I'm 26 and honestly, I've had my moments where I've taken the lead, trying to figure out how the guy feels bc he's shy, but I feel like that doesn't work for me. I'll just wait for a man that'll lead. No more code cracking for me🙈😅
Same!!! I decided to trust the Lord that He would provide someone to lead & that's exactly what happened. I've been dating him for almost 3 months officially but knew him through school & church since the 8th grade, 9 years ago!
I get what you are saying, but in today’s day and age guys are terrified that if they say or do the wrong thing that they will get “metoo”ed. And it’s a legitimate concern even in my home church. Im just saying that it’s not ideal for women to lead, but today a lot of us guys are too afraid of the potential consequences of approaching women (and if they aren’t scared they should be), so if women don’t lead I don’t see many relationships in the future.
Joshua Waurich Couldn’t agree more man! I genuinely feel scared to talk to girls that I am interested in, especially if I am interested in a girl at my church. I truly don’t know what to do nowadays. The me too movement has had a big impact in my opinion. It really sucks 😞
Ugh I am soo bad at recognizing when someone flirts w me!!😆 I am always joking around with people, and I’m pretty energetic so if someone is on the same level, I just see it as normal😭🤣
From what I have seen, I don't mind it if people playfully make fun of me as long as I can back-- but that is a wrong wording. Playful banter is super fun as long as it doesn't go too far. If you are trying to tease me every single sentence, please don't. I still want to have intelligent conversations, though I love to laugh at someone's impeccable wit and sarcasm. But, don't make it a 24/7 thing. Especially if you are interested in someone. You have to show respect as well.
I'm so grateful y'all posted this!! I have had an immature guy lead me on before. He told me he was serious about pursuing dating to find another Christian to be his wife, but he was really playing games. I began to notice he did not follow God actively outside of groups, and drama seemed to follow him wherever he went. I began to notice he was disrespectful towards friends, family, and made insensitive jokes about very sensitive topics. It was a smack in the face to me because that's not the kind of person I want to be around-- it's toxic. I wonder if the Lord used that to tell me "Avery, stay single for as loonnnggg as you can". Either way, I just don't want to fall in that trap again.
I agree with Morgan regarding the "Do not make fun of the girl you're interested in". I feel absolutely embarrassed when a guy makes fun of me. It throws me off a little. Maybe because I'm too insecure and to have someone overfocus on my mistakes (even with good intention) is humiliating. 🥺
1. I recently found y’all, and y’all have really encouraged me to intentionally date 2. Im new to my area and can’t meet Godly men right now because quarantine and it makes me sad 🥺
Yea I think it all boils down to actions speak louder than words with the intentional flirter and the playa flirter. I was led on for 3 months and quickly learned this one. No settling! ❤️
If he’s talking to you he’s probably into you... I feel like most dudes (the ones I know) regardless of age, normally just hangout with other guys. So you can see a guy from a mile away who’s into a girl. But if he makes fart jokes around you he’s probably not interested in you or is playing a very sneaky game.
what a sad perspective on life. a) in my experience you can have great friendships between men and women b) i don’t want a relationship where we can’t make fart jokes no hate, obviously, just my personal experience
I think it depends on context. Some people were raised with the mindset of only having friends of their same gender, but I grew up having mostly friends that are girls (I'm also a dancer for extra context). So, even as a 21 year old, I spend most of my time around girls (maybe 60/40), and they are super aware that I don't have feelings for them.
6 months is too long. 3 months flirting and then if he doesn't ask you to be his g/f then walk. Don't waste your time. Also if you have to ask what is this, walk. A guy who really likes you, will step up to the plate even if he's shy because he likes you and doesn't want to lose you. 🤷🏽♀️ #js
It can take even more than 6 months.God can talk to you;maybe the person is dealing with personal problems that interfere with a presupposed relationship.There are people who received confirmation from God that x would be their husband but the girl had to wait like one year until she got more confirmations,until he dealt with a specific problem and came to realize how much she was for him.Things must happen in God's time,not ours.And as a person who received confirmation from God you are not supposed to say it,but have trust in God's time and wait to see the blessing at the right time coming from the guy(because,biblically,he's the one to pursue the girl,never otherwise). But if you're not acting according to a christian's perspective then you can say very easily this guy is off,this one is not worth it,it's been too long etc.
Morgan I would love to see a get ready with me esp during this quarantine time 💅🏻👄👁😀😀 and ladies, never pin hope on a guy until he tells you he likes you or wants to get out. Before then, when a guy flirts, or even messages, assume it is friendship. If he is interested, you wont have to give things a jumpstart..the right one will want to pursue you even if he is afraid of rejection And don't let your heart get involved before you know He is safe= pursues God, will honor your heart, doesn't pressure you etc.
Paul and Morgan very helpful video ..the "move on after a month" 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻💯 I like the fact that you have highlighted someone has to be clear eventually with their intentions ..🙌🏻 perhaps I am not comfortable with the term flirt 🙈..but generally ,we have learned 🙌🏻 Love your dog❤️..it has pretty eyes .
I think it's ok but not for an indefinite time. I was once in a flirtlation (word I just came up with) on and off for 5 years. It was ridiculous. Thank goodness I was 15 at the time but still. 🤦🏽♀️
My parents had tough pasts, so dating in my house wasn't allowed until we were out of high school. Because of that, I actually grew up thinking that a girl shouldn't flirt because that just means she's desperate or that it's not lady like. Talking to guys was hard at first, but now that I'm older I think flirting can be beautiful.
I usually kinda start out to tell them I like them or that I'm into them by complementing them. It just kinda happens by impulse when I'm excited after a while of knowing them. I really try to play it cool.
I have a friend that is mean/flirty with girls he likes!! I personally hate it but somehow he gets the girl!!! Some times it makes me think the girl doesn't know what she wants or doesn't know what Christ says about her; because personally I would what a man to be Christ like!!
My girlfriend (now my wife) didn't want to keep messaging me if our friendship wasn't going anywhere.So one day she asked if we could meet in person.We are married!!
Wow, rewatching this in 2022 and what really struck me was when you said "after A MONTH you can ask a guy what his intentions are" and here I am putting dudes mentally on the clock maybe 24 hours after the first exchanges :D I need to chill the frick down hahahahaah thank you so much guys for the perspective and the reminder that I may be afraid of getting hurt, but it's still necessary to give my fellow humans grace!
