how to make friends in school when you don't have any :’)

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  • not that I'm a friend expert or anythhhhhing but here are some tips for all my peeps that need some extra help making friends this upcoming school year! I personally have struggled making friends in the past, but trust me quality is WAY more important than quantity. thanks for watching and subscribe for more!!!
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  • @maridays
    @maridays 3 роки тому +4747

    things that helped me make friends at uni:
    1 - don't be on your phone ALL the time. one time i was just sitting on a bench and a girl started to talk to me and now we are really good friends!😊
    2 - use fandoms/bands/singers merch, trust me its so easy to start conversations 😄😁
    3 - if you find out that someone is going home the same way that you ask them if you can go together ( this one also helped me a LOT)
    4 - as Marla said, don't be afraid of starting the conversation. Sometimes the other person wants to talk to you but they're afraid too
    (sorry for my english😅 i hope this will help someone😊❤)

    • @MarlaCatherine
      @MarlaCatherine  3 роки тому +387

      These are super helpful tips!! ❤️

    • @beverycarefuljohn586
      @beverycarefuljohn586 3 роки тому +54

      Thank you so much! I need advice lol

    • @maridays
      @maridays 3 роки тому +40

      i'm glad i could help!✨💖

    • @hanamashali3313
      @hanamashali3313 3 роки тому +32

      yeah I became friend with a girl because we ride the same bus

    • @aubreymmaria
      @aubreymmaria 3 роки тому +7

      I agree 100%

  • @baraamejbri9566
    @baraamejbri9566 3 роки тому +1317

    It's hard to make friends when you have anxiety and mental health issues. I have no effort for that which is kind of sad :)

    • @zuzannaszwedek6067
      @zuzannaszwedek6067 3 роки тому +29

      Same

    • @0nikolaigogol0
      @0nikolaigogol0 3 роки тому +39

      I've been bullied, it's harder to heal

    • @samb2814
      @samb2814 3 роки тому +10

      i feel you

    • @imanelak3377
      @imanelak3377 3 роки тому +9

      @@0nikolaigogol0 same ugh

    • @0nikolaigogol0
      @0nikolaigogol0 3 роки тому +17

      @@imanelak3377 I wish my family would give a shit about me and accept me the way I am

  • @Sofia-bl9cb
    @Sofia-bl9cb 3 роки тому +451

    i love how "normal" you make it seems, not having many friends has always made me feel like shit and super embarrassed

    • @MarijaaaV1307
      @MarijaaaV1307 3 роки тому +27

      Girl, same with me. I'm aware if the fact that's not true, you know, but I always feel embarrased in front of somebody else when they know I just have like 2 friends and that they have a bunch of.

    • @Lilachristiina
      @Lilachristiina 2 роки тому +9

      @@MarijaaaV1307 literally. I’ve got one friend only, and I feel like people think I’m weird for it😅

    • @MarijaaaV1307
      @MarijaaaV1307 2 роки тому +8

      @@Lilachristiina little update
      I don' feel that way now, and you shouldn't either. If I have changed, you can too. I thought I would be like that for the rest of my life, it was really strange for me to think things would escalate in better way, but it has happened. Now, I'm proud of the fact I have a few friends that I've been in company with from primary school because they are very special to me in every aspect. Just think that less is more if it's quality.

    • @velvethoebar
      @velvethoebar 2 роки тому

      LITERALLY

    • @Lily-ow5wm
      @Lily-ow5wm Рік тому

      @@MarijaaaV1307 have you made any more friends?

  • @es-gf1rd
    @es-gf1rd 3 роки тому +436

    tips from me:
    > talking about (almost) anything is always better than being quiet
    > act like you have known the person for ages so they feel comfortable

    • @yoonjimarriedyoongiandgoth7300
      @yoonjimarriedyoongiandgoth7300 3 роки тому +59

      I srsly don't know how to start or respond to a convo
      My mind be like:should I say this?no...it would be awkward...should I say that?no the sentence is too long....should I just respond saying "yes"?nah she might think I'm rude and don't wanna talk to her
      And then I end up with just a yes and they don't know what to say to me
      After all this shat I be like:should I start a convo?nah she might think I'm too talkative and Boring
      And that's why I got no friends😀

    • @ilovenuggets4513
      @ilovenuggets4513 3 роки тому +28

      @@yoonjimarriedyoongiandgoth7300 omg sameeee and i just feel like all the people think they are better than me and stuff and i feel worthless

    • @yoonjimarriedyoongiandgoth7300
      @yoonjimarriedyoongiandgoth7300 3 роки тому +3

      @@ilovenuggets4513 ugh same!!I thought that it was only me but atleast someone can relate to me😩

    • @ilovenuggets4513
      @ilovenuggets4513 3 роки тому +11

      @@yoonjimarriedyoongiandgoth7300 tbh i believe now everyone feels like this except for people in our schools. I just like to lock myself in the room and i would be happy

    • @sans4124
      @sans4124 2 роки тому +2

      @@yoonjimarriedyoongiandgoth7300 just say something
      Saying something is better than looking like an idiot that does not know about basic communication skills

  • @helenjlee1
    @helenjlee1 3 роки тому +3360

    marla saving us here for those who actually don't have friends at school aka meeee 🤠

