Questions Guys Are Too Afraid To Ask Girls
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- Опубліковано 6 лип 2024
- ‘Questions Guys Are Too Afraid To Ask Girls’ Ft. Hannah Williamson
We’re switching it up this week and giving the men a chance to ask some questions. Hannah and Morgan give us a female perspective to questions like ‘what’s the first thing a girl notices about a guy?’ and ‘what do girls think of innocent guys?’ Ladies, help the dudes out by sharing your thoughts in the comment section!
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Dudes, what did you think of the gals’ answers? Ladies, help the guys out by commenting additional thoughts you have!😊
Paul and Morgan the first thing I definitely look at in a guy is their style in clothes and their hair.
Thank you guys for your amazing videos 👍🏻😊 before I started watching the Paul and Morgan show, I was losing hope as to ever finding out if there are good men and women in the world. I’ve had some bad experiences with guys but, you all have renewed my hope in God that he will bring me the right man someday 😊Thank you for obeying God and speaking boldly for Jesus Christ!!! I’m praying for you guys!
-Gracie
So, something that I noticed about the guy I like was the way he treated other girls who weren't his gf. He treated them with tremendous respect and up here in Alaska, often times downtown Anchorage isn't the safest place for girls, so whenever our group of friends went to the mall to eat, my brother, the guy I like and another boy would always wait until all the girls were safely inside before following. Point being, to some girls: CHIVALRY IS ATTRACTIVE! XD
I absolutely love you guys
Their answers were pretty great! I agree with Morgan that the woman should be her man's best friend and not another female. I wish we could get a part 2 to this video😆😆😆😆
Another thing women notice and are attracted to right off the bat: MATURITY
Something guys dont have till 40🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
A lady’s maturity is the same for me.
A mark of maturity is not boasting about possessions. I have. a nice house that I own but the girl I'm into didn't find out by me telling her. She asked.
I am 27, and a lot of the Christian guys that I know are still a little bit immature.
ABSOLUTELY!
*Smoking* is a huge NO-GO. I could see the cutest guy ever but as soon as he lights his cigarette I'm like aight imma head out.
Robin Sparkles I agree💯I can’t deal with men who smoke
Agreed! So gross and trashy to me
It's the same thing for me with woman.
Same
Same for women, I worked with woman that was a smoker, and she wondered why her boyfriend wouldn’t even play with her long hair.
One thing I immediately notice about guys is how they hold eye contact with me, their smile, and hygeine! I definitely love it when a guy makes others around him laugh and smile 😊
Yuvia Maldonado those are good!
Yes!! Great aspects of a guy!
its terrifying holding eye contact because you don't know if the girl is going to think you are creepy for looking ar her 😑
* why is this potato 🥔 looking at me *
Yuvia Maldonado I do agree with her that the way he dresses too
When I think about innocent guys I think about purity. And heck yes, I think it's attractive. Knowing that a guy has saved himself for me is amazing. Whether it's sex, kissing, touching, all of it.
This might seem a little old school, but I do not want a guy to ask me out through a text message lol. Like, I would much rather him ask me out face to face
Laura Ashley 🙏 me too.
Laura Ashley that’s what I was thinking! It kinda takes the romance off it imo
Amen, Sister!
Same
What would. Show him you are approachable? As man I am always cautious about approaching women, less so if they are out my age group like 20+ years older.
To me innocent means almost wholesome, pure, good intentions, etc which I LOVE
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I love wholesome. Like not cheesy wholesome cliched, but an earnestly good person. Its beautiful
That's absolutely attractive! This is what I want; searching for in a husband!
Me too :)))
Yep yep
I don’t care if a guy has abs 🤷♀️ Doesn’t really matter, but I find fit guys attractive. It’s not a deal breaker for me at all.
rachrad13ify thanks for sharing, seems like most girls feel this way😊
Same
rachrad13ify i don’t like abs
completely agree
I know girls who like fluffy guys😅😅😊
Guys who take care of their bodies and are healthy that's attractive but dude you don't need a six pack and you definitely don't have to be super skinny or super muscular! Honestly just take care of yourself and make sure you are happy with the way you look! 🔥👀
Arielle C 😊
Yeah, definitely agree. A guy who takes care of his body - especially out of respect for God's work - is attractive. Personally, I'm not a huge six pack fan but trying to be healthy is an admirable aspiration.
It’s more attractive for a guy to be confident and not have a six pack than to have a six pack and think he needs it to be attractive.
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Innocence is attractive but naive is a slight turn off for me!
I hear what you’re saying :)
Physically I'm attracted to a nice smile and soft eyes. But honestly my attraction to a guy grows with getting to know who they are and what they stand for. Like if they treat others with respect, especially their family, or if they prioritize time with God as well as with me. Honesty, chivalry, goofiness, thoughtfulness, faithfulness, and strength under pressure; now that's handsome!
I agree with this 100 percent. Physical attraction is cool, but what really matters is the personality as you get to know them over time. 😆😆😆
Yeah, it can really switch the other way when I get to know the guy. Either from the positive to negative side or vice versa.
Amorina G preachhhh
You partner needs to be your best friend. Agree Morgan!
stacysharena 😊👌
Of course. But your only best friend? Is your husband not allowed to have any close relationships with women in the future? I understand that your partner should be your first best friend but no one has only one best friend.
