Great video Simon. For me, it's not trying to do everything yo have on your To Do List that day. Focus only on the top 2 or 3 priorities. Secondly, not a thing that I have removed, but more about adding, I check in with myself through the day, to see how I am doing, where am I at, how I am feeling (perspective/reflection), and ask if I need anything to change/add/remove.
Enabling, people pleasing, needing to be right, putting myself down, caring what people think, expectations, gossiping, staying comfortable, eating processed food…💖
Very insightful. Thank you for sharing this with us. I'm 65 and two years ago I was contemplating a cross country trip on a motorcycle. Something I always dreamed about. All the negativity and voices from others told me not to do it, it's too dangerous etc. I felt something within that was saying if I didn't do it I would always regret NOT doing it. I went away from the negative people and I planned it out and I DID IT! At 64 I rode all the way to the west coast and it wasn't the destination but the journey that was so fulfilling. I met people from all different walks of life on the way and got to see things I never would have seen if I would have stayed safe. Thanks again for sharing this. New sub'r here.
at 57, recently played lacrosse with a pickup league while staying in phoenix for a year. if 57 were too old, 58 and beyond would be even moreso. like your trip: best thing i ever did for a variety of reasons. good on you for hitting the road while you still are in good enough shape for it.
I don't make "to-do lists" anymore, I was always behind, and not enjoying the day of work. Now I put only one task in front of me and jump on it, one at the time.
1 - morning workout 2 - no social media in the week 3 - as much water as possible during the day 4 - reading before bed 5 - 8 hours sleep 6 - 2 coffees maximum Game changer!
That is one of my three guiding quotes/sayings. The others are "Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has magic, genius and power in it. Begin it now." Said to be by Goethe. And third one, "If you can move it an inch, you can move it a mile."
After I was 63yo I started (finally) working on myself and did what I wanted the most: being fit and healthy. I lost 40 kilo and now at 69yo I am fitter than ever and have no medication (for diabetes etc) anymore. Now I work as a registered HeartMath heartcoherence coach and inspire others. My life turned for 180 degrees ❤ I did most of the things you mentioned, I am now decluttering my house (it is called döstädning in Swedish). Thank you for this video. Greetings from the Netherlands ❤
I quit eating sweets, and eat mostly whole food. I quit paying attention to my unhelpful negative thoughts. I quit taking things personally. Lots of things are out of my system that didn’t serve me.
Quit noise. Try to be analog. You don’t always need AirPods in your ears. Just go outside with nothing but your shoes and listen, look, SEE nature. It is amazing how present you can become with nothing in your pocket or in your ears.
@@markeugenelee2083 The addict names a cancer and destroys everything in their lives and everyone around them. The don’t even care about themselves, let alone you.
I also agree on that. Any gadgets while working makes me exhausted everyday because of the noise and the radiation. I feel it after having 3 kids they are all cesarian. The youngest are 1 yr gap. I feel relaxed when no electronics working around me. I find it peaceful! ❤
@@jimtoner9602 It wasn't until my late 40's did I start to let go. You don't have to forgive, you have to live well and have control of your life. I was lucky to have skills where I could move on if I had toxic managers. I was lucky to afford to live alone. I divorced in my early 40's and was able to rebuild my life. I have pretty cool life now in my 60's. It doesn't get easier if you drop the hatred.
Excellent tips you gave. Some tips that have helped me: 1. Never put off things that could be done today so you don’t carry that burden into tomorrow. 2. Strive to do what excites you to keep you vibrating at a high level. 3. What you put out is what you get back. Put out positivity and people will reflect your positivity back to you and you will in the flow of synchronicity. 4. Be yourself. You all have your own signature vibration and frequency, just be yourself, it’s too much work, too complicated to be an actor. 5 circumstances don’t matter, only your mindset matters. Keep your mindset positive.
@@simonalexandero Thanks. Credit goes to Bashar. Been listening to him for over 20 years. Changed my life. ua-cam.com/video/9gl4CkWhc3Y/v-deo.htmlsi=0G7ie9fIZqTHk5AR
At age 60 I decided to sell my house and car and all belongings- went off to travel the world a dream of mine. I am now continuing to do serious documentary photography but on my own terms . Hello from the Pacific coast of Mexico! Simplicity is key it’s freedom!
Brave. I just turned 60, & what you have done, has been a dream of mine, all along. I don’t have your courage, & I am also married. My husband, also 60, has not yet agreed to this! 😑 ugh
My work environment is extremely unstable and I stopped worrying about uncertainties as I can't control it. I focused on what I can control and what I decide to accept ... or not
I quit helping everyone. Before without thinking helped every time if I could, even when not asked. And realized that in most case, my helpfullnes resulted I was abused. Now before helping others, I evaluate what the result for me will be, and if they deserve it.
Thank you for a great video. I quit living in the U.S. I sold my house, cars, etc., and bought a property in Japan. Now I am trying to find my niche here. Your video provided me good self-assessment tools that I will incorporate in my thought process going forward.
Three things: I am trying to stop being profane. I can do better than that. I work the problem. Instead of complaining and blaming others I work towards a solution. I choose not to be angry. It's a choice.
I wish that I'd had your videos in my youth. I'm 75 and still learning about life. I believe in appreciating the simple things in life, a sunrise/sunset,a puppy, a newborn baby. There is a lot of joy in simple things. I wish people would look up instead of looking at screens, especially the very young. I feel that they are missing out on so much around them.
Your video is on point for me today - today I decided to give up being "too nice". Yes, we can be too good and too helpful, often at a high cost to our own mental, spiritual and physical well being. I drew a line in the sand and decided to respect myself enough to say No Thank You. Great content, TY.
Over and over, I relearn that if a decision (not-life-or-death) has to be made with urgency, it probably is a bad decision. Good choices come from taking time to think about them :) I really enjoy your videos, they are a great way to help me realign my internal compass. Thank you for sharing your thoughts!
Currently staying on a small boat to spend some time in solitude. It’s very surprising what you don’t need, simplify cooking was the first lesson. Nuts and fruit for breakfast = No cooking. Unsubscribe to emails was yesterdays task and will carry on with that until mailbox is only essential. Thanks for video, subscribed.
