When does a man know?

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  • @kamys6133
    @kamys6133 5 років тому +1562

    It's funny how men will have their checklist and won't deviate from it period. Us women need to start operating the exact same way. It'll save us from lot of uneccessary mess smh!

  • @dadsarepeopletoo3785
    @dadsarepeopletoo3785 5 років тому +486

    My husband said he KNEW the first time we met. And he tells our sons, when you meet the ONE.....you will just KNOW.

    • @wshelby83
      @wshelby83 3 роки тому +17

      Wow!!! You’re so blessed!! I hope the guy that will be my husband/boyfriend will know too

    • @dadsarepeopletoo3785
      @dadsarepeopletoo3785 3 роки тому +7

      @@wshelby83 he will

    • @susanarsoniadou3588
      @susanarsoniadou3588 3 роки тому +5

      The ONE may be the ONE but lies and misperceptions can be a problem. Many are one thing on the outside and if you are lucky you may see their true colours before it is too late.

    • @dadsarepeopletoo3785
      @dadsarepeopletoo3785 Рік тому

      @kenyagirly true. My hubby and I have only been married 35 years. It could still fall apart.

    • @CreoleX409
      @CreoleX409 Рік тому +1

      I wonder did your wife know too

  • @73iamblessed
    @73iamblessed 5 років тому +412

    I Don’t want a man who drink or smoke because I don’t do neither. I believe in being on the same page spiritually and etc.,

    • @shiquettawilliams2955
      @shiquettawilliams2955 5 років тому +46

      I totally agree. I was told I'm too picky because I said I don't want a man who smokes. I don't and I don't want to be kissing an ashtray.

    • @RealLadi228
      @RealLadi228 4 роки тому +12

      @@shiquettawilliams2955
      Lmbo..@kissing a ashtray
      Facts

    • @RealLadi228
      @RealLadi228 4 роки тому +3

      Facts

    • @acharich
      @acharich 4 роки тому +2

      🎯🎯🎯

    • @Wealthybaby
      @Wealthybaby 4 роки тому +9

      I just ended it with a guy after 4 days because he does hooka 24/7 and smokes blacks and said an x got him smoking 🤢 it’s such a turn off

  • @love7loyalty-MHA
    @love7loyalty-MHA 4 роки тому +680

    My mom always told me that. She said "never spend too much time on one man because you can't get your youthful years back " I plays no games 🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️

    • @haveagoodday629
      @haveagoodday629 4 роки тому +10

      Wise advice. My mom told me the same thing when I was younger.

    • @kikiclement1423
      @kikiclement1423 3 роки тому +3

      She's right

    • @amz7014
      @amz7014 3 роки тому +11

      Yep... I wish I knew this earlier

    • @lashawnward340
      @lashawnward340 3 роки тому +2

      @@amz7014 me too.. but there is always alittle time left..

    • @amz7014
      @amz7014 3 роки тому +6

      @@lashawnward340 I'm 25 now.. I always was such a people pleaser. I kept on fixing myself but didnt realise that they was the ones who needed fixing. Because I never grew up around alot of people that's just what I knew... most men In their 20s dont want to settle down unfortunately x

  • @latishamartin6860
    @latishamartin6860 5 років тому +536

    That's true when I met My boyfriend he kept saying you going to be my wife... A couple months later am his wife now...Now everyone acts me why you marry so fast So I say to them I'm a grown women not a child🙌🎯

    • @wshelby83
      @wshelby83 3 роки тому +7

      You’re so blessed!!

    • @tyoung3509
      @tyoung3509 3 роки тому +3

      🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯

    • @kwav1st332
      @kwav1st332 3 роки тому +5

      I totally agree! Let go if he's not giving you 💯!

    • @nolashes
      @nolashes 3 роки тому +2

      All day what's for you is for you how blessings happen at any giving time

  • @ericabostwick4033
    @ericabostwick4033 5 років тому +792

    This is so freeing! You are not his wife if he tells you he is waiting to get his finances in order! I swear my ex used this excuse for 3 years! Thank God I got wiser! Tony these messages are so helpful!

    • @mamamartin8191
      @mamamartin8191 5 років тому +3

      Mines too Bosslady Pebbles

    • @quincyjackson4377
      @quincyjackson4377 5 років тому +22

      See some of you just jump into assumptions about every man you deal with just because one said something on UA-cam. tony gaskin does not speak for all men.

    • @ericabostwick4033
      @ericabostwick4033 5 років тому +73

      Quincy Jackson I don’t assume anything the proof is in the actions. A person can only pretend for so long before the “real” them comes out. I’m not taking anyone’s word, I’ve actually experienced what he speaks on for myself with grown boys. Now I have an amazing man and he and I both watch Tony and discuss his teachings together! Tony is a man of God who is called to minister to us women and for men that are mature enough to receive the truth! If it ain’t for you don’t come to the channel but for me and countless other women we appreciate him and will defend him because he speaks the truth!

    • @niecyh2313
      @niecyh2313 5 років тому +34

      Quincy Jackson I agree with you sir! He should have his finances together if he’s trying to get married! If he can’t provide then he doesn’t have no business dating nor considering marriage! Period!!!! I respect a man who will tell me that! I don’t want to be married struggling!

    • @MissShauntae
      @MissShauntae 5 років тому

      Mines too

  • @cynthia59665
    @cynthia59665 3 роки тому +250

    Yes my late husband said he knew the first weekend we decided to spend time together. He asked to marry me and 3 months later after meeting his Mother family we were married for 16 years before he crossed over. 🙏

  • @shuanalazette6077
    @shuanalazette6077 5 років тому +397

    This all sounds good. But ladies I must tell you, pray to God for your husband. Stop dating and meeting men. Draw closer to the Lord as you keep your legs close. And start building yourself. The Providence of God will lead you right to him.

    • @m2g73
      @m2g73 5 років тому +36

      Exactly. At the end of the day while a lot of what Tony shares is helpful and helps women navigate throught the crazy world of dating, relationshp, etc. Seeking the Lord and following his instructions for your life in every area of your life is the best way to go. Because no one size fits all. Every person and situation is unique. Tony is a major blessing with his guidance but seek God -let him lead you. Cultivating the discipline to do so. It's not going to be easy but it's going to be worth it.

