he's probably gonna take you up on that offer. Why wouldn't he take advantage when he can block you, ghost you, tell you he don't want you, and still have access to you when he feels like it. We gotta have more respect for ourselves ladies. For real.
The lady that dated David. SMH She allowed herself to get played by accepting this man back in her life after he clearly showed her who he was. Desperate for a man is never good.
Babe woman on 12:00 that guy took her on a wild goose chase. Block him and leave that man alone. You see him on hinge? Skip him. I’m hoping she didn’t sleep with him 🤦🏾♀️
I’m guessing she absolutely did and obviously right away otherwise why mention “crazy amazing chemistry and animal like attraction”. No shame in it, but she clearly did.
Someone brought up a valid point. Meeting people in real life doesn’t necessarily rectify the issue either bc those people could still be on dating apps too. We all collectively have to take a stand and enforce higher standards so that men will have to adapt to those standards. If we don’t act collectively, most of us will really have to struggle to filter through a lot of people who don’t mean well. If we don’t do this for us, then at least do it so that the next generations of girls do not have to suffer due to our inability to act collectively and enforce standards. We need to take our power back together. If we all try to think individually it’s going to be difficult for a long time.
I thumbed you up, but I do not necessarily think the male population is fixable, so I am iffy on that one line. 99% are trash. The only possibility of change is gradual evolution over generations-if we bring them to the very brink of extinction and nature forces biological change to preserve the species. In their current state, they are little more than animals, not fit for bonding, partnership, child-rearing, or anything much else of use.
I definitely wish that women collectively raised their standards and not tolerate b.s. from men. My ex is a malignant narcissistic sociopath and was in a new relationship 6 months after I dumped him yet still trying to see me.
Dating is literally a nightmare. It's so bad, that when you do find a great man, your own single girlfriends will hit on your new boyfriend in front of you, because that man is a unicorn these days, and no man is more attractive to a woman, than when another woman finds interest in that man. True story and this recently happened to me. This man is successful financially, dresses well, and is good looking. Fortunately my boyfriend wasn't interested in her bimbo advances, but women are part of the problem as well. We have to own, the fact women put themselves on these dating sites, as a billboard advertisement for their desperation, that ends up just giving booty calls away for free. Either way, the dating world sucks. I haven't dated in 6 six years, no relationship or sex, until recently. Fortunately we met the old fashioned way, and introduced to each by friends. I would never do online dating period. But women also need to support other women, and stop being in competition with one another.
Pickmes are terrible, but I wouldn't for a second think they he wasn't at least somewhat receptive to her advances. Women hate being rejected outright, and so I highly doubt he did that. Unlike males, women are able to accept the answer, 'No.'
Even if one could find love on the dating app, you would have to go through 10 traumatic break-ups or disappointments. Trauma chips away at your soul and takes months but most of the time years to recover and heal. It's not worth going through all of that. Trauma also messes with your ability to trust again.
Meet my husband on a dating app 8 years ago. He was from Spain and thought it was too far, but he was good-looking and had an even better personality. I went there for a month, we traveled around Spain for a month going to every city and having the best time of my life. At the end of the trip we went back to Madrid and I stayed at his parents house, then went I home. He came to live in the US after that, making over 100k, he's a hard worker, talented, very smart and someone I look up to and inspire to be. He has been supporting me in every way. I got really lucky, some people don't, some people do. My first husband I met on a app. He was sexually, verbally and physically abusive and tried to kill me. I think he was a psychopath, I literally had to pack my bags and run away while he was at school. Just like in the real world, you don't know what you're going to get, but I learned a lesson after that.
Wow. That's scary. I honestly don't trust these foreign males that marry American women. They want a VISA or citizenship through you. I guarantee his life improved immensely after moving to America with you. Do not trust these males 100%, ever.
I have several friends who met their husband/wife on match. But this was back in the early 2000s. Then online dating was seen as weird and people kind of looked down on it. So I feel like the people on there- many of them not all- were very genuine.
It is sooo true! I was in Kenya & met with my old University friends. I came alone.. One of the guys in our group lives in Chicago. He’d hardly been in Kenya 3 days but hot on his arms was this beautiful girl. When she wasn’t in earshot he’d talk about her like she was there as his tool.. had little respect for her . Later they went to his hotel. Men have relegated women to commodities they can purchase at their whims. I’m happily single & focusing on my goals. Just listening to what my friends go thru is enough to keep me away from the dating app scene/circus 😂
Wow…these stories make me feel better about the nonsense I endured. I am not the only one. Online dating was my last hope and the reason I finally gave up on dating. Single, celibate, mentally stable, and happy now!
What about the fact that a lot of women get UNALIVED from men from on dating apps too and they cover it up?? Don’t do it LADIES!! Don’t waste time online on dating apps!! The beginnings of good days on dating apps are GONE!! When those apps started it was good , now it’s people getting unalived & cheated!! Don’t waste your time there!! Stay home don’t go anywhere, work a job and hope you can avoid the killers!!
I never used dating apps so I don't really know the whole dynamic🤔 but during my military service I remember seeing my horny collegues using those apps extensively. It seems like dating apps aren't made for those looking for a real relationship. At the end of the day it's better to look for environment with the kind of people/mindset/behaviour you want (but ngl I am glad I don't live in United states). I feel sorry for the women who have been deceived by dating apps and wish you the best🙏
Honestly, understanding attachment styles and the consequences of $ex, I’m not surprised she went back. That’s a mental game. It’s honestly something you don’t want to be part of, but something in your past makes you feel like you can right past wrongs if this thing goes right. There is a psychology behind it, so I get it. The guy is the issue. She’s valid. Why get on a dating app, rematch, reach out ? Why is HE playing games with her? That’s not cool. Something in her isn’t strong enough so she’s going back. That’s emotional manipulation. The only good thing is this highlights the issue and maybe she can do the work and dig deeper to find a solution to this problem. But I’m not about to paint her as a victim as if he isn’t gaslighting and being extremely rude, cold and uncaring. Nah. He’s the problem.
David girl should have cut him out of her life the first time he ghosted her. She needs to get pride, respect, and standards. She accepted the breadcrumbs and then he realized he can dangle her and put her on the shelf and play with her when he wants.
David was hooking up, sis. You assumed he had good intentions and that his bare minimum meant he really wanted to pursue you. However, he didn't do much to get attention from you. He told you early on not to get attached. Know your worth, and don't give a guy a second chance to waste your time and use your body when it's clear he is unserious.
