The IMPACT Of An ABSENT Father (Ask A Shrink)
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- Опубліковано 6 вер 2024
- NOT KNOWING or NOT HAVING your Dad around can TREMENDOUSLY impact your life......in this video I explore the pitfalls of having an ABSENT father and the various ways it can affect a child. This also includes HAVING a Father in the household but not feeling CONNECTED to him as you're growing up. I'm a Licensed Therapist and answer your questions on 'Ask A Shrink'.
I was ignored by both parents, not being available to me. makes me well balanced.
Made me smile. :D hang in there
You do have sense of humour.
Lmao same.
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Same!⚖
I had an absent father and narcissistic mother who was also absent.
Me too im sorry
@@vintagevixen04.76 me three, sorry as well
My dad was there but he was distant. Conceited mom as well
You're not alone 💗
Same
I was raised by my single mother. Always wanted my daddy around but he had no interest in me. Today I’m married with 2 boys of my own-yet I still have a big whole in my heart from not having a man who I could always look upto and kinda be like my “rescuer” in a way. When others see me they just see a muscular big army vet but not realizing on the inside I still feel like a 5 year old boy who needs a mans love. Can anyone offer me any advice?
You're feeling very normal grief, and loss......thanks for sharing your story...
Therapy! Yes, why not seek counselling, so that you figure out what is what. Try to unload the old heavy luggage, so you won't enter your next relationship loaded with unresolved issues (such as unknowingly sabotaging a potentially good relationship because you expect a partner to become a father figure)
Ah man.
@@BradShore as a shrink, how do you help a child not to construct a fantasy of a "perfect" absentee dad. Children without a dad in the household can feel that everything would be better with dad, while sometimes, in fact he'd do more harm than good...
Illustrated perfectly in this hour long comedy show with a very deep testimony:
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This is society’s big issue. Without a male role model in the family, the son will become confused and not have much direction in their life when they need it most. Also men need to reflect on themselves before having children, ask yourself if you think you’ll be there for your kid and not be emotionally unavailable. Parenting is difficult so if you’re not ready for it, don’t become one! Simple as that.
I couldn't agree more Luke
yup. it's a huge issue that nobody talks about
Or women could learn how to not be clingy to their son and ruin him for life.
I’m still blinded by the fantasy of my father being a hero. I just turned 40 and have dreamt of riding motorcycles with him my whole life. A couple years ago I was able to buy a really nice Harley, and a sweet dirtbike and I’ve been riding ever since, making videos of my adventures for my channel. You’ll notice who isn’t in one. ANY of them. I always thought if i got the bikes we’d be riding, like me not having one was the only issue. I made the 3 hour ride up to his place a couple days ago .Stayed an awkward night with him and my stepmother. I’m sure they’re as afraid of me as I am of them. Yesterday the sun broke out early and was warming up the pavement before I even stepped foot outside. Night before I had made the decision to leave first thing in the morning. The anxiety and awkwardness is too much. He’s got nice, NICE bikes. I asked if he’d like to ride with me for a little ways on my way towards home so I could get a video riding with him. He wouldn’t do it. I’ve been such a fool. At 40.. FML I lost a stepfather to suicide when i was 12. He and my mother were going through a bad divorce (IKR.. Go figure) and him and I had really connected the last month he was alive. He really wanted to be a father to my sister and I, and just wanted to be a family. He was trying to consciously not do what his father had done to him, as well as mine to me. He knew.. Jeff knew. Sometimes I can picture him shaking his head at me when I’m trying to engage my father, telling me to have more respect for myself, and that ride is NEVER coming. I had a vision in my head of going through with a pseudo funeral, where i pretend my father has died and write him a letter, then bury it somehwere with a little marker and pretend that’s his grave. I think that’s the only way I can move on without any more damage. I’m tired of crying at god damn 40
That’s sounds hard bro, sounds like your grieving and rightfully so.
hope you get some closure.
