Insecure people will usually ghost mature people because mentally they can't keep up with your high standards and the goals you've pursued and continuing to pursue.
They want to see how desperate you are or how much you really care. It's an ego boost to know he has a fall back person so when the person he really wants not working out, he can fall back on you to fill time.
When people walk out your life- lock the door behind them, quick fast and in a hurry & never let them back in- don’t call, don’t text- Thank God, the trash took itself out & keep it moving…..✌🏽💯
He ghosted you when things were going good or at least ok…. He’s talking to his ex again or he’s talking to someone new and testing their waters. When it doesn’t work with them, and you don’t let him back, he’ll regret he left you for his ex or the new girl. Hold your ground. Don’t let him back in.
I like when guys “ghost” bc when they come back it gives me the opportunity to nicely & verbally tell them “No TY!” It crushes their heart bc they weren’t expecting that at all 😊
being Ghosted sucks because there's no real closure 👻 But what I've come to realize is that it's probably for the best that person did ghost because it's clear if there capable of doing that then they never really cared about you to begin with.
Oh my gosh! I am so sorry to hear that! Nobody deserves to feel like that. I pray you recover quickly from the cancer and the heartbreak. It’s going to be okay. and if you ever need someone to talk to I am here. God bless…be well…🙏🏾💗sending you love
That’s why I do nothing. Guys are used to women being needy, blowing up their phone and needing constant attention. When you’re the opposite, you stand out and mysterious to them.
When a person ghosts you its an answer in itself. You just have to accept what you can't change, make peace with it and rebuild. Your sanity, peace and self love are more important than wondering about A SELFISH COWARD.
Ghosting is just a way God helps you weed out the bs. Yeah it's childish, but it's actually quite helpful. Once u think about it in that sense, it won't even bother you.
But why would God do that ? Jw they are still his children too maybe he still needs to work on them. I don’t think he will ghost a person just because they hurt someone but he will make em reap what they sow and they either get it together or get left behind when it’s time.
@@FireAirFire Thank you ! They clearly don’t know GOD! He doesn’t like to see his children hurt and he will vindicate but he will never ghost anyone just because they hurt someone , if anything he will love on them more to get them to repent
Facts! Just like they want us to feel some kind of way when the only thing left for me to say to him thru the Universe is to keep kicking those hot rocks.
Respect yourself enough to not even answer them. Chances are that’s what they want. When you make yourself too readily available they know they can always come back. Choose you!! I recently had this done to me after talking to someone and being with them for four years I’m done it psychologically abusive and it’s not right. They should stop being such a COWARD and just say they don’t want that relationship.
I'm in the same situation all I got was crumbs and then he just disappeared and I don't know why I got a bit upset because he kept leaving my messages on weed I don't know if that put him off,
An ex boyfriend has done this since we were in 8th grade. I'm done letting him in my life. I hope he's happy and healthy. Just want him to leave me alone. I am perfectly happy on my own. I'm working on myself and doing what I want. ❤🙏🔥👑🔥🙏❤
I have been ghosted too many times by this coward that I am at the point that it no longer bothers me I will just let Tarzan do his thing and swing from tree branch to tree branch until he misses one and hits the ground.
Calling them out is a way for them to think they can slither themselves back in. So I say, if they aren't blocked, act as if you didn't even see the phone call/text.
Oh my I jus love this video. Derrick is so right with everything he said. Gosting is a terrible thing to do to someone. Again Derrick is right when he says they does come back.
I was ghosted by an ex & reach out trying to figure out what was the problem & just eventually gave up & block all social media he can never come back I lost so much & closer is something I will never get but the lights being cut off on me was enough to walk away
Yes, looking back now I see I was being ghosted for years. But I'd never experienced this kind of treatment from anyone. All I knew was it was crazy making and drove me crazy cause I endured it for so long. The longer u tolerate it the worse Ur mental health gets. So please anyone who is dealing with this don't do it, u end up so broken the longer u put up with their screwed up treatment.
@real_hello_kitty sorry to hear that..its called divine timing..having faith and not putting negative talk out to the universe..there are good men out there..Im 67 and haven't given up..
