oh i just did one. I couldnt sleep week before speech, i couldnt eat. And i just practiced. Recorded on video, said it over and over in front of a mirror. And when i was standing in front of 100 ppl i just started talking, because this is what I had to do. I just spoke, didnt look at the notes, messed up a bit cos still i was very nervous. Stopped. Concentrated, picked it up. Had few jokes. Looked at peoples eyes. And it was weird as if i watched myself from the side. It wasnt me at all. And people loved it. Somebody said: ive never heard you talking for so long :))) It was great experience! Just prepare and do it :)
0:00 Why is it important? -> in order to share your ideas effectively and efficiently with your audience you need to be calm (and there's a lot you have to say so it's worth it) 4:00 Where does the anxiety come from? -> it's a survival method from days long past - fighting for status, so it's basically in our DNA Managing physiological symptoms: 5:35 if you are anxious, in general -> take a deep breath before you start 5:50 if you shake -> gesture broadly 6:00 if you perspire or blush -> hold something cold in your hand (not sure how this is practical though :P ) Managing cognitive symptoms -> greet your "anxiety", accept it (it's actually just energy you can perceive it as either additional energy for your talk or anxiety) Managing sources (TL;DR - make your talk a structured conversation with your audience) 7:55 (1) "I'm afraid I'm going to forget" -> have a map, a structure like e.g. "what, so what, now what" structure 8:55 (2) We feel the audience is exercising judgment on us -> redirect attention (show a video, ask a question, etc.) (note: (2) is also solved if you exercise (3)) 9:35 (3) If it feels like a performance -> reframe it as a conversation (put your attention on your audience, use conversational language (us, you, we), ask questions) And remember it takes time and will to get out of the comfort zone.
I'm literally watching this because I'm the maid of honour at my sisters wedding and I want to give her and my future brother in law a meaningful speech they can feel happy and proud of. I have terrible stage freight and anxiety... but the goal is so much more important to me that I will push through . Wish me luck guys
I never saw such a confident, calm and positive speaker before... I can feel that I can stand on this same TED stage with far less fear if I am standing with this guy... Wish this guy was my personal guide in my childhood..
You're just going to the wrong school. This stuff is part and parcel of my Drama courses, my Multimedia course, even my Business Technology course, to name the obvious ones.
I think every moment I spent watching this is gold. But he seriously 'woke' me up when he said that our mentality in putting conversation with others as a 'performance' which indicates there is right/wrong, - is the main reason why are we always freaking out when communicating. there is no right and wrong when communicating with human beings - and we should not always aim for the correct ways, but to ensure the person gets what we are trying to say.
I get nervous even when teacher ask me question in class😥 But never loose your passion and don't choose career for only money We are introverts! { Edited }
Gosh I thought I was the only one... I'm studying abroad and English is not my mother language but I need to use it to present everything... I felt so bad every time I finish the presentation thinking "I ruined it again"
*Your class was one of the greatest I've ever taken! Thanks for continuing to spread new angles of this info and advice beyond the classroom :) So appreciated!*
This is awesome and I'm so grateful this exists. However, this isn't my first time watching this or any other similar videos.. yet STILL, my anxiety controls my life. For no reason my brain completely blanks at every single public speaking interaction I've ever had in my life. Working at a restaurant, going to school, meetings.. I could prepare the most perfect speech.. memorize every word for word.. but as soon as it matters my brain shuts off
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I get too much fricked out by just imaging myself on a stage... I have insidents where I had gone complete blank on stage and thus someone else had to take over. It was a very embarrassing experience. I hate myself being so fearefull, terrified about public speaking. I also wish to be confident and normal like many others. I am sad inside due to this. But I have hope that somehow oneday I will overcome all these fears and that I will become a good speaker. That day I will come back here and will comment on this same message. Wish me luck for this.
Today was my school speech for ASL, and I used your mind map technique. I never stopped anywhere and the whole class was listening me quietly. Thank you so much ❤️❤️
7:59 best part -- What? So What? Now What? 9:05 Redirect audience attention -- have them focus on something else. Large audience: show a video clip, take an informal poll, (ask participants turn to a person next to them to interact / Q & A for one minute) One-one-one or small group: distribute a handout, ask a question... 10:38 Reframe a speech as simply a conversation. Attention on the audience, use "we", "our", and ask questions of the audience --- more engaging.