  • @milkybananas3811
    @milkybananas3811 3 роки тому +1311

    Friends should not be made by not acting like yourself. It’ll become tiring trying to keep up with the “persona” you made when you become friends with those people. Please be yourself as silly as that sounds, then you won’t feel like you have to force that fake version of yourself. It’ll help you and them in the long run. Be safe, and remember we love you 🤍🍄

    • @MarlaCatherine
      @MarlaCatherine  3 роки тому +125

      YES!! 🙌🏼

    • @labonimredha3466
      @labonimredha3466 3 роки тому +43

      This comment is SO relevant and true

    • @vanessamejias1688
      @vanessamejias1688 3 роки тому +18

      True i did this and was honestly miserable ik its corny and overused but its overused for a reason

    • @Anglz-rj8sp
      @Anglz-rj8sp 3 роки тому +11

      But they don’t like the real me 😃

    • @a.kyx06
      @a.kyx06 3 роки тому +18

      @@Anglz-rj8sp if they don’t like the real you then they aren’t worthy of being your friends.

  • @leah3815
    @leah3815 3 роки тому +581

    The fact that I actually looked this up is really sad.

    • @sofiagraziellar.villanueva4499
      @sofiagraziellar.villanueva4499 2 роки тому +21

      same 😭

    • @Isabel-sr8ep
      @Isabel-sr8ep 2 роки тому +118

      I just wanted to make actual friends rather than just talking to my classmates and then them acting like they don’t know me the next day

    • @mitzyitzy6554
      @mitzyitzy6554 2 роки тому +4

      @@reemalsuwaidi705 wait fr?! Omg I'll add u rn!

    • @jorida5065
      @jorida5065 2 роки тому +3

      Bro fr

    • @whafflet
      @whafflet 2 роки тому +3

      sameeee

  • @alicehelge3658
    @alicehelge3658 3 роки тому +1712

    "join a club"
    wait yall have clubs at school?
    laughs in Swedish

    • @indre4151
      @indre4151 3 роки тому +30

      I thought the same. Im lithuanian

    • @hannan5091
      @hannan5091 3 роки тому +16

      omg jag är oxå svensk 😹😝

    • @damndanim
      @damndanim 3 роки тому +4

      Laughs in Argentinian

    • @kristinestrand
      @kristinestrand 3 роки тому +9

      Laughs in Norwegian :))

    • @imanelak3377
      @imanelak3377 3 роки тому +5

      Laughs in Moroccan

  • @elektra6849
    @elektra6849 3 роки тому +1987

    Me: Oh Marla posted
    Also Me: HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS???
    *drops everything and rushes over*

  • @MichelleChoe
    @MichelleChoe 3 роки тому +1159

    Me who just moved and needs friends watching like 🙂

  • @hehe-hw9xz
    @hehe-hw9xz 3 роки тому +825

    another way to start a convo: if you guys are in a class together and you have a question DONT BE AFRAID TO ASK THEM. this is a great convo starter and it also allows you guys to sorta get comfortable talking and conversing with each other. You begin to understand the vibe of the other person, and you can decide if you wanna be friends. Bonus: you have a person to ask questions to in class!

    • @maggiiuwu3022
      @maggiiuwu3022 2 роки тому +8

      ommg thank u

    • @dream_y1000
      @dream_y1000 2 роки тому +9

      Is it okay to ask a boy? I'm surrounded with boys.

    • @Oopzitzgabby
      @Oopzitzgabby 2 роки тому +8

      @@dream_y1000 yes ur lucky bc I have trouble talking to boys

    • @dream_y1000
      @dream_y1000 2 роки тому +6

      @@Oopzitzgabby hhh I’m still thinking of what to ask this boy that sits next to me I have a chance to talk to him when we go on break outside…

    • @Oopzitzgabby
      @Oopzitzgabby 2 роки тому +5

      @@dream_y1000 lucky pls help me bc idk what to sayyy

  • @gianna929
    @gianna929 3 роки тому +2324

    Am I the only one who searched up “how to make friends”? 😔😂

    • @aaulteu
      @aaulteu 3 роки тому +155

      no... thats exactly what im doing right now

    • @keiraanaya7630
      @keiraanaya7630 2 роки тому +71

      Feels 🥲🥲💔
      Like I have friends but we all have different classes and in different buildings anddd differnt lunch💔😺

    • @xsitied2708
      @xsitied2708 2 роки тому +43

      i literally searched that😭

    • @camronrolfe7414
      @camronrolfe7414 2 роки тому +23

      No I did too

    • @florence6016
      @florence6016 2 роки тому +18

      no i did that i'm lonely 😞

  • @marjorielazo
    @marjorielazo 3 роки тому +476

    her: “i have very few friends”
    my thoughts: dude i legit have none :0

    • @marjorielazo
      @marjorielazo 3 роки тому +6

      no lo sé good luck!

    • @arandomhumanontheinternet617
      @arandomhumanontheinternet617 3 роки тому +5

      wanna be friends?

    • @devbro9271
      @devbro9271 3 роки тому

      @@arandomhumanontheinternet617 ua-cam.com/video/xOyLByeNMkA/v-deo.html

    • @bezaabby4359
      @bezaabby4359 3 роки тому +6

      I have friends I just want more lol

    • @litpotatoz5631
      @litpotatoz5631 3 роки тому +10

      I only have friends in dance but not school 😭. And this was all my fault for hurting my best friend’s feelings on accident.

  • @softcloudx7240
    @softcloudx7240 3 роки тому +1631

    this was on my recommend.
    didnt need to call me out like that youtube.