They left, I found myself and took my power (self worth) back, and got tf on with my life. My parents raised me in the art of being ghosted, rejected, and dumped growing up. I was ghosted, they not allowed to spend the block if you fucked up bad enough.
It's an old 90s love movie gone wrong. I don't want that apology or that explanation. I fucked around and found my self worth, and my boundaries came back. Deuces, you can't thirst check no Aquarius. I got plenty of water
Chasing love is finding it in the wrong place. I attract love, not chase it. I attract what I am, and what I want actually does want me and I still don't have to chase it
As long as women tolerate their behaviour they will continue to do it. We are just feeding their ego to not only do it but to master their craft. So if we want it to stop! Start calling them out on their bullshit! Start being stronger! And their egos will soon deflate. We are not helping them by not being honest either. If u see bullshit! Say it even if it means it's a done deal.
Yo it’s not always because they have another girlfriend!!!! Sometimes he is a pot head, bum, and like to chill on The block n get high all day 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
This happened to me back in 2021 with an ex.. He actually took my virginity yearssss ago so I wasn’t interested in him like that. Then coming down from like 2011-2021, he would pursue me but my spirit just didn’t take to him. Then one day I gave in and he ghosted me so I ended up sending him a text telling him what he did wasn’t cool and basically wishing him the best then I blocked him. Fast forward to last year 2022 he added me on FB exactly a year to the date and tried to come back! He sent me a message talking bout “he wanna talk to me. “ he sent a few actually. I just ignored and removed the friend request. He deleted me off snap way before this so he had time to right his wrongs. But, It honestly felt so good I got to reject him & I got the satisfaction of knowing he can NEVER be able to talk to me ever again 😊
Insecure people will usually ghost mature people because mentally they can't keep up with your high standards and the goals you've pursued and continuing to pursue.
Facts!
Fact
That's very true.
Agreed!
Yep
Ghosting is also a coward’s way of ending a relationship so that they don’t have to be honest and end things.
This has always be my take, only a coward chicken out unannounced.
Indeed
Abruptly left, ghosted then blocked instead of facing a clear cut reason.
Exactly it just happened to me 5 day's before Christmas.
They want to see how desperate you are or how much you really care. It's an ego boost to know he has a fall back person so when the person he really wants not working out, he can fall back on you to fill time.
The only thing worse than ghosting is when they come back and try to act like they’ve done nothing wrong. 🤬
Hypocrites!!
@@tacy-annbrown2652 💯
THIS!!!! SMDH
That right right there!!!!!
just dealt with this smh told him I only date the living I don't date ghosts
When people walk out your life- lock the door behind them, quick fast and in a hurry & never let them back in- don’t call, don’t text- Thank God, the trash took itself out & keep it moving…..✌🏽💯
Facts 💯
💯💯
Facts!
Facts
WORD ‼️
Most times people are ghosting because they have too many options. They jump from person to person
Pick upers do this.
players who are to coward to end it in a normal way.
They even do not think about it. With normal mind it is really difficult to get why they do it in this way.
Facts ..nothing more nothing less.
Yes this true and when the options doesn’t work out then they come looking for you. I had that happened to me a few times
Do not chase! Just bow out gracefully and let nature take it's course.
Amen to this 💛
i want to insult him
Agree completely
He ghosted you when things were going good or at least ok…. He’s talking to his ex again or he’s talking to someone new and testing their waters. When it doesn’t work with them, and you don’t let him back, he’ll regret he left you for his ex or the new girl. Hold your ground. Don’t let him back in.
Sage words of wisdom here!
I’m torn to think he even found someone else that quick 😩😭
@@cherokeechosenone hurts so much
I like when guys “ghost” bc when they come back it gives me the opportunity to nicely & verbally tell them “No TY!” It crushes their heart bc they weren’t expecting that at all 😊
What TY?
@@odudunelly9256 Thank you. No, thank you.
Yep. Him " Hi I you were on my mind how are you . You: I"m great! take care Him: I hope that 's ok that I reached out . You :
You flipped the script. That’s karma
Sometimes they don't even come back
being Ghosted sucks because there's no real closure 👻
But what I've come to realize is that it's probably for the best that person did ghost because it's clear if there capable of doing that then they never really cared about you to begin with.
