I think your experience with asexuality is very common for a lot of aces, myself included. I fall more on the Demi end of things but I have tons of ace friends who just want that close connection with people but don’t want all the other stuff. It’s a normal feeling to have!
The "list of things you'd do if capitalism weren't a thing" genuinely broke my brain because it's so true. There are so many things I would do if I didn't have to spend so much of my time doing labour in order to be able to survive.
Compared to previous centuries we do relatively little labor to survive. In the Victorian era, unless you inherited wealth the majority of the population had to do physical labor for more than 10 hours per day, 6 days a week, and barely were able to survive. Most of us sit at a desk from 9-5 and then go home where we have food, a bed, and clean clothes to wear the next day. Not only that but we get weekends, paid vacations and heath insurance. So ya, work sucks, but not as much as it did 100 years ago
I got a bit emotional hearing you talk about being asexual (or somewhere on the asexual spectrum). I finally came to accept that I was demisexual a few weeks ago after stubbornly refusing to use the label for almost a decade. I'm really glad that I've finally embraced that aspect of my sexuality.
I landed at the same place as you, when you say you don’t look for fulfillment from your job. I don’t hate it, and it provides me the means to spend my time outside of work to pursue things I actually care about.
I'm really glad I've found you channel. You articulate a lot of complex topics -- some that I have been thinking about recently myself -- really well. I'd love to hear more about your podcast.
Oh wow 'kissing a wall' is exactly how I felt upon having my first kiss at the ripe old age of 25 recently. It has taken me until now to start being semi kinda okay with the fact that I don't know/don't need to label myself. I do relate to a lot of asexual experiences but I think I have clung on to hope that I am not/denial that I am for many years. I relate to just trying to be open to things like you are and maybe sexual attraction will happen with some person some day. I like to believe sexuality is fluid and not set in stone for my whole life.
As someone who also identifies as being on the Ace spectrum, I just want to affirm you that Asexuality is possibly one of the most frustrating sexualities to explain! Most of us experience it so differently from one another, and it'll range from "ambivalent" to "never in a million years" and still count as Ace. Don't worry about not getting it right-it's really hard to get something as broad as asexuality wrong!
Thank you for answering my question about not loving my full time job 🤍 you made such a good point. I was just always told growing up, “do something you love and it wont feel like work”…kinda feels like a capitalist ploy to placate the proletariat
I totally relate to your experience being asexual. It was a little weird for me at first when I began clueing in to the fact that I was ace, but being able to use that label has been so helpful in opening up that conversation with friends and romantic interests.
What a beautiful message to convey. You’re the type of influencer that must be looked up. With such beautiful mindset, and using your platform the right way, I ought to follow you ❤️
I don't usually comment but I like that you evolve into more mature and complex topics 🤗 Lightweight infos on college is great, many of us are now employed.
i'm in the same boat with sexuality!! i've had a hard time coming to terms with it, esp because i feel like i don't have a lot of romantic attraction sometimes and no one believed me! I don't know if I feel the need to label everything in myself, but I have been thinking about it lots.
I really appreciate your candor about your sexuality - just admitting that sex doesn't hold much interest for you is so refreshing! To me, its been such a point of pressure and contention in my life, that I have developed a distaste for those moments when sex inevitably comes up. Yes, I regularly talk to my therapist about all of this, haha, but I love you helping to normalize some of these feelings, too
Five year old boy I love that. Looking forward to your podcast!! And if you ever decide to make a clothing line it should be all kids’ clothes that they don’t make big enough for adults. I want a sweater with trucks on it too
ahhh i wish I could “like” and not “love” my job! with my adhd (even while medicated) if I’m not obsessed or at least very excited by something I physically won’t be able to do it (or I’ll do the work but forcefully and just not well) and the lack of positive response/personal fulfillment always sparks a depression. it’s been like this my whole life. it breaks my heart every time you say the whole separation of self from labor because I don’t think I’ll ever truly be capable of doing it. i believe in it fully but Its never worked for me. my job has to be something I enjoy (at least 70% of the time) if I want to do it decently well. obviously just a personal issue but felt like venting lol :’(
+1. It is physically, mentally and emotionally painful for me to do work that doesn't inspire me or feel good. I end up having breakdowns when doing menial work and I quit jobs quickly when burnt out (which kicks in rapidly) i HATE CAPITALISM
I loved hearing you talk about your experience with sexuality. I share a lot of those experiences and it's nice to hear you say the same thing. (And I always love hearing you talk about capitalism. You influenced me to buy "socialism seriously" which is on my to read pile!)