    • @natashadame4397
      @natashadame4397 4 роки тому +3

      Amen

    • @beautifulqueen748
      @beautifulqueen748 4 роки тому +1

      Guashuana Reed Amen

    • @fredajohnson506
      @fredajohnson506 3 роки тому +6

      You better preach its the truth anyhow. Because when wait in lord its no regrets

    • @norapeace6526
      @norapeace6526 3 роки тому +2

      Facts!! Praise God!!

  • @godsanointeddaughter8782
    @godsanointeddaughter8782 5 років тому +605

    I love it Mr. Gaskin. I rather be HURT by the TRUTH than to be COMFORTED with a LIE. Everyone Be Blessed. 💕💕

    • @daughterofyah8823
      @daughterofyah8823 5 років тому +6

      JAMAICAN EMPRESS the truth is all Love ❤️ sis no hurt.

  • @priscillapie
    @priscillapie 4 роки тому +347

    If only men would leave women, who are not their wives, alone ....

    • @adaofcharles1217
      @adaofcharles1217 3 роки тому +19

      Young, unmarried women should stop accepting married men's proposition.
      They should say no, and help save another woman's marriage.

    • @t-alimichael3363
      @t-alimichael3363 3 роки тому +19

      In same token women should stop conforming. Close thy legs for marriage.

    • @lyndapeoples8127
      @lyndapeoples8127 3 роки тому +21

      @@adaofcharles1217 ...also, married men need to stay in a married man's place! Smh at your typical cultural thinking blaming everything on the woman.

    • @lyndapeoples8127
      @lyndapeoples8127 3 роки тому +4

      @@t-alimichael3363...by the same token, God requires the same of men. There will be no double standard at the judgement bar. Any male who has sex outside of marriage and comes down on any woman who does the same, is a hypicrit and not much of a man.

    • @tabithabennett7308
      @tabithabennett7308 3 роки тому +6

      Most men are not really looking for the wife, they are looking for everything else but the wife

  • @Felicia_Plans
    @Felicia_Plans 5 років тому +171

    Stop wasting time with the wrong person. Period.

  • @staceythorpe7938
    @staceythorpe7938 5 років тому +402

    A girlfriend of mine who is currently married, prior to her marriage to her husband, I asked them how they met. And her husband said before he even met his wife he was dating another girl. While he was at an event of a mutual friend of his and my friend, he saw her and instantly knew she was the one. After he broke up with his ex, he saw my friend another time cleaning and preparing a place for an event of their mutual friend. That's when he took the opportunity to ask his friend to introduce him to her. The rest is history

  • @lindageiling5922
    @lindageiling5922 5 років тому +386

    I know 50 yr old men that are still grown boys.

    • @TiffanyLewis1987
      @TiffanyLewis1987 5 років тому +27

      Linda Geiling I just left a 61 Y.O. ‘grown boy’🙄

    • @tammyterrell7128
      @tammyterrell7128 5 років тому +20

      Throw the whole man away👊....lol the right one will be on point. Promise you good luck sis

    • @nikluv21
      @nikluv21 4 роки тому +12

      Yeah 57 year old that job hops and would rather beg and struggle than keep a job cause he doesnt know how to be humble. Just arrogant and narcissist.

    • @sandraotero5951
      @sandraotero5951 4 роки тому +3

      @@nikluv21 You dating my ex Narc. ? 😂

    • @nikluv21
      @nikluv21 4 роки тому +1

      @@sandraotero5951 lolol

  • @prestigiouswisdom1283
    @prestigiouswisdom1283 5 років тому +290

    I know God sent you to do these videos.... because I just had to stop talking to a guy because he was Muslim and I though we could work it out we dated for 2 months I thought he was going to be my husband BUT .....Guess what? when it came to our children we could not agree on who’s belief the kids would follow that was our DEALBREAKER. Ladies ima tell yah he was everything pulling out chairs, financially stabled, worked out at the gym with ME faithfully (He was FIT 6 pack etc) but I could NOT jeopardize my Faith because God/Jesus is my foundation my beginning and end ❤️

    • @tiffanysimms4454
      @tiffanysimms4454 5 років тому +11

      Absolutely. The beginning and the end!

    • @anciakatjiteo8567
      @anciakatjiteo8567 5 років тому +7

      Amen

    • @Glamrocs
      @Glamrocs 5 років тому +7

      Amen

    • @marishalewis484
      @marishalewis484 5 років тому +13

      Prestigious Wisdom Wow. Thank you for sharing. It speaks volumes that you didn’t settle Lady. Like you, my faith is non-negotiable.

    • @tlashai9902
      @tlashai9902 5 років тому +5

      Amen

  • @coachshannonowens
    @coachshannonowens 5 років тому +444

    I let this play out loud and my 33 year old daughter did not move. I’ve said the same thing several times, but I appreciate you addressing this subject. She heard you. TYJ. I think she gets it now. No settling.

  • @jolieraina8107
    @jolieraina8107 10 місяців тому +24

    I was dating a man for over a year who put me through the damn ringer. He knew I wanted to be married with kids. Always said “I need a break , I need space , I don’t want to live together but be together , pick up my kids , I’m not ready to marry, we’re basically married already “ meanwhile cheating on me the ENTIRE time……I finally left him after a year long of back and fourth…..
    and now I’m engaged to a wonderful man 💕 he said he knew I was his wife after our first date. Proposed to me & now we’re Getting married in 4 days! He wants kids and believes in marriage. I’m so glad I listened to my intuition… God was waiting for me to see my worth and now that I have my blessing has arrived 🙏🏽💍✨💕 I share this to help any other woman struggling with anything similar. God Bless ✨🙏🏽💕

  • @staceythorpe7938
    @staceythorpe7938 5 років тому +176

    You are absolutely right! While Adam was asleep, God was creating Eve. So when God presented Eve to Adam, he instantly recognized her as his wife. Adam didnt know what God was up to, while he was sleeping. It's something God wired in men.

    • @bettinaivory28
      @bettinaivory28 5 років тому +1

      But Adam had a whole wife before Eve🤷🏾‍♀️🤣

    • @pjSoCal23
      @pjSoCal23 5 років тому +22

      Yes.. but also God didn’t present Adam with four women or five to choose from he gave him one woman. God chose the woman.

