TOO STRESSED FOR SEX? | A Man's perspective

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  • @TheMakhs
    @TheMakhs  23 дні тому +120

    DreamTeam…We have received feedback from some of our subscribers regarding issues with Mrs. Makhs' audio quality. It appears that the audio may be inaudible on certain devices. We are committed to addressing this for future podcasts.
    In the meantime, we encourage you to try listening on at least two different devices before deciding to discontinue watching this important installment😢
    Thank you for your understanding and support.
    With Love,
    The Makhs

  • @siamisangsia6840
    @siamisangsia6840 23 дні тому +260

    I can't get over how Pheto is such a beautiful woman... her hair, her nose, her teeth, her aura... Oh my goodness🥰. I can even smell her cologne from the screen 😂❤

    • @gailmokwatlo
      @gailmokwatlo 23 дні тому +10

      She’s an absolutely gorgeous woman 😍

    • @Nozipho_N
      @Nozipho_N 23 дні тому

      Muhle lomfazi

    • @nqobilembatha4129
      @nqobilembatha4129 23 дні тому +3

      Oh girl...she's perfect 🥰

    • @gracemokhele4896
      @gracemokhele4896 22 дні тому +4

      I feel the same , the entire video I'm just looking at this beauty ❤❤❤❤

    • @MotherMogashoa_Mmathapelo
      @MotherMogashoa_Mmathapelo 22 дні тому +5

      She's so clean👌 omg this woman is gorgeous 😍😍😍😍

  • @thembatom8332
    @thembatom8332 22 дні тому +133

    This is one safe space, my wife led me here and I am glad she did. Guys we need a men’s conference here.

    • @LuckyJudaz
      @LuckyJudaz 15 днів тому +1

      And doc wena I know you from TikTok your videos are so positive am also one of your followers

  • @royalqueen8679
    @royalqueen8679 24 дні тому +148

    This video should trend it will save a lot of marriages

  • @reneilwemawasha640
    @reneilwemawasha640 24 дні тому +85

    I'm not married and turning 25 soon but really I'm learning alot and this conversation will help me when I get married. To have grace to my partner and to be aware❤

  • @RayOfLetsatsi
    @RayOfLetsatsi 24 дні тому +108

    Missed you guys🥺
    Phetola is such a gorgeous woman, I never get used to her beauty.

  • @wisanibiko
    @wisanibiko 23 дні тому +95

    Been married for almost 20 years... we've had a lot of issues in our sex life until the day we became comfortable having a conversation about it.. with this podcast I've learnt that as married couples truly our challenges are almost similar... as a man I relate with everything the gentleman is saying and I can hear my wife through the lady. Keep on working on your marriage guys.. be blessed.❤

  • @pumzandziweni8434
    @pumzandziweni8434 22 дні тому +61

    My take away, sex has seasons and it doesn't mean the end of your marriage❤

  • @CornerHouse_Media
    @CornerHouse_Media 23 дні тому +50

    The maturity on here is out of this world ..Shout out to Pheto ,for Lerato to express certain things and actions in the past from her end ,and she doesn’t take offence or defend herself ? 👏👏👏🙌🙌🙌

    • @doreenkarimi4572
      @doreenkarimi4572 6 днів тому

      N still continue calling him her little pet names..such maturity n love up there

  • @chumabanjwa4662
    @chumabanjwa4662 24 дні тому +69

    The authenticity you guys bring is unmatched 🙌 .
    You 2 are marriage healers x

    • @sweetnessgyamboe4897
      @sweetnessgyamboe4897 23 дні тому +1

      Their marriage will remain blessed.. indeed many marriages will take a turn.

  • @NeneShabangu
    @NeneShabangu 24 дні тому +88

    I just made my husband watch this with me. So many things make sense now 😂

  • @nosisasharon3534
    @nosisasharon3534 24 дні тому +110

    And we can’t skip adverts guys😃

  • @shamiso_t
    @shamiso_t 24 дні тому +65

    Oouuufffff😭😭🔥🔥🔥the Quality?! What!?❤

    • @N.e.n.e.z
      @N.e.n.e.z 13 днів тому

      @@shamiso_t Hi Shamie. Are you Zimbabwean or South African?❤️

  • @SomeonesTswanaDad
    @SomeonesTswanaDad 23 дні тому +52

    Sheesh. Mr Makh, we need you to put together a men's conference. If I was on social media, I would reach out to you for some one-on-one time. Our churches don't do enough to talk about these things. And I find that even church leaders aren't always equipped to counsel us as married men regarding these things. Also, too many men are refusing to be vulnerable enough to have these chats. Society forces men into boxes and generalizations. It leaves no room for nuance/different experiences. Your sharing this convo is making room!

