I see this as a huge social disease. I've broken up with my addiction to my cell phone thank you to another podcast. Now I NEVER take my phone out in waiting rooms, in line ups, on red lights and when I crawl into bed. volume is on vibrate. when I'm in public. Ahhh the relief. 😊
Sometimes change comes about as a result of something ending. I was consumed with the business of working and wrapping up my career, the busy was all consuming. Retirement and time on my hands was a huge eye opener once the work life was done. I was exhausted physically and mentally, but didn’t know how to turn the busy drive off so turned that to organizing my home. I felt guilty with any down time such as naps, reading a book, watching a movie until my health suffered. I had to prioritize me and learn to enjoy the quiet, my body feels much better with sleep, exercise and just going slow about my life. It’s a process, can’t turn it off like a light switch. Great conversation in this episode.
Hey Caroline, I totally agree with! Even though you seem like a brilliant person who enjoys reading a lot. Do you have any book recommendation for me? :)
This really speaks with me. One point in my life I was working myself to the bone, to the point I was physically killing myself thinking I was helping my mom out. When I finally put up boundaries it was the hardest thing to do. I was stayed busy so I could forget things so i didn't have to forgive and learn to love myself. It was hard pill to swallow. i still find myself struggling sometimes with the ability to being able to relax even if i don't have everything done on my list.
Hello, Danielle. It’s a pleasure coming across your comment. I’d appreciate the opportunity if you could allow me introduce myself because from your comment I can tell that you’re a brilliant person. Out of curiosity, what’s your favorite outdoor activity?
I agree same here! I also make myself busy with the gym so that I can enjoy doing nothing other times. I think it’s all about balance so you don’t feel guilty for slouching around and also get that reward feeling in your brain once you’ve completed something! 😊
You are the captain of your ship. And this is a bit scary but also so much fun...sitting down and doing nothing is a tough thing. I listen daily to your videos while walking my dog (Susi, a wired hair dachshund with a big personality) and they help a lot in the situation I am at this point of time. And: You inspire me, ❤
As an ADHD woman, completing tasks or seeming busy validated me with adults when I was a kid and when I was daydreaming that was frowned upon, so I programmed myself to always be busy and wonder what was next and my fear of being bored was slowly killed and filled with busywork…… I then lost my creativity and new ideas and started to question why. I found in the freedom and silence of boredom, was the missing component I had lost through trying to fit in with society. I am now very proud of doing nothing and schedule it to allow myself to get into that zone and feel triggered less and less when someone goes “do you ever work and you have too much time on your hands”. People will notice, it’s a superpower many will never understand.
The quote that I live my life by is, “You can’t pour from an empty glass”. Of course, being the hypocrite that I am, I share this with my friends and family and lose the important aspect of the quote - to take care of myself. Thank you for reminding me to check myself first so that I can continue to be there for the ones I love (including MYSELF). Love you, Mel.
Proud to say I always stay off my phone in a line because a while back I noticed the discomfort of looking people in the eye, or simply standing in a room around other people and just observing the room around me. Instead of using my phone, the other day I was engaged in a conversation with a woman that asked about my rings, the other day in natural grocers. I live in a mountain town and notice dread when I have to go to the grocery store to socialize, because people recognize me and talk to me BUT that’s what I NEED, and I end up feeling warm and appreciative of it. Give yourself credit for the moments you aid yourself in REAL connection instead of digital distraction.
Hello! I am thrilled to have stumbled upon your incredible photographs and posts. Your profile has piqued my interest and I am excited to hear about your hobbies and interests. I’m curious, what do you do for fun?
Friends complain they're always so "busy" as if they're more important. It's a cop out not to make time for people who care about you. Learn to be still and live in the present. If you can't do that, what will you do when your children leave the nest, you retire, and you have nothing to hide behind? Pickleball??
This is brilliant! I see this around me with people I know but don’t know how to talk to them about it! I loove beeing just with me and nothing to do more than listening to my own thoughts! I am already there, but not the people around me! I am not at all that buizzy and I can take time for emptiness to see what thoughts will come. I wise woman in India said to me: If you sit down and wait, time will come to you! Most people feel like time is running away from them but the day you see that time will come if you just stop and sit down and listen! 🍁
This is SUCH a timely, relevant topic for me. I’m really struggling in this area, and you shared some gems today. Re-listening to this one. Thank you!!!
