high school with no friends | rant
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- Опубліковано 29 вер 2024
- idek if this is serious anymore, watching it over it turned satire midway
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Even as an introvert friends are still needed. I hate to admit it but I NEED that validation and companionship that friends give you in order to survive the misery that high school brings.
Yeah friends are not just people you socialize with. I wish I learned that when I was in middle and high school.
too fing real.
I survived the 4 alone, but it sucked lol
Guys introvert≠never talking to people
We need to find each other cause this is exactly how I feel wtf
I feel like college will be the same or worse 😔
man its so good hearing someone say stuff I constantly ask myself lol. I'm a sophomore with practically no friends, but I can't even go to school. I've been homeschooled my whole life in a rural area so it just makes things so difficult emotionally. I know its been a year since you posted this but I really hope you're doing better. And yes I cannot wait to go to college as well 😂
im so grateful somebody decided to talk about this topic because it plagues my mind to this day even as a sophmore in college
i just turned 18 and am going to university next year and this hits really hard for my past (and honestly still present) self. there was lockdown at the start of my high school experience and i got bullied really bad for the whole first half of high school too which made me lowkey too afraid to make new friends, since once i dropped them i had no one else. i went years with ZERO friends, the only person i'd talk to was the teacher when i said "here" during roll call. it SUCKED and i still only have 1 friend who's the type like you described where i only talk to them during class. the only reason i'm not as depressed as i was when i was 14-17 is coz i have hope for university next year. but god high school with no friends is the worst and i'm glad to see a video i can relate to even if i watched this a lil late lol
lowk you sound funny as hell 😭 maybe in another universe we besties or something 🤞
It’s been so long since I’ve had a *true* friend who I can be myself around without being judged, I’ll never forget himhe was so nice he was so cool cause he was never afraid to like or try something that was considered weird he painted his nails a few times, he liked mlp which in elementary was considered weird he was never one to judge it’s hard to find people like that he was so accepting, the only thing I didn’t like was when people said we were dating which we both were uncomfortable with that and people went as far as to tell us both lies about the other i hope I can meet him again and thank him and I pray that life is good for him
GIRL OMG I WOULD LOVE TO BE YOUR FRIEND! LIKEEE you seem so funny and nice like these people are missing out fr. We in the same boat dude except I have somewhat friends that I talk to at school but once I get home we don't talk at all. Online friends help a little until they leave you and your stuck alone again. Anyways YOUR A GREAT PERSON AND YOU WILL MAKE FRIENDS EVENTUALLY!! YOU GOT THIS!!
hiii im 18 and i was homeschooled. I sympathize so bad with yall 😭😭 i had online friends and just made friends in college tho. But in my experience, i just had to greive it until i found a way out eventually. And love myself enough to keep trying.
not me getting this when i only talk to my 2 friends from middle school who go to different high schools😭
Everyone from my middle school went to the same high school but i got transferred to a different one because of some pretty traumatizing things that happened there. So i ended up going into hs tryna be talkitave and making freinds and now halfway through the year ion even have anyone t eat lunch with other than my sister. apperentaly once i get comfortable with someone i get super clingy so they brush my off n put me back in the aquaintances box an it really hurts cause i keep thinking we tight n shit but na i guess not. Worst part is that my sister is literally my best freind and only freind i can truly rely on atp and shes literally leaving next year. Like moving away to college so i wont be able to talk to her at school or anything anymore. Fucking sucks.
crying couse its too relatable
I have NO friends. Like I have one but we barely talk and all my other friends never talk to me I have some out of skl friends who r low key the best BUT I CANT HANG WITH THEM IN SKL
it has come to the point where i make up fake scenarios in my head about having a friend😭 15 with no friends sucks like everyone my age is having so fun meanwhile i am just rotting in bed
Girll why is this so real 😭😭
youre so real
@@cibele27. changbin pfp ate
@@sunoostan2297 thank youu 😋
Same 15 no friends it sucks so bad when you try and it doesnt go anywhere
LITERALLY. school ONLY feels worthwhile if you have someone to be there for you. its like i have no security YKWIM?? i dont have the security of having someone with me and a GENUINE connection. im not looking for school friends im looking for friends friends. nothing is worth it in school anymore.
couldn't have explained it any better
Real, they only use me or reach out to me on academic reasons only . It doesn’t feel genuine at all... I’ve never had an actual friend who actually bonded with me and was genuine enough they always leave sadly..