@@danieltakawi9919 you can only have one best friend by definition. They’re the best, número uno
Lots o’ fun as always 🎉. & lots of honesty/ realness 🙌🏼 thanks for having me on broskis. Love y’all 💯
It was a lot of fun having you, Hannah Banana! We’re blessed to have you as a friend!😊
Bro hannah. Im an 18 Christian man, I've never had a girlfriend. Any advice for man looking to find his future wife?
Matthew 6:33 and keep the biblical Sabbath brother.
Paul looks so intrigued when they talk about girls going to the bathroom together! Haha
Ella Brown ..yeah! I was intrigued as well😅
Lol. I've been asking that exact same question, and I'm a girl. When I go to the bathroom, I specifically want to be left alone.
@@lanadoesathing lol I know right same 😂
The first thing Morgan notices is....... If he's hot!? And she's actually opening up about not liking pudge and liking muscles!? Good for you honestly, so many people would be so on you saying you're shallow and judgy. Knowing what you like is smart.
Jeremiah Bok 😁😊
bro I feel like I think about sex just as much as guys, I think everyone should learn to be comfortable with their sexuality, even if they want to wait until marriage
dev0n james probably true haha
Umm I would be surprised
surprise! in a general sense, girls and guys think about sex just about the same amount.
Exactly
Yeah, I don't think it's necessarily a gender thing. Some people are just more into sex than others.
I agree that if a guy's best friend was a girl I would be uncomfortable dating him. In my own life, when a guy I'm friends with gets into a relationship or I get into a relationship I distance my self from them.
Abigail Betts thanks for sharing, good to know :)
That is a kinda stupid thing to do imo
@@ERR-sc6vs Why? It's not like I don't talk to them anymore, it's just that I don't run to confide in them and I don't expect that we will spend all our time together.
Abigail Betts Pay ERR 404 no mind...you’re doing the right thing. It’s only right to be respectful enough of your friendship to be selfless in that way.
I think it's sad to distance yourself from your friends because you get into a relationship. My best friend when I was younger was a guy, and when he started dating his now wife she was very uncomfortable by his friendship with me. Our friendship eventually suffered because of it. Many years later I ran into him and we started hanging out again, and his wife apologized to me which I really appreciated. She was nothing but welcoming to me at that point. I wasn't mad about it or anything, it's just sad it has to happen that way because great friends are so hard to come by. My husband has a couple girls he's been good friends with long before we ever got together, and they're amazing.
Paul's face during this 😂
Bahaha
1. Does it actually matter how a guy asks you out. Some say it doesn’t if they’re interested, it doesn’t matter.
I think it depends how often you see the girl. If you consistently see her on a daily or weekly basis it will mean more to her if you ask her in person. But if you are nervous to ask her, texting or messaging her is fine.
2. Why do girls go to the bathroom together?
For me it’s a couple reasons, 1 it’s safer to go together especially if it’s a place where the bathrooms are far to the back. 2 sometimes you actually have to go to the bathroom but are just waiting for the other person to go so you aren’t going by yourself. 3 everything Morgan and hannah said, checking hair/outfit and asking if things are going good/ talking about the guy.
3. Do most Christian girls find extremely innocent guys unattractive?
Not necessarily, I find a guy that is super sxual or bold to be less attractive to me. When a man saves himself for marriage or is saving his first kiss for someone special I find that to be more attractive because he is keeping himself accountable for his actions. I would never judge a guy for not saving himself for marriage but it is a contributing factor when I’m deciding who I want to date because at the end of the day my goal is marriage and if a guy is only looking for a physical relationship I won’t lead him on.
4. How often do you think about/want s*x
We probably think about it like 1-2 times a day. As an unmarried woman I would say it’s so different for every woman. Unlike men it also has to do with a woman’s cycle during the month. It’s all about keeping yourself accountable for your actions so when you are tempted and fall you can recognize what tempted you and how you can avoid that.
5. How do you feel about us having best friends that are girls?
That’s tricky because it’s similar to girls with guy best friends. Most of the time the guy will have feelings for the girl who may or may not reciprocate the feelings. If the guy has a girlfriend/fiancé/wife making it clear to the girl best friend that you are in a committed relationship with another woman is the way to go. If your girl best friend can’t respect that you are committed to another woman and makes moves on you, you may need to distance yourself from her.
6. Do girls care if we are too clingy in a relationship? Like seeking too much affirmation?
It’s all about balance. If a guy is constantly seeking affirmation, after a while he is gonna come off as very clingy. Don’t get me wrong when a guy is able to healthily express his emotions or comes to me to help him through his emotions I find it attractive because he wants to better and take care of himself.
7. What do girls first notice about a guy?
Speaking just to physical attributes, eyes and eyelashes, hands, and style. You don’t have to be the most stylish guy ever but switching it up and showing that you know how to dress is great. On the other side more characteristically, I find it attractive when a guy can sing, plays an instrument or can draw or paint (or something of the sort) Also this is so important! Notice how he treats his parents and if he treats you differently when you are around him and his friends rather than one on one. When a guy is respectful to his parents and also still respectful to you when you guys are around his friends he’s a keeper.
8. Do girls really care if guys have 6 packs?
Absolutely not. If I expected him to have a 6 pack he would be justified in expecting me to have a 6 pack (I don’t 😂). Personally I like a guy who knows how to take care of himself, eats well, doesn’t spend 24/7 on video games (there’s nothing wrong with playing video games just not all day every day, I play video games too) and is active.
