How to Build Real Confidence: 7 Truths to Unlock Your Authentic Self
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- Опубліковано 15 тра 2024
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Today, you’ll learn the skill of self-confidence.
This episode is a masterclass in how to believe in yourself, no matter what obstacles you face.
Mel will share the 7 truths you need to hear about confidence and the art of being truly yourself.
After listening, you will know exactly what to do to discover your authentic self (at any age), boost your self-esteem, and achieve really cool things.
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00:00:00 Intro
00:01:53: Want to know Mel’s all time favorite TV show on Netflix?
00:03:18: 3 questions you are likely struggling to answer right now.
00:04:37: Do you want to find the courage to be authentically yourself?
00:06:04: Someone is always going to be disappointed by choices you make.
00:08:51: If you are a people-pleaser, you need this ONE piece of advice.
00:09:52: Learn to let people down, so you can pick yourself up.
00:12:32: Do you feel like you are just going through the motions of life?
00:14:12: What does being ‘authentically yourself' even mean?
00:15:42: Why authentic people have smaller social circles.
00:17:50: The simple trick to tell if you are working the right job.
00:19:21: When do you feel the most energized and expansive?
00:22:49: Being yourself creates confidence.
00:25:52: The monumental moment where Mel embraced who she really was.
00:27:06: The science-backed definition of what confidence really is.
00:31:27: In order to have a better relationship, you need to change this.
00:35:44: The one habit that will transform your self confidence.
00:39:07: If you feel pressure from social media, you are not alone.
00:42:25: When was the last time you admired your uniqueness?
00:46:45: Mel finally answers the #1 question that you ask.
00:49:47: 6 months from now, where do you want to be?
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This is a great Video. This brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 5 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
I am sorry about what you have been through. I have been through something similar and was almost depressed, till I contacted a spiritual counsellor who helped me get my ex back and hence my life back.
Interesting. Who is this counsellor, and how do I meet the person?
Online, you'll find shelly renee white, revered for her expertise as a spiritual counsellor. She has the ability to reunite couples and promote holistic well-being.
Thanks a lot. I just did. Impressive.
Sorry man 🙏
Omg the way she said "you know EXACTLY WHO YOU ARE" hit meee
Mel, my WHOLE life has shifted~ and YOU, Mademoiselle, kicked this WHOLE THING OFF with your "Get Unstuck" video 2 weeks ago!!!! 🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤
I am so grateful you exist! And I'm grateful for every moment you have lived through that has shaped you and that you are courageous to share with all of us what you've learned! Your vulnerability is brilliant! ❤
The moment you prioritize yourself, the number of people in your circle reduces. Thanks Mel. Greetings from Uganda.
Mel, everything you said today is exactly what I needed to hear. I'll be 50 in July, and I lost who I am. Trying to find me again. I had to stop at step 6. I'm going to work, but I'll sneak it in throughout the weekday. Hugs and love you for your truth.❤❤❤❤
I’m 10 min into this and I’m already saying “ YES!”
high 5!
The definition of confidence used to be so abstract to me before learning from you, Mel. When you said it so succinctly, “confidence is the willingness to try,” I realized accolades and opinions have nothing to do with embracing confidence. It just takes courage and perseverance. 💯
I used to listen to shows/movies while I work. Now, I listen to your podcast episodes instead. I am excited for the future. Thank you thank you thank you Mel
Mel congratulations on the Netflix sponsorship 🎉🎉🎉😢 you doing BIG things everywhere 👏🏼
Mel Robbins you are an absolute light in this messy messy world! ❤
I struggle with being authentic around people who were in my life before I have grown and changed. I can have a better conversation with a complete stranger than my family and old friends.
I have quietly been working on self improvement the past 5 years and i don't feel like I can relate to them anymore. They don't think how I think but instead of having the confidence to embrace myself I just keep chatting about the same stuff we always have. Does anyone else feel like this? I'm going to start working on it more x
You are NOT alone! :)
Yes Jesus had the same experience. Homies said he’s just a carpenter . Isn’t that Joseph’s kid? He still went home, took care of mom on the cross telling a disciples she’s your mom he’s your son…but did what He came to do
I find that too. ❤
Ohh yeah...oh yeahhh
I hear you 🙏
I listen to you on Spotify, but I had to pop over here to see the costume. LOL! Love you, Mel!