This is awesome and I'm so grateful this exists. However, this isn't my first time watching this or any other similar videos.. yet STILL, my anxiety controls my life. For no reason my brain completely blanks at every single public speaking interaction I've ever had in my life. Working at a restaurant, going to school, meetings.. I could prepare the most perfect speech.. memorize every word for word.. but as soon as it matters my brain shuts off
Oh trust me there's a plethora of reasons. I'm the same. The cause is always childhood trauma. However you can fight your issues by learning from people like this and working really really hard for months, if not years.
Try not to memorize word to word as in the subconscious mind we have the fear of forgetting and we are more focussed on getting the words right rather than concentrating on the message that we want to deliver.
My problem is my shaking voice. I usually have my presentation or content well prepared but delivering the content to an audience is always a challenge. I literally sound like someone crying😪😪
I have similar issues ,I find it helpful to find places to pause the regather my breath it’s usually that I’m hyperventilating that my voice is shaking, I’ve also found if I can ask a question of the audience early also helps make it more of a conversation than a speech or a lecture.
Practicing good non-verbal techniques and room control works really well here. People see and feel your energy more than they hear it in your voice. Gesture and command space, good posture and deliberate pauses. Hand gestures, some eye contact and balancing your open body around the room works wonders more than clever words
There’s a Ted talk about the power of the voice and how confidence is rooted in the voice. One of the tips she gives is practicing singing as a hobby. Learning that sort of control of the voice and your diaphragm can really help!
Use some questions is exactly the way to give you more confidence and rebuild your calmness. When people interact with your question, we see that as a conversation. we trick our brain that thing I have done it all the time. So why in the world we get into nervous with which we are doing daily.
Yes that is true. I have realised that I am a nice man but don't have the skill to communicate in a public or in a meeting . I told myself enough is enough and dedicating myself to a course completely. I will dedicate this year to improve my speaking skill. And I will do it.
My hearting is pounding so fast every time when I’m about to talk. Even I take a deep breath and tell myself, I can do this, it does not work. When I’m talking to people in the meeting virtually, my heart is still racing fast and sometimes my voice is shaking( not sure if people can notice), then my brain can’t relax and function properly as I’m in a ralexing and normal state. I always end up saying wrong things that I was so regret later. I just can’t control my nervousness and control myself in that moment all the time. I have never seen anyone in my life that has the same level of nervousness/anxiety as I do. Even worst, I forget what I need to say because my brain is just turning blank. I hate myself so much after each time I talk. I have had nervousness for years!
We are not alone, it think this feeds more our anxiety thinking we are the only ones with the “problem” I have avoided opportunities that will help me be successful but I really have self doubt due to my anxiety I automatically let these scenarios run in my head on how it will prevent my true potential. I want to be an early head start teacher. I love to help children grow and help them reach their milestones and I would always find myself thinking that my fear and anxiety will make me the worst teacher and will not allow me to really participate and perform like the others. I felt alone and incapable of showing my skills.
Your anxiety is similar to mine, with time passing sometimes I think its getting better but once I m in a real situation I freak out. When I have recorded myself in a presentation I was chocked, I found that most of this sensations are just in my head and I was not too bad and it started giving me confidence over time. I'm not yet relaxed but I feel little bit better than before. I m stressed weeks before any presentation I thought many times to quit any job that involves me into speaking in front of people because preparation and breathing never helped me. The fact that I'm overthinking is the motor of this kind of situation and the fuel is every thought you felt bad about yourself in the past. You are not alone, I'm just like you and I'll try anything to make myself feel better before speaking in front of a public. Do you feel that's always in the beginning and it's getting better when someone interrupt you and speak, it gives your heart a break to calm down and then you feel yourself capable to do better even if it's not perfect. It's not a curse, you and I and people like us have just the most developed capacity to detect a dangerous situation, we would survive better than anyone in nature but unfortunately this is not helping in a modern society but I have a hope that one day we will figure out how to manage this anxiety. I don't want to use beta blockers those are medicines that can stop the heart from jumping high , It's not really helping because it's just not you and you cannot use them many times and for long period because those are for blood pressure patients do better to focus on how the hijack our mind to stop overthinking. I wish you luck.
Absolutely resonate with this! Anxiety is such a common hurdle for many, especially in high-stakes situations like presentations or dates. I used to freeze up, convinced everyone was judging me. Learning to manage that anxiety instead of trying to eliminate it was a game changer! It’s all about shifting focus-like how I use humor to lighten the mood. The Sense of Humor Improvement Program by Habit10x helped me realize that our nervousness can connect us. Let’s embrace our quirks and keep pushing ourselves to communicate! Remember, it's a journey, not a sprint!
