9 Reasons I Absolutely Love Living Alone!
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In today's video, I'm sharing the 9 reasons I absolutely LOVE living alone. If you're considering moving into your own place or just curious about the solo living experience, this video is for you! From the freedom to pet-related bonuses, there are so many amazing aspects to living alone.
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I have been married for 53 yrs, then my husband passed away 3 yrs ago, and I love living alone. I got married in the era when, if you are not married by 22, you are an old maid. My husband was very conservative, a woman's place is at home, raising kids and taking care of the house, waiting on him hand and foot. For 50 yrs he got breakfast in bed, until he retired. That's when I said no more. Now I am alone and loving it! I have garden services to take care of the lawn and the rest I do myself. Silver and solo is the best! ❤
Breakfast in BED!!! Geez! 🙄
I love this for you
Choose happiness. I'm an introvert also. I love living alone. But I also enjoying hanging out in with family and friends. But at the end of day, I prefer my alone time.
I love being able to eat Cap'n Crunch for dinner without explanation to anyone.
I'm about to turn 61 and have lived alone now for 8 years (not for the first time) and will never go back to sharing my space. My favorite things about living alone are the fact that I am only responsible for myself, I can come and go as I please and make any kind of plans to do anything I want without having to consider anyone else. I can eat what I want when I want. I also love the fact that when I'm working on a project I don't have clean up until I'm ready...2 hours, 2 days or 2 weeks. I also love that I can decorate for my taste only. I just overall love that I don't have to concern myself with pleasing anyone else. I love never having to hear anything ( tv, music, talking) that I don't want to hear. I can clean my house whenever I want...6 am or midnight, my choice. I can also pay someone else to do it if I just don't feel like it, or I'm too busy. Same with the yard work. I can do it or hire it out.
By the way, I'm loving your content and just wanted to say thanks for representing!
The toilet seat is always down.
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@gaylewagner7388 Absolutely!
All day and every day.😄💖💖💖💖
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In 1 word living alone is FREEDOM!!😊
Got divorced in 1974, raised my son, and was in the workforce 50+ years. Retired owning 2 homes (sold my house in the city after I retired, and moved 5 years ago). With my 401k/IRA, SS, and pension, I am financially secure and debt free. I took it a step further than most people living alone, by moving to my rural wooded acreage, with no close neighbor's (was raised rural). I learned years ago, that having a bad neighbor within a stones throw could impact my quality of life, and you never know when the wrong person will buy the house next door to you. I have friend's, family, but no one just "pops" in. I worked for decades to live the lifestyle I now have, and I'm loving it!
Amen! I also have acreage outside city limits. I was raised on acreage with few neighbors so that is what I love.
Wow..good ..
You are so right about homes selling. My husband used to say “ it’s all fine until the owner dies and the family sells to the highest bidder, so pick your home and area wisely”
Sounds like heaven. Enjoy every moment 🦋🌻🦋
This sounds like bliss!
I am an only child, no family, husband of 42 years passed in 2020. I have always been an introvert. Don't get lonely or bored. There's always something to do or learn. Agree with all that you said. Enjoying your channel
Widow sold two houses two cars everything we owned took money jewelry clothes and moved to brand new luxury two bed two bath home. Love it. Bought new furniture new car new decor new dishes new pots it’s all my own . I’m happier after 44 yrs of marriage. I come and go travel road trip spa days or just stay home and cook clean read exercise. The grounds are beautiful flowers shrubs trees. We have a clubhouse pool gym . It’s quiet I hear no one . I am happier alone I have friends when I want to see them . Great daughter 36 a few miles away. I am taking g care of me now . Im middle class worked our whole lives I just choose to start fresh . Memories in my heart not surrounded by same house furniture old life. It’s my way moving forward .
I am in the middle of making those same decisions. I want to just sell it all, everything except my clothes and electronics ( I work from home and have to take the computers/monitors with me ) and find someplace far away that fits my needs, wants and desire. Where I live now was my husband's dream, not mine. Since he has passed away I want to live my dream. So kudos to you for making that change and living where you desire.
Best of luck to you sorry for your loss.
My favorite reason I love living alone is having the bed to myself. It’s heaven. I agree with you saying the only noise I like is noise I love. I cannot stand background TV noise. My tv is off 95% of the time. Love your channel.
I can’t stand someone snoring next to me 🤯💤!
I’ve been sleeping in our guest room for a year now due to husband’s snoring, and it’s glorious! But I do have to put up with that dang TV noise in the background.
@@Mimlou 😁🙌🏻
Totally agree with you!! My tv is off unless my son is visiting and then it’s just on for movie watching.
There’s nothing about TV that I miss.
I'm 61 today !!! The loneliest I have ever been was when I was in "relationships " I'm free now, my own home and I love it !! Alone yes, but never lonely 😃
Happy Birthday 🎂 🎉
Happy birthday! And, yes, there's nothing worse than the pain of being in a lonely relationship.
