Thank you for mentioning polish abortion laws, I live in Poland and the government initiated the change in the law last year during lockdown, because they thought that way they would prevent protests in the country but hundred of thousands of people protested on the streets during couple of weeks
Turning the lights off in a room doesn't make it evil it only means you won't be able to see what is in it. There is a difference between me knowing what is in that room and you knowing what is in that room. The question is if there is something living in that room and you know it and still try to keep the door shut, your hurting yourself if your doing this. It's a part of you locked in the dark. Please open the door and Love yourself...your provoking thought Ana, thanks.🙂👍
My partner has ASD and was raised by a narc (also with ASD). His shadow self is cruel, manipulative, and emotionally abusive. Our relationship is in tatters now. He finally admitted that sometimes he behaves in such a way to deliberately make me suffer - very brave admission, but of course I am reeling. Something I knew to be true but kept denying, telling myself it was in my head and it was just because of his autism. He is actually a wonderful man but I don’t know how to fix this because rebuilding trust is difficult now. And this has all brought out my own shadow self - insecure, paranoid, and full of unchecked rage. Not a good situation.
Hi, Melody. I just ended a relationship exactly like yours. My experience told me, it takes a lot of courage to walk out of any relationship. I'm exactly like you, insecure, raging and got triggered So much by my ex, still thinking about him in a good way. I lost so much weight because of the stress, and almost depressed for few months. Please ask yourself all the time, What do you want in your life? Do you want this person to be your partner and the dad of your child?
Thanks for this video. Could you make a video on forgiving someone who doesn't think they've done anything wrong and who thinks all the problems and ownership is on you, like they haven't done a single thing wrong that could've been improved? And how to deal with very stubborn people who won't take responsibility for lack of communication?
We need to forgive ourselves of our own resentments towards that person. That person can go lick some bush. They don't need or even deserve any forgiveness. The only ounce of compassion needed is towards yourself. Say with me, "I accept my mistakes, I accept my bad decisions. And also, I acknowledge the fact that my intentions were pure. I forgive and determine myself so that I don't make these mistakes further in the future."
Forgiveness is an action you do for yourself, not for another person. To forgive is to let go of a situation that doesn't benefit you in order to grow from it. The reality is, these kinds of people that you have mentioned are unlikely to change, so holding that expectation is actually more harmful for you in the long run.
What a great video, thanks! Could you make a video about how to integrate the shadow in healthy ways? Also, the last thing you said about the shadow being a good thing in the sense that "it's the shadow-self because that person chooses not to be like that" gave me peace. I'm not a fan of mine (well, no one is) so, I at least feel that I am making an effort not to be it.
Thank you. I sometimes notice shadow selves of my high school classmates and it makes me nervous around them. I especially feel nervous around people I am romantically interested in because I scrutinize them so much that I figure out their shadow self. It becomes a worry of mine that they will spiral out of control one day, in a future relationship, and I will be left with the consequences.
I feel it's hard to ever get close to someone who denies even having a shadow self. You get Jeckyll & Hyded. You can offer support, but if their shadow hates your shadow, it's an emotional bloodbath. I also struggle to understand how someone can integrate their shadow if it holds a lot of darkness and rage and bitterness and narcissism - the very things we don't want people living in.
'the very things we don't want people living in', this type of statement when internalised by people leads to the creation of shadow. It's not rage and narcissism you want in a person but the healthy version of them like a healthy amount of anger to scare off the predators or healthy amount of love towards oneself so that one can have a positive sense of self.
very interesting. A lot of boxers and combat sports athletes have mastered how to control their shadow and let it lose when they are in a fighting match.
Hi Ana. Love all your vids. The way you talk is so understandable, calm and informative. Much respect. Your vids really help my self awareness and i feel much stronger in myself. Xx
An ayahuasca retreat bring out long forgotten memory to some people..... helping them break toxic patterns rooted from shadow.... as Carl Jung said, you cant heal what you cannot see.... so some of these addicts live for many years not realizing that the addiction comes from childhood abuse and upon the awarenrss of it, they broke the pattern....
I recently finished watching the original 8 seasons of Dexter and your explaination of the "shadow self" sounds alot like what Dexter calls his "dark passenger". Have you seen the show? Would you agree with my comparison?
