Cracking the Minimalist Mindset: You're Closer than you Think!

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КОМЕНТАРІ • 232

  • @stevec3872
    @stevec3872 16 днів тому +67

    Hands down, I am a minimalist concerning people. Nothing can clutter and complicate your life more than people. I can do the social sprint but have no interest in the social marathon. The mailboxes for my block are in front of my house and I can be as friendly as can be with neighbors I meet there, but virtually none of them have ever been in my house and never will be. My life is my own and I like it that way.

    • @user-pu5zr2ue7z
      @user-pu5zr2ue7z 16 днів тому +4

      @Stevec3872 You sound like me lol, I’m an INFJ ( Briggs personality test). Interesting stuff.

  • @stephenparkes9543
    @stephenparkes9543 16 днів тому +53

    Best purge I made was ridding myself of less than helpful people. Thank you for the video.

  • @terryannanderson8812
    @terryannanderson8812 16 днів тому +32

    There's an old saying, "We're too poor to buy cheap." Meaning save so you can buy quality that last and not having things that water out quickly.

  • @KeithandPamBilyeu
    @KeithandPamBilyeu 15 днів тому +10

    Pam here…..you encapsulated the essence of what minimalism should be. Emotional minimalism probably the most vital. Always boggles my mind the drama and chaos that people invite in to their life and then go on to create themselves. Choosing to discard negativity, gossiping, or even insinuating bad motives or intentions of others is so freeing. So many I know are caught up on ‘overthinking’ disease….where they can’t stop ruminating about what others may think about them or that everything another says or does is a ‘message’ to them. Thanks for your succinct analysis of what truly creates minimalism in your life!

    • @carmenm.9522
      @carmenm.9522 14 днів тому

      Emotional minimalism…love it!

  • @karenbenedict4480
    @karenbenedict4480 10 днів тому +7

    Hi Jen, I’m fairly new to your podcasts, but I knew I’d struck gold when I saw you for the first time. My husband of 53 years died suddenly last year. I love where I live on acreage with trees and garden…good neighbors…very quiet area. “Friends” told me a widow of 81 surely must plan on selling and moving because it would be too much for me. I’m not moving, but I did divest myself of friends. I’ve learned so much from you as I’ve struggled to accept and adapt to being alone. As an introvert, I’m learning to love being here with few people in my life. You have addressed so many of the practical issues I have faced down and I look forward to hearing from you. Because I have limited ability to walk, I have an electric cart and my vegetables and flowers are all in containers. Your vocabulary, excellent presentation and joy in your life have helped me to find joy (a tiny bit at a time) in my new life. Thank you so much. PS I adopted a marvelous big wild rescue cat who has made all the difference. Gave me a reason to get up and get on with life.

  • @BestOfMeCA
    @BestOfMeCA 16 днів тому +21

    I've loved being a minimalist all my life. I'm 45 and too much clutter makes me anxious 😊. Emptiness and decluttering brings happiness 😊

  • @terilou6616
    @terilou6616 16 днів тому +24

    Books are wonderful, art supplies, full of future dreams. Everyone's dreams are their own.

  • @regineheine5707
    @regineheine5707 16 днів тому +30

    Thank you so much. I love the smell of a book as well and can even identify a book from another by this. As I don’t have any relatives ( I am a child born in between two generations, don’t have a spouse or children) I can only rely on my own.
    I didn’t know I did this throughout my life.
    Referring to people in my life I can step back and ask myself “ wait a minute..”
    I don’t need things anymore to create kind of safety. It’s not safety, it’s a burden.
    I am on my way downsizing ( I am a collector, who has not been allowed to give away anything ) and won’t keep things dear to my mother or anybody else but those you mentioned as valuable to me.
    If I can’t make a decision right now, I leave the item in my sight, makes decisions more easy and the result of it more valuable- to me.
    As someone used to be giving throughout my life in order to be “ right”, I’m changing. I used to be a worrier, mostly about others.
    I learned within the last eight months where this comes from. I am glad to have found the origin.
    Change doesn’t come overnight. At first I called myself a “ failure” but realized this what I was thought of by my parents and my two husbands in order to control me.
    I was so tired and couldn’t manage anything. Changed .
    I am good towards myself and think of me I am more than simply sufficient which I never have been before.
    The good thing is I couldn’t be totally broken down.
    I am 67 by now , a long journey of misunderstanding. The person I don’t want to miss anymore is- me.