Thanks so much for sharing your experiences on sexuality and sexual attraction! I can relate SO much and have recently started self identifying as “not straight” but that’s as far as I’ve gone with it haha. I recently started identifying as demisexual, with similar but slightly different feelings as you around sexual attraction, and so can really relate to the “then how can I tell who I’m attracted to when I’m not really attracted to anyone, atleast not very often.” It’s an ongoing process of discovery, and so helpful to hear others have similar experiences!
👉🏼👈🏼 I never comment because I am very shy about being perceived but I wanted to say it's nice to hear you talk about asexuality. happy belated asexual awareness week 🎉
Oh wow, I don't know if you remember, but I left a comment when you casually mentioned looking into asexuality before, so hearing you talk more in depth about it was wonderful. I related to almost everything you were saying. Especially the part about "knowing" of asexuality, but just thinking that it meant having no desire for anything sexual, romantic or relationship-wise. I was looking for a way to understand myself and why my experience with relationships was seemingly so different from anyone else's for a long time and this whole time asexuality was right there. But I just only knew that all or nothing "definition" of it and thought, no that's not me. Say what you want about labels, but having "discovered" asexuality for myself has really made me so much more self-assured. I feel like I finally understand myself. Don't worry about not "saying the right thing". As long as you don't generalize too much and talk about your own experience there literally is no wrong thing to say. Asexuality is honestly such a large spectrum and people who identify as asexual can have such varied experiences. That's one part of it that made me feel really valid, because the more I looked into it, the more I relaxed because I realised there is no "right" way to be asexual. We don't (or very rarely) experience sexual attraction. Literally everything else can vary. That kind of makes me feel a sense of belonging and freedom at the same time!
Just wanted to pop down to the comments and encourage you here - there is nothing wrong with not feeling sexual attraction. You are not broken. You are not missing some essential part of the human experience. Your experience, as a human being, is valid and worthy exactly as you are.
You would make an awesome news reporter. I know that isn't your field but you are very educated as well. I am sure you could do anything if you wanted. Great content. I love the timestamps too for references and binge watches !! 💖 You are one of us Kewl Girlie Girls. ☺☺🌞☄⚡
Katherine, as someone considering moving to Washington State, I am curious to hear how the weather affects your mood after you stay for a while. Do you get Seasonal Affective Disorder?
Bloody bell, I’m 58 and that is the closest anyone has ever come to crystallising my own thoughts about my own sexuality and a realisation of my own asexuality. Thank you for that, I have something new to contemplate.
I’m curious what’s your perspective on credit cards in general? Would you say people should avoid them entirely? I want to get rid of my credit card once I pay it off but I’m worried not having any sort of credit score will make buying large purchases such as a house or car more difficult 😬
Hope it’s ok for me to share with you. What has worked for me has been to keep a credit card with as high available credit as possible but don’t use it. Pay the annual fee if you must. I think it’s worth it to get the credit score up. We need a high credit but low usage ratio to help get a great credit score. Need it if you buy a house.
Whoo! I’m a heteromantic asexual and you should watch Anthony Padilla’s “I spent a day with asexuals” interview! Literally the thumbnail says “It was like kissing a wall!”
Figured out I was Demi sexual in my mid-20’s. This light bulb moment was like OH wait this is why I feel like I don’t relate to so many of my peers’ experiences.
Thank you for sharing your experience with (potential) asexuality, should you choose to use that label. As someone on both the asexual and aromantic spectrum, I always feel less alone/hopeless when I hear others sharing similar experiences to mine! -- Though please know that you are under no obligation to share or "figure it out". Always do what is best/most comfortable for you!
Wow, your thoughts on your sexuality resonated with me SO much. I've been on a similar journey of discovery lately and good lord, it was refreshing to hear those thoughts echoed in someone else :) Thank you for sharing!
