Jake Johnson's Message to Absent Fathers
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- Опубліковано 15 жов 2019
- Jake Johnson's father wasn't around much during his childhood due to substance abuse, and even after his dad got his act together Jake had a hard time letting him back into his life, but through persistence and humility a lot of brokenness can be mended.
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Man, Jake Johnson is easily one of the best guests I've ever seen on this show.
He's great on podcasts. His interview on Armchair Expert is also great.
@@musicfan1427 ooh, i like that podcast, but i've never heard that episode. I'll have to check it out. Thanks!
If you like this interview, you will LOVE the Jake Johnson interview on the podcast Armchair Expert (the interviewer is Dax Shepard).
off camera with dax shepard is great too
I feel like I just watched a movie about Jake Johnson's life. He's so open about everything and explains himself so well.
Charlie Cruz If you like this interview, you will LOVE the Jake Johnson interview on the podcast Armchair Expert (the interviewer is Dax Shepard).
Well said. You put into words what I was feeling but couldn't quite find the words.
feels like Im watching Nick talk to Schmidt
Not everyone *gets* the apology. Sometimes dads just leave and refuse to admit they've done anything wrong by abandoning you.
And some parents stay and might as well be gone, or do more damage by staying. And pulling the lens back from our individual costs, some of this comes from the insane weight we put on ourselves and each other as men (the same weight our dads carried, well or poorly), the standard that is unhealthy when it's even achievable. We are of course deeply affected by our relationships with our dads, but we are not wholly defined by them. We are capable, if we have a reasonable amount of space and safety, of forming healthy and healing relationships with any gender and any kind of person. Easy to say, hard work to accomplish at times. Peace and love to you and yours.
Sometimes hey also didnt do anything wrong and their mother pits his kids against him, and the kids and the mother act like huge dickheads
I agree I grew up without my parents for first 18 year's of my life lived with my grandmother because they can't stand each other now I'm adjusting with them it's hard to forgive but I think forgiving is easy it can really take the chip of our shoulder.
thats what my ex did. he hasn't seen his kids in years. he just up and started a new family. we live 6 miles apart. My kids are happier now. Before he was always canceling and hung over. Not sure how his new wife handles it, cause he's still an addict.
Thanks dad
This is some GREAT Interviewing. Showing the humanity of celebrities
There is no show or podcast today that breaks down celebrities' barriers and shows their real selves like this show does. Thanks, Sam Jones.
@B L Not that anybody is making comparisons, but the biggest difference between this show and something like Barbara Walters is that Sam actually wants to hear the PERSON share their story, whereas Walters and her kind are just looking to extract the most drama and emotional vulnerability out of their guests. Sam shows good intentions; people like Walters do not.
I truly believe that this is our generation's "Inside The Actors Studio". Sam is so unbelievably good.
djfunkgut If you like this interview, you will LOVE the Jake Johnson interview on the podcast Armchair Expert (the interviewer is Dax Shepard). I feel like his interviews also show the humanity of celebrities.
Yyyeeesssss 🙌🏼
What I noticed: He said he was mid-30’s before he cut his dad a break, before he felt like his dad had earned the title Dad. That’s about 18 years after his dad went into rehab, about a childhood’s worth of effort on his dad’s part, before Jake felt like having a father/son relationship with him.
So, however many years you miss, that’s at least the number of years you need to be consistent... As a rough estimate. Energetically, it was like they hit that threshold of: I’ve received what I’d missed, so now we can continue forward.
Energetically? Lol
dude this guy should write a book
He should write a zombie novel....., with a word search included
And have it called The Pepperwood Chronicles.
Ben, Dan
Excellent
My dad left before I was born. That alone taught me to be there for my kids. I knew before I had kids, that I would never abandon them.
You have to not coddle them their entire lives, though.
Same.
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Don't abandon your kids doesn't mean your only other option is "coddling them" lmao!
Sometimes both parents are physically there, but not emotionally or mentally there, which is also painful. Because my parents were somewhat absent and did their own thing all the time, my lesson was to make sure I was fully present for my kids, and I made sure that my husband realized this too. For this reason I don't even have IG or FB. I reserve my eye contact and attention for my family, the less screens the better, atleast for me anyway!