Happy birthday!
Happy Birthday!
Happy birthday! 😊 I totally relate. I always felt lonely when I was married. Since living on my own, I no longer feel lonely and have never been happier.
I am 78 but in good health and young at heart. I recently lost my husband to dementia following several years of progressive decline and thus several years for me as ‘caregiver.’ Now, you just KNOW I am ready for this ‘living alone’ experience and the freedom that comes with it. But I think it really boils down to the difference between introverts and extroverts. We introverts so value our ‘alone’ time…we don’t have the same need as extroverts to be always in the company of (ie connecting with) other humans. We like to think, reflect, consider, ponder, etc. in our own minds. We are resourceful, independent people. We thrive on peace and quiet vs. chaos. Of course we’re going to love living alone…it totally suits our nature. 👍
bRAVO !
I too am 78 and dealing with dementia with my partner of 21 years. I'm conflicted about the future. Sometime in the next 3 years or so, I have been told that Steve will be gone. I've lived alone before, and that prospect does t bother me. I look forward to not having to make decisions for another person, hoping that I have done the right things. I hate seeing the decline of a beautiful intellectual man, who now struggles for words, ideas and sits most of the day in a chair staring into space or sleeping. There are just so many unknowns and that is unsettling to me.
Try to live one day at a time, things have a way of resolving when the time comes. I lost my partner last September, he had been in a nursing home for 12 yrs. What do I do now question pops up, but over time a path is found.
I believe I am recognising that I'm an introvert through your videos and the fabulous and interesting comments that you get.
My number one solo blessing is sleep silence. I'm a terrible sleeper and my deceased partner said I would wake up if he moved his little finger. So I absolutely relish not having anyone else in my bed. In fact I'm sitting here writing this being very mindful of how lucky I am to live in an extremely quiet area but close to the water and a super little portside village in the South of France.
To be honest the only thing I miss is a cuddle..... but the benefits of solo living certainly outweigh the alternative.
My husband is 84 and I am 66. He has dementia AND metastatic prostate cancer. I have been taking care of him for the last 8 years and feel like my early retirement years when I will be the healthiest are being taken from me. The cancer is progressing faster than the dementia and he will probably be gone in the next year or so. I love him and I miss him (he has been gone a long time) but honestly, I can’t wait to be on my own.
I have lived alone for 35 years and I love it. I'm a77 year old female and the best part of living alone is living alone AND being retired. Living alone for whatever reason makes your life about you. It's what YOU want. It's about YOUR needs. It's about YOUR freedom. When another woman says, aren't you afraid of living alone? That tells me THEY are afraid of living alone. Unfortunately, a lot of women have bought into the notion that they have to have a man around, so they put up with some loser, just so they can feel protected. How you live your life is up to you. Don't live it in fear. It's a waste of your time and energy. You can love someone without living with them. Don't knock it if you haven't tried it. Live your life like it's your last day on earth. Fill it with attitude and gratitude. Be well. : )
You and I could be great friends and neighbors. Having lunch, coffee, or tea once in awhile with an interesting person would be great but I don’t need constant entertainment. If I see you once a month for an hour it’s fine! No knocking on doors and dropping in uninvited just to “chat”. Sometimes people just get too clingy and need constantly to go out to eat, to the movies, go shopping. Geez, the last thing on my mind is shopping! And with another female! Ugh! I have a friend who wants to walk with me. No thanks. I enjoy the peace and quiet of nature when in it, not some chatty person walking beside me. Personally, I can’t think of anything to say to the same person day after day, every day, for an hour walk! Haha! I have to say, I’d love to have a special male friend to do things with but he’d have to have his own home. 😊
Just wanna say I'm reading all the comments here and have never left so many "likes" on any thread!
:) Our little community rocks!
My #1 reason is I don’t have to tip toe around and make everyone else happy. I’m an introvert , but also have a trauma background with CPTSD, so not having to walk on egg-shells is such a relief and comfort and a feeling of safety for me. And if I feel like dancing around the house to 70’s Disco, no one is music-shaming me.
Abba baby!!! 🎶 dancing Queen 🎶
I can so relate to your situation.
Oh yeaaahhh!🪩💃🏽
I live alone, and I am extremely happy and content. I don’t know why people have such a hard time believing we could be content while living alone. I love being able to decorate my house as pastel and girly as I like! I love eating what I want when I want, I absolutely adore having the bathroom to myself. And when I leave my house and spotless, I know I’m coming home to a spotless house as well. If I have leftovers in the fridge when I go to work, I know they are still there when I get home. I’m enjoying your videos.
Love living alone. I am in control of everything, especiallly finances. I get to decide where my money goes, how it is spent, and yes take responsibility for my decisions (good and bad).
I get the quiet and calm enviorment that I must have. Can't stand drama.
Totally agree with everything you said. One of my greatest joys in living alone after my divorce...no more arguments over money. 😊
@@user-mc4cl3kr1r Yes. Hallelujah!
