Long time viewer, first time commenter but I just wanted to bring in a different perspective. I was pursued by my now girlfriend and we are in the 4th year of our relationship. As a man, it wasn't the first time being pursued by a women so it was nothing strange but still interesting. It made me feel valued and seen (and I don't wanna lie, I really liked it 🤭). I don't think it affects the dynamic of the relationship in the long run, naturally I think as time goes we both assume our roles and it doesn't become a "mouse chasing cat" situation. I did ask her why she chose to "shoot her shot" 😂 and she made it known that she was tired of being pursued by men she didn't want and wanted to go after what she wanted (me 😎)! So ladies, don't be scared, get your man!!!!!!
Shooting your short for me is a no no. Men these days don't want to pursue. They want the ladies to do the work for them. I agree with Mrs Makhs, you can make yourself visible or show interest but going and asking a guy out?? No!!
I remember Jackie Hill -Perry said,when she started having a thing towards Preston Perry,she prayed to God saying ' God,if he's my husband, put it in him to also have what I have,and want me' ..😄. Here are they now
Love the conversation. To add to the power points you gave us👌100% agree , position yourselves ladies, if Ruth had never gone to the field to glean, she would have never met Boaz. If the woman with the issue of blood had never positioned herself to touch Jesus, she may have never received her healing.
Well said Mr Makh...my husband pursued me for 4yrs to no avail...then one day l started having feelings for him n l got the reassurance l needed about him...by then he'd stopped pursuing...l just called him n said to him...l now think l feel the same aboutyou...l said if you're still interested n available...then...so it was easier bcs he had already done the initial pursuit...we've bn happily married fifteen yes now💝
I love this conversation ❤ Disclaimer I am team shoot your shot😊 However I beleive as a lady, there are ways to be subtle, and suggestive about it. I don't think it's wise to be explicit (self preservation kaloku😂) I shot my shot in the sense that I noticed that my now husband was always around me. Me shooting my shot was me as sking "dude, do you like me?" After that it was up to him. He did the rest after that. Lerato is right, dudes are slow😅 I have a gazillion brothers and male cousins, and look, men will doodle and daddle for months, even years because they fear rejection. So nudge nudge and poke poke where you can sisi. Okay I'm done😂😂
Men do want to hunt. However, women need to create an environment that is conducive for men to pursue. Please be mindful of the words used, pursue and not chase. Chase - suggests that something is running away from you. Pursuing - a symbiotic relationship. I mean that women need to be available to be pursued and reciprocate the energy when they are genuinely interested.
I was very sceptical on what will you guys say about this particular topic😂...because my view was that if you shoot your shot you will pursue the entire relationship😭...However I do love how you guys handled it❤
For me as a Christian woman we were made from a man. So as a rib i feel it’s important for a man to seek his rib. I’m all for making myself visible mainly because i feel if i shoot my shot that makes me operate from my masculine side making it impossible for me to operate in my femininity.
19:35 - This is exactly what my therapist said. You've put in the work in YOURSELF ghel (best version of yourself) and you have invested in yourself, you automatically "put a demand" I like this maan!
I have a friend of mine, his wife is the one that shoot her shoot, eventually they did get married, not sure who asked who to marry who. But they did get married. But i wouldn't count that as a win for her because the quality of the marriage is questionable.
@@reagilemoloko4892 o rata ditaba Reagile😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 when Lerato said "I dont know if I would have put in the same effort" kind of questionable. I think my friend isnt put in the necessary effort, he cheats, disrespects her, emotional and physical abuse. Like it is not a relationship I would want to mirror in my relationship.
I didn't see a problem then but as I grow in my relationship with God. It doesn't feel right at all, I've learned to reach a point where I tell the holy spirit about my crushes and it actually helps because he helps me to guard my heart. I've done a few of " shooting your shot " and in my experience as a single woman now, I'd really like to experience something different like a guy pursuing me from the word go. And I agree with phetola nna i'm very scared of rejection 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Making yourself visible is definitely shooting your shot. And women should 100% shoot their shot. I would totally ask a guy out on a date, but never propose marriage. I don't think women should ever propose marriage. And women should never be the pursuer.