    • @viwengcwangu8091
      @viwengcwangu8091 23 дні тому +1

      Mr Makhs should write books or something 😂❤

    • @TheMbudzeni
      @TheMbudzeni 17 днів тому

      My brother, churches are too "holy" to discuss these topics😂.

  • @NdyebokaziNongogo
    @NdyebokaziNongogo 22 дні тому +23

    The point here is not to give up on each other❤

  • @zikomokaliwo4977
    @zikomokaliwo4977 24 дні тому +69

    We don't deserve you .. ❤.. May the Lord pour into your life

    • @TheMakhs
      @TheMakhs  24 дні тому

      ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @tebogomashilo6
    @tebogomashilo6 23 дні тому +46

    i missed hearing "and im phetola makheeeethaa" thee ever so beautiful 🥺😍

    • @lineaemvula34
      @lineaemvula34 21 день тому +2

      Yeeeeees please, I really love hearing such looooong ....gheeeeeta too!
      In this life, certain things may sound simple but they truly make someone out there excited and happy!😅😅😅😅

  • @MotherMogashoa_Mmathapelo
    @MotherMogashoa_Mmathapelo 22 дні тому +11

    The chemistry in this marriage is so tangible, you guys like each other Yho what a beautiful union 😊😊😊

  • @Mercy2421
    @Mercy2421 23 дні тому +21

    Contraceptives are the culprit when it comes to women performance 😢 I am glad you touched on this topic because yay it’s hectic to navigate marriage and sex.

  • @mbuedzedzondou9259
    @mbuedzedzondou9259 23 дні тому +12

    This marriage neh! Lord! Continue to Bless them….i love how open and honest you are with each other.

  • @royalqueen8679
    @royalqueen8679 24 дні тому +23

    Eish Bafethu what a subject
    Ziyakhala la
    This has been my cry to the Lord that Daddy this topic is so ignored in our churches.thorough attention to this most significant aspect of marriage is so inadequate
    We need to explore it more,it is so deep qnd has caused a lot of divorces and adultery in the body of Christ.
    I thank the Holy Spirit who always help my husband and I to navigate this aspect especially when I found myself not desiring him 18yrs later but God intervened and helped us find the root cause of the problem,I tell you in such seasons love is tested and it is love that Prevails and causes us to win and come to the other side.
    Indeed Intimacy is emotional,intellectual and spiritual connection more than the physical connection.
    Asisizaneni ucantsi lubalulekile emshadweni,asifundisaneni sithole amandla amasha.
    Siyafika kwi season yokungafunani sidlule through God and Intentionality.
    May Men understand women in this subject and May women understand men in this area of our marriages.

  • @yandie_z
    @yandie_z 24 дні тому +48

    Missed Phetola’s laugh. So happy to have both of you guys back ♥️

  • @allymarie8027
    @allymarie8027 19 днів тому +6

    I saved this to watch with my future husband when he arrives! This blessed me in so many ways as a woman who is preparing for courtship and who is healing from childhood SA trauma and struggling to build confidence in Godly sex after therapy and time of healing and still feeling somewhat uneasy about facing it. I am trusting God and praying a lot about my future sex life but appreciate conversations like this so much! There's layers to every marriages unique sex life and we can't give up and continue to communicate! ❤ I love you guys. Thank you so so much.

