At the beginning of the episode, you mentioned that your marriage is not perfect,but I have to say that one of the main reasons your marriage is working so well is likely your level of self-awareness. It's admirable how you resolve issues and communicate honestly. With this level of honesty and transparency relationships are most likely to thrive.❤❤ this channel is so liberating.
To: The Makhs🥺 I just wanted to take a moment to express how grateful I am for the incredible influence you've had on my life(not just me but the entire dream team). Your partnership is the epitome of love and teamwork. Thank you for sharing your joy, wisdom, and kindness so generously and with realness with us. You guys rock!! We love you guys!! Modimo ale etse hantle!! Ale bolokele rona!! With heartfelt thanks [Kutlwano]❤
This was such a wholesome conversation as always ❤ Thank you for your vulnerability and authenticity once again 😊 "You don't trust me to protect you the way I know how" Trust his leadership ❤
Same. I'm a mom and i in totally see how I can apply some of the nuggets I've picked up from this video in my parenthood. I'm a mom to a preteen, and I've learnt from this video how we can fix some of our misunderstandings
Ish! You guys say you are in therapy but this video is therapy in itself...If spouses sat down like this to talk about challenges in their marriage, I bet you, the divorce rates will drop...I loved this. Thanks for sharing
I have a tip: Always know that when God has chosen you to get married, he wants you to heal. The tip is don't resist what God is trying to do in your life... I hope you get this!❤ peace and love ha di rene maphelong a lona
The growth in Sesi Phetola is so amazing, as a young woman i am inspired by that. It really shows that if you have a teachable spirit you'll learn so much from your partner
Thats what I've noted too. Shes grown and its beautiful to watch. Very inspiring. Love the work the work that the Holy Spirit is doing in amd through her and her husband's life. These past few instalments have changed my heart man🥺🥺
I hope you realise and understand just how much God is using you guys to help not just marriages to grow but also us single people who desire marriage to grow both spiritually and mentally .Your show has help me change certain things about me to help me mature as a person .Thank you for not giving up on each other and this show /podcast .You guys are so inspiring ❤️🙌🏽
The Makhs are really putting us youngins on some game. This conversation goes beyond romantic relationships. This is inspiring me to address personal issues for all of my relationships. 🙃😭😭😭🙌🏾🙌🏾 Thank you very much, family!
I think most men are like that, my late husband was like that too. I think sometimes we need to understand men and let them be, we have to trust them and they really appreciate if we do that.
14 years in marriage and you guys r still learning each other and putting in the work,I love this. I’m watching this with my husband and we r taking notes,thank you guys for being vulnerable ,may God continue to bless ur union ❤️❤️
Man I love it here!! ❤ Thank you for your "YES" to this ministry. We are led. You tackled such a difficult conversation with so much grace, love and authenticity. Marriage is such a beautiful thing ❤😍
The Bible says in Genesis 3:16 “I will sharpen the pain in your pregnancy and in pain you will give birth. And you will have desire to control your husband but he will rule over you’ We can be controlling and I think it’s cause we want things to happen smoothly and in a certain way. I see myself in Petula so much. This is such an interesting conversation. Thank you so much for opening up to us and being vulnerable. As a single who hopes to get married someday, this is teaching me so much about the realities of marriage. I’m grateful for these kinds of platforms. ❤
That scripture kept playing in my head throughout this. But thank God that we are no longer under the curse. As we grown in the knowledge of Christ and are being sanctified, we will see a change.
Im listening so far, and it sounds like hubby has found his own path to cope with the said issue, and he is advising his wife to follow in his path because he believes it has worked for him. And though I can appreciate that sentiment, it could be possible that what he has chosen to do is not to resolve but to adapt in a way that is not going to work for the wife. I believe he should lean more into what his wife needs in order to feel safe and protected instead of insisting that she copes the way that he copes. And wife may need to consider that he has not been able to find the answer for himself in the matter, just to survive the matter, maladaptive as it may be longterm. (My two cents)
I am saved and single but this conversation was so liberating. It truly revealed issues i have, im working through them with the help of the Holy Spirit. Your honesty and self awareness is absolutely beautiful. It is all about sanctification. Amazing to see a marriage where partners lead each other to Christ. Thank you to the Mahks. Much appreciated! May the Lord continue to bless you in this season. ❤
Yhoooo… you know I don’t think I can ever get tired of saying thank You Mr and Mrs Makhs, for allowing your marriage to be used by GOD, for allowing yourselves to be fully vulnerable… in this climate we are in of Divorce, Divorce due to a number of things… I am sitting here and I am hopeful, hopeful for my marriage, hopeful that, marriages where Love always thrives exist, that it doesn’t all have to end because of the 25% that’s in a funk, but to seek help on how to best deal with a certain season in our marriages…❤
You guys’ podcast are so timely on my life, I feel God speaks to me through them. Every week you are addressing things I am seeking God about in that week.