Sex isn't just for men. We also love having sex. By saying close your legs equals sex is only for men and that's the payment to men for being a "good girl". That's not fair. So my vag is a commodity?? It's not, it's just a vag, it's not payment for an exchange of goods. And being married isn't a prize. I can always tell a male worshipper when I read one.. especially a black male worshipper.
@@rosseryankeegirli mean tbh whether you enjoy sex too or not isn’t even the point anymore because majority of men still don’t deserve to have sex with you. so it doesn’t change the premise fr.
My friend is constantly meeting gross and weird men on apps. The latest, she met a guy who wouldnt wipe his ass and she could smell his body odor. YET she was still considering hooking up with him. 😂😂 I was so mad at her.
I can go on for days about this topic. All the people that I know who have success or long-term relationships did not meet on dating apps. I just stopped my subscription service because the dating pool was just not it. Honestly, ladies, it's time to flip the script on these men. Decenter men and having a relationship and live your life happily and single. Let us be the ones who are scarce and make them step up and put in efforts. I remember Stephanie from 90 day fiance saying this: "I'm stepping into the dating pool. And there is a lot of pee in it" and trust me Dating Apps are 80% of the pee in the dating pool. I am writing it off and not touching another dating app for a long time.
Y'all are making it waaaaaayyyy too easy for these men. The girl tells her story in the car with the cap on needs some boundaries, and standards baaddd. Why are y'all giving someone a million chances?
This is not an app issue ! I’ve had men come back from far more then her story, stop overlooking mistreatment. You can come back ( possibly ) but walls are up and legs aren’t open , they’ll fall off eventually. Demand more ladies.
I think the apps have changed over the years. I met my ex-husband on a dating app. We dated for many years before we married. I don't regret it despite getting divorced. I've had better boyfriends by meeting them in places of mutual interest with mutual friends/acquaintances though.
Sad to see Hinge in particular go downhill like this. I met my wife on Hinge and overall had a positive experience. Definitely don't waste your energy where you are not wanted
Too many married single men on there
Exactly! That’s what these women can’t seem to figure out.
And they want nothing but sexual interactions 😏
Didn’t these married men date enough ? 😂
@@MelaniaRose ikr. They always come with some sob story when they get found out too. Some even begin with a sob story to get pity dates. It’s pathetic and sad.
@@MelaniaRose No because they married to keep the gf they were cheating and dragging along aka shutup marriage. They never really want to marry, they just feel sociatal and family pressure to, and they want offspring to control to push their own egos. They're always single if wifey isn't around.
6:00 that story went on for far too long. Ladies, LETS NORMALIZE CUTTING PEOPLE OFF EARLY AND OFTEN. When someone shows you who they are take it as their truth. You do not have to put up with that level of foolishness. He strung her along because he could and she accepted it. There is no reason to take disrespectful people back. Forget second chances. Let them figure it out with the next one. You don’t have to stick around to find out “why”. We are not rehabilitation centers for broken men.
Exactly! Like Lynn Toler said, "don't let a man tell you more then once that he doesn't want you."
BIG facts, I was done when she said she kept responding. Like why???
I think his delusion caused a bit of a brain damage where he thinks he's the princess women should pine after because He has some unresolved issues with his mommy
FAR too long 😖
@@Sunny4_44 codependency is a helluva drug!
There is already a lack of women on these apps, imagine if we as women could start a social movement to reduce it even more 🤔
I've heard men complain about how unfair it is that they barely get any matches while most women get plenty and how damaging it is for their self-esteem. But they never talk about the fact that there are more young men than young women in this world and that most men in most countries have to make a serious effort to find a girlfriend. Doing the quantity strategy on dating apps by giving out as many likes as possible is not "making an effort" ...
It’s too late. Men have evolved we only want hook ups
@nehalilisays Where did u get this heap of bulls**t from lol? It's almost like u made it up. There is no country on this earth that men outnumber women. And men from other countries never have a hard time finding women. Women in other countries have the common sense to choose their husband while they are still young n pretty. It is women in the US that wanna play the field until their 30, then complain that men good men don't wanna take them seriously
She never should have forgiven David! He showed her f*boy tendencies from the start, and she still kept giving him paces and chances. You played yourself sis!
Attractive young woman. Sad but as the story went on, all I could think about was for her to "bounce". There was never going to be closure. Hopefully, she learned from David.
Right
Victim blaming at its finest. The internet NEVER holds men accountable. It's ALWAYS the women's fault....always😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂riiiiiggghhhhhttttt.😂😂😂😂😂
She didn’t “play herself”, she showed up full of love and affection and he pretended to be nice. He wasn’t.
@@gingerfellah5665 sis stop .. this why these men do this .. real talk she played herself .. stop giving love and affection to ppl who don’t value you or time to even be giving love and attention. That’s like pouring water in a cup full of holes .. knowing the cup has holes and still pouring the water then wondering why the cup not holding water .. that’s madness
When i tell you dating apps are the most depressing thing. I almost cried at how ridiculous it even feels to be on one. Hookups hookups hookups hookups poly threesome hookups like PLEEEASE STOPPP
Yeah I remember when they got really popular during 2013 2014 as it was a huge hookup scene. I was so baffled bc my mom found her second husband using one a couple years prior. All I heard was girls talking about hooking up on tinder etc all the time. I was so disgusted with it.
It’s always “ married” women on there, looking for another woman for “ her and her man” . Lordddd I get so embarrassed seeing that! So he has you- and y’all together,
But you gotta get online to help him find some other chick to screw on??? What???
It only becomes a hookup when he realises that you offer him nothing else
Or guys who stand you up because you're no longer hooking up (or standing up people who never hook up)
@@thepursuitofknowledge5245 That makes no sense when they are on dating apps for the sole purpose of hooking up and nothing else. They want no commitment or relationship, just s3x and wh0ring around and then wonder why women don't want them.
What shocks😮 me is that people think dating the "old fashioned" way is any better. Look what our mothers, grandmothers, and great grandmothers went through way before dating apps were on the scene. I met my ex-husband and previous boyfriends at church, at family gatherings, at school, at the park while walking, at the mall, and several other places. They turned out to be no better than men on dating apps. They all want the same thing whether you meet them organically or online: for s3x, domestic services, and other financial benefits.
True they all want the same thing.
You are correct because these in person relationships aren't working out any better.
Exactly we know the nature of men now and they're no better ❤
True.
