How I overcame social anxiety
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- Опубліковано 8 лис 2020
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I'm more of an introvert too. In high school, people would ask me all the time, 'Why are so quiet?' I just didn't know what to say. I would also plan dialogue in my head. Very relatable video. Thanks for sharing.
I know it’s so painful to think about what to say and expected responses
@@asema.1484you could always reply with “why are you so loud?” I’m still waiting to use that one but I’m tired of being questioned for a personality type I didn’t choose to have 😂
Same
Same same
Hey@nerdybucks,bro i was having the same problem do you think its something related to parenting or it is genetics?
Take it slow, don't worry about pace; with each day, week and month, if you're focused on improving, things will slowly get better. As Jordan Peterson beautifully put it ― “Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today.”
pls dont quote that fascist
Many people watching this feel this way, it’s all love man glad to see you overcame your social anxiety keep on working !
Social anxiety is pretty serious compared to just being a introvert. I'm a introvert - ISTJ to be exact. so I understand
I dont have a problem with asking strangers questions i do this all the time my problem is more about adavncing from the question level to an actual flowing conversation
Embracing nihilism ironically helped me with depression and anxiety ... when you accept the fact that nothing in the world really matters you accept that nothing you do or that happens to you will matter ... you will die and eventually be forgotten and your entire slate wiped clean ... you free yourself from the outcome ...
I never liked talking to store employees. I have always struggled to talk to anybody I don't know. I would rather wander a store for an hour looking for 1 product than asking an associate "hey, where's the _____"
I relate to this so much😂 I’m 18 and when I’m around my friends I’m my normal self but when I’m around people I don’t know I do anything I can to avoid interaction
Even with my friends I am anxious 😬
@A Person I am also like that 😬
At least u have friends.
I wanna add something positive to the 3 seconds rule. 3 years ago I was about to go in the supermarket when I saw a cute looking girl near the entrance, counted till 3 then went and approached her. She's been my girlfriend since and all of her girlfriends and family say that's so sweet. It is actually that powerful. Too many times we are just caught up in our minds overthinking. Next time just count till 3 and go, if it's the right person, it will go so well, if not...well, it doesn't matter anyway I would say.
This is actually extremely helpful! Thanks Ryan!
Wow! I started off watching your videos so I could manage & invest my money better. I would’ve never guessed that you struggled with this. I struggle w/ social anxiety as well, but I’ve been having success getting over it through my photography. Speaking to clients & directing them boosted my confidence & a regular photoshoot always turns into a great conversation. I wish you & everyone else in this comment section much love & luck on their journey. We’ll overcome this together ❤️❤️❤️
This is so relatable. Thanks for sharing!
Ryan, thank you! There’s not a lot out there on this topic and people needed this.
All great tips 👍👍 Thank you for sharing❣
This is one of your best videos Ryan, thanks for making it.
This is a real problem for many people! Thank you for going out of your way as a big UA-camr to spread the good word and advice!
Yess ryan! Great tips!! Keep up the amazing work 🔥🔥
As someone who can relate, this video was much needed.
I appreciate your vulnerability! You are an amazing person with a great heart!
Thank you Ryan! I can totally relate! I appreciate you for sharing this and for putting yourself out there! I know it takes great courage.
Appreciate the info man I have struggled with this exact thing, it helps to know that other people struggle with this too!
Never expected this video from you. Thanks for sharing, Ryan! It's nice to see a different video topic!
Social anxiety is a real thing. Thank you for creating this video!
Thank you for sharing. It takes a lot of courage to do what you have done in this video. Be your best self. All the best.
Very interesting. Never would of guessed it coming from you. I remember as a kid all through grade school, jr high, and high school etc, I hated public speaking in front of the class. I tried whenever possible choosing topics that interested me so that when I had to read them out loud it wouldn't seem so bad. However, I found it easier to do this when I went to college because students were more mature and asked questions and seemed interested in what I had to say. Somehow that helped break the ice when i was able to explain things that were not clear to them. And you feel like you've accomplished something when you see students interacting with each other who otherwise would not all because I brought something to the table that made them think. It can be quite rewarding while at the same time as the saying goes practice makes perfect.
Great Video, cheers for putting yourself out there.
