This is very spiritual and occurs in every culture. My family is also from the Caribbean & I also once thought it was just me. There is a demonic entity behind woman who treat their daughters like crap.
Growing up in Eastern European household with a cold, distant mother who would compete with me, I felt like she was more of a step-mother to me, because she didnt behave the way moms who love their children unconditionally do...
This is very common on Black American culture as well. My biological mother spoke cursings over my life but glory be to GOD, those generational curses are BROKEN!🙌🏾💃🏾🙌🏾💃🏾🙌🏾💃🏾
@Lady_stephanie This is facts. I grew up with my mother cursing me nonstop for no reason. Trust that those curses followed me everywhere, my life was one hell after another. I was suffering nonstop since birth, accidents, etc. When I came to Jesus I noticed something, she had lost power to bless or curse me because I now am blessed automatically. The Blessings of wicked parents are nothing but empty tombs. How can a cursed person bless? Impossible. They use their blessings as blackmail for those who don't know God's word well.
My mom also blamed me for her c-section scar and when I had my child(no c-section) it bothered her so much. I stayed with her for 3 months after birth to get some help and she would walk in the bathroom while I’m showering and pull the curtain to look at my body. Just weird AF!
It’s good you took the time to process the relationship with your mother. I totally resonate with your traumatic experiences. They have a way of hiding their evil behaviour in plain sight. Then will continue with the gaslighting every chance they get. It’s for the best to permanently remove yourself from such toxic people because their behaviour will never change. Keep being you. ❤
Scary enough I can relate to the thing you said like 95% from aunties , my mother & strangers wow God has got big plans for us stay prayer it will get better in Jesus name amen ❤
A lot of time they are jealous of us because they are at a point in their lives where they start to feel heavy regret because they didn’t live the life they expected and now they have this young youthful person in front of their face everyday that has their life ahead of them is a daily reminder that they can never get a second chance to do that. That’s why they lash out and take their pain out on us as if it’s our fault they made all those bad choices. Ine thing I’ll never forget is when my mother tried to make me appear like her. I have 3 kids and my mother even lied saying they had different dads to my family and whoever she could tell knowing that they all have one father. Like why would she do that? Just because she had 6 kids with 5 different men. What I have learned over the years is a lot of the crap she would say about me she was talking about herself and she just hopes it also happens to me. Like everytime she wishes something bad to happen to me and then she sees that it doesn’t and somehow people show from nowhere and help me it would make her blood boil, because for some strange reason she just really wants to see me suffer. That’s exactly why I don’t want her to raise my daughter even though she volunteered. I was like heck no, for what so you can try to destroy her like you tried to do me. I know the moment my daughter reaches teens she would see her as competition so I wasn’t gonna let her live with that woman.
I’m thankful to God you only went there when you were 12 it seems you had a bit of identity to hold on to cause if it was like this from the start you might have believed her lies about you ❤
Thank you for sharing your story beautiful. Im so happy that people are finally talking about this as this is what i have been going through since i was 8 years old. Planning to go no contact permanently when i go to university ❤️❤️❤️
I’m so happy to see your videos speaking out against abusive mothers and fathers. I have 3 children and do not ever or would never put my daughters through this. Instead, I lift them up because I had a strained relationship with my own mother and can relate to your experiences. Thank you ❤
By the grace of God you will get through this, any weapon formed against you will NOT prosper. You are protected and surrounded by angels, have faith and never forget who you are!