I am so sorry to hear this🥺
@@caseyberger6653 we actually got to ride finally and it was worth the wait! I made a vid, posted on my channel. AmaZing coastal forest ride
@@MOTOBRANDON happy for you.
THIS IS SO ACCURATE. WE NEED MORE OF THIS IN THE MEDIA
I had parents, but I had to raise myself. A dad can teach their child a million things to build a positive future.
I love watching families on YT that are raising their family.
My dad left when I was six, and I feel like he was emotionally distant. I feel like he was very detached from me because he was so easily able to leave. I think this has affected my self worth and given me a negative view of myself that even I don’t always notice but other people do.
You need to face it head on, you can do it and be free!
Same here. 🤗
Wow, couldn’t have said it any better myself. Reading the comments on these videos i’m glad i’m not alone. At least there’s that, even though it’s sucks and shouldn’t ever happen to anyone.
I forgive my dad. Nobody could've stayed married to the lunacy that was my mother.
A father is only obligated to pay for their children. USA courts clearly states that fathers involvement emotionally is optional. They are only meant to be for financial security.
Mothers are best
I attract both Emotionally available and unavailable men, but my type has always been those who are unavailable to me, because My father was distant, he was in my life but he was emotionally dead, I acknowledge my issue, but I still can't help but getting attracted to them, I guess I need therapy when it comes to this.
Same sis. 🥺🤗
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@Korbyn Brysen Definitely, I have been using InstaFlixxer for since december myself :D
@@abdielernesto9051oh yeah me too NOT, get outta here bots
My wife could subtly turn me into an uninvolved father if I didn't maneuver against it. Mothers, as the primary nurturer, have substantial influence on the child's relationship with the father. If a father is prone to enforcing rules as a parent, the mother-wife only has to coddle and bribe the child to cause him or her to view daddy as "the enemy" while viewing her as the source of happy. Not difficult at all and not obvious from the outside looking in. Every time he steps in with a "no you can't do that" the relationship gets worse. Many (not all) instances of so called detached fathers are a reflection of an underlying conflict with mommy. Daddy is sometimes defeated more than wilfully detached.
that makes me even more fckin angry.
@@VengefulPolititron I know a divorced man whose ex wife cheated on him and his 3 kids hate HIM due to the ex wife's influence. His demeanor and manner is similar to cliff huxtable (the show not real life). He basically got tired of catering to her princess demands and succumbing to his inlaws overbearing presence in the marital home. she wouldn't budge in her attitude.
Not this man. My fiance and I are planning on me raising the kids and her being the provider. It's because my dad left when I was 6
What about physically absent father and emotionally abscent mother simultaneously
Same like what do we do about that combo meal
@@purpleglass5182 its a combo blaster. Probably just do what you would if it was one or the other. But since its both its just more difficult
Well that’s me
My father died when I was 2. Raised by my mom and sister and had no father figure. I’m going on 27 and still feel like I’m not a real man.... sometimes I wish I had another life
It doesn’t matter how good of a single mom you are. Your child will still have a great trauma. that’s the truth.
I turned out “great” but honestly I’m still damaged goods and I have endured so much that wouldn’t be the case if I had a father that loved me.
What about daughters that HATE (or have resentment) their single mothers because they are always working for so many hours outside home because she is the only one capable of getting money?, i cannot find videos about it :/
It's the same thing with living in a two parent household, but one of the parent is cold and detached. Single parent or not, a child deserves two emotionally available parent.
I forgive my dad. Nobody could've stayed married to the lunacy that was my mother.
Wow! He was so good that he didn't think to save you.
@@tarasimmons337 sometimes you can't, it's called joint custody.