Yeah just cause you have two parents that are there, doesnt mean they are "there". Like with my father, he was 37 when I was born and I assume going through some midlife crisis. He wanted the freedom of some single bachelor and was never around and I didn't really see him despite living in the same house. He'd be gone in the morning and back in the evenings or at night. This went on for years until he got older and by then It was too late cause there wasn't a bond. I was left with a mother who was emotionally unavailable and highly neurotic who use to say horrible stuff about my father all the time. See.. You can have both parents and still end up messed up.
Jake's story made me cry. He is so open and honest about such a personal thing.
This could be a film. Very touching and inspiring story.
Tanya M If you like this interview, you will LOVE the Jake Johnson interview on the podcast Armchair Expert (the interviewer is Dax Shepard).
@@MaricelaArce yes, I read about it in Jake's instagram. Do you have a link?
I feel like a lot of his story ended up being the inspiration for his character Nick Miller and the family of that character in New Girl
My father attributed his reconnection with my sister and I to watching this interview, and I couldn't be more grateful. He was persistent, didn't give up and eventually regained our trust (after we didn't make it easy), and we eventually had the parent relationship I always craved. He passed away last year unexpectedly and as awful as the grief is, I got to know and love him so fully for 3 years and I wouldn't change it. If anything I wish he found this sooner. Thank you for this video.
Thank you for your openness and sharing a piece of your story. It means so much to me.
"You've earned it, you're my Dad!" one day I'll be saying this to someone.
My mother was an addict and I was very unforgiving toward her when she got clean. She took and took and took the punishments I gave her and I can tell you that what Jake is saying here is totally true. She stuck it out and now, while our relationship may not be perfect, it’s far from broken.
I gave my stepdad a second chance after I got out of the Army. I still had a lot of anger toward him and it was really tough to do, but I learned a lot about change and forgiveness in doing so.
This put into words everything I wanted my dad to understand without ever knowing how.
Me too. My dad recently passed and I wish we could’ve had a conversation like this.
It's so cool to see guys actually talk
Blue Treble If you like this interview, you will LOVE the Jake Johnson interview on the podcast Armchair Expert (the interviewer is Dax Shepard).
Yes, because men never talk, least of all to each other???????? Dafuq???
The reason why women think we don't talk about shit, is because we only exclusively talk about it with other men. Too much judgement from women, its just not worth it
I'm a single dad and the situation is complicated, but I know that if I keep showing up and letting them feel just how much I love them, then when they're older theyll already know my flaws and my strengths, and there wont be any need for redemption, theyll accept me for being less than what they deserve, but more than willing to keep trying no matter what. It's the trying that really matters.
Continue to show up and put forth effort towards being the best dad you can be. No parent is perfect, but children don't need perfect. They just need you.
Nobody borns knowing how to be a parent and nobody's perfect either. Just be there for them, listen to them and have fun with them, make sure they know how important they are to you and how you love them. And I'm not talking about economic wise because you can be broke and still take them to the park and have a great time.
The last time I talked with my father I think it was like six years ago. And the one thing that comes to my mind from when I was a kid is that he never was there for me and to this day I am not even sure if he loved me or appreciate me.
Good luck! Hope everything turns out well.
I’ve found that 90% of parenting is just showing up. The rest kinda works itself out.
Keep on pushing, man. Never give up on yours.
I’ll adore my parents forever for breaking the cycle of absent/abusive parents. No idea what I’d do without them.
As a divorced kid, who had dad issues, this advice is 100000000%, spot on right.
Hurt people, hurt people and this was the case. I’m glad they were able to get to the other side of that hurt.
My dad isn't in my life (and I don't want him to be), but this was still super heart-warming for me. ❤️❤️
god damn it, I loved every second of this heartfelt conversation.
If you like this interview, you will LOVE the Jake Johnson interview on the podcast Armchair Expert (the interviewer is Dax Shepard).
bro chill with God's name
Big fan of the show and the format. Genuinely believe this is the best interview you've done. Above all else, Jake Johnson comes across as a great guy.