Yes. Aim to find a job u quite like. Finding your Dream job is too much pressure and will be sure to not live up to that fantasy even if u can get to it. At the end of the day a job is a job. You wouldn't get paid if it wasn't work. I am so lucky to have aspects of my job that I do love, some I like, and only some which make be drag my feet and not want to go in.
The question of 'what am I doing with my life' has been a burning question for me in the past few months. I'm trying to generate passive income so I can eventually have time back to live. Will take a long time though to get there. But it's reassuring to see how common the younger generations are realizing this with their dissatisfaction with their current career path. My issue is I'm good at my job, but I don't see myself in the same position there in the next 1 - 2 years.
disclaimer: im not here to be a gender cop. i just recognized myself in some of the reasoning for cisness (i am now nb/fluid,, i don't have preferred pronouns). we live in a cissexist society so ofc it makes sense to be cis-- it's easier, materially, socially, etc. gender/sex are politically bound creations; no one is "born this way" because all bodies are policed into the binary. anything that doesn't conform is either discriminated against or invisibilized-- a grand Other. my personal journey towards anything gender non-conforming/trans started off political bc gender is largely harmful! +requiring dysphoria for transition (be it social/surgical/etc) is a transmedicalist fallacy (why do u need a diagnosed reason- isn't autonomy the point?). i sometimes xp dysphoria now, but nothing dramatic; it's also bc ive allowed myself to visualize an alternative to cisness. i know many queer ppl who feel similarly! altogether, i find it funny the way that transness is given this criterion of abnormalcy? "if i were That, i would feel it!" it's much more within reach than it's advertised to be, like it takes nothing but an imagination to understand the self away from a cisgendered identity (which is meant to be encouraging, not insulting!). capitalism and the like is all about taking away the imagination/"there is no alternative..." i think queerness is best understood via bell hooks' "queer not as being about who you're having sex with (that can be a dimension of it); but queer as being about the self that is at odds with everything around it and has to invent and create and find a place to speak and to thrive and to live." and illustrating that through gender- bc i wouldn't say that people are socialized male/female, but policed into cissexism (see dr. devon price's medium article: devonprice.medium.com/female-socialization-is-a-transphobic-myth-97747d1c7fb2). it is all a game of "fake it til u make it" and im not saying gender isn't real, but it is ever-growing in meaning (think of neopronouns, or anything that confuses u). the body is a canvas, and im not saying we all should dress like lesbians, but understand ourselves *past* cisness through all kinds of expression, not just fashion (and anything else heavily associated w consumerism). idc how anyone identifies, but ik my feminism improved ten-fold after reading that medium article (linked above) and understanding cissexism > (fe)male socialization. prior to, it was easy to get lost when i tried to include trans ppl in my politics, bc feminism is so wired to pit men/women against each other (when the real issue is just the policing of gender/body). sorry this was long but i hope someone finds this fruitful! would be 100% open to answer qs, sending love/support regardless!! + pronouns don't have to follow any "rules" and uh... yeah i highly recommend interacting w radical queer ppl 👍🏽
for the love of god PLEASE don’t hold the microphone one inch from your mouth, it makes for painful audio. clip it on your shirt and i promise you, we will still be able to hear you
So you're anti capitalism and Pro investing? How do you reconcile those two positions? Investing in stocks/ bonds with the aim of making money off of other people's labour? While some of those people don't get paid a fair wage because the company wants to make a large profit for its investors.. Hipocrasy at its finest here
whining about capitalism and blaming everything on it is a sure way to attract people to yourself and find a meaningful, romantic relationship (regardless of their gender identity).
i didn't get your hesitation about sexual orientation. you heard your 2 gay friends acknowledge the feeling that they were kissing walls when kissing guys and you related to this - and this made you feel like you are not "straight in that way"? So, that made you doubt that you are straight? Am i understanding this right? Kate, you are overthinking. Overachiever. :)
Sexual attraction disappears after 40. Once all your peers are married off, you finally figure out the algorithm selected for male breadwinners, female baby makers, & if weren't in that 1% sliver, you were done at age 20.