Thank you Mel ! This is the wake up call for me. After i listen to you i found myself arranging the merchandise in the store while I was waiting in the line. I need the greatest help !
I had to get divorced because my ex husband was a workaholic and addicted to busyness. It made me physically sick to try to keep up. I’m much happier living beyond the constant expectation of achievement and busyness. Thank you for this episode!
I think this is why most people who are financially secured won’t retire. They are scared to be bored and have nothing to keep them busy. I don’t won’t that for me. I’m thinking of something to keep me occupied but work when I feel like it
Thanks Mel it all makes so much sense I was brought up with a mother that only worried about herself a abusive step dad they never went to parents evening everything I made at school wad never paid for so I never got to give my baby brother a wouldn't walker with blocks I made in wood work that ment so much my mam used to threatened to leave us again if we didn't behave so she would go out clubbing say I mite not come back I wad about 10 the eldest of 5 because the mother figure and a young mum wad my worth and iv been off work with fibromialga for last 3 years but always trying to make things to sell and have to be busy all the time to prove I'm not la,y or lieing about being ill because my step dad would make me go school throwing up with horrendous migraines in the 80s schools didn't really get involved in why you had problems sadly so it makes so much sense to me that being busy is me proving my worth and not wanting to be alone with my thoughts I all so think I have adhd I'm 57 now and can't Offord to lay to get tested thanks Mel ❤
I call it productive squirreling. I'm always 10 steps ahead in my head and I squirrel from one thing to another.. but I get things done . I'm not avoiding anything..I'm not stressed about life . But I'm always tense .like something underlying. I'm having to take breaks and just breathe and drop my shoulders. I believe it's leftovers from an abusive relationship
Yes I’m not avoiding or traumatised! I’ve simply just got too much on my plate … so we jump from one thing to the next. So how do we manage the squirrelling as you say! Has this guy even got kids? (Sorry but I hate men telling woman how to be calm!)
Great conversation Mel, thank you! 'Bring the weather ' what a great line, that's something I will remember in future. I'm a retired ' busy person' so this was invaluable to me 👍
A really fun Zen or meditation twist on "don't just sit there, do something," is "don't just do something, sit there!!!" It's all about learning how to disappear into a peaceful psychic space.
MEL this was insaneeeee to process! I loved how deep it got and honestly I feel like he described me in a way I couldn’t even describe myself thank you so much for this!!!❤️
Hi there! I am thrilled to have stumbled upon your incredible photographs and posts. Your profile has piqued my interest and I am excited to hear about your hobbies and interests. I’m curious, what do you do for fun?
I really relate to this episode not necessarily for me but my husband. We have a special needs adult daughter. And it is my reality that I deal with the most of it while he works and has his down time. Which equates to me seeing him for one hour one on the week day and maybe 4 on the weekends. I feel like I have a room mate not a sole mate. I love him and he loves me. But he can’t deal with the accommodations my daughter needs. I really need an episode of dealing with and autistic adult child. And how to help the situation.
We heal by taking it one step at a time. Just pause, before going to the next step.... catch those thoughts when you feel you are not worthy, or you're feeling weird feeling less? When that competitive mom texts you how well their kid is doing, sit with it and let it pass instead of following the impulse to go make your kid go to the track and start practicing more (uh just an example ....lol) I'm a work in progress!
Thanks Mel for this video. It’s an eye opener when you said you go to the grocery store or mall even though you don’t need to buy anything. I do the same just to get away.
So funny you put up this video 8 hours ago. I was just talking to my partner about how I have anxiety because of how busy my week is. 😅 I wake up full of anxiety and I feel so much pressure. I just make a list in the morning of what needs to be done today and I tell myself to not worry about tomorrow and just focus on the day. I also tell myself to not take it too seriously and to have some fun.
Standing like you said I will move as I have spinal stenosis so 10 minuets in line will be painful in my back! I can sit a 10 hour flight with one book, reading from time to time but then just sit no phone, no movies or anything!
