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@@NaomiKwamboka-h5j No kwamboka! It’s pr! These type of silly corrections are the ones making you have trouble with men in marriage! Since when did you become the late Queen 🫅 of England to spell everything to the point? Aaaaaiiish!
@@Jim-b4u you really need to read well and not be quick to reply. The person you are replying to corrected herself and not even someone else. Why are you hûr.ting?
I was to get married this December. I saw so many red flags just like this girl. I had ignored them in the relationship but then i prayed to God before we started the application for the wedding. I said "God, if this man is truly who you chose for me, let the wedding plans begin. If he was not meant for me,remove him from my life." Guess what, two days didn't pass and i was ghosted by the guy till today no communication. I thank God i dodged a bullet and am happy i chose me.
You can not change a person except yourself. Thanks for sharing, I hope some ladies will learn from this. A narcissist can never change. They need a divine intervention. May God grand you a loving and a God fearing husband. Amen
I could feel her pain from her voice and breath. She is still struggling to breathe properly. May the Holy Spirit of God comfort you and heal your broken heart.
All is not lost. It has worked for good because you love the Lord. Your joy is not tagged to any one but the joy of the Lord is your strength. Loosing the baby is painful but let it be, your end will be the best.
Yes, that is the fact. I don't blame the guy. I blamed the lady. Someone told you he was a man of God, and immediately, you accepted his proposal. Despite a lot of red flags from God through your pastor, father, etc. If you are truly a child of God, you will surely ask him for directions
I am watching from South Africa and I must say that you Kenyans are very kind people. The comment section is very respectful of Emma's experience from what I've seen thus far. If her story was posted on a South African platform??? The judgment she was going to get was going to be greater than anything she has ever experienced in her life. People forget that we all fall for something at some point in life. God bless and heal her for sharing her story. This can surely be educational to someone else watching.
Sometimes, comments can tend to inflict more pain. Thankfully, people here are empathetic and hence help in the healing process. Just by Emma sharing, she has taken further steps to healing.
Dear Emma, Your story is touching and very similar to mine. One thing you should be grateful for, just like I am, is that you have a family that truly loves and cares about you. That is a big blessing. One good thing about stories like this is that others can learn from it. Be strong, it gets better with time.
My sister what you should know is that, not everything that leaves your life is a loss. Some people must leave so that they create space for good people to enter your life. God is good, everything he did was for your own good. We thank God you are still alive, fresh and beautiful.
Very very sad and am sure they was no mother there was a scam mother. They all hrlp each other and you are the fool. Very sorry hope he burns in he'll. He is ca real Satan
Red flags should not be ignored, I agree that, but walking away on weeding day will not be a solution. 1. Before you choose someone as a genuine born again believer you should pray earnestly, asked God is this your plan to marry this person and God will give you answer. He might not give you a vision but God will answer in many ways. 2. A believer must marry a believer. If you are a believer Marry a believer you are equally yoked . If you're non-believer marry non-believer you are equally yoked. God don't want a believer yoked with unbeliever. 2 Corinthians 6:14-15 God bless you
See how it escalates from bad to worse..the more u 'understand' him the worse it becomes...it never gets better with a man who is not committed to the cause...we learn,we move regardless. Thank u Emma for the courage to share your story 🫂
yeah she is still hurt bad. she is at the stage of sharing then on the route to healing. May God carry her through all the emotions that comes with this process.
1:27:00 that part she screamed, my heart went out to her.... She is so different in the wedding pics, she was so beautiful and so bright. But that man turned into a shadow of herself 😢... But God will see her through. God will do it for her ❤...
This is my twin 15 years ago.Yaani one doesn’t realize the narcissist is drawing energy physically,emotionally and financially.Everyone else is seeing the dangers,but myself couldn’t see it.Until he pushed me on the wall and broke my ear drum.The worst part is I couldn’t tell anybody about it.Until today can’t hear with my left ear.And,you know what, never left.to cut the long story short,I left after 10 years looking like a mad woman with 2 daughters now 24 and 20 years respectively.I thank God am still alive and blessed.
Emmah was not desperate for love, she was 24 years and the man in question was in his 30's, she was naive and Jose took advantage of her. I'm so proud of her that she only stayed in that marriage for 6 months.
This has nothing to do with age, it can happen to any woman who does not know how to qualify men , how men fall in love and how to value herself. The first red flag was her paying on dates. She was in her masculine energy and it’s a relationship killer.
I had a relationship with a narcissist and the painful thing is we met in church. He never had money,always weeping and explaining to people how bad a family member has treated him. He was taking from me and his children were always taking from me. He and his children are arrogant and have no respect for me and my family. I tolerated this for sometime till he went further than he could chew and I had enough and I started saying no to his requests and demands. Narcissists are actors . This one acts so humble. I thought he didn’t have money until all was over I learned he was on government payroll. A narcissist is never wrong and never apologises. I wish I could be bold enough to tell my story but I can’t . LADIES BE EXTRA VIGILANT AND DONT PLEASE ANYONE! This one I’m talking about loves women who live abroad.
I know bad marriages exist, but can we start bringing couples on the show to share their good marriage experiences?. Because at this rate, folks will refuse to get married. 😢
There are many good marriages. Kwanza walete failed ones alafu the ones in good marriages waulizane maswali. We fail when we keep making same mistakes then blame the institution.