I stopped using social media for a week now and just marvel the effects of it, I was able to restore my focus and avoid secondhand stress from these random posts. I agree with you, less is more. Whenever I try to remove something that doesn't serve me I always think of "what will I gain from this?" instead of "what will lose from this". Want to share that I changed my habit of mindlessly scrolling my phone early in the morning and replaced it by watching in your channel 😊
I am busy remodeling my life and learning new skills so I can do freelance work after I retire. You video could not have come at a better time. Thank you so much.
You have covered almost everything and the best two things I liked was “ When you look social media post look for inspiration and the 2nd one was it dose not matter how much you read or listen those podcast it’s how much you implement. Thanks
I try to distance myself fr negativity and as I am getting older I try to fill my free time w people that are more positive. Also I have made self care a priority. Easier to do since my girls are adults. It’s nice to think of yourself and your likes
I quit my country recently. On one hand, better psychological state. On the other, the rest is a struggle. Still, I'm better off elsewhere than my "place" of exodus ❤ full forward 🙌
When I began grad school 20 years ago, I unplugged my TV, put it in its box and stored it away, because I suspected that I would otherwise be unable to keep up with the immense amount of reading and writing that the program required. It was hard at first, and I had to fight the urge to take it out and plug it back in. But it became easier as schoolwork demanded more and more of my attention. Since I broke the habit, it has stayed broken. Watching broadcast TV is a lot like being spoon-fed; it has a hypnotizing and enervating effect on the psyche.
God brought me to your video. For some reason, I woke at 4am. Went to my computer to consume social media, because that is all I typically do. I stopped drinking alcohol a few days ago as I became an embarrassment to my grown children. (I am 67 years-old). Five minutes before finding this video, I ordered the book 'Meditations', by Marcus Aurelius. (Maybe, that's what brought me here). To conclude, if I'm going to live a meaningful and as long a life as possible, I need to make some changes. Your video has put me on that path. Thank you.
I wanted to let you know that I found the video to be amazing! The point about creating vsconsuming really resonated with me, as did the part about seeing constraints in a positive light. In my role running a larger mortgage office, I attend many meetings that generate fantastic ideas, but I often move on to the next project before completing the current one. Similarly, I can relate to the constraints mentioned in the video. My son, who is my first child, just turned one, and the impact on my lifestyle and availability has been significant. However, it has also been an incredible experience to watch him grow. Thank you for sharing this content. I believe that material like this can genuinely benefit people in numerous ways. 🙂
The big negativity throughout my life has been my family. They don’t support my positive energy. Imagine them as the metal, lead. So now I keep minimal or 0 communication with them & started repairing: ME & my own family. Great video.
My cousin who sleeps only after 1am on a regular basis (couple with minimal exercise and poor diet) suffered fr partial stroke at only 44 yrs of age. Road to full recovery is long and hard but he's trying.
Thank you for sharing this information with us. It really resonates with me. Regarding to the last one. Once I tried to minimize number my clothes, it happened that I started to dress simple and wear the same things over and over again. Finally I realized that not number but quality really matters and of course consciously make choices. I live in country where we have up to - 40 in winter, so last advice is just a dream😊
Hi! I just discovered your channel. "Taking responsiblity is harder. Don't be allergic to personal responsibility, because only when you take full ownership of where you are and where you want to be, can life really begin." Words of Wisdom! I see you also take notes from stoicism. I'm at the crossroads of my life now. I gotta quit the alcohol and the nicotine chewing gum and get my body in shape, so I can have my life back! Maybe drink only on the celebration occations, and leave it at that! Seems that you, Simon Alexander Ong, have lots of wisdom and have it together. Stay humble in your path! I wish you well! Best regards, Alex
@@simonalexandero I appreciate that you replied to my comment! I see you reply to (almost?) everyone. Keep doing that, if you wish (not every channel's speaker is doing what you do). It helps keeping connected to the audience, though. I liked that you even replied humbly to the sceptic comment after my comment, saying it's something you would dig into more in future videos (about how by shear force of will and choice, you started doing differently). Yes, it's a MUST that I must quit those things. I realized, that one must keep in mind the possible benefits of the good changes in life ALL THE TIME. When the excusing mind set comes in (saying it's okay if I just keep getting drunk all the time), I just need to focus on what's good in my life's changing decisions. I thought about writing it down, to differentiate the positive reasons/outcomes and the negative reasons/outcomes in my life - if I decide to stick with my plan to quit or not to quit. What are your thoughts about this, Simon, to make a good change in life a permanent thing?
@@Alex-i6b6g what makes it easier to stick to something is to connect with your future self, e.g. get clear on the identity of the person you would like to become and then operate from that future self in the present. So if your future self is living a healthy life well into their senior years what choices must you be making today for that to happen. For when the vision is magnetic and compelling, the choices in the present become clear ❤️
@@simonalexandero I'm familiar with the concept of the future self, especially, of making my future self proud! Thank you for reminding me (I had almost forgotten it), it's such an important concept! Another concept that I had discovered, that had an huge impact on me, is that we all must suffer either of the two choices: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. I'd rather choose the pain of discipline, than the pain of regret.
Bravo, Simon! You present ideas in the utmost concise manner so that everything makes sense and is memorable. There are strategies i try to live by in order to be more productive and happy. 1) no gossiping about others or myself. This means telling stories in a negative light. 2) Be aware of and quickly eliminate disempowering thoughts. This skill is powered by meditation, as it allows one to see oneself from a 3rd person perspective. 3) be self-expressive - share your thoughts with others and find your voice. 4) always be on time for every appointment/commitment. 5) quit lying to your self and others. The odd embellishment in a story to entertain? Sure. But stop lying otherwise. 6) always move with grace. Let other drivers in, don't get mad if you are cut off, etc. Essentially, take the high road. This is empowering.