This was deep. And the beauty Is that both of you are willing to stay in the ring as Lerato would say. Thank you for showing us what marriage could look like when both parties are committed to making it work. Above all else we give God the glory because it is the word of God that helps us to renew our minds and be Christ like.
Wow, that is true Lerato, your wife tackles life with such honesty, and also the ability to see her own shortcomings, a rare quality indeed. And this is in a world where everyone is very clear about what is wrong with others, and out to correct the next person while they fail to see fault in themselves. I also commend you for your honesty and humility to not only notice it but point it out verbally. That speaks to the goodness of your heart, Lerato. May God keep you guys and bless your marriage to continue to be a blessing unto others❤
Oh God I’ve been praying for this type of gentleness. And to see that it exists and is attainable. I will continue stand in anticipation for it. One of my greatest fears in getting into a relationship again is having to depart with the peace within self and having to expect gentleness and the continuous desire to be seen and valued on a purist level. You both display this so beautifully. & it ignites in me the desire for marriage and all it comes with.
This conversation was gold! I can resonate so much with Phetola and I am so glad you know how to articulate yourself so well making it easy for me to understand myself. Sanctification is not easy even privately and you’re so brave to do it before us, thank you for sacrificing yourself like that. God is using you so mightily to sanctify me as I feel we’re really similar. God bless you!
This was such a difficult conversation to have especially when you are navigating through it with secrecy, cause you can’t divulge much. I wish all couples may learn to have such critical conversations freely without fear of breaking hearts. Now this also needs a level of maturity that is beyond comprehension. Conflict management is hard to tackle, especially when it involves other parties. As much as I understand and appreciate Leratos views there is a level of tolerance that anyone can take. Any human being, has a level of tolerance, she can move in a direction that you are advising whilst she may habour resentment. I’m happy that you are seeing a therapist. That is a brilliant move. You guys are winning in your marriage. Just remember it really doesn’t have to be perfect. Nothing in life is
This is beautiful. I love it. I always say this to my wife 'In any form of relationships we go through seasons and we shouldn't define our marriage based on what we are going through in this season." This usually changes the perspective of what we are going through during that season. The Great I AM loves you
Oooh my word!!! This sounds exactly like what my husband and I are facing. And his response is exactly like Lerato is saying. Mine was exactly like Pheto’s! We had the disagreement last night 😮! I needed him to confront an issue that has been brewing. He left it too long, mainly because he is not a confrontational person. I on the other hand felt that by keeping quiet he is not protecting me. He kept saying, ‘even if confront the person they will never change. It just made me so mad. Because I am confrontational and him speaking up would have made me feel more protected 😅
Admitting a problem is a first step to healing. I'm glad you know your flows Mrs Makhs and you're not shy to say them out loud. Lerato's intelligence and level of maturity is just what God intended for men to be heads . Lerato is such a leader and a very torelant husband. This was so liberating for me.
40:51 when Lerato said sorry to Pheto for making her feel bad in how he brought out her controlling issue I just dropped a tear🤧it is one thing to be right, but to be kind that's gold. Thankful for kind partners🙏🏽♥️
“Move forward not for the sake of movement but for the sake of progress”. Thoroughly enjoyed this episode. We’re healing and learning. Thank you Pheto and Lerato.
What a powerful conversation 👏 🙌 thank you for being vulnerable and sharing a part of your life, you have no idea how many relationships you are freeing ❤
Wow wow wow. This is helping me so so so much even beyond marriage and romantic relationships. It's just helping me for life as a whole. Thank you thank you thank you.
27:23 I get Mrs Makhs, there’s safety in knowing why you going a different route, as she said information and communication I thrive in that as well. I also get Mr Makhs that he wants to be trusted on deciding on a different route, however it’s better if a man communicates that and then a woman can rest in that you got it and you acknowledged my feelings and pain.
Shuu, this felt tough to watch for the first time. However, I’m learning that as women, we must learn to love our husbands in way that when the Lord would come and weigh a situation and what went wrong. The husband must not be found wanting and in trouble with the Lord. Love him to the point where he would be protected from the Lords judgement 😭😭.
Bathong lona ke le rata jwang! ❤This topic was so important because we assume so much instead of having the conversations that need to be had! Always, thank you for always being so vulnerable. Your vulnerability is freeing so many of us.
This was so amazing,so relatable in so many ways & I have learned so much about myself and how I pour into my spouse. Thank you for allowing God to use you,in order for us to identify our flaws in our marriages and work on them in the best way that God wants us to,Thank you & may you continue doing what you do best,God is faithful❤️🙏
I trust and believe Aus Pheto when she says Mr Makhs does not have a mean or rude bone in him. He exudes kindness.. We can feel it too. As an empath? His spirit is recognized and felt ❤
I just want to say thank you guys for the level of obedience that you guys are showing on this podcast by coming to episodes without pre planning any discussion points that really help us to glorify God in our relationships may the holy spirit continue to be with you guys on this journey.