    • @MomsTravelTeam
      @MomsTravelTeam 12 днів тому

      I love shopping for books - even if I don't buy - touching and browsing ❤

  • @cybermaventech
    @cybermaventech 16 днів тому +21

    I love my carefully curated stuff! I occasionally purge, but keep it to giving away, donating, passing along to others. My books and record collection are my comfort zone.

    • @2000konnie
      @2000konnie 16 днів тому

      Curating is a good way of describing the process. Imma use it.

  • @skybaby444
    @skybaby444 11 днів тому +5

    Minimalism is like cleaning or waking up or becoming kinder……it never ends. We’re never there. We’re only here.

  • @thriftymama3786
    @thriftymama3786 16 днів тому +23

    I'm slowly working on being more of a minimalist. I'm in my upper thirties and had previously never taken stuff to goodwill.....never gotten rid of anything!!! In the last month, I've taken 5-7 boxes (mostly of my daughters old clothes) to goodwill. I want to be in better control, my house is so cluttered with stuff I don't need or use. Slowly but surely I'm gonna get there

    • @janejdough2230
      @janejdough2230 16 днів тому +2

      Good for you!

    • @renjuli9299
      @renjuli9299 9 днів тому

      Congratulations on letting go of stuff. I have also been doing that and it makes me feel good knowing that others are benefiting from what used to just lie around my house.

  • @leemiller8730
    @leemiller8730 13 днів тому +4

    A woman after my own heart. Expressed so much better than I could have done.

  • @Abcd-jz4gp
    @Abcd-jz4gp 16 днів тому +12

    You are morphing into a great educator, inspirational speaker, and motivator. You're a good speaker too

    • @terrycameron9728
      @terrycameron9728 15 днів тому

      I agree. A wise woman with a clear sense of herself.

    • @Abcd-jz4gp
      @Abcd-jz4gp 6 годин тому

      But now I am wondering if you are an "ambi-vert" like me--- a little introverted and a little extroverted. I don't know that introverts are so engaging and colorful. And then you have a boatload of "hobbies-in-common" acquaintances. Whatever you are, you are great and I enjoy your vids. But if you start giving TED talks, we are going to become suspicious and wonder if you are really an extrovert!! Ha!

  • @mommyharris1111
    @mommyharris1111 16 днів тому +17

    Lmbooooooo Jen! I just said yeah Stacy, you are a recycler and not a minimalist. My home is almost 4000 ft.² and I promise you that there may be 10 items in my entire house that were brand new. I never buy anything brand new. I bought oops paints from the paint store for a dollar a gallon to paint the inside of my house. I got exceptional paint for pennies. I use all of it to refurbish furniture and give to my family and friends. I think it is so wasteful to keep filling up the dump with perfectly good items that just needs some care. I buy all my books used. My library sells books for $1-2 dollars each. I’m with you on getting the books, because eventually this electrical grid is going to crash. Anybody that is self-aware can feel it. Change is coming. I don’t do it because I’m trying to be thrifty, it was just the way that I was raised. We didn’t have a lot of money. And I’m so grateful for it now. I really appreciate you posting your videos early because I am always up at the crack of dawn. I agree it’s all about quality and the old stuff is definitely better! Thrift stores are the bomb! Have a great day Jen and all others!

  • @b.t.3406
    @b.t.3406 16 днів тому +11

    I adopted minimalism in the 1990s. Haven’t looked back. Live very simply but also recognise that there are many legitimate forms of minimalism.

  • @jennywren8937
    @jennywren8937 16 днів тому +16

    You are the first minimalist I have ever understood, a really sensible approach, love your ethos. Having left the users behind, I'm pretty well on the same journey, but without wearing a label.😊 The downside of extreme minimalism is comparable to anorexia.

  • @user-mc4cl3kr1r
    @user-mc4cl3kr1r 16 днів тому +9

    Hi Jen I totally agree with everything you said. Frankly, I never thought of myself as a minimalist. But, hearing what you had to say on this topic has made rethink that. About 15 years ago I decided for my own peace of mind to "simplify" my life. I have taken steps in many ways to do that. Getting rid of stuff that wasn't serving any purpose and/or had little or no meaning to me anymore. But, thoughtfully considered the things that did. I kept those and got rid of the rest. I shop very little these days I choose something I do need and/or has value to me. I thoughtfully pared down my schedule and put some things into life that brings me pleasure or makes me smile. I am far more comfortable and peaceful in my home now. I also re-evaluated the people and relationships in my life. I exited or excised those relationships because they were yoo draining or toxic. The people in my life now, add value and bring me joy. So, after pondering tour words I came to the realization that simplifying my life was a form of minimalism. So, yep, guess I'm in that camp after all. 😂 Thanks so much for another insightful talk. 😊 By the way, that is one of the main reasons I faithfully watch your vlogs. Because, they add value to my life and so do you. I do try to thoughtfully comment every time which I hope adds some value to your life, as well. Hope you have a great week and see you next week. 😁❤️🙋 --Paula in Ohio USA