I do agree with the “making fun” with a girl, only in the perspective of teasing them. I think there’s a difference between teasing and actually making fun of someone. Teasing is really light-hearted and also usually not about something that could really offend them. So for example, some guy teased me because I like running and he doesn’t. He said, “oh you’re one of those?? Lol.” Personally I didn’t mind it bc I like him too 😂 so maybe it will only work on people who like you too
thanks paul and morgan for giving me the advice to flirt even though im 57. it has gone great and i am now in a dating relationship with a Christian woman
I totally get Paul’s saracasm comment! I’ve had guys flirt with me by making fun of me but playfully in a way they knew for a fact I would laugh at too.
Sarcasm and roasting is totally a language some guys speak... maybe not on a romantic relationship level ALL the time. It's definitely a sign for some guys that they like someone and want to be their friend. That's how I befriended a couple of my guy friends xD
Great practical points you two. I totally get where you’re coming from, Paul! I admire your desire to help people to take a different approach or have a different perspective on things in these areas. Y’all are extremely encouraging! I hope you two start a podcast! May God get the Glory!
I'm seventeen years old... never been asked out or never been in a relationship but I guess watching your videos strengthens my Christian faith and prepares me for the future. Thank you guys u two are really kawai(cute).
Paul has it on point, if this guy is showing you a lot of attention, cracking jokes and just making openings to talk, he likes you. If he makes a big goofy smile uncontrollably the minute he sees you, he’s really into you. Guys who aren’t into you in anyway won’t even talk to you. Also another sign is watch his eyes, if his eyes are on you and eyeing your body, thats a good sign.
I would have a guy just tell me that he likes me instead of flirting. I have some difficulty reading social cues, so I can be oblivious sometimes and I will completely not notice that a guy is trying to flirt with me.
My go-to when I like a woman is to simply engage in conversation and get to know her on a personal and deeper level; I'll cut out the small talk as quick as possible. As a Christian guy, I flirt with playful teasing. I definitely am intentional to keep it nice and caring; I dont go too far. But, I dont keep it too tame and go so far as to make the girl want to have a playful sassy comeback. If I make a quality teasing joke and she lets it fall flat, especially if more than once, I usually take it as no interest. Girls, keep in mind I occasionally do the same with either guys or girls that I simply view as a very close friend and don't have any romantic interest in.
I’m 25 and while I’m chillin in my singleness and growing deeper in the Lord, I do get very nervous I’m like missing a deadline. A lot of my old high school friends are married and people in my small group are already married. Ah. I know it’s God’s timing but I’m getting nervous haha. But in singleness we can focus more on the things of Lord as Paul says which is awesome!!!
How about if the guy is looking at you a lot. When I'm at church there is a guy that is looking at me, many times I catch him do that, but he never comes to talk to me... So I don't know if he is into me or not, I don't know how to take this
What does it mean when a guy calls you everyday and says that your shyness is cute? He shows his talent too.He says he's looking for marriage. Is he persuing me?
Thankyou so much for this! The points were awesome, and helping me directly with this guy a lot. About this guy at school, he often ignores me - we are in different grades - but when he comes over to my house, he is funny, sarcastic and slowly becoming more open. I laugh at his jokes all the time, and he often grins or chuckles when I say something funny. He has just started acknowledging me at school and glancing + smiling. I'm always the one starting conversations by text, but to be fair he is quite shy and has come out of his shell around me. It's half and half.
As a guy, I definitely get what you're saying with the sarcasm thing Paul, I'm sarcastic all the time, but at the same time it doesn't always mean a dude is interested in a girl just because he's sarcastic, it depends on how sarcastic he is a lot of times, I'm sarcastic quite frequently but I'm more sarcastic around a girl I'm interested in purely because it's fun teasing her and she always responds well. Also the liking every social media post thing I'd say girls should not put a lot of stock into, some guys will do it, but those guys are usually too scared to do anything more or actually talk to a girl, I for one don't often like her posts, I'll occasionally like a couple if they're actually funny or cool or something, but a lot of girls I know post a ton and a lot of them aren't that cool or funny or anything so while a guy liking every post does probably mean he's interested, him not doing that doesn't mean he's not and also him doing it doesn't mean he's actually worth a girl's time if that's all he will ever do. I'd also say to girls if you're looking for a guy but don't know how to tell him that you're interested without throwing yourself at him, you don't gotta drop all these "hints" that 99 times out of 100 he'll have no clue you even did anything cause a lot of guys suck at understanding girls and their hints that they like them (myself included), but what a lot of guys want is a girl that is bold and straightforward, like don't ask a guy if he wants to come hang out with you and your friends if you're actually just wanting him to hang out with just you, say that, ask him if he wants to hang out with you, don't ask if he wants to go hang out with you and your friends and then on the off chance he says yes your friends magically cancel so it's just you two. That's not to say that guys want girls to make the first move, that's not at all what I'm saying, guys often want to make the first move but they also like a girl who isn't afraid to and will be bold
I sometimes think that young men think that I am interested, when Im not. Im really enthousiastic and happy and outgoing (I talk to people pretty easy). How can I be nice, but not give him the feeling that I like him/guys more than friends...?
Flirting is important because it gives both the girl and guy a buffer time to assess how they feel about it without being scared away right from the get go. That way, when things happen they are prepared with their own thoughts on the subject. A friend of mine once told me that "there are some girls that are like birds, you come up to them too quickly and abruptly and they will fly away." That being said, mature girls should have a better grip of who they are and what they want and may be more appreciative of straight forward attantion. In my opinion, flirting is super important. My boyfriend and I clicked and flirted at a church camp, exchanged numbers, texted and became best friends over the course of about 5 months (long distance.) This slowly eased into a best friendship that lead to a relationship. We've been long distance official for 2 years come May 27th and see each other every 2mo or so. You marry your best friend I always say, so look for that! But that doesn't mean you have to intentionally give "friend zone" vibes to accomplish this😅. In our friendship, I felt confident in both of our intentions with the friendship because of my knowledge of our faith goals and his character and because we both flirted😉
Bruh I both suck at flirting and oblivious to flirting. A girl can tell me that she likes me and I'll go "haha, I like you too buddy." Then when I flirt with a girl, I hold up my hand and go "haha my hand is bigger than yours" 🤦🏾♂️
i'm a fan of banter! but hey one thing I have noticed with a couple guys who were interested in me, they asked "what I thought of another guy" and if I was interested is said guy (I didn't catch on because I'm oblivious oof)
This is perfect timing for me! the last month or two i've been talking to a really nice guy but he's not super direct in whether he's romantically interested or just as a friendship. we've hung out twice, but can't right now because of covid 19. for some reason i thought it'd be weird to just ask him what he's thinking, but i think i will after watching this.