I am a 29yrs single and really somedays am afraid of getting into marriage coz of the many failed ones ive seen but Watching you guys have brought some sense that its not all rosy but it takes two hearts that are willing to work together. So much love ❤Watching you is therapeutic 😊 Watching from 🇷🇼
Thank you; this was so enlightening. its quite rare that podcasters share challenges as they navigate; they always do so afterwards, so thank you for that. We need to do the work and get the necessary help so that our marriages can thrive.
Communication is not always verbal. Actions too speak a lot, and one must be able to read and analyze them more especially when the action is to rescue a situation
Phetola as a woman I relate with you so so much in so many ways, thriving on information, tit bit controlling. Inspired to work on myself. Thank you for this installment. God bless.
😢😢😢😢yhoooo...im currently feeling unseen and my husband is so not open to any kind of therapy! Frustrating, because i can't even express how i feel because i know i will feell like he is gaslighting me and i often feel like i always pick on petty issues....but honestly i am really not okay and i can't suppress this feeling anymore, i was even thinking of giving him some space, but thank God for this...❤❤❤❤
Zanele I am with you and most painful part is we have kids and just today I felt I 'needed to go home just to get space and give him that too. Hearing my older son asking why am I going to his gran just made me think a little
❤My husband I would always mention to each other and say... Why dont other married folks talk about these topics... Are we the only once going through this?? Why don't men speak when they hang out about what they struggle with. These topics are so needed in these times especially for young married couples... We don't have the tools... We don't know where to go for help or even how to start the conversation.... Thank you guys for this.
Got married 30 years ago, had lots of issues with communication in our marriage. But now I have learned to rely on grace. Men and women are not the same. Period. I wish i could have communicated with so much grace as Phetola. But my dear, I have learned to accept that men are different. It's amazing how your struggles are similar to our ones, but now i am at peace🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
I'm so proud of you for getting into therapy again!! Please host a seminar for the Makhs family, before you guys leave SA. Ka kopo please. So we can meet our online role models?
What an inspiring and insightful episode. Healthy marriages aren’t celebrated these days and it’s very scary. Thank you for sharing your experience and wisdom with this series.
May God continue to bless you and keep you for us. Your podcasts are very profound and informative. I am learning a lot.My marriage is what it is because of your real podcasts.I love you very much @The Makhs.
I pray God continues to bless your union and may you guys really continue to have these uncomfortable conversations. My Pastor mentioned this other day that the things you don't conquer before marriage will surely bleed on your marriage and I now understand why, because I'm also like Phetola, I can be "controlling" at times and want to do things in a certain way, and I also battle with trust issues, which I now see how these things are currently affecting the relationships that I have with friends and family. Thank you so much for sharing your vulnerability with us. With Love, New subscriber❤
Thank you fam for the beautiful conversation, I'm like Mrs Makhs,recently my boyfriend told me that I'm controlling and I was offended and wanted to defend myself butcI took time to digest it and he was right, this happened when we had an argument I wanted us to confront the issue before hand,meanwhile he was silent minding his own business, that got me frustrated got I think a part of me wanted to control the situation how he reacts and me trying to find solutions coz I'm solution based..another thing that play a huge role is how we were raised,from a young age Ii had to go grow up fast,my mom is a pastor I had to do chores at home take care of my siblings, take care of the household that's where the controlling started I'm 28 now I'm tired I want to be led
The level of self-awareness and willingness to find solutions to existing matters and to your 25% of your pie, makes you guys stronger than comprehension. God prunes branches and things in our lives that don't bear fruit, so more fruit is beared(John 15:1-4). I would like to say, that as you've mentioned that you're a team, that you need to stand together to "fight" against the problem, instead of fighting each other. I see that counseling is working and you comprehend this strategy, so i just want to say that God is pruning because He knows where He's taking you and He cannot bring you to it with these parts of you still in you. Go with God and be blessed!❤
Don't let the 25% override the 75% !!!!!!!! Literally what I needed to hear today. Thanks #TheMakhs. You guys are incredible. To be this vulnerable, open and honest requires a lot of dying to self and you guys mastered it in this episode.
This was so amazing, so so amazing and resonated with us a lot especially because last night we had sat down and had a difficult conversation but with so much grace. We are learning a lot from you guys, thank you for your honesty and vulnerability
I have been following you guys probably from inception and growth ya Mr Makhs guys! Marry right! Marry a gent who is fully submitted to God. To God alone be the glory....
Nginithandaaaaaa!!! ♥️♥️ I'm going to take liberty to say on behalf of all your subscribers and say we're rooting for you and have your back on this counselling journey!
My mum and I also had an issue similar to yours. She doesn't want to acknowledge it but is rather quick to overlook it. She then explained that whenever she acknowledged the situation, she felt like she was exacerbating it.