You told my whole story with this one. The only difference is it came from my aunt. She saw my light and potential, and did everything in her power to make sure that my greatness never materialized. Well i am alive, and God had and still has fhe final say. 6 years no contact. These type of women are pure EVIL
Hey beautiful, just finished watching both parts of your story and I can resonate with you. I had a similar experience with my aunt when I came into the UK at 10 years old. Most african adults are seriously wounded and grow up to be emotionally immature, they project their pain onto others especially children as they are vulnerable and cannot fight back. You should be proud of yourself for the work you’ve done, I’m amazed at the level of self awareness you have at your age, and the boldness you have to share your story with the world. Please keep sharing your story, you’re helping so many people out there. Sending you lots of love and cyber hugs 🫂 ❤️
If African mothers and aunties are seriously wounded and immature and the rest, do you think they would change by you bashing and talking down at them, projecting assumptions of woundedness on all older people and being really hateful? Worse still, you all keep quoting the Bible as though God loves young people and hates older ones. As an older person experiencing immense hatred from young Christians, I can tell you the problem is BOTH ways. But I've never heard you young people speaking of what you do wrong to hurt older people. As far as I'm concerned, problems like this can only be resolved through mutually respectful Christian dialog, beginning with young people threading with care to honour the older ones first (read Titus & Exodus -honour older people, don't speak to older people harshly, stand up as a sign of cultural respect before older people. Or do whatever sign of cultural respect you do). The Bible also says a gift and soft speah softens up angry hearts. So maybe try approaching us with respect first and watch us respond in humility to listen to your issues with us. Not all elders will respond well, granted, but do pray about that and only remove yourself if your health & life is threatened. I really love young people, but majority 99% of you push us away by your prideful disrespectfulness and refusal to take biblical correction -the don't tell me what to do, don't give me unsolicited advice attitude!? It's sinful because God commands we correct one another in love, but young people just will not accept correction or mere exhortation because of sinful pride. I'm truly very, very sorry to the young lady for her experiences. There are truly instances where it's the older person wronging the young. She did not come across as a disrespectful child or young person. Though Lord says both sides must be heard before passing judgement. May the Lord help & comfort you my lovely, young, beautiful sister. (Sorry, I didn't catch her name). I'm in UK too, attach email if you want you reach out -I mean the youtuber).
By the way, I recognise the phenomenon you speak of -older people wounded & emotionally immature. I experienced a bit if that personally, and see it in others. It's only been God & salvation that's helped me. Young people, you know & are learning a lot we elders didn't and still don't know. But, did you know you could help us older ones by teaching or correcting us, BUT in love & respect? If you too changed the prideful, and for God's sakes, competitive attitudes towards older women especially, we could be more inclined to listen to you young people. And change would start happening from there.
Definitely a covert narcissist. Run away from them and Run to GOD! 2 Corinthians 6:17 Therefore “Come out from among them and be separate, says the Lord. Do not touch what is unclean, and I will receive you.”
I grow up with my stepmother since mom was diagnosed as mental ill when I was 5 y. I suffered all the abused you can't even imagined. She mistreated me so much because my mom was the first wife and woman on my dad's life and I was the first born. I endured everything quiet/in silence because I needed a roof over my head and food. God was faithful and never left me. I'm 37 y old now, work as a Senior Engineer earning 6 figures, got myself an amazing husband so, I'm literally thriving. She hates me but can't say nothing about me because everyone loves me so much and I treat her super nice even though she can't stand me 😂.
Meanwhile it’s the medical industry and how they treat black women. Doctors are very happy to cut us open because of the complication and the EXTRA MONEY they get from the procedure whether mom and/or baby makes it or not….
She lacks accountability, she needs to work on her personal issues instead of projecting and trying to make you miserable. Am glad you’re thriving 🥰 and rising above this Please what’s the update on your relationship now, has she ever apologize, and take accountability,did she act this way to your siblings or just you.
Get away from them and never look back. I left for the second time and it’s my last time. I am done. Mine kept calling the police on me she put me in jail. She triangulated my sister against me they always want to fight. She put me through hell because I needed help. Narcissistic mothers are very jealous and envious they only want you around for what you can do for them. They will ruin your relationships and might even sleep with your bf and husband. Mine is the devil and idc anymore. She did everything under the Sun. Eversince I left my life is getting better I’m no longer involved in family drama. Mine is covert too she hides behind religion.