Little Darling Very thorough and well put; nicely done!
Thanks for typing all of that out. Good thoughts. :)
Thanks for sharing, appreciate your insight😊
Why notice a guy's hands??? 😄 seems so weird
Nick C i think it’s because big hands are a masculine trait kinda like muscles or a prominent jawline
I go to the bathroom with another girl for safety reasons.
Kenadie Halling :)
Kenadie Halling same
Same most of the time
good answer
Safety?
Paul’s face during the whole restroom explanation 😂😂💀
This may be because I’m a teacher, but one of the first things I notice about a guy is his grammar! 😂 If a guy is texting me, and his grammar is horrible, I tend to be less interested. 😅
Haha very interesting
When I go to the restroom with other girls it's usually just because I don't want to feel left out and be lonely while the rest of my friends are still hanging out without me.
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Eye contact, when they say your name, eyes and smile, PERSONALITY, sense of humor
Yes!!
I think I that at first glance, a totally shredded man is attractive, but I wouldn't actually want that in my future partner because 1. I don't hold myself to those standards and would feel insecure being around him and 2. I don't want someone to be spending all of their time at the gym when there are more important things to be doing.
"For physical training is of some value, but godliness has value for all things, holding promise for both the present life and the life to come."
What if the guys isn't at the gym all the time and he conditions himself for the sake of pleasing his wife or attracting girls? (I'm not trying to argue I genuinely want to know)
Mara Bruyere appreciate the honesty!
@@orpheusasmr9858 I think that's fine if he wants to do that. I mean, I think he should be doing it for himself tbh, not other people. As long as it doesn't consume his life, ie. 6 days a week, 3 hours a day, etc. We don't necessarily live in a society where that kind of strength is needed unless you plan on wrestling some bears in the future lolol
@@orpheusasmr9858 but also that's MY personal opinion. I'm sure there are women who WANT a man to take care of himself like that (although it seems a bit shallow). I would want my person to care about their health of course, but I don't work out personally so I wouldn't expect my husband to do it too. Different strokes for different folks 😁
Mara Bruyere Amen! It’s not vain to be physically fit. But, it needs to be put in its proper place.
The first thing I notice about a guy is definitely their demeanor and the presence they give off. Everything that Hannah said basically. I can read guys very easily and I can tell when they are cocky, shy, relaxed, nervous, happy, chill and more! That's definitely the first thing I notice honest truth 🙂
Arielle C thanks for sharing!
I prefer you to ask me out in person, and I may be a bit old fashioned but I feel like it's more respectful and in a way more attractive if you talk to my father figure (In my case my grandpa) if you are allowed to date me or even take me out on a date! It's respectful and it shows a lot of chivalry I would just feel like a princess if a guy does that for me! 🙂
Arielle C appreciate the honesty :)
I’m the same way. I prefer to ask a girl out in person, as, imo, it shows more intentionality and confidence (and chivalry as you said) than text or dm.
Same. I feel like it's harder to find someone who does that
Arielle C same.
I would feel a bit weird about a guy asking my family to date me. I don't have a dad and have never had one in my life and my grandfather isn't alive and my only other male relative is my 22 year old brother or my uncle. I would probably hope if I got married, that the girl would ask my mom for permission.
Why do we go to the restroom together?
Well... should we just exchange pads and tampons in front of you? Restroom is the only place we can do our pad dealing business without getting caught 😆
Ahhaha. Your comment made me laugh. I actually use pads hah
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Really? I didn't know that was a thing. I usually don't go to the bathroom with my friends unless it so happens that we are already heading that way. I never understood back during middle school at church events and 5-6 girls who were friends would all go to the bathroom together.
I actually only ask for company when I'm on my period
Sure, deal in front of us. A truly mature guy, or girl wouldn't have a problem with seeing a tampon exchange hands, I mean there's tact, maybe dont pass it with the salt at the dinner table . It's a natural bodily function, not a shameful curse. Never ceases to baffle me how society gets their feathers ruffled over something as ordinary as the full moon.
The best thing a guy can do is make everyone around him feel accepted, from the “cool guy” to the “quiet loner”, no one is excluded from his kindness or friendship. There’s some elements from the bad boy stereotype I guess I can understand, that one is confidence, but not arrogant, if a guy can be confident in his daily life that’s a plus!
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I like it when a guy has the guts to ask you out in person. Guys just end up doing everything through messaging to me and I am getting tired of it...
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They get feed up from being rejected in person
Paul's face at 2:22 HAHAHA *confusion intensifies*
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My boyfriend has a couple of friends that are girls. The one is almost like his sister but it still bothers me at times. But the others i know them personally and i trust them to a point of where i know that they wouldnt allow him to persue them. We have recently talked about it as well and he knows that i trust him. He still chose to step back and not be as close to them.
Essence Whisel thanks for sharing :)
I think that was really cool of him.
Why does it bug you if you trust him? Just curious.
@@joannajett2524 i guess maybe there is a little distrust. But its not to where i want him to cut them out of his life
@@essencewhisel4992 Okay fair enough.