A lot of wisdom, a lot of takeaways for me.. what you said can also be applied in a work situation.. this is has been been so wholesome and thanks for letting us in onto your intimate talks.. it helps a great deal.. aren’t we all learning even some of us at our age..? Learning from the young one? I’m Grateful that you shared and bared it all out.. I continue to learn..❤❤❤
I am so blessed by this podcast, thank you for your vulnerability and surrendered stewardship for Hods kingdom. I love you guys and I am praying for you with you❤
Yhooo I love you guys so much🥰😍. Phetola i also felt that look at the end. Just when i was thinking - Yhooo Lerato is looking at his wife with love and you noticed it too and i was like yeah i was not seeing things there ❣. Lerato can you find time and have a programme for Boy kids where you will guide them on how to be a good man, i feel this will assist our kids to be good husbands to next generation than trying to change grown men. #boys2men. Ndiyanithanda so much my peeps
YOOOO control and get things done now....tell me about your plan...i resonate. i love the way you communicate and are open about it.....your channel is heaven sent....siyafunda.🥰🥰 siyabonga👏👏👏
What a beautiful kingdom centred talk on counseling therapy. Every wise counsel gives one an opportunity for growth. Don't be hasty to complete your counseling sessions. I know that sometimes there are financial implications. But learn to commit your family finances where your marriage health is. WHERE NO COUNSEL IS, THE PEOPLE FALL. BUT there is safety in a multitude of counselors. Proverbs 11: 14 ❤️✝️ You are a beautiful kingdom vessel. Re ya leboga.
Now this is meat! Rejele guys. This covenant is not for babies! Gwa nyewa! Men take your ground, learn from this man! Sis, we're healing with you, through your work !👏👏
OMG!!! I can soo relate to this chat!😅 Thank you sso much guys for being so open and vulnerable with us! Conversations like these make this business of navigating life that much more easier..❤
Guys a not soo clever or intelligent person wouldn't be vulnerable as u are Guys. U r gifted more than anything. I learn a lot from u .Thanks so much that I happen to have come across u or our paths to have crossed.
What a powerful episode family. I am out of words. May God continue to protect your marriage and that all goes well with the counselling. I love how you both embrace this season in your lives and navigating through with grace. May God continue to be gracious to you guys.
One thing I love about you guys, is the kindness you extend to each other even when you disagree...I love how your husbands perspective of what made him fall inlove with you, never shifts even when confronted with one of the biggest conflict #Family3rdParty!!! Wasn't that lucky and all failed.
😂😂😂I left in 2yrs of marriage but I brought myself 7days later and we are now on year 18 of a blessed marriage.Im sure God was laughing at me ndizihlanyisa. We thank God for gluing marriages together.what He brings together no man can put asunder not even the couple in marriage 😊❤
At the beginning of the episode, you mentioned that your marriage is not perfect,but I have to say that one of the main reasons your marriage is working so well is likely your level of self-awareness. It's admirable how you resolve issues and communicate honestly. With this level of honesty and transparency relationships are most likely to thrive.❤❤ this channel is so liberating.
Right 🥺🥺
You wrapped it up so nicely ❤
So true ❤
To: The Makhs🥺
I just wanted to take a moment to express how grateful I am for the incredible influence you've had on my life(not just me but the entire dream team). Your partnership is the epitome of love and teamwork. Thank you for sharing your joy, wisdom, and kindness so generously and with realness with us. You guys rock!! We love you guys!! Modimo ale etse hantle!! Ale bolokele rona!!
With heartfelt thanks [Kutlwano]❤
Thank you so much Kutlwano for this beautiful note❤️❤️❤️
This was such a wholesome conversation as always ❤ Thank you for your vulnerability and authenticity once again 😊
"You don't trust me to protect you the way I know how" Trust his leadership ❤
I am not even married but I am telling you , I am learning. Thank you
Same. I'm a mom and i in totally see how I can apply some of the nuggets I've picked up from this video in my parenthood. I'm a mom to a preteen, and I've learnt from this video how we can fix some of our misunderstandings
Ish! You guys say you are in therapy but this video is therapy in itself...If spouses sat down like this to talk about challenges in their marriage, I bet you, the divorce rates will drop...I loved this. Thanks for sharing
I have a tip: Always know that when God has chosen you to get married, he wants you to heal. The tip is don't resist what God is trying to do in your life... I hope you get this!❤ peace and love ha di rene maphelong a lona
Shuuuh!!! A word! ❤❤
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❤❤❤ literally what I was thinking on my way back from work. He wants us to heal because if we don't, we will destroy what He will give us❤
@yolz555 yes yes yes and yes! ♥
The growth in Sesi Phetola is so amazing, as a young woman i am inspired by that. It really shows that if you have a teachable spirit you'll learn so much from your partner
Thats what I've noted too. Shes grown and its beautiful to watch. Very inspiring. Love the work the work that the Holy Spirit is doing in amd through her and her husband's life. These past few instalments have changed my heart man🥺🥺
I hope you realise and understand just how much God is using you guys to help not just marriages to grow but also us single people who desire marriage to grow both spiritually and mentally .Your show has help me change certain things about me to help me mature as a person .Thank you for not giving up on each other and this show /podcast .You guys are so inspiring ❤️🙌🏽
The Makhs are really putting us youngins on some game. This conversation goes beyond romantic relationships. This is inspiring me to address personal issues for all of my relationships. 🙃😭😭😭🙌🏾🙌🏾 Thank you very much, family!