Nna I don't know how I'm going to meet my person because I don't have much of a social life and that's mostly because of the things I enjoy doing. First of all I'm a home body. Then I enjoy hiking, bush walks etc where I see people always go with other people but I'm by myself. I think I've done the necessary personal work and look good but I think my lifestyle doesn't create opportunities for me to meet people 🤷🏾♀️
Hayi I think if I ever have do it again, God will need to come during the day and sit on my couch and say shoot your shot! Tried it and nie meer nie, soze! It ended badly shame. I yekelad that thing that day. Also online dating is not my portion, helped people join. One is married today and here I am still pursuing a solo career. Apps are not my portion, I see people getting married from apps but me dololo! But I definitely put myself out there and look desirable and scrumptious 😂 Thank you for another great episode. ❤
😂😂😂😂 so basically you were in the fiery furnace? Askies sis♥️♥️♥️. Online dating can be tricky, but you are right, it has worked beautifully for some♥️
Athi the Kingdom of Kwa Know your worth is lonely🤣. I can definitely agree with that. But the longer you thrive to wait a high quality human being as yourself, God will even exceed your expectation. I love the Prince of Wales example. Loved this installment.
I agree with the man asking, me I will get close and be visible but if he isn't keen enough to chase .... I move forward. He must propose even with the dating. Love what you said.... Are you a catch? Are you your best self?
Love love this conversation 😂 eish nna I am still traditional. But I support indicating your availability ka style nyana. This days there is adoption of the term 'flirt' we rather until the guy persue and make it official.
Thank u Skeem♡ & Abuti Lerato for the words of wisdom☆, from a female's perspective & a male's perspective. Heeeeeeyiiiii ku rough kwa single & mingle especially if u know your worth. We outchea praying & fasting tlhe :)
Phethola, you look ravishing!!! Ahhhhh 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰 Also, you’re married to a man who carries immense wisdom! You’re wise, too, but he’s rightly your head! I love your union so much, pls.
And I'm not sure how to deal with it cause well I have never had the experience before obviously and I'm only 23 and I'm thinking maybe I'm just ahead of myself and maybe it's my flesh talking or I'm just having some fantasy in my head. I don't know if I'm the first to ask you of this but I would love to hear how you navigated all those thoughts in your head. Cause I also haven't said a word to anyone about it cause of the fear of sounding crazy not that I even want to speak about it cause it's a sensitive issue for me. So pleeeease help a sister out😅😭 sharing your story would help in some way. Thank you for the consistency and I'm learning a lot from the videos you guys share, absolutely looove the wisdom. I really hope you get to read this. Thank you for your time❤
Hello Mrs Makhs. I hope you're good and this message finds you well. First and foremost I just want to say I love you and your family so much I'm always listening to and watching the channel. You've mentioned in a couple of videos that God told you or you heard from God that Mr Makhs was going to be you're husband. The last video I watched where you briefly mentioned it again was in the last one about, "should women shoot their shot". You mentioned that sometimes you doubt what you're hearing and think maybe it's just your flesh and I find myself in a situation just like this and it's something I'm still praying about it but I wanted to ask if ofcz you've never shared the journey and if you're comfortable enough to, to please share how you navigated that season in your life of knowing but not really knowing for sure if I can put it like that and how, in a practical way, you "overcame" the doubts. Cause if I'm being honest sometimes I think I'm crazy for thinking that
hehehe 'kwa Know Your Worth' kuLonely bathong yoh, like the other thing also is kwa Know Your Worth is a lot of work and people have thought about the work more than they are willing to do the work, in perspective its gonna take more than wanting to be the best version to actually taking the tiny steps that make the best version. I so agree with this installment it was definitely a catch.
The idea comes from the socialization that men can have whatever/whoever they want & women should settle for what is available to them. It comes from men having copious amount of dignity & women's dignity being limited
Whether it's okay or not that's up to the woman to decide 😅 Otherwise, it's a red flag if a woman shoots shots because It means there's something about her that makes it difficult to attract the type of men she wants so now she has to try and get that type of man herself.