Hey-just wanted to say I’ve been enjoying your content… for years. 😉It has always has been surreal to get a faux-parasocial foray into how you’re processing the world and to see so many parallels. 💜🖤🤍 I love how candid you are these days, it is so refreshing compared to other influencers/vloggers. Here for it!
I think your experience with asexuality is very common for a lot of aces, myself included. I fall more on the Demi end of things but I have tons of ace friends who just want that close connection with people but don’t want all the other stuff. It’s a normal feeling to have!
The "list of things you'd do if capitalism weren't a thing" genuinely broke my brain because it's so true. There are so many things I would do if I didn't have to spend so much of my time doing labour in order to be able to survive.
Life doesn’t exist outside of labor, capitalism or not.
Compared to previous centuries we do relatively little labor to survive. In the Victorian era, unless you inherited wealth the majority of the population had to do physical labor for more than 10 hours per day, 6 days a week, and barely were able to survive. Most of us sit at a desk from 9-5 and then go home where we have food, a bed, and clean clothes to wear the next day. Not only that but we get weekends, paid vacations and heath insurance. So ya, work sucks, but not as much as it did 100 years ago
I rarely comment. Please never stop making UA-cam videos. Literally you teach me stuff and make me feel normal.
I got a bit emotional hearing you talk about being asexual (or somewhere on the asexual spectrum). I finally came to accept that I was demisexual a few weeks ago after stubbornly refusing to use the label for almost a decade. I'm really glad that I've finally embraced that aspect of my sexuality.
I landed at the same place as you, when you say you don’t look for fulfillment from your job. I don’t hate it, and it provides me the means to spend my time outside of work to pursue things I actually care about.
I'm really glad I've found you channel. You articulate a lot of complex topics -- some that I have been thinking about recently myself -- really well. I'd love to hear more about your podcast.
Oh wow 'kissing a wall' is exactly how I felt upon having my first kiss at the ripe old age of 25 recently. It has taken me until now to start being semi kinda okay with the fact that I don't know/don't need to label myself. I do relate to a lot of asexual experiences but I think I have clung on to hope that I am not/denial that I am for many years. I relate to just trying to be open to things like you are and maybe sexual attraction will happen with some person some day. I like to believe sexuality is fluid and not set in stone for my whole life.
Omg I love what you mentioned about sketching and journaling!!!
As someone who also identifies as being on the Ace spectrum, I just want to affirm you that Asexuality is possibly one of the most frustrating sexualities to explain! Most of us experience it so differently from one another, and it'll range from "ambivalent" to "never in a million years" and still count as Ace. Don't worry about not getting it right-it's really hard to get something as broad as asexuality wrong!
Congrats on the PBS piece, very cool!
these videos seriously get me through the sunday scaries
Thank you for answering my question about not loving my full time job 🤍 you made such a good point. I was just always told growing up, “do something you love and it wont feel like work”…kinda feels like a capitalist ploy to placate the proletariat
DING DING DING
YES. i think i'm ace as well and I had a hard time realizing that? idk but ace dad advice on youtube has been a huge resource for me
Just stumbled across your channel (thanks, UA-cam suggestions!) and am loving your content so far. Can't wait to watch more!
thank u!!!! thank god the algorithm did something right for once hehehe
the way you described your relationship with asexuality REALLY really resonated with me !!! love these videos
I love the distorted sounds. They are the essence of any good yt vid
at first i was annoyed at how much the audio peaks in this but….. it’s sort of a stylistic effect in it of itself
@@Katherout it's hella dope
Thank you again for another great video! I love your openness and ability to let yourself evolve.
“left yourself evolve” is the perfect typo because she gets more & more leftist by the day!!!
@@breannemartin2994 Thanks for the catch, I corrected it!
I totally relate to your experience being asexual. It was a little weird for me at first when I began clueing in to the fact that I was ace, but being able to use that label has been so helpful in opening up that conversation with friends and romantic interests.