But he wasn’t talking about social anxiety, he’s talking about people who overthink about talking in front of the class, it’s similar but not the same.
if you browse any recruiting website, the most demanding skills are not "hard skills" like coding, drawing or designing. It is "soft" skills like "verbal & writing communication, presentation" that have been asked in most of the job postings.
The biggest gift God had been giving you is your self confidence . Everything begins from this critical point . If you have some special features try to strength and courage yourself to do the best . Speaking of front audience isn't an embarrassing situation if you have the ability only try to destroy your fears . Try to forget your social category. Train yourself to dealing with the disorders case as you are a professional person who has the potential qualifications in the Human studies . You are the psychologist yourself nobody knows your mind more than you .
This TED talk already makes me moved and motivated very much!!!Thanks sir for your useful speech,I will try my best to present so confidently and emotionally like you do!!!
I have anti-social anxiety. If I want to manage my own anxiety, I must let it in. Let it be part of who I am so I can become brave and talk to people calmly. To express myself to others in a social situation. I will do this to be straightforward.
One is to find out when & where... We start to feel our anxiety and by finding out that portion which will play a major role in recovering from anxiety & mine was whenever I see a couple of people my anxiety kicks in and my words will start to break, I can't make any eye contact with audience and i think that's the major thing we all went...I hope we all overcome our anxiety 🙃
"Reasearch shares with us that 85% of people, feel anxious in high stake speaking situations. And quite frankly, I think the other 15% *are lying*" Exposed
Thank you for this amazing talk. I have a difficulty while speaking, I stutter a lot and no one understands my speech because of this, I feel so nervous when I am unable to produce normal talk. People also feel so annoyed
I understand. I tend to speak very fast and sometimes stutter, especially when I'm feeling shy or nervous. It helps to consciously slow down your speech, but it's hard to be constantly aware.
@@fathifathi8750 I'm sorry to hear that! But you can get beyond the fear, I promise. You just haven't found the right intervention. What have you tried so far?
Thanks to this video... Finally i realised how i got my anxieties... I used to be a good speaker at school... And i remember once i attended specking show and... The topic which was chosen for me was new to me.. And i did terrible job front of my teachers and all the students and after that i started to minimize my conversation and started to think that maybe i can't talk front of people..maybe it’s my physical problem that can't be changed... And now when I'm in College i really want to talk front of people better but....now i know where from all of that came! Whatever i want to change now! I'm practicing a lot and i hope that i will be a good speaker again!
It's for me the first time to follow an English speech and so that well inspire my objective. Therefore thanks to give me the envy of discovering futher English language.
When I was 12....I gave a speech in my class and everybody laughed...Now whenever I am speaking and look around to see if anybody is laughing .Even a slight smile gives me anxiety attacks
Bravo! I teach college students the soft skills they need to get jobs and succeed in the workplace. We cover, among other things, networking interviewing, and interacting with colleagues, bosses, subordinates, and/or the general public. I will definitely be incorporating this video into one of our first lessons of the semester. Mark Abraham offers outstanding advice on how to overcome the anxiety associated with interpersonal communication on the job or anywhere. You CAN overcome your fear of speaking, even if you decided long ago that it isn't possible. I've seen it happen over and over in the classroom in individuals who come in terrified to speak in front of others and finally win out over their anxiety. It takes willingness, determination and PRACTICE. Begin where you are, and do not give up!
This has helped me tremendously I have so much to give I do Comedy but I just recently started doing stand up ,that is one of the most courageous things I have ever done ,thank you I will use some of these techniques great advice!
my fear is i forget i get so nervous my mind goes blank, and it does. every single time. i just left mu job because i had to do this every day. I just couldn't take it.
I went so red in school and university I would do anything to avoid public speaking. I even sometimes would wouldn’t turn up and then make some rubbish excuse. I felt so ashamed, not doing what I wished I could. Looking back I wish I had forced myself to do some public speaking classes in an environment that would let me build into it slowly. Towards the end of university I had enough of letting myself down and started to enjoy giving small talks to a smaller group about my work. I don’t think I will ever not try and escape giving a public talk to certain groups of people on a subject I don’t know inside out.
Says a man who has an amazing presence, timbre in his voice and the ability to keep his thoughts in order. He must've had wonderful parents and close to no childhood trauma. People who never read books, have been bullied and had inappropriate parenting will have an incredibly hard time trusting themselves so they can speak well. Everyone is different and if I can speak for myself, I am not prepared to take on such an insane journey.