I really enjoyed this video and last week's video! As far as being asked out, I personally prefer if a guy asks in person. I know it takes courage, so that shows me that he is confident and able to communicate face-to-face. It also demonstrates to me that he values going out with me enough to go out on a limb and take a risk. That's not saying that I'd always refuse to go out with a guy who called or texted, I just prefer in person. I think whatever medium guys use, what is most important to girls is that guys are clear. We really appreciate when you make it clear to us that you are asking us out instead of making us guess whether something is a hangout or a date. 😊
Kyrié Elizabeth thanks for sharing!
Yes! well put!
Also, regarding a six pack, I honestly don’t care if he has a six pack. I actually am not attracted to guys that are incredibly ripped. I would want whoever I date to be fit and active for sure, but guys that are like giants because of their crazy muscles are not that attractive to me 🤷🏻♀️
Victoria The Gr8 same here
yh like if i like a guy and he happens to have a 6 pack then.....who's complaining. im not gonna be like "get pudgy NOW!!! I HATE SIX PACKS!!!!"............hell no.
I for sure would not want to be asked out through a text message even if I was super interested in the guy. Calling is okay, but still I love when a guy is able to show enough confidence to actually do it in person.
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A man who doesn't participate in evil but is knowledgeable and wise, not at all ignorant - that's very attractive. Roms 16:19 ... 'but I want you to be wise about what is good, and innocent about what is evil'.
Yes! An intelligent, wise man who is strong in his faith is very attractive!
@@fw5680 I mean athiest men are still very attractive.
Faith in my opinion is very unintelligent.
@@AliceRoche-ii2ke men with no rules are attractive?!😏
@@redpill344 what do you mean no rules?
Amen😊
I appreciate a guy who can ask me out in person, rather than through a text, or even phone call. Shows courage on his part and is just more meaningful to me.
I'm with Hannah, I think the first thing I notice about a guy is his demeanor and attitude. Like if he's kinda got a bored or "meh" look and attitude all the time, it's an instant turn off, even if he's physically attractive. I like guys who are genuinely friendly, outgoing, and smile a lot. So I guess as far as physical appearance goes, I notice smiles first? Or just their face as a whole.
Personally, I couldn't care less about a six pack. Nice to look at, I guess, but it's just not important at all. I feel like that would make me feel insecure about myself since I'm not particularly fit. Maybe that's why I don't care about them lol
I find Innocence attractive, but I've also never been in a relationship, so I'd like to be kinda even and on the same level of non-experience 😂
Def would feel uncomfortable with my boyfriend having a female best friend.
I feel like we go to the bathroom together for like, social reasons. It's a chance to talk about stuff without the guys around. 🤷🏼♀️
Honestly, I don't think about sex often at all. But I imagine that has something to do with your current situation too.
When you say clingy, I think about a guy who's constantly calling/texting wanting to be in constant communication and know what you're doing at all times, never giving you any space and being needy. That is definitely a big NO. I like my space and alone time. I don't need to be talking to you or near you every hour of the day.
Hi, you said a guy is clingy when he texts you all the time. So if you may help me then... I like a girl and she stays 5 minutes from me she goes to school and I am a homeschooler, I don't see her alot because I'm not in her school so... How can I talk to her without talking to much and how can I see if she likes me... She and her best friend calls me every day for the past week they have done this in September 12th 2019 and I told her I liked her she said she would say the same but she is in a relationship although her bf is cheating btw they broke up a week later
So now they are calling me at 3 pm every day and we talk but how can I know if she likes me and how can I make a move. Would appreciate if you could help me out
@@adriaanstips1407 oh gosh, I don't know that I'm the best person to be asking, lol. But if she's the one initiating calls and texts every single day, I'd say she does like you. And how to make a move? Idk, just ask her out on a date?
@@Celestria okay thanks. She calls but she doesn't text first she has only texted first... three times so far after I have known her for a year. Will try after the lock down, thanks though
Appreciate you sharing :)
@@PaulandMorgan it's her birthday tomorrow thinking about how I can do something for her as a friend ||April 3||
All I have to say is a simple thank you. Lots of good knowledge here. Also thanks to people in the comment section as well for further good insight.
Sedric Granger awe you’re welcome👊 Glad it’s helpful!
It definitely depends on what you mean by "Innocent" but if you mean guys who are not worldly and don't desire worldly things that type of innocent then I love it! Personally if you've never even kissed a girl that is not a turn off it's kind of cute 😂👀
Arielle C thanks for the honesty!
Its not just cute it rare and extremely appreciated by me .. im a woman
Yesssss, I like that kinda innocent too. The ones that don't indulge in worldly desires of the flesh😁
@@giftedvoices533 Yess!!! Haha
@@boomshell8506 You are right it's very rare!
I usually grab girls to go to the bathroom with because, if I'm at an event I don't wan to miss out on the fun or be accidentally left. Going to the bathroom can be an exciting thing when you go with a group. Plus you get to catch up on all the things you can't say in front of the guys. Sometimes, I just don't want to get lost or I don't want to stay alone with whoever isn't going to the bathroom.
I agree! I am always so scared that I am going to get left out or left behind!
Abigail Betts haha very interesting, thanks for sharing :)
Yeah most of the time my girl-friends and I go to the bathroom together just to catch up and chat on the way there, there and then the way back. It's quite freeing and enjoyable to be able to talk with them lightly or deeply like that.