    • @Max0429.
      @Max0429. 4 роки тому +15

      🤣🤣🤣DEAD!!!! Lilith was part of mythology. It is not biblical at all!!! Adam only had one wife and that was Eve... if it were not so, GOD would of told us!! NO where does it say it in the beginning when GOD created man in his own image and likeness. When He put Adam to sleep, He did not confirm Lilith to be Adams first anything. He called her women nd her name was Eve. If you used logic, and also know what the scriptures say, then you'd know that within the 6 days that would have to mean that sin already accursed in the garden. Therefore Adam wouldn't have been in the garden still DUH!!!! My Goodness. Ppl can't be this dumb. Instead of spreading false doctrine. Here an idea... GO READ what the BIBLE actually says and stop making shit up.

    • @Max0429.
      @Max0429. 4 роки тому +5

      @Princess Christina I apologize missy. I didn't mean to be so harsh. I forget sometimes that we don't all know about something at one point. Either way I'm sorry for being an ass.

    • @missmarymack3457
      @missmarymack3457 4 роки тому +8

      Why does everything have to be a debate. IN THE BEGINNING GOD CREATED THE HEAVENS AND THE EARTH.

  • @mamamartin8191
    @mamamartin8191 5 років тому +529

    By the end of the video I'm in tears! This man has been nothing but a blessing for my well being since last year!

    • @TonyGaskins
      @TonyGaskins  5 років тому +78

      Bless you Sis! And thank you for being a blessing to me as well! I appreciate you being a part of the #BlessedTribe

    • @meralisv.
      @meralisv. 4 роки тому +4

      Girl... me too... me too

    • @robertjames9547
      @robertjames9547 4 роки тому +2

      @@TonyGaskins more men wouldn't mind getting married if the court system was not tied to it in the United States that's FACTS .

    • @briana14333
      @briana14333 4 роки тому

      ❤︎

    • @shamaryisrael3290
      @shamaryisrael3290 4 роки тому +6

      @@robertjames9547 I hope that's not what you are really telling yourself the court/united state a $20 court fee cause the united state has something to do with everything you do...your liquor, cigarettes, food, clothes, car, house, medicine, education, job, birth, death everything..but God is over all of that.....in the midst of thy enemy....God bless you, Sir

  • @brandonhumble3595
    @brandonhumble3595 5 років тому +541

    As I mature I realize that I am attracted to a woman based upon her heart I do like physical appearance also but I get more of a connection with the conversation of a mature woman

    • @Glamyougirl17
      @Glamyougirl17 5 років тому +36

      Brandon Humble And the best way to connect to mans heart is to connect to your heart ladies. That’s what Adrian Evenheart teaches and it makes sense. When you’re most confident in yourself you can connect to others more

    • @musiclover865
      @musiclover865 5 років тому +23

      Careful, the heart is deceitful😉

    • @ynlindo
      @ynlindo 5 років тому +18

      And the heart is what you should be attracted to. It is the essence of who we truly are!

    • @gachabona7181
      @gachabona7181 5 років тому +4

      Nice to hear this.

    • @brandonhumble3595
      @brandonhumble3595 5 років тому +9

      musiclover865 this is true that’s why you have to fill people out

  • @adoseofdannetta
    @adoseofdannetta 5 років тому +347

    Anybody else watch these just to hear Tony say “point blank periOD?”. 😂😂😂 In all seriousness though. Take the lesson ladies. 🤷🏽‍♀️

    • @TARLEASE02
      @TARLEASE02 5 років тому +12

      Lol me and my friend have started saying that to stress a point in conversation. Hahaha. Cracks me up.

    • @tinacharm1678
      @tinacharm1678 4 роки тому +1

      Lol

    • @feliciamesadieu6924
      @feliciamesadieu6924 4 роки тому +5

      He really cracks me up! 😂

    • @StandupGirl-ym3ey
      @StandupGirl-ym3ey 4 роки тому +6

      And Hear me??!! Lol

    • @BrwnSgr5
      @BrwnSgr5 4 роки тому +7

      And "on yo baiyck"...🤣🤣🤣 Love it!!
      Tony G, know he be preaching to us Ladies!!! I need these words!!!!

  • @thisgloriouslifee
    @thisgloriouslifee 5 років тому +515

    “A man isn’t a man until he’s about 35” 😭 that depresses me lmao

    • @pjSoCal23
      @pjSoCal23 5 років тому +74

      jahmila smith even at 40 some aren’t. I know some men who act like 22 trying to relive their youth they had. I tell them it’s too late grow up!
      I know younger guys who get married and commit, those older guys can’t even muster up that maturity.

    • @babyphat406
      @babyphat406 5 років тому +48

      Some at 46 still ain't men😔

    • @nicolataylor536
      @nicolataylor536 5 років тому +6

      @@babyphat406 Facts!!!!!

    • @suziemarie412
      @suziemarie412 5 років тому +27

      I know 35 year old man childs, it depends on the mans background.

    • @thisgloriouslifee
      @thisgloriouslifee 5 років тому +1

      Suzie Marie so do I.. and I was extremely baffled.

  • @RandomPortaits
    @RandomPortaits 5 років тому +489

    YOUNG WOMEN PLEASE STOP
    GIVING AWAY YOUR COOKIES.

    • @rickytanner3
      @rickytanner3 5 років тому +23

      They give it away so easy and post naked pics online for free where porn lovers don’t have to buy porn anymore to watch.

    • @northernroots6807
      @northernroots6807 5 років тому +52

      Some think they have to give a man the cookie for him to stay. I say if he can't wait, let him go on about his business, he's not the one.

    • @RandomPortaits
      @RandomPortaits 5 років тому +23

      BELIEVE ME LADIES IF YOU FIND
      SOMETHING THAT YOU REALLY
      LIKE TO DO WITH YOUR TIME AND YOUR HAVING FUN DOING
      YOUR THING AND NOT PAYING
      ATTENTION TO MEN AT ALL,
      WATCH THE ATTENTION AND
      REACTIONS FROM MEN.