I think the reason its so much harder to find friends in 2024 is simply because people just really dont want to make friends anymore. When i was little and i once switched to a private school once i was looking for friends and found people who actually wanted to be friends and had 2 legitimate friends. However after coming back to my old school because i decided to go back it was like a switch was turned on where nobody wanted to be friends anymore. You see, when i was at private school it was still 2019, and as far as i know, everything after 2019 basically went downhill and everything started to suck. I was only happy in middle school and when i was back to school because i already knew everyone there and they fw me. Now there isnt anybody. Because i was slightly acting "dumb" or was doing something like that in my first year of highschool it legit sucked because Kids aint got no parents, and that basically became a problem because more and more kids seemed to have parents that thought them nothing on how to treat people like human beings, as we all are, and these kids didnt treat me like a human being to the point i had a horrid amount of problems because they legit drove me crazy. Now second year currently, they still aint treating me much like a human being, and hey are wierd af still. Another thing worth noting is that if you look closely, the friends people have shouldn't even be their friends but apparently each friend group is a bunch of doormats tolerating what each horrendous thing each other doormat does to them, such as saying horrid things to each other and dissing each other and harrassing each other, such as.. touching each other. Now thats mostly for boys, ima be fr for girls i didnt see much with friends (its become a meme how bad boys friend groups are but tbh thats kinda a serious issue because you cant all be doormats this bad). Another factor i saw is that more and more kids got social media and were more distracted with it that they didnt care about making friends or only had friends to see there social media and stuff, and this was in middle school to today, and all i can say is that social media ABSOLUTELY SHOULDNT BE USED BY KIDS or even me who is like still a child (i will not say my age online), and i for my own sake i wont ever be using instagram because those reels and everything on there, like the comments and stuff?? Nasty. Absolutely not.
Hope everyone can now see loud and clear why this is happening.
(Repost on other comments because i think it is really necessary to address)
@@kqlolll2618 you dont need friends for success.
you go to school to learn shit tho
Im 17 now, last time i was considered "liked" was when i was 8. Nothing has worked. I have been alone since.
Haven’t had friends since 5th grade. So since 10 or 11.
@@thecommenterdude3995 bro same (except im still young but ik i wont get any friends throughout the entire of high school)
Jesus is there for you
@@Cheyenne-hr1we what if ur not religious
@@Cheyenne-hr1we man shut up
Being a high schooler introvert in 2024 is such a lame feeling man. Especially as a black guy that don’t fit the black high schooler stereotype. It probably sucks having all your old friends leave you too. We should keep being ourselves tho, cause “weird” people don’t peak in high school. But ALWAYS remember that there’s people just like you. You just gotta find them, no matter how long it takes.
So true about the stereotypes, that’s something I think about on the daily as a black girl and not being in the “norm” at school. I can imagine how that must be for you
No one is peaking. Everyone is too busy trying to get into college or already rock bottom, or getting a job
@@sandrohernandez4401nah if peaking means what i think it means this freshman girl at my school got pregnant and got sent to a mental asylum ☠️
@@SiaaSpitsit’s even worse when people see the stereotype and think it’s cool or wtvr and seek it out and will immitate it. I’ve seeen so many white kids aroudn me in hs the js want to be gangsters so bad and they wanna grow up so bad it’s sad. I’m in aus so there’s no guns but these kids will be privileged af and they posing w machetes and knifes and acting like them dad didint js give them 300 bucks cuz he asked. Nobody needs to fulfill flaws stereotypes
I think the reason its so much harder to find friends in 2024 is simply because people just really dont want to make friends anymore. When i was little and i once switched to a private school once i was looking for friends and found people who actually wanted to be friends and had 2 legitimate friends. However after coming back to my old school because i decided to go back it was like a switch was turned on where nobody wanted to be friends anymore. You see, when i was at private school it was still 2019, and as far as i know, everything after 2019 basically went downhill and everything started to suck. I was only happy in middle school and when i was back to school because i already knew everyone there and they fw me. Now there isnt anybody. Because i was slightly acting "dumb" or was doing something like that in my first year of highschool it legit sucked because Kids aint got no parents, and that basically became a problem because more and more kids seemed to have parents that thought them nothing on how to treat people like human beings, as we all are, and these kids didnt treat me like a human being to the point i had a horrid amount of problems because they legit drove me crazy. Now second year currently, they still aint treating me much like a human being, and hey are wierd af still. Another thing worth noting is that if you look closely, the friends people have shouldn't even be their friends but apparently each friend group is a bunch of doormats tolerating what each horrendous thing each other doormat does to them, such as saying horrid things to each other and dissing each other and harrassing each other, such as.. touching each other. Now thats mostly for boys, ima be fr for girls i didnt see much with friends (its become a meme how bad boys friend groups are but tbh thats kinda a serious issue because you cant all be doormats this bad). Another factor i saw is that more and more kids got social media and were more distracted with it that they didnt care about making friends or only had friends to see there social media and stuff, and this was in middle school to today, and all i can say is that social media ABSOLUTELY SHOULDNT BE USED BY KIDS or even me who is like still a child (i will not say my age online), and i for my own sake i wont ever be using instagram because those reels and everything on there, like the comments and stuff?? Nasty. Absolutely not.
