Healing Power-shedding for Adult Children of Narcissists

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  • @jerrywise
    @jerrywise  Рік тому +2

    Finally get your family OUT OF YOU & be the true self you were never allowed to be 👇
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  • @susannahfox7188
    @susannahfox7188 4 роки тому +13

    A narcissist will NEVER respect your boundaries. Why attempt to set them? No contact is the best strategy for a reason.

  • @1RPJacob
    @1RPJacob 4 роки тому +20

    When we change everything change. Narc parents don't understand talk, they only respond to "bad consequences". We shed our power when we avoid being mean to people who are mean to us.

    • @sampal5352
      @sampal5352 2 роки тому +3

      They were so mean to us.

    • @LucaB23
      @LucaB23 4 місяці тому +1

      Amen

  • @G120-j6z
    @G120-j6z 3 роки тому +4

    This video is right on. One problem I have with UA-cam videos is the risk of re-traumatizing abuse victims. For victims of severe extended abuse, opening their minds to areas of life altering trauma can be very very dangerous. I would like to see internet videos related to abuse make much stronger warnings about approaching these issues without adequate professional support. Even working with a therapist can be very dangerous, because many therapists know how to easily open deep wounds, but are not sufficiently skilled to keep the patient safe in the process. Vulnerabilities and risk factors vary. Please do your best to get the quality of support you need to move forward safely. Peace and love to all those struggling with the devastating effects of narcissistic childhood abuse.

  • @IndigoWisdom1
    @IndigoWisdom1 4 роки тому +28

    Thanks for the work you do and the help you provide for so many. Have an amazing blessed Happy New Year.

    • @jerrywise
      @jerrywise  4 роки тому +1

      You are so welcome
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  • @kahlodiego5299
    @kahlodiego5299 4 роки тому +3

    They shamed me to oblivion and now I live there.

  • @galacticecho7027
    @galacticecho7027 4 роки тому +12

    Working on the 90 degrees. I'm there 4-5 days out of the week now. I haven't talked to my parents or any family member in over 30 days now. It's helped me gain some control in life. I know you don't prefer cut offs. But, I had to do it for my wife and kids sake. My parents were messing up our kids and my wife.

    • @solutionfocused7147
      @solutionfocused7147 4 роки тому +16

      I had to do it with my mom (3 years no contact before she died). It was the best decision I've ever made for my mental and emotional health. It will be you for you as well. 💛💛💛

    • @jerrywise
      @jerrywise  4 роки тому +1

      Thank you for watching Josh
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    • @roberto125919
      @roberto125919 5 місяців тому

      @@jerrywise Damn are you a NARC? just trying to benefit offf people who have narc trauama?

  • @yuk498
    @yuk498 4 роки тому +8

    Such a wonderful series! Thank you Jerry ❤️

    • @jerrywise
      @jerrywise  4 роки тому +1

      Glad you enjoy it!
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  • @hihopes2004
    @hihopes2004 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you so much for this. Truly. You are a Godsend.

  • @VampyreZen
    @VampyreZen 4 роки тому +4

    Much love. Grateful for what you do, a gift that has shifted my life. Namaste.

    • @jerrywise
      @jerrywise  4 роки тому +1

      Wow, thank you
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  • @zsuzsuspetals
    @zsuzsuspetals 3 роки тому +3

    What a fantastic and helpful video. thank you so much.

  • @Denise-y2c
    @Denise-y2c 12 днів тому

    Wow, this is a wonderful video! Pendulum wasnt really understood till now.
    Power shredding makes sense. I have wanted to share too much about personal experiences , in
    Comments, sometimes
    I must stop that because
    My personal stories are
    Not necessary for others
    To read/ know. Working
    On my internal issues is
    what's important for self
    Changes. Keeping calmness. Also not getting triggered by others comments. Sure it is ok to care, but not to
    get involved with the other ones drama that I really cant fix for them.

  • @darialo8740
    @darialo8740 Рік тому

    Loved it. I found your videos recently, maybe a month or two ago. I find them extremely helpful, through, different from others as you point out some details that others don’t mention and I feel like that’s what I needed to hear. 🙏

  • @heartliss
    @heartliss 2 роки тому

    Not needing them! Powerful!

  • @katiswan3160
    @katiswan3160 4 роки тому +9

    Thank you Jerry ❤️ for creating this wonderful video and ❤️giving me some tools to use to change my life ❤️. I ❤️really need this ❣️video today💜.

    • @jerrywise
      @jerrywise  4 роки тому

      You are so welcome
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  • @Luisa-cs2pd
    @Luisa-cs2pd 4 роки тому +2

    You describe these tough things in a way that helps to me to understand it better. Thank you very much. Wishing you the best.

    • @jerrywise
      @jerrywise  4 роки тому +1

      You are so welcome
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  • @Sara-bn3wz
    @Sara-bn3wz 4 роки тому +5

    Exactly what i needed to hear today. Thank you sooo much Jerry 🤍

    • @jerrywise
      @jerrywise  4 роки тому +1

      You are so welcome
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  • @fairygurl9269
    @fairygurl9269 4 роки тому +4

    /Grins
    Your Stethoscope Picture is Quite Adorable Sir!
    Thanks for all you Share of yourself.
    Grateful Fairy Gurl

    • @jerrywise
      @jerrywise  4 роки тому

      You are so welcome
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  • @chilloften
    @chilloften 4 роки тому +1

    Power-shedding
    Keep it in mind next exposures.

  • @adriancampbell630
    @adriancampbell630 2 роки тому +1

    Great video! Very helpful!