I had run out of a meeting while giving a presentation. I blanked out, perspired profusely and embarrassed in front of a large group of people. So I handed over to one of my colleagues and ran out of the room.
Thank you so match, it was useful for me, I had to do a lot of presentations and every time I was suffering from the anxiety, from now on I have a steps to do during the presentations, What I am thinking now that I will be more comfort and confidence. Thank you again.
Hello Noman. Can u tell me how old are u? I am 27 and i am like u . I have social anxiety and this issue have stole my life. How do u handle this problem? U can share with me. I am waiting for your answer
There's a lot of possibilities of what might be going on with you. I suggest working with someone who uses applied kinesiology to get to the root of the issue. :-)
@@rovshanlohuseynov388 You might benefit from working with someone who uses applied kinesiology also so you can get to the root cause of your challenges.
Am 35 and still have problem with speaking publicly. Just last week I was asked to answer a question in class I knew the answer but my heart started beating fast and almost had an attack I felt so ashamed and haven't been myself lately going to class has been a problem
oh i just did one. I couldnt sleep week before speech, i couldnt eat. And i just practiced. Recorded on video, said it over and over in front of a mirror. And when i was standing in front of 100 ppl i just started talking, because this is what I had to do. I just spoke, didnt look at the notes, messed up a bit cos still i was very nervous. Stopped. Concentrated, picked it up. Had few jokes. Looked at peoples eyes. And it was weird as if i watched myself from the side. It wasnt me at all. And people loved it. Somebody said: ive never heard you talking for so long :))) It was great experience! Just prepare and do it :)
0:00 Why is it important? -> in order to share your ideas effectively and efficiently with your audience you need to be calm (and there's a lot you have to say so it's worth it)
4:00 Where does the anxiety come from? -> it's a survival method from days long past - fighting for status, so it's basically in our DNA
Managing physiological symptoms:
5:35 if you are anxious, in general -> take a deep breath before you start
5:50 if you shake -> gesture broadly
6:00 if you perspire or blush -> hold something cold in your hand (not sure how this is practical though :P )
Managing cognitive symptoms -> greet your "anxiety", accept it (it's actually just energy you can perceive it as either additional energy for your talk or anxiety)
Managing sources (TL;DR - make your talk a structured conversation with your audience)
7:55 (1) "I'm afraid I'm going to forget" -> have a map, a structure like e.g. "what, so what, now what" structure
8:55 (2) We feel the audience is exercising judgment on us -> redirect attention (show a video, ask a question, etc.) (note: (2) is also solved if you exercise (3))
9:35 (3) If it feels like a performance -> reframe it as a conversation (put your attention on your audience, use conversational language (us, you, we), ask questions)
And remember it takes time and will to get out of the comfort zone.
Thank you
Rock on Aleksa
thank you for the summary!
wow. thank you so much
Ty!
I'm literally watching this because I'm the maid of honour at my sisters wedding and I want to give her and my future brother in law a meaningful speech they can feel happy and proud of. I have terrible stage freight and anxiety... but the goal is so much more important to me that I will push through . Wish me luck guys
Hope it goes well 🤩 Do your best and rest will be okayyy 🌟
Good luck and congrats to ur sister, may she and her other half live happy and healthy ❤💕
you got this
I wish you luck midgardian
Wish u all the best. I hope u will do it well. May be you have done.
I never saw such a confident, calm and positive speaker before... I can feel that I can stand on this same TED stage with far less fear if I am standing with this guy... Wish this guy was my personal guide in my childhood..
You said everything I was going to. He's absolutely amazing in presentation!
They should be teaching this stuff at schools. our educational system is F***ed up!
We are. I'm literally doing a lesson on communication anxiety today, and found this video to supplement.
I do teach this! Science Communication at University of Western Australia!
You're just going to the wrong school. This stuff is part and parcel of my Drama courses, my Multimedia course, even my Business Technology course, to name the obvious ones.
first thing they should teach- not using profanity or mind-numbed placeholders for actual thought when conveying your intentions.
@@lornecooke1072 He is talking about India. The system is pathetic over there.
I think every moment I spent watching this is gold. But he seriously 'woke' me up when he said that our mentality in putting conversation with others as a 'performance' which indicates there is right/wrong, - is the main reason why are we always freaking out when communicating. there is no right and wrong when communicating with human beings - and we should not always aim for the correct ways, but to ensure the person gets what we are trying to say.