Thanks for your vulnerability and sharing your story with your audience. Appreciate it Ryan 🙂 We love you ❤
Out of all your videos I've watched this resonated with me the most... great tips.... I guess more people struggle with this than I thought.
very courageous to speak out about your personal issues much love
Bless you for making this
Wow this was a really really thoughtful video. I love the transparency. I have social anxiety. I don’t like to be by people. I don’t like to talk a lot. I always feel like I will get judge for when the attention is on me. I have started my channel a few months now. Just watch your video shows me that everyone goes through their battle. While everyone sees the result they don’t see behind the scene. At least for me I started to make my channel so I can just work on how to talk to the camera and at least try to help a few people out. Thank you Ryan for sharing your story and experience. Means a lot for everyone when you have a person who is transparent to help others out. Stay safe you everyone and have a great day. 💯
I think its wonderful you are sharing this and I am an introvert and can appreciate this. Thank you 🙏
This was a very unexpected yet welcome video. 1st I would have never known that about you. This is very timely because my daughter suffers from really bad Social anxiety and this will be extremely helpful for her thank you so much. God-bless
So relatable & I’ve noticed it feeling a lot worse this year in general.
Love your honesty and thanks for open up and talk about it.
This is something I absolutely did.
I am inspired to have a compliment quota!! I happened to give someone a compliment already 😁
Much respect I have social anxiety as well led to depression. Thanks foe sharing your story. . I also started making UA-cam videos to push myself as well
Brilliant Advice.. Thanks for sharing. This actually stuff works!
Thanks man I needed some positive words
Thank you for sharing this. I used to struggle with this.
You are the best Ryan!
Thank you for your honesty!
Powerful video Ryan! I love the 3-2-1-GO. I'm going to use it!!
Great video Mr. Ryan
Appreciate the transparency on this Ryan, I think most of us have this even a little bit so it helps to know its not just us.
Really enjoyed this new video, awesome 😎
Big Thanks, not every experience ir anxiety is equal, but this could be every important to so many people
Great video! I was exactly like you in high school! Great tips as well.
3 2 1 Go. I'm going to do my best to try this out. thank you ryan. I hope to get over it like you have.
Ryan, you are an awesome guy, thank you.
Practicing these steps has made me much more confident as well!
Thank you for being honest..
Great video. Thanks for sharing.
Wow I've been stuck in bed all day thanks Ryan I appreciate this a lot
cool editing,. Very well done.
Thanks I really needed this. I’ve been trying to call people everyday but just ran out of excuses to call strangers. I’m probably only at the stage of being comfortable waving and saying hi to people I pass by and even that sometimes stresses me out lol. I haven’t gotten as far as complimenting or making conversation yet but I definitely want to
This was a great video. Thanks!
Great insight! This is perfect for my video. 🙏
Insight is appreciated
Great tips! I had the problem with calling someone myself, I think I still do sometimes haha! Thanks for sharing!
Thank you for the video.
This video really helps a lot. It’s as if you read my mind and said here goes the solution to your problems 😅
I thought I was the only who suffered from this.. relieved . I experienced the same thing in highschool. But now I think I have gotten over that fear on my own. As you were giving these advices.. I realized this was just how I got over it. Perfect advices👍
When i did therapy, i overcame it completely for 3 months. Not a single month overthinking shit, or fearing what will happend again. I was myself 99% and maybe i was a bit scared to be sarcastic with friends that's why i was not 100% myself. So if you think that you overcame your social anxiety and still have fears when thinking about talking to people. I guess you did not and i don't really know what to tell you instead of going to see a good therapist and being consistent with the sessions and applying all the things that they tell you to do. It's not normal to be scared when you talk to other people, like you have to work on yourself till you never get this feeling of fear again. Might take a while, but if you are still scared, that means that you are not okay. I was so confident before i got social anxiety, so confident about myself, i always did things that i loved to do without giving a shit about what others felt, i was able to make friends easily by just being myself. I knew what i wanted and i just did it. I mean if before you had social anxiety you were at ease with something, if now you are not like before so how the fuck you overcame That shit? There are some work to be done
Great video really aprecciate it! Thanks
Yeah I still suffer from this a little bit. Getting into the service industry as a teenager definitely helped, but I find I still avoid conversation when there are alternatives. And it's still difficult for me to engage family members and friends. Definitely a work in progress for me.