What a beautiful message to convey. You’re the type of influencer that must be looked up. With such beautiful mindset, and using your platform the right way, I ought to follow you ❤️
Thank you for making videos Katherine. I've followed you since 2014 and I have loved the evolution of your content. ❤
I don't usually comment but I like that you evolve into more mature and complex topics 🤗 Lightweight infos on college is great, many of us are now employed.
ugh YES I’ve been watching you for as long as I can remember, and I feel like I’ve been growing in this way with you
i'm in the same boat with sexuality!! i've had a hard time coming to terms with it, esp because i feel like i don't have a lot of romantic attraction sometimes and no one believed me! I don't know if I feel the need to label everything in myself, but I have been thinking about it lots.
I really appreciate your candor about your sexuality - just admitting that sex doesn't hold much interest for you is so refreshing! To me, its been such a point of pressure and contention in my life, that I have developed a distaste for those moments when sex inevitably comes up. Yes, I regularly talk to my therapist about all of this, haha, but I love you helping to normalize some of these feelings, too
Five year old boy I love that. Looking forward to your podcast!! And if you ever decide to make a clothing line it should be all kids’ clothes that they don’t make big enough for adults. I want a sweater with trucks on it too
WAIT… YOU’RE ONTO SOMETHING
Girl
You answered my question with a shrug
And I’m here for it tbh 🙃
ahhh i wish I could “like” and not “love” my job! with my adhd (even while medicated) if I’m not obsessed or at least very excited by something I physically won’t be able to do it (or I’ll do the work but forcefully and just not well) and the lack of positive response/personal fulfillment always sparks a depression. it’s been like this my whole life. it breaks my heart every time you say the whole separation of self from labor because I don’t think I’ll ever truly be capable of doing it. i believe in it fully but Its never worked for me. my job has to be something I enjoy (at least 70% of the time) if I want to do it decently well. obviously just a personal issue but felt like venting lol :’(
Omg I related to this, I feel like I cant make that separation either
I wondered why it felt me with a little dread when she said that in the video and then I read your comment and it made sense to me!
I completely relate to this!!!
also ADHD, also 100 feel this way.
+1. It is physically, mentally and emotionally painful for me to do work that doesn't inspire me or feel good. I end up having breakdowns when doing menial work and I quit jobs quickly when burnt out (which kicks in rapidly) i HATE CAPITALISM
I loved hearing you talk about your experience with sexuality. I share a lot of those experiences and it's nice to hear you say the same thing. (And I always love hearing you talk about capitalism. You influenced me to buy "socialism seriously" which is on my to read pile!)
LOVE! TO! HEAR! THIS!
Wow. I don't think I have ever related to a video more. Thank you for posting this :)
Thanks so much for sharing your experiences on sexuality and sexual attraction! I can relate SO much and have recently started self identifying as “not straight” but that’s as far as I’ve gone with it haha. I recently started identifying as demisexual, with similar but slightly different feelings as you around sexual attraction, and so can really relate to the “then how can I tell who I’m attracted to when I’m not really attracted to anyone, atleast not very often.” It’s an ongoing process of discovery, and so helpful to hear others have similar experiences!
👉🏼👈🏼 I never comment because I am very shy about being perceived but I wanted to say it's nice to hear you talk about asexuality. happy belated asexual awareness week 🎉
Oh wow, I don't know if you remember, but I left a comment when you casually mentioned looking into asexuality before, so hearing you talk more in depth about it was wonderful.
I related to almost everything you were saying. Especially the part about "knowing" of asexuality, but just thinking that it meant having no desire for anything sexual, romantic or relationship-wise.
I was looking for a way to understand myself and why my experience with relationships was seemingly so different from anyone else's for a long time and this whole time asexuality was right there. But I just only knew that all or nothing "definition" of it and thought, no that's not me.
Say what you want about labels, but having "discovered" asexuality for myself has really made me so much more self-assured. I feel like I finally understand myself.
Don't worry about not "saying the right thing". As long as you don't generalize too much and talk about your own experience there literally is no wrong thing to say. Asexuality is honestly such a large spectrum and people who identify as asexual can have such varied experiences. That's one part of it that made me feel really valid, because the more I looked into it, the more I relaxed because I realised there is no "right" way to be asexual. We don't (or very rarely) experience sexual attraction. Literally everything else can vary. That kind of makes me feel a sense of belonging and freedom at the same time!