  • @adrianadelassereed
    @adrianadelassereed 4 роки тому +4

    Hello, Jerry. Again, this video makes soooo much sense!!! It is helping me understand how I have to change my mindset along with your other videos. Thank you so much!!!!🤗🤗🤗🤗

    • @jerrywise
      @jerrywise  4 роки тому +1

      You are so welcome
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  • @melliecrann-gaoth4789
    @melliecrann-gaoth4789 3 роки тому

    Very helpful. I will be watching a number of times.

  • @kareemmohammed5270
    @kareemmohammed5270 4 роки тому +1

    painful truths and deep insights Jerry. resonate and much appreciated as always.

  • @lindawesp9846
    @lindawesp9846 2 місяці тому

    Thanks Jerry

  • @victoriajensen8484
    @victoriajensen8484 4 роки тому +2

    Thank you Jerry! This has really helped me! 🙏🏼

  • @exploringtheparanormalwith81
    @exploringtheparanormalwith81 4 місяці тому

    So so correct...wow

  • @yohan9577
    @yohan9577 4 роки тому +2

    Thank you for this new video, Jerry. All what you said is so true, and recalls me so many situations. Especially the pendulum movement. Have an happy new year, and stay safe. Cheers from Paris, France

    • @jerrywise
      @jerrywise  4 роки тому +1

      You are so welcome
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  • @StratoHari2
    @StratoHari2 4 роки тому +2

    Jerry, great video. I wonder if you could make a video on overprotective parenting?
    Also, another interesting topic would be enmeshment in the workplace. Thanks.

    • @jerrywise
      @jerrywise  4 роки тому

      Great suggestion!

    • @jerrywise
      @jerrywise  4 роки тому

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  • @erolgermannemmanuel5637
    @erolgermannemmanuel5637 4 роки тому +1

    Happy New-Year dear Dr. Wise.
    Now I know I am also an Adult child of Narcissistic Parents thanks to your Work, Sir !

    • @jerrywise
      @jerrywise  4 роки тому +2

      Thank you so much Erol Thank you for being a member and supporting this channel
      Happy New Year to you as well!

  • @getnetalemu4427
    @getnetalemu4427 2 роки тому

    Thank you.

    • @jerrywise
      @jerrywise  2 роки тому

      You’re welcome 🤍😊

  • @victoriasage7
    @victoriasage7 2 роки тому

    Wow, great video

    • @jerrywise
      @jerrywise  2 роки тому

      Glad you enjoyed it Victoria ❤️

  • @halarefaat964
    @halarefaat964 4 роки тому +2

    Your recent thumbnails are so cute ❤

  • @MelissaDAntoni
    @MelissaDAntoni 3 роки тому

    Thank you Jerry! Timely 😊

  • @sage9836
    @sage9836 4 роки тому

    This series will be great!

    • @jerrywise
      @jerrywise  4 роки тому

      Great
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  • @meandmyfrenchhorn9751
    @meandmyfrenchhorn9751 3 роки тому

    Thank you

  • @shannonharrison768
    @shannonharrison768 4 роки тому

    Thank You! 👍!

    • @jerrywise
      @jerrywise  4 роки тому

      You're welcome!
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  • @riversideguy2356
    @riversideguy2356 4 роки тому

    lifesaver

    • @jerrywise
      @jerrywise  4 роки тому

      Glad it was of help
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  • @abladeofgrass1003
    @abladeofgrass1003 4 роки тому

    Thank you.🌱💜☮️

    • @jerrywise
      @jerrywise  4 роки тому

      You are so welcome
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    • @abladeofgrass1003
      @abladeofgrass1003 4 роки тому +1

      @@jerrywise 🌱💜☮️

  • @HeRedeemsUs
    @HeRedeemsUs 3 роки тому +3

    I'm an adult child of an alcoholic narcissist LOL

    • @HeRedeemsUs
      @HeRedeemsUs 3 роки тому

      divorcing a narcissistic man who doesn't know anything about self

    • @jerrywise
      @jerrywise  3 роки тому

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  • @Happyhatshepsut
    @Happyhatshepsut 3 роки тому

    Hi Jerry, You’ve mentioned the healing power of body work in several videos. What exactly is that? Is it a massage?

  • @tonygoncalves2928
    @tonygoncalves2928 4 роки тому

    Bonjour mr Wise, what do you mean precisely with protecting the integrity of the parent to much? I have the feeling this applies to me. Though i have come a long way " getting my family out of me" and low contact " it remains a fragile subject. Thank you for another helpful video. Love from France.

  • @mandolaa
    @mandolaa 3 роки тому

    Hello Jerry, i really appreciate your videos. I would like to ask how we get off this pendulum? How we are aligned with our true self?

  • @mariadinn2992
    @mariadinn2992 2 роки тому

    What if you gonna contact but you no longer feel any resentment?

    • @jerrywise
      @jerrywise  2 роки тому

      Don’t you think not feeling resentment is a good thing to achieve?

    • @mariadinn2992
      @mariadinn2992 2 роки тому

      @@jerrywise sorry Jerry. That was a typo. I meant to say: “What if you are going no contact but you have no resentment?” My father is violent. My mother is a narcissist. I haven’t spoken to my father in 5 years and I have no resentment towards him. But to have contact with a person who is violent doesn’t make sense. Im not angry, Im not resentful - the reason why I don’t have contact is because it isn’t safe.

  • @petrastrong7799
    @petrastrong7799 2 роки тому +2

    Your videos are so informative, but the size of the pill feels too much to swallow at once. I’m summoning self compassion to take it all in. But thank you nonetheless.

  • @anjanakale
    @anjanakale 3 роки тому +1

    Feel less .... Think more

    • @jerrywise
      @jerrywise  3 роки тому

      Yes
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  • @wellcoachlynell
    @wellcoachlynell 4 роки тому +3

    This is just what I needed today. Thank you.

    • @jerrywise
      @jerrywise  4 роки тому +1

      So glad!
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