    • @shiquettawilliams2955
      @shiquettawilliams2955 5 років тому +17

      @@northernroots6807 and they learn the hard way that the cookie don't keep a man

    • @traquilasmith2275
      @traquilasmith2275 5 років тому +2

      @@shiquettawilliams2955 so true

  • @nathalia504
    @nathalia504 5 років тому +240

    Good stuff Tony! As women we should not invest all these years into relationships that are not leading to marriage. Not many women want to be girlfriends forever.

    • @dastunnachick3077
      @dastunnachick3077 5 років тому +5

      nathalia504 this so true

    • @nysiahdavis9765
      @nysiahdavis9765 2 роки тому +5

      I said the same thing. I don't want to be a girlfriend all my life. Smh walking around here 60 years old saying that's my boyfriend lol

    • @tinyking11
      @tinyking11 Рік тому

      @@nysiahdavis9765🤣😂😂💀💀 In his obituary you will be his “special friend”.

  • @ruthwells3990
    @ruthwells3990 5 років тому +191

    You are speaking to my 💜 today. My parents went on 5 dates with a chaperone and then got married. They were married 62 years before passing a few months apart. The marriage was not perfect but they raised their children TOGETHER, and was committed to a family structure and NO DIVORCE. My father was 22 when he married my mother who was 19. He HAD TO GROW into his manhood and being married. Nevertheless, I’m proud of them, and the commitment and vows they honored before God and man, And I’m proud of the people my siblings and I became. Many blessings to you and yours my young brother, and be blessed. You are really EMPOWERING US😀.

    • @RealLadi228
      @RealLadi228 4 роки тому +7

      Beautiful 😍

    • @zoraidacastro5403
      @zoraidacastro5403 4 роки тому +7

      Likewise my parents were married 50 years and dated for 10 years. Different generations of men and women for sure!!!!

    • @ellebeauty8737
      @ellebeauty8737 Рік тому +1

      That’s beautiful. I am the oldest of three and my parents were both young when I was born. They met at 16 and 18 back in the early 90s and are still married and going strong. ❤

  • @promisingrose8730
    @promisingrose8730 5 років тому +126

    Sometimes it is hard to accept but it’s best to know now rather than wait years down the line.

    • @marishalewis484
      @marishalewis484 5 років тому +8

      Blessed Brown Beautiful I agree! I would rather know now than later.

  • @brendabeautiful3096
    @brendabeautiful3096 5 років тому +78

    Tony you are so right ...my husband said he knew I was his wife within the 1st (week) ...im a blessed woman 😀all PRAISES to GOD...

    • @marjorienalunkuma6025
      @marjorienalunkuma6025 2 роки тому +2

      What did you guys talk about that made him realise it,was it your energy or .......

  • @charnaynicole7976
    @charnaynicole7976 5 років тому +132

    Manglish- “when I get my money right ima leave you” 🤣 PERIOOOOOD

  • @theonlyones4479
    @theonlyones4479 4 роки тому +113

    Hi Tony, I grew up with three older brothers who taught me about men, and I agree with you with regard to a man knows when he meets the woman he wants to marry. I tell my girlfriends all the time that they will know because he will make the necessary adjustments in his life to make them a priority and be “present.”

    • @theonlyones4479
      @theonlyones4479 4 роки тому +2

      Also, do you believe that fundamental values bind a relationship and fundamental differences fracture a relationship?

  • @LaShawn_Jeanette
    @LaShawn_Jeanette 5 років тому +177

    Great topic as usual. Like he said in another video: “You can have the pain of discipline or the pain of regret”. Life is too short to keep repeating the same lessons. I appreciate TG’s transparency👍🏾

  • @marshaholmes8412
    @marshaholmes8412 5 років тому +179

    Chains of bondage are being destroyed as Tony Gaskins speaks the truth! This video is the most liberating because time is precious and valuable and it should not be wasted on someone who cannot make up their mind and who doesn't value you. Be blessed!

    • @TonyGaskins
      @TonyGaskins  5 років тому +13

      thanks for watching! #BlessedTribe

    • @kizzyrock
      @kizzyrock 5 років тому +6

      All facts!!! That's why Satan is attacking these videos TRYING to stop the videos

    • @15sophomore15
      @15sophomore15 4 роки тому

      Amen I agree

  • @livelearnandgrow5422
    @livelearnandgrow5422 4 роки тому +66

    I remember when my son met his wife, he came running home saying ma’am ma’am !!!!I met my wife. They have been married for five years now. And I can go on and on stories about that

    • @tinyking11
      @tinyking11 Рік тому +1

      🙌🏽🥹🥹 Amazing. I pray a man feels this way about me one day soon.

  • @Godislove818
    @Godislove818 5 років тому +130

    This is sooooo true 101 % . I see it all played out with past exes, the excuses they make to drag you along for years until they find the one or settle for you if they cant look no more..

  • @sweetp1512
    @sweetp1512 5 років тому +106

    I used to think being in a long term relationship was a good thing. Boy, was I wrong. Thanks Tony for opening my eyes. Setting new standards for 2020...and they just got higher!

  • @MsFrizzy
    @MsFrizzy 5 років тому +70

    No bad news at all. 🗣️Set the captives Free!

    • @annamayyy9771
      @annamayyy9771 5 років тому +4

      Amen 🤣 that's if they are ready to be set free

    • @Glamrocs
      @Glamrocs 5 років тому +2

      Amen

    • @snsnj7180
      @snsnj7180 4 роки тому +1

      🤣🤣🤣

  • @takeilaf1433
    @takeilaf1433 5 років тому +100

    You are absolutely right. I was with my children's father for 12 years we met in college and he never married me. He actually broke up with me 2 years ago and I was heartbroken. Your videos has really helped me, thank you!

  • @livelearnandgrow5422
    @livelearnandgrow5422 4 роки тому +102

    My father said the same thing. A man ain’t grown till 35. He also said, at 35 a man should have his own business, his own career, he should be at the top of his game.

  • @bellaiarose
    @bellaiarose 5 років тому +142

    I literally cried watching this. I’m 24 and single but I appreciate your realness Tony but I’m just a little discouraged. Be blessed!

    • @TiffanyLewis1987
      @TiffanyLewis1987 5 років тому +9

      baby p you’re beautiful young lady...