I do not agree with shooting your shot. What happens when you shoot your shot kanti the guy has been having intentions of playing with your heart? Anyway, it can demoralize a woman as they are not used of rejection. The Great I AM loves you
For me personally it's a no it's not right it's not okay ...I would never allow a man to see me vulnerable and desperate to that extent I would never let him see my weaknesses hell no
I can’t remember the name but there was a widow in the bible who went to some prophet’s room and stayed on the feet. The man didn’t show interest on the night but the following days he pursued her. She made herself available, told by the mother in law.
I thought ladies shooting their shot ke gone go ntsha sign and availe yourself just like ausi Pheto did,. After he gets your attention you live him to take over as a man..
I've always thought shooting your shot was a bad idea, & it sets a precedence for a bad relationship. Until, 2days ago I realized someone would make a great muse (a great artistic plaything); I want to shoot my shot. I don't want a relationship with this person, so I don't care what precedence it sets.
I think it’s okay but once a woman take that stance then she should “lead” in that relationship and that is almost unnatural for a man to not take leadership unless he’s not serious about you
Never again in my life I did that to someone after they showed me a lot they like me and they were telling their friends to get in touch with me for years. I messaged him after he did something nice and never again in my life will I do that they ignored me. Ladies focus on Jesus haha I love being pursued shame
😂😂 I can see how a lady shooting her shot can lead to that. Especially if the guy accepts knowing he'll play her. Mna andicingi, I'd rather be in a bathtub with ice than shoot my shot.
@@eyethumfazwe you’ve got to have prayed 40days and 40 nights 😂😂 if your shot worked shuuu I’ve been thinking of doing that just for fun but I was like Haii it can never be me and again what if it works lol which it won’t cause it’s not USA here 😂😂😂girls that side are PROs when it comes to this
@@marvelousmbali8002 40 days & nights🤣 American girls are pros but you know us Africans, never afraid to try anything that's been mastered phesheya thinking it's going to work for us😂.
Long time viewer, first time commenter but I just wanted to bring in a different perspective. I was pursued by my now girlfriend and we are in the 4th year of our relationship. As a man, it wasn't the first time being pursued by a women so it was nothing strange but still interesting. It made me feel valued and seen (and I don't wanna lie, I really liked it 🤭). I don't think it affects the dynamic of the relationship in the long run, naturally I think as time goes we both assume our roles and it doesn't become a "mouse chasing cat" situation.
I did ask her why she chose to "shoot her shot" 😂 and she made it known that she was tired of being pursued by men she didn't want and wanted to go after what she wanted (me 😎)! So ladies, don't be scared, get your man!!!!!!
🤣 Interesting perspective.
😂😂😂Love this!!
Looove this! 😃. Thank you so much for sharing 🌸❤️
You guys are great! We love you guys abundantly 😊. God bless you!
Enjoying the topic, I love what Mr Makhs said "I am available to be pursued"
Shooting your short for me is a no no.
Men these days don't want to pursue. They want the ladies to do the work for them.
I agree with Mrs Makhs, you can make yourself visible or show interest but going and asking a guy out?? No!!
I remember Jackie Hill -Perry said,when she started having a thing towards Preston Perry,she prayed to God saying ' God,if he's my husband, put it in him to also have what I have,and want me' ..😄. Here are they now
As a Christian woman in my single season I genuinely enjoyed this! God bless you guys❤
We are so glad you did♥️♥️♥️
Same heyy..
Love the conversation. To add to the power points you gave us👌100% agree , position yourselves ladies, if Ruth had never gone to the field to glean, she would have never met Boaz. If the woman with the issue of blood had never positioned herself to touch Jesus, she may have never received her healing.
Well said Mr Makh...my husband pursued me for 4yrs to no avail...then one day l started having feelings for him n l got the reassurance l needed about him...by then he'd stopped pursuing...l just called him n said to him...l now think l feel the same aboutyou...l said if you're still interested n available...then...so it was easier bcs he had already done the initial pursuit...we've bn happily married fifteen yes now💝
I love this conversation ❤
Disclaimer I am team shoot your shot😊
However I beleive as a lady, there are ways to be subtle, and suggestive about it. I don't think it's wise to be explicit (self preservation kaloku😂)
I shot my shot in the sense that I noticed that my now husband was always around me. Me shooting my shot was me as sking "dude, do you like me?"
