Your true self is the observer, observing your thought processes, words, and actions. That’s not your ego/personality. It’s healthy to separate your true observing self from your personality because once you start believing you ARE your personality, it’s kind of an unhealthy attachment? it’s healthy to remember you’re just observing how your mind intakes the things you experience in life. Helps you take life less seriously and become less stressed the more you remind yourself you are simply observing life unfolding. You are the universe experiencing itself basically. Every living thing has its own perception and personality (ego), but at the same time every living thing at the core is JUST the observer.
Being humble is the realization that you aren’t more significant or better than others. It’s the awareness that you are equally important to everyone else. It means you have personal boundaries in place, so no one takes advantage of you, but you acknowledge the differences that make each person authentic. And it’s the knowledge that every person is equally valuable and that your value is neither greater nor lesser than anyone else's.
I've been studying the Bhagavad Gita and the message is the same - joy comes from selfless service to others and action with no expectation of reward. The ego is nowhere to be seen - but humility is.
Buddhism, especially the Mahayana, teaches the same. It is through compassion for others and ourselves that we find true happiness and fulfillment in this life.
People with an inflated ego usually don't know it. The fact that it concerns you probably means, you don't. Other people's opinions of you are none of your business. Treat them that way.
I want to thank everyone who took the time to watch this talk and comment. I have never found Doug. I have been told that often, people who are deemed to live on the edge of society move back home if they can connect with family again. I hope and wish for that to be true. I hope, if nothing else, my talk has moved you to connect with ALL people more. I know that in my life, I have tried to connect with people who I thought would give me something because they had so much. Most times, I was disappointed. Yet, the times I connected with those who had less, they seemed willing to give everything.
This talk reminds me of some study I did. Performing acts of kindness and helping other people can be good for people’s health and well-being, according to research. But not all good-hearted behavior is equally beneficial to the giver. The strength depends on many factors.
What a beautiful man, he is so genuine and authentic. I feel his pain and his discoveries of what's true for all of us. Just to simply be and love. Thank you for this.
@@danielaspassova781 That's how social conditioning works. There's a whole crowd telling men "to be men", not showing their "weak" side (i.e. emotions) and to toughen up if there's something going not so great in their life. But I guess you already knew the answer 🙂
And by the way, funny enough... most of my Instagram followers are women, but UA-cam Analytics shows 86% of my listeners are men 🙂 so yeah... About time to let down the fake fronts we put on ourselves every day and start looking deeper into our souls.
@@StillnessManifesto Just a stab - but maybe the shaming and negative opinions is caused by their fear and not malice. And it's way more humbling for me that people share to me and can feel what I felt when I went through my struggle. Makes me realize I am never alone.
I found out that the solution to the ego isn't trying to get in our heads and fix the problem. When you tell people "Be more confident!" "Fix your ego problems!" they continue going inside their head. The solution is just being active, vulnerable and being very honest with yourself. I had a very difficult childhood. I was bullied, emotionally abused by my brother, neglected by my parents and effects of these continued to create more destruction in my social life. My high school social life was terrible because I was the quite kid with issues. I couldn't connect with other kids, I even could have a girlfriend but I didn't go for it because I hated myself.
Learn to give compassion to that part of you that is judgeful, the part of you that doesn’t understand and the part of you that isn’t as ‘spiritual’ as it desires to be.
It’s a big trip to think there is an ego to get rid of, the ego is an illusion, and an illusion is and never was real. You were never anything but the All.
Fear of dying or losing someone you love. Facing the idea of dying can be difficult. Feeling fear is natural when you think about dying or losing someone you love. It’s normal to struggle with a fear of death. Yet, if these feelings become stronger, talk with your health care team about resources to help you cope.
Recognize that there are situations you can control and those you cannot. As hard as it sounds, many people find it helpful to let go of those things that they cannot change and focus on their reaction to events.
What a beautiful wonderful talk, if only all men could open up like this and see the folly of their ways of thinking they have to be tough all the time. I see why this talk has been seen so many times, it is moving.
“For love to flourish, the light of your presence needs to be strong enough so that you no longer get taken over by the thinker or the pain-body and mistake them for who you are. To know yourself as the Being underneath the thinker, the stillness underneath the mental noise, the love and joy underneath the pain, is freedom, salvation, enlightenment.” ― Eckhart Tolle
Oh wow I teared up so many times and laughed so hard at moments, I am filled with so many things right now. This is not the ted talk I expected, but it is the ted talk I needed right now in my life.
It was a talk that left me many teachings, the ego is like a psychic structure, the result of our experiences and experiences from the earliest childhood, which progressively shape our idea of the self, the image we have of ourselves, many would appreciate seeing it too, I recommend it
Really, I heard his talk. I can understand perfectly your emotions. He is really a witty man with some serious sense of humour, but with his laugh his tears became more and more visible. His voice was literally shaking at times. But also it brought a shred of smile at moments. It is really a very heart touching pep talk.
OMG, this made me cry so many times. I have to know did he find the man and his dog, and OMG that poor little girl. This will stay with me a long time.
This was by far the BEST Ted Talk I have ever watched. I've gained far more than I would've imagined from a video I was hesitant to watch. I'm so glad I did!
I heard this somewhere recently- “ When you treat yourself like a king, that is self-respect. When you want everyone around to treat you like a king, that’s ego.” It doesn’t get better than this.
I have personally known Jonathan for many years as he was a member of my local golf club in Sydney, but never really knew the full extent of his cancer. Having my mother going through cancer right now I have so much respect and admiration for him. Jono if you reading this everyone at Warringah Is so proud of how far you have come.
I wish it would be known out in the public that panacur c cures cancer it has done so for over 30 years but no one wants to say that please research it because all these people that are dying and can be saved with such a small amount have money and no side effects it's just amazing because they can't make money on it they won't tell us
Here's an empowering belief. A person's belief and a person's nature go hand in hand as do a person's nature and will, but most importantly the beliefs, nature and will of the collective generate the very reality in which we live. Only correct beliefs can set us free.
