Have Your Own Life Outside of Your Relationship | don't make them your everything

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  • Опубліковано 29 січ 2025

КОМЕНТАРІ • 36

  • @abbygodfrey3282
    @abbygodfrey3282 Рік тому +19

    So important to have friends night 1 time a week and then a date night ...balance is important

  • @nemous365
    @nemous365 Рік тому +7

    I have to find myself all over again because I was hurt by many, but I have to learn to put myself first

  • @nongcebogumbi4320
    @nongcebogumbi4320 3 роки тому +55

    Thank you so much for this, been in a relationship for 8 months and we see each other everyday but we realising that it’s not healthy and need to learn to be okay with being apart…

    • @SarahLUnfiltered
      @SarahLUnfiltered  3 роки тому +4

      Thanks for watching! Yes! Time apart is so important!

    • @ossomnos
      @ossomnos 2 роки тому

      Sibonge girl, umuntuwami akayiboni yonke lento

  • @abarlow24
    @abarlow24 Рік тому +15

    😮‍💨 sometimes you just want to hear someone else put in words what you are feeling. I’m so use to being alone that once I got in a relationship I haven’t been alone since and when I’m alone he wants to take my free time by being on the phone 😖 I have a few days off from work and I’ve been thinking of ways to tell him I want to spend it alone to reconnect with myself since all off my off days and free days are taken up from him it’s to the point he would call off work if he realize I have an off day I didn’t mention 😑 I’m venting I just need space to miss him and to rest and just be me anywho thank you for the video ❤

  • @Samantha-xh3gd
    @Samantha-xh3gd Рік тому +11

    I just want to say I know this video is 3 years old. But I really needed to hear this thank you. I really take it personally when my man wants to do his own thing. And I struggle having a life outside of my marriage. But you are 10000% right space is important and missing each other is essential. Thanks for saying it all so clearly instant ❤

  • @rishikaraj2895
    @rishikaraj2895 Рік тому +31

    agree! I have a boyfriend. My relationship is going very healthy. But i've made him my whole world but instead he should just be a part of it. Like he has college and friends, 70% of time he's involved in those thhings so i am like ok now what do i do. And it sucks. This feelins sucks. So yeah from now on, i will try my bestt to make suree he's just a part of my world.

  • @rudymootoor9032
    @rudymootoor9032 28 днів тому +1

    I’m gonna be 39 in 10 days and I’m now learning this 🤦🏽‍♂️

  • @Cookiemonztah1
    @Cookiemonztah1 4 роки тому +12

    Thanks i really needed this , little tear shed but definitely need hear this

  • @busimnisi105
    @busimnisi105 Рік тому +1

    It get so frustrating when your partner doesn't understand that .

  • @nemous365
    @nemous365 Рік тому

    That's for your thoughts and advice because it will help along my odyssey

  • @ayomideayoola3522
    @ayomideayoola3522 Рік тому +10

    I’m literally going through this tonight, and we are both young(22 &20) both jobless but I told him, don’t let your life revolve around me because we won’t succeed by talking to each other every single day 24/7, you must have friends and go out more, at least even 40 or 50% of your time is enough for me. Now, he’s upset because he wants 100% attention.
    Am I doing the right thing?

    • @SarahLUnfiltered
      @SarahLUnfiltered  Рік тому +3

      I think you are doing the right thing! It's so important to have lives outside of each other. It adds more depth to you both as individuals and you'll have more to talk about with each when you are together! You'll also appreciate the time you spend together more if you have time away.

  • @DigitalDistortion
    @DigitalDistortion 3 роки тому +5

    I really needed to hear this! Thank you 💖

  • @Leopar525
    @Leopar525 Рік тому

    I think this is very good advice, if you dont become toxic

  • @midwestjames
    @midwestjames 6 місяців тому

    my girlfriend and i have been dating for almost 5 months coming up in august and just recently she’s told me about how she’s getting bored of me and how i’m just annoying and i’m realizing now that like, i gotta just work more and keep my distance because even though i love being with her she needs her space but it’s so hard to else her go have fun with someone else because it just makes me feel like i can’t make her feel that way.

  • @amarshrivastava2753
    @amarshrivastava2753 Рік тому +2

    valuable advice, thank you Sarah! :)

  • @ossomnos
    @ossomnos 2 роки тому +10

    I'm in such a relationship and I'm annoyed, she doesn't seem to notice that she is crowding my space.I have even asked her if she didn't have hobbies.I can't even chill with my friends without her tagging along.if we are apart it means she would be nagging me on whatsapp or random calls every now and then.I love her but her constant need for my attention is way too much for me

    • @FollowingJesus17
      @FollowingJesus17 Рік тому

      Wow, imagine she saw this, how you really feel, your heart

  • @AromirunVideos
    @AromirunVideos 7 місяців тому

    I made the mistake twice, my ex was my everything, when she left I was broken, I had nothing. Now I accidentally did that to my current girlfriend and its not affecting me well at all, because of my previous relationship and because I know what can happen to me if something happens, also if she does something with someone else I get jealous, very jealous, and I get sad, and it affects us poorly. Its not her fault she just walked with another person home from school or has a friend over, I don't need to be jealous of their friends, but I am. I need to know how to not feel this way, for her and my sake.

  • @Mama-jailyn
    @Mama-jailyn 2 роки тому +2

    But how did you do it

  • @brrr6342
    @brrr6342 3 роки тому +1

    Omggg i need thiss so muchhh

  • @Olivia-frenz01
    @Olivia-frenz01 2 роки тому +3

    This helped but I don't have any friends

    • @SarahLUnfiltered
      @SarahLUnfiltered  2 роки тому +4

      Making friends is hard! I don’t have a lot. You will find your people!

    • @kaior1
      @kaior1 2 роки тому +4

      Or spend time doing your own things like reading or watching a show

  • @rah_soj3rsey
    @rah_soj3rsey 4 роки тому +11

    Wow this only has 47 views? Subbed 👍🏾 Also it goes for men to.
    Everything you said applies to the opposite gender.
    Giving eachother space gives room and time to miss each other.
    Wish I knew that sooner than later but better late than never.

    • @SarahLUnfiltered
      @SarahLUnfiltered  4 роки тому +3

      Very true! Definitely both genders. And, yes, better late than never! I learned the hard way too

  • @mashturatreena2482
    @mashturatreena2482 3 роки тому

    Thank you

  • @queenbeautyceo
    @queenbeautyceo 4 роки тому

    Love this ❤️

  • @tiffytoo
    @tiffytoo 2 роки тому

    This happened to me.....

  • @Cookiemonztah1
    @Cookiemonztah1 4 роки тому +2

    Even in a marriage?

    • @SarahLUnfiltered
      @SarahLUnfiltered  4 роки тому +15

      I think it’s definitely still important in a marriage to have your separate selves and parts of your life that are just for you!

    • @LaylaEl-Naser
      @LaylaEl-Naser Рік тому

      100% otherwise u will suffocate the person

  • @Trust788
    @Trust788 Місяць тому

    Gurl sit down