People with bad taste made bad choices and now they are busy advertising consequences of their bad choices all over the media. People with working marriages are the majority and they are quietly enjoying marital bliss. 😊
Lady Naomi bring your good one first to be an example to the many good ones in existence, otherwise you should know many ladies are faking , many women hide their men, most marriages are dirty games out there.
I mean I can't believe this jewel went through such a hell🥺🥺🥺 she didn't deserve that mistreatment !!!🥺🥺 I am sorry Emma hugs girl you're strong you will win this 💐💐💐
Emma, take it as a lesson learned. You’re beautiful, smart and empathetic. You shall rise and thrive! Thank you for sharing your story so others can learn from your experience. And know the red flags that narcissists show.
Let give his dad his flowers 🌹🌹 he is very supportive,let normalize telling our children and sisters that they can always come back .God bless your dad
These love scammers are all over the world. It's sad we all fall victim to them. I appreciate the bold ladies and men who come out to share their experiences. God bless you lady. Viewing from Ghana.
@outps lessons taken but u get to understand someone once you live with them,now am wiser and doing well......sometimes men have got insecurities which can not be understood especially when the lady has more financial muscles
Hi Emmah, I am so sorry to hear of what u went through in your marriage. I really admire your Dad how he supported u from the beginning he knew this man was not good for u. I pray u start your healing and pray for full recovery 🙏
Praise the Lord, you are a strong woman. Many women are dying premature death because of domestic violence. You did well to walk out of the abusive relationship. God will heal you completely and meet your needs. May God grant you the desires of your heart.
I'm watching from South Africa may the good Lord remember you my lovely sister and turn your mourning into dancing I'm sending love and light may God heal your broken heart i pray for God's restoration in Jesus name ❤❤
I like Kenyans for honoring their natural beauty. Ugandans, Nigerians, etc would now be flooding in make up and wigs and claws to make such a program but these guys make life simple and beautiful.
Paying bills yourself,proposal without a ring,messages from another gal,DEEP RED FLAGS SHINING,,He took advantage of desperacy and her being true wanting to do things right,,may God help us
But God gave her a lot of red flags, but she still insisted . Even though before entering into the relationship, she doesn't pray. Obedient to God matter most in life .
I doubt it was desperation, she was young and naive; the fake pastor was her first & he took advantage of her love and immaturity. Praying for her perfect healing, she is so beautiful n deserves every thing good
The interview is of another level, what she went through was worse nobody deserve it. As of me men of God is a no, I'm a believer and I love God, but this pretence with men of God is of another level, God see you through dear
Being submissive mess your life how but remember you can't leave with man if you can't do that it not possible you just need to be single no man wanted a woman who can't submit
I have been so drawn to the story, to the point that I fought the urge to breakdown into tears 🥹……. This man really hated her so much. No one can treat someone they love like this. 🙌🏾 I hope she finds peace and true healing. To the women who have been blessed to watch this story, let this be AN IMPORTANT LEARNING POINT.
This is another series of how to ignore red flags 🚩 I m back after watching the whole interview. Thanks Emma for telling your story. May God come through for you and continue being with you. Glory be to God that you are still alive. You will be alright 🫂🫂🫂🫂
Ladies alot to learn from this story. We need Precious Holy Spirit to Guide and Help us. We need to have Spirit of Discernment. If my sister had a Spirit of Discernment, less mi
Yes, that is the fact. I don't blame the guy. I blamed the lady. Someone told you he was a man of God, and immediately, you accepted his proposal. Despite a lot of red flags from God through your pastor, father, etc. If you are truly a child of God, you will surely ask him for directions
My feedback is, as Christian gal, let's use the office of the HOLY SPIRIT, He is our advocate in everything, He helped me from abad Guy like that , and guess what, next year am getting married in Jesus,name. On a confirmed basis.
Yes, that is the fact. I don't blame the guy. I blamed the lady. Someone told you he was a man of God, and immediately, you accepted his proposal. Despite a lot of red flags from God through your pastor, father, etc. If you are truly a child of God, you will surely ask him for directions
Pole sana Emma. I knew you right before you finished high school. You were a very humble and full of respect. Pole for what you went through in the hands of this wolf in 🐑 skin. God will restore every thing the devil stole. Keep matching my girl.
My dad rejected my ex in a dream and that was all the sign I needed.Long story..we ended the relationship Look out for red flags girls They are all over. Watch out and stay woke
@millicentmukoya1292 God has a unique way of talking to each one us and he knows us better than anybody else. Jer 29:11 May you find healing in Christ ❤️❤️
Ladies, let me shout. NEVER CLAIM A MAN BEFORE HE CLAIMS YOU IN PUBLIC. She introduced that man as her fiance long before they were engaged. Let him claim you first and announce your place in his life. Otherwise, assume uou are just friends, not even a girlfriend.
Again don't be blindfolded by the fact that someone is so committed to God's ministry.... Kuna waliovalia ngozi ya kondoo kumbe ndani ni mbwa mwitu,...
Her story is so similar to mine. I lost several pregnancies, however I just realized that it was the stress of the marriage because the incidents were almost identical to hers. The pastors also played a major role in it. Women in America are more vocal, so I was labeled as the wife who would not submit. I married an African Man and attended a mainly African church. Thank God I finally threw him out!
The only regret I have watching this video is that they didnt show his face. That's a psychopath full of demons; other women should be protected from him.