I saw this in 2020, and then heard it on a Jat Shetty podcast, and it reminded me how it made me feel so deeply, so here I am again today listening and crying.
No need to lie. But it's, in my opinion, about not crowing your own awesomeness to make sure everyone knows. Keep stuff to yourself. You know how awesome you are, show people how awesome you are, don't tell them. Let them come to their own conclusion about your awesomeness. I think that helps keep ego in check and at least the appearance of humility.
Work at a soup kitchen. Not once or twice, but for weeks. It will humble you. A wise man one told me, "I complained because I didn't have any shoes, until I met the man who had no feet."
There is nothing more humbling than volunteering at a hospital. I recommend starting with adults. I play games at a kids hospital about twice a month. It puts things into perspective.
The most insightful talk I've heard! To be shown that the smallest gesture to another person can mean so much. We all can make our lives better by making someone else's day better! What a lesson for life!!!!
Incredible information thanks to this video now I know more about the subject, without a doubt very important, thanks I will share it with all my friends
Jonathan’s encounter with Doug really illustrates the power of empathy and human connection. Sometimes the people we least expect teach us the most important lessons.
I'm grateful for Jonathan's willingness to be vulnerable and share his truth. His talk was a reminder that our stories matter and can make a difference.
@@theothersideofego is this really you? Because if it is I just want to tell you that I had a pretty bad day today, started distancing from the people that are the ones that love me, but this speech gave me another perspective to life I was forgetting and lacking. Thank you sir, this was beautiful. May God bless you.
@@iloverussia111 hi you are kind, sorry I dont monitor my account that much, yes learning that the best love is what we give and not what we get helped me a lot.
So I stumbled over the word "ego" a lot in the form of "let go of your ego", "healthy vs unhealthy ego", "the ego is important to function as an individual", etc. A lot of people here seem to get that there is an ego and that it can be unhelpful and give us unsatisfying emotions, thoughts or drag us in our growth. It seems all agreed that it is good to overcome your ego (temporarily) if it is not helpful in the moment.
I remember when you read the news in Eastern Canada, you were a handsome confident man back then. But now you are a beautiful soulful man, so authentic. This is my favorite talk ever, thank you.
Deeply moving truths and raw emotions, this is without a doubt one of the best Teds I have ever witnessed. I am left with questions, but also answers, and maybe that is life, we keep asking questions, and when we ask the right ones, the answers appear. Bravo Mr Gravenor
My favorite quotes, "The best things are said when we don't exchange words, we just exchange space." and "The judgement I had of him blinded me to his intent."
I have thought - since I was ill and finally reached out for help - that none of us are alone - there is always many people out there who understand exactly what we are going through
I learned many years ago that there are incredible people amongst us still and regardless of the tribulations that God rains down upon us, we as people are capable of picking each other up and we ought to try everyday. There are good people and we should try every day to be one of them. Don't wait for God to tell you to do amazing things. It's in you. Just do it.
This was so hard to listen too, but also impossible to turn off. The best talk I have ever heard and it will stay with me a long time. Bless you Jonathan.
This could be one of the most honest talks I have seen, he stripped himself down and showed his warts and scars and all. he didn't seek redemption, he just looked for truth and meaning. This talk will help change people. But I need to know - where are Doug and his dog and what is Jonathan Gravenor doing now?
Wow, this is so emotional; the discovery of one's true purpose can provide a sense of purpose and meaning in even the most difficult of circumstances. And also leaves you in such a vulnerable state.
This man is a legend. 5 years ago published this talk, and still everything applies as we're speaking about it today. Great job! This will live forever. True legend!
It's true that discovering your purpose can leave you in a vulnerable state. When you are exploring your deepest desires and passions, it can feel like you are exposing a part of yourself that you've kept hidden for a long time. But vulnerability can also be a source of strength and resilience. When you are willing to be vulnerable, you open yourself up to new possibilities and opportunities that you may have never considered before. And ultimately, this vulnerability can lead you to discover your true purpose and live a more fulfilling life.
A very good man, telling us something very important. May he live much longer so he can keep telling us what we need to remember, our love and humanity should always be first.
Jonathan's message and delivery was absolutely beautiful. It was a pleasure to hear what he had to say and I think more so it was important to hear. What a fantastic motivational speaker. What a fantastic and kind man.
This talk resonated with me on a profound level. It's a reminder that our struggles can shape us and lead us to meaningful growth. Thank you for sharing your emotional and inspiring story.
what a powerful reminder of the resilience and strength of the human spirit. It's amazing how someone's personal story can have such a universal impact. Thank you for sharing your journey.
I was deeply touched by this talk. It's a reminder that our emotions connect us as humans and that we can find strength in vulnerability. Thank you for sharing your story and inspiring us all.
This talk reminded me of the power of storytelling. It's through sharing our experiences that we can inspire others and create positive change. Thank you for sharing your emotional journey.
I couldn't help but be moved by this talk. It's incredible how a speaker's vulnerability can create such a deep impact on the audience. Thank you for sharing your story and touching our hearts.
The first 3 minutes I judged, the next four I had realized once again how wrong I truly realized I am, thank you for the gift of realization and acknowledgement
Well said! Humility is not about thinking less of ourselves but about thinking of ourselves in a broader context. It's about embracing a mindset that values the well-being and happiness of others.
Absolutely! Humility is about recognizing our own worth and capabilities while also acknowledging the worth and capabilities of others. It's about fostering an environment of mutual respect and understanding.
I love this perspective! Humility is about having a balanced view of ourselves and recognizing that our worth is not solely defined by our own accomplishments. It's about valuing others as well.
Well said! Humility is not about self-deprecation or denying our own potential. It's about recognizing that we are part of something greater and approaching life with a sense of humility and gratitude.
thank you for your kind words - I learned through Doug and Molly and the little girl and I cried - I discovered that I don't want to follow the man who teaches me with books, and lectures - I want to learn from the men (or woman) that teaches me by living the life I want to live...