  • @veronicafruitfulltv5641
    @veronicafruitfulltv5641 17 днів тому +3

    OMG!! Love this podcast. I’m a sex and relationships teacher and I learned from this. I want to praise your darling husband for this conversation Mrs Makh because this conversation will bless many men and women. One thing I want to Mrs Makh is your body was not betraying you. That is a negative term towards your body. Your body was and is always trying to communicate messages to you, if you don’t listen then the results will be painful. It’s like saying to a baby “why are you crying?? Stop it”. That won’t help you, they’re crying because that is how babies communicate their needs.
    I hope you get my point.
    Great podcast🎉🎉

  • @sbongilemakubela4351
    @sbongilemakubela4351 24 дні тому +16

    Thank you for saving so many marriages through this podcasts...
    May God keep pouring his wisdom and knowledge through the both of you😊

  • @Mystic_Paths
    @Mystic_Paths 23 дні тому +15

    This topic is so real and often overlooked in relationships. Many married couples struggle with stress impacting their sex lives, and it’s important to talk about it openly. Life’s pressures-work, kids, financial worries-can drain emotional energy and leave little room for intimacy. Sometimes it’s not just about physical desire, but mental and emotional exhaustion. Understanding that stress can kill the mood is key, and working together to reduce stress, communicate openly, and prioritize connection can make a big difference

  • @laureenkanyume7945
    @laureenkanyume7945 23 дні тому +8

    This makes a lot of sense. I wish more and more couples should listen to this. It answers a lot of questions.

  • @Happiness-yd9ie
    @Happiness-yd9ie 24 дні тому +19

    Oh these are some of the most healthy conversations that I wish couples were comfortable to engage in. Many marriages would be rescued from the route of divorce...if only

  • @yvonnenosipho177
    @yvonnenosipho177 18 днів тому +5

    So happy to see you back. We're watching from Zimbabwe 🇿🇼

  • @lindyn4
    @lindyn4 24 дні тому +11

    Thank you guys for standing in line for us the honesty is comforting

  • @ReignTravel-o4e
    @ReignTravel-o4e 23 дні тому +8

    One thing about the Makhs, they will drop 💣. They speak and you know it’s for a nation / for the entire world to learn . Such grace

  • @realtalkwithamu
    @realtalkwithamu 23 дні тому +8

    What a phenomenal, well balanced discussion this was, as one man to another man, you have represented us very well.

  • @philasibonge.mkhize
    @philasibonge.mkhize 24 дні тому +28

    this space is so safe🥺🤍

  • @officially_mrs_m
    @officially_mrs_m 23 дні тому +7

    Yaaay! So glad to have you back! Let's do more topics! Godly marriages are up!! You both are doing the Lord's work❤❤🎉🎉. Let's help reshape marriage and relief people from cultural expectations. Marriage was created by God, not culture and its precepts. So it is so important what you 2 are doing, 2 people whose marriage is centered in God, to speak on this, with God's counsel. ❤ Vulnerable, transparent, safe space and healing at the same time! Can't wait for people to be encouraged 🎉🎉Let's goo!

  • @percym8924
    @percym8924 23 дні тому +11

    As a married woman, m so grateful for conversations like these ❤❤

  • @phumzazozi6934
    @phumzazozi6934 23 дні тому +5

    I could cry because this conversation that you guys are having is soooo good , sooooo needed!! Whether single or married, male or female everyone needs to listen to this!!

  • @lebogangmodukanene934
    @lebogangmodukanene934 24 дні тому +48

    Bathong lona! Just yesterday I was watching some of your old videos. That’s how much i missed you guys.

    • @TheMakhs
      @TheMakhs  24 дні тому +15

      Bathong Lebo!!!😆🤗🤗❤️❤️❤️. We are back hle!!! We missed you so much! It feels sooo good to be back!!!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @siamisangsia6840
      @siamisangsia6840 23 дні тому +2

      Same here😂😢

  • @nompumelelochirwa6193
    @nompumelelochirwa6193 23 дні тому +12

    Can we talk about the quality?!👏🏽wow!

  • @laurreinmaritz9142
    @laurreinmaritz9142 24 дні тому +10

    What an honest conversation! 100% relatable❤ thank you beautiful family and welcome back 🎉🎉🎉

  • @jabuzwanetalks
    @jabuzwanetalks 21 день тому +3

    The Kind of Family Building Content I love. Thank you for iginiting crucial discussions in such a godly, safe, sensitive and yet very real way. Loving you two!