37 yrs to finally realize what happened to me. I thought I was alone in my experience but I watch a video that describes my childhood almost exactly and then another and another. There are a lot of shitty parents doing this to their children .. thank you for your videos they have opened my eyes and made me feel a little better about my life going forward. Your explanations are very thorough and you are well spoken and I feel like I have a understanding of what I just heard . It's hard to admit that I was abused by the 1 person I trusted and loved. Ultimate betrayal by the one who gave birth to you I think an abortion or giving me up for adoption would have been a better choice.
I'm in the UK. I don't know where most comments are from. I grew up with separated parents. My dad was living the street next to my mom. He remarried with a woman who had a son of my age. That woman was seeing me as a competition for her son. My mom was working late so I ended up on the street with bad kids while my dad was looking after the other boy.
Today I'm the father of a little girl. I'm separated from her mom. She has tried and she still trying to put me away from her life.
I have to fight like a lion and spend thousands to make sure that my daughter has a proper dad, not a visitation right to a man that she sees twice a month and who is kept away from her school life.
I have a very strong relationship with her, but I'm single and have no life for me.
Women sees me as an alien as a man is supposed to be a bread owner and not being involved in children matters. The mom is supposed to be in charge.
When I show up in the desperate housewives school group, I'm an alien, for school I'm a weirdo. I have a court order in my favour protecting my daughter's time with me and when I gave a copy to the school, they simply ignored it and still refere only to the mom.
I don't care, I show up, I keep my back straight, my shoulder large and My pride at the top, because I'm here for my daughter.
I know what it is to have a father who is ignoring you a his child.
The only thing that stays in the head of a child in that situation is: "What have I done for my father (or my mom, it is happening a lot as well) for not loving me?"
Then the child try desperately to be loved by the absent parent, if the absent parent is still in the life of the child and constantly put the child down, the child will try to fit that description inconscientiously to be loved by the absent parent.
That can be reduced if the absent parent is put off the life of a child and replaced by a good parent.
Otherwise, the child will grow up wondering what he/she has done for the other parent not loving him/her and they will chase that love in their adult life.
Therapy can help them but one thing is certain, I don't want my daughter to grow up like that!
I'm here, firmly on my feet, standing up for her and even a millions of women will not make me move an inche!
I'm crying over your story. Just let me tell you something: you are a real man.
I'm a 14 year old girl and my father left 9 years ago. I really wanted to have a father figure, a man who could care about me and that could be with me when I need. Unfortunately, I can't have that man because my dad doesn't love me. I'm really scared that that is going to affect me for life.
I'm telling you that because, to be honest, all I ever wanted was a dad like YOU. You care about your daughter. You go through rough stuff just to be there for her. Even with all the odds, you do your best to be present. My biggest wish is to be loved like your daughter is. Man, I feel so envy... I can tell she is the luckiest girl of the world... And I really hope she gives you the recognition you deserve. You are an example to all of the fathers out there.
I felt very distant from my dad growing up. He never broke up the enmeshed relationship with my mom and it only made things worse. I was triangulated between my parents and was put into the rescue role where I would defend my mom in any arguments she had with my dad. I was made to believe he was victimizing my mom somehow, when in reality she never wanted to compromise on anything ever. It’s sucked because I had a fear of my dad and I also felt that he was mad at me all the time probably bc he was frustrated with my mom. Thankfully I was able to bond with him later in life in my twenties and on and I can see from the correct perspective now. Although our relationship is good now, what happened in childhood is still affecting me on some level. Thanks for the video bud, you were spot on with the current issue of fatherlessness.
Thanks for sharing your story......really glad to hear you've bonded with your dad at this stage of your life.....
Thank you for sharing your story
👎mom complainer 👍dad
👎dad emotionally cheated 👍mom
👎mom too controlling 👍dad
👎dad Emotionally distant 👍mom
👎mom martyr 👍dad
👎dad left bathroom torn apart for 10 years and we showered in a kids pool in the basement 👍mom
👎mom texts me whenever I'm out late with friends 👍dad
👎dad never spent time with us 👍mom
👎mom won't let me express myself 👍dad
👎dad only does small talk 👍mom
👎mom uses me as a messenger to talk to husband to communicate her needs 👍dad
👎 Teachers, abused me
👎girls hated me
👎guys bullied me
👎I hated myself since 4th grade cause I touched a girls butt, and thought I would be abandoned by my family. and go to jail.
so I'm fighting the world here.