Hope everyone can now see loud and clear why this is happening.
(Repost on other comments, but for this comment i will say this, that stereotype is you being fake. Stereotypes aint good, what we all should be is ourself, but apparently being ourselves, having fun, and being creative is apparently something we get laughed at now. I know because people simply hate me for being who i am, and i just want to be who i am without wierd people harassing me and calling me spe d)
I can relate to this so much. I’m 15, and I don’t have any friends at my school. I sit alone at lunch, I don’t eat, and I don’t talk to anyone but my teachers. I’m the only loner in ALL of my classes, and it sucks. My social anxiety has taken over. If someone asks me a question, I’ll typically just say “I don’t know”. The worst part is watching all of your peers having fun and living in the moment, but you’re the only one who doesn’t have a companion, or no one to talk to. I feel so isolated and trapped in my life
You’re not alone, this is exactly how I am during school. Yes, I sit alone and don’t eat either.
Literally bro 😭😭
are you me
Same, I'm also 15 but I don't have friends at school and in my own class, and I can also only see people having fun with their friends😔while I don't, but that's okay hopefully this will end soon, and hopefully we have friends, keep your spirits up! for all of us who are experiencing this:D
realest FUCKING EVER
Scrolling through this comment section made me realize that I’m not the only one lying in bed watching a person online talk about being lonely and read other peoples experiences of being lonely. It makes me feel better about the fact that there is a larger world around me bigger than high school and that I’m probably looking to better days ahead of me after the shithole that is hs.
This makes me so happy because that’s exactly what I wanted is for people to know that they’re not alone when it comes to things like this
ofc there is but its not something to be proud of
@@Renard-ks6hj its not about being proud, its about being content
@@sorbetbugs focus on success. Not friends.
If only there was a way for everyone suffering from loneliness to meet then the problem might solve itself 😔
i hate how real this is
I hate how like posts online and ‘influencers’ always say that you should drop those toxics friends and find new ones as if in this generation it’s as easy as going up to someone, saying ‘hi’ and becoming friends.
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i dropped my toxic friends and ended up completely alone in highschool. totally worth it though
@@astraeion everyone is different then, I can’t stand being alone it makes me feel miserable and really awkward.
@@LILC63 well you just got to make peace with yourself. if you're friends with someone not because you enjoy their company but because you feel forced to, drop them. there's tons of things you can do on your own at school. draw, study, read, eat, sleep, do your makeup/skincare and the list goes on. you'll feel relieved when you realize you don't need to be so insecure, and you don't need others. if they really want you they would care about you enough to not make you isolate yourself
@@LILC63 I mean its in the name, "toxic".
i have seen ALOT of people online say that they have no friends irl and keep complaining about it. but i really have no friends since 5 years now and people around me always seem to atleast have 1 friend while i have none at all. i used to have lunch in the school restrooms while crying almost every single day. even the teachers back in highschool used to be concerned about my lonliness and ask my parents if i have mental issues. as someone with SEVERE anxiety i am left helpless and i feel lile ending my life
I am so sorry for you i hope your ok i would love to know more about how you feel and if there is any reason you have a hard time making friends
@@greekgamer5845 hii !! thanks for ur concern, the main reason i couldnt make friends was cuz of my anxiety, awkwardness and shyness around people. its still there tho, i dont know how to avoid getting extremely tensed around new ppl
@@uh-oh6405 I know I'm two months late, but one thing that helped me was exposure therapy and letting go of the fact of what other people thought. People forget about an interaction way quicker than you would, so it's good to keep in mind that it really doesn't matter if they see you as awkward. Try talking to that one person you think you have a tad bit in common with, even if it takes you the whole day just to speak. It's a long process, and getting over anxiety is no easy front. I still have it severely, but knowing coping mechanisms makes things easier. Just know that everything out of your control shouldn't be your main priority, and just focus on what you can control. It's also good to have people who support you. My mom cheer me on whenever I get out the house and even just interact with a waiter. You got this, and don't let the negative thoughts get to you. Just breathe and remind yourself that it'll all be okay, and that it's okay to be sad and stressed about your current situation. It will get better.
Same, but we can get through it ❤️
Literally every loud person I know in school be posting stuff online about having no friends then the next day would post about hangouts with a cof
Yeah being completely lonely is not all sunshine and rainbows. Sure it could have positive sides. But most of the time it just leads to well- sad stuff. I personally almost ended my life because I had no one to tell my problems or have fun with.
It’s embarrassing to be the only one sitting alone at lunch, it’s torture to respond to relatives asking you about your friends from school, it’s suffocating to go through anything painful (including school) without a friend.
*Make at least 1 or 2 friends that you can hang out with, it’ll be worth the world.*
Yeah, im a sophomore who hasn’t had a friend friend in… well, since middle school. F’ing sucks, i feel the exact same.