I am busy. Always busy. Always working tidying rushing organising cooking cleaning etc BUT broke my shoulder so have no choice but to rest & heal. And dya know what those chores get done when they get done. Routine is off. My home is not as organised but hey ho this may be a lesson for me to slow down 😮
Life is nothing more than a constant race-chasing one goal after another, celebrating achievements, and mourning failures. We cry over what we lose and grieve for the people who leave us forever. We love money, yearning for a better life, but in the process, we endure pain and, sometimes, inflict it on others. What is all this? Why do we swing between being positive and negative, caught in a cycle of hope and despair?
What about sleeping? I sleep when I’m overwhelmed, bored, when I should be busy… I use sleep to avoid things. I know it needs to stop, but I keep doing it ☹️
ı almost never comment but i am shocked how this feeling that ı have to be busy all the time is a problem in my life and ı ve never even realized it is a problem..
Lol Mel I’m laughing at I’ve got the big gulp of black coffee. Great for the anxiety lol!!! That was definitely me in the throes of post partum anxiety
not me listening to this as i am working from home, taking a break, walking on my walking pad, wearing my red light mask and toggling back and forth between making a tiktok. wow this is ME.
I guess everyone in our new era is guilty of this. We were taught,told and practiced that’s the best way to cope with the hurting of the past.. I strongly believe society must reassess this growing situation but then how could people face challenges they’re avoiding if they can’t afford certain practices. That’s the question😇
I call it “think time” i don’t like it, yes i have am a super worrier and quiet time makes me even more hyper. I compare working in a tole booth, i would absolutely go crazy, i a 69, and still go go go, , My mind goes to not good places if i let stillness in. i do some deep breathing but i have to train myself to be as i go down rabbit holes if i have think time. Yes i do have work to do. My husband is much more calm much more level headed and he is my calm to my storm. Love your podcasts.
This is me mel. Addiction to nicotine cannabis opiates I'm so stressed Then I'm enabelling everyone to walk all over me Borrow this take that used and abused and I just said no And I'm terrified
my mom said i had a toy broom, dustpan, and would empty ashtrays at 4 years old. 😂 she thought it was cute . i think thats kinda scary, lol but i think i take after my german grandmother. she was a workhorse.
Some Chinese bloggers have translated your videos and moved them on Chinese websites and asked to pay to watch them. I would like to ask if you have authorized it. If not, I think it is wrong for them to do this.
Hey there. Thanks for bringing this to my attention. I have not authorized or approved such use of my content. I appreciate you looking out for me and for all your support.
i'm supposed to be busy doing many of my hobbies that I enjoy but I just couldn't make my body move because i'm always so tired from work and the environment in it..... i wanna rest yet I wanna do something and I ended up doom scrolling
Noo not everyone is raised like that! I was not and not my children! My kids knew that doing or not doing has nothing to do with their value as a human beeing as a loved member in our family! Loved for who they are not what they do! They were just as loved what ever happened or if nothing happened! Even my students in school knew that I liked them whatever, but perhaps not liked what they did! So for them they could keep their value as a human.
The doing has to flow from the being. We don't know how to be because we have never learnt how to love ourselves and we find it hard to love ourselves because we do not understand the unconditional love of God. The greatest evil in this world is that mankind is blinded to the unconditional love of God. The internal work is simple and beautiful just receiving the unconditional love of God. We have to give up the idea of striving and learn to receive.
Ok that’s not true what he is saying. I’m a good and solid giving person which I dont want to change. Yes I relate to much of what you say. I yes did send this to a dear friend of mine but only because we are both much like some of this video. I am taking it all in but when I find things that resonate with me I like to share with others who I know will benefit. That has nothing to do with what he just said. No! Also I was married to phsychologist and he became one because of his childhood. Sounds like this doctor was in need of help also and is now focused on others. That doesn’t compute to what he is advising with regards to we people helping others with this video.
I see this as a huge social disease. I've broken up with my addiction to my cell phone thank you to another podcast. Now I NEVER take my phone out in waiting rooms, in line ups, on red lights and when I crawl into bed. volume is on vibrate. when I'm in public. Ahhh the relief. 😊
Can you post the link of the podcast?
Very nice!!
🎉 Proud of you - my goal
Shaaare with us, what's the podcast??🎉❤
Podcast reveal please
Comfort in discomfort. It's a horrible place to be. Endless suffering through one's own choices. A real addiction to suffering and joyless striving.