One difference I've noticed is that the men who approach me organically tend to be at least age-appropriate and not ugly. But on dating apps, I got approached by all types including the ones who are twice my age, with grey hair and pot bellies. 🤮
It affected my self-esteem enough to make me delete the app. I didn't want to devalue myself by being in a space where I am accessible for these men.
Facts! The whole dating process whether on the streets or online is predatory. We are just making ourselves easier prey on the apps because they can just swipe through and take their pick.
Offline dating can be bad, but if you’re on dating apps you’re setting yourself up. It be liars, cheaters, weirdos, freaks, fix-me men, avoidant or sassy men, overall bums, predators on there. Some dating apps like Hinge had good intentions but men perverted it. Go about your life and pray for the right one to find you fr
Yes!
Men should be seeking you and not the other way around.
Men ruin everything
Yep... All.. ALL of the creeps are on dating apps. If you want to experience hell in a relationship.. Just use a dating app. 🤷♀️
@@genevieveaniko6492 💯
Fix me men lol
I don’t do dating apps. I can get TONS of matches, but the guys literally expect me to drive over right away and give him some.
So true. It's tiring
And those are the kind who hate baby mamas and child support…
Always claiming women own babies on random men- yet that’s what they choose to do in life.
@@AmberColeman-gq1wn exactly
That tells me everything I need to know on the type of guys you were swiping right on. Those guys were way above your level. Try aiming lower
@@thepursuitofknowledge5245 Exactly lol... These women always wanna choose men that are above their level, then act surprised when all he wants is sex. They swipe right on the good looking man standing next to the Mercedes Benz, meanwhile a bunch of hard working blue collar guys got swiped to the left with no second thought. Lol..... Men know their level, women do not
I agree with the other commenters. As women, we have to take accountability. We have to STOP accepting the bare minimum from these men. I deleted the apps years ago. I learned REALLY difficult lessons that I’m not trying to repeat. I’m happy being single right now and I love my peace. I’m not dealing with BS from men anymore.
Men not dealing with bs from women anymore. Everyone be single and happy!
Right there with you gal ❤
One guy told me that he assumes that if a woman is on a dating app, she is there for sex. Some guys have serious issues with projections. I haven't bothered with dating apps for years, and im a lot happier.
That's because all dating apps start out as places for people to meet. Then men show up to warp every last one them. Then the bots show up to pretend to be women to exploit these men because they're too dim to realise they're scammers. Then men control the narrative, which is "if you're on a dating app, you're looking for a hook up." Yes, it is 100% male projection because that's all they care about.
Makes sense, honestly. For the most part, an average looking woman will be able to pull most men around them.
@@kikialeaki1850 It doesn't make sense to me. I for the most part was going on dating sites to actually date. It doesn't matter in that case whether or not most men would be with most women. I think a lot of men would just be happier if they went to a site for that purpose or just called a pro.
@@fitthickchic6732 quick, free and easy way to meet people, gain new experiences and get your rocks off, without seeming too raunchy. It literally does matter whether most men would be with most women, that’s what leads to the dating app phenomenon you’re witnessing. “If you can go outside and get almost any guy you want, why are you here?”
@fitthickchic6732 Why else would would men deal with you than for grown-up business? 😂
I don’t wanna be like a catalog item. 🤷🏻♀️ stopped using them years ago.
Exactly
And it's exhausting! People up in your dm's at odd hours, no thanks.
9:49 ugh she’s fully aware she’s accepting breadcrumbs. Take the hint like he said and block him! He’s constantly managing her expectations then being cold so no, he doesn’t like her and is playing games.
Yeah, playing games. I would have ignored him the second time, he probably likes being chased.
Cause I'm like- why would entertain him a second time?
Yesss, sis doesn't understand that she put herself in a position to be played, especially after he had already shown his true colors before they reconnected smh
Yes! And these guys love when you explain how healed you were, and how he’s messed that up. They get off on the power. Women should stop over explaining and block at the very FIRST sign of disrespect
She’s desperate. Dude has made it clear more than once he doesn’t want her. Clowning herself.
Whew! I deleted my dating apps. Liars, scammers, married men lying & acting single, just wanting casual intercourse... Ugh. I can go on & on.
"long story short we reconnected..." Yeah, I'm skipping the rest of this nonsense.
Omg you're so much better than other women! 👏🏿 For you! You're amazing! You've never been fooled or manipulated! Yes! Let's shame women who tell their stories. That's so helpful! Woohoo!
Idiotic.
I have been through this lol. That's why me and him don't talk anymore. I blocked him. Men are so complicated it's very weird to go through. It's almost like a mind game.
@@peachesandpoets SHE WASN'T MANIPULATED. He straight up TOLD her DON'T GET ATTACHED. And she kept going.
He blocked her and she kept coming back.
He told her again DON'T GET ATTACHED. She . Kept. Going.
He pushed her face AWAY. SHE. KEPT. GOING.....
@annjohnson4061 if you don't want someone to get attached to u I would think the logical thing is to just leave them alone to begin with at least that's what I would think
@@shaypope4732Why do you have to bite when someone has told you don’t get attached? Even if they come back you should tell them, you heard the first time.
The dating app isn't the problem. Thats just how rare it is to find a good guy. Its like that anywhere
Dating apps attract the men who are only looking for easy s3x.
Alot of these men who are looking for s3x usually get turned down in real life and they go on dating apps
There really is no such thing as a good guy
The apps are also part of the problem. They deliberately do not match suitable people together to keep you on the app for longer. If the first day you joined you found your perfect match they wouldn’t make any money. When this realisation dawned on me I deleted all the apps (which had been a complete waste of time anyway). I don’t miss them at all
Well dating apps are kinda the problem in a way because there are so many guys on there that just want one thing from a woman and that's sex
@@SSS-qu8cn It sure isn't they are rare nowadays 😕
I’m only 25 but the older I’ve gotten, I have realized we, as ladies, have to stop doing things for “the plot”. Doing so is genuinely dangerous for your physical and mental health. Also, I don’t think we can play the game as they do, especially if you want a long term relationship and they do not. Believe people when they show their true self and remove them from your life.
Facts
This was cap. lol this was what she told herself. She wanted to see if there was a future and she was anxious.