I'm telling you🔥 I'm blown away wow.
“My husband lives in his mind and i thrive on information” Sooo relatable. This conversation is so real❤️
I think most men are like that, my late husband was like that too. I think sometimes we need to understand men and let them be, we have to trust them and they really appreciate if we do that.
This channel is honestly underrated. Love you guys so much ❤
Dude!!!
14 years in marriage and you guys r still learning each other and putting in the work,I love this. I’m watching this with my husband and we r taking notes,thank you guys for being vulnerable ,may God continue to bless ur union ❤️❤️
Man I love it here!! ❤ Thank you for your "YES" to this ministry. We are led. You tackled such a difficult conversation with so much grace, love and authenticity.
Marriage is such a beautiful thing ❤😍
The Bible says in Genesis 3:16 “I will sharpen the pain in your pregnancy and in pain you will give birth. And you will have desire to control your husband but he will rule over you’
We can be controlling and I think it’s cause we want things to happen smoothly and in a certain way. I see myself in Petula so much. This is such an interesting conversation. Thank you so much for opening up to us and being vulnerable. As a single who hopes to get married someday, this is teaching me so much about the realities of marriage. I’m grateful for these kinds of platforms. ❤
Very hard.....
That scripture kept playing in my head throughout this. But thank God that we are no longer under the curse. As we grown in the knowledge of Christ and are being sanctified, we will see a change.
Im listening so far, and it sounds like hubby has found his own path to cope with the said issue, and he is advising his wife to follow in his path because he believes it has worked for him. And though I can appreciate that sentiment, it could be possible that what he has chosen to do is not to resolve but to adapt in a way that is not going to work for the wife. I believe he should lean more into what his wife needs in order to feel safe and protected instead of insisting that she copes the way that he copes. And wife may need to consider that he has not been able to find the answer for himself in the matter, just to survive the matter, maladaptive as it may be longterm. (My two cents)
Thank you so much for this perspective. It is so valuable ❤️❤️❤️
I am saved and single but this conversation was so liberating. It truly revealed issues i have, im working through them with the help of the Holy Spirit. Your honesty and self awareness is absolutely beautiful. It is all about sanctification. Amazing to see a marriage where partners lead each other to Christ.
Thank you to the Mahks. Much appreciated! May the Lord continue to bless you in this season. ❤
After this conversation, she just had to shower you Mr Makhs coz you're one of a kind and you're both blessed to have each other
Yhoooo… you know I don’t think I can ever get tired of saying thank You Mr and Mrs Makhs, for allowing your marriage to be used by GOD, for allowing yourselves to be fully vulnerable… in this climate we are in of Divorce, Divorce due to a number of things… I am sitting here and I am hopeful, hopeful for my marriage, hopeful that, marriages where Love always thrives exist, that it doesn’t all have to end because of the 25% that’s in a funk, but to seek help on how to best deal with a certain season in our marriages…❤
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Mark me present💃
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This type of articulation & understanding and LOVE is just beautiful
You guys’ podcast are so timely on my life, I feel God speaks to me through them. Every week you are addressing things I am seeking God about in that week.
This was deep. And the beauty Is that both of you are willing to stay in the ring as Lerato would say. Thank you for showing us what marriage could look like when both parties are committed to making it work. Above all else we give God the glory because it is the word of God that helps us to renew our minds and be Christ like.
Wow, that is true Lerato, your wife tackles life with such honesty, and also the ability to see her own shortcomings, a rare quality indeed. And this is in a world where everyone is very clear about what is wrong with others, and out to correct the next person while they fail to see fault in themselves.
I also commend you for your honesty and humility to not only notice it but point it out verbally. That speaks to the goodness of your heart, Lerato.
May God keep you guys and bless your marriage to continue to be a blessing unto others❤
Oh God I’ve been praying for this type of gentleness. And to see that it exists and is attainable. I will continue stand in anticipation for it. One of my greatest fears in getting into a relationship again is having to depart with the peace within self and having to expect gentleness and the continuous desire to be seen and valued on a purist level.
You both display this so beautifully. & it ignites in me the desire for marriage and all it comes with.