Honestly I've never been one to go to the bathroom with other girls but I know why most do it. I'm just going to be completely honest here girls usually go to the bathroom NOT to use the bathroom 😂 sometimes we go in there to talk about personal issues we might go in there to freshen up and we will bring our girls with us so that they can give us pointers on how we look. Also sometimes we might forget a pad or tampon and instead of just throwing it out in public we go to the bathroom and ask our other girl friends if they have one we can use... 🤭
That’s an interesting insight, thank you 😊 for clearing that up..I’ll definitely keep a mental note when go on a date with a girl 👍🏿
I first notice facial hair 😍 as well as whether they initiate conversation with people/how social they are!
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Okay, so I also notice a man’s hands, but it usually to see if he is wearing a wedding band. I don’t want to accidentally flirt with a married man! Not that I flirt all the time, but you get what I’m saying :)
Oh my goodness, yes so important!!!
Even being nice can be seen the wrong way by some men, not all, just some- so I understand ❤❤❤ I hate even being too close to a married man or being alone for a few seconds bc I don't think it's good, especially if I find them a little attractive and I'm trying to not be that person with the Lord Jesus help.
Not that I'm saying I would cheat or even think that would happen, but even just being alone with the opposite sex, I just try to guard myself, my heart, like I know God wants me to, even if it means nothing, better nothing than even a little.
Jolena Welker yes, girl! Exactly! Some people tell me I come off as flirty when I’m just being nice, so it gets confused a lot. I also try not to be alone with the opposite sex just to be above reproach. That way there’s no room for us to accidentally go too far or get carried away. Great points!!
I usually don't even talk to a guy if he is married or in a relationship. I have been talking to guys who are cute at church events, trying to get to know them. As soon as a guy mentions his girlfriend or fiancee, I usually end the conversation pretty quickly.
When asking a lady out, I would very much suggest expressing an open interest in getting to know her because you think she's fun and/or interesting. Dont be too heavy handed with your feelings and expectations, if you express too strong of feelings/expectations straight away, she may feel bad if her feelings aren't at that same level (right away) and back away.
I find innocence refreshing and sweet, maybe they are referring to ignorance being unattractive?
I appreciate what Morgan said SO much. I was in relationship for over 2 years which was completely toxic looking back now because he still wanted to message girls including his exes, and would use his 'pastors kid' status as an excuse. 9/10 months into our relationship I saw he was messaging girls including his ex on things such a snapchat where it would automatically delete the message but I had to find that when I was taking selfies on his phone, he never told the truth. It was always an issue, I guess my anxieties for those years were right because he cheated in the end, with that ex...thanking God for His guidance in getting out of that relationship!
Sorry to hear that:/
I recently went on a couple dates with a guy who has just as many close girl friends and it was one of the things that held me back from continuing to date. It really bothered me. Not in a jealousy way but in a questioning of his intentions with me and really with other girls.
I actually don’t like 6 packs, I’d prefer just the most average of body types on a guy lol
Same here. Not a deal breaker either, but definitely not a fan.
Thanks for the honesty :)
I do have a close guy friend being a girl and it’s something that I tend to be careful with. I know that I don’t want to date him and he does not want to date me, but I can still see how his girlfriend can be wary. Whenever he’s in a relationship I’m always asking before we hang out (we hang out in groups only but he’s the only male in the group) I always ask her if shes okay with this? Or I always invite her out to come too so she can actually be there because while he may not get it (or the girlfriend may be okay with our closeness) I’m always going to make sure nothing can happen
Thanks for sharing :)
This was great! 😂 I don’t find anything wrong with innocence even though I love tattoos, but if someone is too naive (which is very common in the christian community) or too passive/insecure it would be hard to make a connection. Also, most girls do not care about abs haha. Girls are more emotionally wired while guys are more physical so we typically care more about the connection and how that person makes us feel.
Thanks for the honesty :)
I've tended to find women often appreciate innocence or a certain boyish naivety when it's tempered with confidence or a self-assured way with conducting oneself. In certain experiences I've had, without sounding immodest, I know that I've (pleasantly) surprised women by seeming so passionate or affable, to then come out as maybe a little more inexperienced or vulnerable in certain areas. I think it can activate a natural maternal instinct in women that triggers after a connection is made. Obviously it doesn't quite work if you're TOTALLY submissive, however (just as it doesn't work if somebody is totally reckless or over-the-top).
Hey Paul and Morgan and Hannah Willamson just wanted to thank y'all for what y'all are doing for the kingdom and look forward to seeing all of you in Heaven one day God bless y'all 🙌
Paul’s reactions are a MEME 😂😂😂
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I would enjoy a part 2 to this 🙂🙏. Thanks for being honest y'all
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I always go to the bathroom with other girls because 1) it feels safer 2) you can have a private conversation without looking rude and 3) you can borrow stuff (makeup, period products, etc.) from a friend
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The first thing I notice about a guy🤓 is the way he stands and the way he walks😏
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Paul, you got me crackin up over here with that grin at 4:17 🤣
johnathan long bahaha
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This is one of my top-10 favorite videos of yours! Keep up the great work!
Why do I have a six pack if girls don't careeeee? 😭
It matters if you are doing it for you!
I feel that man 😂
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for shredding cheese?
Some girls like It a lot.
So true on the asking out answer! Confidence. If I don’t want to go out with the guy than I don’t want to go, no matter how I get asked.
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The main reason people have issues with their significant others having opposite sex friends is mostly because of insecurities.....