8th grade i remember just laying in bed, realizing that i’ve been daydreaming about literally just *talking* to someone for the past hour. I felt miserable sitting at lunch with countless people around me (the cafeteria was set up in rows), but talking to no one. Then I remember when this one relative asking me if i had any friends in school. I said ‘maybe 4?’ He said, ‘damn, you can count all of them on one hand?’. Welp, f*ck, because I was actually being generous with my counting. in truth, i didn’t really have any at all.
Two years have passed, and I’m still a socially awkward lonely mess. I have the same mentality as you, I thoroughly believe that life becomes more fulfilling even when you spend it with just one or two more people, as long as it’s deeply genuine.
i’m trying to improve. I concluded that in order to feel more confident in speaking and interacting with others, I needed to find confidence in another area in my life. i plan to go to the gym, work on my fitness, and body. i’m also joining classes and clubs in school that force me to interact with or speak to people or even debate with them.
i hope i get better, so that i can find a friend. i hope you find a friend too. haha, sorry for yapping in your replies, but I hope you have a nice life, stranger.
I used to be like you, if you keep going, i promise it will improve, its just going to take TIME.
:( so real
Como alguien que vivió la mayor parte de su adolescencia y secundaria sola puedo confirmar.
Es mejor que hagan amigos antes sino quieren terminar como yo: intensa ansiedad social que te paralizará cuando intentes socializar, constantes sentimientos de soledad y sin amigos hasta de adulto lol
Autism + social anxiety is one hell of a combo. High school sucked 😭
FR social anxiety makes u isolate from your "peers" (that you barely know, school acquaintances is what id call them) because autism makes everyone think ur weird and "off" (both feed into each other). so since they never found you that likeable to begin with (just profitable if ykwim) they wont give a single sh¡t when you isolate. sooo you end up all alone😹👍
that’s exactly the same situation i had too ):
I got therapy for my social anxiety and after starting fresh in college it became more manageable. I can catch it before it gets bad now. In high school, there were many people who could’ve been friends but I was too intimidated to talk to them for more than a few seconds because they were pretty well-liked and just couldn’t shake the feeling I was too weird for them.
Sometimes I feel like I was set up to be lonely. Not to get pity, no pity please but somehow I was born with 3 disabilities, 1 neurological, and 2 physical, (autism, rheumatoid arthritis, uveitis) I’m a nonbinary lesbian with traditional Christian parents(I also might be trans masc) and I’m Therian. I’m also half white and half Hispanic. So I get the Hispanic racism but I also look white as hell which makes me feel bad about myself because it was white people who started this racism thing. So it is 10000000 times harder for me to find someone who accepts all of me, because there are a lot of different not normal traits they have to accept! Wtf god? What did I ever do to you? Why’d you have to make me so weirddddd
All I can say is to embrace your weirdness. That’s what I’ve learned to do. I can only really speak on the autism one, but our world experience is so interesting and our minds can do so much so never think you’re lesser. I’ve learned I experience life in a unique way cause of my brain and I’m embracing it more and more. I think therians are really cool, I have a similar feeling about myself but I feel like some kind of sentient object internally (probably an EWI, a technological musical instrument). Anything you experience in a unique way, think about how interesting it all is. One of my favorite quotes ever comes from my saxophone teacher: “Normal is boring.”
This is SO real. I'm homeschooled, but I still get really depressed sometimes about having pretty much no friends- I have a few people, a FEW people I talk with online, only one I feel close with but they live miles away and we barely talk anymore. I can definitely relate to the whole college thing, I feel like it'll be a good, fresh start. Thanks for this video!! It's good to know I'm not entirely alone.
It’s so cool to find out that someone who was homeschooled was able to relate, thank you for watching :)
@@SiaaSpitsYou retired?
lol what 😭 if you're talking about a new video im working on it
@@SiaaSpits Since its has been 2 weeks i am expecting a high quality,passionate,long video👌
I’m homeschooled too. I’m in my junior year and since 7th grade I’ve had no social interactions with a friend. My parents don’t understand and they say that if I really wanted a friend I’d try harder to put myself out there more. It’s like they don’t even care. Reading your comment helps me understand that I’m not the only one.
I dont know how to express myself around people 😭
It’s difficult and takes time to truly express yourself. I say until you’re ready to just spend more time with yourself and understand yourself more as a person. It makes it easier :)
I tried being happy and expressing myself and being silly for my first year of highschool, got bullied so bad it made me crazy for most of the year because apparently being yourself is a big nono and you are cringe and deserve to not be treated like a human being.
Second year, still perceptive as to whether im still being silently mocked as my own social image has been decimated still so most people dont treat me like a human being
@@kqlolll2618 Nobody cares. Nobody in your high school will remember the outfit you wore on the first day. Nobody in your high school will remember what happened to you. Nobody in high school truly cares about your family, where your from, who you are, and why you matter. That is why you need to achieve success and leave this bs behind. Friendships are for middle class people. The richest people of all time have family.