I have the bed to myself. Another reason is no one to bother me, wanting something, needing my time or attention.
In my young single years I never had a room mate. Always solo. Since my divorce, again, solo. I’m not a high earner, affording living alone on my income is a struggle. But I choose to live alone so I’m making it happen. My favorite- I can take a nap, bubble bath, tinker with plants on my little balcony, write in my journal, do crafts, without someone judging me or criticizing. After a lifetime of people pleasing and walking on eggshells to keep the peace this freedom, agency and peace is priceless.
I’m 81. My husband died 14 years ago and we met in grade 10 and he was my soulmate. I miss him but I love living alone now with just my 13 year old labradoodle. I worship peace and quiet. Thanks for all your inspiration!
You are 💯% Spot on! I an an introvert and I can spend ALL Day alone and I am not lonely, not bored. I am content.
Very well said!💯
Thank you for making this video. I'm a 53 year old GenXer, I never got married, it didn't seem like the right choice for me but when I went to weddings, I would, almost always, get a comment like "Oh it'll happen for you one day, don't worry." I thought "WHY do people assume I WANT to be married? Is it just because I'm a woman? I never hear any one say that sort of comment to a man.😑
I started wanting to live alone when I was 7 and discovered I could think about thinking and control my world. I am a total introvert and must control my little part of the world-no music, no TV, definitely never talk radio, the toilet paper roll is always the correct direction. The temperature is to my liking. I leave the thermostat on 78 in summer and 75 in winter. Works for me. If there is a dirty cup in the sink, I left it there. The toilet seat is never left up. I don’t play well with others. Living alone means, I don’t have to unless I’m in the mood.
Hello from Chicago! I am also an introvert. I work with animals all day, which is great, it is also fast paced and sometimes really loud. Coming home to my cat and quietness is a necessity. My brother and his wife are total extroverts and think my life is sad. They will never get it so I stopped trying to explain. Turning 55 today and very happy as I am!
Happy Birthday!🎉
Thanks!
Happy birthday! How bizarre that they would tell you that they think your life is sad! As a single woman, I have always been surprised by how many opinions people share with me as though I asked to hear them. I never asked for your feedback. Do you tell your "sad" uncle or male cousin what you think of their lives? Unless you've got a travel or catcare tip, keep it to yourself. Also, extroverts are exhausting. They always have to be entertained, few extroverts have imaginations.
I know! They are always trying to convince me to move closer to my work because of the great restaurants and nightlife. Spoiler alert: I get up at 4:30 in the morning for work and prefer to cook at home. I also don't drink by choice. I always tell my brother I think one of us must have been adopted!
Happy birthday 🎉
I'm a loner since I was a kid and I extremely love it ❤️❤️
I also love living alone. The last 14 years have been genuinely all me! My son is almost 31 and settled with a great woman and I couldn’t be more thankful for that. Everything else is for me. The remote is all mine. I get to watch whatever I want. Bought a new bed 6 years ago and love that NOBODY else has slept in it but ME. Got a toothless 8 yr old cat at the shelter 2 yrs ago through their Cats For Seniors program and she’s a sweet girl. I have decorated my home for me. I started gardening at 58 years old and love it. I did all of it by myself- flowers, vegetable patch, bird feeders and pea gravel patio. I became vegan 5 years ago and nobody can bitch about it. I love the quiet. I love that I can nap when I want. I still work part time but it’s for my bff, for my own extra income and it’s only 7 minutes from home. The pluses of this life at this age are huge. Wouldn’t change a single thing about my life. You are showing in videos exactly what this is about. Kudos from Ottawa, Ontario 💞
I'm an introvert as well. I thrived during the lock downs. Loved every minute of my "enforced" solitude. My ex mentioned that I must be bitter to live alone.......I couldn't stop laughing.
I love being able to get in my car, which is always gassed up and maintained.
I’ve always found it interesting that I never try to judge or talk anyone out of their chosen lifestyle, but someone seems to always be critiquing mine.
You're so right! I love the memes about how extroverts are always telling introverts we need to get out more and meet people, blah blah blah. You never hear introverts telling extroverts to slow down, calm down, take a chill pill... LOL Why do they always seem to think it's okay to tell us we're wrong?
So true! I don't have kids or a husband so my family thought I must be gay. Nothing wrong if you are, but I'm not. That can't comprehend why I'm not in a relationship and have criticized me for my choice to be single.
I think those people are just not happy in themselves, and they dont understand how you can be. Its a form of jealously. They spend their whole lives using other people to cover up their loneliness and never truly know who they are. Not knowing who you are must be an isolating and lonely experience.
All of that! Especially the noise/quiet. I sometimes think I'm odd, preferring the quiet, but I decided that I'm comfortable in my own company and that's fine.