"You bring the weather." Pure genius, Mel Robbins. Thank you.
Sometimes change comes about as a result of something ending. I was consumed with the business of working and wrapping up my career, the busy was all consuming. Retirement and time on my hands was a huge eye opener once the work life was done. I was exhausted physically and mentally, but didn’t know how to turn the busy drive off so turned that to organizing my home. I felt guilty with any down time such as naps, reading a book, watching a movie until my health suffered. I had to prioritize me and learn to enjoy the quiet, my body feels much better with sleep, exercise and just going slow about my life. It’s a process, can’t turn it off like a light switch. Great conversation in this episode.
We are responsible for our own lives. Knowing that is liberating 🎉
Hey Caroline, I totally agree with! Even though you seem like a brilliant person who enjoys reading a lot. Do you have any book recommendation for me? :)
I really appreciate what you're putting out into the world. I am finding so much more peace in life because of it.
This really speaks with me. One point in my life I was working myself to the bone, to the point I was physically killing myself thinking I was helping my mom out. When I finally put up boundaries it was the hardest thing to do. I was stayed busy so I could forget things so i didn't have to forgive and learn to love myself. It was hard pill to swallow. i still find myself struggling sometimes with the ability to being able to relax even if i don't have everything done on my list.
Hello, Danielle. It’s a pleasure coming across your comment. I’d appreciate the opportunity if you could allow me introduce myself because from your comment I can tell that you’re a brilliant person. Out of curiosity, what’s your favorite outdoor activity?
Staying busy keeps the mind occupied! An idle mind can make you have negative thoughts! Thanks Mel for this episode…great information ❤
I like to be busy some times, so that I can be relaxed at other times. (such as meal prep on Sundays so that I don't have to cook during the week)
I agree same here! I also make myself busy with the gym so that I can enjoy doing nothing other times. I think it’s all about balance so you don’t feel guilty for slouching around and also get that reward feeling in your brain once you’ve completed something! 😊
You are the captain of your ship. And this is a bit scary but also so much fun...sitting down and doing nothing is a tough thing.
I listen daily to your videos while walking my dog (Susi, a wired hair dachshund with a big personality) and they help a lot in the situation I am at this point of time.
And: You inspire me, ❤
Mel. You have me crying on my break at work lol. I wasnt even expecting it. This was such a good video
This video was SO HELPFUL! Thank you for being so brave and deciding to make podcasts. Your podcasts and interviews have really helped many
I'm SO happy to hear this, Angie!! Thank you for all of your support ♥
As an ADHD woman, completing tasks or seeming busy validated me with adults when I was a kid and when I was daydreaming that was frowned upon, so I programmed myself to always be busy and wonder what was next and my fear of being bored was slowly killed and filled with busywork…… I then lost my creativity and new ideas and started to question why. I found in the freedom and silence of boredom, was the missing component I had lost through trying to fit in with society. I am now very proud of doing nothing and schedule it to allow myself to get into that zone and feel triggered less and less when someone goes “do you ever work and you have too much time on your hands”. People will notice, it’s a superpower many will never understand.
❤🎉❤
The quote that I live my life by is, “You can’t pour from an empty glass”. Of course, being the hypocrite that I am, I share this with my friends and family and lose the important aspect of the quote - to take care of myself. Thank you for reminding me to check myself first so that I can continue to be there for the ones I love (including MYSELF). Love you, Mel.
Proud to say I always stay off my phone in a line because a while back I noticed the discomfort of looking people in the eye, or simply standing in a room around other people and just observing the room around me. Instead of using my phone, the other day I was engaged in a conversation with a woman that asked about my rings, the other day in natural grocers. I live in a mountain town and notice dread when I have to go to the grocery store to socialize, because people recognize me and talk to me BUT that’s what I NEED, and I end up feeling warm and appreciative of it. Give yourself credit for the moments you aid yourself in REAL connection instead of digital distraction.
Hello! I am thrilled to have stumbled upon your incredible photographs and posts. Your profile has piqued my interest and I am excited to hear about your hobbies and interests. I’m curious, what do you do for fun?
Friends complain they're always so "busy" as if they're more important. It's a cop out not to make time for people who care about you. Learn to be still and live in the present. If you can't do that, what will you do when your children leave the nest, you retire, and you have nothing to hide behind? Pickleball??