“The Plot” game being played is that men can HURT you. 🧐
True alot women want to confront the men to let them know that they are aware of their shit but it only deepens the hole. Like sis, don’t dig deeper, just climb out, run, and don’t look back. We as women are not here to explain and teach men common decency and respect. Let his buddies do that for him. Seriously just leave without a word. Ghost him PERMANENTLY! Boy bye!👋
Also most of the men are cheaters on the apps! When they act funny/hot/cold, its because you are the dirty secret. Most are married,LTr, engaged. They are not confused, they are using you like a SW, except you are not getting paid!
Yup! Unfortunately smdh
As a online only SW I feel so bad for women still on dating apps . They are doing more work than I do , replying to all these men , going on dates , doing sexual things with them in person and not getting payed 🤦🏽♀️ I make about 10k every month and don’t reply to the messages until I get payed and make it clear I’ll never meet them in person. It only makes men want to invest more $ into you when your not desperate to be with them . I don’t understand why women still go on those apps when there are more productive and safer ways to associate with men nowadays
@@jasminexxx3911 I agree, civilian women are very desperate and do way too much. They’re f**king the first date like horny rats, then crying on Are We Dating The Same Guy about getting treated horribly and running to clinics. xy will always respect sw’rs, they pay for what they value.
Chile I met someone in Hinge, dated for 2 months and found out this fucker had a whole long term girlfriend. She called my phone and told me how they have been together for a year, and this man was on a whole dating app.
@@jasminexxx3911say what now😭😭😭 sign me up, these men are beyond annoying all of them
And ladies, don't think that this only applies to younger men. Some older men aren't any much better. I'm in my 50's and quit dating years ago. I prefer being single and having a peace of mind.
I’m in my 50’s too, not actively dating but I’m still up for it. I’ve raised the bar on men and that’s the way it’ll stay. I had a fun sexy time in 2021 and had a mini relationship and I kinda got it out of my system. I’ve got stuff to do.
Men be 45, 55, still looking to replace Momma after their ex-wife got tired of their bullshit.
Ma’am toward the end started making my head hurt. David just wanted her to chase him.
Absolutely. He wants her to date him but he does not want to date her.
Felt so frustrated for her. Even if she accepted breadcrumbs, it was clear he was the problem and needed to get his shit together. But no, David decided to play games and guys like him have a pattern of playing others for fools
It feels like majority of women go on the apps when we're at a better mental space, but boys seem to go on whenever and are in the weirdest head spaces.
You may be right. I was kissing a tinder date and he said “I’m not looking for anything serious”, but I had learned to ask “may I ask why?”, he ended up weeping on my couch because he was still in love with someone else who had pursued her dream job in a country very far away. Imagine if I had slept with him without this conversation, I would have been left wondering what was wrong with me? That would have been dead wrong. He was clearly not ready to date. I said kindly “why are you on tinder, it’s clear you are not ready?” I felt sorry for him in the end.
@@gingerfellah5665 he deserved it. It's great that she left him and that he's miserable. He's clearly not a good or considerate person. Good for you for not being his toilet that evening.
@@gingerfellah5665she may be right... She may be wrong
@@ds37215how is he not
@@gingerfellah5665omg yes so many on the rebound....
The David girl is silly, like girl you know what this man is like what is wrong with you
Thank you. As a girls girl who wants all girls to win, I am also about respecting yourself and others. HE TOLD HER "DON'T GET ATTACHED". If I date someone you damn sure I want to get attached. I would've thanked him for the honesty and moved the F on.
She can't act like he is at fault when she is the crazy one who contacted a man who BLOCKED HER.
Just a no.
@@annjohnson4061 That "girl's girl" rhetoric quickly became toxic AF. I can't take anyone seriously who uses it anymore. The sell-by date for terms is shorter than ever now, or maybe it was always toxic and loaded.
@@LadyAstarionAncunin The term is for those of us who really stand by women and want them to win.
But it has been co opted by too many women who want their friends to "yas girl" them in their delusion so they can feel good for a little while.
But truly being there for women has made me friends.
And not "yas girling" foolishness has kept me away from violent encounters with foolish women who want to deal with foolish men.
Another episode of why being single is the solution.
Or go travel and go meet outside like the old school
😂🎯
Yes! Much love to all single ladies out there from a single lady ❤
Women coming together is the solution
At 11:00 he was dating multiple women like she should’ve been. She was getting too attached and paying him too much attention. Ladies Find hobbies and friends. Not men (wild animals) to keep
Keeping your legs closed will cut out 90% of the trouble with these guys. You win when you don't give in.
Yes but then you don’t get laid and that’s a bit of a drag.
A vibrator always solves the problem 😂
@@gingerfellah5665 the average male is no good in bed. Most can't please a woman, especially consistently.
Men are being replaced everyday with toys that actually give women orgasms. We aren’t missing out by not having sex with you and it’s less drama which is a plus.
@@gingerfellah5665Why do you need to get laid? Sex is not a necessity for women, there are other things you could do with your body and time.
I was on bumble, which is a female lead app, and honestly it just felt like it gave men on there the excuse to be even more lazy.
It was supposed to be about empowering women, but really it just gave men license to lean into being even more dull and predictable tbh. I ditched it last year, haven’t looked back.
Agreed. Plus, I won't put past it that some men use it to take "revenge" on women by not answering or ghosting you. They do the same strategy of liking every single match and see where it lands.
Men don't ever ever grow up. They are forever
15. So I stopped trying
This is true, I'm happily married but still they drive will drive you crazy😅
💯
Forever 5 I say. 💀
BM are mentally stunted at age 15.
There's no reason for us to grow up, world is trash
ma'am after david responded like that the 1st time, you should have blocked him vs waiting on him to reach out to you again. they know how women respond to rejection:( women please focus on healthy esteem!
Yeah, he only wants xes, and she doesn’t seem to get the point.
@@toscadonna all common sense seems to be redacted when it comes to a man. they may not be literate but they have a great sense for desperation!
Mind you, she said this happened to her 3 times in a row..
I stoped dealing and blocked a guy like that I met in real life he was bread crumbing me. Reached out when he felt like it and he would never stay always had to leave it was always an excuse when I need him he’s nowhere to be found everything was on his terms. He was mad I stopped Talkin to him I didn’t care deleted everything concerning him. He still my stories till this day 😂😂😂
She should have said she didn’t want a relationship either. I dated a Chinese guy and he took me out to eat and shopping on the first date. Same for the second date. Third date he told me that he was married in China and just wanted a gf in the US while he was here for graduate school. I let him take me out one more time but I made sure to shop to my hearts content and I blocked him on everything after that. The nerve.