- teachers
- peers
- mom
- dad
- siblings
- sin
- society
- bosses
- customers
- myself
I was raised by a single mother and I’m currently 38 years old, well adjusted, polite, educated and have never been in trouble with the law or otherwise.
You're right! I'm happy to hear a therapist speak about the impact of the father's absence in a child's sexuality. I also watched your video on how Emotional Incest can impact sexuality and I see how these two factors can come together to create the perfect storm. The topic about sexuality has become so politicised that we aren't allowed to say anything about it, but what can one do when he/she sees the signs and even feels that something is amiss?
The psychology industry is also equally guilty for burying evidence where normal folks wouldn't find it. There isn't anything cute about being gay, bi, etc. It's filled with so many issues that one would never have to go through otherwise, and now that we live in a world where we can speak out and reach large audiences with the click of a button and a camera, we should!
Just want to tell you that I believe you are correct; that sexual orientation has so much to do with disconnection from parent and the intense need and desire to want to connect. If you are not able to connect with either parent on a deep level, bisexual orientation is a real possibility and it makes so much sense with all of the other information on attachment theory. There are quite a few people who talk about similar issues here on the Tube. You are very engaging.
@Tamia Destiny Taylor the point is that the possibility of a man being non-straight due to fatherlessness is a *possibility*. No one is saying that fatherlessness MUST mean the man HAS to be gay or bisexual, or that there aren’t straight, fatherless men. It’s just one of many explanations as to why some gay or bisexual men exist, just like criminal activity, drug, or alcohol abuse is another POSSIBLE outcome of fatherless boys. There are plenty of fatherless men that never resort to drugs or any other destructive activity. Again, this video is explaining one of several outcomes, amidst other factors , and I think the video does a great job explaining this clearly… I don’t understand what you’re confused about if you watched the entire video, but I hope I helped regardless.
@@Rikuphi That was my case. My father was there but worked shifts, had to see HIS FRIENDS, and do his activities. As a result I turned to other men for approval. Sexually was/ and remains one of the few ways I received validation from older men.
@@xyz987123abc It's great that you discovered where those feelings came from. That's healing in and of itself. I hope you're doing well!
@@Rikuphi Yes, I am doing better. Thank you.
You just NAIL IT here. From my issues of gone dad and EI mom to my kids having abusive and neglectful dad.
I had an absent father and mother and I never knew them I was raised by my grandma who is the strongest person I know cause she raised me and my brother and sisters out of a small apartment in the Bronx and when she went to work as maid
My dad left by choice . I got a narcisstic mom that tells me messed up things like he left when I was born and was close to my brother but tried to force feed him at one point. I'm sure he left cause of MY mom. Ugh and my mom has stage 4 and is obsessed with babying my 40 somethin year old brother. I never felt loved by her.
My dad left because of a heroin addiction. I was 6, and he died when I was 16. In that time I saw him 5 times
This greatly affected me. I’m still working through this today. I’m 48 and never felt I had a dad even though a male was in the home.😖
Me and my husband thought we might have been gay from our abusive upbringing an absentee father figure. It could have played a part in it but we both have known since we were very very young. We've also been able to find some emotional healing through sexless kink from a really sweet rare gem on UA-cam.💑👬 blessings on your healing Journeys
Today I finally figured out the root of my pain and depression that's been tormenting me since I was a kid and I'm 31. It was about to kill me and didn't understand it was because I didn't have my dad in my life. It was so dark and miserable. Thank God he's started to shine light on me
My "father" split when I was four or five and according to my mother, I was enraged. It's a profound betrayal that leaves an imprint and affects all areas of life. I believe this sets up the child for future betrayal and conflict because that is what the individual has been conditioned to believe on a subconscious level. It all depends on the stage at which the father leaves. If the child is older, the impact is less.