This conversation was gold! I can resonate so much with Phetola and I am so glad you know how to articulate yourself so well making it easy for me to understand myself. Sanctification is not easy even privately and you’re so brave to do it before us, thank you for sacrificing yourself like that. God is using you so mightily to sanctify me as I feel we’re really similar. God bless you!
Today’s vulnerability was liberation to me as a viewer and husband!
Thank y’all both!
This was such a difficult conversation to have especially when you are navigating through it with secrecy, cause you can’t divulge much.
I wish all couples may learn to have such critical conversations freely without fear of breaking hearts. Now this also needs a level of maturity that is beyond comprehension.
Conflict management is hard to tackle, especially when it involves other parties. As much as I understand and appreciate Leratos views there is a level of tolerance that anyone can take.
Any human being, has a level of tolerance, she can move in a direction that you are advising whilst she may habour resentment.
I’m happy that you are seeing a therapist. That is a brilliant move. You guys are winning in your marriage. Just remember it really doesn’t have to be perfect. Nothing in life is
This is beautiful. I love it. I always say this to my wife 'In any form of relationships we go through seasons and we shouldn't define our marriage based on what we are going through in this season." This usually changes the perspective of what we are going through during that season.
The Great I AM loves you
Wow this is a counselling session and we are learning a lot . You’re in a business of building healthy marriages. May God richly bless you fam ❤️❤️❤️
I love how you just compliment each other and see each other in all your beauty
Oooh my word!!! This sounds exactly like what my husband and I are facing. And his response is exactly like Lerato is saying. Mine was exactly like Pheto’s! We had the disagreement last night 😮! I needed him to confront an issue that has been brewing. He left it too long, mainly because he is not a confrontational person. I on the other hand felt that by keeping quiet he is not protecting me. He kept saying, ‘even if confront the person they will never change. It just made me so mad. Because I am confrontational and him speaking up would have made me feel more protected 😅
Admitting a problem is a first step to healing. I'm glad you know your flows Mrs Makhs and you're not shy to say them out loud. Lerato's intelligence and level of maturity is just what God intended for men to be heads . Lerato is such a leader and a very torelant husband. This was so liberating for me.
40:51 when Lerato said sorry to Pheto for making her feel bad in how he brought out her controlling issue I just dropped a tear🤧it is one thing to be right, but to be kind that's gold. Thankful for kind partners🙏🏽♥️
“Move forward not for the sake of movement but for the sake of progress”.
Thoroughly enjoyed this episode. We’re healing and learning. Thank you Pheto and Lerato.
What a powerful conversation 👏 🙌 thank you for being vulnerable and sharing a part of your life, you have no idea how many relationships you are freeing ❤
Wow wow wow. This is helping me so so so much even beyond marriage and romantic relationships. It's just helping me for life as a whole. Thank you thank you thank you.
I'll repeat, you're on fire with this new season🔥! Thank you for sharing your vulnerability with us❤
Heyi sana they are and I love it 🥰
Wow Lerato that's a whole counseling session for some of us there. So true. We can't change ppl but we can change ourselves instead❤
This is so honest, and to know you are sharing this while going through it is a blessing to us.
27:23 I get Mrs Makhs, there’s safety in knowing why you going a different route, as she said information and communication I thrive in that as well. I also get Mr Makhs that he wants to be trusted on deciding on a different route, however it’s better if a man communicates that and then a woman can rest in that you got it and you acknowledged my feelings and pain.
Shuu, this felt tough to watch for the first time. However, I’m learning that as women, we must learn to love our husbands in way that when the Lord would come and weigh a situation and what went wrong. The husband must not be found wanting and in trouble with the Lord. Love him to the point where he would be protected from the Lords judgement 😭😭.
I love you The Makhs. Your Calling is Building Families and Love 🎉❤
Bathong lona ke le rata jwang! ❤This topic was so important because we assume so much instead of having the conversations that need to be had!
Always, thank you for always being so vulnerable. Your vulnerability is freeing so many of us.
Now this is what real MARRIAGE is!!! LOVE YOU GUYS ALOT🥰🥰🥰🥰.
This was so amazing,so relatable in so many ways & I have learned so much about myself and how I pour into my spouse.
Thank you for allowing God to use you,in order for us to identify our flaws in our marriages and work on them in the best way that God wants us to,Thank you & may you continue doing what you do best,God is faithful❤️🙏
aimentalhealthadvisor AI fixes this (AI Mental Health Advisor). Back in therapy, feeling unseen.
I trust and believe Aus Pheto when she says Mr Makhs does not have a mean or rude bone in him. He exudes kindness.. We can feel it too. As an empath? His spirit is recognized and felt ❤
I just want to say thank you guys for the level of obedience that you guys are showing on this podcast by coming to episodes without pre planning any discussion points that really help us to glorify God in our relationships may the holy spirit continue to be with you guys on this journey.