You are very young to be mistreated with this hyena, you took the right path,may God heal your heart and open more doors in your life, you are blessed gal❤❤
Very educative. Don't ever be lied to that someone Will change in marriage. the unmarried take notes from Emma 's story. May the Lord remember you Emma.
Yeah A lizard in courtship doesn't become a crocodile in marriage....a fornicator in courtship becomes an adulterer in marriage.Only God can change people
One thing i have realised is that God will give you all the signs, you just have to open your eyes! I will never again ignore the signs because to me that's the spirit of God rejecting that person for me.
I am sorry you lost your unborn child. I am happy you left the toxic marriage. God allows divorce when immorality is the case.. you are beautiful and very hardworking. May I ask, who are these men of God and what church is this that supports immorality?? Gosh.
Thanks for exposing such kind of man. There are so many of a kind. Ladies with money must start disguising before falling in that trap. It's so painful 😢
Thanks for sharing dear. May God heal and restore you. I'm a South African and amazed at how you managed to stay calm throughout this journey. Since I got serious with God and started going to church after covid19, church has been one of the scariest places to be at I realized. We need heightened discernment. And "men of God" are usually broke, not sure why 🤔🚮🚮 I nearly got manipulated by one church guy early last year but I just told him my parents aren't taking any half/quarter dowry, I'm not convincing anyone anything. Either he has money or stay away. I decided to be very firm, unapologetic and harsh where I had to be about it. I look back and I thank God!
Thank you Emma for being vulnerable and sharing your story. I pray that you heal emotionally and physically from the pain endured due to your marriage. Much as its painful to have lost a child whom you felt brought so much joy and peace at the time you were going through the most, i believe God allows certain things to happen for our own good. Your ex husband has all the qualities of being a dead beat father.
You are loved Emma. God loves you so much. Thank God you didn't die in that so called marriage. You are special and God love you so much. Keep the faith,keep serving God and please learn to trust your God given spirit that gave you signs before marriage but you were so naive to understand . May the new year bring you peace,divine healing and Divine Restoration. ❤❤❤❤
Being broke does not make you a narcist.. if this woman felt she needed to get a person who could pay his way, she should have chosen a different man. Women have their weddings paid for all the time, you don't hear men saying they are narcissist
Next time we have such sad stories let's uncover the faces of those men and women for the rest to know they are Masked people 😢😢😢😢. Am feeling so bad you went all through that
No man who truly loves you let's you pay the bills while he does not put any little effort,he doesn't have to be rich but its just not in their nature,but many women due to desperation and wanting to appear better than other ladies fall into this trap and it always backfires,no matter how long it takes a man who sits comfortable watching you pay all the bills will embarass you one day...ladies let men be men !!!!
Let's remember that not every man who calls himself "man of God" is from God. Jesus once said they will preach my name and heal in my name but l don't know them....... Mathew 7 : 21-23
I think you are a very brave and patient woman dear Emma. Thank you for sharing your story. I was in a very similar situation but unlike you...I didn't recognise any issues until 11yrs into the marriage. I am now out of it...free ...and at peace. Your description just like my Story...is the classic story of narcissistic abuse. Praise God we are out of it.
Those who are saying she should have left ooo she should have done this oo why couldn't she see this and that ....Blame game is easy .. spectators think they can play the match better when players are in the field...everything is funny until it happens to you or your loved one(s)
This has saddened me... I couldn't finish watching it the first time😢 Today I watched to the end. Emma, you are young and beautiful, God will locate you and give you a good husband ❤ That man never deserved you. I'm a South African watching from Germany.
God is not a God of confusion ...the moment u see confusion start taking steps backward..may God help us not to follow our own path coz we dont know anything but follow his path
I’m just going through a few different phases and then it’s gonna get worse because I’m gonna go back and see what my symptoms and my doctor and I are talking and then I’m
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Emmas no she is a good motivator
There's victim and volunteers,Emma you just walked in the hyenas pack. Pole Sana.
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Where is Kawira?
Emma I feel for you.
The interviewer is empathetic and very professional. Keep it up!
A good lesson to young people who are dating yearning to be married. Take your time and examine the person pr
*properly
I like her style of interviewing, let's someone say their story. ❤🎉
@@NaomiKwamboka-h5j No kwamboka! It’s pr! These type of silly corrections are the ones making you have trouble with men in marriage! Since when did you become the late Queen 🫅 of England to spell everything to the point? Aaaaaiiish!
@@Jim-b4u you really need to read well and not be quick to reply. The person you are replying to corrected herself and not even someone else. Why are you hûr.ting?
I was to get married this December. I saw so many red flags just like this girl. I had ignored them in the relationship but then i prayed to God before we started the application for the wedding. I said "God, if this man is truly who you chose for me, let the wedding plans begin. If he was not meant for me,remove him from my life."
Guess what, two days didn't pass and i was ghosted by the guy till today no communication. I thank God i dodged a bullet and am happy i chose me.
That was a close one..God really saved you
You can not change a person except yourself.
Thanks for sharing, I hope some ladies will learn from this. A narcissist can never change. They need a divine intervention.
May God grand you a loving and a God fearing husband.
Amen
it's very important to involve God in our plans.
😂😂😂😂wah
This is so brave.
Your dad's words moved me to tears....you are valued and loved by him.