Lmao is it weird at first I didn’t question what I thought was your outfit choice hahaha I was like ‘omg that reminds me of Cinderella’s pink dress! Mel is so cool’ ( childhood memory unlocked)
Mel you’re just awesome. I’m so grateful you’re my friend.
❤️
Fresh into my college chapter of life, I ended a long term relationship with someone I loved DEEPLY and still do. It hurts worse than anything i’ve been through, but I needed to make that decision for myself. This video is speaking LOUD to me right now 🗣️❤️
I'm in exactly the same space and I'm almost 55!!! It's so much harder to light the fuse but after hearing Mel...its now feeling so liberating!!! Stay strong and true to yourself ❤
@@kirstenblomfield3320 much love!
Great video- I am going to be an empty nester in a few months and I have the most boring job in the planet..an accountant. I kind of want to quit the boring stable job and do something totally different. Good ideas!
This was really a great episode, Mel; it resonated with me on a number of levels. I'm so glad someone--especially a life coach/mentor/self-help advocate--FINALLY acknowledged that yes, we do actually care a least a little about what other people think. What we think of ourselves is certainly more important (something it took me decades to learn and something of which I have to frequently remind myself), but it has always stuck in my craw every time I've heard someone say "I don't care what other people think of me", because I knew that person was lying both to me and to him/herself at least a little bit. Most of all, the 7th truth was the powerhouse truth--the one I didn't see coming and honestly had never considered. I think, perhaps, I've always just assumed that having it all meant having it all at the same time. Needless to say, that false assumption has been a source of frustration in my life for as long as I can remember. Anyway, I'm just rambling now, so I'll stop. Thanks for another great episode and for all you do. Oh, and in case no one as told YOU today, let me be the first to say that I love and that I believe in you. 🙂
My family hates that I did not do what they wanted me to do. I know with all my heart that if i would have done what they wanted me to do, I would not be here to tell anyone about my story. I quit drinking and smoking. and I cured my depression. They hate that I am not their sad little girl. My mother still treats me like I am depressed and the joke is on her. I am stronger and happier without them. That was a hard one to get through because of all the "You need to love your parents and spend time with them in their old age" blah blah blah. Why would I spend time with people that put me last? Why would I spend time with people who treat me like I am stupid and pathetic and not worth any time? I may not be the greatest person in the world, but I learned that I deserve to be treated right or I need to stay away from those people. If I learned anything from all of this it is "Life is too short" Only spend time with people that bring you joy. Spend time with people who treat you with kindness love and compassion. And make sure to treat yourself that way too.
I, once again, am listening to a Mel podcast like it is a message from the universe just for me. It’s uncanny how often this happens. Thanks again, Mel. ❤️
I'm in that moment.. Right now watering myself my goals my mental my mindset this is me at my happiest. This time last year I was literally drowning dying inside and when I started putting myself first asking myself the tough questions watching your podcast everyday focusing on my health everything changed. Thanks so much Mel for everything that you do you have no idea the influence that you had on my life for the better
I can't wait to get out of bed and high 5 myself before I jump into the shower! I'm going to teach my grand daughters this too.
Hi Mel ! I love that you are all in to Brigerton & Netflix. I needed to hear this today. Perfect timing. I am truly grateful for all you do.
OMG I've never wanted to get Netflix before now. What are you doing to us Mel 😅
Thank you ‼️‼️‼️🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷💓
Thank you Mel - this is timely. I needed this today. I want to focus on strengthening my body. I want to feel confident in my body, I want to feel body strong and able to do anything. Thank you!
Mel you are hilarious 😂
You are all in character and the tea!
You are funny!
Thank you for the laugh and you just lifted my frequency way up! YAY! ❤
love you Coach Mel💛
❤❤❤love you, Mel!!!! Thank you for everything you do !!!
Thank you for changing my life Mel with your value information in your podcasts ❤ you are a legend 🙏🏻
I feel like this is everything that I have been searching for from multiple books, websites, podcasts at al all summarized in one warm and genuine loving hour. Thank you Mel. Love you.