  • @carmenm.9522
    @carmenm.9522 14 днів тому +3

    As a single, solo, of 57 years, I have found a useful, and minimalist, set of pots. It’s a double boiler/steamer. That gives you two pots that nest into each other, plus another pot with holes in the bottom that nests into either pot. They don’t take up a lot of space in a cupboard. Add to that, a frying pan, and you’re all set!

  • @leanne7306
    @leanne7306 16 днів тому +8

    Great video! It hit home for me and opened my eyes even more. I have an aging narcissist (sick) in my life. He is the most negative person I've ever met. I am trying to limit my time around him as much as I can because he sucks the energy out of me and the next thing I know I am negative too. I need to start putting myself first. I'm about to watch this video again!❤

  • @juliedonelson3471
    @juliedonelson3471 16 днів тому +5

    I have been decluttering for a few years now- I strive for “minimal-ish” which helps me manage my adhd and brings me the peace to be creative and feel calm instead of anxious. But it’s taken me a good while to find my perfect amount of things I love.

  • @mtnshelby7059
    @mtnshelby7059 16 днів тому +7

    Clever video! I've done a lot of culling in my later years. I love having an empty social calendar. I am a social minimalist and glad for it. 🎉

  • @LAE45
    @LAE45 16 днів тому +12

    As someone who has followed the minimalist movement for many many years, I must say I have rarely heard such a logical and convincing approach to the topic as yours! And I certainly identify with you on the book issue. People who say having 30 books should be enough have always puzzled me… And thanks for your words on people who love „nick nacks“ (as we called them when I was a child) - I think I understand my husband better. It‘s a shame I live on the other side of the globe from you (EU) - I‘d love to run into you in the woods with our dogs.

  • @marianfrances4959
    @marianfrances4959 16 днів тому +4

    I went through a people-weeding phase! I've also thinned out my wardrobe, big time. I give things away, usually to charities. And thus year I mostly succeeded in simplifying my garden flowers (the annuals) allowing more room in pots for the few to grow and expand on their own, not over stuff them! I took a week long, solo van camping trip and tested out the "one fork /one spoon/one plate/one pot/one pan" thing - and loved it!!! Thanks Jen.👍😎🇨🇦💫

  • @user-xq4yr7xu1z
    @user-xq4yr7xu1z 16 днів тому +6

    I love the common sense advice of these videos. What a wise woman.

  • @rushingwindmountain
    @rushingwindmountain 15 днів тому +2

    I use to be a clutter rat , now as get older I realized most of my clutter were just that, clutter. I simple gave away and sold most, moved to the mountain and started a new lifestyle, spending more time capturing and sharing the beauty of nature and enjoying what I do to the fullest.😊

  • @HeronCoyote1234
    @HeronCoyote1234 16 днів тому +5

    You’re absolutely correct in stating minimalism is about control. I wonder if you were to ask minimalists if, during their younger years, they felt they had no control over anything in their lives, they were dismissed, put down, pushed to the side, always felt second best, how many would say yes. It took me six decades and an excellent therapist to realize the “why”s of my life.

    • @apropst5867
      @apropst5867 16 днів тому +2

      @HeronCoyote1234 and the some of the same reasons people hoard, because they never felt control of anything or that they were dismissed. Hmmm...makes you think.

  • @BennyC-qg6rd
    @BennyC-qg6rd 16 днів тому +6

    I use this saying all the time, and I may have used it on your videos. "Take Care of Number 1, and Don't Step in Number 2," Rodney Dangerfield.

  • @susanb.5806
    @susanb.5806 16 днів тому +9

    I needed to hear that keeping my books is OK. Libraries in my area (community and university) no longer want paper books. It breaks my heart to toss them at sales or Goodwill. 😊

  • @AmandaJYoungs
    @AmandaJYoungs 16 днів тому +3

    You've probably already heard of this quotation from William Morris: “Have nothing in your house that you do not know to be useful, or believe to be beautiful.” This is my kind of minimalism. Is this useful to me? Do I believe it's beautiful? Fine, I'll keep it. Otherwise, it goes! There is so much here in this video that I agree with. I like this channel very much. Thank you, Jen.