Someone sent this to me again, and I watched it again, and again I cried for so long. My heart broke and became even bigger at the same time. So beautiful.
OMG, this made me cry so many times. I have to know did he find the man and his dog, and OMG that poor little girl. This will stay with me a long time.
I taught myself early in my teen years that my life was solely dependent on how I wanted it to be. Didn't really care much what people thought of me, as long as I knew I wasn't hurting anyone and I respected people.
Walked out one morning in search of valour I saw a moviestar humbing around blatantly in a starshaped manner, occupied by his own steps. I quickly turned and found a soldier blinded by a just cause grown sour. I frowned and saw an athlete curled up and tense to achieve the love of his long lost father. I walked on and met a business man smiling without joy and speaking without heart. Almost giving up I sat down now seeing a man with scars and a face that defied the firm despair of time. I was reached by a smile and offered my hand, cause in my search of valour I found the homeless man.
This is the probably the first time I have ever cried listening to a TED talk. I started working in the hospital this year, and to protect myself from all the suffering of my patients I had become emotionally numb. You helped me realise why I had chosen medicine in the first place. Jonathon - I truly hope you are well. Bless you for opening the eyes of many.
@@theothersideofego Thank you for accepting the invite to talk, Jonathan. Yours is such a blessing and the most inspiring TED Talk I've watched and listened to so far. I also hope that you and your family are well, the same goes for Doug and Molly. "God took the wrong one that day." - This made me recall the many times I told God that He (or She) made a mistake in giving me life, knowing how I'd disappointed my parents and other people many times. It's such a struggle to live, love, and forgive oneself.
My sister lost her 5 year old. Listening to this I could see my little niece as being that young girl he met. She was so wise for her age, so giving. This has made me cry so much, tears I don't want to end. Bless you sir bless you for bringing this to the world.
I've just literally listened to your speech three times non-stop. I LOVE your language, your tone, your modulation, your topic, your insights, your delivery and your use of vocabulary. I hope to experience you at a speech personally some day! Thank you for this wonderful presentation.
This man is full with pearls of wisdom coming out of his mouth non stop. I'm stunned. This talk will resonate with me for a long time. It really helps you clarify what really is important. Thank you Jonathan.
This brings back my c, prostate at 29, full removal. Thought my life was over, but slowly the fear of what I was losing got replaced about what I was saving. Many you are good, I get this, important talk brother, keep speaking, the world needs you.
Amazing speech. This has definitely inspired me to find my true self. I am 27 and to me my past 15 years are like frozen. I was like a walking dead like. But when life wakes you up, the feeling is truly amazing. Shout out to those who do not give up on improving themselves regardless of age!
I feel humbled beyond words yet want to comment; over and over, my heart keeps saying thank you. The most moving and life-useful TED talk I've seen, compellingly told. I am grateful for your experience and your gifting us by sharing it. I'm also so happy for you and your daughter about you reconnecting.
Thank you Anna, you are very kind. A few months ago I moved across the country so we are in the same city now. It is so cool. Your words are really appreciated.
My greatest fear is being misunderstood. And yet, I've never been good at being my vulnerable self. I don't want my life to be a message that is not mine.
The vulnerability that arises from discovering one's true purpose is a reminder of the importance of being open to self-discovery and embracing our passions, even if it means exposing our innermost selves.
I agree wholeheartedly. The emotional depth that accompanies the discovery of one's true purpose is a reflection of the profound impact it can have on our lives and well-being.
The emotional impact of discovering one's purpose is a testament to the transformative power of self-exploration and the pursuit of personal fulfillment.
The vulnerability that arises from discovering one's true purpose can be seen as a strength, as it signifies our willingness to embrace our passions and live authentically.
I'm glad you feel the emotional weight of discovering one's purpose. It's a reminder of the richness and depth that can be found when we align our lives with our true calling.
"I started to realize that I wasn't so scared of dying I had just been scared my whole life of living" that hit hard man
Thanks Colin, much appreciated that you felt it too.
got me too...
wow yes
That part hit me so deep, I realized what I had been missing.
Yes. I teared up
Your true self is the observer, observing your thought processes, words, and actions. That’s not your ego/personality. It’s healthy to separate your true observing self from your personality because once you start believing you ARE your personality, it’s kind of an unhealthy attachment? it’s healthy to remember you’re just observing how your mind intakes the things you experience in life. Helps you take life less seriously and become less stressed the more you remind yourself you are simply observing life unfolding. You are the universe experiencing itself basically. Every living thing has its own perception and personality (ego), but at the same time every living thing at the core is JUST the observer.
Simply a great message to hear today, thanks for sharing it.
You know I heard about this talk last year on a Jay Shetty podcast!
Perfect Ophilia, just perfect lovely share.
Not sure I agree, I believe we must be able to see ourselves and not just observe ourselves.
I love everything he said, and what you added.
Being humble is the realization that you aren’t more significant or better than others. It’s the awareness that you are equally important to everyone else. It means you have personal boundaries in place, so no one takes advantage of you, but you acknowledge the differences that make each person authentic. And it’s the knowledge that every person is equally valuable and that your value is neither greater nor lesser than anyone else's.
Humility is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less: C.S. Lewis
'Tis a gift to be simple, tis a gift to be free...The Shakers knew. I agree completely.
I've been studying the Bhagavad Gita and the message is the same - joy comes from selfless service to others and action with no expectation of reward. The ego is nowhere to be seen - but humility is.
Buddhism, especially the Mahayana, teaches the same. It is through compassion for others and ourselves that we find true happiness and fulfillment in this life.
It's a good reminder, especially in the midst of all the posts asking about how to stop comparing oneself with others!
The ego is destructive. But having no ego makes you a target.
This is a good point. I think my ADD and learning disability plays into my insecurity because I always felt less than.
Most things in life work best when they're in balance.
By being confident but also willing to listen and learn. Be respectful of others and but say something if someone is trying to walk over you.
People with an inflated ego usually don't know it. The fact that it concerns you probably means, you don't. Other people's opinions of you are none of your business. Treat them that way.