  • @JamesJoyce12
    @JamesJoyce12 3 роки тому +333

    “Sam sat down and started laughing. Patrick started laughing. I started laughing.
    And in that moment, I swear we were infinite.”
    ~ The Perks of Being a Wallflower

    • @anhadsidhu3283
      @anhadsidhu3283 3 роки тому +7

      my favorite book omg

    • @palakjain406
      @palakjain406 3 роки тому +6

      My favourite book 😍
      That book healed me in ways I don't even understand.

  • @Anathea
    @Anathea 3 роки тому +352

    Me: *reads title
    Me: I’ve been exposed

  • @goofy4327
    @goofy4327 3 роки тому +450

    lets be honest some people really needed this (including me)
    update: i had art club recently and i was so excited because i would make friends but it was a let-down because nobody talked :(

    • @goofy4327
      @goofy4327 3 роки тому +7

      Valentina Delgado tysm! ✨💕

    • @valentinadelgado7403
      @valentinadelgado7403 3 роки тому +9

      aili- no problem :D I love making people feel good

    • @youcannotspeaktomeanyhow
      @youcannotspeaktomeanyhow 3 роки тому +40

      Don’t be afraid to be the first to start a conversation

    • @memeeebimpabxj4126
      @memeeebimpabxj4126 3 роки тому +3

      No one really talks and our it’s like a quiet session

    • @maggiiuwu3022
      @maggiiuwu3022 2 роки тому +30

      YESS and its always “ start a conversation “ but its never “ here are some conversation starters “ 😔

  • @dion33
    @dion33 3 роки тому +412

    marla: how to make friends if you don't have any.
    Us: let us introduce ourselves :)

    • @ToriCastell
      @ToriCastell 3 роки тому +4

      d i o n i s i s This is so wholesome!!!

  • @alexwei4956
    @alexwei4956 3 роки тому +64

    Tips that helped me make friends 😃
    - Don't be afraid to ask for help on schoolwork. It's a great way to get to know people without knowing about their interests.
    - If you're in a common area and see somebody watching a show you like, talk to them! It makes great conversation starters. Same goes for people reading a good book or doing a hobby of yours.
    - Social media is a great way to connect with people at your school. I met a lot of people at my high school by finding on them on Instagram before the school year even started
    - Literally just compliment people. If you like their outfit, tell them! You'll meet a lot of people this way

    • @rcmm.212
      @rcmm.212 Рік тому +4

      I know I’m late but tysm !

  • @madewithpurposeyt
    @madewithpurposeyt 3 роки тому +79

    “don’t cut yourself down before you’ve had the chance to grow.” 🙌🌱🌻

  • @katelyn5840
    @katelyn5840 3 роки тому +271

    Genuinely worried about making friends at college when 80% of the college’s classes are online 🙃

    • @laurenchaffin6373
      @laurenchaffin6373 3 роки тому +8

      Oh wow I didn’t even think about this that’s gonna suck

    • @meb9137
      @meb9137 3 роки тому +2

      me too!!!

    • @meb9137
      @meb9137 3 роки тому

      Katelyn :))

    • @katelyn5840
      @katelyn5840 3 роки тому +4

      me b we’re in this together haha

    • @Alex-qs9jf
      @Alex-qs9jf 3 роки тому +12

      I feel really sorry for everyone who starts university this year. I started last year and doing everything online already sucks even though I already have friends here

  • @user-rm2vg1kt1t
    @user-rm2vg1kt1t 3 роки тому +651

    I don’t need friends, they disappoint me ✨

  • @hehe-hw9xz
    @hehe-hw9xz 3 роки тому +195

    About the gum/pen one: I had a friend a few years ago (I would like to say we were already pretty close) but after a while, I started giving him gum after lunch every day. Since our teacher would always be watching us, we found really creative and stupid ways to pass gum to each other, and that really helped us become better friends because we would always laugh at the ways we passed the gum. Also, I sat next to a girl a few years ago and I forgot my eraser and I asked her if I could borrow hers. we eventually became close friends and she honestly helped make the class a lot more enjoyable. SO IT WORKS GUYS DON'T BE AFRAID CUZ IT WORKS (at least for me)

    • @pasteleybloom4289
      @pasteleybloom4289 3 роки тому +3

      Wowww I’m glad it worked for youuu :) let me try this too: hey, can I borrow your pen?

    • @mrmk_16
      @mrmk_16 2 роки тому +2

      @@pasteleybloom4289 of courrrrse 😂

    • @alexandratimofti1057
      @alexandratimofti1057 2 роки тому +2

      Ok but i will acc start doing this

    • @whome815
      @whome815 2 роки тому +1

      me whos not allowed gum at my house: *crys in un flexable jaw*

    • @TheAroSpecWallet
      @TheAroSpecWallet Рік тому

      @@pasteleybloom4289 🖊🖋✒️
      Take 1

  • @tori8383
    @tori8383 3 роки тому +37

    i have friends, but they all kinda drifted over quarantine and i havent seen or talked to most of them since march, even my BEST friend, we barely talk anymore. I feel like no one likes me anymore and i need more friends, so thank you for this!