    • @AmandaJYoungs
      @AmandaJYoungs 16 днів тому +1

      Don't even let me get started about books. I'm still sulking because I will never be able to read ALL the books, and I must have discovered that shortly after I started to read independently.

  • @Brenda-m4g
    @Brenda-m4g 15 днів тому +2

    Yup, there are a lot of crappy people who can worm their way in if not curated carefully. Thanks for the reminder.

  • @debradawson3051
    @debradawson3051 13 днів тому +3

    Thank you for this wonderful video. I subscribed to 3-4 minimalist channels for the last 6-12 months and recently unsubscribed from all of them. Like you, I have many passions: reading, gardening, baking, sewing, quilting, collage, knitting, needlework. Pursuing my interests requires quality tools, materials, space and financial investment and time. A blank space that reveals nothing about an individual gives me anxiety; a space filled with warmth, lovingly cared for,with objects that reflect the owner’s personality and interests piques my curiosity, whether it’s books, art, houseplants, antiques, travel mementos,etc. I may be a maximalist, but a discerning one or an intentional minimalist. As long as you are being true to you, no labels are needed.

  • @walkingexercise5375
    @walkingexercise5375 16 днів тому +6

    Thanks for the reflective and insightful conversation! Morgan Harper Nichols has an affirmation that says " I am making room for things that heal my heart". I also been watching video here on UA-cam about self-care. For example, Diane in Denmark on some of her Friday videos called weekly planning self-care gives four self-care assignments/ideas that one can choose from for the week and in those videos she mentioned ideas like spending time in nature, creativity, new recipes, listening to music. Also Mariane Cresp mentioned in her boost your mood video about creativity and music.

  • @GriotofAfrica
    @GriotofAfrica 16 днів тому +9

    I like to declutter and keep things simple. Helps me think clearer and get things done more efficiently...Thanks for your video and thoughts...

  • @kimb884
    @kimb884 16 днів тому +5

    Really wise and thoughtful video. Books are my thing, too. Your video helped me understand how it’s not so crazy I have so many books. They bring me so much joy. I declutter stuff that has provides no joy. And I’m also learning to gently release friends who do not add positivity to my life.

  • @hollyerickson6364
    @hollyerickson6364 16 днів тому +2

    I really like your take on this. The extreme "minimalism" that some people promote as owning as few objects as humanly possible, will never ever work for me. But the idea of being intentional, mindful and making conscious decisions about what deserves time/space in my life... that is wonderful. I'm with you on that. Thanks for sharing!

  • @wendybowman5305
    @wendybowman5305 11 днів тому +1

    I learned a new word today. Bibliosmia. I love it & like you I love books. 📚 mine mean so much to me. I love your take on minimalism & it is so refreshing. All those areas of life yup especially people. I want to be with someone who is forward thinking & positive about their life. I will slowly let go of those who cannot be that. I wish them well however I need to move on. With relatives I just don’t spend lots of time with the ones that are not adding something to my life. I enjoyed the video a lot. Thanks Jen

  • @donnas2ndhome
    @donnas2ndhome 16 днів тому +6

    Thank you Jen for another great video and insight. I agree that many people's definitions of minimalism will be different from others. I personally find having a lot of "stuff" adds a lot of "static and noise" to my environment when I am looking for clearing and clarity. I have zero problem decluttering things that don't serve me but I do like to keep things that as Marie Kondo would say, "bring me joy"-as long as it's not looking cluttered and claustrophobic to me. I like books, but I do clear out ones that don't have some personal meaning to me after awhile. I do have a few I have kept for many years. Funny enough, the book that I have owned the longest is a book by Elaine St. James called, "Living The Simple Life" (1996) which I happen to be about 80% through re-reading 😂. We may have different views on book collections, but I stand united with you on kitchen implements 🤣 and it's all 100% okay because we are bringing ourselves happiness through what minimalism means to us.

    • @cherylp7841
      @cherylp7841 16 днів тому +2

      Thanks! I just downloaded the book after your recommendation. I liked the reviews a lot! ❤

    • @donnas2ndhome
      @donnas2ndhome 16 днів тому +1

      @@cherylp7841 WOW! I hope you like it. Please remember that the book was written in the mid 90s and some things she is talking about decluttering are a bit outdated now but you can still apply the principles❤️

  • @shawneeb3771
    @shawneeb3771 16 днів тому +3

    I love the Japanese way of decluttering, hold the object you own and if it dose not bring you great joy you throw it away or give it away. This is put in the easiest way but there is so much more to this idea.