I think "shadow self" is a poor name for this concept. It carries connotations of evil, villainy and darkness. Hidden self or repressed self is more accurate. I think I'm in touch with mine. I really don't like being disrespected or made fun of. I was lanky and socially awkward when I was younger, so I got picked on. I would have fantasies about getting even with ppl through violence and humiliation. My reintegration is I'm straightforward in dealing with ppl and I focus on self-improvement. It raises my self-esteem so insult don't hurt as much and I'm less likely to get vengeful. I do get revenge sometimes, but I think about if that's what I wanted 1st. Thanks for the topic.
Let's say you feel that you've pushed positive traits into your shadow. They show themselves in certain circumstances, but you want to bring them more to the surface. What are some practices or tips for this?
Accept who you are. Stop making more room for other people than you do for yourself. Do anything and everything you can to improve your mental and physical well-being. Notice how you feel when you act in different ways or try different activities. See what comes out. :) I'm trying these ideas on myself and I am seeing some slow but steady progress.
I don't know if you do character analysis but i would LOVE to hear your opinion on Walter white, as a person. I've also watched breaking bad like 1 month ago and I'm incredibly surprised to see how much support and validation he gets..
this is fascinating... you managed to explain my situation perfectly. I'm a very timid, passive, warm person 99% of the time, but under intense stress i can get very blunt and cold. I grew up with a narcissistic dad, which is likely why I repressed those traits. So I have a question - does this mean I'm secretly a narcissist deep down?
very interesting! but I think it's more useful to indentify one's own shadow self and regulate it than trying to identify and analyse someone else, cos I think psycho-analysing others, especially without actually talking with them about it - can lead to more misinterpretation and harm than benefit ...
I found insight into my own shadow work watching this!!! The examples you gave on integration gave me ideas to integrate my own shadow! Ive been listening to “knowing your shadow becoming intimate with all that you are” by Robert Augustus Masters and it’s been insightful however a rather slow process. I think using your advice in tandem with what I’m learning from that audio series will be fruitful! Cheers
I believe that everyone has a shadow self. I dont believe people that say they dont or dont believe in it because its human to harbour feelings of guilt, hatred, resentment, depression and all sorts of negative thoughts and emotions that can manifest into different things like anger/rage or anxiety, For a lot of people it becomes the voice in their head that argues with them constantly and always makes them second guess themselves which leads to a drop in self confidence, A drop in self confidence can lead to much worse things. That is one of the reason why its so important to know ones self.
i dont want to ruin my life or those of others, i have aspirations and plans, and insane people dont get to ever have vacations, they are in the hospital or psych wards or worse, i dont want to hurt others, im way sturdier than that. i can take much more lack luster life in freedom for peace and wellbeing in exchange for some would call freedom, but okey, i can let it rip everynow and then, but thats just to keep it together for your sake, not mine.
I have made a point to know myself before someone else does. I dont want anyone to upstage me on knowing myself, if they do thats ok they just helped me know more. It has been said; know thyself...
I think the interesting thing in my case, is that I've been mired in distress for so long that I don't think I can tell my shadow self apart from my usual self anymore. I think that takeover/merging has happened as a means for my mind to defend itself by expecting nothing good anymore, but rather, expecting bad things to happen (which happen so often that it's no wonder it's become expected).
Now what? Can you live this way? Do you rebuild or just except it? I think we feel less valuable if we have grown this way..Unless we find a way to let go.. start new. I think it's possible to both except and rebuild.
It means nothing, being drunk affects too much brain chemistry to have any meaning. People might expose things about themselves like racism or worse fears to someone while drunk because under influence the brain is a mess but does it have meaning? Does his affection and kindness actually have meaning when drunk? No.
I try so hard to be a perfect friend that I sometimes get stressed around my pals and start saying things that I shouldn't. It's ironic and frustrating.
Just experienced a person who wasn’t aware of their shadow. I find that if we can’t integrate the dark side of our nature, we end up hurting other people and stunting our own development.
Latin proverb: “Nel vino c'è la verità” translation: “In wine there is truth.” When people get drunk, their shadow side can easily emerge. When narcissists get drunk, it can be dangerous because their suppressed darkness will be undeniable.
Walter White only goes back to tie up loose ends when he sees the two people his narcissism can always blame for his life, discussing him on Tv. Holy shit 😵
Ana, may I ask how is your English so good? You don’t have an accent and able to speak really fast without mixing up letters. My native language is Hungarian. Even tho I don’t have that much of an accent, I constantly mix up letters and have difficulties pronouncing certain words. It’s been 6 years since I don’t speak Hungarian on a daily base.