How I wish I can overcome this anxiety because it also stops me from making friends by asking my self what will I talk with them
Oh my. He's definitely the perfect speaker for this topic. He is so eloquent and calm.
I get nervous even when teacher ask me question in class😥
But never loose your passion and don't choose career for only money
We are introverts!
{ Edited }
Harsh Wakchaure same
Same
I used to when I was in high school.
Gosh I thought I was the only one... I'm studying abroad and English is not my mother language but I need to use it to present everything... I felt so bad every time I finish the presentation thinking "I ruined it again"
@@youqifan4853 你好！我是个美国学生在中国学习！上台报告以后，用中文我也有一样的感觉。。
He speaks very fluently and understandable. This kind of talk is beneficial for people especially the people who are learning english
*Your class was one of the greatest I've ever taken! Thanks for continuing to spread new angles of this info and advice beyond the classroom :) So appreciated!*
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He sounds so prepared, even memorised his lines, certainly not an extempore, impromptu, off the cuff speech.
I would like to talk you English. if you agree, you can knock me. my FB ID Name BTS Mostsfa. you can add me,talk me and enjoy.
This is awesome and I'm so grateful this exists. However, this isn't my first time watching this or any other similar videos.. yet STILL, my anxiety controls my life. For no reason my brain completely blanks at every single public speaking interaction I've ever had in my life. Working at a restaurant, going to school, meetings.. I could prepare the most perfect speech.. memorize every word for word.. but as soon as it matters my brain shuts off
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I get too much fricked out by just imaging myself on a stage... I have insidents where I had gone complete blank on stage and thus someone else had to take over. It was a very embarrassing experience.
I hate myself being so fearefull, terrified about public speaking. I also wish to be confident and normal like many others. I am sad inside due to this.
But I have hope that somehow oneday I will overcome all these fears and that I will become a good speaker. That day I will come back here and will comment on this same message. Wish me luck for this.
Best of luck 👍
Get yourself on stage more, practice makes perfect.
Good luck ma mayn I believe in you
So how's it going now
Hehe whtass up yo
Matt Abraham’s speech on Speaking up without Freaking our is superbly inspirational and beneficial for every public speaker!
God Almighty Bless!
Today was my school speech for ASL, and I used your mind map technique. I never stopped anywhere and the whole class was listening me quietly. Thank you so much ❤️❤️
Shoutout to everyone with social anxiety using this to conquer negative thoughts
7:59 best part -- What? So What? Now What?
9:05 Redirect audience attention -- have them focus on something else.
Large audience: show a video clip, take an informal poll,
(ask participants turn to a person next to them to interact / Q & A for one minute)
One-one-one or small group: distribute a handout, ask a question...
10:38 Reframe a speech as simply a conversation. Attention on the audience,
use "we", "our", and ask questions of the audience --- more engaging.
Remember that there isn't a perfect way to communicate. Each person has a style to convey ideas.
I’m about to present in like 20 minutes I’m so scared wish me luvk
How did it go
scofish cheiman she passed away in class. Rip :(
@@lordwhatever3957 ...hahahaha
Legeng says she's still scared up till this day... ☺
how is it going ? and what do you feel now after 4 months from your presentation ?
He is speaking up so that I can fully understand him without captions. I appreciate it a lot.
Thank you. Such a relieve. I will greet my social anxiety.
The clarity and simplicity could make a willing reflections by any listener for maturing future actions .
This is awesome and I'm so grateful this exists. However, this isn't my first time watching this or any other similar videos.. yet STILL, my anxiety controls my life. For no reason my brain completely blanks at every single public speaking interaction I've ever had in my life. Working at a restaurant, going to school, meetings.. I could prepare the most perfect speech.. memorize every word for word.. but as soon as it matters my brain shuts off
Oh trust me there's a plethora of reasons. I'm the same. The cause is always childhood trauma. However you can fight your issues by learning from people like this and working really really hard for months, if not years.
Try not to memorize word to word as in the subconscious mind we have the fear of forgetting and we are more focussed on getting the words right rather than concentrating on the message that we want to deliver.
You're amazing, Matt! Thank you so much for this! May I muster the courage to speak in the crowd just like you! You inspired me sooo much! 🙏
My problem is my shaking voice. I usually have my presentation or content well prepared but delivering the content to an audience is always a challenge. I literally sound like someone crying😪😪
or someone about to cry mooodd
I have similar issues ,I find it helpful to find places to pause the regather my breath it’s usually that I’m hyperventilating that my voice is shaking, I’ve also found if I can ask a question of the audience early also helps make it more of a conversation than a speech or a lecture.
