The Mistake With NO CONTACT (and how to fix it...)

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  • Опубліковано 30 січ 2025

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  • @ElevateMyRelationships
    @ElevateMyRelationships  19 днів тому

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  • @MichaelKevin-l6y
    @MichaelKevin-l6y 12 днів тому +71

    Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

    • @ShondellChristine
      @ShondellChristine 12 днів тому

      its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back

    • @MichaelKevin-l6y
      @MichaelKevin-l6y 12 днів тому

      Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him or her?

    • @ShondellChristine
      @ShondellChristine 12 днів тому

      Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex

    • @MichaelKevin-l6y
      @MichaelKevin-l6y 12 днів тому

      Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

    • @ElevateMyRelationships
      @ElevateMyRelationships  12 днів тому

      Sorry to hear that; yeah, trying to negotiate them back basically never works. It’s counterintuitive thinking but it’s best to give her space. We’ve all been through something like this, stay positive and know there are plenty of women out there but most importantly you work on you. You control that.

  • @michaellakey3565
    @michaellakey3565 16 днів тому +2

    Wise ideas soon do the rounds.

  • @Alex-wj8yc
    @Alex-wj8yc 16 днів тому +2

    I totally agree! Thank You!

  • @user-yf1sg5pp5f
    @user-yf1sg5pp5f 15 днів тому +3

    I dumped her and I kind of regret it. Even though I still see red flags. I still miss her presence.
    I knew her for three weeks, but we spent a lot of time at each others houses and meeting family.

    • @ElevateMyRelationships
      @ElevateMyRelationships  15 днів тому +4

      Watch my video on abundance, it’s important to have an abundance mindset. You probably spent way too much time together too early.
      If there are red flags, you must have dumped for a reason. It’s normal to miss her but ignoring red flags just means you have a fear you won’t find another. You will man, you can always try to get her back but don’t ignore red flags because she is hot to you.
      Cheers

    • @s0nnyburnett
      @s0nnyburnett 15 днів тому +2

      3 weeks? Try 8 years. 6 months later I'm still so depressed I can't even try to date anyone else.

    • @user-yf1sg5pp5f
      @user-yf1sg5pp5f 14 днів тому

      @@s0nnyburnett sorry bro. I have empathy for you. Please stay strong

    • @w0rldLing
      @w0rldLing 13 днів тому

      ​@s0nnyburnett that sucks man I'm sorry

  • @derwoodhamburger
    @derwoodhamburger 15 днів тому +2

    I guess you could say I'm doing "no contact" now. Not really as a tactic, but more so the fact that she was rude and dismissive the last time we spoke. So I got turned off and I'm no longer interested. Pursuing a woman that has low interest is a huge waste of time and I'm not going to try and convince anybody to like me

    • @ElevateMyRelationships
      @ElevateMyRelationships  15 днів тому +1

      Not so much no contact as it is more along the lines of you just not being interested any longer and not putting up with garbage behaviour on her part.
      Absolutely. So many guys spend time trying to get a woman with low interest to like them. Total no-no.

  • @DanIngham
    @DanIngham 16 днів тому +4

    So many chicks out there just move onto next chick

    • @ElevateMyRelationships
      @ElevateMyRelationships  16 днів тому

      Abundance mindset is very key. Spend time with someone who wants to spend time with you.

  • @Skate0f8
    @Skate0f8 16 днів тому +2

    Thanks

  • @greg7563
    @greg7563 15 днів тому +3

    Granted because she’s a narcissist vampire will do try to rekindle things

    • @ElevateMyRelationships
      @ElevateMyRelationships  15 днів тому +1

      Grass isn’t always greener for the ex who dumped the guy. But for the guy who got dumped, having the proper mindset can have the grass ALWAYS greener for them :)

  • @flash12319
    @flash12319 13 днів тому

    Lemme help yall. This info is wrong.
    No contact is dumb because your ex already has a weak perception about you. She walking away because you’re not making her happy. Don’t fall for this victim mindset thinking. I’m good enough she’s grateful to have me.
    What you need to do is reflect on where YOU went wrong. Clean it up. Then reach back out to show her an improved you

    • @ElevateMyRelationships
      @ElevateMyRelationships  13 днів тому

      Thank you for your comment.
      This info is 100% not wrong. I’m not sure if you watched the video or how your interpretation is, but I am one of the most anti-victim mindset people around, so no idea what you watched.
      Agree that the time after No Contact is best spent to better yourself and grow from your mistakes, and focus on growing the positives in your life, but going back and seeking validation with your tail between your legs after a certain amount of time to someone who didn’t value your time is not the way to go.
      However, that’s entirely up to you.
      All the best, cheers :)

    • @flash12319
      @flash12319 13 днів тому

      @ imagine a job where you constantly showed up late to work, they give you constant warnings. Then they decide to fire you and you interpretation is they “didnt value you”.
      Thats another form of victim mindset because you’re not truly learning from how you fucked up. And blaming the job for firing you. If you were “valuable enough”, you wouldn’t have been fired.
      And all you’re going to do is repeat the same mistake in another relationship.

    • @ElevateMyRelationships
      @ElevateMyRelationships  13 днів тому

      I am not sure what you are talking about, nowhere do I say that you shouldn’t learn from your mistakes. I outline in another no contact video what most likely the mistakes guys made were and personal responsibility to improve themselves is most
      important.
      So, you’re preaching to the choir on that point. Either way, I don’t teach anybody to be a victim, quite the opposite, but going back to check if the ex interested in you again is an absolute no-no and the real weak position.
      I appreciate the comments and thoughts.

    • @flash12319
      @flash12319 13 днів тому

      @@ElevateMyRelationships I guess we’ll agree to disagree.
      I think owning up to your shortcomings is fair and not a weak thing to do. It shows growth. Not from a begging perspective but from the perspective of “ik I fucked up, I’ve worked on myself. If your willing to try again I’m willing, but if your not I’m ok with that also”
      I’m just saying if a man wants to truly save his relationship, from a non needy place. No contact and walking away isn’t the best

    • @ElevateMyRelationships
      @ElevateMyRelationships  13 днів тому

      I do think we are saying prettttty much the same thing regarding responsibility and owning up to mistakes, so that is great :)
      I think she small nuance is that when she breaks up with you, that’s usually not a snap decision and something that builds up in a girls head over time, and saving the relationship is pretty slim at that point.
      I think we do agree that, for any chance to get rekindled with the ex down the line either way, the guy MUST improve on their mistakes.
      Thanks for the convo!