I'm glad I found your page, I also struggle with receiving love from my mom. It's comforting to listen to you since you are navigating through those emotions. It's nice to see someone who is healed on the internet. Lots of toxic positivity out here, never giving us a chance to look at ourselves and how ppl treated us growing up. 🩷
Sorry you had to go though this. I knew my mother in law is jealous and evil when she first spoke with my daughter on Skype she pointed out at her bad teeth as if there is nothing else to talk.aboit.
Wooow, I can’t believe that church and your parents to mistreat you. You’re a baby, a children, innocent and precious! That’s false preaching and they’re not christians to behave like that. Your parents and the church aren’t christians. Claiming to be a christian and actually walking with God and Jesus are two different things. Just evil, I’m so glad you have your own relationship with God and not base it off of your experience with false preaching from fake Christians. No child deserves to be mistreated no matter the circumstances and every child is here for a reason. Already a blessing and a gift from God no matter what!
Virtual hug 🫂😢...I totally understand you. My mom and yours sound like twins... They are covert narcs ... Protect yourself and your mind. They will try to break your spirit with no remorse or accountability. Mines even did spellwork on me and said I was disrespecting her by asking her why she did that to her child. I had to go no contact for my protection and mental health. They always have a secret competition with you and never take accountability
Omg as a Caribbean woman , I can relate and didn’t realize this was something that occurred outside of my family 😮
Yes!
This is very spiritual and occurs in every culture. My family is also from the Caribbean & I also once thought it was just me. There is a demonic entity behind woman who treat their daughters like crap.
Big up to you. This topic is long overdue. Its a different level of wickedness and demonic possesion to be jealous of your own child
Growing up in Eastern European household with a cold, distant mother who would compete with me, I felt like she was more of a step-mother to me, because she didnt behave the way moms who love their children unconditionally do...
This is very common on Black American culture as well. My biological mother spoke cursings over my life but glory be to GOD, those generational curses are BROKEN!🙌🏾💃🏾🙌🏾💃🏾🙌🏾💃🏾
God is good 🙌🏽
You don't need thier blessings, you're blessed already 🙏
@Lady_stephanie This is facts. I grew up with my mother cursing me nonstop for no reason. Trust that those curses followed me everywhere, my life was one hell after another. I was suffering nonstop since birth, accidents, etc. When I came to Jesus I noticed something, she had lost power to bless or curse me because I now am blessed automatically. The Blessings of wicked parents are nothing but empty tombs. How can a cursed person bless? Impossible. They use their blessings as blackmail for those who don't know God's word well.
Amen 🙏@@bacon1406
My mom also blamed me for her c-section scar and when I had my child(no c-section) it bothered her so much. I stayed with her for 3 months after birth to get some help and she would walk in the bathroom while I’m showering and pull the curtain to look at my body. Just weird AF!
😢😢😢😢😢This is more common than we admit.Its validating that you are sharing this.
It’s good you took the time to process the relationship with your mother. I totally resonate with your traumatic experiences. They have a way of hiding their evil behaviour in plain sight. Then will continue with the gaslighting every chance they get. It’s for the best to permanently remove yourself from such toxic people because their behaviour will never change. Keep being you. ❤
Scary enough I can relate to the thing you said like 95% from aunties , my mother & strangers wow God has got big plans for us stay prayer it will get better in Jesus name amen ❤
Keep doing well in life. Brave young woman! You are great!
A lot of time they are jealous of us because they are at a point in their lives where they start to feel heavy regret because they didn’t live the life they expected and now they have this young youthful person in front of their face everyday that has their life ahead of them is a daily reminder that they can never get a second chance to do that. That’s why they lash out and take their pain out on us as if it’s our fault they made all those bad choices. Ine thing I’ll never forget is when my mother tried to make me appear like her. I have 3 kids and my mother even lied saying they had different dads to my family and whoever she could tell knowing that they all have one father. Like why would she do that? Just because she had 6 kids with 5 different men. What I have learned over the years is a lot of the crap she would say about me she was talking about herself and she just hopes it also happens to me. Like everytime she wishes something bad to happen to me and then she sees that it doesn’t and somehow people show from nowhere and help me it would make her blood boil, because for some strange reason she just really wants to see me suffer. That’s exactly why I don’t want her to raise my daughter even though she volunteered. I was like heck no, for what so you can try to destroy her like you tried to do me. I know the moment my daughter reaches teens she would see her as competition so I wasn’t gonna let her live with that woman.