The act of ghosting is theeee closure
DO NOT CHASE HIM!!!!!
They ghost because they are avoiding responsibility.
True.
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We were engaged, I got diagnosed with cancer. He ghosted. Crushed me, absolutely destroyed. Never checked on me once. 😭 really struggling still
Oh my gosh! I am so sorry to hear that! Nobody deserves to feel like that. I pray you recover quickly from the cancer and the heartbreak.
It’s going to be okay. and if you ever need someone to talk to I am here. God bless…be well…🙏🏾💗sending you love
@@celeste2329 you are so sweet. Thank you so much!
Pray to God, He will heal you in the name of Jesus! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Sending 🙏🏽 and ❤ and 🤗
Omg that’s horrible! Prayers for you! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Rejection is God's protection!
I hope so ❤
Amen to that 🙌
That’s why I do nothing. Guys are used to women being needy, blowing up their phone and needing constant attention. When you’re the opposite, you stand out and mysterious to them.
This is so true!
Yup. Act like they dont exist
Yes, some do this purposely and get mad when their game doesn’t work. These insecure men prefer the woman chasing and be unstable.
@@j-tenn226 EVERY. SINGLE. TIME.
Had to learn this the hard way. Self control is so important.
You are so right! Some of these men want you to chase them!
Alot of men unfortunately. Games are for the immature.
The only thing I will chase is my damn dogs 🐕
When a person ghosts you its an answer in itself. You just have to accept what you can't change, make peace with it and rebuild. Your sanity, peace and self love are more important than wondering about A SELFISH COWARD.
Ghosting is just a way God helps you weed out the bs. Yeah it's childish, but it's actually quite helpful. Once u think about it in that sense, it won't even bother you.
Exactly it was gods protection!
Women who ghost typically are gone. Absolutely true. Men have always come back.
I’m glad I don’t date who the hell has time to be bothered with all of this . People play to many games.
I am tired of the games. If you don't date, how would you know you have met the one?
I'm at that point. Please tell me how you cope with not dating.
Yes @prettyloubey8411 how do you cope
It's a game that women started
Yes, they always come back and act like nothing happened
They come back like nothing happened and as if you were illiterate…
Ghosting is the trash taking itself out😏
This ❤
Say that‼️🙌🏾
It's Disrespectful & Hurtful !
He thought I was gonna chase him
Put your "F him" dress on and keep it moving. 💃🏾
He thought WRONG. 💯
People who hurt other people whether Emotional or Physical for absolutely NO REASON will ANSWER to GOD!!🙏🙏💯...God will eventually GHOST THEM!👍
Facts!
Factssss . Hit right on the knob
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But why would God do that ? Jw they are still his children too maybe he still needs to work on them. I don’t think he will ghost a person just because they hurt someone but he will make em reap what they sow and they either get it together or get left behind when it’s time.
@@FireAirFire Thank you ! They clearly don’t know GOD! He doesn’t like to see his children hurt and he will vindicate but he will never ghost anyone just because they hurt someone , if anything he will love on them more to get them to repent
When they ghost...sit in quiet and thank God they did. They will steal your soul without a second thought.
Been ghosted, I'm not mad when he decide to come back, I will act as if nothing wrong and become Numb towards you and move on my life.
Miracle and blessings
I learn along time ago how to respect the dead!
That mindset!! 😏😁🔥🔥🔥
Ghost 👻 me. Consider yo self written off!
If you are ghosted Let the dead Rest In Peace!
Right.
What if you have been friends for long you see him in everything. Meaning he’s on your social media contacts, LinkedIn etc
@@shinyvalley5145Have the strength to ignore if you don’t block until you do
It’s only two reasons either he has a lady who needs his time as well / or he likes to play games with his person to get them attached period!!
Or maybe even both.
Yeah learned that lesson a couple times it can't work not chasing nobody
This!!!!!
Being ghosted hurts worse when your married with his children! But I'm grateful for freedom!! Thanking God daily!!!
Facts! Just like they want us to feel some kind of way when the only thing left for me to say to him thru the Universe is to keep kicking those hot rocks.