Just do whatever you think is reasonable as long as it’s not going to damage others’ health.
legit
I just want to leave, man. 5 more months… prom is coming. I had no friends in middle school either. Or elementary. Acquaintances is the max I’ve gotten so far. I also happened to be in the worst place in terms of mental health in my life, and other problems outside of school. The extreme loneliness and the isolation at school is just a bonus
I feel you, hoping it’s get better for you and if not, just gotta thug it out until school ends 😔‼️
nice to see more people go thru the same thing
How do you not have friends?
@@hhproductions8254its not easy anymore. Or easy ever. You have to pick the right people to be friends with especially now because most kids now are NOT PEOPLE you want to be friends with. Take this example of what i see in my highschool, boys friends groups. They are basically a bunch of doormats doing horrible stuff to the other doormats who will tolerate it, all tolerating each other being horrible. Its even become a meme for some reason how these idiots will say the most horrible things to each other and do other horrible things but remain friends. How kids got this brainless? Idk.
All i know is that because most if not everyone is brainless or because they never had parents who taught them how to be a normal sane person lots of people dont even ask you to be their friend.
Im gonna be alone at prom too.. 😭
Its hard life out here for us
I’m a sophomore and I’m LITERALLY in the same situation. There’s like, a whole story as to why I haven’t made an *actual friend* since 5th grade but long story short COVID really messed things up and I’ve been lonely & had social anxiety ever since. Anyways I really appreciate this video and I hope you make a friend soon!🙏🏽
I'm litterally going through the exact same thing! It's so depressing. My dad keeps asking me if I still talk to my middle school/elementary friends but he doesn't know that we've grown apart. It's embarrassing to say that you have no one to actually talk to.
@@DreasTapes Exactly !!
hope you will go through this, and everything will be good! ( I am in the same situation)
@@Alexandra-l2v4z Thank you! I hope the same for you😁
Twin... where have you been? (my last in-person friend was in 5th grade too)
sitting alone during lunch watching this and idk how much longer i can live like this lmao
don’t worry, you won’t be alone forever :)
dont worry one day we'll be both make friends
We’re gonna die alone
have hope, hs is such a small part of your life and you will experience many things throughout the rest of your life. And don’t be afraid to take opportunities when they appear in the present
exactly like idk how long I can take this😞
Out of all the videos I watched on this topic….this is the only one I can relate to. School is 10x harder when you’re alone. I’ve lost all motivation to even go to school. Im naturally an introvert so I do like being alone but sometimes I think about how lonely I am walking through the halls alone, sitting at lunch alone, sometimes even sitting in the bathroom for lunch. It sucks but at the same time I’ve always been like this. I am now a senior and I still have 0 friends. Thank you for this vid ❤️
Same. I’m a senior with no friends and it’s like I’ll never get one that sticks cuz everyone already knows I’m the friendless loser. Or that’s what I think they think. I got friends finally in junior year but I over think and since both friends weren’t in my classes, we never talked much and i was never even a friend to one of them and the other, I wasn’t vibing with anymore because we were at a dance and idk… she had tons of girls who knew her and I felt left out and weird. So.. yeah all my friends are gone. I only have one real friend and he’s a freshman so we barely see eachother and he’s only my friend because I’ve known him for more than 5 years. Without him, I’d be completely alone. Which I was anyway in the past. In middle school I had a whole friend group and a best friend and another friend. But since they all went separate ways, we aren’t friends anymore especially because covid really showed us that we changed in freshman year and that none of us were even strongest of friends anymore. Yupp I just ranted. Also sucks that I have to watch my crush who was actually a good friend of mine, stop talking to me and then get a gf so yeah I’m not in the best spot right now because it’s really starting to click that I’m alone.
@@user-zb7ru9zz7k I had friends all in middle school. We all drifted apart once I got into highschool but mostly freshman year was online anyways. So basically lost a year to try and make them 😭 but I’m lucky to have made some friends but unfortunately I drifted from those ones too. It’s good that I have atleast one friend and we are close even tho he’s 3 years younger than me. I hope you find more friends too. It’s not fun to be alone. It’s horrible to sit alone at lunch everyday, not have anyone to be with you at assembly’s or not be able to participate in school dances because you’ll be alone. It’s horrible and I wonder why it has to be me who is alone like this… why couldn’t I have been someone else who didn’t have social anxiety :(
I relate so much to ur comment. I am now going trough the same thing as you. I isolated myself for the past 3 months. And i lost motivation too. I am seen as the girl with no friends. I am always alone at lunchbreak, in class ... I always feel lonely. But it's now christmas break and it's almost over..so i hope this year will be better. I hope you're okay
@@idek440 my last semester starts on the 8th and I’m just ready to graduate. I still have no friends so I gotta thug it out till may. Idk what grade u in but hope all goes well for you this year
being lonely as a child is CRIMINALLY A CURSE
Felt :/
Having a strict family that isolates you makes this worse.
i couldn’t even join clubs because there was no one to take me home… 😭😭😭
Frr people ask to hang out outside of school my parent always say no so they always think I’m a bitch or smth because of how often they don’t allow me to go out 🙁
My parents are too nosy for me to have friends. If I just use my phone keyboard or a notification sound, they ask me who I'm texting with an attitude. And I'm almost an adult, which frustrates me.