I am a 29yrs single and really somedays am afraid of getting into marriage coz of the many failed ones ive seen but Watching you guys have brought some sense that its not all rosy but it takes two hearts that are willing to work together. So much love ❤Watching you is therapeutic 😊
Watching from 🇷🇼
Thank you; this was so enlightening. its quite rare that podcasters share challenges as they navigate; they always do so afterwards, so thank you for that. We need to do the work and get the necessary help so that our marriages can thrive.
Communication is not always verbal. Actions too speak a lot, and one must be able to read and analyze them more especially when the action is to rescue a situation
Phetola as a woman I relate with you so so much in so many ways, thriving on information, tit bit controlling. Inspired to work on myself. Thank you for this installment. God bless.
😢😢😢😢yhoooo...im currently feeling unseen and my husband is so not open to any kind of therapy! Frustrating, because i can't even express how i feel because i know i will feell like he is gaslighting me and i often feel like i always pick on petty issues....but honestly i am really not okay and i can't suppress this feeling anymore, i was even thinking of giving him some space, but thank God for this...❤❤❤❤
Zanele I am with you and most painful part is we have kids and just today I felt I 'needed to go home just to get space and give him that too. Hearing my older son asking why am I going to his gran just made me think a little
Maybe watch this with him
@ziyandakebeni6739 thank you, that's a good idea🤍
@@busisiwekhumalo7571 I don't even know to deal with all these emotions. I'm in the middle of my exams.
Keep Praying about this and definitely watch this with him. ❤
❤My husband I would always mention to each other and say... Why dont other married folks talk about these topics... Are we the only once going through this?? Why don't men speak when they hang out about what they struggle with. These topics are so needed in these times especially for young married couples... We don't have the tools... We don't know where to go for help or even how to start the conversation.... Thank you guys for this.
Got married 30 years ago, had lots of issues with communication in our marriage. But now I have learned to rely on grace. Men and women are not the same. Period. I wish i could have communicated with so much grace as Phetola. But my dear, I have learned to accept that men are different. It's amazing how your struggles are similar to our ones, but now i am at peace🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
The self awareness is at another level love from 🇬🇧
I'm so proud of you for getting into therapy again!! Please host a seminar for the Makhs family, before you guys leave SA. Ka kopo please. So we can meet our online role models?
What an inspiring and insightful episode. Healthy marriages aren’t celebrated these days and it’s very scary. Thank you for sharing your experience and wisdom with this series.
The level of expressing one self here is at another level. Again the level of kindness and willingness to listen. Wow,👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
May God continue to bless you and keep you for us. Your podcasts are very profound and informative. I am learning a lot.My marriage is what it is because of your real podcasts.I love you very much @The Makhs.
I pray God continues to bless your union and may you guys really continue to have these uncomfortable conversations.
My Pastor mentioned this other day that the things you don't conquer before marriage will surely bleed on your marriage and I now understand why, because I'm also like Phetola, I can be "controlling" at times and want to do things in a certain way, and I also battle with trust issues, which I now see how these things are currently affecting the relationships that I have with friends and family.
Thank you so much for sharing your vulnerability with us.
With Love,
New subscriber❤
Ever so inspiring, you can tell that God is the Centre of it all. May God continue to strengthen your union. What a blessing you are to many.
I want to share this with my husband. This is such an eye opener. Thank you for this episode ❤
You guys have so much grace for each other🥺❤
Thank you fam for the beautiful conversation, I'm like Mrs Makhs,recently my boyfriend told me that I'm controlling and I was offended and wanted to defend myself butcI took time to digest it and he was right, this happened when we had an argument I wanted us to confront the issue before hand,meanwhile he was silent minding his own business, that got me frustrated got I think a part of me wanted to control the situation how he reacts and me trying to find solutions coz I'm solution based..another thing that play a huge role is how we were raised,from a young age Ii had to go grow up fast,my mom is a pastor I had to do chores at home take care of my siblings, take care of the household that's where the controlling started I'm 28 now I'm tired I want to be led
The level of self-awareness and willingness to find solutions to existing matters and to your 25% of your pie, makes you guys stronger than comprehension. God prunes branches and things in our lives that don't bear fruit, so more fruit is beared(John 15:1-4). I would like to say, that as you've mentioned that you're a team, that you need to stand together to "fight" against the problem, instead of fighting each other. I see that counseling is working and you comprehend this strategy, so i just want to say that God is pruning because He knows where He's taking you and He cannot bring you to it with these parts of you still in you. Go with God and be blessed!❤
Don't let the 25% override the 75% !!!!!!!! Literally what I needed to hear today. Thanks #TheMakhs. You guys are incredible. To be this vulnerable, open and honest requires a lot of dying to self and you guys mastered it in this episode.
Same here! One of the key takeaways for me. Love you #TheMakhs
This episode is so liberating I had to download and keep coming back to it. I love what Phetola said about marriage being a pie and all. ❤
Wow! This couple is amazing ❤️❤️May God bless you and protect you!