  • @Theyluvkeri
    @Theyluvkeri Рік тому +10

    It's the feeling of when there is a group project and you know you have no one to do it with or the arrival of lunch and you know your probably going to be eating alone. I mean it's a sad feeling but one day you can overcome it. The tips in this video really did help me (:

  • @sarah__darlene
    @sarah__darlene 3 роки тому +282

    This video is literally all I need because I want to really break out of my shell a bit next school year😅 I’m an introvert and making friends has always been a struggle for me. Now I have two years of school left and I only have two friends at my school😬 I just want to not be alone for these last two years, so hopefully this will change a bit😅

    • @alarmpros6704
      @alarmpros6704 3 роки тому

      jesus

    • @sassreaction6574
      @sassreaction6574 3 роки тому +7

      Same I’m a jr this year being home schooled for the first term but my friend is being home schooled for the rest of the year so I will have one friend so let’s hope she don’t ditch me 🥺🤞😂

    • @marianna380
      @marianna380 3 роки тому +2

      Me too

    • @schwester6523
      @schwester6523 3 роки тому +5

      @@alarmpros6704 Yes, Jesus is the best friend we can, but we need human friends too.

    • @lillianna11487
      @lillianna11487 2 роки тому

      How did it go?

  • @TalithaTehillah
    @TalithaTehillah 3 роки тому +519

    Marla is so aesthetically pleasing and I love her personality and I know I’m not the only one who thinks that.☺️☺️❤️

    • @journeeavalon
      @journeeavalon 3 роки тому +4

      I agree❤️
      Btw you’re super pretty^❤️

    • @aubreymmaria
      @aubreymmaria 3 роки тому +2

      Definitely. It comes so naturally to her! 💕✔

    • @TalithaTehillah
      @TalithaTehillah 3 роки тому +1

      Aubrey Maria yah it does☺️

    • @TalithaTehillah
      @TalithaTehillah 3 роки тому +1

      Stella Luna thanks really appreciate it💕

  • @lottielou.
    @lottielou. 3 роки тому +128

    tried the wink when giving someone gum and said “meet me a lonch”. didn’t work, they just looked at me weird.? :/ want a refund on this video pls

  • @frannybell1332
    @frannybell1332 3 роки тому +121

    my best friend is moving to switzerland in a few days and i’m really nervous for school without her

    • @d0467
      @d0467 3 роки тому +9

      Hey . Don't be !! I'm sure you'll make friends and become comfortable with ur classmates. My friend and I weren't taking the same classes this year, it looks terrible especially when it comes to making project groups, but I managed to make a few close friends even though I was a bite shy :p

    • @yoonjimarriedyoongiandgoth7300
      @yoonjimarriedyoongiandgoth7300 3 роки тому

      Laughs in *I had a fake best friend in the past*
      Laughs in *I don't know if I can trust someone with my secrets anymore*

    • @lon4981
      @lon4981 2 роки тому

      what r u doing now

    • @idkidkyuhhh39
      @idkidkyuhhh39 2 роки тому +2

      How have you been doing?? I know it’s really hard, but stay strong and know that everyone is on your side

  • @beibigatouneari5605
    @beibigatouneari5605 3 роки тому +74

    I've been trying to break into these friend groups and it's so tough because no matter how much i try to be myself and be easy going at the same time i still feel like an outsider to everyone it's like they don't take me seriously. I am well liked but not wanted and it sucks because I always seem to be the only one always left out whenever we hangout and i never get invited into things which makes me feel even more awkward cuz i always see them talking about things and going out on "our" group chat but um, yet despite all of that i still try to get along more with them and invite myself to their meetups even tho that'll probably make me look like a pushover lol i guess I'll try to handle it as cool as i can. Ps. I apologize for any grammar mistakes, English is not my first language. ✨ And also, feel free to give me a reply if you're also struggling with the same issue. I'll be willing to talk to anyone more about it. Take care everyone!

    • @datmangotho9618
      @datmangotho9618 3 роки тому +10

      Shanna Fei Almeda It’s okay, maybe those people in that friend group aren’t supposed to be your close friends, and that’s okay :) I don’t have many friends lol but I think some good advice would be to be open minded of who you want to be your friend, and not expect certain people to be your friends. For example, there’s a lot of people at school who I want to be friends with, but we can’t/don’t talk that much. There’s a bunch of great people out there to be your friend so don’t have your heart set on a couple of people, hope that helps ❤️

    • @alexadamczyk8962
      @alexadamczyk8962 2 роки тому +1

      Same 😔

    • @Persassyproduction_fanpage
      @Persassyproduction_fanpage Рік тому +2

      Same I feel like I’m messing up there group.

  • @jillsarah7356
    @jillsarah7356 3 роки тому +56

    love the message of quality over quantity. when I was in high school I thought popularity was super important and I ended up with a ton of friends, many who were toxic. I'm much happier and feel more myself with less but genuine friends now

  • @vaishnavi7660
    @vaishnavi7660 3 роки тому +26

    Omg yessss that's the thing that I hate whenever I have given anyone pen or pencil they always like always forget to return it and you know how awkward it can be to ask for it back

  • @najwaqadiri109
    @najwaqadiri109 3 роки тому +613

    My mom made fun of me for watching this after she read the title 😔

  • @samiradesai
    @samiradesai 3 роки тому +27

    youtube recommended page is getting crazy accurate 😳

  • @KevDog140
    @KevDog140 2 роки тому +4

    (This is all venting, you don’t need to read it)
    I’ve never had social anxiety or any fears with talking to literally anyone, and yet I’ve never had any friends since I was in middle school. I’m a college student now btw, and I always went out of my way to strike a conversation with my classmates, I talk about things like homework and other class related things, but they never talk to me after, they move seats the next day or they ignore me. I never understood this, even now though I disregarded it as a normal thing, but walking alone from school is just saddening and I imagine what it would be like if I did have friends. The only people that are my friends are my family.
    But it’s hard to talk to them about my time in college because I never go out, and I can’t tell them about this person or that one because I don’t have anyone to talk about.
    I always see these group of people walking together laughing, and I envy them.
    I honestly just wish I didn’t think anything of it, and that I don’t start to cry when I’m alone in my room for the millionth time.