I had to get rid of toxic relationships or people I used to come across for formality reasons. Now I am back to my personal free space and time. Through meditations and cutting internal cords I felt relieved. I live only in the present not in the past accepting the bullying / mobbing from many different persons I had met - through my job mostly, without wanting to. Protecting my time and space and watching also what stimuli I receive, I am a different person now.
Accepting failure & knowing when to stop. For me this is hard because I seem to always dream up another idea on how to survive a bad business decision, or a bad commitment to help someone who isn't helping themselves. In both instances I prolong the agony. This is very hard for me...very hard; I'm still making wagon wheels for horse drawn carriages
If you think about that experiment about building the highest tower it is so true. We learn from our actions creating better luck because we are in the situation ready to respond and not overthinking and end up taking no action. True to life for many things. Thanks for reminding.
This was a fun video to watch. Navigating my projects and work load has left me with no goals. zippo..nadda... When a good video comes along it gets the mind warmed up and thinking again. Have a super day!
Wow.. the one that hit me hard was the question "How much longer will you avoid doing what you are capable of in order to continue with what you are comfortabe doing?" i'm in that stage now... hope this wii motivate me to do what i really want to do...thank you! new sub here
@@simonalexandero also I have noticed that spending time in social media may give you a bad day. Occupy a lot of unproductive time. And will drain your mind a lot to the point you don't accomplish anything. It's true that it's like the dopamine effect that when you start to get addictive. It can be harmful to our brains. Since it teaches us to multitask and in the end leaves us stressed out. Without social media I enjoy the present moment even more.
I appreciate your minimalistic approach, even when I download your video. It's only 100mb for 16 minutes, which is much more manageable than the 700-900mb I've seen on other channels for the same length of time.
It’s so refreshing to hear somebody, an authority, no less, speak about the concepts that I’ve upheld for the last few years. It meant going against the majority, and being an outcast, but I was convinced it was the right thing to do. Each day, I look around and saw people who haven’t understood what it was to be really “free”. I’ve cut off toxic people from my life, family included. I’ve long quit social media, except the ones I use to communicate with colleagues at work. I’ve stopped watching the news and listening to people whose agenda was to manipulate others. I’ve stopped wearing fashionable clothes and stuck to 6 sets of work clothes and a couple of sneakers. Realizing that life is really short, I’ve carefully planned and done my traveling because reconnecting with people and exploring the world made me really happy. I’ve kept playing a sport that my peers would discourage me from doing because I’m 54 years old, but I still can do, and fairly well as people would say, all because it made me happy. And also because if I didn’t play it, I will definitely regret not having done it when the time comes that my body wouldn’t allow me to. I still got a lot of ideas that need to be pursued and executed but only so much time. I understand our limitations include being mortal. And so, before my eyes close and I rest for eternity, I understand I need to keep doing what makes me feel alive. Thank you, Simon. Thank you for making me feel understood and acknowledged. People have called me “weird” because of how I live my life. As it turns out, I’m not the weird one after all. 😁
Thoroughly enjoyed reading your comment! You have discovered what it means to live life on your terms and to live this short life we have wisely. So much that we can all learn from your share here. Thank you ❤️
@@simonalexandero Hi Simon. I am humbled by your comment 😉. I am truly grateful for the opportunity to finally speak this truth. Most people don’t wanna hear stuff like these. ☺️But I am mostly grateful for people like you who continue to enlighten us. Thank you so much. Looking forward to more learnings from you. ☺️
I am in the planning stages of moving to an off-grid life - to have no mortgage, less bills, be able to change my job to a less stressful (less hours or different job altogether) and to challenge myself so that I learn and quicken, be closer to nature. I want to get off the hamster wheel.
I can testify early mornings. I'm up at 418. Clean up, gratitude 🙏 prayers, and an efficient workout in my prayer room. Every day 365 !!! There's also a breathing exercise and a child's pose stretch in the workout, which is meaningful. I invest that 1 hour in myself, and it is way more important than my coffee and the news that soon follows.
I would add that when you do spend more time in solitude, you begin to understand that you are not your thoughts, merely the observer of them and that at any given moment you can choose one over the other. And that is powerful since we live in the feeling of our thinking.
More content like this please, Most people want to keep making excuses and i have been there, that being said there comes a point no more excuses even to yourself.
Simon, love your unique perspectives and rare quotes you share, also started a newsletter, being scared to take the first step, am sure going to quote you there a lot. Anyway, looking forward to consuming more of your content. Cheers. Man I paused the video to write this and I thought of that exact Bruce Lee quote but didn't write it.
I quit trying to find work and started relying on my relationship with Jesus. Peace returned into my life and my health improved because I discovered I was free and blessed❤
Things I have done: Self-employment has given me freedoms and flexibility. Take prudent chances. Cut back on news and social media and comparisons, it's very toxic. Get plenty of rest and structure my life so I can sleep in and awaken without an alarm clock. Spend time in nature, with pets, etc. and live in the moment, appreciating simple things. Be kind, say kind things to people. Treat yourself to nice things, but be financially prudent. Maintain friendships. Keep your hobbies and interests. Stop competing with the world, just do your best.
Love all your ideas! Threw out TV long ago. But still need to declutter and stop watching too many UA-cam videos. Need to get more sleep, exercise, and prioritize my health. Still a long way to go, but you have inspired me to keep it up! Thank you!
Being a minimalist works until there is an emergency, when that happens the minimalist relies upon the kindness of others. That is not how I wish to live, because resilience is important to me.
Well, I'm guessing the commenter meant...that maybe most minimalists don't have tools or extras, so if something goes wrong, they most likely would have to ask a neighbor for help? In reality, most of us need others. I'm now an "old lady", I guess, at 60, and I need help sometimes. Think of your car sliding off the road, into a deep ditch, out of cell phone range. This is what I mean by we all, many of us, will run into needing others sooner or later. I think in the last century people needed each other, or, were much less shy about asking neighbors for help!!!
I quit watching the local news in the morning. Some may say that's not responsible as a citizen, or ask "Don't you want to know what's going on?" The main reason I tuned in was for the weather & how to dress or prepare that day. A quick tap of the weather app on my phone gave me that in seconds. I realized that I had all this background chatter in my head even after turning off the TV and leaving for work. Also my focus was different, or more flexible after I made the change.