    • @AZHITW
      @AZHITW 16 днів тому +5

      I have a rock, it has a hole in it, you can hang it from a rope, it is the size of a softball, I call it my weather rock, I've hauled that rock around for 50 years, it came from a creek that ran in front of my childhood home, I hold the rock and it brings me great joy, I'm keeping it. LOL!

  • @glendagai
    @glendagai 13 годин тому

    I am just going to say Amen….. Thank you. Books, Books, Books. I get you Jen.

  • @lynne6336
    @lynne6336 13 днів тому +2

    Thank you for sharing your perspective on minimalism! It was personal, insightful and very helpful! Thank you!❤

  • @DestinationRetirement
    @DestinationRetirement 15 днів тому +1

    I sold my 2,000 sf house and built a 550sf house! I don’t miss a darn thing and all my books fit! The end goal being my move to Mexico. Great video as always.

  • @cotter9751
    @cotter9751 16 днів тому +3

    Didn’t realize it, but this is my style of minimalism. And for the things that bring me joy but have no purpose (like my collection of pig things) I put the collection in a container. So I have a pickle jar full of wee pig statues. I have a bag full of bubble wrap collected from things sent to me, I have a box of wool socks, and a dresser of yarn. This is my minimalist.

  • @jacquelinedalamal
    @jacquelinedalamal 16 днів тому +7

    Your happiness comes first!❤

  • @silentnot4812
    @silentnot4812 16 днів тому +7

    I used to have lots of books, but decided to downsize due to the availability of books online. However, electronic books can be “disappeared” or changed. Now I think it is inportant for physical books to be maintained and passed along to future generations. We have put too much trust in the “just trust me” people. Technology may turn out to be a curse.

    • @bthomson
      @bthomson 16 днів тому +1

      All of a sudden my physical books seem more valuable now! Thanks for the eye opener!

  • @CashBudgetRetiree
    @CashBudgetRetiree 16 днів тому +16

    ❤ Hi Jen! ❤ Minimalism? Ahh, the infamous desire to control.
    3:40 "Minimalism is the intentional promotion of the things that bring you joy and the removal of those that do not." ~ Joshua Becker, Becoming Minimalist.

  • @trumax33
    @trumax33 14 днів тому +1

    My keywords in my life concerning my belongings: individuality, curation & minimal-ish.

  • @h.m.3-L
    @h.m.3-L 16 днів тому +6

    Thank you so much for these life lessons. There is a lot to learn on the path of life that I Wish I had known earlier, but it’s not too late, l hope! 😊

  • @susanmason3432
    @susanmason3432 16 днів тому +7

    Great real life & helpful information to me. Thank you Jen

  • @dudswoo
    @dudswoo 16 днів тому +9

    Jen, you are describing a thoughtful life, which I like better than the "minimalist." label. I am definitely a minimalist about people.

  • @deselygolightly6554
    @deselygolightly6554 15 днів тому +3

    When I was younger my dream was to always own a second hand book shop just so I could smell books all day...

  • @JackieWolven
    @JackieWolven 16 днів тому +5

    Oh yep. It’s a mindset. It’s absolutely about curation.

  • @SunshineAhead-SA
    @SunshineAhead-SA 15 днів тому +2

    Silver and Solo, I'm subscribed and you are now officially a part of my minimalist world! Thank you for a great video! =)

  • @maggiea6766
    @maggiea6766 12 днів тому +2

    Ah books, smell, look, feel. Yes

  • @NOT-WOKE-007
    @NOT-WOKE-007 16 днів тому +1

    I love going through my closet, bagging up things I just don’t need anymore. It feels good to donate to Goodwill. I need to do that more often. Have a great week Jen!

  • @TinyBarnFarm
    @TinyBarnFarm 14 днів тому +1

    Thank you Jen for this. I'm also a Jen! Lol. I agree, just being conscious of your decisions is a step in the direction of a more calm and contemplative life, which opens up creativity and space between things. I love your channel.