Giving money to a man while dating is one of the biggest Red Flag 🚩 . A man is built to provide and protect , that’s part of his core purpose as a man
My greatest mistake
This girl is a homemaker and she deserves better and I pray that the good Lord do it for her
A big fat Amen!!!😢
Amen... I have known her for years and may God see her through
@willymutwiri9165 link me with her..she deserves best
My prayer too
Amen 🙏 🙏 🙏
God is with you Emma.
He will restore back what the enemy has stolen.
Don't give up.
Hallelujah
Amen and Amen 🙏
@@carolmutai7248 from your lips 👄 to God’s ears 👂
Amen
Amen
You are lucky to be alive. I know ladies who passed on due to issues like these. Receive your total healing.I believe there's a bright future for you.
We just buried my friend because of such marital issues 😢
Exactly. I have survived so much I can really say it is the special grace of God that keeps people alive through all these types of experiences
@@mphomariummatloga5373my condolences
You shouldn't have covered his face
Expose the devil in him ❤
My dear , God will strengthen you,you will never married wrong again
God got our backing no matter,what we've pass through.
Truly true as Maya Angelou declares, " when people show you who they are,, believe them the first time".
I could feel her pain from her voice and breath. She is still struggling to breathe properly. May the Holy Spirit of God comfort you and heal your broken heart.
What she needs is inner strength which is given by the Holy Spirit. She should keep in prayer.
Dear may you find courage and strength to overcome that situation
I noticed that also , she will soon gain more strength.
All is not lost. It has worked for good because you love the Lord. Your joy is not tagged to any one but the joy of the Lord is your strength. Loosing the baby is painful but let it be, your end will be the best.
This man is the devil from hell. Pray u will find strength in the Lord yo get over these painful situations
Please let's pray without ceasing. Ask God for directions.
God gave her a lot of it yet she ignored it😅.
Ur right coz God speaks 🙌🏻 🙏🏼 but we don't put thier our heart and ears to listen to Him 😢
Yes, that is the fact. I don't blame the guy. I blamed the lady. Someone told you he was a man of God, and immediately, you accepted his proposal. Despite a lot of red flags from God through your pastor, father, etc. If you are truly a child of God, you will surely ask him for directions
Amen
Better yet WE MUST PRAY FOR DISCERNMENT WHICH HE HAD ZERO OF 🙏🏾
I am watching from South Africa and I must say that you Kenyans are very kind people. The comment section is very respectful of Emma's experience from what I've seen thus far. If her story was posted on a South African platform??? The judgment she was going to get was going to be greater than anything she has ever experienced in her life. People forget that we all fall for something at some point in life.
God bless and heal her for sharing her story. This can surely be educational to someone else watching.
@tshepiso
Sometimes, comments can tend to inflict more pain. Thankfully, people here are empathetic and hence help in the healing process. Just by Emma sharing, she has taken further steps to healing.
Ya la emzansi si sile
Ya la emzansi si sile.
Sise ukufa thina. Ngesimthuka.
Dear Emma, Your story is touching and very similar to mine. One thing you should be grateful for, just like I am, is that you have a family that truly loves and cares about you. That is a big blessing. One good thing about stories like this is that others can learn from it. Be strong, it gets better with time.
The interviewer is a very good empathetic listener.....she has good communication skills...
May we marry once and marry right .
Amen
Amen
Amen
Amen
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My sister what you should know is that, not everything that leaves your life is a loss. Some people must leave so that they create space for good people to enter your life. God is good, everything he did was for your own good. We thank God you are still alive, fresh and beautiful.
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Thanks!
Hello 🇿🇦let's gather here and tell this beautiful soul Emmah she's such a Gorgeous lady 👌🌹🥰
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❤❤ she's so beautiful indeed
Young ladies, please do not ignore the red flags... Even if it means walking away on the wedding day... please do.
Very very sad and am sure they was no mother there was a scam mother. They all hrlp each other and you are the fool. Very sorry hope he burns in he'll. He is ca real Satan
I have the situation and 5years now and am so broken sina mbele wala nyuma. Kumbavu zangu mbwa mimi
Hugs dear @@RissyChweya
Sorry sending virtual 🫂@@RissyChweya
Red flags should not be ignored, I agree that, but walking away on weeding day will not be a solution.
1. Before you choose someone as a genuine born again believer you should pray earnestly, asked God is this your plan to marry this person and God will give you answer. He might not give you a vision but God will answer in many ways.
2. A believer must marry a believer. If you are a believer Marry a believer you are equally yoked . If you're non-believer marry non-believer you are equally yoked. God don't want a believer yoked with unbeliever. 2 Corinthians 6:14-15
God bless you
See how it escalates from bad to worse..the more u 'understand' him the worse it becomes...it never gets better with a man who is not committed to the cause...we learn,we move regardless. Thank u Emma for the courage to share your story 🫂
She is such a beautiful lady. May the Lord wipe her tears and give her the peace she deserves.
You could hear her voice she is still in pain but time will heal her wish all the best
In the shock mood and feeling betrayed and cornered..😮😮
So sorry for her
No. The voice speaks of someone tensed, anxious. Only liars have such modes
Remember your brain can't tell you are just telling a story . For your brain it's like everything is happening.
She is in so much pain. May God heal her and bring back joy
yeah she is still hurt bad. she is at the stage of sharing then on the route to healing. May God carry her through all the emotions that comes with this process.