In the same situation and it’s very painful but I thank God am embracing it and letting God take control of it.
It’s horrible !!!!! I have been through it .. don’t wish that upon anyone !!!
It makes you doubt yourself.
Unfortunately
Last three guys I was with ghosted me. So annoying. Least thing they can do is say "not interested leave me alone" ..such a shitty thing to do
Did you turn them down for a hook up?
@@j-tenn226 exactly girl
@@bridgetgullison8848 most likely, too much selfishness and immaturity around.
What did you do wrong?
4 guys ghosting you in a row???? Guuuurl, Guuuurl🤭
You’re his back up 💥 not his priority
and if you’re their current priority you’ll soon become their current dismissal
Yup absolutely true
I went ghost with an ex because I didn’t have self love & realized it was friends with benefits & I wasn’t having it
They always come back, be prepared ladies
Respect yourself enough to not even answer them. Chances are that’s what they want. When you make yourself too readily available they know they can always come back. Choose you!!
I recently had this done to me after talking to someone and being with them for four years I’m done it psychologically abusive and it’s not right. They should stop being such a COWARD and just say they don’t want that relationship.
Yes, they always come back!
Yeah it’s the worst feeling ever
We spent time on friday,he told me how much he loved me Saturday at 4pm i never heard from him again.
so sorry - ugh - that's awful - i think that's happened to everyone but it still really sucks when it happens - hopefully you've moved on!
I'm in a better place thank you
Yep! he came back
Thank you im not chasing no more if he intrested he will chase
My ex-boyfriend ghosted me for last time. And I blocked him on everything!!
Yes, this happened to me. I did a the work in this relationship. Breadcrumbs and never really knew where I stood with him.
I'm in the same situation all I got was crumbs and then he just disappeared and I don't know why I got a bit upset because he kept leaving my messages on weed I don't know if that put him off,
I text him for three days he kept watching my stories so I blocked him. Hope he never contacts me again Thank you so much for this video
Same thing happen to me but she still watches my stories on social media
It's all about the Response...dont give it to them......
Women don’t Pursue Men!!!
He tried to come back.
It was done to me for punishment and control.
An ex boyfriend has done this since we were in 8th grade. I'm done letting him in my life. I hope he's happy and healthy. Just want him to leave me alone. I am perfectly happy on my own. I'm working on myself and doing what I want. ❤🙏🔥👑🔥🙏❤
Ll
Yup! He silently 🤫 stalks me on Instagram.
Men always come back unless they are married off somewhere or got married n found the love their life it’s a lot more common for guys then girls
Some also come back even after getting married..
Those are slow. Women generally stay gone.
I got unstupid real quick, Try Me Now.
💯
So true,..I done the chasing,.. and I felt so under valued.. It's not easy in the first days, but I'm done.
I understand but you will be ok sending you love ❤️ & light 🌟
I have been ghosted too many times by this coward that I am at the point that it no longer bothers me I will just let Tarzan do his thing and swing from tree branch to tree branch until he misses one and hits the ground.
This ghosting crap is so childish. Just tell the person to get lost or whatever.
Haha so true
Totally agree 💯
Ghosting is a sign of a user get rid permanently.
This is great content. It’s brutally honest. It’s valuable
I love how you tell it like it is.
Derrick this video hit me to the core because you speak truth. Lesson learned. Peace
I dont chase no one I see my value what I'm worth
Move on and do you,show him and leave him alone drop him like a bad habit
Just put a ad in the newspaper talking about him without using his name and what he did. That’s what I’m doing
Yes, they spin the block with a “hey” text like nothing ever happened. It’s annoying. Do you suggest we block/ignore him or call them out on it?
Block them on EVERYTHING
Go no contact forever
Calling out is starting negotiations. Don't negotiate unless you're still in.
Calling them out is a way for them to think they can slither themselves back in. So I say, if they aren't blocked, act as if you didn't even see the phone call/text.
Don’t bother calling out anything, they are going to disappear again no matter what you say.
I felt he was testing me to see it I was needy
Right.
Men were never that good, but now they managed to get even worse, with all the games, and manipulation.