Random 1am rant. I am seventeen and I have never come close to a social situation where I have to talk to someone of the male gender who is my age and NOT related to me. I just feel extremely awkward and really don't know what to say. Let alone how to tell if someone likes me or not. (as if) I just really want to have friends without reading too much into the situation you know? Thank you for listening.
@@leahmichele281 That is so great to hear! I mean, I don't wish that people would feel awkward with me but it feels great to know that you are not alone.
Definitely relatable! I'm 19 now and I'm barely getting to the point where hugging guys isn't as awkward 😆 currently refocusing on Jesus and my relationship with Him because I know when that one is in place, the rest will follow 💛 P.S I also overthink social interactions, so you're not alone in that either
Haha i went out with a guy yesterday and near the end of our hang out he told me, “I’m making fun of you because I like you”. So it is a thing 😅. I actually didn’t mind because it was playful and not rude/aggressive.
Just wanted to send you some encouragement and say I love watching your videos. They resonate with me. I love Jesus and I love ya'll too! You've put yourself out there and not everyone will get it, but you are a light. :)
My guy friend shows a lot of these signs which makes me believe that he may be interested, but sometimes he doesn't seem to be interested, he is a great friend, which gets me confused because I can't tell if he actually likes me or if he is just being a friend.😬 So confusing!
Your dedication to helping single people/couples is admirable. I was wondering, because I have been making YT videos lately, how is it to make videos with 2 people? I imagine it can be tricky since there are 2 people sharing their ideas. Do you folks somewhat practice what you say before filming? Or do you just film without practicing because you are already pros at UA-cam by now? LOL.😄
the guy at my church i like does a lot of eye contact seems to want to be always around and texted once and snuck this flirtatious sign in it telling me hes missing me with, but then didn't text me again but still made eye contact and is really nervous around me
I completely understand what your saying about the making fun of them thing Paul! It’s like playful teasing. Also, I actually tripped one time well I was talking to a guy I like, (it was so embarrassing 😩😂) but he just smiled at me... and it was really sweet and I was glad he didn’t joke about it! Lol thank you for this vid!
The thing about the making fun which I think Morgan doesn't like is that it's disrespectful or can hurt someone's feelings or be rude. I thing the nature of this type of flirting however is actually assuming confidence in the other person and by making fun of them you're kinda saying " I see you as confident and mature that you could laugh at this" and that's kind of the compliment hidden there but it could also be a method chosen due to lack of confidence and being scared to be more forward and obviously complementing someone and making yourself vulnerable. So it depends on the spirit I suppose.
Flirting has become more of a chore if anything with this culture. It's either you try and be upfront and obvious then it's too forward and no personality or you do most of the things talked about in this video and then you're not serious enough for a committed relationship...
lol in my circles, talking to a guy on the phone (even if a close friend) is considered 'inappropriate' he guy I like is so friendly and I get along with his parents who are in the music band with me. I'm not sure if he is interested in me, but I know that is loves the Lord so so i'm okay with maintaining the friendships because it makes me feel good regardless of the fact he hasn't shown obivous flirting
What do you mean? Like would a girl do all the things most guys do to start a relationship? If so, I've seen a lot of girls who will chase a guy, you just need to be opened and willing to talk, if that is, in fact, but if she is talking like this, be warned, she may just see you as a friend. Men and women can be so different.
3:32 What about 3 YEARS OF TEXTING!? Now when I'm thinking about that it is so crazy. I've met him in my friend's church at the youth group which I've visited every week right after. And I was exited about him texting me so I wanted him to ask me out. But all we did is texting, yeah he asked serious qustions like he was aiming for smth but that was it. I was so confused so I put him in the friendzone almost right away (the only logic thing to do). So he finially decides to ask me out after 3 years of texting and seeing each other once a week at the youth group pretending like we don't know each other... We went out for few times I put it as we were hanging like friends and he had definitely hoped for more. I realised he had feellings for me all along and just wanted to make sure if I'm the right person for him! :/ Some guys are maybe too scared or too shy whatever to make a step forward. So don't bother to waste your time like that if you see at the very beginning he's not able to man up a little!
Sis, i believe when it’s the time for a man, and a husband he will pursue you. He won’t leave you guessing. He’ll let you know. God displayed his love for us on the cross. The cross was a proposal to the world. He didn’t leave us with questions about whether he wants us or not. It’s irrefutable that God loves us and wants us. And I believe that a man who knows the love and forgiveness of God will pursue you with this in mind. Proverbs says, “that a man who finds a wife finds a good thing.” My sister, take heart, he will find you. You don’t have to find him. God, your father has arranged something divine for you.
@@dominiquederose4573 thank you for the encouragement! I just so happy I’ve been watching these guys for a while now and I feel like I’m prepared for everything 😄
First video I’ve watched of you guys so just getting a read. Don’t know how old u two are, but use why Morgan got so offended by Paul’s comment and spent minutes arguing about it. The whole point would seem to listen and get the mans point of view. Just a thought cause we all want to be listened to and be heard. Also I think any man who knows a gal to some extent and may start sending some messages may be that he wants to test that she won’t wilt if she gets a bit of a joke sent her way, and has the ability to laugh at herself which is a sign of emotional stability, sense of self and maturity. Not to mention, having a sense of humor :) I think u could be 28 years old and still find yourself making fun of the gal u like. It’s Classic teasing. Best thing is to be able to laugh with the one u love. Anyways, cheers guys!