Love living alone, for all these reasons. Also, I've had the experience of living with 'high maintenance' people and now can appreciate the relief from those demands. I'm a people pleaser so living alone protects me from those that recognize this, and look to take advantage. Thank you for your videos.
I can relate!
What I love about living alone is when I do decide to be social there is nothing more wonderful than coming back to a quiet house, it's my safe haven, great list!
I love making guilt free decisions about all aspects of my life; what car to purchase,how I spend my time, what to prepare for dinner, or not, which dog I share my life with. It’s almost a relief after 40 years of negotiation.
I’m spoiled I guess. My husband lets me make all those decisions. He will voice his desire but if I disagree, he does listen to me. We get along great.
My dog is a rescue at the age of 2. He loves me, but I feel his first owner was a young man. When my grandson comes over, he's 22, Boo is so excited he literally cries in joy. We all have a past. I have to just accept.
My rescue looooved her foster dad! Still does! She and I have been like roommates for 7 years now, best one ever lol! she’s as independent as the rest of us, don’t be telling her what to do…and then she’ll pick up my glasses when they fall to the floor. I’ve never asked her to pick up before. I think she likes me😊
I've lived alone for 16 years and love it so much. However, recently because of a complicated house move I was forced to go live with family for four months - they were so kind and generous to me, and I am truly grateful that they came to my rescue, but honestly, it was hell. All the things you said and so many more. The noise one is the biggest for me, I love silence and nature noises, but I had to spend 4 months listening to a household where there is always someone making noise, even throughout the night. Now I'm in my new place and I love and appreciate the solitude so much more. One you didn't mention is that I can wash my clothes whenever I feel like it without finding someone else's there because they washed them and then forgot them! Thanks for the video!
I forgot about that, for me it was never the washer. It was always the dryer. I would wash my clothes go to put them in the dryer and there would be clothes in there every single time.
@@LynsAlteredArts yep!
2:45 living alone is wonderful. The dirty clothes are in the hamper not on the floor beside it. The dishes are clean and in the cabinet not all over the house dirty when I get home from work. Living single feels good
I brew very strong, some might say bitter, coffee. It can sit in the carafe for hours and then I drink it hot and black. Best part, ain’t no one around to bitch about it! Always just the way I like it. 👊😁😁
I totally agree. We solved that problem with a coffeemaker that allows you to brew the strength you want, one cup at a time.
I rarely comment, yet here I am, twice in one day, ha! Anyway, I've lived alone for decades now and I enjoy it also! Some of your reasons are the same as mine, but my big ones are that I can walk around the house naked if I want, I can sleep in on the weekends, I can put off household chores, and I don't feel an urgency to HAVE to immediately clean cat fur off furniture etc. Also, I allow the cats to walk on the counters, I can go #2 in the bathroom and not worry about someone else smelling it, I can take my bra off and fling it on the back of the couch as soon as I get home and not worry about it, I can do my own thing with my time in my own space, etc... I could go on and on here! You are SO relatable, I just love you to pieces! Have a wonderful day!
Possibly over shared on the #2 front 😂😂💩💩
@@stevenbulmer6424 Hahaha! 😂 But see, that's just what I'm saying, 😅 I can say and do these things at home without fault! 😂😂
I love living alone. I have been divorced over 20 years. I will never live with anyone again. Life is just easy. I can do what I want, when I want. Life is good❤️
The selfishness of it all!!!??? I AM HERE FOR IT! 😂🥳. It seems like certain people have been working so hard to convince women that you are not worthy and you will shrivel up and die if you dare to admit that you love living alone. I wonder why that is? (sarcasm). I am enjoying all these type of videos that are currently filling my UA-cam recommendations. Single women over 50 who are unapologetically living life on their terms. Congrats to you Jen. Keep having fun. 👍🏾
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@@user-yg1gn1hu1f I know... but sometimes it's a lot of toxic / energy draining drama you feel better off alone ...also they just use one for helping with problems then they get too busy when things are going well with them
I am 56 years old and have been a widow for a year now, living alone. I have to be honest and say that there are times I feel lonely and miss my dear husband greatly. I miss the face to face conversation, the tender moments we had and having someone to go places with. Jenn, your reasons for being alone are exactly what is on my list. No more caring for someone else, only having to cook for me ( I rarely cook now, the microwave is my best friend ). I no longer have to clean up someone else's mess. I get to make my own decisions and have total control over my life. The cost of living is so much cheaper when it is just me. My Yorkie is now focused solely on me instead being by my husbands side 24/7. I can eat what I want, when I want. Go where I want or just stay home and be lazy. I can go to bed when I want and wake up when I want ( this is a huge plus after being a constant caregiver for 3+ years ).
I am so sorry about losing your dear husband.💐 I follow a lady in UA-cam, her name is Sandra Brown, Life after 60.
She is sweet n encouraging. After becoming a widow at 79, she has remarried.
I miss having someone to go places with too.