One of my best friends is a guy and neither of us have feelings for each other, I was in his wedding, he'll be in mine, we've advised each other on how best to be in relationships.
so long as both of you have each others' best interest at heart and neither are romantically interested, it could be incredibly beneficial to have best friends of opposite sex... otherwise it's just insecurities....
Thanks for the perspective
I respectfully disagree and what makes your comment a litte distateful is that you are writing as if this is an objective fact and not just an opinion, an opinion which you are entitled to of course, but an opinion nonetheless.
Typically it has to do with how much respect you are giving to you partner. For example, if you bring your emotional or relationship issues to your "best guy friend" (which is bound to happen) this is a recipe for disaster and is completely disrespectful to your partners. Any badmouthing or attempt to confide in your opposite sex friend is not about "insecurities" as you childlishly put it, its about respect
Sveta I agree with you, sadly my old best friends wife forbid us from bring friends once they got married. She was jealous but there was no need. I loved him like a little brother, nothing more. My husband had no problem with it. I respect their decision but I also worry about him and what else she now forbids or demands.
@@BombBoy96 a partner can ask you not to do a lot out of respect for them, it's a manipulation tool.... and just as much as they have the freedom to ask for certain things from you, they dont get to demand it out of respect. it's disrespectful and dishonest to demand a termination of a lifelong friendship out of jealousy... and yes, it's jealousy... you can get a better perspective about a situation from a guy friend because they are a guy and they have a different point of view... girlfriends dont know what it's like being a guy since they are not one... and I'm sorry you've been manipulated into believing you cant have guys as good friends... you're missing out on a lot...
Naive I think is the right word not innocent!
Recently a guy I was best friends with for a long time cut all contact with me because his girlfriend was jealous. It really hurts hearing that you guys feel like guys and girls can't be close friends, because that is very false. In any future relationship of mine I would be totally fine with my partner's closest friends being female and he would have to love all my friends that are male too. Jealousy in that area just seems so toxic to me.
Same happened to me. But I'll admit I would be a little jealous if my husband was bestfriends with another woman but I'd deal with it as I know men & women can be friends without anything else going on.
You guys are great!!
My older sister loves you guys and she really wants to meet you!
She's been through so so much and you have helped her alot!!!
I don’t find high fashion appealing. Where I’m from, the guys I see wearing nice or trendy clothes and having their hair just right come off as caring too much what others think. I love a confident and carefree man, and one who doesn’t follow the crowd. However, hygiene is very important!! They must be clean.
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What I notice first in guys is their style but after that is hair, hands, smile. But the most important is obviously if they are true followers and God and secondly do they keep their appearance up and have good hygiene.
Amen, thanks for sharing😊
I feel like with the clingy, it depends on how much you like the guy. Because like if you aren’t very interested then it does feel suffocating and one sided.
Britney Storms :)
Been looking for someone who'd talk of this. Thank you for clearing it
I always notice a guys hygiene, how they take care of themselves, if their teeth are brushed & hair is fixed, etc. 😂
Showering often is super attractive!
Thank y'all. Y'all seem like wonderful people to me. I loved y'all's take & that, as Christians, y'all made this video & put it out there... I was expecting secular & digressing, but this was amazing & exactly what I wanted since I'm a believer as well. Thank you so much, honesty *:)*
"If they're hot." LMAO It all makes sense; a guy who takes care of himself knows how to look after his woman.
I love this video! I would love to see doing a part two of the girls ask guys but w someone around Hannah’s age
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I have a male friend and I've never really had feelings for him. But it can vary for different people.
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Can you do a video that targets younger teenagers at what their dating status should look like. Like should you be in a relationship at 13?
I forget which videos they talk about it, but they have mentioned multiple times that they do not advocate dating until you are ready to be intentional and move towards marriage. In many parts of the world, 13 is not exactly an age where marriage is an option, nor is a relationship started that early likely to last long enough to turn into marriage. (At least, not without crossing boundaries it shouldn't cross before marriage.) That's roughly what they've said before.
Zogly thanks!
Katelynne Michael 13?! Nah lol I believe dating is for looking for someone to marry and 13 is way to young for that
Most people don’t even hit puberty by that age 😂😂
I s a b e l l a thanks for the conformation!
13 yr olds aren't even close to the age for marriage. So definitely not
I used to be best friends with a guy but we lost touch mostly. I'm guessing his wife had a problem with us but there was never ever ever going to be anything between us. We were like brother and sister. We did try to have a relationship at one stage but it was too weird, I couldn't think of him that way. He was also not what I was looking for in a husband, him and my husband are very different and me and his wife are complete opposites. It is such a shame we aren't close now as we both helped eachother in many ways. But I also know if my husband had a female bestie that I would be jealous also.
Paul is hilarious! I like how he gets all into asking the ladies the questions! Good energy, Paul!!! Morgan, you are too adorable!! Hannah, you seem quite young, but you speak so maturely!!
Diggin' the vid!😎
Hahaha! "Give me that pudgy man!"
I completely agree with you Morgan that having a guy who is fit is attractive, and he doesn't necessarily need to have a six pack.
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First thing I notice about a guy: his attitude! Is he friendly or aloof? Confident or cocky! Does he treat others with respect. Eyes are a close 2nd.
The having female friends thing I actually see as plus, so long as once I have a romantic relationship with that guy, his other friendships take an appropriate distance. Kinda like what Morgan is getting at about maintaining an appropriate level of intimacy in a given relationship. I think often times guys with female friends are more sensitive (in a good way) and emotionally available.