I'm honestly binge watching all your guys' videos so I can be super mega prepared when I meet a fine specimen for myself lol. But for real, you guys are awesome and have great tips! Keep up the good work, and God bless! ☺❤
Wait I have a question. What if I just playfully joke around her but don't want to date? Is that flirting too? I just like her reaction and she's cute lol
I love the jersey Paul!:) Morgan this happened to me, a christian guy spoke to me for 12 months on fb chat indepth and then i plucked up the courage to ask him out for coffee and he said no haha #epicfail! A few christian guys on fb chat/DM/text on instagram will message me a fair bit then when i call them out on it or ask where its going.. they ghost haha! Then i get the guys that say i am beautiful or attractive and Godly... but friend zone me cos maybe im intimidating lol cos im intelligent haha.. and extroverted... but then again I am definately guilty myself of talking to male friends on fb chat and having no intention of dating them and i tend to friend zone guys too lol.. at times :) I think healthy boundaries and discernment is soo important with friendship with the opposite sex especial in church/christian circles!!:)
I went on a hike with my crush and some of his siblings and he stayed by my side the whole time and offered me his hand plenty of times during the hike. He said some things I would consider to be flirty but maybe he was just being funny.... Or maybe I'm down playing it??? He's a total gentleman, a really great guy! His parents have always wanted us to get married and I didn't have feeling for him, until about 4 months ago. So I would always laugh and say "no way" but now, 6 years later, I'm catching feels. How do I show him that I'm interested in him without totally putting myself out there and possibly making things SUPER uncomfy? I'm very comfortable with him and the family and I've always given him some attention so I'm not sure how to flirt without practically screaming "YO! I'M INTERESTED IN YOU!" Help.
All of these points make sense. I've been at the receiving end of some of these actions but for some reason, I only realize it much much later on, like when the guy has already moved on. But in the moment, I'm the sort of person that's just really dense and is unable to read any cues. As a result, I've stayed single for 28 years. Waiting can get lonely but I've always believed in God's perfect time. And it probably wouldn't hurt for me to be more aware and vigilant the next time. Hahahaha.
Maybe for the social media even for just friends and haven't been on in a long time and wanted to check up on them liking their stuff, and when your already on and they post stuff and you like it, don't be afraid to like it even if you are the first one. You don't always have to explain yourself/they probably (not always) saw you were on line when you liked it so it wasn't like- stalkerrrr.
I have a good guy friend who did flirt with me for a good 3 month's but he stopped and now he doesn't really text me but we still talk. I decided I'm not gonna tell him how I feel bc I don't think he feels the same way... (Senior year)
My daughter’s guy friend told her” you’re not girlfriend material”. My daughter’s response was” I am, but not for you”.
Stunning and brave
Havva Alexander 😊
Yaaaas girl you tell him😏
I'm glad she showed him. 👊🏼
Hahaha love it
My mom always said "don't let him notice that you notice that he's not noticing you" as a joke about flirting 😂😂😂
natalee riggins bahaha
Sounds like 2d spaghetti brains to me..
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Great. I found out that there is NOBODY flirting with me.
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Now you know!
I'm 26 and honestly, I've had my moments where I've taken the lead, trying to figure out how the guy feels bc he's shy, but I feel like that doesn't work for me. I'll just wait for a man that'll lead. No more code cracking for me🙈😅
Same!!! I decided to trust the Lord that He would provide someone to lead & that's exactly what happened. I've been dating him for almost 3 months officially but knew him through school & church since the 8th grade, 9 years ago!
Gabriela Lopez haha right? Totally get that!
I get what you are saying, but in today’s day and age guys are terrified that if they say or do the wrong thing that they will get “metoo”ed. And it’s a legitimate concern even in my home church.
Im just saying that it’s not ideal for women to lead, but today a lot of us guys are too afraid of the potential consequences of approaching women (and if they aren’t scared they should be), so if women don’t lead I don’t see many relationships in the future.
Joshua Waurich Couldn’t agree more man! I genuinely feel scared to talk to girls that I am interested in, especially if I am interested in a girl at my church. I truly don’t know what to do nowadays. The me too movement has had a big impact in my opinion. It really sucks 😞
Gabriela I get that :)
Ugh I am soo bad at recognizing when someone flirts w me!!😆 I am always joking around with people, and I’m pretty energetic so if someone is on the same level, I just see it as normal😭🤣
omg I'm always joking around too. same :D
Same same same
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Same, but I feel that it's harder for me to know when the guy is the outgoing friendly one
I understand this too. Either that or nobody wants to flirt with me. 😆
From what I have seen, I don't mind it if people playfully make fun of me as long as I can back-- but that is a wrong wording. Playful banter is super fun as long as it doesn't go too far. If you are trying to tease me every single sentence, please don't. I still want to have intelligent conversations, though I love to laugh at someone's impeccable wit and sarcasm. But, don't make it a 24/7 thing. Especially if you are interested in someone. You have to show respect as well.
Never AFK very well said😊🙏
@@PaulandMorgan Thank you! I appreciate you guys. Was super excited to see new content *dabs*
Dating is like an extreme sport these days , sheesh🙄
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I'm so grateful y'all posted this!! I have had an immature guy lead me on before. He told me he was serious about pursuing dating to find another Christian to be his wife, but he was really playing games. I began to notice he did not follow God actively outside of groups, and drama seemed to follow him wherever he went. I began to notice he was disrespectful towards friends, family, and made insensitive jokes about very sensitive topics. It was a smack in the face to me because that's not the kind of person I want to be around-- it's toxic. I wonder if the Lord used that to tell me "Avery, stay single for as loonnnggg as you can". Either way, I just don't want to fall in that trap again.
Awe sorry to hear that. Glad you got out of it :)
We should be friends👏
I totally get what your saying!! Unfortunately that’s the truth for some guys so I agree: let’s stay single until God brings the RIGHT one along!💛
@@naomipenner2478 Amen to that, Naomi! 🙏🏻
I agree with Morgan regarding the "Do not make fun of the girl you're interested in". I feel absolutely embarrassed when a guy makes fun of me. It throws me off a little. Maybe because I'm too insecure and to have someone overfocus on my mistakes (even with good intention) is humiliating. 🥺
1. I recently found y’all, and y’all have really encouraged me to intentionally date
2. Im new to my area and can’t meet Godly men right now because quarantine and it makes me sad 🥺
elizabeth knowles awe welcome to the channel😊
Wow, all this time I've been flirting with girls to some degree and I haven't even realized it lol
Or perhaps you were being nice?