Wow, I love this interview. The fact that his Father remained consistent in order to repair the damage brought on by his absence! This is beautiful. It’s also another reminder of how fortunate I am to have had my Father take an active role in my life. Even after he and my mother split they continued to co-parent: in fact my mother refused to bad mouth him in front of me. She also did not allow me to disrespect him; in any way, shape, or form. I was angry and took him to task more than a few times. Yet, like Jake’s Father, mine remained consistent. My Father and I grew closer as I grew up. Only then did I come to a better understanding of the effects of a broken marriage on ALL parties involved. My Father died suddenly and without warning. I miss him terribly. This interview was a needed reminder of just how loved I was and how lucky I am to have been my daddy‘s little girl. If permissible - Never give up on growing close to those you love. Take HEALTHY steps in that direction. It’s been my experience that most relationships are, in fact, repairable... given the right amount and type of effort.
S. D. Beautiful.
Beautifully stated. I’m glad you had a positive experience with your father. And I’m sorry for your pain now that he’s gone. I’m a divorced dad and I said from the beginning of the breakup that if my kids knew one thing in life, it would be that they are loved beyond imagining for being just who they are. Thanks again for sharing your story.
@Scott Wallace, you just made my heart smile. ☺️ Thank you!
dude i wish my mom wouldn't talk shit about my dad after they split. especially as a man... my whole life the message was sent to me that men were useless. i had to ask her recently to stop. respect to your mom.
I think for me, my father dying hurt more than his living because I knew this was never going to happen. I thought I had washed my hands of him. I thought I couldn't hate him more. Until he died, I didn't realize I had always held out hope that he'd change, that one day he'd say he realized he was wrong, that he was sorry, that he did love me...and that hope died when he did. And then I realized, that you can only hate a person so much, if you loved them.
I am so sorry. I am going through the exact same thing, thank you for putting it into words for me.
wow, spot on. and I had the same scenario. still healing 6 yrs after his sudden and tragic death.
Ive given up they are still alive.. But its like my body cant do it any more
I’m feeling this right now. It’s a rough fucking spot to be in and it’s hard as hell for people who don’t get it to understand, so ive stopped trying to explain it. I get you 100% and I hope it gets easier soon
Yep, this is what I experienced with my mother. Since she passed I've had to reconcile the fact that there's no longer a (false hope) of a happier ending
Massive respect for Jake's Dad. For recognising there was a problem, wanting to see change and then accessing the help. All you need after that is a soul breaking perseverance of humility. The last thing my father asked me to do was help him commit mortgage fraud. On his last full day of life, he was still setting us up for failure. He knew there was a problem, but never wanted to see change. For change was an admission of guilt.
He would leave us whenever his fantasy of success couldn't be maintained with lies and fear, he always came back when that fear began to slip and the lies needed reinforcing. My mother wouldn't divorce him, that he would ever find happiness outside the marriage was too much too bear, so we were used as emotional blackmail to prolong his and all our agony.
It's a too common story, so thank you Jake Johnson for showing something different.
Grew up with a single mom, 3 kids. She's a total boss. She also never encouraged us to hate him. Humans make mistakes, but also, we never wanted anything. she did her best and we knew it. We never felt like we missed out or that there was a hole in our lives. Good luck to him in his life or if he's still alive, who knows. But My mother, that women is so strong, brave and hardworking. I just hope she's proud of her kids.
❤
Jake seems like such a genuine dude ugh I love him
Jenna Akemi If you like this interview, you will LOVE the Jake Johnson interview on the podcast Armchair Expert (the interviewer is Dax Shepard).
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And some dads are refused access to their children by a vindictive mother who wants to use the children as a weapon.
e13kid That is the case, but not all the time. I’d say not even half the time.
e13kid The court system is there for a reason. Not saying it’s easy but people who really want to see their kids go to court.
If they get clean and want a second chance (as long as they did not violently attack the mother and child), then they deserve redemption.
Nic82 - It's getting better in recent years but for a long time the family court system has been a joke for men. Fathers have had zero rights in seeing their children. Especially if the mother made a false allegation against him.
All I ever wanted was my Dad to attempt to pretend like he cared and wanted me and my siblings...he just never did.