I had ketchup chip and ice cream for dinner tonight. My cat thought it was a great choice! Lol!😜
@@Shewhiz99 LOL
@@linak7155 I will have to check her out, thank you!
Yes! Yes! And yes! Almost 75, definitely silver and solo after raising my sons as single mom! Love my life! 👍🏻❤️
Everything that you mentioned!😃 -- 59yr old woman, living alone since my divorce 23yrs ago, from Vienna, Austria
I'd add going to bed and switching off lights when I want. No frowning when I decide to binge-watch a TV series all night long or if I get carried away online with podcasts or videoblogs (because I discovered a nice YT-channel like yours 😃) and go to sleep only at 5 a.m. when the birds outside are up again, and then rushing to work without having breakfast or sleeping in if it's a weekend. Bliss! (but soooo selfish, of course 😇)
Separate bedrooms is one of the best ways to solve those issues.
@@Angiehere-1 most men would not agree with that.
@@franzone70 My husband is not like most men. He understands me.
You hit the nail on the head! I so agree with everything you said. The one thing that I have to constantly reiterate to my mother is that I’m fine. That I love my solo life and lifestyle. I love my clean and simple home.
Another woman here who loves living alone. I also enjoy traveling alone. I also enjoy doing things with others. Especially when after our time together is spent, they go home to their home, and they leave me here alone. My life is good, and I am blessed to live alone.
Good morning from CT, USA! This is going to sound weird, but I don't live alone but I am alone in my home for 13+ hours 6 days a week. I can basically have the house to myself and do as I please and eat what and when I want, watch what I want and have the day. I have found a lot of joy in my days.
You are so encouraging and cheerful to me and I am sure that many people feel the same! I started recording myself talking to the camera and watching the videos. Soon enough I will feel confident enough to post. At least I have taken that first step...
Good for you, looking forward to you having your own channel, Love from Debbie 🙋🧑🦽 and Dexter-Dog 🐕🐾.
I laughed through this one because they're all so true! There's definitely something to be said for making your own mistakes and being the one to fix them without judgment. (Or hiring help if it turns out to be more than you can do.)
My reasons to live alone, not that I do , but would be: no one snoring in the house, the toilet seat is always down, the toilet is clean, I don't hear any burping or farting anywhere, and I wouldn't have to worry about feeding anyone other than the dog 😂
Great video!!!! I'm 61 looking forward to enjoy the rest of my days the way I love it 😀 alone but not lonely.
It's a relief to live alone. What no-one tells you that if you share your home with someone that their problems become your problems. Men especially take up so much time, attention and emotional effort - not to mention space in the bed ans sofa - that it's exhausting. I once knew an older lady who had been happily married for 60+ years. She put it down to never having shared a house with her husband 😘
When I look around at all the people who are married or living with a partner, I don’t see anyone whose life I envy. To me,they all live a life of constant service to their significant others, and I don’t want to be anyone’s maid, nurse or purse. I love living a nice peaceful life. Love your content!
I dont live alone but if i did one of my top favorites would be not having to share the bathroom.
I have my own bathroom and bedroom. We sleep at opposite ends of the house. My husband and I have discovered how to live together and be happy doing so. We are both in our 70’s.
All my life, I said "if" I married, I'd want my own bedroom AND bathroom! You did it! And I'm sure it helps.
I love living alone - all doors and windows are always locked if I am in or out (others laugh at me that lock everyone inside when they visit and have to unlock the door to let them out) - I feel safe and appreciated living alone, my way 👏
It’s very important to keep all doors and windows locked. Make it a habit.
Love living alone!
I'm 47, single, never married, and child free. I live alone in a rented apartment, and I'm about to purchase a home for the first time. It's a 2 bedroom condo and I will never open my space for anyone else to live there. I've explained to friends and family that alone and lonely are 2 very different things. I'm happily alone, but never lonely.
I love not having to share a bathroom 🎉
Yes. Yes yes I have been living alone for 18 yrs I still work with difficult clients every day and go home in a big red house in the woods with my dog to Peace . I have a big family and friends whom I love and am loved and whom I choose to be with or not at the time. I get tired of explaining why I’m so happy (I must just be pretending) I just remind myself that everyone has the right to choose what life they build. I am not solo and silver I am solo and bright red by choice and love it . Thank you for validating my happiness as real ❤
Not picky. Not set in your ways. It is your home and you are allowed to be and do what you want in your own home! You are not being selfish in any way! You have worked hard to be where you are and you have earned this. So many of these reasons resonate with me.
you don't live alone, you have a pet (thanks for the tip re forest sounds, I love it)
I totally get this. After a very long term and rotten marriage I am divorced, alone have a cat and dog and totally love my current life. I am actually an extrovert but after years of people pleasing but unable to please anyone, I have given up on humans. All humans have taught me is the more you care the less they do. I love my home, my pets, my little camper van and my freedom. People used to really matter to me but now I can take them or leave tham im Ok with that. I have a very small pool of friends and thats all I need now. Took almost my entire life to get to this point of emotional safety.