Pretty serendipitous this video appeared. I struggle with SA off and on and it's been tough lately, so today I decided to re-read How to Be Yourself, which I consider the bible of the condition. I felt great afterwards and then this video was the icing on the cake. This progression is really valuable and something I plan on starting. Thank you, Ryan
Thanks for the book suggestion! I'll be sure to check it out :).
Wonderful video, god bless you, thanks!
Basically all comes down to practice. The more you practice anything the better you get at it. Practice socializing as much as possible.
Great advice
thanks bro!
●Switch from messaging to calling a person.
●Try to talk to strangers like im store asking for product or ordering food on phones or anything.
●Compliment random people like u are wearing nice jacket or u have nice smile or u look good today.
●Have a conversation with a stranger like without an unprepared script, through urself in the situation saying 1 2 3 and here i go.
●dont let the overthinking eat you up.
I thought I was the only one with social anxiety but I was wrong. Also I like Ryan's video on social anxiety which is different and not related just to finance. I hope Ryan will post more videos that are not related just to finance
Thank you ♥️
Nice one! I enjoy all your informative videos, how do you manage to talk in an uninterrupted fashion at length without any hiccups?
Thanks, gonna try this.
Loving this right now. Successful but I just want to be left alone
Its very awkward situation when you are in it. Thankfully completely out of it now.
Wow! That is wild. You are handsome. You have beautiful eyes. You look like you have a nice physique. It is comforting to know that you have an anxiety issue because I am like that, too. Thank you for the helpful advice! Great video!
I was watching the part in the video when you said 3,2,1 go and in the same moment i had a situation when i applied the tehnique.
Would love to see passice income report vids back!
I can relate to you. I got help from Toastmasters. It is a wonderful platform to improve public speaking and come out of social anxiety. I practiced well in Toastmasters for couple of years. I can give speeches to large audience without showing any anxiety. I just got my job because of the skills I learned in Toastmasters. Where else you will get free audience who encourages you even when you fail to speak.
Just inhale deep, saying,” I'm not the body,” and exhale, saying, “I'm not the mind.”
Cool video
So good
i relate to this but only with people my age (mostly in school). im 15 and i already made lots of friends at random places like an amusement park, the cinema, etc; but in school i just can't
People think I'm so confident on the outside but I'm really just scared.
I cant communicate. Even if ppl ask me abt something, I will simply pass it with a 'Nothing, m fine' rather than telling abt actual thing cos i feel like m wasting there time. Even when m talking to my frnd.
Gotta get the LL Bean sponsor ahaha love the intro though! Great video man!
I got a job in the restaurant business it has helped me a lot
My social anxiety mainly comes from the way I look, being overweight, having dark circles, etc. I'm scared to go outside because I get the fear that people are looking at me, laughing or thinking omg, he's fat. I also have some pretty bad dark circles under my eyes. I get anxious when I'm talking to someone people I know they are looking at my dark circles and thinking, is this guy on drugs, does he get sleep at all, or whatever. Back in High School, omg, it was the WORSE!!! I had some really bad anxiety sweats. Just sitting there in the class room, I would start sweating if I started to think of negative thoughts. My sweating anxiety isn't so bad today, it's gotten a lot better, but I still do from time to time only if I'm in a situation I can't get out of or if I'm doing anything physical.
I know what I am to do to over come these problems today, it's going to take some work though.
"Probably never going to see them ever again" sees them everyday
I have had a hard time with this my whole life but I’m not afraid to approach strangers at store’s restaurants etc. it’s more like I’m invited to a get together, there’s a bunch of people there I don’t know and then your forced to have small talk with them, just because it’s “polite” and that I can’t stand. Not sure if there is any remedy for that...and if it’s weather and sports I am already mentally checking out lol
4:08 god I hate when people do that lol but I do agree just talking in general will help a lot
I used to be a very anxious person I didn’t talk to anyone if no reason to that’s why I am single for 19 years 😂 but after I worked as a cashier I am very good hooker now. Unfortunately covid made my single for another year 🤕
It seems you over came your social anxiety. But continue to improve yourself. 😀👍
Ryan please make more self development type of videos or masculinity videos. Thank you
I know I struggle with it also
Congrats man
Plz pray for me 🥺❤️
You don't have to speak, money speaks for you 🤑💰💰