Inspirational & fun episode. Your energy is always fabulous ⭐️🦋
Loved that TV series! Fun costume!! Yes 🙌🏼 following your rockets 🚀 of desire! Well-BEING 🥰 requires you to move toward what makes you happy. Moving requires courage and confidence in putting what you want first. 🚀💫😊😃😌
It's really hard to have friends or acquaintances to do things with. All people want to do is sit on their sofas and watch Netflix.
At first I thought it was me but now I know it's social media and selfishness.
I've given up. I'm more comfortable and happier being alone as sad as that is. Luckily I like myself ! 😅
Holy cow. The more you explain this, the scarier it got. There's only one time a year where I can feel that my energy is being expanded, and that's at Comic Con. The rest of the time I'm just going through the motions, not feeling much of anything.
Dr. Romani is right spot on
Thanks Mel I needed this ❤️
Mel, before the episode even started I noticed what a great color and neckline that is on you. Thank you very much for the seven truths very much needed!!. God bless you sweetie.
Mel, you hit it out-of-the-park with this episode. I stood up for myself by saying yes to a new career opportunity. My current company is not happy, but it's not my problem!! For months and months, I've expressed my concerns. They have had plenty of time to address those concerns and they have dragged their feet. I should not - no, I WILL NOT - feel guilty in the least!
💜OHMYGOSH, I just got your email about Paris. It made me cry. THANK YOU MEL, for everything you do. xxx💜
Brilliant episode! Thank you Mel!!❤
YES!! Dr. Ramini!!! I love her too!
Thank you Mel.
Love you Mel! I have a 24 year old daughter and love my time I get with her. The joy of mother and sisterhood is wonderful ❤️
Btw. I give ALL my people on my bus a HIGH FIVE with a “you’ve got this”. I was doing this before you introduced it but now I implement it religiously since you published the science. I drive many sports teams. Middle and High school and college
This was brilliant Mel! 👏 Thank you for being so inspiring & helping us to remember we are all gems that shine! ❤
One of the best videos of you Mel!! So important to be authentic. Hard decisions lead to an easy life
By the way you rock in pink! Wear pink more often!😀
Confidence is key!! 🔑 😊
Right on time 👏🏼
You’re amazing! Thank you for everything you do to help others realize their potential and find their self worth. The “Let Them” and 5,4,3,2,1 rule has helped me so much. I’m now going to start the high 5 in the mirror. Love you, Mel! ❤
This video got me tearing. It’s amazing
Beautifully said Mel , your words of wisdom always have a way of brightening up my day and opening my eyes to new possibilities.. thank you! watching you from Zambia ..
“When you start putting yourself first you will start disappointing people” ❤
Thank you this came to me me and my husband moving and we have a young son my parents and his aren’t happy about it but we always feel happier traveling when we aren’t in our hometown
This is absolutely fantastic 👏🏿 Thank you Mel. ❤❤
Loved this episode, thanks Mel. I Needed to hear it!!!
You are amazing ❤
I just
love you,Mel!!!
I love your wig look! 😂 Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom and knowledge. I love listening to you. Thanks again!❤❤
This has been so helpful!! Thank you for such enlightening content!
This positive motivation to hear for myself brought me to tears and has helped me to bring myself centered again. ❤ Thank you so much Mel. Love you so much 💖💖💖💖💖
Thank you Mel for caring so much with your very informative and interestjng podcasts.
My English is not good .as much as l undrestood, l was in tears
It was amazing ❤
Mel YOU R THE BEST. I loved your amazing presentation today with the wig, the fan, the bows & your ‘sipping the tea’ & your enjoying the swallow. The best laugh I have had for a long time. So funny. Your great mention of the NetFlex series & OF COURSE all the great information you offer. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. U make so much sense so easy for people to encorporate into their life. YOU HIT THE MARK EVERY TIME. THANK YOU M.
You are the best always!
I will definitely start the high five method. This episode was great
Love this- just what I needed to hear this morning 💜 so many subtle ways that we don’t show up in authenticity. I’m up for the challenge of fully living in alignment with my truest self- I believe in my heart it will be worth it! Thank you 🙏
❤❤ I just read your email & it brought me to tears 🥰 family is everything & listening to your beautiful memories in paris with your daughters is priceless 🙏 thank you for inspiring me 🫶😊
It's like "Let Them Theory."