I recently framed our busyness as a form of "hiding out". Obviously, I "liked" your observation. 😂
This is brilliant! I see this around me with people I know but don’t know how to talk to them about it! I loove beeing just with me and nothing to do more than listening to my own thoughts! I am already there, but not the people around me! I am not at all that buizzy and I can take time for emptiness to see what thoughts will come. I wise woman in India said to me: If you sit down and wait, time will come to you! Most people feel like time is running away from them but the day you see that time will come if you just stop and sit down and listen! 🍁
Busyness gives you significance.
The ability to sit and do nothing is HARD… never a truer word said.
This is SUCH a timely, relevant topic for me. I’m really struggling in this area, and you shared some gems today. Re-listening to this one. Thank you!!!
Thank you Mel !
This is the wake up call for me. After i listen to you i found myself arranging the merchandise in the store while I was waiting in the line. I need the greatest help !
I can totally relate to you Mel! It's so hard for me to just sit & relax for more than 30 seconds
Thank you! so much, I love you and Dr L for the first time I feel so good without taking the stuff.
I had to get divorced because my ex husband was a workaholic and addicted to busyness. It made me physically sick to try to keep up. I’m much happier living beyond the constant expectation of achievement and busyness. Thank you for this episode!
Mel wow !! Just when I think your this the best episode. You nailed it again!! Ty for taking us on this journey!!!
I think this is why most people who are financially secured won’t retire. They are scared to be bored and have nothing to keep them busy. I don’t won’t that for me. I’m thinking of something to keep me occupied but work when I feel like it
Bingo! You hit the nail on the head with this. Proud of you for knowing what you want!
If I could subscribe and like infinity times to this podcast, I would do that, Mel. I love your work to that extent, you can say:)
The self worth hit home! The underlying issue to always being busy damn… good topic Mel thank you!
Thanks Mel it all makes so much sense I was brought up with a mother that only worried about herself a abusive step dad they never went to parents evening everything I made at school wad never paid for so I never got to give my baby brother a wouldn't walker with blocks I made in wood work that ment so much my mam used to threatened to leave us again if we didn't behave so she would go out clubbing say I mite not come back I wad about 10 the eldest of 5 because the mother figure and a young mum wad my worth and iv been off work with fibromialga for last 3 years but always trying to make things to sell and have to be busy all the time to prove I'm not la,y or lieing about being ill because my step dad would make me go school throwing up with horrendous migraines in the 80s schools didn't really get involved in why you had problems sadly so it makes so much sense to me that being busy is me proving my worth and not wanting to be alone with my thoughts I all so think I have adhd I'm 57 now and can't Offord to lay to get tested thanks Mel ❤
Thank You So Much! This popped up to my feed when I was contemplating my “busyness” ❤
I call it productive squirreling. I'm always 10 steps ahead in my head and I squirrel from one thing to another.. but I get things done . I'm not avoiding anything..I'm not stressed about life . But I'm always tense .like something underlying. I'm having to take breaks and just breathe and drop my shoulders. I believe it's leftovers from an abusive relationship
Yes I’m not avoiding or traumatised! I’ve simply just got too much on my plate … so we jump from one thing to the next. So how do we manage the squirrelling as you say! Has this guy even got kids? (Sorry but I hate men telling woman how to be calm!)
Can I just say thank you...I am so bad with this....I even scroll in the bathroom....how sad is that. Will start to disconnect 💖
"Set fire to the village" puts a lot in perspective. I actually started laughing to myself. A lot of switches went off.
Great conversation Mel, thank you! 'Bring the weather ' what a great line, that's something I will remember in future. I'm a retired ' busy person' so this was invaluable to me 👍
Definitely, just being is difficult.
Thanks, Mel! Really needed this one. 😊
I just adore you, Mel! Thank you so much for this episode ❤❤❤
A really fun Zen or meditation twist on "don't just sit there, do something," is "don't just do something, sit there!!!"
It's all about learning how to disappear into a peaceful psychic space.