This is very easy to relate to. Thank you for sharing.
@You Tube True, I guess all of my older siblings knew him and called him that so in just did too
You Tube. it can be really hard to do that I know I want to call mine by his name but it’s kind of like the biggest step you can take in showing them that you are effected and for me at least solidifies everything.
You Tube but my sister calls her sons father sperm donor and it’s really funny. (Also so her son doesn’t know who she is talking about as he misses him)
i can never tell whether my dad tried to care or made it seem so we can give him attention,etc. Pretend isn't good, its a fucking facade. Its either genuine or not. My dad now has serious illness due to his addiction. He never tried to be a better father despite him saying he cares about us.
And he had every right to express the anger of not having his father, in that way. He was a child and his father had a lot to make up for. These men half ass come back into their kids' lives and expect immediate open arms then give up when they don't get it. You gotta earn that. You have to repair the damage caused because that child didn't create it. You did. Kudos to them both for the beautiful realizations and growth.
kay cee Thank you. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Loved this and love Jake Johnson. Man, I wish that progress could happen with my dad. He’s legit a narcissist and a sociopath (I wish I was dramatizing that), so every interaction with him has been debilitating, unfortunately.
And then he gaslights me and my sister every time he does talk to us (which is never - I’m talking once a year if we’re lucky). It really sucks.
I'm so sorry you've had to go through this. There's an old saying that goes something like, "You need a license to drive, a license to fish, and a license to buy a gun. But anybody can become a parent." Narcissism and sociopathy are unfortunately some of the qualities that are really hard to combat. But what you should know is that as unfortunate as it is, none of this is about you. If you've ever felt rejected in your life, it isn't because of who you are or anything you did. It's simply a reflection of them. I'm sure you're an incredible person in many ways, Geneva, and whoever walked away from you is really missing out.
That's really relatable
Parenting is an art, an honor, and a privilege. My Dad never took it seriously, always wrapped up in his addictions and working for more fancy items. Last thing I can remember him saying is "you children are my burdens". Now I spend my time caring for animals and working on gardens. You don't need a lot in life, just put a lot of care in that which you do have. Family, Health, and Good Friends.
I'm sorry to hear you're going through that with your dad. I hope things get better.
Geneva as a divorced Father, I struggle and try to see my children as often as possible. I’ve spent many many nights alone after planning to see them, only to be told no at the last minute by their Mother. I refuse to say anything bad to the children about their Mother. I do hope one day they realize that I never gave up. I love my children w all my heart and deep down I believe and hope your Father loves you too. Many Fathers can relate to my story. Don’t give up on him.
I don't even know what my dad looks like. His loss
I have watched a few interviews now and this guy is really genuine. He knows his limitations and his strengths and is just enjoying his life and career.
I am my dad's oldest daughter and he has been absent from my life 70% of the time because his job is more important and his other son is more important but not me. So watching this interview tore me into pieces. It hurts. I am 25+ but hoping when I am in my 30's my relationship with my Dad becomes better.
It won’t change unfortunately , he has his favourite!
I’m seriously depressed, honestly. It’s been a real uphill battle, but I’m still going. And I’ve been damaged by each experience I have with other people that it’s turning me into a bitter sad and cold person.
My dad plays a factor in all of this. He was in and out of my life until I was 13-years-old, and then he was just gone completely. I’m 23 now.
He's missing out on you, and I bet you are an incredible person :) Lots of love from the other side of the world.
Lukas Garcia ...depression is an uphill battle I DO know....it’s an every day struggle ad compounded when you have been abandoned. While I wasn’t abandoned....I was ignored...benign neglect. It’s the fight for what makes you happy...what makes you YOU ....that’s what depression takes from us. So fight it... never mind who’s in your life...exercise and talk it out. You are worth it...and you are loved💕
@Lukas you've been hurt, Im so sorry. I'm trying to work through hard ugly stuff too. I believe that you're intrinsically valuable and I applaud you for being brave enough to be vulnerable. I'm also 23. I think with small changes and a lot if kindness towards ourselves, we can discover the healing that is meant for us. I thinking of you, sending warmth.