“Everything is in the place that I left it“ - - something that makes me crazy about living with a husband is that things are never in the place that I left it! L O L! I love watching your videos and applaud that you share all these things with so many others. Keep up the great work! ❤🎉
Sleeping/Waking up at whatever time I want and have the whole bed to myself!!
I'm in my 50's and since February last year I have been living on my own. The first time in my life as I had children at a young age. I have to say it was scary at first, but now I'm loving the freedom I have to come and go as I please. I have no one to answer to and it's great! 😀
I was married for 40 years, went from my parents to my husband. Loved my husband but he was very controlling and verbal abusive. When he died l grieved for a while and then woke up late one morning and realized,hey l can do today whatever l want to. I can stay in bed and read if l want,eat when l want, sleep when l want, clean when l want.with no one yelling at me or telling me what to do! What a concept, l love it. ( and l also leave dirty dishes in the sink,and sometimes don’t vacuum,because my husband is not hear telling me how l should clean)
I love living solo!! ONE is a whole number ❤
Love your channel
Watching your content has helped me to understand why I get squirrelly when I'm around others. I've always felt happiest doing things alone my whole life. I married (widowed), have kids (grandkids) & work with elders.
When I'm with others, or even running errands, at some point a wall of "enough" comes down on me, and I just want to go home and be with no one. Happily alone.
I am an introvert who DOES NOT live alone. 🥴. It’s very hard to do this. Yet I do. I relish the times when no one is home. Don’t get me wrong…I love my family. But they aren’t introverted. Except for my son. He is just like me. I can be home with him all day and not even see him bc he stays in his room doing his own thing. When we are home together, we check on each other here and there…but otherwise totally respect each other’s need for quiet.
Same here 👋 weekends can be tough 🫠
I’m somewhat lazy and I love that I don’t have to be the perfect housekeeper wearing the coolest outfits. I’m not a total slob--but I somewhat casual-and I love that!
This video is too, too, funny! And I agree with all your reasons! Along with doing what you want when you want, I love not having to justify or explain what I'm doing. Huge relief❤
Love the cat one. So very true!
You enjoy living alone, that is great!
'Different strokes for...' Some of the reasons why you enjoy going solo were outrageously humorous. For instance, everything in fridge is 4u! The🐈 not being overfed. So true! Our puppy 🐶was constantly being given treats. Each one of us felt she deserved mo' 😂 It was pathetic!
In any event, as challengi as it sometimes is, I prefer sharing my life. I have a husband, a young adult son, n an aging mother. They need care and attention. I serve the best way I can w/o drowning in it. There is a division of responsibility that each one of us has undertaken. We work around it, and it keeps us all imperfectly aiming to make life functional.
Life is in a constant state of flux, and we try to adapt...
Linak7155 reply. Jen comes from a place of her own experience and she shares that with us openly, the trials, failures and triumphs. In the end, her messages are intended to encourage and uplift and there is always positivity. I appreciate that. I have also learned from her experience. Life is in a state of flux for all of us from the time we enter this world until we leave it. We all come from different backgrounds and are faced with choices and opportunities sometimes shaped by those backgrounds. As humans and women we share some commonalities in life. But, no two paths are exactly the same. I don't judge or begrudge others who had choices and opportunities different than mine. But, my story is my own. So is Jen's. Like you I married, had children and cared for my elderly mother. I don't regret any of those choices no matter how difficult they were at times.I've been where you are. I applaud your strength, wisdom and dedication. I hope along the way, you manage to carve out a few minutes to just breathe, be you and replenish your spirit. It's difficult to be there for all the others in your life if you are running on empty physically, mentally or spiritually. While my path more closely mirrors yours than Jen's, I wouldn't change those choices along the way because they helped shape who I am today at 70, which is true of all of us even if you aren't 70 yet. Having said that, I enjoy my freedom today. I have shared that in several comments here. For the first time in my life I can breathe and have found myself, who I truly am on my own, and a peace I've never known living alone. Whatever lies ahead in your life, I wish you these things as well. Jen is sharing hers with us, I am sharing mine with others, every step of the way being grateful. May God bless us each and every one. 🥲
@user-mc4cl3kr1r Thank you for your encouraging words. They were well received🌻
Good for you Jen! I am very proud of you. That said, I am very happy being married to a retired Air Force, military man. We have pensions that allow us to travel and purchase almost anything we desire. Are we rich? No, but we are well off. One big advantage is the healthcare insurance. Even if my husband were to pass away, I am covered for life. I can, for life, shop on any military base where groceries, clothes, furniture etc is discounted and tax free. If I get sick, my husband is there to care for me. As I get older, this becomes very important. My dishes are always done. If I don’t do them, my husband does. We both love a clean home and he cleans too. If I don’t want to cook, he cooks or we go out to eat. My life is pretty much stress free. I do love watching your channel grow!