You’re blessed and highly favoured x🔥🙌🏾
I love your confidence, keep it up baby girl. You are beautiful continue to own it
I’m thankful to God you only went there when you were 12 it seems you had a bit of identity to hold on to cause if it was like this from the start you might have believed her lies about you ❤
I have a similar story to tell I hope I gather the courage to tell it one day
This really resonates with me.
Unfortunately same 😕
Thank you for sharing your story beautiful. Im so happy that people are finally talking about this as this is what i have been going through since i was 8 years old. Planning to go no contact permanently when i go to university ❤️❤️❤️
you’re stunning by the way! also, im so sorry you have gone through this.
I’m so happy to see your videos speaking out against abusive mothers and fathers. I have 3 children and do not ever or would never put my daughters through this. Instead, I lift them up because I had a strained relationship with my own mother and can relate to your experiences. Thank you ❤
Sadly, I'm Jamaican and I can relate. I am estranged from my mother because of this.
Listening in as a counsellor in training. This is very insightful.
the way i relate to u is actually crazy. im 16 and still going through it please pray for me
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By the grace of God you will get through this, any weapon formed against you will NOT prosper. You are protected and surrounded by angels, have faith and never forget who you are!
This definitely resonates but I just wanted to add that you’d be great at ASMR and storytelling. I love your speaking voice. ❤
Thank you Rose, I want to try ASMR
You told my whole story with this one. The only difference is it came from my aunt. She saw my light and potential, and did everything in her power to make sure that my greatness never materialized. Well i am alive, and God had and still has fhe final say. 6 years no contact. These type of women are pure EVIL
Hey beautiful, just finished watching both parts of your story and I can resonate with you. I had a similar experience with my aunt when I came into the UK at 10 years old. Most african adults are seriously wounded and grow up to be emotionally immature, they project their pain onto others especially children as they are vulnerable and cannot fight back. You should be proud of yourself for the work you’ve done, I’m amazed at the level of self awareness you have at your age, and the boldness you have to share your story with the world. Please keep sharing your story, you’re helping so many people out there. Sending you lots of love and cyber hugs 🫂 ❤️
If African mothers and aunties are seriously wounded and immature and the rest, do you think they would change by you bashing and talking down at them, projecting assumptions of woundedness on all older people and being really hateful? Worse still, you all keep quoting the Bible as though God loves young people and hates older ones. As an older person experiencing immense hatred from young Christians, I can tell you the problem is BOTH ways. But I've never heard you young people speaking of what you do wrong to hurt older people. As far as I'm concerned, problems like this can only be resolved through mutually respectful Christian dialog, beginning with young people threading with care to honour the older ones first (read Titus & Exodus -honour older people, don't speak to older people harshly, stand up as a sign of cultural respect before older people. Or do whatever sign of cultural respect you do). The Bible also says a gift and soft speah softens up angry hearts. So maybe try approaching us with respect first and watch us respond in humility to listen to your issues with us. Not all elders will respond well, granted, but do pray about that and only remove yourself if your health & life is threatened.
I really love young people, but majority 99% of you push us away by your prideful disrespectfulness and refusal to take biblical correction -the don't tell me what to do, don't give me unsolicited advice attitude!? It's sinful because God commands we correct one another in love, but young people just will not accept correction or mere exhortation because of sinful pride.
I'm truly very, very sorry to the young lady for her experiences. There are truly instances where it's the older person wronging the young. She did not come across as a disrespectful child or young person. Though Lord says both sides must be heard before passing judgement.
May the Lord help & comfort you my lovely, young, beautiful sister. (Sorry, I didn't catch her name). I'm in UK too, attach email if you want you reach out -I mean the youtuber).