Hi Mel, i just wanna thank you so much. Your videos have helped a lot with my journey. It has helped open my eyes to different perspectives and new ways of being.
You have helped change and save my life.
I hope you're always blessed ✨
Thank you so much for being such an inspiration😍
It’s amazing episode! ❤ thanks Mel
Now one of my favourite episodes, and I have so many of them. But for this one, I have created a WEEKLY EVENT IN MY CALENDAR with a link to this episode, as many of the steps I definitely need to be working on.
Great video Mel 👏🏾
Brilliant..I needed this ❤🙏
Thank you Mel!! You killed it. 😂❤
I needed this one 🎉
I love you, Mel ❤
Thank you ❤
Love you Male, this episode, especially your energy is totally different from others one. You are wonderful ❤
Great video! Thank you ❤
😅🤣🤣🤣🤣 you're amazing Lady Mel !!! 💛🙌🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼😅🫀💥🙏🏼
This has helped me! Just remembered how special I am
My life is a "re-action to others including my Narcissist husband! I qant to take action to live MY life! No more re-actions!! Tell me how!
I'm sorry to say Narcissist never change and they want to destroy you and destabilize your emotions. 23 years trying harder to please someone who is never pleased. I pray you get away.
Thanks for the amazing content, I just like to say that you look fabulous in this color. Love it
Confidence is totally waiting for my mic drop#juststartDarlene
Look how adorable you look in that top!! Thank you for this. I love you!🎉
Oh my gosh, I did move cross country and some friends and family were disappointed 😭 but I had to do it for me!
I sooooo love u mel
want to ask your advice here, Mel. I am an international scholar in the UK and am now applying for academic jobs. I have a friend-7 years of friendship-who is two decades older than me, British, and has self-appointed as my mentor. She has been particularly helpful in checking my grammar when I applied for PhDs. Now, I have grown and am able to write well in English. However, she always points out that I should change my way of speaking, which makes me uncomfortable as nobody in my audience has complained about understanding me. What I should do to overcome this situation
Ty Mel love you 😂
Mel sometimes You're scaring me, You sound like my Mom before She died, I can't even say how many times She told me that I will not please people and I'm not living for someone's expectations or to live how someone wants me to live and I shouldn't be the person that someone wants me to be, that I supposed to be how I want to be, that sure sometimes me choosing me may or will hurt someone or I will let someone down but it will be worth it to achieve and be the person I supposed to be , the person that will make me happy and true, not person that someone wants to see me be or expects me to be
That's beautiful, your mum was really wise.
I hope you will follow her advice.
Big hugs to you.
@@Anna_Amoroso Thank You 😊
So beautiful! Thank you for sharing! I needed something like this today!!
May Allah bless you dear
@@Artful__creationss God Bless You my dear 😊 and hello from the Christiana girl from Poland 🇵🇱😊
helpful video
I love you so much
Fantastic insights on the power of authenticity and its impact on building true confidence! Embracing who you are not only liberates energy but also cultivates the courage needed to navigate life's challenges effectively. 👉
Yes I am silent only am careful the other people because they are likely...
All of this Life Force talk around May the Fourth be with you. Coincidence? I think not!
I LOVE MEL.!!!!! YOU'RE AWESOME!!! THANK YOU! LETSGOOOOOO. #RAZASHARPAPPAREL
Hi Mel, I’m a very devoted listener to your podcast. I just wanted to see what about if you’ve been married for like 52 years and you’ve married to the king of negativity.
Hey, Mel, I want to print the Make It Happen workbook by emailing it to a local printing company but there is no option to send it/save it, etc anywhere like I usually get with things like this. Do you have any suggestions?
I was so confused by your “shirt” in the intro 😂
Ahhhh! Spoiler alert - Mel, Why? For all of you who have not watched Bridgerton, Mel, you bad bad girl! You outed Penelope.
I love you MEL and NETFLIX. NETFLIX has been in our home since the 90's - we are original customers. NETFLIX has NEVER had any advertisements and NETFLIX is holding its ground to keep this as one of the BEST reason to have Netflix! Great programming and NO ADVERTISEMENTS.
All of them are for me, but #6 is the one for me. Let me be ME
You look great in that color 😊 11:12