Good for you. ❤️
Do have a plan if he gets sick first. My mom was caregiver for my dad (he had emphysema), he passed away. She was later diagnosed with Parkinsons. Her children certainly all help her a great deal, she is now in assisted living, but he is no longer here to care for her
@@cjtzioumis686 He is a retired military veteran and he is fully covered for his care if I cannot care for him. I have the same coverage.
You are one of the lucky ones that did not end up marrying someone that was messy,or physical ,mental or verbal abuser, not everyone has a happy or content life and most have no way out.
@@franzone70 Oh, I was not that lucky! My first husband of 18 years was abusive. I divorced him when my daughter was 16.
Freedom! Not having to argue with or answer to anyone. 😊 Great video Jen. I’m a loyal fan love your channel. Keep it up. ❤️
So much to do day trips , road trips, spa days, cooking , reading, library , beach walk boardwalk, I keep busy . I snow bird in winter to warmer climate friends family in south .
I have tinnitus so I play a sound machine at bedtime that has several different sounds. It actually has a forest sound, but when tinnitus is very loud I do have to switch to white noise. I would prefer not to use either, but it is much better than 24/7 ringing in the ear. The best part about it is that living alone no one has to hear it but me😊
There's a vitamin that is supposed to help with that. ❤
This piggybacks off of some of what you said: Not having to explain to anyone what you’re doing or why you’re doing it. Such peace.
I don’t live alone anymore…but when my hubby and son are gone for a bonding weekend, oh the blissful silence. No one asking me stuff or feeling the need to tell me things. Heaven.
Don’t get me wrong, I love my guys. But I do have noice cancelling headphones and they have been carefully trained to observe my need for my “cone of silence.” Cuz if mama ain’t happy, nobody’s happy. ❤
I love the visual of a cone of silence.😅
Hello from the UK. I dont like alone but I'm definitely an introvert. I consider myself a sociable introvert. I need lots of time alone in order to recharge.
Welcome!
Same, I'm from the UK too. I like my alone time but the truth is I'm painfully lonely.
When I watch and listen to you, it’s like seeing and hearing myself. I have always been thought of as odd and found it impossible throughout my life (I’m 81 now) to find a friend who could accept me without criticism. I have finally found someone like me in the person of you! Please keep making these videos. It feels so good to be vindicated!! lol
Living with someone does not guarantee safety 😂 what a fallacy that claim is.
Right?? This has always blown my mind that ppl think this. I have always had to live with men and I can tell stories about how each one was a thief, some were violent, and a few thought they were warlocks (Golden Dawn, that crap), all were too important to take out the trash or clean. Appalling that ppl think it's safe to live with someone. Most men are dangerous. It is a MASSIVE privilege to be a woman who can live on one's own. I'm not sure who is raising these "men" (well, all but one of these was family, in my case) but it's tragic for our society that this is what is offered.
I agree ! Some of the people who have treated me the worst have been the ' closest' to me
@@carlasamuels479 I feel like this is something that's being publicly acknowledged more and more.
@@Psalm23bytheSea SOOOOO happy for you! You made it through a King Baby reign!
Brilliant Jen! I laughed out loud at every new accurate reason 😂😂😂 you’ve absolutely reminded me what a great life I have. I truly do know, and am grateful for the calm and peace, but sometimes I kind of forget a bit🙈this 100%, is NOT the life I dreamed of growing up and into my married/children years, and I am still haunted by yearning dreams that can never be. Yes, after 24yrs alone I still need to ‘let go’ more than I have💔! BUT there is a lot of peace and nature, music and creative art in my quiet rural home; with my very special dog, hens and stray cats! Great video again Jen… and the freedom is true too… (just washed my lunch plates 😂😂😂) thank you ❤
I was a hairstylist for almost 30 years and when friends in the past would come to visit me, they couldn't believe I didn't even own a stereo or radio. Never had the TV on. I said, I love the quiet. I need the quiet. It was like I worked in a nightclub, loud thumping music. People all over the place. Working in the salons I've worked in was like working in a nightclub every day. And you just want to come home to peace and quiet and yes I love living alone. AND my parents gave us white noise machines when we were young so we could fall asleep easier. And I can't sleep without one. It is like silence to me. It's like a white noise type of silence. If the room is too quiet I can't sleep. We'll blame my parents for that one!
Yes. To everything about living alone.
The ones who threaten about " being safe" are the ones who are most dangerous IMO. Why do their minds go to physical harm when living alone is SO peaceful. I think THEY'RE the ones bringing harm.
Be prudent, not intimidated.
Now, about living alone. I like muting TV commercials. No one around to complain about it 😊 like the line Spencer Tracy says in Desk Set, the best part of living alone is "nobody tells you anything". You don't have negative vibes emanating from anyone. That's SO WONDERFUL!