    • @marishalewis484
      @marishalewis484 5 років тому +18

      baby p don’t be discouraged lady. The man for you, will come at the perfect time. Also, change your mindset to be more positive.

    • @kizzyrock
      @kizzyrock 5 років тому +9

      We ALL have been there doll! It HURTS BUT its needed in order for God to send us our soul mate! It's time for God to CHOOSE rather than us. *Hugs*

    • @bellaiarose
      @bellaiarose 5 років тому +1

      RealTalkWithKizzyRock lol hugs! And thank you I agree I will keep that in mind!

    • @bellaiarose
      @bellaiarose 5 років тому +1

      Tiffany Lewis thank you!

  • @girlwakeuppodcast4622
    @girlwakeuppodcast4622 5 років тому +57

    Off/On with a Man=NOT HIS WIFE!!!#BE BLESSED

  • @RandomPortaits
    @RandomPortaits 5 років тому +125

    LET THE YOUNG WOMEN KNOW
    HOW THE GAME IS PLAYED.

    • @LadyFay88
      @LadyFay88 5 років тому +8

      It's being played on the young AND old!

    • @LadyFay88
      @LadyFay88 4 роки тому +3

      @@tiffanydiggs7625 Had to let them know, them old folk not exempt from these games 🤣

  • @TwilaB0721
    @TwilaB0721 5 років тому +82

    I LOVE TO HEAR THE TRUTH NO SUGAR COATED MESSAGES. I'M TAKING EVERYTHING ALL IN BEFORE I GET MARRIED. THANKS FOR SHARING THIS VIDEO.

  • @kellyturner6657
    @kellyturner6657 3 роки тому +54

    This is facts. My dad told me this before he died. He said a man knows what he wants within 6 months. After six months drop him cause you are not the one for him.

    • @XX-bm4eo
      @XX-bm4eo 4 місяці тому

      @@kellyturner6657 here you but I’m only three months and wondering . Guess I’ll give him until four or five mos ??

  • @legacylifestylewithLisa
    @legacylifestylewithLisa 5 років тому +106

    Tony, your videos are 10000% the truth. Many women need to hear the truth and it's sad that self-love is lacked. When I decided to love me and develop a love relationship with God my life changed!!! Great men truly exist especially when you learn to love self first!!!!

  • @cherh
    @cherh 5 років тому +111

    And people judging Lori because how she moving 😂 tuhhh. Y'all better get like her & stop putting life on hold 1 or more years for a bf. Anything after a year you wasting your time. Hello 2020 vision we seeing clearer now! Be blessed 💫

    • @briana14333
      @briana14333 4 роки тому +5

      Preach. And begging for you to come back but still no mention of marriage? It's a no from me, dawg!

    • @cherh
      @cherh 4 роки тому +2

      @@briana14333 😄 facts! 💯

  • @brandonhumble3595
    @brandonhumble3595 5 років тому +54

    Proverbs 31:30 charm is deceitful and beauty is vain but a woman who fears the lord is to be praised

  • @mamort3621
    @mamort3621 5 років тому +47

    🗣🗣🗣teach me “Manglish” Brother Tony 🤣🤣

  • @kw3870
    @kw3870 5 років тому +86

    💯 my thoughts exactly. And I'm a woman. An indecisive man is unstable in all his ways (James 1:8) Pay close attention to his/her ways.

    • @josieb4248
      @josieb4248 5 років тому +1

      True

    • @josieb4248
      @josieb4248 5 років тому

      Interesting

    • @chriscooks5437
      @chriscooks5437 4 роки тому +8

      The scripture says "a double-minded man is unstable in all his ways". Double-mindedness not the same as indecisiveness.

  • @AtlantaAngel84
    @AtlantaAngel84 5 років тому +347

    Y’all men are draining.

    • @rickytanner3
      @rickytanner3 5 років тому +40

      Stop allowing it.

    • @AtlantaAngel84
      @AtlantaAngel84 5 років тому +12

      Ricky T blah blah blah

    • @magnolia2
      @magnolia2 5 років тому +53

      AtlantaAngel84 They’re not wrong. You receive what you allow and accept. It’s about growth and making better choices for yourself. Don’t entertain the fckery that’s draining you. It’s that simple.

    • @katrinamccreary6411
      @katrinamccreary6411 5 років тому +7

      Yes but simple! Dont waste your time.❤✝️

    • @Melli510
      @Melli510 4 роки тому +5

      You right child they are; i am so drained

  • @livelearnandgrow5422
    @livelearnandgrow5422 4 роки тому +70

    My husband told me he knew the first day he met me .he gave me his brand new Jeep because my car was raggedy.

  • @dananewman6148
    @dananewman6148 5 років тому +163

    PREACH TONY -> It all boils down to being "equally yoked "
    Point Blank PERIODDD!!!
    Be BLESSED 🤗

    • @nickbry7357
      @nickbry7357 5 років тому +2

      I can not agree with you more.

  • @honeylatte6928
    @honeylatte6928 5 років тому +123

    This is so true I was with a guy on an off for years even at some point he gave me an engagement ring an he still didn't marry me. When I met my now husband an we were married within three years. If I had kept trying to hold onto the first one he would have kept picking me up an dropping me an it would have been my own fault. I always wanted to be someone's choice an not someone's option when all else failed.

    • @danielleross8493
      @danielleross8493 5 років тому +5

      Honey Latte that’s my now situation just now seeing that the reason we where engaged for years and he wouldn’t move forward with even picking a venue is because he was cheating and tony just showed me that I’m not his wife ....I’m not even hurt anymore the truth is absolutely freeing I just wish I didn’t have to explain this to our 2 children

    • @honeylatte6928
      @honeylatte6928 5 років тому +7

      @Danielle Ross Our childrens love for us is one of the most sincerest love's we will ever know. They just want us to be happy. What helped me was when I realized I loved him more than I loved myself an he was taking advantage of that to mistreat me. Once I was free from that emotional rollercoaster my life sincerely changed for the better. Someday someone is going to love an appreciate an you will be so thankful you moved on from someone who didn't.
      May God bless you and your children 💕

    • @roxannechow5372
      @roxannechow5372 4 роки тому

      Gosh I feel you .....it hurts but I feel you

    • @janetday5431
      @janetday5431 4 роки тому +6

      Ladies if you want to get married, there should always be a cut off date. Just stick to it. Don't go past 2yrs. You waste to much time. And you can't get it back.i love being single. Life is so much fun kicking it with your girlfriends.