MRS MEL YOU ARE REALLY HELPING TO FIND A WAY IN HELPING MYSELF I LOVE YOU ❤❤❤!!!,I'M ALMOST IN TEARS THANK YOU SO MUCH ❤❤❤
MEL this was insaneeeee to process! I loved how deep it got and honestly I feel like he described me in a way I couldn’t even describe myself thank you so much for this!!!❤️
I have the answer. I’m very busy but I don’t feel like this.
Great video for many thank you.
One of the best podcast that resignated with me.
Hi there! I am thrilled to have stumbled upon your incredible photographs and posts. Your profile has piqued my interest and I am excited to hear about your hobbies and interests. I’m curious, what do you do for fun?
I really relate to this episode not necessarily for me but my husband. We have a special needs adult daughter. And it is my reality that I deal with the most of it while he works and has his down time. Which equates to me seeing him for one hour one on the week day and maybe 4 on the weekends. I feel like I have a room mate not a sole mate. I love him and he loves me. But he can’t deal with the accommodations my daughter needs. I really need an episode of dealing with and autistic adult child. And how to help the situation.
So informative! I’m often thinking ooh this will help so and so; great to learn I need to SIT WITH ME and enjoy the WATER!! ❤
We heal by taking it one step at a time. Just pause, before going to the next step.... catch those thoughts when you feel you are not worthy, or you're feeling weird feeling less? When that competitive mom texts you how well their kid is doing, sit with it and let it pass instead of following the impulse to go make your kid go to the track and start practicing more (uh just an example ....lol) I'm a work in progress!
Thank you Mel again. This is something really a big eye opening thing, a turning point in my life. Just Wow ❤️
Wow, mind blowing. I will sit with this for days.
Thanks Mel for this video. It’s an eye opener when you said you go to the grocery store or mall even though you don’t need to buy anything. I do the same just to get away.
Thanks for all your research and your honesty. It always helps! I also listen to you in my busy morning while I'm busy, busy busy 😂
So funny you put up this video 8 hours ago. I was just talking to my partner about how I have anxiety because of how busy my week is. 😅 I wake up full of anxiety and I feel so much pressure. I just make a list in the morning of what needs to be done today and I tell myself to not worry about tomorrow and just focus on the day. I also tell myself to not take it too seriously and to have some fun.
This segment blew my mind, wow! Great one....
Thanks so much for this one Mel!!
Thank you Mel, you have made me understand myself soo much to a point I'm feeling sleepy listening
Thank you Mel! This felt like you spoke about me! This hit home hard! Thank you 🙏 💜
I just love your talks because you are so honest and open about life ❤🙏🙏
Rest is good. Denying the cost of things, which is why we all work, is the problem.
Thanks Mel ❤ This one really hit home at the exact time I needed this knowledge.
I'm so glad this resonated with you, Heather xo
Standing like you said I will move as I have spinal stenosis so 10 minuets in line will be painful in my back! I can sit a 10 hour flight with one book, reading from time to time but then just sit no phone, no movies or anything!
I am busy. Always busy. Always working tidying rushing organising cooking cleaning etc BUT broke my shoulder so have no choice but to rest & heal. And dya know what those chores get done when they get done. Routine is off. My home is not as organised but hey ho this may be a lesson for me to slow down 😮
Life is nothing more than a constant race-chasing one goal after another, celebrating achievements, and mourning failures. We cry over what we lose and grieve for the people who leave us forever. We love money, yearning for a better life, but in the process, we endure pain and, sometimes, inflict it on others. What is all this? Why do we swing between being positive and negative, caught in a cycle of hope and despair?
Awwwww, nice to hear a shout out to Al (Bandura) 😊
My addiction is addiction to information gathering but perhaps that’s rooted in the addiction to busyness? 🤔
17 mins into podcast n im like 😮. Thsnk u Mel Robbins
I had no idea there is a Let Them Theory book. 📕 I just preordered it on audible.💙💙💙💙
Iv said over and over but I so love your honesty Mel your real !!!! 😅thee best 😊
I think I have the opposite struggle, I allow myself a lot of breaks, and I feel guilty
Did he just hit it on the nail?!!! OMG!
What about sleeping? I sleep when I’m overwhelmed, bored, when I should be busy… I use sleep to avoid things. I know it needs to stop, but I keep doing it ☹️
❤ This have me so much to work on.
I find it hard to stay still...always up and distracting myself with things...always busy.
