Speaking Up Without Freaking Out | Matt Abrahams | TEDxPaloAlto

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  • Опубліковано 6 чер 2018
  • In this informative and captivating TEDx talk, Matt Abrahams offers practical solutions to handle communication anxiety and provides tools to empower all of us to confidently share our ideas and stories.
    Matt Abrahams is a passionate, collaborative and innovative educator, author and coach. At Stanford University’s Graduate School of Business, Matt teaches popular courses in Strategic Communication and Effective Virtual Presenting. He is also Co-Founder and Principal at Bold Echo Communications Solutions, a presentation and communication skills company based in Silicon Valley.
    Matt recently published the third edition of Speaking Up Without Freaking Out, a book written to help those wishing to be more confident and compelling communicators. Prior to teaching, Matt held senior leadership positions at several software companies, where he created and ran global learning and development organizations. When not teaching and coaching, Matt enjoys spending time with his family, hiking, martial arts and eating dessert.
    For more information about TEDxPaloAlto please visit www.tedxpaloalto.com.
    This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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  • @makositali4224
    @makositali4224 2 роки тому +256

    My problem is my shaking voice. I usually have my presentation or content well prepared but delivering the content to an audience is always a challenge. I literally sound like someone crying😪😪

  • @mehdikhadem2576
    @mehdikhadem2576 4 роки тому +1

    They should be teaching this stuff at schools. our educational system is F***ed up!

  • @aleksagordic9593
    @aleksagordic9593 4 роки тому +695

    0:00

  • @prashantpatare7694
    @prashantpatare7694 3 роки тому +253

    I never saw such a confident, calm and positive speaker before... I can feel that I can stand on this same TED stage with far less fear if I am standing with this guy... Wish this guy was my personal guide in my childhood..

  • @rogerharsh
    @rogerharsh 4 роки тому +298

    I get nervous even when teacher ask me question in class😥

  • @Hifirrrr
    @Hifirrrr 4 роки тому +75

    I think every moment I spent watching this is gold. But he seriously 'woke' me up when he said that our mentality in putting conversation with others as a 'performance' which indicates there is right/wrong, - is the main reason why are we always freaking out when communicating. there is no right and wrong when communicating with human beings - and we should not always aim for the correct ways, but to ensure the person gets what we are trying to say.

  • @CC-bj5jq
    @CC-bj5jq 2 роки тому +278

    I'm literally watching this because I'm the maid of honour at my sisters wedding and I want to give her and my future brother in law a meaningful speech they can feel happy and proud of. I have terrible stage freight and anxiety... but the goal is so much more important to me that I will push through . Wish me luck guys <3

  • @HH-mf3cq
    @HH-mf3cq 4 роки тому +526

    I’m about to present in like 20 minutes I’m so scared wish me luvk

  • @prashantpatare7694
    @prashantpatare7694 3 роки тому +64

    I get too much fricked out by just imaging myself on a stage... I have insidents where I had gone complete blank on stage and thus someone else had to take over. It was a very embarrassing experience.

  • @CassandraBankson
    @CassandraBankson 5 років тому +641

    Your class was one of the greatest I've ever taken! Thanks for continuing to spread new angles of this info and advice beyond the classroom :) So appreciated!

  • @samc7312
    @samc7312 4 роки тому +18

    My hearting is pounding so fast every time when I’m about to talk. Even I take a deep breath and tell myself, I can do this, it does not work. When I’m talking to people in the meeting virtually, my heart is still racing fast and sometimes my voice is shaking( not sure if people can notice), then my brain can’t relax and function properly as I’m in a ralexing and normal state. I always end up saying wrong things that I was so regret later. I just can’t control my nervousness and control myself in that moment all the time. I have never seen anyone in my life that has the same level of nervousness/anxiety as I do. Even worst, I forget what I need to say because my brain is just turning blank. I hate myself so much after each time I talk. I have had nervousness for years!

  • @wegotthis3031
    @wegotthis3031 Рік тому +4

    Oh my. He's definitely the perfect speaker for this topic. He is so eloquent and calm.

  • @ShrimpPerr
    @ShrimpPerr 5 років тому +338

    OMG my high school English teacher!!!! 🥰🥰🥰🥰

  • @suchanuch1
    @suchanuch1 5 років тому +189

    no matter how many of these i listen too, when I'm actually in front of the class my whole body freeze and I farts out all my knowledge at that moment

  • @Bchdoll
    @Bchdoll 4 роки тому +56

    This is awesome and I'm so grateful this exists. However, this isn't my first time watching this or any other similar videos.. yet STILL, my anxiety controls my life. For no reason my brain completely blanks at every single public speaking interaction I've ever had in my life. Working at a restaurant, going to school, meetings.. I could prepare the most perfect speech.. memorize every word for word.. but as soon as it matters my brain shuts off

  • @jeremyadinugraha89
    @jeremyadinugraha89 5 років тому +57

    Thank you. Such a relieve. I will greet my social anxiety.

  • @xushnudabdullayev6248
    @xushnudabdullayev6248 2 роки тому +7

    He speaks very fluently and understandable. This kind of talk is beneficial for people especially the people who are learning english

  • @doncev1788
    @doncev1788 Рік тому +1

    oh i just did one. I couldnt sleep week before speech, i couldnt eat. And i just practiced. Recorded on video, said it over and over in front of a mirror. And when i was standing in front of 100 ppl i just started talking, because this is what I had to do. I just spoke, didnt look at the notes, messed up a bit cos still i was very nervous. Stopped. Concentrated, picked it up. Had few jokes. Looked at peoples eyes. And it was weird as if i watched myself from the side. It wasnt me at all. And people loved it. Somebody said: ive never heard you talking for so long :))) It was great experience! Just prepare and do it :)

  • @danstarfella8303
    @danstarfella8303 5 років тому +17

    This is just want I needed today. Thank you

  • @sureshkumarpradhan4756
    @sureshkumarpradhan4756 2 роки тому +13

    Today was my school speech for ASL, and I used your mind map technique. I never stopped anywhere and the whole class was listening me quietly. Thank you so much ❤️❤️