  • @berthaeliascreative9178
    @berthaeliascreative9178 5 років тому +134

    This is true Tony a man knows..i dated a guy who was on & off..the third time he came back he told me he found a virgin..God loving me he left his phone by mistake & i dont even know how i unlocked it..he was already calling that lady his Mrs..& even got her preginant within a month already staying with her..its sad how i was about to be dribbled..its the painful truth that i had to swallow .tho the guy is a serial cheater ..still healing

    • @peggyoneal325
      @peggyoneal325 5 років тому +14

      Bertha Elias, I'm praying for your strength.....Take time to heal......I mean TRULY heal......you spoke of him, steal cheating.....for your sanity, don't be a part of it....don't look back at him....Be patient....trust God to send you two you needs....hv faith....
      God Bless you, love...

    • @peggyoneal325
      @peggyoneal325 5 років тому +7

      Excuse my error....I meant trust God to send you, who you need in your life...

    • @niecyh2313
      @niecyh2313 5 років тому +20

      Shame on him. Smh Ask God to remove him from your heart! You’ll be healed quickly!

    • @pjSoCal23
      @pjSoCal23 5 років тому +21

      The guy will probably cheat on her if he never changed his ways... or did any growing, grass isn’t always greener.

    • @JustDoRight
      @JustDoRight 5 років тому +4

      @@pjSoCal23 Yeap

  • @Dollface141
    @Dollface141 5 років тому +72

    And they say Men r Dumb🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤦🏽‍♀️😩Lord help us. This Knowledge is Priceless... Come on through Tony....🙋🏽‍♀️🤗

    • @haveagoodday629
      @haveagoodday629 4 роки тому +4

      They’re very calculating 😂😂😂😂👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • @Itchpls
    @Itchpls 5 років тому +39

    Confirmation is everything..

  • @relishapugh7874
    @relishapugh7874 5 років тому +38

    "FAITH, FAMILY, FINANCES..are a MANS FOUNDATION" thank u Lord for TRUTH!!🙏☝️

  • @ruthbambi2632
    @ruthbambi2632 5 років тому +33

    The truth hurts sometimes but it will set you free! God bless you :)

  • @missmarymack3457
    @missmarymack3457 5 років тому +81

    It’s hilarious how women are knocking other women saying that we lack self confidence because we are in agreement with Tony. Just because you don’t find what he’s saying helpful or another person is enlightened by his knowledge, DOES NOT MEAN A PERSON LACKS SELF CONFIDENCE. That’s what’s wrong with the world today Bitter women who think they know everything. I normally never comment but today everyone seems like they’re in a bad mood. Please get over it. Point of the matter is IF YOU DISAGREE THEN PLEEEEASE GO AND START YOUR OWN CHANNEL!! This is not the debate club.

    • @TonyGaskins
      @TonyGaskins  5 років тому +25

      Thank you Miss Mack! I appreciate your support and for hearing what I'm trying to say instead of nitpicking my message to argue. You are appreciated.

    • @missmarymack3457
      @missmarymack3457 5 років тому +6

      Absolutely Tony! And Thank you for taking time to share the knowledge and perspective that God has given you!! It’s well appreciated!

    • @briana14333
      @briana14333 4 роки тому +2

      Zactly! It is too easy to stop listening and move on, but to actually take time to formulate and type out a comment is useless. Hit dogs holler, you know.

  • @kellyellis6080
    @kellyellis6080 3 роки тому +11

    Listen to this man on this! He is on point and totally telling the truth! Never put your life on hold for an indecisive man! It doesn't take years to " decide " if someone is your wife! He'd be scared of losing that woman to another man , thereby making SURE to put a ring on it! He doesn't want to misplace that cell phone , therefore , he has a ring on it! Do not be disrespected ladies! Out there is a real man who will treat you like a woman is supposed to be treated! Do not settle for second best!

  • @sanjeshnidevi982
    @sanjeshnidevi982 5 років тому +75

    Tony Gaskins... let your spirit-filled wisdom FLOOD this channel and UA-cam. You are leading a revolutionary movement in relationships and I’m glad to be a part of this movement.
    P.S. I WARNED all my friends during college, this fact that men know very early what they want. But these friends 2nd guessed these men and stuck around for him to change his mind. A change that never comes. In my circle of college friends all my friends fell early for “douche bags” who used them. And when my friends realized the biological clock ticking, they all settled for marriages with men they did not fall in love with. Now in 2020, either they are stuck in LOVELESS marriages or trying to exit out a broken relationship with a whole lot of baggage.
    I did NOT SETTLE. I’m single, and live in spirit-filled wisdom. I have my standards high and I weed out douche bags with in 1-3 months.
    And I’m LIVING PROOF that I’m BLESSED by GOD.

    • @TonyGaskins
      @TonyGaskins  5 років тому +9

      Thank you for your support!! #BlessedTribe

    • @heart-2-heart-talks-with-tj
      @heart-2-heart-talks-with-tj 5 років тому +8

      Hi Lara, We have the EXACT same story!!!! I’m 35, single with no kids, embracing and creating my life and keeping god first.
      What’s interesting is 3 of my friends who divorced by 30 they got remarried, continuously had babies by dead beat husbands/random men, etc. They never try to learn. Not judging but it’s sad to watch broken ppl look for validation through relationships instead of self love.
      I’m glad god is covering us and keeping us woke to not fall for the shennegians.

    • @sanjeshnidevi982
      @sanjeshnidevi982 5 років тому +4

      ​@@heart-2-heart-talks-with-tj That's awesome:) Its fabulous that we women can share good wisdom, positive thoughts, and life lessons, across different cultures. I feel God is bringing this UNITY and shaping us to be the daughters he wants us to be.

  • @Authenticleatrice
    @Authenticleatrice 5 років тому +43

    Whew no one else is being this REAL, salute to you Tony. Be blessed 🙏🏽

  • @StephaniesWorld7
    @StephaniesWorld7 5 років тому +51

    Big take away in manglish lol: Faith, Family, & Finances. Also « He sees you as good enough to be a egg donor but doesn’t see you as good enough to be his life partner. » God Bless you Tony for the straight TRUTH.