  • @progressrak5728
    @progressrak5728 23 дні тому +15

    I feel like I'm watching my marriage being discussed 😢😢, especially the lack of sex sometimes and the reasons, but very difficult for us to talk through the issues, thanks guys, needed to hear this ❤, I don't why, I feel a bit relieved ❤❤❤.

  • @AluwaniNdou
    @AluwaniNdou 23 дні тому +5

    i am happy, you highlighted the fact as man we are not having this conversation amongst ourselves and even when we do try to have them, its always meet with all acting like we are performing like a stallion and everything is going well. our ego/pride is the problem when it comes to such topics and it doesn't help that its expected of us to be this high performing human when it comes to the bedroom. unfortunately until us 'gents' start opening up to each other, we will still straggle in silence while we are trying to figure it out on our own. Thank you for the conversation

  • @thenjiwebalano9714
    @thenjiwebalano9714 23 дні тому +4

    Thank you for addressing this topic.
    I resonated deeply with every aspect of the story, as we’ve experienced similar phases in my own marriage.
    Often, we’re unaware that these experiences change over time and conversations like these are essential in teaching and reminding us about the dynamics of relationships.
    I truly appreciate the insights shared..

  • @Lalee0412
    @Lalee0412 24 дні тому +8

    This was very powerful, raw and insightful. You guys rock

  • @allthings_suzieq
    @allthings_suzieq 23 дні тому +7

    this segment was wholesome….l can’t get over how beautiful Phetola is❤❤❤

  • @thatomissteemusic6983
    @thatomissteemusic6983 23 дні тому +10

    I'm not married as yet but this is a good conversation and enlightening for some of us who are anticipating to get married❤Thanks for sharing❤

  • @mazwihwonfila8580
    @mazwihwonfila8580 4 дні тому

    I am blown by the authenticity u two carry.. Abundant Grace

  • @cupofchi_
    @cupofchi_ 22 дні тому +3

    Great conversation! I feel like alot of the assumptions could be avoided if couples just simply communicated. Even if it’s embarrassing

  • @RendyLuna
    @RendyLuna 23 дні тому +4

    I'm so glad that you guys are back, can you please update episodes on spotify ,i have long drives to work and like to listen to you guys, you are literally the only SA couple i follow❤❤

  • @palesadolo7346
    @palesadolo7346 23 дні тому +4

    Wowza!! Fam, you guys really went in with this conversation. Thank you so much for sharing. It has been very eye opening to hear this chat being had in this light. I will never pass the chance to equip myself for marriage during singleness. This is going into the volt♥️

  • @dineomatolo7961
    @dineomatolo7961 24 дні тому +6

    You came back with a bang🎉🎉
    Loved every bit of the podcast, you are a blessing ❤.I now understand that "there are seasons ".......

  • @MyLittleSteps_
    @MyLittleSteps_ 24 дні тому +8

    New intro just set my timeline on 🔥🔥🔥....Y'all look very cutesy🥰🌹🌹🌹

  • @princessmoeti3248
    @princessmoeti3248 12 днів тому +1

    Oh my gosh I actually didn't realise how much i missed you guys. Welcome back!!!!! 😍😍

  • @kearabetswefaith6934
    @kearabetswefaith6934 24 дні тому +6

    OMG, it's so good to have you guys back fam. 🥺 LOVED THE CONVERSATION and hopefully a woman's perspective will follow lol. 😂❤

  • @modiegimashamaite4704
    @modiegimashamaite4704 24 дні тому +4

    Oh yessss. Love this podcast. What a wonderful topic. You always get it. Here for the graphics as well. 🥰😍😍

  • @reranirendani2418
    @reranirendani2418 23 дні тому +22

    I am a man I am today because of you guys. I love you very much The Makhs. ❤

    • @tlalanetsabana7463
      @tlalanetsabana7463 15 днів тому

      Bathong we thank God. Congratulations my brother, welcome to manwood🙏

    • @tlalanetsabana7463
      @tlalanetsabana7463 15 днів тому

      Eish my English apologies. We thank God that you are a man you are today. English is not my strong point, I remember I once said Congratulations to Jesus . And some time ago I said Scape boat instead of scape goat.