ı almost never comment but i am shocked how this feeling that ı have to be busy all the time is a problem in my life and ı ve never even realized it is a problem..
You are not alone, my friend. I'm proud of you for noticing it and I'm rooting for you ♥
Love you Mel but whats up with all the commercials?
And that was then and this is now. ❤
Lol
Mel
I’m laughing at I’ve got the big gulp of black coffee. Great for the anxiety lol!!!
That was definitely me in the throes of post partum anxiety
not me listening to this as i am working from home, taking a break, walking on my walking pad, wearing my red light mask and toggling back and forth between making a tiktok. wow this is ME.
😂
I guess everyone in our new era is guilty of this. We were taught,told and practiced that’s the best way to cope with the hurting of the past..
I strongly believe society must reassess this growing situation but then how could people face challenges they’re avoiding if they can’t afford certain practices. That’s the question😇
Mel, what if you ask for help and are constantly being rejected?
Very interesting!
I call it “think time” i don’t like it, yes i have am a super worrier and quiet time makes me even more hyper. I compare working in a tole booth, i would absolutely go crazy, i a 69, and still go go go, , My mind goes to not good places if i let stillness in. i do some deep breathing but i have to train myself to be as i go down rabbit holes if i have think time. Yes i do have work to do. My husband is much more calm much more level headed and he is my calm to my storm. Love your podcasts.
I never had a problem with just being quiet until the advent of mobile phones. I think its more of a mobile phone desease.
I find I keep myself busy as a distraction. Perhaps it’s underlying issues that need to be communicated?
This is me mel.
Addiction to nicotine cannabis opiates
I'm so stressed
Then I'm enabelling everyone to walk all over me
Borrow this take that used and abused and I just said no
And I'm terrified
@@sallyredgrave1036 you’ve got this. Seeing the difference between where you are and where you WANT to be is the first clear step. Xx
my mom said i had a toy broom, dustpan, and would empty ashtrays at 4 years old. 😂 she thought it was cute . i think thats kinda scary, lol but i think i take after my german grandmother. she was a workhorse.
Some Chinese bloggers have translated your videos and moved them on Chinese websites and asked to pay to watch them. I would like to ask if you have authorized it. If not, I think it is wrong for them to do this.
Hey there. Thanks for bringing this to my attention. I have not authorized or approved such use of my content. I appreciate you looking out for me and for all your support.
So how do I get off the world long enough to deal with what's inside?
Sitting here wondering where Mel's nice jeans 👖 came from.
Me too! Lol
I’ve listen to the first few seconds and my initial response is how can a man possibly know …
Where is the research basis of this?
i'm supposed to be busy doing many of my hobbies that I enjoy but I just couldn't make my body move because i'm always so tired from work and the environment in it.....
i wanna rest yet I wanna do something and I ended up doom scrolling
Profound revealing..😮
Noo not everyone is raised like that! I was not and not my children! My kids knew that doing or not doing has nothing to do with their value as a human beeing as a loved member in our family! Loved for who they are not what they do! They were just as loved what ever happened or if nothing happened! Even my students in school knew that I liked them whatever, but perhaps not liked what they did! So for them they could keep their value as a human.
Too many ads to make this watchable!
The doing has to flow from the being. We don't know how to be because we have never learnt how to love ourselves and we find it hard to love ourselves because we do not understand the unconditional love of God. The greatest evil in this world is that mankind is blinded to the unconditional love of God. The internal work is simple and beautiful just receiving the unconditional love of God. We have to give up the idea of striving and learn to receive.
so related! 2:40
Yep that's me😢
Motivation
Idle hands is in enemies workshop. I think everything has got to be done in balance. Jesus spoke the importance of rest. ❤
What is the doctors full name ?
I love me and I l9ve you xx❤
I really wanna be here too before it's over 😕
Ok that’s not true what he is saying. I’m a good and solid giving person which I dont want to change. Yes I relate to much of what you say. I yes did send this to a dear friend of mine but only because we are both much like some of this video. I am taking it all in but when I find things that resonate with me I like to share with others who I know will benefit. That has nothing to do with what he just said. No!
Also I was married to phsychologist and he became one because of his childhood. Sounds like this doctor was in need of help also and is now focused on others. That doesn’t compute to what he is advising with regards to we people helping others with this video.