The affects can remain in the subconscious and come out in self sabotaging ways
I think you are my new favorite therapy channel. Thank you for your honesty; it's helping bring clarity to my own upbringing and current problems from having dysfunctional parents, similar to your own. My dad was a philanderer who was hardly ever home since he traveled for work, and Mom was struggling to raise nine children on her own. We also moved around a lot, before parents divorced when I was 12. I have the CEN and the emotional enmeshment traits.
Glad it helped Trish!
My dad left when I was 10. He would occasionally stop by to torment us. He told me he left because of us terrible kids. My mom told me I was a rotten kid and the only reason people liked me was because I was 'a big kiss ass'. I've met ice cubes with more warmth than her.
It is difficult to watch as this is happening with my in-laws. Speaking up does nothing but make me the problem. These smothering mothers (one grandmother) destroyed any chance my nephew, now 9 years old, had at a healthy relationship with his father. It was sabotaged from day one by these two controlling nags who ooze criticism and superiority. They’ve conditioned him to fear everything about his father, and maleness in general. I’m starting a book collection to give my nephew when he figures out what his sick mother and grandmother have done to him, although I’m sure I’ll have to mail it anonymously since the poor kid was kept from bonding with anyone else in the family.
I was adopted, dad absent from infancy. i thought i didn’t care, and, both mom and dad adopted me and were great parents. BUT - that dad was also....emotionally distant. So how is this impacting my relationships...This question is why i’m here. I seem to emotionally sabotage, when i fall in love with the man. Also as a neglected infant, love causes PTSD...so how do these things intersect, I don’t know.
Holy crap. You nailed this issue within 8 minutes 12 seconds for many people I know. Of course, it's simplified but the examples you use are so textbook and resonated. Thanks for this video. I am posting on my wellness groups.
Here on fathers day
I’m sorry
My father died when I was 11 and my mother never remarried so I grew up with no father figure.
I wish this was available when I was a teen, because this sums up everything I feel, but couldn't find the words for it.
My dad and I reconciled and I found someone who was a companion who finally listened to me and cares about everything. I’m finally working through some big issues and hopefully my kids and therapist can be healthy at the same time finally to do that. 😆 I don’t know what’s wrong fully but I did not grow up healthy. I ask my husband if he grew up with (fill in the blank) and I’m so happy he didn’t but.. I really need therapy.. I direly want to do better with my kids.
The reason why they’re unavailable is because they are people pleasers, they are nice guys
Nice guys are people who had to behave is a specific order to receive love or attentions from their parents... they where never loved for who they truly are,...
@@rik-keymusic160 exactly, they wanna be liked by others, they seek approval and validation from others and please people. This is what exactly happened to me. Over 16 years of my life, completely wasted cuz of my parents
@@3zooz17 if you see it from that perspective only, it will not help you to heal along the way. I found it very helpful to understand where my parents came from and saw that they aswel never received the love they should have. You have the power to choose if you are going to continue the cycle or brake it. Choose wisely!
@@rik-keymusic160 I had a devouring mother and an unavailable father. I remember I was a dead soul at the age of 14. It felt as if I’m alive but not living. Should I blame my parents?
@@3zooz17 i know it hurts, but how can you aspect somebody to give you love if they don’t know what that is or feels like? Its a bit like asking a blind person to say which colors he sees in a rainbow... something inside me wants to blame my parents to! But their family was raised by people who went through world war 2... pretty destructive times, everyone back then was emotional blocked cause that could be your death. We still suffer from these past experiences! most people don’t even realize how deeply it affects them.
I am a single mom of a 3 year old girl, which brought me to watch this video. My husband died recently.
What would you suggest that I do to have this affect my daughter minimally.