Grant Klentzman haha😮
Wow O laughedso hard at this...i dont even know why🤣🤣🤣
Were you attracted to them
Yea I think it all boils down to actions speak louder than words with the intentional flirter and the playa flirter. I was led on for 3 months and quickly learned this one. No settling! ❤️
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I completely understand where he’s coming from when a guy makes fun of a girl he’s interested in. Personally I like a guy with a good sense of humor.
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😂😂😂😂 Morgan: “PRESCHOOL!!!” Your faces ahahaha
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If he’s talking to you he’s probably into you... I feel like most dudes (the ones I know) regardless of age, normally just hangout with other guys.
So you can see a guy from a mile away who’s into a girl. But if he makes fart jokes around you he’s probably not interested in you or is playing a very sneaky game.
Joshua Waurich thanks for sharing😊
what a sad perspective on life. a) in my experience you can have great friendships between men and women b) i don’t want a relationship where we can’t make fart jokes
no hate, obviously, just my personal experience
I think it depends on context. Some people were raised with the mindset of only having friends of their same gender, but I grew up having mostly friends that are girls (I'm also a dancer for extra context). So, even as a 21 year old, I spend most of my time around girls (maybe 60/40), and they are super aware that I don't have feelings for them.
My best guy friend is naturally flirty so idk about this
Playing a very sneaky game lolololol
6 months is too long. 3 months flirting and then if he doesn't ask you to be his g/f then walk. Don't waste your time. Also if you have to ask what is this, walk. A guy who really likes you, will step up to the plate even if he's shy because he likes you and doesn't want to lose you. 🤷🏽♀️ #js
Appreciate the comment :)
It can take even more than 6 months.God can talk to you;maybe the person is dealing with personal problems that interfere with a presupposed relationship.There are people who received confirmation from God that x would be their husband but the girl had to wait like one year until she got more confirmations,until he dealt with a specific problem and came to realize how much she was for him.Things must happen in God's time,not ours.And as a person who received confirmation from God you are not supposed to say it,but have trust in God's time and wait to see the blessing at the right time coming from the guy(because,biblically,he's the one to pursue the girl,never otherwise).
But if you're not acting according to a christian's perspective then you can say very easily this guy is off,this one is not worth it,it's been too long etc.
Literally no guy is at all into me...why am i watching this? ...
Oh yeah, cuz i love THE PAUL AND MOooORGAN SHOW!!! WOOT WOOT!! LOL
Paul's rocking that quarantine beard!
Luke Robinson you know it😁
Ooo...I like that one, just going straight forward and asking him “our you interested in me or it’s just a friendship thing?”
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Lol. Real talk. We're adults now.
Morgan I would love to see a get ready with me esp during this quarantine time 💅🏻👄👁😀😀 and ladies, never pin hope on a guy until he tells you he likes you or wants to get out. Before then, when a guy flirts, or even messages, assume it is friendship. If he is interested, you wont have to give things a jumpstart..the right one will want to pursue you even if he is afraid of rejection
And don't let your heart get involved before you know He is safe= pursues God, will honor your heart, doesn't pressure you etc.
Appreciate the comment 😊
Hey Fam, what are your thoughts on flirting?? 😊
Paul and Morgan very helpful video ..the "move on after a month" 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻💯
I like the fact that you have highlighted someone has to be clear eventually with their intentions ..🙌🏻
perhaps I am not comfortable with the term flirt 🙈..but generally ,we have learned 🙌🏻
Love your dog❤️..it has pretty eyes .
I think it's ok but not for an indefinite time. I was once in a flirtlation (word I just came up with) on and off for 5 years. It was ridiculous. Thank goodness I was 15 at the time but still. 🤦🏽♀️
My parents had tough pasts, so dating in my house wasn't allowed until we were out of high school. Because of that, I actually grew up thinking that a girl shouldn't flirt because that just means she's desperate or that it's not lady like. Talking to guys was hard at first, but now that I'm older I think flirting can be beautiful.
Sandy Puentes ive been there too!! It sucks! Healthy boundaries are key
I usually kinda start out to tell them I like them or that I'm into them by complementing them. It just kinda happens by impulse when I'm excited after a while of knowing them. I really try to play it cool.
Can you make a video on jealousy in a relationship?
I have a friend that is mean/flirty with girls he likes!! I personally hate it but somehow he gets the girl!!! Some times it makes me think the girl doesn't know what she wants or doesn't know what Christ says about her; because personally I would what a man to be Christ like!!
Jaden Unruh thanks for sharing :)
4 years later, do you still "hate it" or do you now better understand your perception of it was wrong 4 years ago?
@@EriPages 🤪 still for the gentle Christlike man that honors others with his words:)
@@jadenunruh7513 Wait, are you a woman? I thought you were a dude when you mentioned you had that male friend
My girlfriend (now my wife) didn't want to keep messaging me if our friendship wasn't going anywhere.So one day she asked if we could meet in person.We are married!!
Wahoo!🙌
Playfully making fun of a girl I'm intrested in is my language LOL
JAG haha😁
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Wow, rewatching this in 2022 and what really struck me was when you said "after A MONTH you can ask a guy what his intentions are" and here I am putting dudes mentally on the clock maybe 24 hours after the first exchanges :D I need to chill the frick down hahahahaah thank you so much guys for the perspective and the reminder that I may be afraid of getting hurt, but it's still necessary to give my fellow humans grace!
0:22 😊😊😊 that was a really cute fist bump. Awesome video!
Keviena Dixon thank you😊
I do agree with the “making fun” with a girl, only in the perspective of teasing them. I think there’s a difference between teasing and actually making fun of someone. Teasing is really light-hearted and also usually not about something that could really offend them. So for example, some guy teased me because I like running and he doesn’t. He said, “oh you’re one of those?? Lol.” Personally I didn’t mind it bc I like him too 😂 so maybe it will only work on people who like you too
Thanks for the comment :)
thanks paul and morgan for giving me the advice to flirt even though im 57. it has gone great and i am now in a dating relationship with a Christian woman
I totally get Paul’s saracasm comment! I’ve had guys flirt with me by making fun of me but playfully in a way they knew for a fact I would laugh at too.