My shadow self just came out recently, if I understood it well. I’m sensitive, judgmental and overly emotional. Usually I don’t pay attention to anything negative and able to solve things logically. Now experiencing so much emotions I feel like a teenager again. It is new to me and I don’t really know how to control it.
Hi Ana, interesting video. I donated to Planned Parenthood, however while I would normally give £10 to charity every month this month I've split it between Planned Parenthood and Unicef UK's Vaccinaid campaign. Hopefully splitting it up means more people get helped in more ways!!! Thanks
Ana, thank you for the lovely video that deepens my knowledge about Shadow self. Any books that you can recommend regarding the shadow self and how to integrate it in ones life? A video about the integration of shadow self is also an awesome video if ever you like the idea of making one. I am not sure if you would approve of where I learned about the shadow self because the author is not a psychologist but a great writer still . He is Robert Greene and his book is called Laws of Human Nature which is based on 20 plus years of research. And he has a beautiful chapter there called Confront your darkside (Law of repression) which is based on Carl Jungs writings on the darkside and uses the historical account of Richard Nixon political life as an example or a tale for warning for the consequence of not integrating your darkside in your life. Then after the showing the story of Nixon, he shows you his mistakes and would help you integrate your own darkside into your life. Anyways, i do hope you keep making awesome videos. You are very lovely, intelligent and emphatic woman. I hope you have a good career in psychology and a lovely love life. Cheers and Godspeed this 2022.
I'm almost chill most Times but when I get angry ( i don't get irritated so easily ) i even afraid myself because i become really dangerous. Is that the shadow-self? That moment i really want to destroy anything on my way
is the concept of the golden self true? Ive read once that once you get to the point of understanding the shadow & healthily integrating it you can find “the gold within the darkness” & unlock new strengths within life.
Can you have more than one shadow self? Like, can one have a secret narcissist compartmentalised in one second and partitioned in another a depressed personality. I'm... asking for a friend...
Is it possible to know exactly what your shadow self is. I feel like I know mine but maybe it’s a lie to protect myself. Others have told me different from what I think I project at times.
How can I save my marriage? My husband has been arrested once again for domestic violence but I still love him and I can't let him go, but I don't want the abuse to happen. Please help me.
Sometimes it's hard to accept that the person you love won't stop being violent and maybe doesn't want to stop controlling behaviours. You can't change someone else, they have to want to change themselves. Always remember that you are precious and deserving of love and respect. Take care ✊💐
The side of yourself that you don't see. Though sometimes it slips out. Like actions that you only do when your barriers are down (eg, exhausted, stressed, drunk). For example, I cry when I'm drunk because I often stop myself from crying in daily life. My friend is extremely flirty when drunk and very religious and romantically closed off normally.
stop giving them attention and find something else to focus on. If they can’t do the bare minimum to keep the relationship alive that means they don’t really care
I was going to let my shadow self emerged but Ana uploaded. lol
Thank you for mentioning polish abortion laws, I live in Poland and the government initiated the change in the law last year during lockdown, because they thought that way they would prevent protests in the country but hundred of thousands of people protested on the streets during couple of weeks
Turning the lights off in a room doesn't make it evil it only means you won't be able to see what is in it. There is a difference between me knowing what is in that room and you knowing what is in that room. The question is if there is something living in that room and you know it and still try to keep the door shut, your hurting yourself if your doing this. It's a part of you locked in the dark. Please open the door and Love yourself...your provoking thought Ana, thanks.🙂👍
The concept of a shadow self is intriguing, I’ve never heard of this before!
My partner has ASD and was raised by a narc (also with ASD). His shadow self is cruel, manipulative, and emotionally abusive. Our relationship is in tatters now. He finally admitted that sometimes he behaves in such a way to deliberately make me suffer - very brave admission, but of course I am reeling. Something I knew to be true but kept denying, telling myself it was in my head and it was just because of his autism. He is actually a wonderful man but I don’t know how to fix this because rebuilding trust is difficult now. And this has all brought out my own shadow self - insecure, paranoid, and full of unchecked rage. Not a good situation.
Why would a wonderful man intentionally try to make his partner suffer?
Avoid anything that hurts you more than it helps you
I apologize, that’s unfortunate.
Hi, Melody. I just ended a relationship exactly like yours. My experience told me, it takes a lot of courage to walk out of any relationship. I'm exactly like you, insecure, raging and got triggered So much by my ex, still thinking about him in a good way. I lost so much weight because of the stress, and almost depressed for few months. Please ask yourself all the time, What do you want in your life? Do you want this person to be your partner and the dad of your child?