Guys don't rush to get married please just chill and wait for God s time
This type of desperation of paying for my own wedding ceremony should not locate me ever in Jesus name. All the signs were there
Amen
Amen😂
Its not desperation. Its spirit of confusion
The Holy spirit helped her but love she had on him closed her minds
Amen
I am 35 mins into this interview and I am totally drained......but then I am a 63 year-old Jamaican woman.....God help our young people.
😂😂may GOD help us
We almost d same age n I am a jamaican too. Real men of our age already taken so i relaxing my self
The theme for this year 2025 is (HELP) That what we have to pray for. Help spiritual HELP. God bless everyone in Jesus name amen ♥️🙏🕊
Therapist. This lady allowed you to talk. Best therapist ever🎉
@@Everyblessing351 For real 😧 this person is impactful. Keep up the good work.
@@pamelamullings9156 no education.
Good interviewer,very good listener❤
1:27:00 that part she screamed, my heart went out to her....
She is so different in the wedding pics, she was so beautiful and so bright. But that man turned into a shadow of herself 😢...
But God will see her through. God will do it for her ❤...
But still beautiful what I see she has gained and that was make up then
She still looks beautiful, just added a few pounds😁
she still has a long way to go healing wise.
I pray other ladies will learn from this .don't be too eager ...check out the person character...pray and ask God for directions.
This is my twin 15 years ago.Yaani one doesn’t realize the narcissist is drawing energy physically,emotionally and financially.Everyone else is seeing the dangers,but myself couldn’t see it.Until he pushed me on the wall and broke my ear drum.The worst part is I couldn’t tell anybody about it.Until today can’t hear with my left ear.And,you know what, never left.to cut the long story short,I left after 10 years looking like a mad woman with 2 daughters now 24 and 20 years respectively.I thank God am still alive and blessed.
Emmah was not desperate for love, she was 24 years and the man in question was in his 30's, she was naive and Jose took advantage of her. I'm so proud of her that she only stayed in that marriage for 6 months.
The man took advantage of her naivety
This has nothing to do with age, it can happen to any woman who does not know how to qualify men , how men fall in love and how to value herself.
The first red flag was her paying on dates. She was in her masculine energy and it’s a relationship killer.
heri yeye 6months...i was marriad for 3 months and never looking for marriage anymore
@@breakergirl47the moment a man asks me money in a relationship red flag 😂though wedding is next 2hours😂😂
She was so innocent 😢
I had a relationship with a narcissist and the painful thing is we met in church.
He never had money,always weeping and explaining to people how bad a family member has treated him.
He was taking from me and his children were always taking from me.
He and his children are arrogant and have no respect for me and my family.
I tolerated this for sometime till he went further than he could chew and I had enough and I started saying no to his requests and demands.
Narcissists are actors . This one acts so humble. I thought he didn’t have money until all was over I learned he was on government payroll.
A narcissist is never wrong and never apologises.
I wish I could be bold enough to tell my story but I can’t .
LADIES BE EXTRA VIGILANT AND DONT PLEASE ANYONE!
This one I’m talking about loves women who live abroad.
The red flag from your pastor was enough 😢❤
Yes. She was warmed severally but she was stubborn and decided to ignore everybody
Watching from Canada. Thank you for your courage for sharing your story. Interviewer - you are incredibly empathetic - world class.
I know bad marriages exist, but can we start bringing couples on the show to share their good marriage experiences?. Because at this rate, folks will refuse to get married. 😢
Like me.. I'm turning 25 and have already given up
There are many good marriages. Kwanza walete failed ones alafu the ones in good marriages waulizane maswali. We fail when we keep making same mistakes then blame the institution.
People with bad taste made bad choices and now they are busy advertising consequences of their bad choices all over the media. People with working marriages are the majority and they are quietly enjoying marital bliss. 😊
Lady Naomi bring your good one first to be an example to the many good ones in existence, otherwise you should know many ladies are faking , many women hide their men, most marriages are dirty games out there.
Truth has to be told.
I mean I can't believe this jewel went through such a hell🥺🥺🥺 she didn't deserve that mistreatment !!!🥺🥺 I am sorry Emma hugs girl you're strong you will win this 💐💐💐
The first ministry should b the family. You're intelligent and gorgeous. The best thing is you moved away from that narcissistic man
Despite of all that happened, the situation never took yr smile! Well you still deserve another wedding in Jesus's name. God will take you thru.
Amen Amen Amen ❤
Amenn 🙏
Sometimes pains gets too much and you have to smile with it
This girl is still in pain 😢...May GOD remember 🙏 you emah
She's traumatized. I pray that she's learnt from this awful experience
She's still breathing hard
Eeeish yawa, who won't be?? This is not something you heal in months. 😢😢😢😢😢
True
Yah @@estherkinyua914
The dad is just a good good father. God bless him.
Am listening to myself through this girl. I admire her for talking about it, I can't yet. Hugs! Emma
Speaking out is the first step to healing,I can give you a platform you come share yours as well
Run.
Come out and share, it's a big step towards healing...
But if u are still in the relationship, I pray that God gives u the grace.
She is a real definition of a resilient woman
Emma, take it as a lesson learned. You’re beautiful, smart and empathetic. You shall rise and thrive! Thank you for sharing your story so others can learn from your experience. And know the red flags that narcissists show.