Practicing good non-verbal techniques and room control works really well here. People see and feel your energy more than they hear it in your voice. Gesture and command space, good posture and deliberate pauses. Hand gestures, some eye contact and balancing your open body around the room works wonders more than clever words
Lol…that’s me!
There’s a Ted talk about the power of the voice and how confidence is rooted in the voice. One of the tips she gives is practicing singing as a hobby. Learning that sort of control of the voice and your diaphragm can really help!
Use some questions is exactly the way to give you more confidence and rebuild your calmness. When people interact with your question, we see that as a conversation. we trick our brain that thing I have done it all the time. So why in the world we get into nervous with which we are doing daily.
some people are nervous while having a conversation with new people. there's that
One of the best speeches on managing anxiety.. It will really help.. Thank you for bringing it for us..
Yes that is true. I have realised that I am a nice man but don't have the skill to communicate in a public or in a meeting . I told myself enough is enough and dedicating myself to a course completely. I will dedicate this year to improve my speaking skill. And I will do it.
The courage of speech growing and the voices towards the societies
My hearting is pounding so fast every time when I’m about to talk. Even I take a deep breath and tell myself, I can do this, it does not work. When I’m talking to people in the meeting virtually, my heart is still racing fast and sometimes my voice is shaking( not sure if people can notice), then my brain can’t relax and function properly as I’m in a ralexing and normal state. I always end up saying wrong things that I was so regret later. I just can’t control my nervousness and control myself in that moment all the time. I have never seen anyone in my life that has the same level of nervousness/anxiety as I do. Even worst, I forget what I need to say because my brain is just turning blank. I hate myself so much after each time I talk. I have had nervousness for years!
I get the same type of anxiety
@@areebahkhalifa7725 how are you doing now? How do you cope it?
I feel you. I’m in my late thirties, and it’s not getting any better. I’m always super conscious that even small talks with family member, i stutter.
We are not alone, it think this feeds more our anxiety thinking we are the only ones with the “problem” I have avoided opportunities that will help me be successful but I really have self doubt due to my anxiety I automatically let these scenarios run in my head on how it will prevent my true potential. I want to be an early head start teacher. I love to help children grow and help them reach their milestones and I would always find myself thinking that my fear and anxiety will make me the worst teacher and will not allow me to really participate and perform like the others. I felt alone and incapable of showing my skills.
Your anxiety is similar to mine, with time passing sometimes I think its getting better but once I m in a real situation I freak out.
When I have recorded myself in a presentation I was chocked, I found that most of this sensations are just in my head and I was not too bad and it started giving me confidence over time.
I'm not yet relaxed but I feel little bit better than before. I m stressed weeks before any presentation I thought many times to quit any job that involves me into speaking in front of people because preparation and breathing never helped me. The fact that I'm overthinking is the motor of this kind of situation and the fuel is every thought you felt bad about yourself in the past. You are not alone, I'm just like you and I'll try anything to make myself feel better before speaking in front of a public. Do you feel that's always in the beginning and it's getting better when someone interrupt you and speak, it gives your heart a break to calm down and then you feel yourself capable to do better even if it's not perfect.
It's not a curse, you and I and people like us have just the most developed capacity to detect a dangerous situation, we would survive better than anyone in nature but unfortunately this is not helping in a modern society but I have a hope that one day we will figure out how to manage this anxiety. I don't want to use beta blockers those are medicines that can stop the heart from jumping high , It's not really helping because it's just not you and you cannot use them many times and for long period because those are for blood pressure patients do better to focus on how the hijack our mind to stop overthinking. I wish you luck.
Absolutely resonate with this! Anxiety is such a common hurdle for many, especially in high-stakes situations like presentations or dates. I used to freeze up, convinced everyone was judging me. Learning to manage that anxiety instead of trying to eliminate it was a game changer! It’s all about shifting focus-like how I use humor to lighten the mood.
The Sense of Humor Improvement Program by Habit10x helped me realize that our nervousness can connect us. Let’s embrace our quirks and keep pushing ourselves to communicate! Remember, it's a journey, not a sprint!
I loved the way he explained social anxiety as a simple problem that anyone can get rid of..
🤗🤗
But he wasn’t talking about social anxiety, he’s talking about people who overthink about talking in front of the class, it’s similar but not the same.
if you browse any recruiting website, the most demanding skills are not "hard skills" like coding, drawing or designing. It is "soft" skills like "verbal & writing communication, presentation" that have been asked in most of the job postings.