I’m truly sorry to hear that. I hope you can pull through
Life’s gonna get better
So, Jake was a Chicago fan, who enjoyed writing, with a father who abandoned him for years...exactly like his New Girl character. Did the writers on New Girl come up with anything on their own?
Elizabeth Meriwether, who wrote the show, knew him before making New Girl, so I can imagine that the two of them talked about these things while on set for No strings attached.
@@aylin7409 so she wrote the part based on him lol.. I know this is ramdom but his voice is like warm cookies.. So good
Didnt Zooey said in a early Interview that all the actors worked really close with the writers to come up with ideas for the characters?
Plus, I heard it was mostly improv.
@@MisssKayy A show is never mostly improv, everyone that says that is lying, sure the actors pull from real life and maybe ad libed a couple of lines but the writers deserve credits for creating a story and making sure those jokes make sense in the bigger picture
His honestly and transparency is amazing
I can relate a lot to Jake. My story is just flipped. My mom and her husband gaslighted my brother and I for years which led to us turning on our dad. My dad tried over and over to come see my brother and I every other weekend or every Wednesday. My mother hated him and used us as to hurt him. Well one day I told my dad when he came to get us for the weekend " we dont want to to go". So right there he gave up and our mom won. I didnt see him for almost 12 yrs because of the bullshit of my moms lies and hatred. I have continued my relationship with my dad for about 6yrs now and its hard sometimes for me to look at him knowing what I did and how I was used to hurt my dad.
@Martin Flores I know there is a lot of hurt involved there, on both sides. But remember, it wasn't your fault for what you did/said!! You were only a kid. Your dad knows that, too, and I'm glad you both are able to work through it. You didn't know then, what you know now. I'm sure that's true for both of you.
You all have a fresh start, and that's amazing. Good luck to yall!
Martin Flores this happened to me too. My daughters mom pushed me away for years until I got married had two more kids and when I became successful owned my own home and new cars they both reached out saying I can see her now but she’s 16 it’s sad.
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Thank you so much. My best friend has told me exactly what you've said.
it’s not your fault. I hope you know that 🧡
Nick Miller is one of my favourite television characters of all time so I am delighted Jake seems like such a wonderful guy.
Megan Ripley If you like this interview, you will LOVE the Jake Johnson interview on the podcast Armchair Expert (the interviewer is Dax Shepard).
@@MaricelaArce I love Armchair Expert but somehow missed that episode! Thanks for the heads up.
This is fantastic. My dad was absent all of my childhood and he passed away when I was in 8th grade, so I never got to have this relationship. Can't say i am not jealous from time to time, but to anyone out there who can spend time with your dad, please do it for me....even if it is tough :)
Wow, that was both heart wrenching and joyful to hear father and son reunite 🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼
Thank you Jake, I needed this.
The more I learn about Jake Johnson the more I realize he kind of *is* Nick Miller. Pretty cool of the New Girl creators/writers to incorporate so much of him into the character.
His dad deserved every bit of the hard times, but I am glad they made up and he took his role seriously in the end.
Every talk with JJ is gold. Could listen him for hours.
My dad cheated on my mom in their entire marriage life, at their 30th year of marriage my mom found out that he had son with some other chick. It finally push the button for my mom.
All his life all he ever done was belittle my mom, how he always shout at her in public, down grade my mom knowledge, and all the worst thing.
This behavior he did it too to my older sister, maybe cause my sister share a lot in common with my mom, so she caved in. I on the other hand, share a lot of his shitty behavior, despite how much i hate it, so i punish him, as hard as i could.
I never bother to look him in the eyes, i gave a snarky replied in front of my uncle and aunt which btw is his sibling, i did everything that he did to my loved one, and he knows that i hate him. And yet i never hear him saying I'm sorry to me, to us, to his wife.
Not every one get an apology and not everyone gets to be forgiven, especially those who never apologize.
Did they get divorced?
Stick it to him!
My story is exactly like yours. Just when I turned 21 my mom and sister found out about my dad’s second family, and how he’s been cheating all the time, ever since my sister, their first child was born. And I always hated him for his absent years during my childhood and how he would occasionally phone and talk to us with little affection like one of his employees. My teen years had a lot of struggle, and now looking back, I realized how he failed to be a real parent, even though he was supporting our family financially. Now I just want to graduate and build a life of my own, without having to financially rely on him anymore.