Let give his dad his flowers 🌹🌹 he is very supportive,let normalize telling our children and sisters that they can always come back .God bless your dad
These love scammers are all over the world. It's sad we all fall victim to them. I appreciate the bold ladies and men who come out to share their experiences. God bless you lady. Viewing from Ghana.
This interviewer is slowly making us get back to the Tuko Talks we formerly knew.
Very calm and a good listener, this story might be the come back for TUKO.
@@estherwamalwa3961 yeah very true
Yes,she knows her job just like Lynn gugi
May we marry the right person and our marriages be blessed by God's grace 🙌
Amen
Financing the wedding was wrong to u women us if wedding is mine alone the only thing that guy did was bad was not to show in that wedding
Amen 🙏 🙏 🙏
Niko apa😊
Amen
May we marry right... Oh God! May you have mercy on us.
My inability to withstand this madness made me walk put of 2 marriages....God is good my 3rd marriage is doing well....all the best Emmah
Congrats for choosing you!
2 marriages 🤩, but after the first did you not take the lessons forward( genuinely asking)
@outps lessons taken but u get to understand someone once you live with them,now am wiser and doing well......sometimes men have got insecurities which can not be understood especially when the lady has more financial muscles
@@eunicemusyoki7653 I get you
True@@eunicemusyoki7653
Hi Emmah, I am so sorry to hear of what u went through in your marriage. I really admire your Dad how he supported u from the beginning he knew this man was not good for u. I pray u start your healing and pray for full recovery 🙏
Emma's dad deserves his flowers 🌹. Thank you dad for being a true loving dad and a very supportive father. God bless you sir.
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Praise the Lord, you are a strong woman. Many women are dying premature death because of domestic violence. You did well to walk out of the abusive relationship. God will heal you completely and meet your needs. May God grant you the desires of your heart.
I'm watching from South Africa may the good Lord remember you my lovely sister and turn your mourning into dancing I'm sending love and light may God heal your broken heart i pray for God's restoration in Jesus name ❤❤
Amen
I like Kenyans for honoring their natural beauty. Ugandans, Nigerians, etc would now be flooding in make up and wigs and claws to make such a program but these guys make life simple and beautiful.
So true. So real. So natural.
😂😂😂
guy 🤣🤣🤣
This your comment is not necessary
@@iloegbunamadanna2251
Paying bills yourself,proposal without a ring,messages from another gal,DEEP RED FLAGS SHINING,,He took advantage of desperacy and her being true wanting to do things right,,may God help us
True. Manipulators know to bait needy people, desperate for love people, and naive.
But God gave her a lot of red flags, but she still insisted . Even though before entering into the relationship, she doesn't pray. Obedient to God matter most in life .
She wasn't desperate she truly loved him but most African men don't cherish good women
She wasn't desperate she truly loved him but most African men don't cherish good women
I doubt it was desperation, she was young and naive; the fake pastor was her first & he took advantage of her love and immaturity. Praying for her perfect healing, she is so beautiful n deserves every thing good
That cut was too deep. She is still TREMBLING!!!!!! I can hear it from her VOICE. Pole dada.
Yeah Sure
But this is one way of overcoming it
Indeed she is still trembling, I pray that she heals soon.
She will be healed completely,
Why not..
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The red flags are always on the wall but we refuse to see when in love. Be comforted dear one. I pray you heal soon
May God give our sisters courage to walk away when they see red flags like these. It's even better if they walk away before they get married.
Aki. And just the other day people were bashing a lady who walked away just before the wedding.
If you have gone to school .Use your knowledge
Exactly what I subjected myself to and here I am divorced and it’s crazy. Just grateful I have a job and my 3 beautiful children
@@JenWamalwahmmmm sometimes it’s easier said than done
@@ShilohHeartLandCountryHymnscan you imagine this society can be cruel
The interview is of another level, what she went through was worse nobody deserve it. As of me men of God is a no, I'm a believer and I love God, but this pretence with men of God is of another level, God see you through dear
Being over-religious sometimes makes us ignore so many obvious red flags, being submissive can mess your life big time.
It happens to me
True!
True
Being submissive mess your life how but remember you can't leave with man if you can't do that it not possible you just need to be single no man wanted a woman who can't submit
True.
I have been so drawn to the story, to the point that I fought the urge to breakdown into tears 🥹……. This man really hated her so much. No one can treat someone they love like this. 🙌🏾 I hope she finds peace and true healing. To the women who have been blessed to watch this story, let this be AN IMPORTANT LEARNING POINT.
This is another series of how to ignore red flags 🚩
I m back after watching the whole interview. Thanks Emma for telling your story. May God come through for you and continue being with you. Glory be to God that you are still alive. You will be alright 🫂🫂🫂🫂
Ladies alot to learn from this story. We need Precious Holy Spirit to Guide and Help us.
We need to have Spirit of Discernment. If my sister had a Spirit of Discernment, less mi
Amen
Yes, that is the fact. I don't blame the guy. I blamed the lady. Someone told you he was a man of God, and immediately, you accepted his proposal. Despite a lot of red flags from God through your pastor, father, etc. If you are truly a child of God, you will surely ask him for directions
My feedback is, as Christian gal, let's use the office of the HOLY SPIRIT, He is our advocate in everything, He helped me from abad Guy like that , and guess what, next year am getting married in Jesus,name. On a confirmed basis.