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I didn’t flirt once in my life and proud 😢 forever a spartan
Sarcasm and roasting is totally a language some guys speak... maybe not on a romantic relationship level ALL the time. It's definitely a sign for some guys that they like someone and want to be their friend. That's how I befriended a couple of my guy friends xD
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Great practical points you two. I totally get where you’re coming from, Paul! I admire your desire to help people to take a different approach or have a different perspective on things in these areas.
Y’all are extremely encouraging! I hope you two start a podcast! May God get the Glory!
Awe thanks for the sweet comment, Hannah 😊❤️
I'm seventeen years old... never been asked out or never been in a relationship but I guess watching your videos strengthens my Christian faith and prepares me for the future. Thank you guys u two are really kawai(cute).
Focus on your relationship with Christ, grow personally and professionally. Work on you..
Paul has it on point, if this guy is showing you a lot of attention, cracking jokes and just making openings to talk, he likes you. If he makes a big goofy smile uncontrollably the minute he sees you, he’s really into you. Guys who aren’t into you in anyway won’t even talk to you. Also another sign is watch his eyes, if his eyes are on you and eyeing your body, thats a good sign.
I would have a guy just tell me that he likes me instead of flirting. I have some difficulty reading social cues, so I can be oblivious sometimes and I will completely not notice that a guy is trying to flirt with me.
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My go-to when I like a woman is to simply engage in conversation and get to know her on a personal and deeper level; I'll cut out the small talk as quick as possible.
As a Christian guy, I flirt with playful teasing. I definitely am intentional to keep it nice and caring; I dont go too far. But, I dont keep it too tame and go so far as to make the girl want to have a playful sassy comeback. If I make a quality teasing joke and she lets it fall flat, especially if more than once, I usually take it as no interest.
Girls, keep in mind I occasionally do the same with either guys or girls that I simply view as a very close friend and don't have any romantic interest in.
I’m 25 and while I’m chillin in my singleness and growing deeper in the Lord, I do get very nervous I’m like missing a deadline. A lot of my old high school friends are married and people in my small group are already married. Ah. I know it’s God’s timing but I’m getting nervous haha. But in singleness we can focus more on the things of Lord as Paul says which is awesome!!!
How about if the guy is looking at you a lot. When I'm at church there is a guy that is looking at me, many times I catch him do that, but he never comes to talk to me... So I don't know if he is into me or not, I don't know how to take this
What does it mean when a guy calls you everyday and says that your shyness is cute? He shows his talent too.He says he's looking for marriage. Is he persuing me?
Ashley Moss YES. 100% ;)
Definitely!!!
Probably not, he is just calling you because you seem like an intelligent conversationalist.
@@sarahs.9217 :)
Probably
I’m only liking for Paul’s sponge bob eyes. Just kidding! Love y’all!
Madeline Price 😁
Thankyou so much for this! The points were awesome, and helping me directly with this guy a lot. About this guy at school, he often ignores me - we are in different grades - but when he comes over to my house, he is funny, sarcastic and slowly becoming more open. I laugh at his jokes all the time, and he often grins or chuckles when I say something funny. He has just started acknowledging me at school and glancing + smiling. I'm always the one starting conversations by text, but to be fair he is quite shy and has come out of his shell around me. It's half and half.
Some girls LOVE IT when the guy they like makes harmless fun of them, even if it's a little "mean." 🤣
As a guy, I definitely get what you're saying with the sarcasm thing Paul, I'm sarcastic all the time, but at the same time it doesn't always mean a dude is interested in a girl just because he's sarcastic, it depends on how sarcastic he is a lot of times, I'm sarcastic quite frequently but I'm more sarcastic around a girl I'm interested in purely because it's fun teasing her and she always responds well. Also the liking every social media post thing I'd say girls should not put a lot of stock into, some guys will do it, but those guys are usually too scared to do anything more or actually talk to a girl, I for one don't often like her posts, I'll occasionally like a couple if they're actually funny or cool or something, but a lot of girls I know post a ton and a lot of them aren't that cool or funny or anything so while a guy liking every post does probably mean he's interested, him not doing that doesn't mean he's not and also him doing it doesn't mean he's actually worth a girl's time if that's all he will ever do. I'd also say to girls if you're looking for a guy but don't know how to tell him that you're interested without throwing yourself at him, you don't gotta drop all these "hints" that 99 times out of 100 he'll have no clue you even did anything cause a lot of guys suck at understanding girls and their hints that they like them (myself included), but what a lot of guys want is a girl that is bold and straightforward, like don't ask a guy if he wants to come hang out with you and your friends if you're actually just wanting him to hang out with just you, say that, ask him if he wants to hang out with you, don't ask if he wants to go hang out with you and your friends and then on the off chance he says yes your friends magically cancel so it's just you two. That's not to say that guys want girls to make the first move, that's not at all what I'm saying, guys often want to make the first move but they also like a girl who isn't afraid to and will be bold
Im gonna show this to my 6 brothers so they finally will know how to act :ugh:
Haha :)
I knew it was going to be a good video when I saw ur dog😂, and ya sarcasm is a must.
agree!! the kind of sarcasm that makes you laugh!!
Green Warden haha😊
I sometimes think that young men think that I am interested, when Im not. Im really enthousiastic and happy and outgoing (I talk to people pretty easy). How can I be nice, but not give him the feeling that I like him/guys more than friends...?
Flirting is important because it gives both the girl and guy a buffer time to assess how they feel about it without being scared away right from the get go. That way, when things happen they are prepared with their own thoughts on the subject. A friend of mine once told me that "there are some girls that are like birds, you come up to them too quickly and abruptly and they will fly away." That being said, mature girls should have a better grip of who they are and what they want and may be more appreciative of straight forward attantion.
In my opinion, flirting is super important. My boyfriend and I clicked and flirted at a church camp, exchanged numbers, texted and became best friends over the course of about 5 months (long distance.) This slowly eased into a best friendship that lead to a relationship. We've been long distance official for 2 years come May 27th and see each other every 2mo or so. You marry your best friend I always say, so look for that! But that doesn't mean you have to intentionally give "friend zone" vibes to accomplish this😅. In our friendship, I felt confident in both of our intentions with the friendship because of my knowledge of our faith goals and his character and because we both flirted😉
Thanks for shinning your light guys!