Ego is just a word for the self. It just is. It's your unique way of seeing the world, the bit of you that makes you yourself.
"The best things are said when we don't exchange words, we just exchange space".... Thank u sir for ur wonderful words
Thank you for watching ...
that is so true, loved this
That was an awesome comment.
@@Micscience thanks
@@theothersideofego "only one Life that soon is past only what is done with love will last"
"And suddenly I realized the cancer was a lot deeper than my throat" wow. That is so powerful, it made me tear up. Thank you for your words
The lessons he learned during his road to redemption are a valuable lesson for us all.
The transformation he underwent is a testament to the power of the human spirit.
Jonathan's story serves as a reminder to never give up hope.
This statement holds so much truth and vulnerability. Your words have touched my heart. 😄
The metaphor of the cancer being deeper than just the throat is so poignant, it left me in awe.
I want to thank everyone who took the time to watch this talk and comment. I have never found Doug. I have been told that often, people who are deemed to live on the edge of society move back home if they can connect with family again. I hope and wish for that to be true. I hope, if nothing else, my talk has moved you to connect with ALL people more. I know that in my life, I have tried to connect with people who I thought would give me something because they had so much. Most times, I was disappointed. Yet, the times I connected with those who had less, they seemed willing to give everything.
Thank you, amazing talk.
I hope you are right about the man, I hope he is with people who love him...
I googled you, and found your book, I have bought it.
Thank you ❤
Thank you for telling us about Doug, I hope he is okay too.
This talk reminds me of some study I did. Performing acts of kindness and helping other people can be good for people’s health and well-being, according to research. But not all good-hearted behavior is equally beneficial to the giver. The strength depends on many factors.
I totally get this.
It can become ego-centered, like wealthy bragging their "charity and volunteering."
not gonna complain about what form of giving back people are doing
I don't know if you can really force yourself show some kind oflove like this...
so the idea is to try work towards showing genuine love towards others.
"... we can all die in just one minute, but we can all live a million amazing moments"
Beautiful
I have it written atop my notebook and each new one I get - so that I see, or at least open my eyes to try and glimpse the "Amazing".
Amen 🙏
@@theothersideofego amazing talk thank you!
@@F11994 thank uou
that was so important to me also
This could be the most heartbreaking and most inspirational TED talk ever, personally.
Thank you for such kind words
got me deep too
and me too
i cried and I dont do that ... ever
yes, it really is powerful
This is not like Ted talks I have seen before, this one really made me feel.
I shed a tear
this is so amazing!
What a beautiful man, he is so genuine and authentic. I feel his pain and his discoveries of what's true for all of us. Just to simply be and love. Thank you for this.
Just one of the best, what a find thanks for sending.
I wonder what became of the man and his dog...
The little girl bit really made me cry a lot
I would love to learn where he is now?
Great man and a great talk.
Takes a real man to drop his ego and still hold his head
I am not sure I can ever drop it - it is a practice to remain aware of its appetite and to work to not let it get the best of me. Thank you
@@theothersideofego How is your father doing?
@@theothersideofego no matter the age we can always change into a better person, and you proved it
this guy is amazing.
This guy is what men should be, open raw and vulnerable
This definitely is one of the greatest stories/speeches I have ever heard, I was holding my tears the whole time 😢
Why were you holding them?
@@danielaspassova781 That's how social conditioning works.
There's a whole crowd telling men "to be men", not showing their "weak" side (i.e. emotions) and to toughen up if there's something going not so great in their life.
But I guess you already knew the answer 🙂
@@StillnessManifesto I think maybe we need to contemplate that vulnerability is a strength and not a weakness ...
And by the way, funny enough... most of my Instagram followers are women, but UA-cam Analytics shows 86% of my listeners are men 🙂 so yeah... About time to let down the fake fronts we put on ourselves every day and start looking deeper into our souls.
@@StillnessManifesto Just a stab - but maybe the shaming and negative opinions is caused by their fear and not malice.
And it's way more humbling for me that people share to me and can feel what I felt when I went through my struggle. Makes me realize I am never alone.
I found out that the solution to the ego isn't trying to get in our heads and fix the problem. When you tell people "Be more confident!" "Fix your ego problems!" they continue going inside their head.
The solution is just being active, vulnerable and being very honest with yourself. I had a very difficult childhood. I was bullied, emotionally abused by my brother, neglected by my parents and effects of these continued to create more destruction in my social life. My high school social life was terrible because I was the quite kid with issues. I couldn't connect with other kids, I even could have a girlfriend but I didn't go for it because I hated myself.
Perfect thing to share, loved it
Basi - chill man, its not that deep
amazing BB thanks for the share
As soon as I look how end ego I am recognizing how important it is
Ben kind of agree but I think you overthink this ego thing
Yes. The ego can be such a trap when we let ourselves make decisions that serve only it
Learn to give compassion to that part of you that is judgeful, the part of you that doesn’t understand and the part of you that isn’t as ‘spiritual’ as it desires to be.
It’s a big trip to think there is an ego to get rid of, the ego is an illusion, and an illusion is and never was real. You were never anything but the All.
I think this stuff just proceeds in cycles; contract, expand, contract, expand, and so on.
If you are Aware of falling into an ego trap, then you as Awareness, are not trapped.
But if you believe that you are the person, and not the Awareness, which is trapped. That will be your experience. And you will suffer.
“We can die in just one minute. But we can live a million amazing moments. “ Thanks, man. You are a hero
What a statement. So true
What he said is the truth, I admire him.
I am crying so much, wondering about the man and his dog, and sad for the baby girl, omg this is powerful...
very emotional to say the least
same here buddy, very emotional
it truly is powerful
Fear of dying or losing someone you love. Facing the idea of dying can be difficult. Feeling fear is natural when you think about dying or losing someone you love. It’s normal to struggle with a fear of death. Yet, if these feelings become stronger, talk with your health care team about resources to help you cope.
Recognize that there are situations you can control and those you cannot. As hard as it sounds, many people find it helpful to let go of those things that they cannot change and focus on their reaction to events.