(She has been coping up well so far and showing no behavioral abnormalities)
Have her share her feelings about missing her dad and what it's like not having a dad around. Have her color and draw out her feelings, and write letters to him (that you can keep in a folder) for important dates like his birthday, holidays, and every year on the day he died.....keep her talking!
So admirable and courageous of you to care about your daughter this way...!
Thank you for sharing. Very sorry for your loss. I hope you also manage to take care of yourself.
@@BradShore Thanks for the tips. We tend to avoid speaking about speaking about the absentee, whether he is just emotionally, geographically or deceased. You are suggesting to encourage children to talk about their feelings about him is necessary. Identifying their emotions and voicing them may be therapeutic 🤔
Yah I'm pretty lost in life right now at the age of 21... I don't know what I'm going to do. Every time I try to do something positive for myself I can only stick with it for a short amount of time. I never met my real dad, and my mom was only 15, so I was living with my grandparents for a good amount of time. When my mom was 19 she met my step dad and had my brother. I got to be with them a lot at the age of 4 or 5. However I would still be with my grandparents a lot more as I have more memories with them and didn't fully move in with my mom until the age of 8. My Grandpa who was 1 out of the 2 people that I was close with emotionally, died when I was 8. 2nd being my Grandma, who also died when I was 18 or 19. Both of them kind of had the same deaths in a way. Well not really... but they both forgot who I was leading up to their deaths. Grandpa having a stroke during surgery and my Grandma with dementia. Also my mom and step dad ended up getting a divorce about 4 years ago after having my 2nd baby brother. We are barley surviving and I'm now a burden. Me and my mom struggle with an emotional connection. Rarely hug or even say I love you. it feels awkward when we do. I know she cares because she works hard and put me in therapy, and on anti depressants. But I've been on and off anti depressants and all that for the past 5 years. I'm starting to lose hope. I try to be positive, however gaining more clarity as i'm getting older, its tough to ignore my past as i've been doing for years. One thing i've noticed is when I was in a relationship for 3 years, from 15 to 18... I was the best version of myself. I kept jobs even though they weren't for long, I always had money to take her out to eat and buy things for her and also for me as well. But then I started to get into drugs during the relationship and I basically ruined everything for us magnifying the trust issues of abandonment i've already had. What hurts me the most about that is becoming sober and realizing the emotional damage I caused her. Realizing that she really did love me, when for some reason I convinced myself she didn't. I tried to date about 4 more times but none of them were even the same. I gave up on love.
it's hard to listen and take action on my thoughts that tell me to do the right thing. Such as wanting to work, exercise or even taking a shower.. I just feel disconnected from everyday life as I just stay in my room all day playing video games. I'm a loser by society. The best way I can describe it is like a spiral illusion, like a screw. where i'm on the ridges. hell is at the bottom and heaven is at the top. Sometimes it twists downward bringing me to the bottom, and sometimes it twists upward bringing me to the top. I have no control of when or how long it happens. I literally don't know what to do after failing sooooo many times at everything a "normal" person can do, as it seems to be some what easy for them.
I had both parents but my dad was somewhat emotionally unavailable on top of being a truck drive gone during the weeks usually only home on weekends. At 27 I’m now a single mom to one boy. I left the relationship when my some was about 1 year old due to it being physically and emotionally abusive. I feel I turned out mostly alright but I do worry about my son not having a male role model...
What about daughters that HATE (or have resentment) their single mothers because they are always working for so many hours outside home because she is the only one capable of getting money?, i cannot find videos about it :/
Some very interesting food for further thought raised here... appreciated 👍🏼
Glad it helped.....
It matters lot for boy or girl for different reason an reason no parent really really thinks of. Both parent matter
Good advice 👍
I had a very emotionally distant father, so I would always try to bond with my gf fathers which wasn't always a good idea.