After that it was up to him. He did the rest after that.
Lerato is right, dudes are slow😅
I have a gazillion brothers and male cousins, and look, men will doodle and daddle for months, even years because they fear rejection.
So nudge nudge and poke poke where you can sisi.
Okay I'm done😂😂
Men do want to hunt. However, women need to create an environment that is conducive for men to pursue. Please be mindful of the words used, pursue and not chase. Chase - suggests that something is running away from you. Pursuing - a symbiotic relationship. I mean that women need to be available to be pursued and reciprocate the energy when they are genuinely interested.
I was very sceptical on what will you guys say about this particular topic😂...because my view was that if you shoot your shot you will pursue the entire relationship😭...However I do love how you guys handled it❤
For me as a Christian woman we were made from a man. So as a rib i feel it’s important for a man to seek his rib. I’m all for making myself visible mainly because i feel if i shoot my shot that makes me operate from my masculine side making it impossible for me to operate in my femininity.
19:35 - This is exactly what my therapist said. You've put in the work in YOURSELF ghel (best version of yourself) and you have invested in yourself, you automatically "put a demand" I like this maan!
Men are hunters, I'd be scared that he'd stop persuing me in the long run. And as a woman I enjoy being persued.
That’s a fair concern💯💯♥️
I have a friend of mine, his wife is the one that shoot her shoot, eventually they did get married, not sure who asked who to marry who. But they did get married. But i wouldn't count that as a win for her because the quality of the marriage is questionable.
Tell us more about why it's questionable?
@@reagilemoloko4892 o rata ditaba Reagile😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 when Lerato said "I dont know if I would have put in the same effort" kind of questionable. I think my friend isnt put in the necessary effort, he cheats, disrespects her, emotional and physical abuse. Like it is not a relationship I would want to mirror in my relationship.
"Go out and live, and while you are living you might find your partner"💯💯💯
I didn't see a problem then but as I grow in my relationship with God. It doesn't feel right at all, I've learned to reach a point where I tell the holy spirit about my crushes and it actually helps because he helps me to guard my heart. I've done a few of " shooting your shot " and in my experience as a single woman now, I'd really like to experience something different like a guy pursuing me from the word go. And I agree with phetola nna i'm very scared of rejection 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Making yourself visible is definitely shooting your shot. And women should 100% shoot their shot.
I would totally ask a guy out on a date, but never propose marriage. I don't think women should ever propose marriage. And women should never be the pursuer.
Nna I don't know how I'm going to meet my person because I don't have much of a social life and that's mostly because of the things I enjoy doing. First of all I'm a home body. Then I enjoy hiking, bush walks etc where I see people always go with other people but I'm by myself. I think I've done the necessary personal work and look good but I think my lifestyle doesn't create opportunities for me to meet people 🤷🏾♀️
Hayi I think if I ever have do it again, God will need to come during the day and sit on my couch and say shoot your shot! Tried it and nie meer nie, soze! It ended badly shame. I yekelad that thing that day.
Also online dating is not my portion, helped people join. One is married today and here I am still pursuing a solo career. Apps are not my portion, I see people getting married from apps but me dololo!
But I definitely put myself out there and look desirable and scrumptious 😂
Thank you for another great episode. ❤
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣u nd I both
@@tebalelomarobane8496 Yazini 🤣🤣🤣 e wishy wishy lento
😂😂😂😂 so basically you were in the fiery furnace? Askies sis♥️♥️♥️. Online dating can be tricky, but you are right, it has worked beautifully for some♥️
Making myself visible☺️ thank you for this installment!
Mr Makhs on fire.... Love your perspective. ❤️
Haaa I won’t lie, the intro is next level.❤ 0:12
Athi the Kingdom of Kwa Know your worth is lonely🤣. I can definitely agree with that. But the longer you thrive to wait a high quality human being as yourself, God will even exceed your expectation. I love the Prince of Wales example. Loved this installment.
I agree with the man asking, me I will get close and be visible but if he isn't keen enough to chase .... I move forward. He must propose even with the dating. Love what you said.... Are you a catch? Are you your best self?