I meant if you want to reach out. Bless you, young lady -youtuber (and commenter)
By the way, I recognise the phenomenon you speak of -older people wounded & emotionally immature. I experienced a bit if that personally, and see it in others. It's only been God & salvation that's helped me.
Young people, you know & are learning a lot we elders didn't and still don't know. But, did you know you could help us older ones by teaching or correcting us, BUT in love & respect? If you too changed the prideful, and for God's sakes, competitive attitudes towards older women especially, we could be more inclined to listen to you young people. And change would start happening from there.
Definitely a covert narcissist. Run away from them and Run to GOD!
2 Corinthians 6:17
Therefore “Come out from among them and be separate, says the Lord. Do not touch what is unclean, and I will receive you.”
Your beautiful! Thank you for sharing. Your intro looks good!! Who made your character I want one. God is good!
Thank you, I used dawn AI to make it 2 years ago, the free version!
Let’s not talk about stepmothers😂😂😂 It’s another level 😂😂
I grow up with my stepmother since mom was diagnosed as mental ill when I was 5 y. I suffered all the abused you can't even imagined. She mistreated me so much because my mom was the first wife and woman on my dad's life and I was the first born.
I endured everything quiet/in silence because I needed a roof over my head and food. God was faithful and never left me. I'm 37 y old now, work as a Senior Engineer earning 6 figures, got myself an amazing husband so, I'm literally thriving. She hates me but can't say nothing about me because everyone loves me so much and I treat her super nice even though she can't stand me 😂.
Exactly they want the guilt to be an anchor
I too was blamed for being a cesarean child, meanwhile, I wear my own cesarean scares as a badge of honour!
Meanwhile it’s the medical industry and how they treat black women. Doctors are very happy to cut us open because of the complication and the EXTRA MONEY they get from the procedure whether mom and/or baby makes it or not….
She lacks accountability, she needs to work on her personal issues instead of projecting and trying to make you miserable. Am glad you’re thriving 🥰 and rising above this
Please what’s the update on your relationship now, has she ever apologize, and take accountability,did she act this way to your siblings or just you.
Get away from them and never look back. I left for the second time and it’s my last time. I am done. Mine kept calling the police on me she put me in jail. She triangulated my sister against me they always want to fight. She put me through hell because I needed help. Narcissistic mothers are very jealous and envious they only want you around for what you can do for them. They will ruin your relationships and might even sleep with your bf and husband. Mine is the devil and idc anymore. She did everything under the Sun. Eversince I left my life is getting better I’m no longer involved in family drama. Mine is covert too she hides behind religion.
I'm glad I found your page, I also struggle with receiving love from my mom. It's comforting to listen to you since you are navigating through those emotions. It's nice to see someone who is healed on the internet. Lots of toxic positivity out here, never giving us a chance to look at ourselves and how ppl treated us growing up. 🩷
This is a bad story. I am very sorry
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The church transformation is reallllllllllllllllllllllllll 🎭
!!!!!!!!!!!!! they become an angel!!!!!!!
Misery loves company
Sorry you had to go though this. I knew my mother in law is jealous and evil when she first spoke with my daughter on Skype she pointed out at her bad teeth as if there is nothing else to talk.aboit.
Wooow, I can’t believe that church and your parents to mistreat you. You’re a baby, a children, innocent and precious! That’s false preaching and they’re not christians to behave like that. Your parents and the church aren’t christians. Claiming to be a christian and actually walking with God and Jesus are two different things. Just evil, I’m so glad you have your own relationship with God and not base it off of your experience with false preaching from fake Christians. No child deserves to be mistreated no matter the circumstances and every child is here for a reason. Already a blessing and a gift from God no matter what!
And they always go to church too😒😒😒😒😒😒
Virtual hug 🫂😢...I totally understand you. My mom and yours sound like twins... They are covert narcs ... Protect yourself and your mind. They will try to break your spirit with no remorse or accountability. Mines even did spellwork on me and said I was disrespecting her by asking her why she did that to her child. I had to go no contact for my protection and mental health. They always have a secret competition with you and never take accountability