@@newideas5572 this man was actually diagnosed NPD. But yes, I agree with you!
Thanks for this video. Could you make a video on forgiving someone who doesn't think they've done anything wrong and who thinks all the problems and ownership is on you, like they haven't done a single thing wrong that could've been improved?
And how to deal with very stubborn people who won't take responsibility for lack of communication?
yes please
We need to forgive ourselves of our own resentments towards that person. That person can go lick some bush. They don't need or even deserve any forgiveness. The only ounce of compassion needed is towards yourself. Say with me, "I accept my mistakes, I accept my bad decisions. And also, I acknowledge the fact that my intentions were pure. I forgive and determine myself so that I don't make these mistakes further in the future."
Forgiveness is an action you do for yourself, not for another person. To forgive is to let go of a situation that doesn't benefit you in order to grow from it. The reality is, these kinds of people that you have mentioned are unlikely to change, so holding that expectation is actually more harmful for you in the long run.
@@GyanAddict i love this
What a great video, thanks!
Could you make a video about how to integrate the shadow in healthy ways?
Also, the last thing you said about the shadow being a good thing in the sense that "it's the shadow-self because that person chooses not to be like that" gave me peace. I'm not a fan of mine (well, no one is) so, I at least feel that I am making an effort not to be it.
Yes, I was thinking that I probably should :) and glad it was reassuring!
Thank you. I sometimes notice shadow selves of my high school classmates and it makes me nervous around them. I especially feel nervous around people I am romantically interested in because I scrutinize them so much that I figure out their shadow self. It becomes a worry of mine that they will spiral out of control one day, in a future relationship, and I will be left with the consequences.
"Clinical depression is just a glimpse of your shadow self."
Wait... so I really AM a mixture of Alucard and Mr. Perfect Cell??? 🤭🤩😎
I feel it's hard to ever get close to someone who denies even having a shadow self. You get Jeckyll & Hyded. You can offer support, but if their shadow hates your shadow, it's an emotional bloodbath.
I also struggle to understand how someone can integrate their shadow if it holds a lot of darkness and rage and bitterness and narcissism - the very things we don't want people living in.
'the very things we don't want people living in', this type of statement when internalised by people leads to the creation of shadow. It's not rage and narcissism you want in a person but the healthy version of them like a healthy amount of anger to scare off the predators or healthy amount of love towards oneself so that one can have a positive sense of self.
Excellent food for thought, Ana! Thank you! It's difficult but necessary to examine not only others' but our own shadow selves.
very interesting. A lot of boxers and combat sports athletes have mastered how to control their shadow and let it lose when they are in a fighting match.
thank you so much for making these videos, I've only discovered your channel recently but it helped me so much
Hi Ana. Love all your vids. The way you talk is so understandable, calm and informative. Much respect.
Your vids really help my self awareness and i feel much stronger in myself. Xx
An ayahuasca retreat bring out long forgotten memory to some people..... helping them break toxic patterns rooted from shadow.... as Carl Jung said, you cant heal what you cannot see.... so some of these addicts live for many years not realizing that the addiction comes from childhood abuse and upon the awarenrss of it, they broke the pattern....
Also carl jung is familiar with psychedelics.... he probably get that from his experiences
Just wanna say your videos are absolutely amazing and mind opening. I am having a lot of help sorting through my conscience.
I recently finished watching the original 8 seasons of Dexter and your explaination of the "shadow self" sounds alot like what Dexter calls his "dark passenger". Have you seen the show? Would you agree with my comparison?
Thank you for coming through on the poll results. Another amazing video .
I think "shadow self" is a poor name for this concept. It carries connotations of evil, villainy and darkness. Hidden self or repressed self is more accurate. I think I'm in touch with mine. I really don't like being disrespected or made fun of. I was lanky and socially awkward when I was younger, so I got picked on. I would have fantasies about getting even with ppl through violence and humiliation. My reintegration is I'm straightforward in dealing with ppl and I focus on self-improvement. It raises my self-esteem so insult don't hurt as much and I'm less likely to get vengeful. I do get revenge sometimes, but I think about if that's what I wanted 1st. Thanks for the topic.
"violence and humiliation." this common though.
“..get done what needs to be done.” 1:25
Let's say you feel that you've pushed positive traits into your shadow. They show themselves in certain circumstances, but you want to bring them more to the surface. What are some practices or tips for this?