Loved this conversation ❤️. So much to learn even as an unmarried woman. Thanks Makhs family.
Wooow! I totally resonate with this. Seeing myself in her. May God help us to fix it
This was so amazing, so so amazing and resonated with us a lot especially because last night we had sat down and had a difficult conversation but with so much grace. We are learning a lot from you guys, thank you for your honesty and vulnerability
I have been following you guys probably from inception and growth ya Mr Makhs guys! Marry right! Marry a gent who is fully submitted to God. To God alone be the glory....
I’m SOOOO single but this conversation was so good😫! I’m really learning so much from you guys .
Rare, raw, insightful and beautiful. Thank you for this.
This is so profoundly vulnerable and liberating. Thank you for this ❤
We feel protected when you involve us in what you visualise because I am not a mind reader
Nginithandaaaaaa!!! ♥️♥️ I'm going to take liberty to say on behalf of all your subscribers and say we're rooting for you and have your back on this counselling journey!
My mum and I also had an issue similar to yours. She doesn't want to acknowledge it but is rather quick to overlook it. She then explained that whenever she acknowledged the situation, she felt like she was exacerbating it.
A lot of wisdom, a lot of takeaways for me.. what you said can also be applied in a work situation.. this is has been been so wholesome and thanks for letting us in onto your intimate talks.. it helps a great deal.. aren’t we all learning even some of us at our age..? Learning from the young one? I’m Grateful that you shared and bared it all out.. I continue to learn..❤❤❤
Thank you Aus P and Lerato! This episode blessed my heart. I too struggle with unforgiveness, I’m going to put in the work. ❤❤❤
I am so blessed by this podcast, thank you for your vulnerability and surrendered stewardship for Hods kingdom. I love you guys and I am praying for you with you❤
Am in awe with this conversation ❤ such wisdom 💖
Yhooo I love you guys so much🥰😍. Phetola i also felt that look at the end. Just when i was thinking - Yhooo Lerato is looking at his wife with love and you noticed it too and i was like yeah i was not seeing things there ❣. Lerato can you find time and have a programme for Boy kids where you will guide them on how to be a good man, i feel this will assist our kids to be good husbands to next generation than trying to change grown men. #boys2men. Ndiyanithanda so much my peeps
Your wisdom 🙌🙌🙌 saved so many relationships ❤
YOOOO control and get things done now....tell me about your plan...i resonate. i love the way you communicate and are open about it.....your channel is heaven sent....siyafunda.🥰🥰 siyabonga👏👏👏
What a beautiful kingdom centred talk on counseling therapy. Every wise counsel gives one an opportunity for growth. Don't be hasty to complete your counseling sessions. I know that sometimes there are financial implications. But learn to commit your family finances where your marriage health is. WHERE NO COUNSEL IS, THE PEOPLE FALL. BUT there is safety in a multitude of counselors. Proverbs 11: 14
❤️✝️ You are a beautiful kingdom vessel. Re ya leboga.
This conversation is sooo good🔥🔥🔥😭
Now this is meat! Rejele guys. This covenant is not for babies! Gwa nyewa! Men take your ground, learn from this man! Sis, we're healing with you, through your work !👏👏
OMG!!! I can soo relate to this chat!😅 Thank you sso much guys for being so open and vulnerable with us! Conversations like these make this business of navigating life that much more easier..❤
You guys are so absolutely amazing each and every word counts...and the unspeakable growth and kindness❤i love you Jeez❤
Guys a not soo clever or intelligent person wouldn't be vulnerable as u are Guys. U r gifted more than anything. I learn a lot from u .Thanks so much that I happen to have come across u or our paths to have crossed.
I appreciate how the talks are so raw and authentic
This is so liberating and healing to some aspects of my life. I really appreciate the work you guys do. Where God leads fam . Stay blessed ❤
My fave couple. Thanks ever so much for this installment. May the LORD’s countenance shine upon u and your family in Jesus’ name 🙏🏽🥰😘
This is deep ❤ thank you for being so transparent.
I always look forward to your conversations. So honest and mature !
What a powerful episode family. I am out of words. May God continue to protect your marriage and that all goes well with the counselling. I love how you both embrace this season in your lives and navigating through with grace. May God continue to be gracious to you guys.
One thing I love about you guys, is the kindness you extend to each other even when you disagree...I love how your husbands perspective of what made him fall inlove with you, never shifts even when confronted with one of the biggest conflict #Family3rdParty!!! Wasn't that lucky and all failed.
😂😂😂I left in 2yrs of marriage but I brought myself 7days later and we are now on year 18 of a blessed marriage.Im sure God was laughing at me ndizihlanyisa.
We thank God for gluing marriages together.what He brings together no man can put asunder not even the couple in marriage 😊❤
How was it bringing yourself back?😂❤️. Thank God you came back❤️
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Thank you for sharing your life with us ❤