  • @motheowalerato701
    @motheowalerato701 24 дні тому +18

    I'll be back. Just wanted to check in 😅❤

    • @TheMakhs
      @TheMakhs  24 дні тому +3

      Please don’t forget to come back❤️🤗

  • @pumzandziweni8434
    @pumzandziweni8434 22 дні тому +2

    I did not know, when men are stressed can less perform too, thank you 4 shining that light❤

  • @chukschukwuka5200
    @chukschukwuka5200 21 день тому +2

    Thank you guys for been so real and natural. My wife sent me this link and at first, I didn't want to open it, but all glory to the lord I did. Guys, you touch everything part ❤
    Good work guys. Good work. Am looking forward for future good, informative, healthy topic. Thanks aging. Stay bless you too.

  • @MandisaHanise
    @MandisaHanise 24 дні тому +22

    So, we conceived our first born on a “flat tyre season” 😅. That’s what we called it.
    It was a funny space for us but I obviously felt like he didn’t find me desirable anymore. We thrived through the season until things went back to normal and I later found out I was pregnant.
    Now every time there’s a “flat tyre season” I’ll be scared that Jeso, I’m gonna conceive again 😢😅😂

  • @pontshobolofo9541
    @pontshobolofo9541 24 дні тому +3

    Yeeeeeee🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤❤❤ The Marks are back. I love your conversations hey. They are so matured and very enlightening. They are just blessing. You guys are really amazing. Thank God for you

  • @adeolaojo4603
    @adeolaojo4603 18 днів тому +2

    I love the eloquence of Mr Makh and his wife, one word - Gorgeous...

  • @AmeliaNyirenda
    @AmeliaNyirenda 24 дні тому +12

    It’s how these guys are matching outfits for me🥹❤️❤️❤️

  • @phiwo8998
    @phiwo8998 23 дні тому +2

    I cannot express enough the love and appreciation I have for you guys , thank you for allowing us into your journey, you guys are therapy ❤️.

  • @ladyras
    @ladyras 21 день тому +2

    Now this is what we call a podcast❤❤❤❤. This is a topic!!!!

  • @simemaposa1123
    @simemaposa1123 23 дні тому +3

    Missed you ,So great to have you back fam❤

  • @masengateselepe7293
    @masengateselepe7293 5 днів тому +4

    Yoooooooo...Wow where do I start?...After she got pregnant,we went to zero sex and again when the baby was born, another 5 months,so i also just removed it from my mind... Trust me I made several attempts to have it but yeah...But we are now talking about it and we understand each other ❤

  • @sanelemjoli4877
    @sanelemjoli4877 23 дні тому +4

    Yeyi you just come back like that? Lol you didn't even ease us back, wow these topics aren't covered enough out there. This is why I am grateful that you are back. Definitely going to have a chat about it with my wife. Welcome back Fam.
    The Great I AM loves you

  • @phethehojenifermoleleki3973
    @phethehojenifermoleleki3973 24 дні тому +6

    I love the intro, it exudes so much power.

  • @Temwachii
    @Temwachii 24 дні тому +4

    You always come back bigger and better!!! A1 visuals

  • @omolemo4160
    @omolemo4160 4 дні тому

    As a guy, performance anxiety really happens. It really messes us up in the inside.
    Thanks for this talk!

  • @sibuleledwakaza
    @sibuleledwakaza 24 дні тому +9

    Phakathi inside 📍 the quality!🔥🔥

  • @Readingtogether.
    @Readingtogether. 15 днів тому +1

    I love the closing Remarks of Mrs Makgetha😢😢I wish she can say that to man at Men's conference. It's hits different coming from a women's perspective.

  • @AishaandLife
    @AishaandLife 20 днів тому

    I really appreciate the honesty and openness of this conversation. Like you said, most of these topics aren’t spoken about and they need to! This will help so many couples. Thank you 👏🏾🙏🏾

  • @HildahMolobane-dk4vk
    @HildahMolobane-dk4vk 24 дні тому +2

    Welcome back the dream team wow, I'm so happy to have you back guys

  • @MaleboOldjohnTsindi
    @MaleboOldjohnTsindi 23 дні тому +4

    Welcome back guys, yall feel so refreshed 😊

  • @tamaradyantyi6177
    @tamaradyantyi6177 23 дні тому +1

    Thank you for the conversation. Its very important on relationships to be comfortable being naked emotionally in safe space. this episode really opened my mind.