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Accept who you are. Stop making more room for other people than you do for yourself. Do anything and everything you can to improve your mental and physical well-being. Notice how you feel when you act in different ways or try different activities. See what comes out. :) I'm trying these ideas on myself and I am seeing some slow but steady progress.
Listen to Episode 206 of Being Well with Dr Rick Hanson they talk about this in a similar vein
I don't know if you do character analysis but i would LOVE to hear your opinion on Walter white, as a person. I've also watched breaking bad like 1 month ago and I'm incredibly surprised to see how much support and validation he gets..
this is fascinating... you managed to explain my situation perfectly. I'm a very timid, passive, warm person 99% of the time, but under intense stress i can get very blunt and cold.
I grew up with a narcissistic dad, which is likely why I repressed those traits.
So I have a question - does this mean I'm secretly a narcissist deep down?
very interesting! but I think it's more useful to indentify one's own shadow self and regulate it than trying to identify and analyse someone else, cos I think psycho-analysing others, especially without actually talking with them about it - can lead to more misinterpretation and harm than benefit ...
Bro, why cant I live without "falling" in love all the time? two times just in this month.
Great video btw.
I found insight into my own shadow work watching this!!! The examples you gave on integration gave me ideas to integrate my own shadow! Ive been listening to “knowing your shadow becoming intimate with all that you are” by Robert Augustus Masters and it’s been insightful however a rather slow process. I think using your advice in tandem with what I’m learning from that audio series will be fruitful! Cheers
I believe that everyone has a shadow self. I dont believe people that say they dont or dont believe in it because its human to harbour feelings of guilt, hatred, resentment, depression and all sorts of negative thoughts and emotions that can manifest into different things like anger/rage or anxiety, For a lot of people it becomes the voice in their head that argues with them constantly and always makes them second guess themselves which leads to a drop in self confidence, A drop in self confidence can lead to much worse things.
That is one of the reason why its so important to know ones self.
i dont want to ruin my life or those of others, i have aspirations and plans, and insane people dont get to ever have vacations, they are in the hospital or psych wards or worse, i dont want to hurt others, im way sturdier than that. i can take much more lack luster life in freedom for peace and wellbeing in exchange for some would call freedom, but okey, i can let it rip everynow and then, but thats just to keep it together for your sake, not mine.
I have made a point to know myself before someone else does. I dont want anyone to upstage me on knowing myself, if they do thats ok they just helped me know more. It has been said; know thyself...
At 6:20 I thought this vid came out like a week ago
I think the interesting thing in my case, is that I've been mired in distress for so long that I don't think I can tell my shadow self apart from my usual self anymore. I think that takeover/merging has happened as a means for my mind to defend itself by expecting nothing good anymore, but rather, expecting bad things to happen (which happen so often that it's no wonder it's become expected).
Now what? Can you live this way? Do you rebuild or just except it? I think we feel less valuable if we have grown this way..Unless we find a way to let go.. start new. I think it's possible to both except and rebuild.
My dads a terrible, hateful person sober but is very affectionate and kind when he’s drunk (he’s alcoholic). Does that mean his true self is kind?
Yup, he is suppressing the warm side of himself maybe because of insecurities
It means nothing, being drunk affects too much brain chemistry to have any meaning. People might expose things about themselves like racism or worse fears to someone while drunk because under influence the brain is a mess but does it have meaning? Does his affection and kindness actually have meaning when drunk? No.
Would love to hear more about to integrate your shadow self, great video!
It’s called the Balrog
I try so hard to be a perfect friend that I sometimes get stressed around my pals and start saying things that I shouldn't. It's ironic and frustrating.
Just experienced a person who wasn’t aware of their shadow. I find that if we can’t integrate the dark side of our nature, we end up hurting other people and stunting our own development.
Love shadow stuff, thank you!
I am so excited that you are doing a video on Breaking Bad. Can´t wait. I loved this show.
Persona 4 is all about the Shadow self.
Yes! Can’t wait for the Walter White video.
Interesting channel! keep up the work!
I also have more issues with Freud's theories than Jung's
Latin proverb: “Nel vino c'è la verità” translation: “In wine there is truth.” When people get drunk, their shadow side can easily emerge. When narcissists get drunk, it can be dangerous because their suppressed darkness will be undeniable.
That's Italian
Walter White only goes back to tie up loose ends when he sees the two people his narcissism can always blame for his life, discussing him on Tv. Holy shit 😵
Ana, may I ask how is your English so good? You don’t have an accent and able to speak really fast without mixing up letters.