The biggest gift God had been giving you is your self confidence . Everything begins from this critical point . If you have some special features try to strength and courage yourself to do the best . Speaking of front audience isn't an embarrassing situation if you have the ability only try to destroy your fears . Try to forget your social category. Train yourself to dealing with the disorders case as you are a professional person who has the potential qualifications in the Human studies . You are the psychologist yourself nobody knows your mind more than you .
Iam very grateful to matt abrhams to reduce my anxiety, social fear& stage fear.thankyou so much sir.from india.
This TED talk already makes me moved and motivated very much!!!Thanks sir for your useful speech,I will try my best to present so confidently and emotionally like you do!!!
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thank you so much for sharing such a priceless and unified ideas .
I have anti-social anxiety. If I want to manage my own anxiety, I must let it in. Let it be part of who I am so I can become brave and talk to people calmly. To express myself to others in a social situation. I will do this to be straightforward.
I love this presenter. Your message perfect.
Very intuitive but what magnifies this is beyond our control.
One is to find out when & where... We start to feel our anxiety and by finding out that portion which will play a major role in recovering from anxiety & mine was whenever I see a couple of people my anxiety kicks in and my words will start to break, I can't make any eye contact with audience and i think that's the major thing we all went...I hope we all overcome our anxiety 🙃
I really love the way you present; easy, relaxed, conversational.
Taking a giant leap to building bold , confident and compelling conversations
"Reasearch shares with us that 85% of people, feel anxious in high stake speaking situations. And quite frankly, I think the other 15% *are lying*"
Exposed
My be lying ,but have confident outside .
His voice is really awesome!!!
Thank you for this amazing talk. I have a difficulty while speaking, I stutter a lot and no one understands my speech because of this, I feel so nervous when I am unable to produce normal talk. People also feel so annoyed
I understand. I tend to speak very fast and sometimes stutter, especially when I'm feeling shy or nervous. It helps to consciously slow down your speech, but it's hard to be constantly aware.
He doesn’t have shaking voice at all and that’s a great thing, also he was so humorous when he is talking about the pants part : )
no matter how many of these i listen too, when I'm actually in front of the class my whole body freeze and I farts out all my knowledge at that moment
Hahahahahahaaaa
Watch out " A dialogue to kill the fear of publics peaking TEDx"
Me too i've just made a presentation and it was hooooooooooorrible hooorrible hooorrible 😑😑😑
If that's happening, simple techniques are probably not enough. But there are more powerful techniques that can work for you!
@@fathifathi8750 I'm sorry to hear that! But you can get beyond the fear, I promise. You just haven't found the right intervention. What have you tried so far?
I will Forever be grateful. Thx a lot.
This is just want I needed today. Thank you
Nice job! He mastered this speach no better than I have ever seen anyone do.
Thanks to this video... Finally i realised how i got my anxieties... I used to be a good speaker at school... And i remember once i attended specking show and... The topic which was chosen for me was new to me.. And i did terrible job front of my teachers and all the students and after that i started to minimize my conversation and started to think that maybe i can't talk front of people..maybe it’s my physical problem that can't be changed... And now when I'm in College i really want to talk front of people better but....now i know where from all of that came! Whatever i want to change now! I'm practicing a lot and i hope that i will be a good speaker again!
Next week I'm starting my first job as an english teacher & I'm freaking out.
This is very helpful. Thanks a lot.
We must believe in what we are saying .
Amazing presentation. I've been suffering from anxiety since I was a kid. I'm going to try all you mentioned.
Thank you
i really love the way this guy talks! he is so confident and calm!
It's for me the first time to follow an English speech and so that well inspire my objective.
Therefore thanks to give me the envy of discovering futher English language.
How's the progress coming along my dude??
When I was 12....I gave a speech in my class and everybody laughed...Now whenever I am speaking and look around to see if anybody is laughing .Even a slight smile gives me anxiety attacks
After seeing this video and your advice, I can give a more powerful lecture without any anxiety.....and thank you so much.
Bravo! I teach college students the soft skills they need to get jobs and succeed in the workplace. We cover, among other things, networking interviewing, and interacting with colleagues, bosses, subordinates, and/or the general public. I will definitely be incorporating this video into one of our first lessons of the semester. Mark Abraham offers outstanding advice on how to overcome the anxiety associated with interpersonal communication on the job or anywhere. You CAN overcome your fear of speaking, even if you decided long ago that it isn't possible. I've seen it happen over and over in the classroom in individuals who come in terrified to speak in front of others and finally win out over their anxiety. It takes willingness, determination and PRACTICE. Begin where you are, and do not give up!