Absolutely loved this conversation 🙌🙌💯 thank you for this installment May God bless you abundantly 🙏 ❤
😍We are readers this side I love how every installment comes with new vocabulary, nna I'm here for the growth 😩shooting shots I'll pass 😂
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Love love this conversation 😂 eish nna I am still traditional. But I support indicating your availability ka style nyana. This days there is adoption of the term 'flirt' we rather until the guy persue and make it official.
Thank u Skeem♡ & Abuti Lerato for the words of wisdom☆, from a female's perspective & a male's perspective. Heeeeeeyiiiii ku rough kwa single & mingle especially if u know your worth. We outchea praying & fasting tlhe :)
Ruth made herself visible to Boaz
Amazing conversation, haii Marr load shedding and making our people rush🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️ but I love you guys so much 🔥🔥❤️❤️
I enjoyed this video so much, and I personally think we in the 21st century and Women should shoot their shot❣️
Thank you for asking the question about who makes the rules
Haha great topic.. Lerato is so funny in the end.. loadshedding rush.. Mara the times we live in
Phethola, you look ravishing!!! Ahhhhh 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
Also, you’re married to a man who carries immense wisdom! You’re wise, too, but he’s rightly your head!
I love your union so much, pls.
My absolute Faves♡♡♡ #TheMakhs♥︎♥︎♥︎
I am the first to comment .. Hehehe .. I love you guys so much
Love love you guys. This was a great conversation ♥️♥️
And I'm not sure how to deal with it cause well I have never had the experience before obviously and I'm only 23 and I'm thinking maybe I'm just ahead of myself and maybe it's my flesh talking or I'm just having some fantasy in my head. I don't know if I'm the first to ask you of this but I would love to hear how you navigated all those thoughts in your head. Cause I also haven't said a word to anyone about it cause of the fear of sounding crazy not that I even want to speak about it cause it's a sensitive issue for me. So pleeeease help a sister out😅😭 sharing your story would help in some way.
Thank you for the consistency and I'm learning a lot from the videos you guys share, absolutely looove the wisdom.
I really hope you get to read this.
Thank you for your time❤
As Ps Wilma says, the word says he who finds a wife, so as women are are meant to be pursued
He who finds a wife finds a good thing…biblical
Yeees Ofcourse!! ❤️Thank you! *Finds a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord.
Know your worthdom😅
I love you guys
Oooh it’s lit up in here♥️🔥
❤️❤️❤️❤️
I really enjoyed the conversation,thank you ❤️
Thank you
Hello Mrs Makhs.
I hope you're good and this message finds you well. First and foremost I just want to say I love you and your family so much I'm always listening to and watching the channel. You've mentioned in a couple of videos that God told you or you heard from God that Mr Makhs was going to be you're husband. The last video I watched where you briefly mentioned it again was in the last one about, "should women shoot their shot".
You mentioned that sometimes you doubt what you're hearing and think maybe it's just your flesh and I find myself in a situation just like this and it's something I'm still praying about it but I wanted to ask if ofcz you've never shared the journey and if you're comfortable enough to, to please share how you navigated that season in your life of knowing but not really knowing for sure if I can put it like that and how, in a practical way, you "overcame" the doubts. Cause if I'm being honest sometimes I think I'm crazy for thinking that
Hi 👋 family I just watched it today nice 👍. Ruth in the Bible shoot her shot , Naomi told her what to do , read book of Ruth chapter 3 all of it .
hehehe 'kwa Know Your Worth' kuLonely bathong yoh, like the other thing also is kwa Know Your Worth is a lot of work and people have thought about the work more than they are willing to do the work, in perspective its gonna take more than wanting to be the best version to actually taking the tiny steps that make the best version. I so agree with this installment it was definitely a catch.
I loved the conversation, thank you
The idea comes from the socialization that men can have whatever/whoever they want & women should settle for what is available to them. It comes from men having copious amount of dignity & women's dignity being limited
I also wouldn't point back shoot but I'd make myself visible but he must still pursue after I've availed myself.
LOL she was not going to admit that she shot her shot ...... but i enjoyed both perspectives
Guys when you love your self as a lady believe me you can do that 😁
Firstly, the number of ads on this installment 😍👌 watched them all💃
I'll make myself visible 😅🤞
Joo i enjoy this one too 💝💝🤗
😁😁 pheto you shoot your shot, yes you dd it💪💪💪
I think it’s no for m coz a man cn remind u that phela thy didint ask u out n that will make him to take advantage the woman.