I stopped internet dating and dating in general when I was 31… I’m now 40 and it’s the best decision I’ve ever made! When you stop GAF about men, learn to be happy on your own and build your life… you’ll wonder why you didn’t do it sooner.
Plus you’ll live longer and keep your sanity… when you stop letting dudes play mind games with you, you’ll see them for what they really are 🤙🏻
This is the prime secret "learn to be happy on your own". There is a life to be lived. It shouldn’t depend on whether a man comes in or out of your life. You have to not be affected by them. I used to love the attention and validation and now I couldn’t care less they’re falling over me more than ever 😂🤣 You also ideally want a guy who too can be happy on his own! Then it’s a match. I find desperate guys so unattractive ❤
@@bm5_5_5 Spot on! Especially about finding a guy that’s happy on his own too… it’s so important to have alone time, hang out with mates and not live in each other’s pockets 💖
Last girl is projecting. She highly attracted to him. So everytime he text her, she goes from 0 to 100 and invest everything, instead of accepting when he told you in the very beginning he doesnt want nothing serious. Soon as he matched with her again, she jumped back into his arms.
@AllUserNamesAreUsed but why assume? Why not ask him what he is looking for? This is the issue, too much covert expectations without just asking the person what theh are looking for. He clearly had no issues telling her he wasnt looking for anything serious, she could of found that out on day 1
@AllUserNamesAreUsed In the beginning, when he said that she was "doing too much" just for asking what his schedule was so that they could make plans to meet up, that's when she should've cut him loose. He bugged way the hell out over that question. That should've been an instant turn off for her because (even he said it later down the road) it showed that he has some anger issues to blow up like that.
Her deciding to move forward with him, and even sleeping with him after knowing all of this is how she played herself. And that is what @zero1188 is talking about. He didn't hide anything from her-she just refused to listen because of their "instant attraction" to one another.
@@zero1188 She did find out. Listen to her story. SHE. KEPT. GOING. BACK. He told her MORE THAN ONCE "don't get attached." And she went back after each time.
He blocked her. SHE CAME BACK. And went on another date with him and in her words got intense.AGAIN.
HE PUSHED HER FACE AWAY WHEN SHE TRIED TO HUG HIM. She continued to deal with this guy. He didn't give mixed signals.
He told her he wasn't interested several times. She kept giving him attention and probably sex and he kept taking it. She tried to overcome his verbal warnings of don't get attached with sex.
This man TOLD HER and she tried to bulldoze right through that. She's too pretty to be so desperate.
I stupidly thought I'd see what's on dating apps, started speaking to a guy I matched with and he started talking about getting a hotel. BLOCKED 🚫 😕
The woman who 'dated' David hasn't figured out that he has multiple personalities... David probably doesn't even know himself.. All the voices in his head keep arguing with each other....
SHIZOPHRENIA is real. Move on after you see the signs. There is no way to make sense out of nonsense.
😂😂
David don't have multiple personalities. David likes playing with the heads of low self-esteem girls like her.
Listen to ger around 10:25 when she's talking about HE WENT THROUGH ALL THESE HOOPS TO GET BACK WITH HER.......
No he didn't. She went through hoopsand loops to get back to him. She's gaslighting herself.
Is it giving schizophrenia or is it giving narcissistic to you?
No. He needed a date to seem successful when his friend was in town. She served her purpose for a weekend. Weekend over, he became cruel again, to get rid of her.
the girl who was dating david was just chaotic. she said he tried so hard to get back into her life when in reality all he did was unblocked you and matched you on hinge and you did all the rest of the work. he really didnt do much and didnt even fully apologize.
You could literally tell a man "I am looking for a man to get a mortgage with and to have a large wedding at Lake Tahoe by next week" and they would say "hahaha without me tho? Send pics? U free tonite at 3AM?"
If you used common sense you would understand why? Learn how to give men want they want and quit trying to get men to do what you want …. It’ll never work
Not the point being proven lol
@@Dayxh8 yea good luck being single, you'll selfish
@@nurseash_travels right 😂
@@Dayxh8 good luck on your lonely trip
The girl with the Asian guy did that to herself. She should’ve been done with him the very first time. I got serious second hand embarrassment.
The craziest part is when you remember she said this happened to her back to back 3 times. She was desperate, I wonder if the connection was one sided and she was being a "turn off"
Story 2. Why are you giving red flag David so many chances? You should have blocked him the moment he ghosted you the first time. This man told that woman so many times that he’s not interested and she didn’t take a hint. .
Hello! And I dont give a damn how many Instagram stories he watches! When a man tells you he doesn't want a relationship and you know you do, you are supposed to move around! Or at the very least continue to date others while dating him.
@@MsParty216 right! This man was playing in her face and she just let him. Never let a man tell you twice that he doesn’t want you.
He who FINDS a wife, finds a good thing.
This is my mantra !! I refuse to settle this is biblical and if my God is real then that’s what I will do ..
i’m confused about where all this “effort” is from david…sounds like he was keeping up w her on socials, but besides that he was giving nothing. SHE was the one who kept sending follow up texts and taking him back. he supposedly sent an apology to a blocked number, but his instagram wasn’t blocked so he easily could have sent it there too. my guess is, he never sent any type of apology, and he’s in his sassy bad b*tch era. he wants to be the catch😒
I don’t understand why she kept reconnecting, this sounds like low self esteem. I could never lol, I have anger issues
@@Enriquez2222 girlll ok, like why keep chasing him?? She really liked him for whatever reason, she needs to get out more lol
@@Enriquez2222Never related to something more in my life lol. My anger issues come in handy here
That girl with the Asian guy tried way too hard. The moment somebody ghosts you and acts weird to you the first time, THAT'S IT! If you continue to worry about them YOU ARE DESPERATE!
@@jmunroe Facts. She's attractive and surely has options.
This takes experience to understand though. So let’s be more kind to eachother and more rude to these men!
I may be way off but I feel like him being Asian may be important…culturally. She’s not someone he’ll take home to his parents. He was playing with her.
But this ninjas are insane
@@jmunroebelieve me when I say beauty is never taken into account when men want to act up. They do not care regardless
David is the typical narc....
Dating sites are their playgrounds
I've always been a solo dolo kinda girl. I'm a introvert and truly enjoy my solitude in private and in public. Ya'll love to psycho analyze people and think everything solo is a trauma response, when its not.. If I wanna go out, I'll go by myself and enjoy myself. Fun activities, I take my kids. We have a blast. Want to have a drink or some delicious food, go by yourself, invite your girlfriends, family etc. There more to life than chasing relationships with men.