There’s a guy who checks so many of these boxes! And I don’t like like him. I just wanna be friends. UGH
Bruh I both suck at flirting and oblivious to flirting. A girl can tell me that she likes me and I'll go "haha, I like you too buddy." Then when I flirt with a girl, I hold up my hand and go "haha my hand is bigger than yours" 🤦🏾♂️
I've noticed that they tend to take random pics and that they take any opportunity to take your phone when you aren't looking to tease you
Flirting can be so hard sometimes!!!! Love you guys!! ❤️
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i'm a fan of banter! but hey one thing I have noticed with a couple guys who were interested in me, they asked "what I thought of another guy" and if I was interested is said guy (I didn't catch on because I'm oblivious oof)
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This is perfect timing for me! the last month or two i've been talking to a really nice guy but he's not super direct in whether he's romantically interested or just as a friendship. we've hung out twice, but can't right now because of covid 19. for some reason i thought it'd be weird to just ask him what he's thinking, but i think i will after watching this.
I really enjoyed this one! Very helpful! It’s opened my eyes to some guys in my life that act weird lol you should make a part 2!
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Random 1am rant.
I am seventeen and I have never come close to a social situation where I have to talk to someone of the male gender who is my age and NOT related to me. I just feel extremely awkward and really don't know what to say. Let alone how to tell if someone likes me or not. (as if) I just really want to have friends without reading too much into the situation you know? Thank you for listening.
Olivia Coe Same. I relate to this on a very personal level.
@@leahmichele281 That is so great to hear! I mean, I don't wish that people would feel awkward with me but it feels great to know that you are not alone.
Definitely relatable! I'm 19 now and I'm barely getting to the point where hugging guys isn't as awkward 😆 currently refocusing on Jesus and my relationship with Him because I know when that one is in place, the rest will follow 💛
P.S I also overthink social interactions, so you're not alone in that either
Lol, the guy who liked me just straight up insulted my outfit🤦😅 ( guys plz don't insult the girl you like!😂)
Love the insight! Also, love what y'all do (:
Melody K. Thank you!❤️
Haha i went out with a guy yesterday and near the end of our hang out he told me, “I’m making fun of you because I like you”. So it is a thing 😅. I actually didn’t mind because it was playful and not rude/aggressive.
The guy who likes me definitely makes fun of himself when around me and won't stop making eye contact with me! So true!
Bee Noelle boyaah😁
Paul and Morgan I thought Morgan was a boy name? excuse my foreign ignorance
You've got me laughing through the entire video😂
Bahaha awe good😁❤️
I actually like giving guys a hard time and like when they play along being sarcastic
Just wanted to send you some encouragement and say I love watching your videos. They resonate with me. I love Jesus and I love ya'll too! You've put yourself out there and not everyone will get it, but you are a light. :)
Thank you😊❤️
I love seeing "the joy in Morgan's eyes" ;) here. now. WITH PAUL.
My guy friend shows a lot of these signs which makes me believe that he may be interested, but sometimes he doesn't seem to be interested, he is a great friend, which gets me confused because I can't tell if he actually likes me or if he is just being a friend.😬 So confusing!
Your dedication to helping single people/couples is admirable.
I was wondering, because I have been making YT videos lately,
how is it to make videos with 2 people?
I imagine it can be tricky since there are 2 people sharing their ideas.
Do you folks somewhat practice what you say before filming? Or do you just film without practicing because you are already pros at UA-cam by now? LOL.😄
Imagine how your Grandpa would react to 10:19. Excited emojis 😂
Bahaha
the guy at my church i like does a lot of eye contact seems to want to be always around and texted once and snuck this flirtatious sign in it telling me hes missing me with, but then didn't text me again but still made eye contact and is really nervous around me
I completely understand what your saying about the making fun of them thing Paul! It’s like playful teasing. Also, I actually tripped one time well I was talking to a guy I like, (it was so embarrassing 😩😂) but he just smiled at me... and it was really sweet and I was glad he didn’t joke about it! Lol thank you for this vid!
I swear I read the title and thought it was 'How to tell if a gay is flirting. but then I remembered you don't believe that it is natural.
I didn’t realize sponge bob had blue eyes until I saw your sweatshirt Paul! 😂
! I love your channel I literally watched your videos all night and slept at 5am I love y’all like that! ❤️
Baha awe😁❤️❤️❤️
Same, I lose sleep watching you guys! It’s worth it! Love you guys!
I totally disagree w the 2nd.point.
"Wanna hangout ".. for me it's meant I just wanna be in the friend zone... that's been my experience tho
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Wow this video had perfect timing in terms of relatability to my life right now!!!
Awe good😊
The thing about the making fun which I think Morgan doesn't like is that it's disrespectful or can hurt someone's feelings or be rude. I thing the nature of this type of flirting however is actually assuming confidence in the other person and by making fun of them you're kinda saying " I see you as confident and mature that you could laugh at this" and that's kind of the compliment hidden there but it could also be a method chosen due to lack of confidence and being scared to be more forward and obviously complementing someone and making yourself vulnerable. So it depends on the spirit I suppose.
I love you guys’ videos! The fist bump at the beginning was precious!! ☺️
Haha❤️😊
Flirting has become more of a chore if anything with this culture. It's either you try and be upfront and obvious then it's too forward and no personality or you do most of the things talked about in this video and then you're not serious enough for a committed relationship...
lol in my circles, talking to a guy on the phone (even if a close friend) is considered 'inappropriate'
he guy I like is so friendly and I get along with his parents who are in the music band with me. I'm not sure if he is interested in me, but I know that is loves the Lord so so i'm okay with maintaining the friendships because it makes me feel good regardless of the fact he hasn't shown obivous flirting
is there a girl's alternative to this. I doubt it would happen to me anytime soon. but it would be a lie if I said I wouldn't be intrigued.
NI0VATN 😊
What do you mean? Like would a girl do all the things most guys do to start a relationship? If so, I've seen a lot of girls who will chase a guy, you just need to be opened and willing to talk, if that is, in fact, but if she is talking like this, be warned, she may just see you as a friend. Men and women can be so different.