My native language is Hungarian. Even tho I don’t have that much of an accent, I constantly mix up letters and have difficulties pronouncing certain words.
It’s been 6 years since I don’t speak Hungarian on a daily base.
My shadow self just came out recently, if I understood it well.
I’m sensitive, judgmental and overly emotional. Usually I don’t pay attention to anything negative and able to solve things logically.
Now experiencing so much emotions I feel like a teenager again. It is new to me and I don’t really know how to control it.
Hi Ana, interesting video. I donated to Planned Parenthood, however while I would normally give £10 to charity every month this month I've split it between Planned Parenthood and Unicef UK's Vaccinaid campaign. Hopefully splitting it up means more people get helped in more ways!!! Thanks
Ana, thank you for the lovely video that deepens my knowledge about Shadow self. Any books that you can recommend regarding the shadow self and how to integrate it in ones life? A video about the integration of shadow self is also an awesome video if ever you like the idea of making one. I am not sure if you would approve of where I learned about the shadow self because the author is not a psychologist but a great writer still . He is Robert Greene and his book is called Laws of Human Nature which is based on 20 plus years of research. And he has a beautiful chapter there called Confront your darkside (Law of repression) which is based on Carl Jungs writings on the darkside and uses the historical account of Richard Nixon political life as an example or a tale for warning for the consequence of not integrating your darkside in your life. Then after the showing the story of Nixon, he shows you his mistakes and would help you integrate your own darkside into your life. Anyways, i do hope you keep making awesome videos. You are very lovely, intelligent and emphatic woman. I hope you have a good career in psychology and a lovely love life. Cheers and Godspeed this 2022.
Ana you’re awesome!!
Are there any books about this?
Simpatic să te văd într-o casă românească :D
Everyone knows the Megaton Hammer is the most effective item to defeat your shadow self.
I'm almost chill most Times but when I get angry ( i don't get irritated so easily ) i even afraid myself because i become really dangerous. Is that the shadow-self? That moment i really want to destroy anything on my way
Hi Ana! People can integrate that shadow part by one-self?
Absolutely! But therapy sure helps
Thanks Ana!
is the concept of the golden self true? Ive read once that once you get to the point of understanding the shadow & healthily integrating it you can find “the gold within the darkness” & unlock new strengths within life.
Is there a difference between repressed childhood trauma and the shadow self?
Persona 4
Thank you
Can you have more than one shadow self?
Like, can one have a secret narcissist compartmentalised in one second and partitioned in another a depressed personality.
I'm... asking for a friend...
Just wondering, is it possible to have more than one shadow self?
Is it possible to know exactly what your shadow self is. I feel like I know mine but maybe it’s a lie to protect myself. Others have told me different from what I think I project at times.
Integrate the shadow 🤣
i need to learn further
So Walter´s shadow self was a Sigma male. More videos about The Heisenberg please!
I want to make a fundraiser for our future babies Ana.
what are your socials ?
I thought the title said Shadow *Elf* lol
How can I save my marriage? My husband has been arrested once again for domestic violence but I still love him and I can't let him go, but I don't want the abuse to happen. Please help me.
go find out how to be happy on your own. You don’t need anyone
Sometimes it's hard to accept that the person you love won't stop being violent and maybe doesn't want to stop controlling behaviours. You can't change someone else, they have to want to change themselves. Always remember that you are precious and deserving of love and respect. Take care ✊💐
Is he in therapy for his violent tendencies?
What is your shadow self?
basically the dark side of a person.
The aspects of your personality you suppress because of society or raising
Talk Yung to me, I'll bring the LSD and shroms.
You seem like a water sign ? Cancer ?
💙💙💙💙💙
What’s a shadow self
basically the dark side of a person.
The side of yourself that you don't see. Though sometimes it slips out. Like actions that you only do when your barriers are down (eg, exhausted, stressed, drunk).
For example, I cry when I'm drunk because I often stop myself from crying in daily life. My friend is extremely flirty when drunk and very religious and romantically closed off normally.
@@suzannax ohhhhh I see
@@suzannax I wonder what I’m like
@@suzannax but wouldn’t that make my shadow self the real me?
damn you're really cute
Boop
stop giving them attention and find something else to focus on. If they can’t do the bare minimum to keep the relationship alive that means they don’t really care
They might be introverted or like me autistic.
Maybe being a Roman Catholic nun is your Shadow?
What?