    • @ayyvn3280
      @ayyvn3280 2 роки тому +1

      omfg this is kinda me

    • @goldcheerio
      @goldcheerio 2 роки тому

      i’m going through the same thing in high school😞 i hope it gets better for you!

    • @velvethoebar
      @velvethoebar 2 роки тому

      @@ayyvn3280 right sae

    • @velvethoebar
      @velvethoebar 2 роки тому

      Same*

  • @katelynn5213
    @katelynn5213 3 роки тому +78

    Her:Join clubs. Once you’ve started talking to someone...
    Me: Hold Up, Hold Up. You missed a step, how am I actually going to talk to someone without freaking out and feeling uncomfortable???

    • @sans4124
      @sans4124 2 роки тому +10

      Um just talk it's normal to talk
      Or just talk to someone that's alone its much easier
      And those people are probably as pathetic as you
      Want friends but wont try

    • @katelynn5213
      @katelynn5213 2 роки тому +10

      @@sans4124 thank you so much :) that definitely helps my social anxiety and i appreciate you calling me pathetic for it

    • @sans4124
      @sans4124 2 роки тому

      @@katelynn5213 well I was pathetic aswell
      3 years hope it takes you much less time to get out of your comfort zone
      If you adapt you can actually have a decent time
      So pathetic isnt being used against you
      It's just what i like to call the state that i hate the most and moved away from
      Yes i was introverted as fuck

    • @grungedusky1467
      @grungedusky1467 2 роки тому +7

      I would love to make friends by joining a club but I'm scared they'll hate me for just being there. Hopefully when I go back to school in a few weeks I'll get the courage to join one. I'm in my last year of high school and I don't want to waste another year hiding from people.

    • @rinsenpai5348
      @rinsenpai5348 2 роки тому +7

      @@sans4124 your probs some extrovert who doesnt understand the struggles of extreme social anxiety and i really try to make friends but it's hard being awkward and suffering depression. Trust me when I say we TRY .

  • @Victoria-hi7oq
    @Victoria-hi7oq 3 роки тому +169

    4:47 meet me at l o n c h 😏

  • @bm_mcd7681
    @bm_mcd7681 3 роки тому +16

    YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW MANY PENCILS I HAVE LOST BY GIVING THEM OUT OMGGGGG

    • @anielson6152
      @anielson6152 3 роки тому +1

      yess! at this point i just always tell people they have to give it back bc i can’t afford to lose any more pencils 😭

  • @flux202
    @flux202 3 роки тому +36

    Yeah needed this. I just literally forgot how to be social.

  • @helenjlee1
    @helenjlee1 3 роки тому +42

    anyone else LOOVVEE marla's back to school videos?? i live for this

  • @avarae
    @avarae 3 роки тому +13

    LOVE how this shows up on my recommendation page when I was literally just talking about not having any friends going back to school with my mom 2 MINUTES AGO. I take this as a sign :):

    • @meghanburt6575
      @meghanburt6575 3 роки тому +2

      I'm in the same boat, other than I have my best friend but because my grade is so big I probably won't have her in my class. so glad this popped up

  • @shawntajara
    @shawntajara 3 роки тому +23

    THE THUMBNAIL!! It is literally a work of art!!!

  • @palakjain406
    @palakjain406 3 роки тому +49

    I think I'm really capable of giving really good tips on friendship. I've been through the worst friendship break and it was because I couldn't be myself with them and to tell you the truth I stopped believing in best friend and I still don't use that word, not because I don't believe in friendship but because it puts too much expectations on people.
    Some tips:
    1. Be yourself and I swear it sounds cheesy but it's true trying out a persona will make you tried. And if they don't like real you it's time to leave them.
    2. Stop putting too much expectations on your friends. I know they are your ride and die but putting your ideal situation on them won't work. Being extremely crafty I always made extravagant birthday cards for my friends and not getting back would hurt me alot but I realised as I grew I'm doing it to show my love it's not necessary for them to do the same, everyone got their way to show their love.
    3. It's okay to not have friends sometimes. You could feel lonely but remember you are your best friend (ik I don't like that word but I can have expectations from myself). When you love yourself and put yourself first you would be happy and people will gravitate towards your aura.
    4. I know it can be intimidating to approach people, the best tip is if you find someone interesting and you wanna be friends with them. Observe them and start conversation about something you both have in common. Like if you are in the same club talk about why you joined it and then they can answer or if you find you both like the same singer talk about it.

  • @mona-kf4pn
    @mona-kf4pn 3 роки тому +26

    this helps a lot, i go to high-school in September and i was really stressed because i was like "and if i don't have any friends" so thank you marla :)

  • @hailey9811
    @hailey9811 3 роки тому +54

    I NEEDED this. I am starting 7th grade, and I was friends with a lot of toxic people in 6th Grade. Thanks.
    ~update~ I made amazing and new friends!! This helped me a lot and i recommend if you wanna be friends with someone go for it!!