Very strong and wise words spoken! These are great insights to follow. After watching this I think that I have to quit a lot. And I feel good about it. Maybe that's a good start.
I have quit answering the phone when, I am either reading or enjoying a movie. I have quit getting involved in other peoples dramas and/or giving advice when asked.
LESS IS MORE!! : ) Meditation - Fasting - Reduce/reuse/recycle - : ) also works : ) Kids are "present" and have no fear which also helps them. Health : physical and financial is built OF HABITS, thus good habits=Great life.
Absolutely wonderful video! It sums it all up! One thing I have quit is eating meat and other animal products. It has been really beneficial for my health, and it feels wonderful living a life more aligned with my values.
Simplify my life...............I took early retirement at 54. I did not need that large salary. Life has been amazing for the last 23 years. I have never bought a Cell Phone; the simple flip phone (that I still use) was given to me about 17 years ago. I refuse to buy a "Smart" phone. I don't want to be a slave to technology. When I go for a drive or walk my "stupid" phone is turned off. I stopped watching the evening news, because its all about the negative things that people do to each other. Instead I watch baseball games, because its a fun relaxing time and a positive feeling.
I quit drinking during Covid. I quit my stressful job in management this year. I have moved to the country and downsized my dwelling this year, as well. I’m about to start a new job at a lower pay rate, where I will be much happier.
hello mate i did enjoyed your video thanks for sharing a lot of instructive informations i do study stoicism and it's change my life style i quit gathering with people the first reason i get drained and feel a lonely and i learn to be a lone as alone wolf it was hard at the beginning then i started to gain focus on my self need with self reflexion without distraction of others clean the inner side developed a sharp curiosity about myself and my needs self control and that made me control the out chaos very well
quitting for nightshift job with good amount of salary and currently starting a job where my brain think im good or in control of and also a morning shift where at night i can able to sleep with my 5 yr old daughter when she needed.
Thank you for this awesome reminder. Simplify and focus on what’s most important. Thank you. I will watch more of your videos. Cheers from Palm Springs!
What things have you quit recently that have helped to simplify your life and enjoy it more?
Great video Simon. For me, it's not trying to do everything yo have on your To Do List that day. Focus only on the top 2 or 3 priorities. Secondly, not a thing that I have removed, but more about adding, I check in with myself through the day, to see how I am doing, where am I at, how I am feeling (perspective/reflection), and ask if I need anything to change/add/remove.
@@devm1734 love these 🙏
@simonalexandero that's what I think to I don't have cost of living crisis and I am unemployed and still save money. Great work
I have quit worrying about having enough money for big emergencies like car repairs or dental work. Now I’m thinking that just enough is plenty.
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I removed myself from toxic people. Priceless 😢
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Yup that is the best medicine!!
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Same, cutting a lot of people in 2024. I asked Universe to help toxic people self select out of my life.
Tip number one: get rid off toxic people
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I quit watching news and meaningless commentaries by pundits. Eliminating noise had tremendous positive impact on my mental health.
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Amen!!!
I have never really watched news. Have not even had a television for over 5 years. Don't need a TV for any reason.
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12. Quitting social media and constantly checking the news
A great addition 👏
13. utube is social media tho
UA-cam can be educational, unlike FaceBook and Instagram. @@qwittaice7672
@@fecardona i quit social media too. Feel way better no lie.
@@qwittaice7672 disagree.
Enabling, people pleasing, needing to be right, putting myself down, caring what people think, expectations, gossiping, staying comfortable, eating processed food…💖
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Very insightful. Thank you for sharing this with us. I'm 65 and two years ago I was contemplating a cross country trip on a motorcycle. Something I always dreamed about. All the negativity and voices from others told me not to do it, it's too dangerous etc. I felt something within that was saying if I didn't do it I would always regret NOT doing it. I went away from the negative people and I planned it out and I DID IT! At 64 I rode all the way to the west coast and it wasn't the destination but the journey that was so fulfilling. I met people from all different walks of life on the way and got to see things I never would have seen if I would have stayed safe. Thanks again for sharing this. New sub'r here.
Love how you went and did it!!! 🙌
@@simonalexandero Thanks, I have learned the hard way not to tell everybody my plans but instead stay quiet until the goal is done.
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Respect!!
at 57, recently played lacrosse with a pickup league while staying in phoenix for a year.
if 57 were too old, 58 and beyond would be even moreso.
like your trip: best thing i ever did for a variety of reasons.
good on you for hitting the road while you still are in good enough shape for it.
I don't make "to-do lists" anymore, I was always behind, and not enjoying the day of work.
Now I put only one task in front of me and jump on it, one at the time.
Love it Guillem 👏
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Retirement in 8 days after 51 years of working, my first task is to remove the clutter from my home. Less stuff = more time.
Absolutely 👏
Congratulations 🎉
Yes.....retirement on July 1st and the first main item is to go through the house and get rid of all the clutter accumulated over the years!
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I'm getting close - I'm not going to get rid of my stuff just organize it so I can enjoy using it. I have been collecting tools/toys.
1 - morning workout
2 - no social media in the week
3 - as much water as possible during the day
4 - reading before bed
5 - 8 hours sleep
6 - 2 coffees maximum
Game changer!
Love it 🔥
Sounds great!
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Antoine de Saint-Exupéry - 'Perfection is achieved, not when there is nothing more to add, but when there is nothing left to take away.'
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That is one of my three guiding quotes/sayings. The others are "Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has magic, genius and power in it. Begin it now." Said to be by Goethe. And third one, "If you can move it an inch, you can move it a mile."
Deep ❤
@@judyofthewoods beautiful quotes 🙏
After I was 63yo I started (finally) working on myself and did what I wanted the most: being fit and healthy.
I lost 40 kilo and now at 69yo I am fitter than ever and have no medication (for diabetes etc) anymore.
Now I work as a registered HeartMath heartcoherence coach and inspire others.