Just wanted to pop down to the comments and encourage you here - there is nothing wrong with not feeling sexual attraction. You are not broken. You are not missing some essential part of the human experience. Your experience, as a human being, is valid and worthy exactly as you are.
You would make an awesome news reporter. I know that isn't your field but you are very educated as well. I am sure you could do anything if you wanted. Great content. I love the timestamps too for references and binge watches !! 💖 You are one of us Kewl Girlie Girls. ☺☺🌞☄⚡
have watched you for many years, love you and love to hear your thoughts, i wish you well
Katherine, as someone considering moving to Washington State, I am curious to hear how the weather affects your mood after you stay for a while. Do you get Seasonal Affective Disorder?
Very funny how she rants and and talks about capitalism as the root of problems but then ✨✨✨sponsored by an automated stock investing app✨✨✨
Appreciate you ❣️
thank you for sharing, I definitely resonated with a lot of things you talked about
Bloody bell, I’m 58 and that is the closest anyone has ever come to crystallising my own thoughts about my own sexuality and a realisation of my own asexuality. Thank you for that, I have something new to contemplate.
I’m curious what’s your perspective on credit cards in general? Would you say people should avoid them entirely? I want to get rid of my credit card once I pay it off but I’m worried not having any sort of credit score will make buying large purchases such as a house or car more difficult 😬
Hope it’s ok for me to share with you. What has worked for me has been to keep a credit card with as high available credit as possible but don’t use it. Pay the annual fee if you must. I think it’s worth it to get the credit score up. We need a high credit but low usage ratio to help get a great credit score. Need it if you buy a house.
Very modern and very inspiring content 🌈
Always presenting entertaining content!
Whoo! I’m a heteromantic asexual and you should watch Anthony Padilla’s “I spent a day with asexuals” interview! Literally the thumbnail says “It was like kissing a wall!”
Figured out I was Demi sexual in my mid-20’s. This light bulb moment was like OH wait this is why I feel like I don’t relate to so many of my peers’ experiences.
my fav yas !!!
welcome to the LGBTQIA community 🌈!!! you and your experiences and feelings are valid. thank you for the honesty and bravery of sharing them with us
Thank you for sharing your experience with (potential) asexuality, should you choose to use that label. As someone on both the asexual and aromantic spectrum, I always feel less alone/hopeless when I hear others sharing similar experiences to mine! -- Though please know that you are under no obligation to share or "figure it out". Always do what is best/most comfortable for you!
Uh if you're doing wealth front you are not anti capitalist. Investing makes money off the labor of others.
unfortunately everything makes money off the labor of others under capitalism 😔 i hate participating in it but there’s no opt out to our economy
@@Katherout you don't have to invest
Grá from Éire !
Wow, your thoughts on your sexuality resonated with me SO much. I've been on a similar journey of discovery lately and good lord, it was refreshing to hear those thoughts echoed in someone else :) Thank you for sharing!
OMG, the way you describe asexuality ... lots of things making sense to me right now
Are you currently doing tech sales?
Yes. Aim to find a job u quite like. Finding your Dream job is too much pressure and will be sure to not live up to that fantasy even if u can get to it. At the end of the day a job is a job. You wouldn't get paid if it wasn't work. I am so lucky to have aspects of my job that I do love, some I like, and only some which make be drag my feet and not want to go in.
Hi What happened to your New orleans video?
Ace gang
The question of 'what am I doing with my life' has been a burning question for me in the past few months. I'm trying to generate passive income so I can eventually have time back to live. Will take a long time though to get there. But it's reassuring to see how common the younger generations are realizing this with their dissatisfaction with their current career path. My issue is I'm good at my job, but I don't see myself in the same position there in the next 1 - 2 years.
OMG, thanks for your honesty about sexuality. It all resonated with me 110%.
I've been unable to do anything on my list. Don't have enough money to take care of basic necessities like healthcare.