I think me and you are the same person 😂
am 31, no kids and a nervous introvert if out alone so i want at least one person with me but the trouble now is finding friends who arent looking for male attention when we go out
Lol I’ve met guys organically and they’re no different. Most single guys are on apps even if you aren’t. I’ve ran into guys in public that I’ve seen on apps.. they’re the same guys you’re meeting in the bar, at the cafe, at art club, book club, the museum, etc.
Wow! Great point.
Exactly. Most men suck.
david doesn't want you ma'am!!!!
LOL fr tho, like he said take a hint
I dont get why she let him in the second time. He seems to have wanted only sex from her. Why did she not block him?
David is successful and extremely handsome probably
@@gurlycash7394 that's not a reason to get caught up in the carrot on the stick game🏃🏃🏃🏃
@@gurlycash7394and an F-boy which makes it moot.
The cap lady is FRUSTRATING me with that story.
HOW did she allow the whole mess happen so many times? And she still wanted him to justify his bad behaviour numerous times.
Good grief WTF!!!
I tried plenty of fish and the guys i talked to only wanted quick booty call's never again will I do dating apps 🤦.
Because alot of those guys are already in relationships and they just looking for a free side piece.
It's so bad, google hook up sites and both POF and Tinder will come up, these dudes have ruined dating sites
I use to tell them meet me at the bank😅
I tried two dating apps and couldn't continue after a few weeks. Never again. The men on them have weird motives.
All men have weird motives, not just ones on dating apps. The ones I meet in person are creeps too. 🤢🤮
Never used a dating app and hearing these stories help solidify my choice
I have never used dating apps and probably never will. I value my health too much.
Ladies, be aware there are thousands of videos and books teaching men how to be assholes to “be cool around woman”. When they are inconsistent and anything less than kind, just run away. Stop trying to figure them out, giving the benefit of the doubt and second chances. Just run, he is playing a cat and mouse game.
I strongly agree. Being inconsistent while trying to win your sympathy with stories of being hurt by women, depressed, or blah are just manipulative ploys to reel women in. It stirs the instinct to figure out and fix someone. If it is inconsistent or confusing, it is all wrong. He is playing games. Just run.
I don’t understand why women would use dating apps in the first place. 🤷🏾♀️
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes, girls.
I used to use them when I was desperate for companionship. Glad I put all of that behind me!!
It’s from loneliness and desperation
Better yet, why would anyone? The dating pool for men is horrible. For everyone woman there's 20 guys lol
You look amazing Priscilla ❤ I agree it seems women aren't safe regardless if online or on dating apps- i wish us all healing and happiness moving forward
Thanks ☺️ ❤️❤️
@@Priscilla_Boye YW sis ❤️💗💕
The dating apps pull you in from the beginning with all the the attention you get. Then….they give you the same matches over and over. Most seem to be fake profiles or men who have no intentions on finding anything serious, yet in their profile they’re ready to find “the one”.
I deleted dating apps in 2018 cause after a while it felt like emotional abuse! I actually felt anxiety each time I got a message. Was fully having a triggered reaction. To many men and they were insane.
The first time he ghosts me, you're blocked forever, buddy.
For me, the major problem with dating apps is that "how you meet them is how you lose them." My thought process was that the app is only a tool, once you found someone and you are committed, you don't need the app anymore. The people I met through apps proved me wrong. They never left the apps or they went back to the apps, even after months and years of "commitment", including marriage, and they all hid and lied about it. Apps are too easy, too available, too little effort. I think people should meet organically, in real life, and if they don't- hey, that's a sign it's not meant to happen.
Facts. Been there
I deleted them all. Too many rude jerks, creepy old dudes and narcissists. I will stay single for life.
Happily single for 3 years over here ❤
Same, sis, same!🎉
13 years
2 years for me ❤ It's very peaceful.
8 years ❤
Manfree, Childfree and Petfree.
Same!!! I luv my freedom and have so much peace
That "David" guy was already in a relationship... he wanted this pretty lady as his side piece
To be honest I don’t think it’s the dating apps. I experienced all of this 10 years ago dating in NYC. I think this is just how a lot of men are now. At this point I’m just over dating. I’ve got goals ✨
Gen X here. Dating apps are not necessary for dating. Up til the early 2000s, people dated just fine without these apps. I only met 1 man online and it wasn’t through an app. Apps are just used by men for hookups. Deleting them is an excellent idea for all sane women.
It can work successfully for age range especially ladies 30 to late 30s.
I met my husband on there just before I turned 33. Our first date was a few days after I turned 33. Three men pursued me for marriage. I eliminated two men within two months. My husband proposed at 5 and a half months of dating. We married on the one year anniversary of our first date a few days after I turned 34. I’ll give birth to our first child a month and a half after I turn 35.
Pretty much a husband within one year and a baby within two years.
I highly recommend for women who are around 29-39 and also women who work from home
Yeah it sounds exactly what this guy was looking for...SX ONLY and she didn't understand that.
@@DrKrysRacquel sameeee these apps can work out pretty well if you know what you want
@user-dvso41297xb And whoever they’re married to or living with is trapped, and not living any better with these guys either.
@@DrKrysRacquelI think dating, marriage, and kids within 2-3 yrs is only a flex for older women. That's very much a gen X and older mindset. Millennial women and younger are not interested in the 'but I got a man' nonsense because we're going to check back on you and that 'unicorn' in a few years after you've seen his phone and browser history. Only narcs and cluster Bs want to get a woman trapped as soon as possible before the mask slips. Moving that fast is ill advised and desperate, a great way to end up with a con artist.
I quit the apps and dating sites years ago. The ROI was trash and it will diminish your mental health if you let it. I’ve honestly found dating to be a mostly a waste of time no matter how I did it. The only thing I’ve found for it is to become truly indifferent to romantic relationships. If one comes along that’s worth having, then that’s great. If it doesn’t, the answer for me isn’t to settle for crumbs and dysfunction, but to choose myself, my peace, and my dignity.
CAP GIRLY…you did this to yourself. WHY did you allow this man to breadcrumb and eat them up??? You accepted and participated in this behavior. The fact that you contacted him after you saw he was on a date asking for an explanation is crazy. He owes you no explanation and you gave your valuable energy to him. WHY??? A woman that values herself and is comfortable with who she is will not participate in this foolishness.