What a beautiful wonderful talk, if only all men could open up like this and see the folly of their ways of thinking they have to be tough all the time. I see why this talk has been seen so many times, it is moving.
What an extraordinary human
I loved this, I loved them.. What a brilliant teaching.
Thanks for emailing me this, wow wow wow
This talk brought me tears.
Thank you for this amazing presentation, real eye opener
I have just understood what is consciousness - THIS!
Not a bad concept. I like it.
I’d like to think of it as the warmth coming from transforming information; the ‘pull’ of its patterning, almost like a gravity.
The Vedantha philosophy has considered mind as the subtle form of matter where in the body and its components are considered the grossest forms.
So, it's sort of like, reality is information. Consciousness is the processing of that information, or "attention is all you need."
I agree that symbolic thinking is probably very important
I have never been more moved than I was watching this talk; this is a must-share.
“For love to flourish, the light of your presence needs to be strong enough so that you no longer get taken over by the thinker or the pain-body and mistake them for who you are. To know yourself as the Being underneath the thinker, the stillness underneath the mental noise, the love and joy underneath the pain, is freedom, salvation, enlightenment.”
― Eckhart Tolle
love eckhart!
@@tarasuppleton he is great, yes.
amazing quote man!
The perfect words...
@@eleanorrigbywhatdoesitmean it is!
I thought I was gonna hear about a cool dmt trip but now I’m crying
Thanks and I understand this after meeting mother several times
me too lol
Me too ❤
haha yeah
cadance cunningham LMAOOOOOOO
Could be the best talk I have ever seen!
Oh wow I teared up so many times and laughed so hard at moments, I am filled with so many things right now. This is not the ted talk I expected, but it is the ted talk I needed right now in my life.
i really got to get it dude thanks
It was a talk that left me many teachings, the ego is like a psychic structure, the result of our experiences and experiences from the earliest childhood, which progressively shape our idea of the self, the image we have of ourselves, many would appreciate seeing it too, I recommend it
Really, I heard his talk. I can understand perfectly your emotions. He is really a witty man with some serious sense of humour, but with his laugh his tears became more and more visible. His voice was literally shaking at times. But also it brought a shred of smile at moments. It is really a very heart touching pep talk.
OMG, this made me cry so many times. I have to know did he find the man and his dog, and OMG that poor little girl. This will stay with me a long time.
Excellent Words Continue this way, My friend, more than these useful videos
This was by far the BEST Ted Talk I have ever watched. I've gained far more than I would've imagined from a video I was hesitant to watch. I'm so glad I did!
Thank you Ashley - you are very kind
Ashley Faria that’s what I wrote when I shared it on FB!
I agree 1000%
Couldn't agree with you more!
agree 100000%
I heard this somewhere recently- “ When you treat yourself like a king, that is self-respect. When you want everyone around to treat you like a king, that’s ego.”
It doesn’t get better than this.
So much truth to this!!!
We are nothing and yet we are everything when we let go of all of it
It doesnt get better than this for sure.
This is amazing thank you for your insight.
This is a treasure and the speaker is amazing.
This video should be mandatory for everyone to watch before the age of 19
I have seen this talk several times, I still cry each time and still get something new each time. If you want to feel your heart, watch this...
You are very kind
@@theothersideofego so are you
awesome
awesome
awesome
those words were really deep. especially the one where he told about his relationship with his daughter, that is so raw and honest. just wow
Wishing you all the inspiration and growth from this talk
May this journey to redemption bring us all closer to our best selves.
A real gem of a talk. Grateful you sent it.
This journey reminds us it's never too late to evolve and grow.
I hope it's brought positive change into your life as well.
“You’re not what you have and you’re not what you do.” Just a reminder for everyone out here still watching this video.
Your comment beautifully captures the heart of the video's message.
This quote encourages us to nurture our internal richness.
Your comment echoes the wisdom shared in the video about the true nature of identity.!👍
True words, our identity isn't defined by possessions or actions.
A much-needed perspective shift in today's materialistic culture.
Jonathan Gravenor, gifted, authentic, and mindful.
I have personally known Jonathan for many years as he was a member of my local golf club in Sydney, but never really knew the full extent of his cancer. Having my mother going through cancer right now I have so much respect and admiration for him. Jono if you reading this everyone at Warringah Is so proud of how far you have come.
Sam thanks for the kind words - and connect with me on facebook
@@theothersideofego so you said praying to a God you didnt believe in...do you now?
@@joec1212 I have a spiritual belief - but I am not religious
I wish it would be known out in the public that panacur c cures cancer it has done so for over 30 years but no one wants to say that please research it because all these people that are dying and can be saved with such a small amount have money and no side effects it's just amazing because they can't make money on it they won't tell us
@@theothersideofego thanks for sharing Jonathan, it was a nice story to connect with.
Kindness matters. Love for others matters. The truth matters.
Yes. I wish it wasn´t so difficult to live that in one´s life...
@@19Marc79 it isnt
Here's an empowering belief. A person's belief and a person's nature go hand in hand as do a person's nature and will, but most importantly the beliefs, nature and will of the collective generate the very reality in which we live. Only correct beliefs can set us free.
thank you for your kind words
Collective beliefs steer the world we share.
TEDxOcala's insights struck a deep chord.
Oh I have cried through this entire talk, so moving so raw
I saw this in 2020, and then heard it on a Jat Shetty podcast, and it reminded me how it made me feel so deeply, so here I am again today listening and crying.
TEDx talks can serve as beacons of hope, reminding us that resilience and hope can prevail even in the most challenging circumstances.
Indeed, the power of words should never be underestimated. A well-delivered TEDx talk has the potential to ignite inspiration and drive change.
The talk left me feeling inspired and motivated. It's amazing how a single speech can have such a profound impact.
Calls to action in TEDx talks can be incredibly empowering. They inspire us to channel our emotions into tangible steps towards making a difference.