I was a beautiful girl, precious but I have always had problems bonding with men. While my friends, even the ones who were not pretty had fulfilling emotional relationships just because they had a present father.
Down the rabbit hole I go
In simple terms its pure and utter devistation for a boy.
The closest thing I will get to a shrink is stepping on shrink wrap bubbles
Thanks for teaching me what shrink means for the first time lol
As a wife I had to show my husband way too many things that his father should have showed him.
I never knew my dad. I love my mom, but she was 16, immature, and controlling and over protective. My mom got child support, but it always angered me when the court said he was being an excellent and providing father. Great, that's the Barre. Now I'm just trying to get through all of this, but don't have insurance yet and can't afford therapy. I feel like I'm developing my masculinity and I really don't understand when I'm too much or not enough. And then when I'm depressed, I get told to man up. Like, this shit is just stupid. I flip through phases of being almost hypersexual and essentially abstinence. But the irony is the hypersexual usually comes with a heavy depression that can span before, during, qnd after that'll just prevent the whole thing.
This is so true, may the Lord bless you.
We are nothing to god if he didn’t even give us an earthly father. We aren’t the chosen ones. You sound like you had a father figure at least.
So I’m doing this from my biz account however I’m having a crisis my father was non existent until I was twelve now I find my self at 35 and we no longer speak it kills me daily no I’m hurrying should I just take this as he’s shit….my mother was so amazing I didn’t even know he was absent aside from crafts I’m grade school I made them for mom….let’s talk please!!!!!!!!
If I am 18 now and from birth I saw my father 3-4 moths a year because he was working abroad, is he an absent father? I always felt neglected by him but he says to me that he was there for me
believe it or not but yes... that doesn't mean you shouldn't absolutely love your father no matter what though... he did what he could to provide for you I'm sure it sounds like.... all you can do is live on and keep the relationship
If you felt neglected I think that’s your answer.
So just because a partner had a absent father means they dont really like you?
Thank you so much for this
Absent father and my mom got hooked on pills by the time I was 6. So me and my twin brother had to raise ourselves. I think society is failing this generation of men big time
WHO NEEDS THOSE USELESS DEADBEATS?? GET UP WIPE THOSE TEARS & GO ON!
My dad left before i was born and hr talked to me not to long ago for the first time in years and i told him that i didnt like him and he wasn't my dad, then he started lying about what happened
I’ve never met my dad in my entire life, but I would’ve killed to been able to. I envy you
My biological fathers first question to me was “why are you so fat?”….. :/ I should have asked him why he was such a gigantic lush, but I was pretty exasperated. I just wanted him to try/or want to be a part of my life now, but he wouldn’t. A few months later he ended up having his legs amputated do to diabetes and his alcoholism, that’s the last I heard about him.
There's a very influential youtuber who completely excuses fathers who leave. This individual states that the parent who stayed is the sole reason for the damages done to the children. So, according to this youtuber, if you impregnate someone then leaves, when they grow up dysfunctional, you can say "well you raised him/her." How does that NOT sound dumb? I'd never take advice from youtubers. What I DO do is be entertained ;-)
Sound is bad
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i just found my absent fathers number and message
i texted him my name and everything and he has the audacity to tell me go away
Brad, so i guess that you are trying to say that you think this caused you to be gay?
Even though i had a loving dad i somehow think fatherless people are very fortunate because they usually succeed more and take more risks
You don't know how hard it is having to teach yourself literally everything..
No please don't think this. So much brokeness coming from absent fathers, it's actually tragic.
far more die failures.. than become millionaire success stories.
This is the stupidest thing I’ve seen in a while.
I love my Mother
I can just smell the fatherless jokes
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So if you are aware it affected your sexual orientation that's the same as saying you are just stuck in an unhealthy and toxic way to cope with your trauma, which you never really did, and thank you for opening the door to this because that's the reason why people turn gay or lesbian, it is all a pathological distorted way to hide from doing the proper therapeutic work.