9:18 the speaker himself is nervous, but he's managing it, it's all about managing your anxiety
This has helped me tremendously I have so much to give I do Comedy but I just recently started doing stand up ,that is one of the most courageous things I have ever done ,thank you I will use some of these techniques great advice!
my fear is i forget i get so nervous my mind goes blank, and it does. every single time. i just left mu job because i had to do this every day. I just couldn't take it.
Wow one of finest speech and clearly explained..
Excellently given I was so inspired on his speech
What part inspired you the most?
I went so red in school and university I would do anything to avoid public speaking. I even sometimes would wouldn’t turn up and then make some rubbish excuse. I felt so ashamed, not doing what I wished I could. Looking back I wish I had forced myself to do some public speaking classes in an environment that would let me build into it slowly. Towards the end of university I had enough of letting myself down and started to enjoy giving small talks to a smaller group about my work. I don’t think I will ever not try and escape giving a public talk to certain groups of people on a subject I don’t know inside out.
Says a man who has an amazing presence, timbre in his voice and the ability to keep his thoughts in order. He must've had wonderful parents and close to no childhood trauma. People who never read books, have been bullied and had inappropriate parenting will have an incredibly hard time trusting themselves so they can speak well. Everyone is different and if I can speak for myself, I am not prepared to take on such an insane journey.
A superb presentation with a basketful of valuable kernels, personally a great refresher and honed my presentation edges. Thank you and appreciated
This is truly awesome....
each of us has stories to share
inputs to give
ideas to spread..... good thank u
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So clear and soft
OMG my high school English teacher!!!! 🥰🥰🥰🥰
I was a sophomore though so we were COOL 😎 lol
Where is actually he teach at?
he's now a legend
So jealous
Shrimp Ball luck you
I cried with this... Burma ✨✨
started conversation with his story, and emotionally connected to audience , this helps to keep focus on him
Dude I’m listening to this half an hour before a debate in class! I’m going to report on how I performed later.
You didn't 😭😭
I have the content but my legs and voice shiver while delivering
Talk of the century
This is the best TedTalk that I've watched in a long time
Wonderful presentation. Now a days I'm trying to become a public speaker and trying speak maximum as I can.
Great speech and excellent information. Thank you for sharing
Tomorrow i'm having an interview and it has really helped me. I was feeling really jittery but now i am feeling good.
What an amazing session. Worth every second spent !!!
I had run out of a meeting while giving a presentation. I blanked out, perspired profusely and embarrassed in front of a large group of people. So I handed over to one of my colleagues and ran out of the room.
Thank you so match, it was useful for me, I had to do a lot of presentations and every time I was suffering from the anxiety, from now on I have a steps to do during the presentations, What I am thinking now that I will be more comfort and confidence. Thank you again.
This is so true
I love the tip to do a question in the start! It really works !
Surely I'll do gr8 at my speech tomorrow......hats off
you know what my Anxiety is?
I can't even talk to a kid alone properly.
I don't know if something went wrong with me in my childhood or what...
Hello Noman. Can u tell me how old are u? I am 27 and i am like u . I have social anxiety and this issue have stole my life. How do u handle this problem? U can share with me. I am waiting for your answer
There's a lot of possibilities of what might be going on with you. I suggest working with someone who uses applied kinesiology to get to the root of the issue. :-)
@@rovshanlohuseynov388 You might benefit from working with someone who uses applied kinesiology also so you can get to the root cause of your challenges.
Sorry to know that man :'(
Am 35 and still have problem with speaking publicly. Just last week I was asked to answer a question in class I knew the answer but my heart started beating fast and almost had an attack I felt so ashamed and haven't been myself lately going to class has been a problem
Thank you.
Thanks it's much appreciated
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Thank you!
Very useful recommendations! And example of absolutely controlled, targeted and calm speaching.
This is the most motivating speech ..so useful to me ..Thank you sir ..
Awesome! I agree with Cassandra below. One of the best classes I ever took. Thanks again.
Thanks dear sir Matt Abraham 🙏🙏🙏for most valuable public speaking skills
I hope one day I am on that stage, giving a speech.
Just faced it there's no other option my dearest friend 👍
This was so insightful... you're a great speaker
Wow this is very helpful for communication skills
I'm not fluent in english. I'm a south indian. For me, speaking in english makes my anxiety even more worse.