  • @tlashai9902
    @tlashai9902 5 років тому +30

    Thank you Tony, this is truly gem dropping. A woman is never suppose to wait on a man, it suppose to be the other way around.

  • @robertleenixon8643
    @robertleenixon8643 5 років тому +25

    Consigning this 100%👍🏽

  • @BoswelliaLuna8
    @BoswelliaLuna8 5 років тому +30

    He said “musty man.” I am doooone lmbo. 😂😂😂

  • @aureliapetty-owens6333
    @aureliapetty-owens6333 4 роки тому +27

    I married right at 2.1 years. 26 years and still counting. Thank you Tony Gaskins for confirming everything my husband and I discussed. 💜💙

  • @ChanniD10
    @ChanniD10 5 років тому +52

    Wow! Man Tony I could literally see what you are saying by looking at my past mistakes. I honestly would rather hear the truth and be saved than to hold on to a lie in my own mind. Thank you for enlightening us.🙏🏽

    • @kizzyrock
      @kizzyrock 5 років тому +2

      Same here!!! Im not affected now because it's in my past but hunny now I'm like what heck was I thinking smh but it's all good. We know now!!!

  • @nikkirowland
    @nikkirowland 5 років тому +46

    🗣🗣🗣 This video!!!!!!!!!!!
    Point Blank Peri-ooddddd
    When he drops facts on you and you have no choice but to get out that gallon of water and swallow that huge pill cause you need to take it in order to get to the healthy mindset you’re looking for. Lawd... thank you Tony!🙏🏽

  • @MeloPagan
    @MeloPagan 4 роки тому +18

    I feel like I'm being coached correctly after years of flailing around the field and not having any wins. I'm so glad that this man is willing to tell the truth for our benefit.

  • @GoodGrief101
    @GoodGrief101 5 років тому +36

    Your video’s are saving so many people. Time is to precious to be wasting it on someone who doesn’t want you. Thank you again and BE BLESSED!

  • @rozh8321
    @rozh8321 5 років тому +32

    Smh 🤦..its sad that we put ourselves thru all this waiting and waiting..close the door ladies hes lying like Mr T say..Be blessed yall❤❤#2020 vision..🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @free2bme144
    @free2bme144 5 років тому +68

    It's not about looks...it's about character. After all beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Being quiet and shy doesn't mean lacking confidence or stupid. I agree that men are self aware and know themselves well enough to identify their wives early.

    • @belindalarissa311
      @belindalarissa311 3 роки тому +6

      There’s great strength in modesty and meekness . It takes grace to hold your tongue .

    • @angelhampton4365
      @angelhampton4365 Рік тому

      Big facts... I'm 35 and I got married at 20... I've been married 15yrs and it took 8 months for my husband to ask me to marry him... He was 23... My husband and me had to literally grow up together but we both agree on why we got married and we're finally where God intended us to be. I can't speak for everyone but our foundation was built on love, ethics, morals and values so regardless of our young age God kept us together...

  • @carlaburrelmusic5851
    @carlaburrelmusic5851 5 років тому +61

    Whew Lorddddd!!!!!! What a video lol. Very very on point advice. Praying for us single ladies out here 😂...point, blank, periahhhhd😭🙏🏾

    • @rozh8321
      @rozh8321 5 років тому +3

      Amen🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾❤❤❤❤

    • @christinastevenson5063
      @christinastevenson5063 5 років тому +3

      Thank you girl because we definitely need and I will pray for you too!

    • @kizzyrock
      @kizzyrock 5 років тому +1

      You hear meeeeeh??? Lol

  • @IttyBittyPiglet
    @IttyBittyPiglet 5 років тому +39

    Thank you for the wisdom Tony. This didn't hurt me at all. I'm here for self reflection, accountability and understanding. God Bless

  • @KB-504
    @KB-504 5 років тому +91

    That was my dilemma: I dont drink, I dont smoke but the guy I was dealing with did drink (sloppy drunk) and did smoke on occasions. Knowing that wasnt me and who I was, I compromised my standards to be with him...however, it didnt work. He's 37 and still like to party party party (drink/smoke)... I'm 40 and feel like I have outgrown the club/ party scene.... hes now w/ 26 y/o who LOVES to do all the things he loves to do

    • @rozh8321
      @rozh8321 5 років тому +19

      Say 👋 and good riddance...

    • @Glamrocs
      @Glamrocs 5 років тому +6

      I’ve been there with a 51 year old man and I’m 38 I left

    • @laurenlocd3180
      @laurenlocd3180 5 років тому +15

      I am 30 and he is 32. I had the biggest crush on him when we were in high school . Later we became official in our mid twenties . I found out he likes to drink and it was getting in the way of things so I broke up with him . Fast forward to last month I gave him another chance . Same thing . Only he has crashed two trucks and made the excuse that because he didn’t have a car he couldn’t get to work . So he quit . ( he could have got on the bus ). I couldn’t do it anymore I want a man with ambition I can’t do struggle love.

    • @sweetp1512
      @sweetp1512 5 років тому +5

      Grown BOY!

    • @valeriewynn8589
      @valeriewynn8589 4 роки тому

      KB504. This sound and look like "a train" backin' up, goin' forward, and backin' up" So frustratin'!

  • @Ms_T_Perfectly_Imperfect
    @Ms_T_Perfectly_Imperfect 5 років тому +37

    I rock with you because you give us the real deal straight, no chaser.

  • @lisademure9372
    @lisademure9372 5 років тому +27

    Wow! Thanks for the knowledge Tony..🙏🏽🙏🏽 I agree that when a man meets the "one" he will do what is necessary and required ASAP and he will face and conquer his greatest fears because he doesn't want to risk losing that woman

  • @Cpre1111
    @Cpre1111 5 років тому +13

    Video gets really real at 19:50. Great video. I've seen this play out in real life. Every word he said is true.

  • @Beautytrends77
    @Beautytrends77 4 роки тому +9

    I agree that a man isn’t shy and quiet when it comes to a woman he wants.