  • @AlisonGreenValleyCrone
    @AlisonGreenValleyCrone 16 днів тому +2

    Ooo like this. I’ve been getting more and more intentional with everything, everybody and every bit of time in my life. I’m in my sixties so aware of ‘end date’ and I really wish to make the most of time left on this earth, make the right decisions for me. Thank you

  • @darlingd01
    @darlingd01 14 днів тому +1

    I love books also, and have been learning ways to make my bookshelf, look like a work of art. I like to find ways to have items like book, but displaying with beauty that inspires. I like to hear your perspective. I agree with your approach to minimalism. Enjoy the day!

  • @mollieanne
    @mollieanne 16 днів тому +2

    I am grateful my husband and I have the same taste and he does not have a collection of anything lol I pretty much have a cottage core look in our home. It was not intentional, but just ended up this way. I am an artist and appreciate original works of art from other artists too. So our home is mostly of art and items from our parents who are not here anymore. But not a lot of things, just meaningful items to us.

  • @susiemartin6497
    @susiemartin6497 16 днів тому +2

    Ahhh wuthering heights!@... Oh your comments about draining friendships resonate so deeply here!! And I have definitely been pulling away from those.. Time is short and generally speaking.It's important to have relationships that edify

  • @user-mz5er4bq8g
    @user-mz5er4bq8g 16 днів тому +4

    Thank you for helping me understand myself better !

  • @Pippip_2009
    @Pippip_2009 15 днів тому +1

    Thank you for a meaningful video. I (woman, 57) recognize a lot of myself in what you are saying. Going through a decluttering of my home, your kind of minimalism is close to what I am striving for. By the way, you actually can buy a microwave that lasts for 30 years. I got mine in 1993 and it is still working perfectly fine.

  • @Vineyardedge
    @Vineyardedge 16 днів тому +5

    ❤Thank you for another great video! Thank you for the wise words. I have a mindset of abundance and my photo is on the definition page for pack rat. 😂 I have some great books! 🎉

  • @KathyDuncan9
    @KathyDuncan9 16 днів тому +2

    Great video! Books and art supplies are my joy. I'm currently in the process of purging my closets and drawers. It feels wonderful to release that which no longer serves me.

  • @anneclements2473
    @anneclements2473 16 днів тому +3

    I was just about to set to and sort out some stuff for a jumble sale. Now I feel much better about it! A good set of questions to ask of each item. Not sure I’ll be very good at doing the same with people though. Too much of a pleaser. Still start small with things and practise.

  • @susanphend2189
    @susanphend2189 16 днів тому +2

    Excellent video, Jen! I’m currently struggling with possessions and not enjoying them for various reasons. Your words are so helpful. Thank you!

  • @theanniebauer
    @theanniebauer 4 дні тому

    Good poiint! Minimalism is about control. In psychology, it's called internal locus of control. Basically, you realize you have control, you define it, and you exercise it. You presented this really well! Thank you! (Oh, and bibliosmia. You just taught me a new word!)

  • @kaceykelly7222
    @kaceykelly7222 16 днів тому +1

    I absolutely LOVE this episode! Especially when you talked about removing a negative person from your life (we can do that??)
    All of us either fondly related or gratefully learned something from what you shared.
    For me, it was both. ❤ Thanks!

  • @GoingGreenMom
    @GoingGreenMom 2 дні тому

    I'm a visual clutterbug. If something is out of sight, it might as well not exist. But I try to just have what we need, use, and love.

  • @ChantillyWhite
    @ChantillyWhite 16 днів тому +1

    I'm a happy maximalist, LOL, but I think your minimalist definition (pretty much) works for me, as well--because everything I have brings me joy. I'm sitting at my kitchen table right now, looking over my very full family room, and can honestly say that every single thing in it (except the God-awful, ugly brown couch I got coerced into purchasing when our last one finally broke down after 15 years and will be replacing as soon as $$$ permits) brings me great joy, sparks wonderful memories, and has been curated over a lifetime. Everyone in my family is engaged in at least one type of artwork or another, so we have photographs, drawings, and paintings on the walls and in frames on flat surfaces, crafted items and books published on shelves, knick-knacks from events and travels, and collectibles from my many passions and interests. My fridge is COVERED in magnets! :) But they're all meaningful to me. My TBR pile is towering. I have multiple full bookcases in every room, including my complete sets of Nancy Drew and Trixie Belden mysteries, which started me on my path as a reader when I was 8 and are now nearly 50 years old. I have finally, sadly, purged a great many books (to my everlasting regret, but I was out of room), but not those ones. I feel cozy, comfortable, and content, and surrounded by beauty and fun.