Thank you!!! This is the comment I have been looking for. God bless you ❤
True
Yes, that is the fact. I don't blame the guy. I blamed the lady. Someone told you he was a man of God, and immediately, you accepted his proposal. Despite a lot of red flags from God through your pastor, father, etc. If you are truly a child of God, you will surely ask him for directions
I would rather live alone
Hello Can I have contact details for the lady?
Pole sana Emma. I knew you right before you finished high school. You were a very humble and full of respect. Pole for what you went through in the hands of this wolf in 🐑 skin. God will restore every thing the devil stole. Keep matching my girl.
My dad rejected my ex in a dream and that was all the sign I needed.Long story..we ended the relationship
Look out for red flags girls
They are all over.
Watch out and stay woke
what of us who dont have parents ..nwy good for yu
@millicentmukoya1292 God has a unique way of talking to each one us and he knows us better than anybody else. Jer 29:11
May you find healing in Christ
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This woman is beautiful she should not be hurt
The loss was too much. Indeed God saved her from this horrible man.
So the un beautiful should be hurt by narcs
My question too dea😢@@martinakemunto7785
Èveryone is beautiful in their own way ànd noone deserves to be hurt.
Ladies, let me shout. NEVER CLAIM A MAN BEFORE HE CLAIMS YOU IN PUBLIC. She introduced that man as her fiance long before they were engaged. Let him claim you first and announce your place in his life. Otherwise, assume uou are just friends, not even a girlfriend.
preach 🎉
True
Please shout it louder. You wrote my thoughts. 🎉
Yes yes yes
Understood
Beautiful Baby Gal Emma, hugs mama❤❤❤. Our God is a restorer, He will restore you.
This lady is veeeery patient.. better broken relationship than a broken marriage
Again don't be blindfolded by the fact that someone is so committed to God's ministry.... Kuna waliovalia ngozi ya kondoo kumbe ndani ni mbwa mwitu,...
@@kaybkayit's true
Wasichana mjipendee mwache ujinga
Sure lemme run
Very correct dear
Im a man l have listened to Emmas marriage story but let me tell you l have shed tears on behalf of her,emma deserve a good start of life 😭😭😭😭😭
@@davydavydavy330 I agree
True..as I'm listening my heart is racing...Emma saw the red flags but eish she was blinded by this evil man
I love the fact that we learning
Painful
The best part is that you left!
Her story is so similar to mine. I lost several pregnancies, however I just realized that it was the stress of the marriage because the incidents were almost identical to hers. The pastors also played a major role in it. Women in America are more vocal, so I was labeled as the wife who would not submit. I married an African Man and attended a mainly African church. Thank God I finally threw him out!
Are you not African yourself? You appear to be Ghanaian.
I have listened to this story over and over again and even twice
week but i never get tired and the girl is lively.
The only regret I have watching this video is that they didnt show his face. That's a psychopath full of demons; other women should be protected from him.
Very true,sahii ameshakatia More than 50 claiming yeye ni pastor
True wonder why they cdt expose his face
aki io sura ionekane asi ruin peoples daughter
Anaitwa Jose papason
@@kobugabeelizabeth3657 I wonder too 😥
Emma and I have done ministry in crusades she is a beautiful soul and a blessing
She friend zoned you, l can see.. 🤔
@@BlueSkyTrading8719Bitter soul here guyz
Anne is a woman. 🤣 🤣 @@BlueSkyTrading8719
@@BlueSkyTrading8719They are probably both matured enough to understand and agree that they are not attracted to each other.
Why should someone mess up this great beautiful and honest soul?😭 mkajua wengine wetu…
When we listen to both of them , we can be in a position to judge
Ministry is your life at home...to all ministers!!!
You are very young to be mistreated with this hyena, you took the right path,may God heal your heart and open more doors in your life, you are blessed gal❤❤
Very educative. Don't ever be lied to that someone Will change in marriage. the unmarried take notes from Emma 's story.
May the Lord remember you Emma.
Yeah A lizard in courtship doesn't become a crocodile in marriage....a fornicator in courtship becomes an adulterer in marriage.Only God can change people
One thing i have realised is that God will give you all the signs, you just have to open your eyes! I will never again ignore the signs because to me that's the spirit of God rejecting that person for me.
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So true!
Very true
So true God will always gently show you the signs
True
Those Red flags were not only bright red but they were screaming very loud and clear. Like red
Very very loud... This is amazing
I have never heard these so many red flags from a person. Even the blind could hear and run for their lives.
That's how God was protecting her
The red flags were clear indeed. As women we must guard ourselves against deception. God is always speaking.
Very true but remember we live life forward but understand it backward 😀. At the moment she wouldn’t have realized that it was screaming red flag.
I admire her confidence for sharin g this becz its an eye opener.
Beautiful souls always end up in wrong hands.may God intervene for all beautiful souls.
I am sorry you lost your unborn child.
I am happy you left the toxic marriage.
God allows divorce when immorality is the case.. you are beautiful and very hardworking.
May I ask, who are these men of God and what church is this that supports immorality?? Gosh.
Any financially stable woman should know that most men dont marry you for love but for help
Add volume
Basically there’s no hope for us
finally someone is honest with the truth😂😂😂
not true but we women should be very alert ...
@@zeemali4369not true aki... seems like u have lost hope!