Well I can do housework when I can. I can cook or make something that I can. I can take my nap and pills without having to give a reason. There's peace, less laundry etc. There's more things but I learn slowly what it is. 😅
My husband does his own laundry. He learned how in the military. He doesn’t do mine, I do my own.
i am an introvert too. love my alone time.
#1 rocks!!! The biggest pet peeve of my entire life is people moving my things around. I’ve lived single and alone for 12 years now and enjoy events and gatherings with others so much more. Please consider doing a video on safety practices. Also, seedling update please. With Love from N. FL 🌷🌷
That was absolutely brilliant! So much to the point 😊
I like listening to music in the car and I like being the one choosing the music I'm listening to. So I'm mainly listening to CD's instead of the radio while I'm driving. At home I like lots of silence like you do. If I'm not watching a video or movie most of the time my house is silent except for the sounds of the wind and nature outside. A couple of times a week I will listen to 4-5 songs I choose on youtube. I will put the radio on to get the most local weather updates if bad weather is potentially going to be in my area. Otherwise the radio is off.
I love your videos! I can relate, I started my channel and posted my first video this morning because you motivated me! It may be a pretty rough video, but at least I did it! 😀 I also gave you a shout out!
Gosh Jen, so very happy to have found you and your wonderful videos. I’m silver and solo and when you try and explain why I’m enjoying being silver and solo .. people loose their minds !
One of my favorite things about living alone is.. I can come home from work and get into my pajamas at 5:30pm, if I want to and explain to no one 😊
I love and agree with all of your reasons.. keep the great videos coming!!
🤣 Your #1 is my absolute ANGST of being married LOL! Stuff gets moved all the time hahahhh!!! Oh Jen you are an absolute GEM!!!
Been living alone since my divorce 6 years ago. In addition to leaving the dishes in the sink, I don’t have to clean the house every day, or shower every day or do the laundry. Granted, I do those things, I just don’t have to rush and do them. The real big advantage of living alone is that I can literally sleep/nap whenever I want to. For some reason, my ex hated it when I would sleep in or take naps. Thanks for your videos!
I have always fed my cats as much as they want and they never get overweight. I think they get bored with food if they have enough…
I love being solo, just with my dog❤ thanks for sharing this!
You rock! Wish we were in-person friends 😊
There’s nothing like living alone, with everything just the way you want it!
I'm 35 and have been living alone for 10 years. I love being able to walk around with as much or as little clothes on as I feel like. I love being able to convert my living room into a workroom and have just a small part set aside for entertaining and the rest of the space is there for my use. I love being able to have fun adult time by myself whenever I want, any time of the day I want.
Love your channel, inspiring and uplifting for a loner!!❤
No TV at home was a game changer for me ✌🏻😃
I've lived alone for about 20 years now and I love it. My time is my own, my money is my own, and my life is my own. What's not to like!
I live alone for all your reasons and more! Its bliss! I have been married 3 times and not for me! I am from a large family of 6 kids and I love being alone in my home! Thank you for these vidoes I really enjoy them!
I never knew the blessings of being alone until I turned 50. Ohh, the lessons I’ve learned since then! If you marry the wrong person, it’ll turn your world upside down. You’re very blessed to have not fallen for the marriage trap.
1 Corinthians 7:8 (KJV)
8 I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I.
I lived alone for 6 years, and I loved it! I remarried in 2008 and I have been married ever since. While my husband and I have been together 19 years, we are no longer a married couple in love. We are now separated, yet still living together due to both of our finances. If I could afford to be on my own again, believe me I would be, but it's just not possible at this time. I absolutely loved living alone. I can turn the heat up or down when I want, I can turn the ac up and down when I want. I fix and eat whatever I want. I don't have anyone to answer to. I love the quiet and peacefulness in the house. I have two dogs and they are all I need. I love that I can blast music when I want or have it quiet with no noise when I want. I like not having to pick after a messy person. There are so many things I love about being alone. Only alone time I get now is when my husband goes to work, and I cherish that alone time. Looking forward to the day when I can be completely alone again, with the exception of my sweet dogs.
I am currently living with my ex-husband and our adult daughter. Looking forward to having my own place in retirement. For me, sacrificing now is the only way to make solo living possible in the future.
I look forward to the time when I can live alone again, but I will say now that we're not technically a couple, we do get along better. So it's bearable.
Jen, I love and relate to every one of your terms. I am over 70, married to a nice man-and I live alone. By choice. I just don’t want to spend another minute, (of either of our precious lives), bickering, bargaining, compromising or resenting. We get together once a week and we’re both fine with that.
The perfect relationship. I’ve always said the perfect husband or boyfriend would be one that lived not more than a half an hour away, but not so close that they could just drive by your house, and be someone that if you want to go out to dinner you just call him up and say let’s go out to dinner, or just hang out with no more than once a week
As a preteen I used to think the closest I wanted a husband to be is next door, but life has taught me even that is too close.😂
@@LynsAlteredArts we actually live about half an hour away from each other!
@@LynsAlteredArts PERFECT!