  • @jasminaboulanger7525
    @jasminaboulanger7525 14 днів тому +1

    Such an intelligent approach. Especially about books - they are my friends and it’s hard to let any of them go.😊

  • @fourdayhomestead2839
    @fourdayhomestead2839 16 днів тому +1

    😊 I am recently a true minimalist (I didn't realize it when I started saying no). The yes made more sense to me.

  • @veralubov7405
    @veralubov7405 13 днів тому

    Hello Jen, a couple of days ago, I came across your channel and realized that a lot of things resonate with me, so I have subscribed. Yes, I am also an introvert, loving QUALITY in everything and everyone, books that still have meaning to me, even those that I bought at the adolescence stage (which was a long while ago), cards and gifts dear to my heart, no matter how old they are. I can wear some clothes for 30 (!) years since they are perfectly clean (I am quite an accurate person), still are comfortable and look beautiful. Cooking is my passion, especially after moving to a keto diet, as a result, I need a bit more kitchen stuff than before, and I simply LOVE it! I make very careful choices about things and people; apparently, I can also be called a minimalist😊. Thanks for your thoughts!

  • @mark98011
    @mark98011 16 днів тому +2

    Regarding relationships… My former spouse didn’t bring joy so I had to say goodbye to that relationship.
    I am trying to practice minimalism regarding television watching… Political programs haven’t been sparking much joy lately, so I’m making a conscious effort to turn them off.
    Thanks for this episode…
    PS: Gentle Podcaster, methinks you might be a watcher of Bridgerton.

  • @paulahastings7865
    @paulahastings7865 16 днів тому +1

    Have gotten rid of lots of excess stuff. It's a constant battle. Found a cute idea "Cozy minimalist"

  • @2000konnie
    @2000konnie 16 днів тому +1

    I kind of think minimalism is in the eye of the beholder. I'm very mindful of what I buy, and where it's going to wind up. That wasn't always the case. So true about being around negative people - if you don't have to. Even if they are really nice, I avoid the ones that only want to talk about "gloom and doom", and I also don't want to hear about all of their medical issues in excruciating detail (unless there is context for such information). On a social basis, I prefer escapism such as discussing movies, TV series, music, etc. So, I'm a minimalist in people that I have a choice to be around or not. :) Thanks for another thoughtful video.

  • @CarolFox-ut2fg
    @CarolFox-ut2fg 15 днів тому +1

    I loved it especially about the way to view relationships in our lives. It resonated with me. Very wise. Thank you.

  • @lisamonalisahikes
    @lisamonalisahikes 16 днів тому +2

    I’m just like you, I have things I use and love. Like you I like to buy from local artisans while traveling 😊 Great video!

  • @karenbenedict4480
    @karenbenedict4480 10 днів тому

    Also, I have books in every room and I’m definitely not letting any of them go. I have always loved books. Other things I’m learning to let go of, but books do smell lovely.

  • @Harry-fk5of
    @Harry-fk5of 15 днів тому +1

    My place is pretty minimal. I have all of the things I want around me, but it's not cluttered. The strange thing is when I have my washing hanging up over chairs and a pile of books and papers on the table, I feel more relaxed. It's like I can see that a human (me) is existing and living in the space, proof that I'm here.
    Giving myself a quieter life, with fewer people in my orbit has given me more peace of mind than anything else.

  • @michaelduke4500
    @michaelduke4500 16 днів тому +1

    Sometimes you need to take the trash out, look at your area(s), and go, WOW, I can breathe now. Be it persons or things. Great info Jen, and I am with you on the books. Books are like brain candy to me; that was why I was in the printing and publishing industry for so long when it was a craft career.

  • @ennasus5964
    @ennasus5964 16 днів тому +1

    This is the first time I hear someone with this perspective. Food for thought. I tend to agree with you. 🙂

  • @callmecubby
    @callmecubby 14 днів тому +1

    Speaking of books, I’d love to see some of your collection in a video one day!

  • @Kathysart
    @Kathysart 8 днів тому

    Well… I need to try to be a minimalist. My mom was so good at it. Wait… I do keep an ongoing give to charity box! Humm… maybe I am a minimalist! Yay! 🍃🌸🍃

  • @maryc1952
    @maryc1952 16 днів тому +1

    You make a lot of good points. For myself, as far as books and how many, I would say my limit would be determined by the amount of space i have for them. For me, it becomes clutter, when they end up in piles on the floor or on every surface. So, I like the "a place for everything and everything in it's place" approach. The same goes for clothes. I am still working on the best capsule wardrobe for me considering my current needs. But whatever I have has to fit in the space I have. When you live in a small space, you have to make choices. The same should apply to larger spaces as well.