@@sandrohernandez4401omg same! im 17 and literally can’t hang out with my friends bcus one of them is gay and the other is a girl (i wish i was joking when i typed this).
I totally agree with that lol
I remember in grade 8, I moved to a new school and made a bunch of "friends." They all turned out to be fake and I stopped talking with them in grade 9. It was really hard for me to make new friends, especially with self esteem issues in that year. I made 1 real friend, that's it. This year (grade 10) I've made a decent amount of friends. I have been working on ways to improve my self confidence and find people who like me for who I am. I also tried to open up and talk to people more. (I am pretty introverted, but when I find something to talk about I will just keep talking) Now I'm much happier!
yayyy I'm happy for you :)
Mf you can’t just ‘make a friend’ that’s treating people not like people. A friend is someone you’ve known for ages, not a person you’ve made into a ‘friend’. There is a difference between a person you occasionally talk because you have classes together and a person who you know every detail about.
@@hhproductions8254 How would you know how frequently I talk with them?
@@hhproductions8254 Why are you being so mean pluh??
honestly i think i have been alone pretty much since i started school as a kid, had a few minor friends there and now and when i was 13 i was even in a friend group, but now, 15, it's like i'm already used to being alone but at the same time it sucks SO HARD, i feel like everyone intentionally ignores me because they think i'm weird someway, and it got to the point where i would literally spend the ENTIRE DAY without saying a single word in school and leave, i already had SO much panic attacks in and out of school because of that to the point where i can't even feel comfortable in my own body and just being myself in general, and guess who gave a shit about me? NOBODY
fuck. school.
This is literally me…
I feel and experience that, too. I was lucky enough to have small talk with a dude in my history class. I sometimes wanna talk/ approach someone, but I don't wanna seem weird, so I don't do anything.
If you are weird and don’t talk nobody’s going to be your ‘friend’
well yeah, if you don't talk and just sit around you basically fade into the background. But trust me, people aren't intentionally ignoring you or secreting hating you or anything..they probably don't even realize you exist..and im not trying to be mean just honest
this is me too
Being a 17 year old guy in junior year, I feel this to an extreme extend bruh, most guys and girls think I’m weird and all I do is try to be kind and stay in my own lane if I’m not going out of my comfort zone lol
we literally the same (I’m 17 too)
You know it’s bad when you draw ideal friend groups
im a senior this year and have been homeschooled since fourth grade really has stunned my socialization. online friends come and go (as do all friends) but ive always just wanted at least one irl friend to help with life and just enjoy my time with. literally thank u so much for this vid
You’re so welcome! Glad you were able to get something out of this video
Ik u explained the drawbacks of your experience of online school but you’re extremely lucky imo. U have more time to yourself and don’t have to go to school with hundreds of ignorant teenagers
@@user-zb7ru9zz7k i can agree in that aspect. tbh either way has its drawbacks and positives so it depends on what you make of it. im thankful for my ability to have quiet education and not deal with overstimulation of classrooms and such but i also wish i could've experienced having irl friends instead of isolation.
@@gaekouhi how ks it going now?
@@Mlgmega2988 minor but better updates! been struggling to find a suitable job at the moment (like most people right now lol) which i fully expected to better my social skills in before going to uni. at the very least, i've been able to meet up with a few online friends this summer and even if they aren't always available to hang out, im definitely grateful of the days we have spent together. all i could ask for tbh it only gets up from here
I am in the exact same situation, at frist I tought i could endure, then school became hell, and being alone was probably a cause of it.
I started freshman year and I don’t even know what to do anymore. I thought this year would be different. I have no one. It’s horrible.