Whether it's okay or not that's up to the woman to decide 😅 Otherwise, it's a red flag if a woman shoots shots because It means there's something about her that makes it difficult to attract the type of men she wants so now she has to try and get that type of man herself.
I do not agree with shooting your shot. What happens when you shoot your shot kanti the guy has been having intentions of playing with your heart? Anyway, it can demoralize a woman as they are not used of rejection.
The Great I AM loves you
That’s a fair point🙏🏾💯. Thank you Sanele♥️
Lerato really looks like Tim Ross! 🤯🤯 If you don't know him, look him up on UA-cam. I also think you guys are the similar when it comes to wisdom.
For me personally it's a no it's not right it's not okay ...I would never allow a man to see me vulnerable and desperate to that extent I would never let him see my weaknesses hell no
YES. !!!!!!! 😎😎😎
But not shot their shot in marriage because it’s gonna end in tears 89% of the time
When a woman shoots her shot you best believe that will be a 1 noto_ Men will hit it and run
🙆🏾♀️🙆🏾♀️🙆🏾♀️🙆🏾♀️ it can get a bit tricky right?!
I can’t remember the name but there was a widow in the bible who went to some prophet’s room and stayed on the feet. The man didn’t show interest on the night but the following days he pursued her. She made herself available, told by the mother in law.
Her name is Ruth. I though of her too😊
My home girl Ruth. Even gave him some wine first.
Ruth and Boaz...coz that mamezala was woke .She was like geza girl ,faka perfume girl bense uyazula zula lapha
Ruth Jesus bloodline
Nna honestly It can’t be me😢
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Tsatsa lip gloss 😂
A big no no no
I thought ladies shooting their shot ke gone go ntsha sign and availe yourself just like ausi Pheto did,. After he gets your attention you live him to take over as a man..
I've always thought shooting your shot was a bad idea, & it sets a precedence for a bad relationship. Until, 2days ago I realized someone would make a great muse (a great artistic plaything); I want to shoot my shot. I don't want a relationship with this person, so I don't care what precedence it sets.
I feel it’s okay that women can shoot their shot( if you see what you like go after it). But pezonally mna my man must run after me😂 He must find me
😂😂😂love it
Hahaha I ones dd,and I always felt I always had to push the whole relationship,aaii guys let a serious guy chase me🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂😂
@@tebalelomarobane8496 yeah neh, men will embarrass you. Like Mr Makhs said, let them pursue you (it’s safer that way)😊
I think it’s okay but once a woman take that stance then she should “lead” in that relationship and that is almost unnatural for a man to not take leadership unless he’s not serious about you
Hello 😊
While watching the adds let me answer the question somar klaar... No no no
Never again in my life I did that to someone after they showed me a lot they like me and they were telling their friends to get in touch with me for years. I messaged him after he did something nice and never again in my life will I do that they ignored me. Ladies focus on Jesus haha
I love being pursued shame
Which church is this ?😅
To b honest man don't like it this thing of woman shooting her shots,is turn off in majority of man.
That's how God wanted 🤣✌️
He who finds a wife not he who has been found by the wife.
It’s a situationship
😂😂 I can see how a lady shooting her shot can lead to that. Especially if the guy accepts knowing he'll play her. Mna andicingi, I'd rather be in a bathtub with ice than shoot my shot.
@@eyethumfazwe you’ve got to have prayed 40days and 40 nights 😂😂 if your shot worked shuuu I’ve been thinking of doing that just for fun but I was like Haii it can never be me and again what if it works lol which it won’t cause it’s not USA here 😂😂😂girls that side are PROs when it comes to this
@@marvelousmbali8002 40 days & nights🤣 American girls are pros but you know us Africans, never afraid to try anything that's been mastered phesheya thinking it's going to work for us😂.
Hai no Fam lol lol you shot your shot😂😂😂😂 or you half did ke 💀
Yes lol it’s 2023
Because Man are hunters not mewon.
💯💯💯💯♥️