Thanks for exposing such kind of man. There are so many of a kind. Ladies with money must start disguising before falling in that trap. It's so painful 😢
Thanks for sharing dear. May God heal and restore you. I'm a South African and amazed at how you managed to stay calm throughout this journey. Since I got serious with God and started going to church after covid19, church has been one of the scariest places to be at I realized. We need heightened discernment. And "men of God" are usually broke, not sure why 🤔🚮🚮
I nearly got manipulated by one church guy early last year but I just told him my parents aren't taking any half/quarter dowry, I'm not convincing anyone anything. Either he has money or stay away. I decided to be very firm, unapologetic and harsh where I had to be about it. I look back and I thank God!
Lady, you are a real child of God. Don't worry God will settle you
For sure this girl is so nice and focused and loves God genuinely.
She was minister in church serving God with all her heart 😢
Thank you Emma for being vulnerable and sharing your story. I pray that you heal emotionally and physically from the pain endured due to your marriage. Much as its painful to have lost a child whom you felt brought so much joy and peace at the time you were going through the most, i believe God allows certain things to happen for our own good. Your ex husband has all the qualities of being a dead beat father.
You are loved Emma. God loves you so much. Thank God you didn't die in that so called marriage. You are special and God love you so much. Keep the faith,keep serving God and please learn to trust your God given spirit that gave you signs before marriage but you were so naive to understand . May the new year bring you peace,divine healing and Divine Restoration. ❤❤❤❤
Being with a narcissist is the worst thing ever, it's traumatizing
I can relate dear ❤
You mean every story we judge people to be narcissist
Being broke does not make you a narcist.. if this woman felt she needed to get a person who could pay his way, she should have chosen a different man.
Women have their weddings paid for all the time, you don't hear men saying they are narcissist
It hurts even more bearing in mind that's how their brain is wired and they never change
Woooi,i ended up alone wid 4 kids,but at least i hav peace and happy .
Next time we have such sad stories let's uncover the faces of those men and women for the rest to know they are Masked people 😢😢😢😢.
Am feeling so bad you went all through that
I agree with you,the guy will strike again and mess up with another good girl
Brilliant idea
True. We want to see and group all the Narcissists near us
I agree with you we need to see them
My thought too
Pole Dada kwa ayo mapitiyo yote umepitiya.
You're young and intelligent
And MUFALME WA MA FALME YESU-KRISTO MWENYEWE, ANAKUPENDA SANA ❤ take care
My exact story...the process, the questions, the everything. Im like listening to my story from someone else.
We are many Deborah..narcissists are many around us and messes up people's lives big time
Would you mind sharing yours?I can give you a platform as well
Praying that you have healed or on the pathway to healing. May your story be a healing balm to someone else.
So sorry dear🙏
Went through the exact same thing
Integrity is the backbone of true ministry !
Lying is the nature of the devil ,
True Christianity is having THE NATURE OF GOD.
Deep. I like this.
Absolutely
I Endorse This Comment!
No man who truly loves you let's you pay the bills while he does not put any little effort,he doesn't have to be rich but its just not in their nature,but many women due to desperation and wanting to appear better than other ladies fall into this trap and it always backfires,no matter how long it takes a man who sits comfortable watching you pay all the bills will embarass you one day...ladies let men be men !!!!
Let's remember that not every man who calls himself "man of God" is from God. Jesus once said they will preach my name and heal in my name but l don't know them....... Mathew 7 : 21-23
Amen, very TRUE
They never listen with all the info available now
@@trimatstudios1941this one was not even a man of God, he was a scammer
I think you are a very brave and patient woman dear Emma. Thank you for sharing your story.
I was in a very similar situation but unlike you...I didn't recognise any issues until 11yrs into the marriage. I am now out of it...free ...and at peace. Your description just like my Story...is the classic story of narcissistic abuse. Praise God we are out of it.
Those who are saying she should have left ooo she should have done this oo why couldn't she see this and that ....Blame game is easy .. spectators think they can play the match better when players are in the field...everything is funny until it happens to you or your loved one(s)
The presenter is soo matured and good, hope this lady can heal and God gives her true peace and love
Before l finish watching the whole story this lady is likable😅😅😅😅
I like her already. His loss 💯
She absolutely is. A shining star for sure
She’s 🔥🔥🔥
😂😂😂😂 she is pretty and very audible 😊
Another scammer loading 😢
This has saddened me... I couldn't finish watching it the first time😢 Today I watched to the end.
Emma, you are young and beautiful, God will locate you and give you a good husband ❤ That man never deserved you.
I'm a South African watching from Germany.
JOSEE PAPASON YOU WILL NEVER KNOW PEACE YOU DID THIS GIRL BAD. YOU BETTER APOLOGIZE ATLEAST FOR HER TO MOVE ON😢😢😢
Expecting a narcissist to apologize, really sad but it will never happen.
God is not a God of confusion ...the moment u see confusion start taking steps backward..may God help us not to follow our own path coz we dont know anything but follow his path
True ever been in this situation 😢God is great all the red flags were real after we separated. I really thank God
I’m just going through a few different phases and then it’s gonna get worse because I’m gonna go back and see what my symptoms and my doctor and I are talking and then I’m
STOP bothering GOD in KENYA too much THIEVES there and NIGERIA plz stop it.
May the Lord permanently repair Emma's heart ...your sharing will go a long way in helping the women..it's an eye opener