  • @070707SAM
    @070707SAM 14 днів тому +1

    This is such an awesome video! I needed to hear this today. Thank you.
    I am on the road to becoming a minimalist.

  • @user-bh4li6vs2f
    @user-bh4li6vs2f 16 днів тому +2

    Good morning Jen! I really enjoyed today’s video and never looked at being a minimalist with your definition in mind. Always try to keep most everything in my life simple and do what brings me joy and satisfaction.
    Thank you ❤

  • @dustbun2i5
    @dustbun2i5 14 днів тому +1

    Well said!! I agree. Thank you Jen

  • @dianesimmons9199
    @dianesimmons9199 16 днів тому +3

    Love your insights Jen👍

  • @karenphillippi403
    @karenphillippi403 16 днів тому +1

    Your best video yet!🎉🎉 What a huge light bulb moment for me when you said it was control! And choosing! And I'm with you 100⁰% with books! 👍
    Thanks

  • @HeronCoyote1234
    @HeronCoyote1234 16 днів тому +1

    New sub. Excellent video. Watching you, it feels comfortable, like you’re an old, dear friend. Speaking of friends, I had to distance myself from two last year, and one just recently, as they were rather toxic for me.
    I’m a cozy minimalist. My thing is artwork, like in museums. I get large prints (John Singer Sargent, Tiffany, Victorian florals, old Chinese paintings…), and frame them as though in the Met or the Louvre. I also have a couple of unusual pieces of “furniture”: two cat trees (my cat is living with his other parent), which house singing bowls. I own 26 books (including seven cookbooks), all of which I’ve read and reread. (My sanctuary is the library.)
    I look forward to watching more of your videos.

  • @joniyouse3488
    @joniyouse3488 16 днів тому +1

    Recently went through some water damage, and really needed to hear this today!!! Thank you.

  • @mariarooney6262
    @mariarooney6262 16 днів тому +1

    So satisfying hearing your brilliant assessment of minimalism. Thank you. I love listening to you speak.❤️

  • @kathleenhill5838
    @kathleenhill5838 16 днів тому +2

    Thanks for your insight on this subject. Have a great day 🎉

  • @janetpotter2365
    @janetpotter2365 16 днів тому +3

    Thank you, I needed this today.

  • @mariamaria_4957
    @mariamaria_4957 16 днів тому

    I’ve been trying to live a frugally,simple life.I am happy that I found your channel.Learned a lot and from now on , I will declutter my mind and the people that surrounds me.Care for my self first and not others.

  • @carolinepierson6776
    @carolinepierson6776 16 днів тому +3

    Thankyou for such a thoughtful and interesting post. From my pov what you are talking about is more essentialism and mindfulness. There is the essentialism book which is quite heavily business orientated but does look at all aspects of life. I enjoy your confidence. I am only just learning to have confidence in myself. ❤

  • @user-hc6so5ul6o
    @user-hc6so5ul6o 16 днів тому

    I definitely sense the English major in you coming to light in this video! The older I get the more aware I am of curating any new stuff that I choose to bring into my life. I hadn't thought much about that applying to people though, because I have always been a minimalist where people are concerned. So thank you for that new perspective and the confirmation that it is completely OK to be that way.

  • @carlafranklin128
    @carlafranklin128 15 днів тому

    I found you yesterday and I too, am into putting on a youtube channel and, while I have watched youtube videos for years, I am 66 and know nothing about how to do it. I am itching to make some so....I am learning from people of our age to do just that! And, since you brought up books, let me tell you...I raised my kids on homeschooling and I bought McGuffy readers and antique books to have them learn about the history and how to read. I love them and love the smell!!!!!!!!!! I had six huge shelves of them and I adored every one. They got destroyed so I am now starting over. And I will always love books, especially old, antique ones. I bought them as old as the history that I was teaching at the time so it was as authentic as possible. So fun!! Anyway, glad I found you and I will keep watching!! Take care!

  • @NormalnotNormal1234
    @NormalnotNormal1234 16 днів тому

    Jen...Yes ,Yes, Yes........I love love the way you put things....and I totally agree. I have to say that I was just looking through a Minimalist book and said to myself " they are keeping everything they love" because they had what I thought was a lot for me yet I have a lot of things too...LOL... Thank you for sharing.

  • @candeemartini9464
    @candeemartini9464 16 днів тому +3

    Awesome!! Thank You!! 😊