My life turned for 180 degrees ❤
I did most of the things you mentioned, I am now decluttering my house (it is called döstädning in Swedish).
Thank you for this video. Greetings from the Netherlands ❤
Love it Hetty 👏
I quit eating sweets, and eat mostly whole food. I quit paying attention to my unhelpful negative thoughts. I quit taking things personally. Lots of things are out of my system that didn’t serve me.
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Quit noise. Try to be analog. You don’t always need AirPods in your ears. Just go outside with nothing but your shoes and listen, look, SEE nature. It is amazing how present you can become with nothing in your pocket or in your ears.
Beautifully said 👏
Please have more than your shoes on!!😂
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Or on yr feet
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Disallow those people who disrespect you to have access to your company and time.
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Good One! Set me free!
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Focusing and enjoying what I have rather than what I think I need.
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Got rid of my adult 34 year old drug addicted step daughter. Filed a restraining order! Life is better now
I'm just going through the same situation.
Did the right thing
@@markeugenelee2083 The addict names a cancer and destroys everything in their lives and everyone around them. The don’t even care about themselves, let alone you.
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Removed the radio from my daily commute and reclaimed my peace in that time space.
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I also agree on that. Any gadgets while working makes me exhausted everyday because of the noise and the radiation. I feel it after having 3 kids they are all cesarian. The youngest are 1 yr gap. I feel relaxed when no electronics working around me. I find it peaceful! ❤
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I stopped caring so much about the expectations of others
Love it - so important to live a life true to ourselves ❤️
that's key!!
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Never depend on relationships for a happy fulfilling life. They just complicate life.
Three things I did to simplify my life: I quit lying to myself. I stopped blaming others. I forgave the past.
Powerful things right here to quit 👏
nice - you have to let go of the past to have a good future
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Hard to forgive the past very hard
@@jimtoner9602 It wasn't until my late 40's did I start to let go. You don't have to forgive, you have to live well and have control of your life. I was lucky to have skills where I could move on if I had toxic managers. I was lucky to afford to live alone. I divorced in my early 40's and was able to rebuild my life. I have pretty cool life now in my 60's. It doesn't get easier if you drop the hatred.
Excellent tips you gave. Some tips that have helped me:
1. Never put off things that could be done today so you don’t carry that burden into tomorrow.
2. Strive to do what excites you to keep you vibrating at a high level.
3. What you put out is what you get back. Put out positivity and people will reflect your positivity back to you and you will in the flow of synchronicity.
4. Be yourself. You all have your own signature vibration and frequency, just be yourself, it’s too much work, too complicated to be an actor.
5 circumstances don’t matter, only your mindset matters. Keep your mindset positive.
Gold of a comment right here! Thank you for these wonderful tips and insights 🙏
@@simonalexandero Thanks. Credit goes to Bashar. Been listening to him for over 20 years. Changed my life.
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At age 60 I decided to sell my house and car and all belongings- went off to travel the world a dream of mine. I am now continuing to do serious documentary photography but on my own terms . Hello from the Pacific coast of Mexico! Simplicity is key it’s freedom!
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Brave. I just turned 60, & what you have done, has been a dream of mine, all along. I don’t have your courage, & I am also married. My husband, also 60, has not yet agreed to this! 😑 ugh
@@homeirajaz4037 what do you feel would open him up a little more to the idea?
you are very kind and polite man with a beautiful voice.
it is a pleasure to listen to you.
wish you the best!
Thank you for the kind words 🙏
My work environment is extremely unstable and I stopped worrying about uncertainties as I can't control it. I focused on what I can control and what I decide to accept ... or not
A gamechanging move 👏
I quit helping everyone. Before without thinking helped every time if I could, even when not asked. And realized that in most case, my helpfullnes resulted I was abused. Now before helping others, I evaluate what the result for me will be, and if they deserve it.
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not wanting things too much + JOMO + appreciating whats right in your life , right now + appreciating the small gifts of each day = contentment
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Thank you for a great video. I quit living in the U.S. I sold my house, cars, etc., and bought a property in Japan. Now I am trying to find my niche here. Your video provided me good self-assessment tools that I will incorporate in my thought process going forward.
Love Japan and can’t wait to visit the country again 😊
Three things: I am trying to stop being profane. I can do better than that. I work the problem. Instead of complaining and blaming others I work towards a solution. I choose not to be angry. It's a choice.
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I wish that I'd had your videos in my youth. I'm 75 and still learning about life. I believe in appreciating the simple things in life, a sunrise/sunset,a puppy, a newborn baby. There is a lot of joy in simple things. I wish people would look up instead of looking at screens, especially the very young. I feel that they are missing out on so much around them.
@@margaretmcmillan3957 beautifully said Margaret 🙏
Quiting negative thinking friends was a good start for me.
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I stopped being harshly judgmental of myself. In turn, this freed me of my need to judge others! Life is so much more peaceful and joyful.
Love this Carol 🙏
Your video is on point for me today - today I decided to give up being "too nice". Yes, we can be too good and too helpful, often at a high cost to our own mental, spiritual and physical well being. I drew a line in the sand and decided to respect myself enough to say No Thank You. Great content, TY.
Thank you and love the decision you took today 👏
Over and over, I relearn that if a decision (not-life-or-death) has to be made with urgency, it probably is a bad decision. Good choices come from taking time to think about them :) I really enjoy your videos, they are a great way to help me realign my internal compass. Thank you for sharing your thoughts!
Well said Jessica and thank you 🙏
Thank you I quit smoking, vaping, consuming cannabis a bit over 1 year ago. And now want to quit so many unfinished projects,
Exciting times ahead 🙌
Best thing to do is surround yourself with people that help you be dramatically better.
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I have quit friends and gossiping. just family and reading fills my day. Im calmer and joyful.
Love how calmer and joyful things are now 🙌
Simplifying changes everything!!!!
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Currently staying on a small boat to spend some time in solitude. It’s very surprising what you don’t need, simplify cooking was the first lesson. Nuts and fruit for breakfast = No cooking. Unsubscribe to emails was yesterdays task and will carry on with that until mailbox is only essential. Thanks for video, subscribed.