3:32 What about 3 YEARS OF TEXTING!?
Now when I'm thinking about that it is so crazy. I've met him in my friend's church at the youth group which I've visited every week right after. And I was exited about him texting me so I wanted him to ask me out. But all we did is texting, yeah he asked serious qustions like he was aiming for smth but that was it. I was so confused so I put him in the friendzone almost right away (the only logic thing to do). So he finially decides to ask me out after 3 years of texting and seeing each other once a week at the youth group pretending like we don't know each other... We went out for few times I put it as we were hanging like friends and he had definitely hoped for more. I realised he had feellings for me all along and just wanted to make sure if I'm the right person for him! :/
Some guys are maybe too scared or too shy whatever to make a step forward. So don't bother to waste your time like that if you see at the very beginning he's not able to man up a little!
Sis, i believe when it’s the time for a man, and a husband he will pursue you. He won’t leave you guessing. He’ll let you know. God displayed his love for us on the cross. The cross was a proposal to the world. He didn’t leave us with questions about whether he wants us or not. It’s irrefutable that God loves us and wants us. And I believe that a man who knows the love and forgiveness of God will pursue you with this in mind.
Proverbs says, “that a man who finds a wife finds a good thing.”
My sister, take heart, he will find you. You don’t have to find him. God, your father has arranged something divine for you.
@@dominiquederose4573 thank you for the encouragement! I just so happy I’ve been watching these guys for a while now and I feel like I’m prepared for everything 😄
First video I’ve watched of you guys so just getting a read. Don’t know how old u two are, but use why Morgan got so offended by Paul’s comment and spent minutes arguing about it. The whole point would seem to listen and get the mans point of view. Just a thought cause we all want to be listened to and be heard. Also I think any man who knows a gal to some extent and may start sending some messages may be that he wants to test that she won’t wilt if she gets a bit of a joke sent her way, and has the ability to laugh at herself which is a sign of emotional stability, sense of self and maturity. Not to mention, having a sense of humor :) I think u could be 28 years old and still find yourself making fun of the gal u like. It’s Classic teasing. Best thing is to be able to laugh with the one u love. Anyways, cheers guys!
Thank you guys so much for everything you do! This was a great video. Hopefully we can have another patreon zoom soon, that was fun!
Glad you liked it, Leah! Yes, excited to see you guys in our next zoom!
I'm honestly binge watching all your guys' videos so I can be super mega prepared when I meet a fine specimen for myself lol. But for real, you guys are awesome and have great tips!
Keep up the good work, and God bless! ☺❤
Wait I have a question. What if I just playfully joke around her but don't want to date? Is that flirting too? I just like her reaction and she's cute lol
I love the jersey Paul!:) Morgan this happened to me, a christian guy spoke to me for 12 months on fb chat indepth and then i plucked up the courage to ask him out for coffee and he said no haha #epicfail! A few christian guys on fb chat/DM/text on instagram will message me a fair bit then when i call them out on it or ask where its going.. they ghost haha! Then i get the guys that say i am beautiful or attractive and Godly... but friend zone me cos maybe im intimidating lol cos im intelligent haha.. and extroverted... but then again I am definately guilty myself of talking to male friends on fb chat and having no intention of dating them and i tend to friend zone guys too lol.. at times :) I think healthy boundaries and discernment is soo important with friendship with the opposite sex especial in church/christian circles!!:)
Awe man, thanks for sharing :)
Paul and Morgan its soo funny i woke up this morning in Australia ( AEST) singing the paul and morgan.. the paul and morgan show🤣🤣🤣❤️❤️❤️
that's unfair. my crush is a generally jolly person and loves emojis but doesn't like social media 😂😂😂😂😂
Y’all Are Great Keep Going 💯🙏
Love this video! Also so true "boy man up." Also is is helpful. I just turned 20 and I am trying to figure out this dating game.🙃love y'all!🙃
I went on a hike with my crush and some of his siblings and he stayed by my side the whole time and offered me his hand plenty of times during the hike. He said some things I would consider to be flirty but maybe he was just being funny.... Or maybe I'm down playing it??? He's a total gentleman, a really great guy! His parents have always wanted us to get married and I didn't have feeling for him, until about 4 months ago. So I would always laugh and say "no way" but now, 6 years later, I'm catching feels. How do I show him that I'm interested in him without totally putting myself out there and possibly making things SUPER uncomfy? I'm very comfortable with him and the family and I've always given him some attention so I'm not sure how to flirt without practically screaming "YO! I'M INTERESTED IN YOU!"
Help.
He is my bff's brother. That's why and how I know the fam and him so well.
just tell him!!😻
@@reetanruutu 😭😭😭😭
This is very helpful information. Thanks so much.
What if he’s going out of his way to open a door for you 💀🤣
I honestly like it when a guy playfully makes fun of me though haha
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same!
Can’t wait to watch part 2! Thank you so much.❤️
I think making fun of a crush or someone of interest is the wrong word to use but “teasing”! And girls don’t go off! You do the same thing too
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I like brutal honesty. Your the most attractive i have ever seen. But when you smile you ruin it all.
And that gulp? Y'all killing it!! LOVIN' THIS!
All of these points make sense. I've been at the receiving end of some of these actions but for some reason, I only realize it much much later on, like when the guy has already moved on. But in the moment, I'm the sort of person that's just really dense and is unable to read any cues. As a result, I've stayed single for 28 years. Waiting can get lonely but I've always believed in God's perfect time. And it probably wouldn't hurt for me to be more aware and vigilant the next time. Hahahaha.
Maybe for the social media even for just friends and haven't been on in a long time and wanted to check up on them liking their stuff, and when your already on and they post stuff and you like it, don't be afraid to like it even if you are the first one. You don't always have to explain yourself/they probably (not always) saw you were on line when you liked it so it wasn't like- stalkerrrr.
I have a good guy friend who did flirt with me for a good 3 month's but he stopped and now he doesn't really text me but we still talk. I decided I'm not gonna tell him how I feel bc I don't think he feels the same way... (Senior year)
It's so hard for me to be friends with girl's for the sake of me wanting to be myself in the relationship but not wanting to give them the wrong idea.