I was moved by the speaker's call to action. It made me realize that I have the power to create positive change in my own life and the world.
How do I become more humble and diminish my ego.
Basically it comes down to being quiet. Don't brag about things you've done.
No need to lie. But it's, in my opinion, about not crowing your own awesomeness to make sure everyone knows. Keep stuff to yourself. You know how awesome you are, show people how awesome you are, don't tell them. Let them come to their own conclusion about your awesomeness. I think that helps keep ego in check and at least the appearance of humility.
Work at a soup kitchen. Not once or twice, but for weeks. It will humble you. A wise man one told me, "I complained because I didn't have any shoes, until I met the man who had no feet."
Diminishing ego and being humble isn't about thinking lowly, or less of yourself, it is about thinking about yourself less.
There is nothing more humbling than volunteering at a hospital. I recommend starting with adults. I play games at a kids hospital about twice a month. It puts things into perspective.
The most insightful talk I've heard! To be shown that the smallest gesture to another person can mean so much. We all can make our lives better by making someone else's day better! What a lesson for life!!!!
True!
Yes I agree too.
Thank you Larry you are very kind, bless you!
yes I agree Larry
Yes I agree
That rocked my world oh wow I needed that! THANK YOU!!!
I cried man, I can really feel his words by the way he speaks. 😭 Im glad ive learned so much from this man
Thanks Kevin...
I did not expect a talk on Ego on TED to be so emotional and real. This is just so beautiful, a must watch!
I didnt either
i know.
Incredible information thanks to this video now I know more about the subject, without a doubt very important, thanks I will share it with all my friends
good comment, i agree
I agree with it!
I cried while listening to this talk.. what a story.. thank you!
S G Same here
Jonathan’s encounter with Doug really illustrates the power of empathy and human connection. Sometimes the people we least expect teach us the most important lessons.
This human being!!!!!!! I loved everything about what he had to say and how he delivered it, incredible
The way in which someone delivers their message can make it more engaging, memorable, and impactful.
It's incredible how the delivery of a message can make it more relatable and meaningful, leaving a lasting impression on the listener.
The impact of effective communication can be seen in how it influences our thoughts, perspectives, and actions.
The impact of effective communication can be seen in how it influences our thoughts, perspectives, and actions.
The ability to communicate effectively is a valuable skill that can inspire and empower others.
My heart is aching after watching this, so much truth and raw honesty. Bless you Jonathan!
I'm grateful for Jonathan's willingness to be vulnerable and share his truth. His talk was a reminder that our stories matter and can make a difference.
Sending love and support to Jonathan. His talk was a reminder that sharing our stories can bring healing and connection to others.
Jonathan's talk was a testament to the power of authenticity and speaking from the heart. It left me feeling both moved and inspired.
Blessings to Jonathan for his courage in sharing his truth. His talk touched my heart and reminded me of the power of vulnerability.
Jonathan's words had a profound impact on me. His talk was a catalyst for self-reflection and a deeper understanding of my own emotions.
Dude this is the deepest Ted talk ever I've got so mutch more work to do in my life and none of it is earning money
thank you, and thank you for doing good work
@@theothersideofego is this really you? Because if it is I just want to tell you that I had a pretty bad day today, started distancing from the people that are the ones that love me, but this speech gave me another perspective to life I was forgetting and lacking. Thank you sir, this was beautiful. May God bless you.
@@iloverussia111 hi you are kind, sorry I dont monitor my account that much, yes learning that the best love is what we give and not what we get helped me a lot.
What an incredibly beautiful man.
I think so too
When I saw EGO as the talk I did not expect this, this is much more than I thought I would get. I am still crying.
Same here! Unable to control my tears.
I was trying to know about Ego from various sources and undoubtedly, this is a wonderful source.
So I stumbled over the word "ego" a lot in the form of "let go of your ego", "healthy vs unhealthy ego", "the ego is important to function as an individual", etc. A lot of people here seem to get that there is an ego and that it can be unhelpful and give us unsatisfying emotions, thoughts or drag us in our growth. It seems all agreed that it is good to overcome your ego (temporarily) if it is not helpful in the moment.
Stumble over ego? Is it a physical thing?
Amazing JB, love that you found this.........
This guys talk is really good though.
Great work Jordan thanks for posting this.
Keep finding these gems, I really like them
I remember when you read the news in Eastern Canada, you were a handsome confident man back then. But now you are a beautiful soulful man, so authentic. This is my favorite talk ever, thank you.
It is still my 2nd home, I may have been raised out west, but a big part of my heart is in the east.
very sensitive and beautiful way to point out the value in being authentic.
Deeply moving truths and raw emotions, this is without a doubt one of the best Teds I have ever witnessed. I am left with questions, but also answers, and maybe that is life, we keep asking questions, and when we ask the right ones, the answers appear. Bravo Mr Gravenor
"Thank you for sharing this talk! It's a great reminder that ego isn't always a negative thing."
"I appreciate how the speaker emphasized the importance of balancing ego with humility. It's a delicate dance."
"This talk made me reflect on my own ego and how it impacts my relationships. Very thought-provoking."
"I found the speaker's personal anecdotes to be incredibly relatable. It's comforting to know I'm not alone in my ego struggles."
"Ego can be such a destructive force, but this talk shows that it can also be a catalyst for personal growth."
The single most powerful TED ever. A must hear for everyone.
Thanks for sharing this TEDx talk. It's an inspiring talk.
I'm thankful you shared this TEDx talk. It's a valuable insight.
Thank you for sharing this TEDx talk. It's an enlightening talk.
I appreciate you sharing this TEDx talk. It's a fantastic recommendation.
Thanks for sharing this TEDx talk. It's a thought-provoking talk.
My favorite quotes, "The best things are said when we don't exchange words, we just exchange space." and "The judgement I had of him blinded me to his intent."
Thanks Marcia
Perfect talk at a perfect time again, I have watched this at least 6 times.
i have never been this emotional listening to someone's story. i'm humbled
Thank you Desmond you are very kind
I cried a lot because I realized so much of what you said is exactly what I needed to hear.