I just experienced this. I did not know before that this is what my ex did to me. I tried chasing him. I felt really betrayed
Oh my I jus love this video. Derrick is so right with everything he said. Gosting is a terrible thing to do to someone. Again Derrick is right when he says they does come back.
I don't know, I've been ghosted and they never came back. And these were guys
Somebody is going to ghost their behinds.
They don’t learn though.
I was ghosted by an ex & reach out trying to figure out what was the problem & just eventually gave up & block all social media he can never come back I lost so much & closer is something I will never get but the lights being cut off on me was enough to walk away
Yessssssssssssss he comes back
This is the reason why you should not have intimacy so quickly
So what his interest is and verify it
Amen
Yes, looking back now I see I was being ghosted for years. But I'd never experienced this kind of treatment from anyone. All I knew was it was crazy making and drove me crazy cause I endured it for so long. The longer u tolerate it the worse Ur mental health gets. So please anyone who is dealing with this don't do it, u end up so broken the longer u put up with their screwed up treatment.
I hope I have the power to get out😔I love him so much
This is the best video on ghosting I’ve seen.
I’m taking your class in 12 minutes. Thank you
As usual, always on time! THANKS 😊
It's God's intervention..he has someone better for you
Not true.
@@real_hello_kittyhow you know
@@santana5659 because I am 52 and still haven’t met the “better” one. All are jerks, and they are getting worse now.😪
@real_hello_kitty sorry to hear that..its called divine timing..having faith and not putting negative talk out to the universe..there are good men out there..Im 67 and haven't given up..
They All Do The Same. That’s Why i Do The Same i Do Worse i Use Them For $ Then Discard Whenever i Feel Like.
I don't even care that they ghosted, it put less pressure on me to leave and take my life back
They left, I found myself and took my power (self worth) back, and got tf on with my life. My parents raised me in the art of being ghosted, rejected, and dumped growing up. I was ghosted, they not allowed to spend the block if you fucked up bad enough.
It's an old 90s love movie gone wrong. I don't want that apology or that explanation. I fucked around and found my self worth, and my boundaries came back. Deuces, you can't thirst check no Aquarius. I got plenty of water
Chasing love is finding it in the wrong place. I attract love, not chase it. I attract what I am, and what I want actually does want me and I still don't have to chase it
As long as women tolerate their behaviour they will continue to do it. We are just feeding their ego to not only do it but to master their craft. So if we want it to stop! Start calling them out on their bullshit! Start being stronger! And their egos will soon deflate. We are not helping them by not being honest either. If u see bullshit! Say it even if it means it's a done deal.
He can thirst check these nuts and gtfoh.
Thanks again still going threw this but I'm still up n getting stronger 💪
Thank you so much for this!!! Lesson learned !!
Bro God bless you, thank you for educating us.
Thank you @Derrick Jaxn for keeping it real! & speaking the TRUTH to us, and for us ladies!
It's very much appreciated 🙏❤️
Yo it’s not always because they have another girlfriend!!!! Sometimes he is a pot head, bum, and like to chill on The block n get high all day 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
It does hurt because there are so many unanswered questions
You are good at what you do !
Baby I’ve changed my number no coming back into my life tf
Keep moving. Deuces
Never make an exception
Yea I’ve dealt with that dumb shit by a dude
Hi! Stumbled across your channel recently. One minute into your video, I subscribed.
Spin the block💀💀💀
Oooooooh I needed to hear this 🥺
Needed this right now thanks
Facts 💯
Being ghosted is just great 😒
This happened to me back in 2021 with an ex.. He actually took my virginity yearssss ago so I wasn’t interested in him like that. Then coming down from like 2011-2021, he would pursue me but my spirit just didn’t take to him. Then one day I gave in and he ghosted me so I ended up sending him a text telling him what he did wasn’t cool and basically wishing him the best then I blocked him. Fast forward to last year 2022 he added me on FB exactly a year to the date and tried to come back! He sent me a message talking bout “he wanna talk to me. “ he sent a few actually. I just ignored and removed the friend request. He deleted me off snap way before this so he had time to right his wrongs. But, It honestly felt so good I got to reject him & I got the satisfaction of knowing he can NEVER be able to talk to me ever again 😊