She seems inexperienced. No one taught her the game. 😂
Poor thing
Why are yall so angry. ? Have some respect for women. Maybe it's because she looks like you 😂😂😂 😊
@@chayo4537shut up lame
I think a lot of men use them to take out their frustration on random women, without any consequence or accountability. Men on dating apps are demented. I have an entirely different experience with men in person than I do with men on dating apps, so clearly it's not me
I deleted those dating apps years ago because men were asking for inappropriate pics or looking to hookup and not looking for love. Plus, men go on these apps to help build their ego by hurting women with mind games. They want women to chase them.
Yea. Dating in general is just too toxic. Ive recently started getting into gardening and the aquarium hobby. Much better than dating ❤
As an introvert I understand the appeal of dating apps. Talking to new people in real life is stressfull, sometimes when you like someone it can even be scary.
But this is something I've experienced: when I talk to someone without any expectations, I am so much more relaxed. It gives me the oppertunity to get to know someone and they get to see me as I am.
A dating app will not give you the chance of meeting someone and talking without expectations.
I truely believe that the whole: 'love finds you, don't look for it' works like what I've just described. Love and attraction grow when meeting the person.
Selecting someone based upon a profile (picture) will give you a chance with a curated piece of someone, usually saying all the right things just to hook you.
But when you go into a conversation with someone, for example the person you have just danced with in your danceclass, having the knowledge that you are a fun person and you enjoy talking to them because they were nice and had a nice vibe. Chances are that you can have a great connection, even if that does not grow into grand love affair.
I feel like guys treat dating apps as some sort of catalog for prostitutes. Basically they're just on there looking and seeing what they could buy for cheap. I've tried so many dating apps. I'm so happy I stopped using them years ago. It's not worth it
The girl in the gre ball cap is desperate as hell!
A joke is not a lie. If a man cracks a joke at your expense, he is JOKING but not LYING ☝️👀🤷♂️
* same rules apply to anyone making jokes at your expense
Word 🎉🎉🎉
I used dating apps at one period in my life… I met my ex… never again will I do dating apps again.
David didn’t make any effort…all he did was cast his rod and she took the bait every time, despite him telling her he doesn’t want a commitment and that she mustn’t get too attached.
Ladies, believe a man when he tells you who he is and what he wants from you. Normalise walking away as soon as you know he isn’t aligned to what you want, now or in the future.
To the girl who was talking about the Asian guy David, sis don't you ever let a man play in your face like that over and over again. How many times did that man need to let you know he wasn't tryna deal with you like that? Saying "he tried so hard to get back in contact with me" , how sis? You came up on his Hinge again and he swiped again that's it, then YOU reached out TWICE, once on text and another time on the app when he DIDN'T REPLY ON TEXT. He was not "trying so hard" to contact you. That man was just on the app swiping and you went out of your way to reingage with him and give him access to you again so he could play in your face again. 🤦🏾♀️ If you're going out of your way to let him know the door is still open and he can still get it, yeah he's probably gonna take you up on that offer. Why wouldn't he take advantage when he can block you, ghost you, tell you he don't want you, and still have access to you when he feels like it. We gotta have more respect for ourselves ladies. For real.
This one. I understand men can be cruel, but women need to also take accountability for themselves.
Yes I want to move to mars I’m over this planet 🌎
It's the planet's fault it's the people
@@user-lk3pj9gi6o 😂😂
Yep ladies we MUST focus on enjoying life ON OUR OWN. ALONE. AYEEEEE LONE!!!
The lady that dated David. SMH She allowed herself to get played by accepting this man back in her life after he clearly showed her who he was. Desperate for a man is never good.
Babe woman on 12:00 that guy took her on a wild goose chase. Block him and leave that man alone. You see him on hinge? Skip him. I’m hoping she didn’t sleep with him 🤦🏾♀️
I’m guessing she absolutely did and obviously right away otherwise why mention “crazy amazing chemistry and animal like attraction”. No shame in it, but she clearly did.
Someone brought up a valid point. Meeting people in real life doesn’t necessarily rectify the issue either bc those people could still be on dating apps too. We all collectively have to take a stand and enforce higher standards so that men will have to adapt to those standards. If we don’t act collectively, most of us will really have to struggle to filter through a lot of people who don’t mean well. If we don’t do this for us, then at least do it so that the next generations of girls do not have to suffer due to our inability to act collectively and enforce standards. We need to take our power back together. If we all try to think individually it’s going to be difficult for a long time.
I thumbed you up, but I do not necessarily think the male population is fixable, so I am iffy on that one line. 99% are trash. The only possibility of change is gradual evolution over generations-if we bring them to the very brink of extinction and nature forces biological change to preserve the species. In their current state, they are little more than animals, not fit for bonding, partnership, child-rearing, or anything much else of use.
I definitely wish that women collectively raised their standards and not tolerate b.s. from men. My ex is a malignant narcissistic sociopath and was in a new relationship 6 months after I dumped him yet still trying to see me.
Dating is literally a nightmare. It's so bad, that when you do find a great man, your own single girlfriends will hit on your new boyfriend in front of you, because that man is a unicorn these days, and no man is more attractive to a woman, than when another woman finds interest in that man. True story and this recently happened to me. This man is successful financially, dresses well, and is good looking. Fortunately my boyfriend wasn't interested in her bimbo advances, but women are part of the problem as well. We have to own, the fact women put themselves on these dating sites, as a billboard advertisement for their desperation, that ends up just giving booty calls away for free. Either way, the dating world sucks. I haven't dated in 6 six years, no relationship or sex, until recently. Fortunately we met the old fashioned way, and introduced to each by friends. I would never do online dating period. But women also need to support other women, and stop being in competition with one another.
Pickmes are terrible, but I wouldn't for a second think they he wasn't at least somewhat receptive to her advances. Women hate being rejected outright, and so I highly doubt he did that. Unlike males, women are able to accept the answer, 'No.'
Even if one could find love on the dating app, you would have to go through 10 traumatic break-ups or disappointments. Trauma chips away at your soul and takes months but most of the time years to recover and heal. It's not worth going through all of that. Trauma also messes with your ability to trust again.
Well said
Meet my husband on a dating app 8 years ago. He was from Spain and thought it was too far, but he was good-looking and had an even better personality. I went there for a month, we traveled around Spain for a month going to every city and having the best time of my life. At the end of the trip we went back to Madrid and I stayed at his parents house, then went I home. He came to live in the US after that, making over 100k, he's a hard worker, talented, very smart and someone I look up to and inspire to be. He has been supporting me in every way. I got really lucky, some people don't, some people do.