I have thought - since I was ill and finally reached out for help - that none of us are alone - there is always many people out there who understand exactly what we are going through
What an extraordinary man, with an extraordinary message. Thank you for your brilliance and your wisdom and reminding me of mine. xxx
"He reminds us of the power of love and its ability to transform individuals and societies."
"His extraordinary message encourages us to live in harmony with nature and the world around us."
"He reminds us that true happiness comes from within and is not dependent on external circumstances."
"His words have the power to shift our perspective and inspire positive change."
"His message challenges us to let go of attachments and find freedom in the present moment."
So glad something led me to rewatch this amazing talk...
I learned many years ago that God can speak through literally ANYONE & He does!! Calls us to look at the message, not the man.. over & over again
Thank you for your kind words
I learned many years ago that there are incredible people amongst us still and regardless of the tribulations that God rains down upon us, we as people are capable of picking each other up and we ought to try everyday.
There are good people and we should try every day to be one of them. Don't wait for God to tell you to do amazing things. It's in you. Just do it.
@@ddo9712 very true very cool
This was so hard to listen too, but also impossible to turn off. The best talk I have ever heard and it will stay with me a long time. Bless you Jonathan.
Oh I agree Sheryl so much!
I agree.
yes it was, but worth every second.
Great description, and a reality we all must face one day
exactly!
This could be one of the most honest talks I have seen, he stripped himself down and showed his warts and scars and all. he didn't seek redemption, he just looked for truth and meaning. This talk will help change people. But I need to know - where are Doug and his dog and what is Jonathan Gravenor doing now?
Yes it is great ! I like it too
Great talk, indeed.
Me too bro I need to know what is Jonathan Gravenor doing now?😁
Very much agree with you this is definitely a great talk
Nice video. I love it. Thanks for uploaded this inspirational TED talk This video is very important for me.
This man's interior is full of pearls of wisdom coming out of his mouth non stop. I'm stunned.
So many moments just in one talk, best TEDx ever!
Wow, this is so emotional; the discovery of one's true purpose can provide a sense of purpose and meaning in even the most difficult of circumstances. And also leaves you in such a vulnerable state.
This man is a legend. 5 years ago published this talk, and still everything applies as we're speaking about it today. Great job! This will live forever. True legend!
So true! It's a beautiful journey of self-discovery. 🌺
It's true that discovering your purpose can leave you in a vulnerable state. When you are exploring your deepest desires and passions, it can feel like you are exposing a part of yourself that you've kept hidden for a long time. But vulnerability can also be a source of strength and resilience. When you are willing to be vulnerable, you open yourself up to new possibilities and opportunities that you may have never considered before. And ultimately, this vulnerability can lead you to discover your true purpose and live a more fulfilling life.
Finding your purpose can be a source of strength and resilience in times of adversity.
he journey of discovering your purpose can be full of surprises and unexpected twists. 🤩
A very good man, telling us something very important. May he live much longer so he can keep telling us what we need to remember, our love and humanity should always be first.
same here, never looked at things this way. it’s a fresh perspective for the new year!
"The best things are said when we don't exchange words, we just exchange space"
That hit me hard.
I like it
I've had such bad anxiety for the last 5 years and these talks have helped so much. yours resonated with me because of recent events in my life
Just as you need to take care of your body after treatment, you need to take care of your emotions
Being open and dealing with your emotions help you feel less worried.
on’t make light of, judge, or try to change the way the person feels or acts. Let them know that you’re open to talking whenever they feel like it.
Jonathan's message and delivery was absolutely beautiful. It was a pleasure to hear what he had to say and I think more so it was important to hear. What a fantastic motivational speaker. What a fantastic and kind man.
This talk resonated with me on a profound level. It's a reminder that our struggles can shape us and lead us to meaningful growth. Thank you for sharing your emotional and inspiring story.
what a powerful reminder of the resilience and strength of the human spirit. It's amazing how someone's personal story can have such a universal impact. Thank you for sharing your journey.
I was deeply touched by this talk. It's a reminder that our emotions connect us as humans and that we can find strength in vulnerability. Thank you for sharing your story and inspiring us all.
This talk reminded me of the power of storytelling. It's through sharing our experiences that we can inspire others and create positive change. Thank you for sharing your emotional journey.
I couldn't help but be moved by this talk. It's incredible how a speaker's vulnerability can create such a deep impact on the audience. Thank you for sharing your story and touching our hearts.
The first 3 minutes I judged, the next four I had realized once again how wrong I truly realized I am, thank you for the gift of realization and acknowledgement
I think awareness is the first step - thank you for your kind words
it's videos like this that remind me why I love TEDx talks. real stories, real people, real change.
"humility is not thinking less about your self, it's thinking about yourself less“
🔄🔄🔄
I couldn't agree more! Humility is about recognizing that we are all interconnected and that our actions and words have an impact on others.
Well said! Humility is not about thinking less of ourselves but about thinking of ourselves in a broader context. It's about embracing a mindset that values the well-being and happiness of others.
Absolutely! Humility is about recognizing our own worth and capabilities while also acknowledging the worth and capabilities of others. It's about fostering an environment of mutual respect and understanding.
I love this perspective! Humility is about having a balanced view of ourselves and recognizing that our worth is not solely defined by our own accomplishments. It's about valuing others as well.
Well said! Humility is not about self-deprecation or denying our own potential. It's about recognizing that we are part of something greater and approaching life with a sense of humility and gratitude.
I cme here for learning and din't expect I'm gonna cry. But I guess it's the best way to learn. Amazing talk.
thank you for your kind words - I learned through Doug and Molly and the little girl and I cried - I discovered that I don't want to follow the man who teaches me with books, and lectures - I want to learn from the men (or woman) that teaches me by living the life I want to live...
Someone sent this to me again, and I watched it again, and again I cried for so long. My heart broke and became even bigger at the same time. So beautiful.
This was one of those profound eye-openers that is literally a gift
OMG, this made me cry so many times. I have to know did he find the man and his dog, and OMG that poor little girl. This will stay with me a long time.