This hit home in so many levels.
This was really beautiful. As man without a father I am so proud to know that Jake made the choices he did and shared this story. Powerful words.
This was, absolutely, one of the most meaningful interviews I’ve ever seen.
Omg, I love this interview. I love how open he is about this. He sounds like he would be a great dad himself. 😍
I really like & admire this actor. He seems so genuine!
One of the most relatable things I've ever watched. Loved how he voiced an all rounded perspective of things
He seems soo honest open & genuine
He is soo nice
I really like this guy
“Alright, Dad.” Felt like the most perfect end to that story.
I always come back to this clip, I think it is a great lesson in humanity and humility.
This is hauntingly beautiful. Jake Johnson is a grown ass man. Thank you.
This is so honest and a way I can explain my relationship with my mom that I’ve never been able to before.
Thank you for sharing. My dad came around in my thirties. I tell him things straight out, no sugar coating anything.
What brilliant advice. Same situation myself and just didn’t quit. 12 years later almost miraculously my son was back in my life! Just don’t give up.
As someone who still tried to protect my dad's feelings, despite how much he hurt me, this made me cry but was beautiful to hear
This is hands down one of the best interviews of honesty and parent/child relationship ever. Bravo ...
I'm a dad, I'm not a deadbeat or absent, and neither was my dad. I love being a dad and I love my kid so much and if I'm not working or sleeping, I'm hanging out with them by choice. STILL this is really a great video that I think ALL fathers can learn from. We forget the impact we have on our children, and in turn they on us. A parent is god in the eyes of a child. Even if you think you're doing a good job/the best you can, its really important to take a step back, audit yourself, talk to your kids and people around you, and be honest about how your relationship with your children is going.
I'm really happy Jake and his Dad were able to reconnect and it goes to show that sometimes PEOPLE REALLY CAN CHANGE. That being said, I think it is safe to say that if Jake's father could go back and change things, and salvage his relationship with his son when his child was young, he absolutely would. And his mistake of being a poor father during that time, is the greatest regret of his life. Also some children would not forgive their father as Jake did, regardless of how many attempts made in good faith by a former absent/bad parent. And an abused/neglected child is well within their rights by all means to refuse that reconnection.
All dads should make the concerted effort to NOT let the relationship with your kids get to the point where you have to repair bridges you burned. If you have burned those bridges, there is hope that you can repair them, as happened here but it is by no means a guarantee and the damage done can never be forgotten.
These interviews are fantastic, raw and a breath of fresh air in this crusty ass world. This message from Jake is also so powerful and relevant today. Grateful.
It feels so good hearing him speak like this. (I have/had dad issues too.)
Wonderful interviewer. Great job of asking good, genuine questions and then being quiet enough that they can answer.
Probably my favourite interviewer, and one of my favourite interviews.
My dad left for the woman he cheated on my mum with, he re married her, I recently heard he even had kids with her, he never came back to apologise to me, my mum and my other three siblings, he just left one day and expected us all to be okay, I would never have accepted the apology but it would have shown he cared for us, he abused my mum mentally and physically, he made my mum pay for gifts he’d give me saying it’s from him but really my mum when I was younger, he wasn’t a drunk or addict or whatever he just screwed up with our lives, spent all my mums money on shit he’d also gift his new wife who was his girlfriend at the time, he was a gold digger and that’s why he stayed with her she had two kids prior to keeping my dad, I don’t know where he lives anymore but hopefully it’s 6 feet under
Come back to this video every time I need a good little works on the water. Really hits home
Would love to hear the story of the day he first called him "Dad" from his father perspective. Awesome story, its great Jake and his Dad were able to heal something so broken, and honestly Jake is right. Big dramatic gestures are great in movies, but in real life, its consistency and commitment that fixes things.
I love this story. It's very similar to my own, at 18 my dad said sorry and that it was this huge mess and he had never stopped trying to go to court to get visiting. Had all the papers to prove it, I remember he asked to forgive him for not being good enough before. I said ok and we have been so close since, and he pays for half the trips I go on still to this day. Thanks for this interview
Excellent interview!!! Jake Johnson you hit the nail on the head when it comes down to divorces and how the relationship between fathers and kids change.