My first husband I met on a app. He was sexually, verbally and physically abusive and tried to kill me. I think he was a psychopath, I literally had to pack my bags and run away while he was at school. Just like in the real world, you don't know what you're going to get, but I learned a lesson after that.
Which app?
@@IndigoCosmic So you went back on a dating app after meeting a psycho? I'm glad it worked out for you but that was a crazy risk to take.
Wow. That's scary. I honestly don't trust these foreign males that marry American women. They want a VISA or citizenship through you. I guarantee his life improved immensely after moving to America with you. Do not trust these males 100%, ever.
I have several friends who met their husband/wife on match. But this was back in the early 2000s. Then online dating was seen as weird and people kind of looked down on it. So I feel like the people on there- many of them not all- were very genuine.
I agree with this. This reminds me of how lot's of older people met on eHarmony back in the day and made genuine couples leading to marriage.
It is sooo true! I was in Kenya & met with my old University friends. I came alone..
One of the guys in our group lives in Chicago. He’d hardly been in Kenya 3 days but hot on his arms was this beautiful girl.
When she wasn’t in earshot he’d talk about her like she was there as his tool.. had little respect for her .
Later they went to his hotel. Men have relegated women to commodities they can purchase at their whims.
I’m happily single & focusing on my goals. Just listening to what my friends go thru is enough to keep me away from the dating app scene/circus 😂
Wow…these stories make me feel better about the nonsense I endured. I am not the only one. Online dating was my last hope and the reason I finally gave up on dating. Single, celibate, mentally stable, and happy now!
There are many predators looking for someone to use or physically harm on dating apps.
What about the fact that a lot of women get UNALIVED from men from on dating apps too and they cover it up?? Don’t do it LADIES!! Don’t waste time online on dating apps!! The beginnings of good days on dating apps are GONE!! When those apps started it was good , now it’s people getting unalived & cheated!! Don’t waste your time there!! Stay home don’t go anywhere, work a job and hope you can avoid the killers!!
Never let him rematch with you. Girl...what are you doing??? They use women as free s work. Come on ladies 😣
I never used dating apps so I don't really know the whole dynamic🤔 but during my military service I remember seeing my horny collegues using those apps extensively. It seems like dating apps aren't made for those looking for a real relationship. At the end of the day it's better to look for environment with the kind of people/mindset/behaviour you want (but ngl I am glad I don't live in United states). I feel sorry for the women who have been deceived by dating apps and wish you the best🙏
I haven't been on dating apps since the pandemic started. I found that I find more unavailable men on there than in real life.
There’s something really unnatural about dating apps. Like they shouldn’t exist in humanity. They’re an abomination
Lol. I don't know why but that comment made me chuckle.
Honestly, understanding attachment styles and the consequences of $ex, I’m not surprised she went back. That’s a mental game. It’s honestly something you don’t want to be part of, but something in your past makes you feel like you can right past wrongs if this thing goes right. There is a psychology behind it, so I get it. The guy is the issue. She’s valid. Why get on a dating app, rematch, reach out ? Why is HE playing games with her? That’s not cool. Something in her isn’t strong enough so she’s going back. That’s emotional manipulation. The only good thing is this highlights the issue and maybe she can do the work and dig deeper to find a solution to this problem. But I’m not about to paint her as a victim as if he isn’t gaslighting and being extremely rude, cold and uncaring. Nah. He’s the problem.
I agree 100%, and I'm sick of women victim-blaming other women
David girl should have cut him out of her life the first time he ghosted her. She needs to get pride, respect, and standards. She accepted the breadcrumbs and then he realized he can dangle her and put her on the shelf and play with her when he wants.
I got rid of all my dating apps last year. All the men on there are only looking for hookups.
Same
David was hooking up, sis. You assumed he had good intentions and that his bare minimum meant he really wanted to pursue you. However, he didn't do much to get attention from you. He told you early on not to get attached. Know your worth, and don't give a guy a second chance to waste your time and use your body when it's clear he is unserious.
I found my husband off a dating app. Don't be afraid to move on, and move on quickly. AND CLOSE YOUR LEGS.
Sex isn't just for men. We also love having sex. By saying close your legs equals sex is only for men and that's the payment to men for being a "good girl". That's not fair. So my vag is a commodity?? It's not, it's just a vag, it's not payment for an exchange of goods.
And being married isn't a prize. I can always tell a male worshipper when I read one.. especially a black male worshipper.
@@rosseryankeegirli mean tbh whether you enjoy sex too or not isn’t even the point anymore because majority of men still don’t deserve to have sex with you. so it doesn’t change the premise fr.
My friend is constantly meeting gross and weird men on apps. The latest, she met a guy who wouldnt wipe his ass and she could smell his body odor. YET she was still considering hooking up with him. 😂😂 I was so mad at her.
Yuck
Omg😭 wth?
I have a friend like that but she has psych issues. Maybe so does your friend
I can go on for days about this topic. All the people that I know who have success or long-term relationships did not meet on dating apps. I just stopped my subscription service because the dating pool was just not it. Honestly, ladies, it's time to flip the script on these men. Decenter men and having a relationship and live your life happily and single. Let us be the ones who are scarce and make them step up and put in efforts. I remember Stephanie from 90 day fiance saying this: "I'm stepping into the dating pool. And there is a lot of pee in it" and trust me Dating Apps are 80% of the pee in the dating pool. I am writing it off and not touching another dating app for a long time.
7:30 her mistake was not blocking David when he first showed his true colors. She’s weird to keep giving him chances.
Y'all are making it waaaaaayyyy too easy for these men. The girl tells her story in the car with the cap on needs some boundaries, and standards baaddd. Why are y'all giving someone a million chances?
This is not an app issue ! I’ve had men come back from far more then her story, stop overlooking mistreatment. You can come back ( possibly ) but walls are up and legs aren’t open , they’ll fall off eventually. Demand more ladies.
I had a guy come back after 31 years
I think the apps have changed over the years. I met my ex-husband on a dating app. We dated for many years before we married. I don't regret it despite getting divorced. I've had better boyfriends by meeting them in places of mutual interest with mutual friends/acquaintances though.
Sad to see Hinge in particular go downhill like this. I met my wife on Hinge and overall had a positive experience. Definitely don't waste your energy where you are not wanted