Great video
disclaimer: im not here to be a gender cop. i just recognized myself in some of the reasoning for cisness (i am now nb/fluid,, i don't have preferred pronouns).
we live in a cissexist society so ofc it makes sense to be cis-- it's easier, materially, socially, etc. gender/sex are politically bound creations; no one is "born this way" because all bodies are policed into the binary. anything that doesn't conform is either discriminated against or invisibilized-- a grand Other.
my personal journey towards anything gender non-conforming/trans started off political bc gender is largely harmful! +requiring dysphoria for transition (be it social/surgical/etc) is a transmedicalist fallacy (why do u need a diagnosed reason- isn't autonomy the point?). i sometimes xp dysphoria now, but nothing dramatic; it's also bc ive allowed myself to visualize an alternative to cisness. i know many queer ppl who feel similarly!
altogether, i find it funny the way that transness is given this criterion of abnormalcy? "if i were That, i would feel it!" it's much more within reach than it's advertised to be, like it takes nothing but an imagination to understand the self away from a cisgendered identity (which is meant to be encouraging, not insulting!). capitalism and the like is all about taking away the imagination/"there is no alternative..."
i think queerness is best understood via bell hooks' "queer not as being about who you're having sex with (that can be a dimension of it); but queer as being about the self that is at odds with everything around it and has to invent and create and find a place to speak and to thrive and to live."
and illustrating that through gender- bc i wouldn't say that people are socialized male/female, but policed into cissexism (see dr. devon price's medium article: devonprice.medium.com/female-socialization-is-a-transphobic-myth-97747d1c7fb2).
it is all a game of "fake it til u make it" and im not saying gender isn't real, but it is ever-growing in meaning (think of neopronouns, or anything that confuses u). the body is a canvas, and im not saying we all should dress like lesbians, but understand ourselves *past* cisness through all kinds of expression, not just fashion (and anything else heavily associated w consumerism).
idc how anyone identifies, but ik my feminism improved ten-fold after reading that medium article (linked above) and understanding cissexism > (fe)male socialization. prior to, it was easy to get lost when i tried to include trans ppl in my politics, bc feminism is so wired to pit men/women against each other (when the real issue is just the policing of gender/body).
sorry this was long but i hope someone finds this fruitful! would be 100% open to answer qs, sending love/support regardless!!
+ pronouns don't have to follow any "rules" and uh... yeah i highly recommend interacting w radical queer ppl 👍🏽
Love
I'm a poor man I made this channel to help my family👨👨👧👦🙏💖🌹
👀 link to the podcast?
Are you really sponsoring an investment service?? I thought you were meant to be against capitalism. The irony.
How would you describe the difference between sexual and physical attraction? I’ve always thought they are synonymous.
i’m a really affectionate person and i like to be physically close w people but that doesn’t mean sexually close!
for the love of god PLEASE don’t hold the microphone one inch from your mouth, it makes for painful audio. clip it on your shirt and i promise you, we will still be able to hear you
what is the podcast called?
So you're anti capitalism and Pro investing? How do you reconcile those two positions? Investing in stocks/ bonds with the aim of making money off of other people's labour? While some of those people don't get paid a fair wage because the company wants to make a large profit for its investors.. Hipocrasy at its finest here
hell naw i need that 3rd base
Kooki Ooki Ooki count: Zero :(
whining about capitalism and blaming everything on it is a sure way to attract people to yourself and find a meaningful, romantic relationship (regardless of their gender identity).
i wonder if i’m asexual or my antidepressants just kill my sex drive
She already makes 100k a year WHY does she need to be monetized?
i didn't get your hesitation about sexual orientation. you heard your 2 gay friends acknowledge the feeling that they were kissing walls when kissing guys and you related to this - and this made you feel like you are not "straight in that way"? So, that made you doubt that you are straight? Am i understanding this right? Kate, you are overthinking. Overachiever. :)
So you’re saying you’ve never had sex?
Hmmm... Too much good sex "education".
Sexual attraction disappears after 40. Once all your peers are married off, you finally figure out the algorithm selected for male breadwinners, female baby makers, & if weren't in that 1% sliver, you were done at age 20.
Pro tip - Capitalism doesn’t exist when you have a sugar daddy 🥳
Hey-just wanted to say I’ve been enjoying your content… for years. 😉It has always has been surreal to get a faux-parasocial foray into how you’re processing the world and to see so many parallels. 💜🖤🤍 I love how candid you are these days, it is so refreshing compared to other influencers/vloggers. Here for it!