    • @iqra1810
      @iqra1810 3 роки тому +2

      7th grade means how old?

    • @margo3535
      @margo3535 3 роки тому +1

      same bruv

    • @himari894
      @himari894 3 роки тому

      Me too!!

    • @himari894
      @himari894 3 роки тому +4

      Iqra Mazhar it’s 12 to 13 :)

    • @-luka-3972
      @-luka-3972 3 роки тому +6

      Seventh grade'll be great, I literally just graduated it so I'm speaking from a recent experience. Be yourself and hang with people who like u for who u are!! Good luck🌼🍄✌

  • @henloworld514
    @henloworld514 3 роки тому +53

    i already know all of these tips but I can’t bring myself to actually initiate things 😭😭😭

    • @datmangotho9618
      @datmangotho9618 3 роки тому +8

      henlo world No pressure! Just relax and if there’s a situation where you want to ask something about someone or talk to them don’t be afraid, let the conversations flow and you’ll find some great people to be friends with :)

    • @henloworld514
      @henloworld514 3 роки тому +5

      DatMangoTho thank you! 💖 i think a really big problem I have with conversations is that I tend to overthink topics and at times I’m too afraid to let loose in fear of judgement 😅

    • @datmangotho9618
      @datmangotho9618 3 роки тому +4

      henlo world Sometimes I think that way too, but remember if they judge you for something you say in the conversation then they’re probably not the ones for you, or also if you make a mistake in a conversation just remember it’s okay to make mistakes and the other person won’t remember it anyway ❤️

    • @henloworld514
      @henloworld514 3 роки тому +1

      DatMangoTho aw thank you so much for the advice! 💕💕

    • @lon4981
      @lon4981 2 роки тому

      you can't live your life like this, you'll regret it when you grow

  • @abbybow57
    @abbybow57 3 роки тому +33

    i’m starting at a new high school this month and i don’t have any friends so i really need this lol

    • @datmangotho9618
      @datmangotho9618 3 роки тому +4

      Abby Good luck :) remember to be yourself and don’t be fake, but also remember that no one knows you at your new school, so you can portray yourself as the person you’ve always wanted to be (advice I wish I took when I moved to a new school lol)

  • @hildemarieswart
    @hildemarieswart 3 роки тому +28

    no one:
    the plug in the back: 👁👄👁

  • @abcdefghi24
    @abcdefghi24 3 роки тому +13

    you can’t imagine how much i needed this thank u so much marla

  • @LauraPerez-oz2hw
    @LauraPerez-oz2hw 3 роки тому +8

    I just moved and I needed this, because at my old school I hated everyone and I just wanted to leave, now I have the opportunity to start over and I´m really exited

    • @datmangotho9618
      @datmangotho9618 3 роки тому +1

      Laura Perez Good luck at your new school ❤️ remember that no one knows you so you can portray yourself as the person you’ve always wanted to be, but also don’t be fake lol

    • @LauraPerez-oz2hw
      @LauraPerez-oz2hw 3 роки тому +1

      DatMangoTho thank you, I’ll remember that 💖

  • @andrearamirez6792
    @andrearamirez6792 3 роки тому +6

    you’re so genuine! love u🤍

  • @Envy.az_
    @Envy.az_ 2 роки тому +4

    I wanna cry that I have to watch this video

  • @octopury101
    @octopury101 3 роки тому +147

    I need this lol

  • @harleyquiinnnn
    @harleyquiinnnn 3 роки тому +2

    Thank you for making helpful and mature content like this! We all go through phases where we feel like we have too few friends/need new ones (-better ones 🌱) and it shouldnt be a topic you should be ashamed of talking about.
    So thank you for making this content and breaking the shame barrier. 💕

  • @ash9121
    @ash9121 3 роки тому +2

    I low-key just want one really good friend 🥺

  • @mariajarques
    @mariajarques 3 роки тому +43

    I wish I could be YOUR friend!!

  • @synclair9809
    @synclair9809 3 роки тому +11

    I’m so glad that girls have someone like Marla to look up to.

  • @vim622
    @vim622 3 роки тому +10

    marla is so genuinely nice and one of the best and most admirable youtubers around

  • @angeliee
    @angeliee 3 роки тому +10

    this advice is sooo applicable to anyone everywhere!! loved listening 💕

  • @baileyreese6958
    @baileyreese6958 3 роки тому +1

    THANK YOU! I graduated this last year and wish I had heard this advice earlier. I learned all these tips through experience and everything you said is SO TRUE. So please anyone who watches this, act on her advice, it will help you 100% in being an overall happy person, I promise:)

  • @SimpleeSummer12
    @SimpleeSummer12 3 роки тому +48

    Who else LOVES Marla and thinks she is STUNNING?! She inspires and motivates me so much with my channel!