Love that and grateful to you for subscribing 🙏
For me less is more…I used to be a spendthrift but now lean towards minimalism. You have a great channel.
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I quitted alcohol and cigarettes. Never regretted. If i did it you can do it too. Is on you. You have the power.
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I stopped using social media for a week now and just marvel the effects of it, I was able to restore my focus and avoid secondhand stress from these random posts.
I agree with you, less is more. Whenever I try to remove something that doesn't serve me I always think of "what will I gain from this?" instead of "what will lose from this".
Want to share that I changed my habit of mindlessly scrolling my phone early in the morning and replaced it by watching in your channel 😊
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A long time ago I threw out my TV. That freed a lot of time as well as freeing my mind.
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I am busy remodeling my life and learning new skills so I can do freelance work after I retire. You video could not have come at a better time. Thank you so much.
Love it Tony 🙌
As an older person. Trust me, you WILL regret the chances you didn't take and limiting thoughts you had. I'm there now.
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You have covered almost everything and the best two things I liked was “ When you look social media post look for inspiration and the 2nd one was it dose not matter how much you read or listen those podcast it’s how much you implement. Thanks
Thank you Kabin 🙏
Be water, my friends,
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I try to distance myself fr negativity and as I am getting older I try to fill my free time w people that are more positive. Also I have made self care a priority. Easier to do since my girls are adults. It’s nice to think of yourself and your likes
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I love your channel. You make sense. Not many people do have that genuineness. Also some logic thrown in there also helps x
Grateful for the kind words and support ❤️
Uncluttered living space; eating less and eating well. - thank you you have reaffirmed the necessary 🎉
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I quit my country recently. On one hand, better psychological state. On the other, the rest is a struggle. Still, I'm better off elsewhere than my "place" of exodus ❤ full forward 🙌
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When I began grad school 20 years ago, I unplugged my TV, put it in its box and stored it away, because I suspected that I would otherwise be unable to keep up with the immense amount of reading and writing that the program required. It was hard at first, and I had to fight the urge to take it out and plug it back in. But it became easier as schoolwork demanded more and more of my attention. Since I broke the habit, it has stayed broken. Watching broadcast TV is a lot like being spoon-fed; it has a hypnotizing and enervating effect on the psyche.
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This explanation is clear and concise. Just like it's message. Don't make life complicated.
Thank You.
Well said and thank you 🙏
God brought me to your video. For some reason, I woke at 4am. Went to my computer to consume social media, because that is all I typically do. I stopped drinking alcohol a few days ago as I became an embarrassment to my grown children. (I am 67 years-old). Five minutes before finding this video, I ordered the book 'Meditations', by Marcus Aurelius. (Maybe, that's what brought me here). To conclude, if I'm going to live a meaningful and as long a life as possible, I need to make some changes. Your video has put me on that path. Thank you.
Exciting times ahead 🙌
Waking up at 5 am makes for a productive day. I read for a hour, go for a walk for an hour, have breakfast, then start the day.
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I wanted to let you know that I found the video to be amazing!
The point about creating vsconsuming really resonated with me, as did the part about seeing constraints in a positive light. In my role running a larger mortgage office, I attend many meetings that generate fantastic ideas, but I often move on to the next project before completing the current one. Similarly, I can relate to the constraints mentioned in the video. My son, who is my first child, just turned one, and the impact on my lifestyle and availability has been significant. However, it has also been an incredible experience to watch him grow. Thank you for sharing this content. I believe that material like this can genuinely benefit people in numerous ways. 🙂
Thank you for taking the time to watch Myles and appreciate the kind words ❤️
The big negativity throughout my life has been my family. They don’t support my positive energy. Imagine them as the metal, lead. So now I keep minimal or 0 communication with them & started repairing: ME & my own family. Great video.
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My cousin who sleeps only after 1am on a regular basis (couple with minimal exercise and poor diet) suffered fr partial stroke at only 44 yrs of age. Road to full recovery is long and hard but he's trying.
Wishing him a successful recovery ❤️
@@simonalexandero thank you 🙂
Thank you for sharing this information with us. It really resonates with me. Regarding to the last one. Once I tried to minimize number my clothes, it happened that I started to dress simple and wear the same things over and over again. Finally I realized that not number but quality really matters and of course consciously make choices. I live in country where we have up to - 40 in winter, so last advice is just a dream😊
So glad to hear that you enjoyed it! And well said on quality :-)
Hi! I just discovered your channel.
"Taking responsiblity is harder. Don't be allergic to personal responsibility, because only when you take full ownership of where you are and where you want to be, can life really begin."
Words of Wisdom! I see you also take notes from stoicism.
I'm at the crossroads of my life now. I gotta quit the alcohol and the nicotine chewing gum and get my body in shape, so I can have my life back! Maybe drink only on the celebration occations, and leave it at that!
Seems that you, Simon Alexander Ong, have lots of wisdom and have it together. Stay humble in your path! I wish you well!
Best regards,
Alex
Thank you Alex for the kind words and support! And a small suggestion if I may… change “gotta” to “must” and notice the difference in how that feels 😊
@@simonalexandero I appreciate that you replied to my comment! I see you reply to (almost?) everyone. Keep doing that, if you wish (not every channel's speaker is doing what you do). It helps keeping connected to the audience, though.
I liked that you even replied humbly to the sceptic comment after my comment, saying it's something you would dig into more in future videos (about how by shear force of will and choice, you started doing differently).
Yes, it's a MUST that I must quit those things.
I realized, that one must keep in mind the possible benefits of the good changes in life ALL THE TIME.
When the excusing mind set comes in (saying it's okay if I just keep getting drunk all the time), I just need to focus on what's good in my life's changing decisions.
I thought about writing it down, to differentiate the positive reasons/outcomes and the negative reasons/outcomes in my life - if I decide to stick with my plan to quit or not to quit.
What are your thoughts about this, Simon, to make a good change in life a permanent thing?