And now, after 5+ years of marriage, I actually appreciate MyLove's female acquaintances all the more because they're an objective person able to shed some light on any given issue, but from a female perspective;)
It's the same if I take a problem to a guy friend of mine. There's no risk of gossip, like there would be if I brought that same issue up to another woman; it's just raw honest objectivity. And my husband is always eager to know what another guy had to say on whatever the issue is..
My 2 cents worth...😋
Definitely the first thing I notice is the hair. No nasty greasy hair please!
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That segment on best friends really got my attention. I personally don't feel comfortable with my girlfriend having a male "friend", because a lot of times, guys want more than friendship. And vice-versa, if I'm in a relationship, I try to limit my contact with female friends just out of respect for my girlfriend. (Been through that scenario wayyyy too many times & it just never ends well. Lol)
Where are there people like you guys here in Canada? I feel I am the only person abiding by God's laws in this country, haven't met any other with your level of conviction and wisdom on the word of God.
GOD Bless and stay strong
Super clingy is bad! Showing us your true heart, vulnerability, attentiveness, and care is super attractive!!
😂😂 OMG this was extremely funny I have to replay like a dozen times btw Hanna I like your hair and your really pretty , Paul and Morgan you guys are the best at making people (perfect match )laugh .God bless you guys really interesting one
Definitely fashion is a big thing I notice when I meet a guy, and then also their hair and smile.
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I thought girls went to the bathroom together to help out when you run out of toilet paper in the stall. Because you ate Arby’s and Taco Bell the same day and need more toilet paper.
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I agree with the reasons girls go to the bathroom together, but it’s also a safety thing, you never know when some creepo is gonna be waiting in the ladies restroom so it’s usually safer to bring a friend with you.
This is the first ever time I actually heard a credible answer to the toilet question 😂
1. In person. 2. Safety in numbers. 3. Innocent physically, yes.
4. What Paul said. 5. No, not safe. 6. Yes for sure, not fun. There's a certain balance you have to find between caring and clingy.
7. Smile, humor, personality, confidence, servant heart.
8. Not really, but they should be fit and healthy.
Thanks for the comment :)
@@PaulandMorgan My pleasure!
Here are some of my answers to these questions!!:)
1. I personally don’t care as long as your Genuine about it. I know some people who ask others out who don’t seem to genuine about wanting to go on a date, but more seem like there doing it as a dare or because there bored.
Hopefully that makes sense!!:)
2. For me it’s because I need to use the restroom and it’s nice to go in groups so you can talk and feel safer.
3. As they where saying it depends on what kind of innocent. If innocent is considered someone who can’t stand up for them self or hides in the corner, then being honest that’s not the most attractive thing. But if innocent is someone striving to do what’s right, that’s seeking God, then yes, that’s attractive.
5. In general I would not want my boyfriend to have friends that are girls, but there would be times I would be ok with that. I would want to get an idea of how this girl is, to know if she could be a threat or if she really would be just a friend. Like I have guy friends that I know we will just forever be friends, with that being said I know it’s very easy in general for it to lead to a more serious relationship. So I would want to get an idea as to who that person is and where it could lead to, but in general I would not want that.
6. I know it can be hard to find the balance of showing you care for someone, with out over doing it, but just be careful, because if you do that, that can lead to problems such as the girl taking advantage of you because she knows how much you want to know her.
7. I’m not really sure🤔, probably either the way they act or there smile.
8. No we don’t!!:) We do want you to be healthy, but you don’t need a six pack for a girl to like you. With that being said six packs show you work hard, but don’t worry if you don’t have one!!:)
Hopefully that helps and just remember not everyone has the same opinions so if you don’t think something I said, remember not everyone thinks the same!!:)
As always, thank you so much for your honesty, guys... 🧡
I’d like to add my point of view to the Morgan comment on 1:22 :
There’s a guy who I met 6 years ago with who I almost lost contact, but because we are both interested in aviation we kept texting veeeeeery from time to time about planes (nothing else). He was a complete stranger for me.
What was my surprise when I received a whoooooole pdf from him talking about marriage, being his wife, and so so straight to the point things that I was completely shocked 😳.
So, my humble opinion, guys, is that if you’re interested in a woman, please send her some clues before going straight to the point, to see how she’s reacting (may be telling her that her clothing is nice, that she’s funny or whatever) 😌
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When two people are really made for each other and you both are on the same page, then clingy-ness should not be felt. If you think the guy or the girl is too clingy then they're not the one. If you're dating the right person then you won't feel like they're being too clingy. It should feel just right. My opinion:) God bless!