  • @user-zc4gs7kl1u
    @user-zc4gs7kl1u 3 роки тому +16

    This so literally so hard I just wear a hoodie stay in the corner and never talk to the point we're people always ask if I'm okay or depressed
    And when the teacher calls on me I'm a dumb tomato

    • @datmangotho9618
      @datmangotho9618 3 роки тому +6

      Ashman Murillo It’s okay 🥺 don’t be afraid to keep your head up and smile and wear what you like, if you sit in the corner because you feel insecure then please remember that other people are almost never thinking about you, most if not all of the time they’re thinking about and feeling insecure about themselves. I hope you find some amazing friends soon ❤️

    • @unusualnesscertified269
      @unusualnesscertified269 3 роки тому +1

      Oh i just thought of this dont wear a hoodie for a day and wear smthing diff and be confident some1 will surely approach u

  • @jasminesolovey263
    @jasminesolovey263 3 роки тому +87

    Marla: give them the peice of gum, wink and then say "meet me a lunch, for another one" ;)

  • @anmg597
    @anmg597 3 роки тому +46

    I literally haven't made a friend in my whole life, not that I don't have any friends, but I'm not the one that approaches and I know that's just the opposite to what Marla said lol but it has worked for me in every aspect of my life and I'm 23 yo

    • @hihihihuhiabhajsb
      @hihihihuhiabhajsb 3 роки тому +7

      I just wait for friend groups to adopt me into their group 😀

    • @Oyuki-Mayonesa
      @Oyuki-Mayonesa 3 роки тому

      Are you pretty and stylish?

    • @Roo.Marion
      @Roo.Marion 2 роки тому

      You're schools did a horrible job teaching Grammy of that's how you spell "hole"
      I dug a *hole*
      I haven't made any friend my *whole* life.
      Like seriously?

    • @anmg597
      @anmg597 2 роки тому +2

      @@Roo.Marion lol calm down english is not my first language

    • @anmg597
      @anmg597 2 роки тому +2

      @@Roo.Marion also... Shouldn't be "your schools"? Instead of "you're"

  • @Leah-xq5tn
    @Leah-xq5tn 3 роки тому +24

    Your outfit looks so good.

  • @annarayhorn1099
    @annarayhorn1099 3 роки тому +13

    I am always SO anxious for the social aspect of starting school again, and this video made me feel a lot better :) thank you marla!

  • @rebeccaford9706
    @rebeccaford9706 3 роки тому +35

    See my issue is I don’t like anyone besides the two friends I have

  • @kiannamarilla
    @kiannamarilla 3 роки тому +5

    it’s especially really hard to make friends online but these are IMMACULATE TIPS

  • @cmhnatjosh
    @cmhnatjosh 3 роки тому +77

    Me: why are you wearing a hat inside Marla?
    The little voice in my head: it's called fashion

  • @averysimone5402
    @averysimone5402 3 роки тому +18

    “to make friends you’ve got to be a friend yourself”
    i love it 🥺💜

  • @wandaluvr
    @wandaluvr 3 роки тому +1

    marla i love u so much pls know u make me so happs all the way from england & i’m so proud of everything you’ve accomplished 🥺xxx

  • @theajohansen5525
    @theajohansen5525 3 роки тому

    This video is honestly the most helpful videos om making friends I have seen. I struggle with social anxiety and therefore ended up shutting down and leaving the school year hiding in the lunch breaks. This makes me feel less weird and less alone. Not having friend’s doesn’t bother me. It’s feeling judged and fear of pity etc that gets to me. I want friends to not feel like an outcast. Cause it HURTS

  • @michaela6258
    @michaela6258 3 роки тому +48

    in less than a couple weeks i’m moving to a new state, new school, etc. and im petrified. so thank you marla for helping me out

    • @michaela6258
      @michaela6258 3 роки тому +2

      Haley Wilson sure, ofc 🥰

    • @futuregem1605
      @futuregem1605 3 роки тому +3

      Hope you have a good time there! Also, I'm going through the same

    • @inspxre_amiyah
      @inspxre_amiyah 2 роки тому +1

      best part of being new since I move a lot is i get to change my identity 😎

  • @halciee
    @halciee 3 роки тому +11

    Who else thinks Marla is awesomeeeee!!!💕 Thank yewww for the tips✨

  • @not_ant655
    @not_ant655 Рік тому +3

    it's so hard to make friends after I've been homeschooled for almost 4 years now, I used to be really good at making friends like the whole class was my friend but now I can't make a single friend without having a panic*** attack... maybe its just cuz It was easier making friends when I was younger

  • @sarahrobison7075
    @sarahrobison7075 3 роки тому +19

    The best advice I can give is to be YOURSELF! I’ve watched a couple of your uploads, Marla and I’m going to be a senior this year as well. Very nice videos and editing, I wish you the best for your future. 🌸

    • @alexadamczyk8962
      @alexadamczyk8962 2 роки тому

      No one likes me when I'm myself

    • @aldiwinkel
      @aldiwinkel 2 роки тому +1

      Dont change for them. If they don't like u, so be it. There Will be more ppl that's likes u than hate u okay?

  • @kgansimohlala9760
    @kgansimohlala9760 3 роки тому +3

    Ralph is such a mood 😂, he’s like me in the morning when I wake up for school.

  • @carterm.9820
    @carterm.9820 3 роки тому +5

    she's so entertaining

  • @johannahanspers7986
    @johannahanspers7986 3 роки тому +2

    i’m starting high school in sweden next week, in a new city with completely new people and this is literally the perfect time from this video!!

  • @xenalucy7574
    @xenalucy7574 3 роки тому +1

    Marla, it's been so long since I started watching you. Your content really helps me. I loved that tip in which you blink giving the gum. Definitely going to try that. I love you.❤

  • @misseve.27
    @misseve.27 3 роки тому +62

    going to a new school in a new state in a few days so I needed this :,)

    • @fatcatsarecute159
      @fatcatsarecute159 3 роки тому +5

      I’m going to a new school also! Good luck and have fun 💕

    • @misseve.27
      @misseve.27 3 роки тому

      neon _ aw thanks!! Good luck to you too 💛

    • @ninahorn
      @ninahorn 3 роки тому +4

      I am also going to a new school here in Germany, you've got this!