@@adriancabrera4817yeah, I said I would change but clearly it isn't the case, being introverted in a new school sucks
I’m a senior in high school. I came into high school with no friends there because I was new. I’m also autistic which means that people think I’m a joke just because I laugh and talk a lot and do peculiar (but harmless) things. People only sit with me if there’s not enough space to sit somewhere else. As soon as there is, nobody will sit there, and when I sit at places with people, they usually end up leaving me alone rather quickly. Group projects I’m left alone. I see people I know hanging out without me. I did what I was supposed to do. Invite people places, talk, show genuine interest and kindness but I have only had 2 high school relationships that left the school and they are still quite shallow as I share no classes with the people I have connections to. The other thing that sucks is that I don’t remember names too well. That means that when I talk I’m often ignored. Sometimes purposefully. People say be yourself until you’re a person like me. Then you’re annoying and they want you to shut up. At this point, it’s my last year so fuck it. I’m keeping my head down and I’ll try again in college, this time with a new and improved personality and physique. It seems everywhere I go everyone is in an established friend group. If I didn’t have a strong sense of hope and motivation, I would have probably offed myself by now. I really hope that something changes😩
Let's not forget people call you weird all the time too! And if someone shows any interest, you start overthinking if it's genuine or are there any other intentions behind their words. Hate this. I hate how I knew it will be like this. My school system has one consistent group of classmates so there is no option of being lucky and having that one person you share 1 class with be your friend. Just ended up being the weirdo making circles on the hallway.. 3rd grade, I can do it, I believe you can too.
@@Alicja09 I know I’m weird and I don’t think it’s a bad thing however they are obviously using it to be an insult 😭
@@blackqweenmars To be honest I do not even know what they try to use as an insult anymore..
@@Alicja09 fr
I watched some of your videos and you have a great personality and are extremely talented at the piano. Honestly if the people at your school don’t want to be friends with you or interact with you don’t entertain it. I know still going through school having no one be your #1 sucks, but maybe just go through the school day knowing that you’re worthy of friendship and one day you will meet someone. You aren’t going to be alone forever and everyone ends up finding someone, at least that’s what I believe :)
Omg omg finally found someone who I relate to! I feel so lonely at school and out of school.. I talk to ppl and stuff during class but I’m alone at lunch ://
Screw high school, I'll peak in my 30s
EXACTLY
Reality is harsh.
Yeah it is unfortunately
Brutal
Reality is because the wrold itself is just beginning to get worse, with this being one of the signs.
I see people that are always lonely, and I wanna say hi and befriend them but idk how to I’m lowkey scared :(
Did a total 180 from what you did. Tried to be extremely outspoken and stand out from the crowd. Somehow, it worked tremendously well.
If there are so many people who has this problem, why isn't there a solution to this 😔😔
we're scattered all over the world. even though so many of us are struggling with being alone, we're likely all miles apart from each other. even if any of us happened to be going to the same school, it's likely that they wouldn't even notice the other struggling with loneliness.
The problem was caused by people just generally not wanting to even be friends with each other, and also shunning each other because they are somewhat wierd, if not to the worst scenario treating them not like a human being as what they did to me last time.
everything seems to have been going downhill since 2019
People before then were so much more friendlier
the solution is to stop with the pity party and the 'everybody secretly hates me' mindset and actually talk to people
@@kqlolll2618 that's not true take off ur rose tinted glasses
@@torbieginger-sh2cc ah yeah my bad let me just turn off the part of my brain that screams at me every time i make a simple mistake! lemme just ignore the overwhelming urge to _apologize for my existence!_
it isn't as simple as turning/taking something off. its like asking someone to stop being depressed. it takes time and effort to get to a place where you not only feel comfortable with others, but also yourself.
we long for companionship that we believe we don't deserve, and getting out of that mindset isn't easy. not when it feels like everyone's staring at you, or when you have a sinking feeling that those whispers are about you.
i wish we could just snap out of it. i wish that your comment would suddenly make people like us _like us,_ but alas, that isnt how this works. it's gradual, it's terrifying, but eventually we'll get there. hopefully we'll find people who we can rely on, who we can trust. but until then, we've just gotta keep working on ourselves.
I used to be this way. I'm in college now but until then I had no friends and never thought I could be loved or have a true bff. Fast forward and now I do have an online best friend who I have seen in person irl 5 times and is my bff. And I have also befriended an elderly lady online to who I plan to meet irl soon. Life works in mysterious ways. I used to be sooo awkward and shy and riddled with anxiety. It does get better
i lost like all my friends over the summer. the only ppl that stayed wuz ma partner and my camp (mostly online interactions) best friend, ily sky, ily theo
I’m 16 in high school, and I go to such a small school, where the graduating class is around 35 kids each year. I grew up with almost everyone I see in the hallways. Because of this, people get the impression that we all must be friends and we all must not be lonely. Wrong. I’ve grown up with most of the people in my grade, and somehow, I haven’t felt a true sense of connection since maybe middle school. I’ve recently started to eat lunch in a classroom because I confessed to my teacher that I hid in the restroom during lunch because, and this is a direct quote from me, if I’m gonna be lonely, I’d rather do it alone. And I still stand by that. However, even I can’t deny that relationships are a huge part of growing up, and you need them, especially to get through something as daunting and energy draining as high school. I have such high social anxiety and self esteem issues because I don’t know what it feels like to have the validation or support that a group of friends provides. I don’t have anyone that I can think of and know, “yes, they have my back 100%.” At this point, it’s a waiting game to see how long I can last until college, and a constant question/worry of “Will I ever be able to make a friend?”