Your perspective is a relief to hear 😂 I'm glad all opinions are being shared in raw honesty, but I was beginning to mentally prepare to spend the rest of my life single by how many women aren't interested in "clinginess". Now, I can understand 24/7 texting and needing to know where she is at being exhausting and too much. I was very much guilty of that in my most serious relationship. However, the "too touchy feely" part gave me reason to worry lol I'm a sensitive guy, who feels emotions VERY deeply. One of the ways I express love is by touch. Hand holding, hugs from behind her around her waist, kisses on her cheek, nose, forehead, and tracing little love letters on her hand or shoulder are some of the many ways I've expressed deep love for someone I'm with, so I'm praying that God has a woman out there that gushes for that kind of stuff, otherwise, I'm in trouble :P
Me and my boyfriend talked about this cuz I used to have a guy best friend. I think specific boundaries are important for this topic as well. My boyfriend and I decided that I would not snapchat him, would not have conversations with him about my feelings, won’t have conversations with him about physical intimacy, won’t hug him, won’t side hug him, won’t go to his house, he can’t go to my house, and I’m sure there were more little ones too. At the end of the day, me prioritizing my boyfriend lead to us not talking at all and that was sad at first, but it was worth it to me because I don’t wanna create a situation where my boyfriend feels doubt. At the end of the day I choose him over other guys and sometimes that looks like no friendship at all, and I’ve realized that’s totally okay. My boyfriend is my best guy friend so I know I’m not missing out (: Plus, if I guy friend can’t handle those boundaries I talked about, it probably means he likes you, or else he wouldn’t care I feel. 🤷🏼♀️
That’s really interesting, thanks for sharing!
But what kind of friends can't talk to each other about feelings, and can't enter each other's houses? I don't necessarily think it means he likes you if he feels kind of offended or put off by those boundaries. I would be. In fact I've been in that position with my ex best guy friend when he started dating his wife, and eventually I had to step back because there was no friendship that wasn't 100% controlled by her. And I definitely never had any sort of even passing romantic interest in him. I don't know, just my perspective. I do feel talk of physical intimacy should be off the table, but I feel that way about any friends no matter their gender.
Your boyfriend is lucky to have you. If you dont mind, how did you and your bf come to discuss this?
I get boundaries, but dang, that seems a little excessive. What COULD you do?
+1 on the clingy question. In my last relationship, I was at times told i was too clingy, but then other times was told i was too distant. It seemed impossible to be where i needed to be. How does one know what "too clingy" is? Any tips to read a girl's mind if she isn't directly giving good feedback on what she wants or would like to see?
Honestly ask her! Because it really depends on the girl. Personally I don't like when guys are to clingy but many guys get that confused and then think that they need to be super distant and that's not the case at all. Clingy can be many things! It could be you touching that person way to much. It could be you constantly texting them wanting a reply back super quickly it could be you calling them every hour of the day and not allowing them to have personal time. Clingy looks different for everyone so next time if that happens definitely ask the girl how you can be better and what can you do to make sure you aren't overstepping! :) I hope this helped brother! It will get better!
@@ariellec9676 Thanks! I think part of the problem is that she wasn't sure what she wanted, or how to tell me specifically where I could do better/adjust for her. I probably WAS a bit clingy at times. I'm hopeful that next time communication and change will be more possible. :)
Ask her, and ask again. Open communication is key. Hopefully she is comfortable being honest with you and it might take a few times before she works out how she feels.
For me, it usually depends on the situation. Like in the beginning of the relationship, my boyfriend texted me too much and would check in every day or so and want to hang out like every other day and it was too much for me in the beginning because I was just getting to know him but once we started dating more seriously, I wanted to talk to him more. But I think it depends on the person because I don’t text my boyfriend really at all to have conversations throughout the day, I stick to the time we spend together or talking on the phone. I told my boyfriend he was being too much when it was too much for me and he backed off. I think communication is key and that takes practice
Zogly good questions bro!
I first notice the hair. Usually, if it is red, it gets a second glance to make sure I saw things correctly. But, I notice their genuineness pretty quickly. If they are friendly and nice, then I'm like BROO, SUP!
Thanks for sharing :)
No problem!
Thank you Hannah for practicing car safety with that seatbelt... the entire video 😆
11:31 had me !!! 😂😂😂😂 Your guys’ energy is EVERYTHING!
Bathroom breaks together can be for so many reasons: safety, conversation (especially if in a building where it’s noisy), make up check, moral support, holding each other shopping bags when shopping together ... I personally don’t always need someone to accompany me to the restroom but it’s something that just sort happens in girl culture a lot. exceptions might include if its 2 girls having lunch out together and one may stay at the table to look after bags etc whilst the other goes for a bathroom break.
Yes that helped a lot that she was there. I like it when you have another person there to talk. Love you all. Great Video! Yes being innocent about things does hold me back because it might mean that I would have to lead or he is innocent bout the bad things would be ok because that means he was raised right. The first thing that I notice is the character and looks but character is most important because it lasts way longer than the outside appearance. It will help in the future for sure.
I like what was said @ 5.03 - responsibility to keep those thoughts/desire in check/in control
its an actual responsibility to strive for! not just a 'factor' :)
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Morgan... I am always getting teased by my friends that I am ridiculous for thinking that girls and guys can’t be best friends and have zero feelings attached. You said what I think perfectly and I thought I was the only person that thinks that... it feels so good to have someone agree with me! Thanks for the vid guys!
Jamie Martin haha you’re not alone😊
For me.. six packs isn't necessary
First thing I notice about a guy is his gesture
I don't like guys that are too clingy ...everyone needs space to breathe
I really love this video...this is my favourite episode
You guys rock!!!
From Nigeria by the way 😊😊
Motayo Kiye thanks for the comment! So glad you liked it😊❤️
I don't know if this would be ungodly of me, but Hannah is damn cute. There, I said it.
Admiring looks and lusting after them are different things, so it's fine to notice good looks
Oh that's very sweet she's very very pretty I agree
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Not ungodly to notice her physical beauty but unnecessary to use a curse word to describe it.
@@CollinMacQuarrie 'damn'
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