Very good comment my friend, amazing!!
I agree with you this video also made me emotional
Same here. This is amazing, indeed.
Me too, OMG I can't stop thinking about that poor little girl.
These words really touched my soul, the wisdom that this man has is very great.
This has me crying at my desk! I’m grateful for this talk!
I have cried many times since then - 7 years ago now - but more joy and softness in the tears these days
I have never cried like this watch a ted talk before...
thank you
that makes 2 of us bro
Such wisdom and poise and care.
yes true
I taught myself early in my teen years that my life was solely dependent on how I wanted it to be. Didn't really care much what people thought of me, as long as I knew I wasn't hurting anyone and I respected people.
Walked out one morning
in search of valour
I saw a moviestar
humbing around blatantly
in a starshaped manner,
occupied by his own steps.
I quickly turned
and found a soldier
blinded by a just cause
grown sour.
I frowned and saw an athlete
curled up and tense
to achieve the love
of his long lost father.
I walked on
and met a business man
smiling without joy
and speaking without heart.
Almost giving up I sat down
now seeing a man with scars
and a face that defied
the firm despair of time.
I was reached by a smile
and offered my hand,
cause in my search of valour
I found the homeless man.
So great!
I am a soldier a sailor a father and a homeless man
@@silascochran9705 Thank you for your service sir. I will keep you in prayer.
Wow beautiful we can use all the help we can get a smile is good enough sometimes
@@gregthompson1743 thank you for being out there and your concern I'm doing well
I have watched this so many times, I come to it on days when everything seems bad, and I find hope. Thank you!
me too
Keep sending us these links Sue!
Keep sending us these links Sue!
I want to know where that man and his dog are now?
@@katiedodd2548 I will
A friend sent me this. I'm so glad we have people like this, not ashamed to be open and honest.
Like he said, I wasn't scared of dying, I was sacred of living, that is so true for me too.
Blair very kind of you, thanks!
Me too.
True for a lot of us i think
This is the probably the first time I have ever cried listening to a TED talk.
I started working in the hospital this year, and to protect myself from all the suffering of my patients I had become emotionally numb.
You helped me realise why I had chosen medicine in the first place.
Jonathon - I truly hope you are well. Bless you for opening the eyes of many.
thanks, you are very kind
@@theothersideofego Thank you for accepting the invite to talk, Jonathan. Yours is such a blessing and the most inspiring TED Talk I've watched and listened to so far. I also hope that you and your family are well, the same goes for Doug and Molly.
"God took the wrong one that day." - This made me recall the many times I told God that He (or She) made a mistake in giving me life, knowing how I'd disappointed my parents and other people many times. It's such a struggle to live, love, and forgive oneself.
My sister lost her 5 year old. Listening to this I could see my little niece as being that young girl he met. She was so wise for her age, so giving. This has made me cry so much, tears I don't want to end. Bless you sir bless you for bringing this to the world.
wow, thats just awful, how is she dealing with it now
OMG, i am so sorry for you and your family
thats tragic.
wow, this is so sad, I am so sorry for you and your family
This is so powerful so moving... thank you thank you thank you
wonderful send thanks
I felt his words in my heart.
You are too kind - thank you for this
I've just literally listened to your speech three times non-stop. I LOVE your language, your tone, your modulation, your topic, your insights, your delivery and your use of vocabulary. I hope to experience you at a speech personally some day! Thank you for this wonderful presentation.
Hope to see him live!
He is the best, no doubt!
I'm blown away by your speech. Your passion and expertise shine through every word.
Your speech should be a must-watch for everyone. Such valuable insights deserve to be shared widely.
This man is full with pearls of wisdom coming out of his mouth non stop. I'm stunned. This talk will resonate with me for a long time. It really helps you clarify what really is important. Thank you Jonathan.
A massive thank you to Jonathan for making such a difference
This brings back my c, prostate at 29, full removal. Thought my life was over, but slowly the fear of what I was losing got replaced about what I was saving. Many you are good, I get this, important talk brother, keep speaking, the world needs you.
Amazing speech. This has definitely inspired me to find my true self. I am 27 and to me my past 15 years are like frozen. I was like a walking dead like. But when life wakes you up, the feeling is truly amazing. Shout out to those who do not give up on improving themselves regardless of age!
me too man, me too. Powerful!!!!
I feel humbled beyond words yet want to comment; over and over, my heart keeps saying thank you. The most moving and life-useful TED talk I've seen, compellingly told. I am grateful for your experience and your gifting us by sharing it. I'm also so happy for you and your daughter about you reconnecting.
Thank you Anna, you are very kind. A few months ago I moved across the country so we are in the same city now. It is so cool. Your words are really appreciated.
I’ve seen a lot of TEDx talks, but this one... it's just on another level. The raw honesty and vulnerability of Jonathan’s story is something else.
When you talked about losing the little girl, I lost it, I had to stop the video because I was crying
I still find it hard - so hard - as it seems so unfair that the most pure and perfect are taken
My greatest fear is being misunderstood. And yet, I've never been good at being my vulnerable self. I don't want my life to be a message that is not mine.
The vulnerability that arises from discovering one's true purpose is a reminder of the importance of being open to self-discovery and embracing our passions, even if it means exposing our innermost selves.
I agree wholeheartedly. The emotional depth that accompanies the discovery of one's true purpose is a reflection of the profound impact it can have on our lives and well-being.
The emotional impact of discovering one's purpose is a testament to the transformative power of self-exploration and the pursuit of personal fulfillment.
The vulnerability that arises from discovering one's true purpose can be seen as a strength, as it signifies our willingness to embrace our passions and live authentically.
I'm glad you feel the emotional weight of discovering one's purpose. It's a reminder of the richness and depth that can be found when we align our lives with our true calling.
Unlike any TED I have ever seen, it speaks to a place in us which is much deeper.
Thank you William!
@@theothersideofego very welcome
The supreme one giving ted talks while guarding the universe