@@Alex-i6b6g what makes it easier to stick to something is to connect with your future self, e.g. get clear on the identity of the person you would like to become and then operate from that future self in the present. So if your future self is living a healthy life well into their senior years what choices must you be making today for that to happen. For when the vision is magnetic and compelling, the choices in the present become clear ❤️
@@Alex-i6b6g and thank you for the kind words. I’m grateful for the comments and try to respond to as many as I can 😊
@@simonalexandero I'm familiar with the concept of the future self, especially, of making my future self proud!
Thank you for reminding me (I had almost forgotten it), it's such an important concept!
Another concept that I had discovered, that had an huge impact on me, is that we all must suffer either of the two choices: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. I'd rather choose the pain of discipline, than the pain of regret.
Bravo, Simon! You present ideas in the utmost concise manner so that everything makes sense and is memorable. There are strategies i try to live by in order to be more productive and happy. 1) no gossiping about others or myself. This means telling stories in a negative light. 2) Be aware of and quickly eliminate disempowering thoughts. This skill is powered by meditation, as it allows one to see oneself from a 3rd person perspective. 3) be self-expressive - share your thoughts with others and find your voice. 4) always be on time for every appointment/commitment. 5) quit lying to your self and others. The odd embellishment in a story to entertain? Sure. But stop lying otherwise. 6) always move with grace. Let other drivers in, don't get mad if you are cut off, etc. Essentially, take the high road. This is empowering.
Thank you and for sharing your wonderful and powerful strategies 🙏
I had to get rid of toxic relationships or people I used to come across for formality reasons. Now I am back to my personal free space and time. Through meditations and cutting internal cords I felt relieved. I live only in the present not in the past accepting the bullying / mobbing from many different persons I had met - through my job mostly, without wanting to. Protecting my time and space and watching also what stimuli I receive, I am a different person now.
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Accepting failure & knowing when to stop. For me this is hard because I seem to always dream up another idea on how to survive a bad business decision, or a bad commitment to help someone who isn't helping themselves.
In both instances I prolong the agony. This is very hard for me...very hard; I'm still making wagon wheels for horse drawn carriages
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Listening to news does not pull you,you simply become informed, to make right decisions
If you think about that experiment about building the highest tower it is so true. We learn from our actions creating better luck because we are in the situation ready to respond and not overthinking and end up taking no action. True to life for many things. Thanks for reminding.
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This was a fun video to watch. Navigating my projects and work load has left me with no goals. zippo..nadda...
When a good video comes along it gets the mind warmed up and thinking again.
Have a super day!
Thank you and so glad you hear ❤️
Wow.. the one that hit me hard was the question "How much longer will you avoid doing what you are capable of in order to continue with what you are comfortabe doing?"
i'm in that stage now... hope this wii motivate me to do what i really want to do...thank you! new sub here
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I was hesitant at the title as so many of these videos are fads. However, I was delightfully surprised to be proven wrong. Thanks for sharing.
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I quit spending too much time on social media. It really is great that you see the reality and not the virtual world full of hate and bad news.
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@@simonalexandero also I have noticed that spending time in social media may give you a bad day. Occupy a lot of unproductive time. And will drain your mind a lot to the point you don't accomplish anything. It's true that it's like the dopamine effect that when you start to get addictive. It can be harmful to our brains. Since it teaches us to multitask and in the end leaves us stressed out. Without social media I enjoy the present moment even more.
@@cstrike105 well said ❤️
I appreciate your minimalistic approach, even when I download your video. It's only 100mb for 16 minutes, which is much more manageable than the 700-900mb I've seen on other channels for the same length of time.
Thank you 🙏
Thoughts put out so beautifully almost like a painting which you hold in your mind long after looking or watching which is more applicable here.
Thank you for the lovely words 🙏
It’s so refreshing to hear somebody, an authority, no less, speak about the concepts that I’ve upheld for the last few years. It meant going against the majority, and being an outcast, but I was convinced it was the right thing to do. Each day, I look around and saw people who haven’t understood what it was to be really “free”. I’ve cut off toxic people from my life, family included. I’ve long quit social media, except the ones I use to communicate with colleagues at work. I’ve stopped watching the news and listening to people whose agenda was to manipulate others. I’ve stopped wearing fashionable clothes and stuck to 6 sets of work clothes and a couple of sneakers. Realizing that life is really short, I’ve carefully planned and done my traveling because reconnecting with people and exploring the world made me really happy. I’ve kept playing a sport that my peers would discourage me from doing because I’m 54 years old, but I still can do, and fairly well as people would say, all because it made me happy. And also because if I didn’t play it, I will definitely regret not having done it when the time comes that my body wouldn’t allow me to. I still got a lot of ideas that need to be pursued and executed but only so much time. I understand our limitations include being mortal. And so, before my eyes close and I rest for eternity, I understand I need to keep doing what makes me feel alive. Thank you, Simon. Thank you for making me feel understood and acknowledged. People have called me “weird” because of how I live my life. As it turns out, I’m not the weird one after all. 😁
Thoroughly enjoyed reading your comment! You have discovered what it means to live life on your terms and to live this short life we have wisely. So much that we can all learn from your share here. Thank you ❤️
@@simonalexandero Hi Simon. I am humbled by your comment 😉. I am truly grateful for the opportunity to finally speak this truth. Most people don’t wanna hear stuff like these. ☺️But I am mostly grateful for people like you who continue to enlighten us. Thank you so much. Looking forward to more learnings from you. ☺️
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I am in the planning stages of moving to an off-grid life - to have no mortgage, less bills, be able to change my job to a less stressful (less hours or different job altogether) and to challenge myself so that I learn and quicken, be closer to nature. I want to get off the hamster wheel.
Exciting times ahead 🙌
I can testify early mornings. I'm up at 418. Clean up, gratitude 🙏 prayers, and an efficient workout in my prayer room. Every day 365 !!! There's also a breathing exercise and a child's pose stretch in the workout, which is meaningful. I invest that 1 hour in myself, and it is way more important than my coffee and the news that soon follows.