  • @elizabethletsoso2558
    @elizabethletsoso2558 24 дні тому +4

    Welcome back Mrs and Mr Makhetha❤

  • @therapynareva6511
    @therapynareva6511 22 дні тому +4

    This episode is world class ❤❤so needed.

  • @ladyqngomane
    @ladyqngomane 12 днів тому

    I am sending this to my husband to watch, thank you guys for speaking about things that are not so popular to speak about❤, May God continue to use you to save all marriages out there!! 🙌🙌

  • @royalqueen8679
    @royalqueen8679 24 дні тому +4

    You guys are SUPER REAL

  • @TeeRayLifestyle
    @TeeRayLifestyle 2 дні тому

    We really need these conversation, shuu wholesome content

  • @Simz1061
    @Simz1061 24 дні тому +10

    You guys look so good ! 🔥👌🏼

  • @zinhle__z
    @zinhle__z 24 дні тому +7

    Shuuu, This is premium content!

  • @nqwenelwandabba725
    @nqwenelwandabba725 10 днів тому

    I love how the respect is mutual between the 2 of you family. Allowing the other person to speak and express their thoughts, and there is no taking anything personal 9r feelings of judgement ❤❤❤

  • @nqobilemkhize8110
    @nqobilemkhize8110 23 дні тому +1

    I was sooo happy to see the notification 😍😭😭♥️
    My favourite couple. Period💯

  • @pumlakoltana936
    @pumlakoltana936 23 дні тому +4

    U gutz u r sooo authentic, Ĺerato how I so wish u can organize men's Conference, guys u r amazing . Phetola u are real, sooo grounded and I love u.

  • @ShaniceKamps
    @ShaniceKamps 21 день тому

    Mr and Mrs Makhs, God bless you! My marriage needed to hear this, I hope my husband watches it ❤

  • @palesamasebe5661
    @palesamasebe5661 19 днів тому +1

    Thank you fam ❤shared with my hubby …
    # watching all the way from Qatar 🇶🇦 🇿🇦
    # Rakgadi Pheto & Uncle Larry Y’all inspire me
    # I miss you Fam 😢

  • @mkhwanazi_zamile
    @mkhwanazi_zamile 24 дні тому +2

    Welcome back to the Makhs, I missed you guys,cabanga I came to check you out,dololo😂❤❤❤

  • @Phindu_M
    @Phindu_M 23 дні тому +6

    Quality conversations 🎉 love it here … dream team

  • @Keabetswe.Sithole
    @Keabetswe.Sithole 18 днів тому +1

    Such a beautiful conversation! Also you guys le a ratana it is evident in how you carry each other. Modimo a le etse gantle ❤

  • @raegreen1194
    @raegreen1194 22 дні тому

    Sharing this as we have to shine a healthy light on this. Love how you developed the conversation from both perspectives❤most appreciated

  • @hlengiwemoshiga8141
    @hlengiwemoshiga8141 23 дні тому +1

    This is soo important i wish all thee couples to see this podcast.. Thnx guys we really appreciate this conversation ❤🙏

  • @annasophiamdavid2260
    @annasophiamdavid2260 24 дні тому +6

    It's me liking 👍🏽 before I watch😊

  • @NadineMbabazi
    @NadineMbabazi 18 днів тому +1

    this was a very beautiful episode. Loved it ❤❤ You guys are so beautiful too❤ first time here from Rwanda 🇷🇼❤

  • @kwakha6103
    @kwakha6103 24 дні тому +4

    Thank you The Makhs......thank you for talking about this❤

    • @TheMakhs
      @TheMakhs  24 дні тому +1

      Thank you fam❤️❤️ . So important❤️❤️❤️

  • @leratokantue
    @leratokantue 24 дні тому +1

    Great to have you guys back. Love the set. This is such an important conversation 🎉🎉🎉

  • @AsteriaShekudja
    @AsteriaShekudja 24 дні тому +2

    I missed you guys 😢 I'm so glad my dream team is back🎉
    I love you guys so much ❤

  • @Siyole_M
    @Siyole_M 17 днів тому

    So excited to have you back yho! You guys were missed so much. ❤