    • @MarlaCatherine
      @MarlaCatherine  3 роки тому +9

      good luck!! 💗

    • @m.kjordan5449
      @m.kjordan5449 3 роки тому +3

      Same! Well, it's just a new town but still❤️ good luck!

  • @lanabaxter3375
    @lanabaxter3375 3 роки тому +16

    the freaks and geeks clip 😂😂❤️

  • @arinarankau1940
    @arinarankau1940 3 роки тому +2

    oh my gosh marla this is the cutest thing aaa

  • @sopheyy7573
    @sopheyy7573 3 роки тому

    I can do it and you can do it too just don't give up! I found a friend in school one year ago and she's been taking me to skate and introduced me to her friend group and rn I'm overwhelmed but it feels good to have new people in my life.

  • @starbuckspup_loverc.g9144
    @starbuckspup_loverc.g9144 3 роки тому +60

    Girls make friends: I need to get tips
    Boys: "hey yo man your ugly" 15 seconds later *literal best friends * ;-;

    • @mrmcface713
      @mrmcface713 2 роки тому +1

      Yooo that made me remember when in Year 6 afew of the Primary Schools where going to Highschool I was In one of them and then Haiden someone from Another school was insulting me alot and I wasn't doing much about it because I didn't care all to much but in Year 7 when we actually went into Highschool we became somewhat Friends and now that we are in Year 8 we are really good Friends He has a good sense of Humour and He is a Blessing to this World just by being put into it

  • @elizabeth-fb6ec
    @elizabeth-fb6ec 3 роки тому +4

    i just wanna be friends with marla she's just so nice and chill, i feel like she would really have my back

  • @caroline_sm
    @caroline_sm 3 роки тому

    thank you sm for making this video. this will really help not only myself, but tons of your viewers. ❤️

  • @aliciavan
    @aliciavan 3 роки тому +1

    the advice here is so si imp

  • @dobbysrightsock
    @dobbysrightsock 2 роки тому +3

    There’s a few really cool alt kids at my school that i wanna be friends with but they’re not in any of my classes so the only time ⟟ see them is in the hallway and at our morning assembly so it’s really awkward whenever ⟟ try to talk to them because it’s almost impossible to keep a conversation going.

  • @psychoweasley5971
    @psychoweasley5971 2 роки тому +6

    Thank you for this video, I looked up high school advice because I’m starting it tomorrow and I want to make a good first impression even though that’s hard for me, and every other video was like “friendships don’t matter, popularity doesn’t matter, don’t date, literally just do your school work”
    So thanks for this 🙂

    • @michelleyim569
      @michelleyim569 2 роки тому

      i hope it went well for you

    • @psychoweasley5971
      @psychoweasley5971 2 роки тому

      @@michelleyim569 Haha yeah no it didn't...

    • @help5344
      @help5344 2 роки тому

      I cant work if I dont have friends, I feel embarrased.

  • @coldrain4115
    @coldrain4115 2 роки тому +2

    This is life changing advice. I've been all over the internet trying to find out what I'm doing wrong when it comes to socializing. But this video is actually giving the advice I needed to grow as a person. I'm gonna try some of this out tomorrow at school. Wish me luck ;3

    • @sam8---D
      @sam8---D Рік тому

      how are you doing now?

  • @veronika9669
    @veronika9669 3 роки тому +2

    this video helped me so much because I‘ve been feeling really lonely at school lately and it motivated me somehow to make new friends

  • @bellewinner9703
    @bellewinner9703 3 роки тому +4

    Yes! I used a lot of these tips as an international student going to a university where I knew no one, and now I have made incredible friendships 😊

  • @rachelhoughtaling210
    @rachelhoughtaling210 3 роки тому +3

    I really appreciated this video. I have a twin sister and she is more well-known than I am. She likes to hang out with her big group of friends at lunch, while I like to sit in the library and finish homework. I have two solid friends, and I’d love to make new friends, but it’s hard. A study was done at my high school that said 70% of kids at my school do drugs. However I have no interest in parties or doing any sort of drugs. I’ve always been different and maybe you have too. But I believe if we keep pushing through school we will become successful because we are more self-aware. It’s taken me a long time to realize it but society does put pressure on having a big group of friends, but it’s okay to be by yourself. You’re amazing by yourself! I love you and you can make it by yourself!

  • @emmifin560
    @emmifin560 3 роки тому +2

    OMG this is sooo helpful and on time! I‘m litterally going to a new school this year! :) Thx so much for posting this vid Marla!

  • @mckenna4933
    @mckenna4933 3 роки тому +1

    I’m going to a new school for the first time and this video going up is perfect timing and made me smile tysm marla ❤️

  • @palakbirla7046
    @palakbirla7046 3 роки тому +8

    I do have a few friends but I’m waiting for my school to reopen to make more friends :)
    Loved this video 😍

  • @angeliee
    @angeliee 3 роки тому +72

    I CLICKED SO FAST

  • @rusty8874
    @rusty8874 3 роки тому

    I love that you are super chill about the topic in the video and not roasting us 😂

  • @Ilovecloudyday
    @Ilovecloudyday 3 роки тому +2

    Every single kid and teenager is my friend at school