  • @NNV337
    @NNV337 Рік тому +2

    29:00 This is the brutal truth no one will tell but Tony 💯I hear you loud n clear. Thank you with much love n respect ❤✌

  • @ashleygoodrich3294
    @ashleygoodrich3294 5 років тому +91

    36 year old man thru 41 year old man play games too🤷🏽‍♀️ I cant tell who’s worst the younger ones or the older ones🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @sbrown40
      @sbrown40 4 роки тому +1

      Ashley Goodrich you so right... I’m living witness of this *sigh* 🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @clarissegomez9275
      @clarissegomez9275 4 роки тому +9

      The older the worst because they carry too much emotional bagages !!

    • @zoraidacastro5403
      @zoraidacastro5403 4 роки тому +1

      Young Grandfather's play stupid games!!!

  • @theartistdyc
    @theartistdyc 5 років тому +13

    You hear MEEEEEE??? lol.. Another good one Tony. Keep the work goin. GBY.

  • @opaloakley
    @opaloakley 4 роки тому +9

    You talk like Overton from 'Living Single' and I'm here for it.

  • @Dabupa1185
    @Dabupa1185 5 років тому +13

    Ouch, this hurts but I appreciate you, Tony. God is truly using you. Thank you. Be blessed.

  • @goddessmaat9926
    @goddessmaat9926 5 років тому +7

    It’s so true .....if you are with a man for more than 3 years and he is over 25 Ladies you are not the ONE period ...
    move on!
    Thanks for sharing this message, someone needed to hear THIS.

  • @friedastewart1330
    @friedastewart1330 5 років тому +9

    I am 52 years old and you are very, very wise! I really enjoy your videos and the graceful spiritual truthful words that come from your mouth and soul. Thank you for your coaching and just being you. God Bless you and your family.

    • @TonyGaskins
      @TonyGaskins  5 років тому +1

      Thank you for your support!! #BlessedTribe

  • @ArdenJRomasanta
    @ArdenJRomasanta 4 роки тому +8

    amen to that, Tony! "if you are on and off with a man, he's not your husband"

  • @ZoePat123
    @ZoePat123 4 роки тому +10

    "Lost broken hurt and confused" - Yes Lord! I hope the ladies truly hear you Tony Gaskins. And we need to seriously PRAY for our brothers.

  • @ShantiLoveShantiOmMoore
    @ShantiLoveShantiOmMoore 4 роки тому +11

    Please don’t apologize for being too real. This is the realness that we need to hear. I truly believe that things between men and women will improve all the way around when we as women raise our standards for ourselves and the men that we surround ourselves with. Not to mention, who better to listen to than a man when talking about men? Your realness is greatly appreciated!!!

  • @MissShauntae
    @MissShauntae 5 років тому +10

    Yes, the truth hurts but the truth saves lives! Be blessed.

  • @helenabailey40
    @helenabailey40 5 років тому +36

    You got a lot of these ladies feeling some type of way Tony 😭😭😂😂great message 💓💓Keep the videos coming

  • @plantisspeaks
    @plantisspeaks 3 роки тому +4

    Truly enjoyed the truth you shared. Building off your words, my grams used to say: It doesn't take all day to recognize sunshine. When something is good for you or your blessing, you will know it and act to secure it.

  • @charmarichshow1714
    @charmarichshow1714 4 роки тому +15

    My future husband is amazing and always concern if I slept well and ate well. He adores me and I him!! Love you my sweet!!💋💋❤️❤️🇨🇦🇨🇦👸🏾🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲🇨🇦🇨🇦🇨🇦👸🏾👸🏾👸🏾🤴🏼🤴🏼🤴🏼

  • @LindsayAmelia
    @LindsayAmelia 5 років тому +40

    You really say the funniest things. All true but you have a funny way of putting it. I’m over here dying 😂 But I receive your message. Very useful info. Thank you

    • @Elianomaly
      @Elianomaly 5 років тому

      LinzToMySoul I thought I was the only one!

  • @carlottar8894
    @carlottar8894 5 років тому +12

    Amen Tony... Thank you for this much needed message. After finally figuring out with my now ex that I wasn't the ONE after 8 years.. I FIRED myself.. Point blank periOD.. You hear me!! 😂❤️

  • @tuliaTV
    @tuliaTV 4 роки тому +5

    Whew!! Had to comment on this GEM!! Come on, talk to the people Tony! If you’re not REALLY listening then you’re just playing yourself. Point blank period! Loved this video! Had to share!! Be blessed tribe!!

  • @lindataylor5385
    @lindataylor5385 5 років тому +21

    You better preach! Foundation is extremely important. You’ve got to be on the same page. Be Blessed!

  • @sellac.1569
    @sellac.1569 5 років тому +15

    You sir are out here Blessing my life❣️🙏🏾🙌🏾
    Periodd‼️

  • @iamwhole8910
    @iamwhole8910 4 роки тому +15

    Tony Gaskin= Celibacy and birth control. Thank you God for Tony, saving me from more confusion and heart break, I am learning to accept that I may be alone for the rest of my life. Alone but not lonely. Thank you so much Tony for telling the truth.

  • @fitmissdarsh7725
    @fitmissdarsh7725 2 роки тому +2

    Deadass this is the REALEST advice I’ve seen out here. We need to face the truth & face ourselves, the truth is the truth. Thank you for sharing this Tony, it truly is a life changer.

  • @patriciaearley4177
    @patriciaearley4177 4 роки тому +10

    Life's too short to deal with an confused man,PERIOD
    Set him free,indeed!!!👋✌

  • @sefsagi7071
    @sefsagi7071 5 років тому +10

    OMG Tony! When does a man knows? This video is right on point! Man, I've wasted over 6 years n I feel real dumb n have 2 degrees, lol! Yes, us women don't know men n I'm appreciative that you are schooling us. It hurts deep, but I can move forward with the truth...its been almost two months since we broke up n hope he doesn't try nothing crazy like try to come back bcuz I know too much now...I'm everything that a women is n he just been playing. Blocking my husband. Even if he brings a ring now, I wud always think that he questioned me all these years n looked at me as though I was not the one? One day at a time Tony n pray God will show me a better path. Focusing on my spirituality bcuz it suffered dealing with dat dude?? Have a blessed week Tony!