Oh Jake, it’s so easy to look up to celebrities and they’re perfect lives or even their “perfect” personalities. But this interview reminds me that they’re human. More human than just showing emotions. More human than just sharing problems. Nobody can fix the cracks, nobody can deny the cracks and wish they weren’t there, but you chose to show it. I personally can’t even talk about my problems to my friends.
Especially, I don’t think many people in the public eye go through or even choose to discuss their familial issues, in a non exploitive way.
Thank you for being vulnerable enough to share cracks in your lives. We’re the same, you and I. Except I have less talent than you. And less fans. You’re one of my favourite actors. Truly appreciate you.
I’ve literally never clicked on something so fast 😂 I see Jake and I click. I love how reflective and honest he was and how he had a good message for others. Is there more of this?
This interview means so much in my life. Thank you.
This is so relatable... Great talk from Jake
You create this amazing intimacy that begets wonderful stories like this. A beautiful anecdote that usefully offers potential redemption. Wow.
One of the greatest gifts is the gift of not bringing another life into existence. A sacred choice. Much respect to the ones who opted out. You have my tenderness.
Been going through this with my father as he chose is new wife over me and my sister. after years of trying to make it better and being shot down I didn’t talk to him for a year. After that year I Met up with him for lunch (he moved to the other side of Australia) I decided that the the relationship is now on MY terms. I text him back when I want to, I answer his calls when I feel like it, I got to the lunch when it suits me when his plane is on a layover (he works fly in fly out/fifo). and it still hurts but I decided that I’m not going to do anything if I don’t want to when it comes to him. Not until he puts at least 50% of the effort into our relationship that I put in. Anyone that can relate to this video I want you to know that I know the emotional toll this takes and the pain that you suffer and that you are important and strong for getting through absent parents shit ❤️
This was an awesome interview, like I’m so blown away actually
Sara Wawa If you like this interview, you will LOVE the Jake Johnson interview on the podcast Armchair Expert (the interviewer is Dax Shepard).
This is so relatable. My dad messed up really bad, and he’s had to learn how to be kinder over the years, but I also antagonized every attempt to bond he made for most of my childhood because I was so defensive of my mom and I saw how much she suffered after the divorce. I honestly only became close to him when my sister went off to college and left us on our own. We still get into fights occasionally but always make up and really value our time with each other.
I love this interview as a father who is separated from my son this keeps me going...
Wonderful. Jake Johnson is captivating in any situation but this is something else. Thank you
When he said “you earned it. This is the thing” really got me. 🥺
Man, these interviews are great!
agah If you like this interview, you will LOVE the Jake Johnson interview on the podcast Armchair Expert (the interviewer is Dax Shepard).
This is me right now as a father and son…instant tears.
I only got into New Girl this year, thanks to quarantine. All of a sudden, how empathic he is with his father in the show and his love of sports really makes sense. It’s mindblowing how much of his personal history was integrated into his character.
ONe of the best interviews I've ever seen. Bravo! Thanks for the inspiration.
I wish mine would react that way. Unfortunately, I’m going no contact tomorrow. Weird time to see this...
So grateful for my husband and excited for my kids to have a loving and selfless dad❤️
"this is what having a dad is", oh my heart just broke
I love this he is so honest and open and lovely.
That was such a great story, I hope one day my son’s father finds his way back to my son and they can make up for lost time❤️
I can relate to Jake and hope to grow like he did
my dad wasnt around while i was young either and forgiving him for that shit is hard dude, thanks for making this
I love his vulnerability and honesty!
" You earned it you're my dad "
well thats something i can't say to my so called dad
Does it bother you?
Same thing happened with my dad. Love the guy now
He is incredible.
This is one of the best channels on UA-cam
So beautifully said and so honest. It's so relatable.
This is real... That's what i get from this channel and it's so nice to see. Thank you.
"you've earned it" wow that really stuck with me thanks
This is the kind of dialogue I want to hear about. I can also relate to the story. Nice work!