Love it Steve 👏
Quitting youtube self help videos helped me to improve my life
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@robabc thats so funny! I quit reading people's posts on self help videos😂
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Energize one of the most constructive books ive read.
I stopped caring about people that didn't care about me.
Thank you and love it George 👏
You have to spend a lot of time by yourself before you stop thinking
I would add that when you do spend more time in solitude, you begin to understand that you are not your thoughts, merely the observer of them and that at any given moment you can choose one over the other. And that is powerful since we live in the feeling of our thinking.
Some people over think when alone also
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Got rid of my television ten years ago now only consume content like yours pick a subject type it in and boom learn something new every day
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I was challenged by the “don’t consume more than what your produce”.
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More content like this please, Most people want to keep making excuses and i have been there, that being said there comes a point no more excuses even to yourself.
Thank you Ray and absolutely - taking responsibility for where we are and where we want to be is key 👏
Simon, love your unique perspectives and rare quotes you share, also started a newsletter, being scared to take the first step, am sure going to quote you there a lot. Anyway, looking forward to consuming more of your content. Cheers. Man I paused the video to write this and I thought of that exact Bruce Lee quote but didn't write it.
Thank you 🙏
I am.learning that good enough is good enough. And to stop trying to b perfect
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Quitting social media was the best thing I’ve ever done in my wntire existance.
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I quit trying to find work and started relying on my relationship with Jesus. Peace returned into my life and my health improved because I discovered I was free and blessed❤
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Things I have done: Self-employment has given me freedoms and flexibility. Take prudent chances. Cut back on news and social media and comparisons, it's very toxic. Get plenty of rest and structure my life so I can sleep in and awaken without an alarm clock. Spend time in nature, with pets, etc. and live in the moment, appreciating simple things. Be kind, say kind things to people. Treat yourself to nice things, but be financially prudent. Maintain friendships. Keep your hobbies and interests. Stop competing with the world, just do your best.
Wow Tim!!! Such gold of a comment here. Thank you for sharing 🙏
Love all your ideas! Threw out TV long ago. But still need to declutter and stop watching too many UA-cam videos. Need to get more sleep, exercise, and prioritize my health. Still a long way to go, but you have inspired me to keep it up! Thank you!
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Being a minimalist works until there is an emergency, when that happens the minimalist relies upon the kindness of others. That is not how I wish to live, because resilience is important to me.
Relies on the kindness of others?
Can you elaborate on this ? what do you mean ?
@simonalexandero please explain what you mean. what Emergency?
Well, I'm guessing the commenter meant...that maybe most minimalists don't have tools or extras, so if something goes wrong, they most likely would have to ask a neighbor for help?
In reality, most of us need others. I'm now an "old lady", I guess, at 60, and I need help sometimes.
Think of your car sliding off the road, into a deep ditch, out of cell phone range. This is what I mean by we all, many of us, will run into needing others sooner or later.
I think in the last century people needed each other, or, were much less shy about asking neighbors for help!!!
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I quit watching the local news in the morning. Some may say that's not responsible as a citizen, or ask "Don't you want to know what's going on?" The main reason I tuned in was for the weather & how to dress or prepare that day. A quick tap of the weather app on my phone gave me that in seconds.
I realized that I had all this background chatter in my head even after turning off the TV and leaving for work. Also my focus was different, or more flexible after I made the change.
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Very strong and wise words spoken! These are great insights to follow. After watching this I think that I have to quit a lot. And I feel good about it. Maybe that's a good start.
Thank you and here’s to that 🙌
Thank you God for showing this video on my feed. Heard more wisdom in ten minutes than possibly the last ten years.
Grateful to you for the kind words and so glad to hear you enjoyed it 🙏
Jeff Bezos is not not really the guy I want to emulate.
Wow, some great points here. I see that I have reduce clutter my life to simplify my life.
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I have quit answering the phone when, I am either reading or enjoying a movie. I have quit getting involved in other peoples dramas and/or giving advice when asked.
So powerful 👏
LESS IS MORE!! : ) Meditation - Fasting - Reduce/reuse/recycle - : ) also works : ) Kids are "present" and have no fear which also helps them. Health : physical and financial is built OF HABITS, thus good habits=Great life.
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Absolutely wonderful video! It sums it all up!
One thing I have quit is eating meat and other animal products. It has been really beneficial for my health, and it feels wonderful living a life more aligned with my values.
Thank you Taina and love that 👏
Simplify my life...............I took early retirement at 54. I did not need that large salary. Life has been amazing for the last 23 years. I have never bought a Cell Phone; the simple flip phone (that I still use) was given to me about 17 years ago. I refuse to buy a "Smart" phone. I don't want to be a slave to technology. When I go for a drive or walk my "stupid" phone is turned off. I stopped watching the evening news, because its all about the negative things that people do to each other. Instead I watch baseball games, because its a fun relaxing time and a positive feeling.
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I quit drinking during Covid. I quit my stressful job in management this year. I have moved to the country and downsized my dwelling this year, as well. I’m about to start a new job at a lower pay rate, where I will be much happier.
Amazing work Anna 👏
hello mate i did enjoyed your video thanks for sharing a lot of instructive informations i do study stoicism and it's change my life style i quit gathering with people the first reason i get drained and feel a lonely and i learn to be a lone as alone wolf it was hard at the beginning then i started to gain focus on my self need with self reflexion without distraction of others clean the inner side developed a sharp curiosity about myself and my needs self control and that made me control the out chaos very well
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quitting for nightshift job with good amount of salary and currently starting a job where my brain think im good or in control of and also a morning shift where at night i can able to sleep with my 5 yr old daughter when she needed.
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But to help people you sometimes have to spend time with people who are not currently energy givers.
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Thank you for this awesome reminder. Simplify and focus on what’s most important. Thank you. I will watch more of your videos. Cheers from Palm Springs!
Thank you and hope you enjoy them 🙏
I quit a relationship where a lot of compromise were made in the name of "love".
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This is a brilliant video! I watched it twice. Very valuable comments. Inspiring and life changing. Thank you🙏🏻🙏🏻
So glad to hear you enjoyed it ❤️