Omg word for word this is literally how I feel at my school
I’ve tried “getting myself out there” a whole bunch of times. I constantly thought that “finally I have somebody/ some people to talk to!” but as always, I got pushed away by those same people. That’s why I don’t really care anymore and I’m better off not having friends than having “friends” that don’t acknowledge or take me seriously.
This is so real. This is happening to me right now and it kinda hurts
(Btw papa’s bakeria is the best I actually sometimes play the to go ver. at school)
Hoping it gets better for you!! Also gotta love Papa’s games lol
my fav is the pizza one because pizza is bae
how do they not lag for yall?
Im 17 years old and the last time i had a friend was when i was 12 😮💨
Your not alone, my freshman and sophomore year I had almost no good friends. I just stuck around assholes to not feel lonely and was extremely quiet because I drifted away from so many people over quarantine. It sucks, just going day to day with nothing to do besides school work, rotting away, waiting for college. Thankfully I finally found some good people who like me for who I am, and I really hope anyone else reading this can find those people too. Just remember, you dont need to be popular or have it all to be happy, its just highschool, dont compare and find people who you enjoy.
Also being honest, luck is a big factor. If I didn't get lucky with some of my classes I'd still be right where I started.
Cute pfp
Damn, and my lucks’ shitty
Gang, this is the worst. I'm in a group but still feel alone😅😝
so real
but ur not
not real, i found a new group and i love it here 💪💪
@luvmeg not real, i found a new group and i love it here 💪💪
hey, I’ve since graduated high school but I went though it with no friends. I went entire days without speaking to anyone and barely anyone even knew I was in their class. When I graduated, no one clapped for me.
But the bright side is, there’s always more chances to make friends, especially out of school. I was able to make a few acquaintances at work who actually like me, and I might be able to hang out with some other coworkers I never really talked to because I found out we have some similar interests. I might not have any actual friends right now but I still have hope that it can happen for me someday.
i also know theres light at the end of the tunnel, so sometimes when i feel lonely, ill remember that when i go have a job or learn more, i can get over my shyness and try to talk
Im watching this alone in school rn (。･´д`･。).
I honestly wish I had someone to look forward to in school, it doesn't really work the same online. Because now I look forward to skipping school 💀
But yeah, this video exactly hit the spots in my soul. Good video 🌸
legit me too 😭😭
+ im getting bullied bro
Even my online friends are lame lol
Although that's probably my fault for going for incels
@@iiCounted-op5jxbrother, what the scallop??
legit LEGIT
I literally STRUGGLE with this issue. I never experienced having a friend before in school, I only had students I would talk to every now and then, just classmates. Since I'm now homeschooled, I literally have NO chance of connecting with irl people and only have online to help me.
I can't really get passed highschool. I have no motivation to. (still in 9th grade, I'm 16). All the online friends I had came and went. I thought I would actually have friends then, that's not how it is. I really want (or wanted) a friend that I could just, idk, hang out with outside, like a normal situation in tv shows, movies, or cartoons, like with South Park. It just seems so fun to hang out, surprisingly, I never hung out before, ever. It's really getting to me, I struggle with lonliness ever since I was young.
My only true friend was my cousin. We used to talk a lot, but slowly drifted away as time went on, and now, we don't talk. I fear I might not have friendship moments like normal situations, all because I'm stuck in my home most of the time. The only person I could go have a conversation with is my mom, and that's it, no one else. It's sad really. I tried Discord, Amino, countless friendship apps (not the weird dating ones) to find friends, and they all failed. Most friends I had already had friends, and it just made me all jealous, like, how did you get these friends? How? But that's a stupid thing to get jealous over.
I now turn to UA-cam as my last option, hopefully by my animations, I could pull in someone that will gradually become my friend :)
Anyways, for anyone who actually read my comment of rambling, thank you, if you could even find it. I'm surprised to all the people who literally have no friends like I do. It gives me hope that I'll find someone with similar interests and life as me. I hope for that day, I swear.
Good luck, people :)
i literally cant relate more to you, especially the jealousy part. like literally I cant talk to people because "they already have friends and I'm not worth their time" it makes me feel so worthless and weak
I feel like nobody needs me and that's why i'm alone and i feel like i'm the only one in this world experiencing this
ngl I'm starting to believe in the simulation theory
@@diren_was_here i wouldn’t be surprised if this simulation of earth was like extreme difficulty or something like everything here is genuinely so stressful
It’s always the like “buddies” too that aren’t actually your friends bc they have other friends and you see them like once a day. Like bro I HAVE NO COMMUNITY. I feel like my years have been completely wasted. At least I graduate this yr 😭I srsly wanna skip to college too.
Agreed can’t wait to also graduate this year too because I swear when it’s your peers it’s like some switch turns on and everybody don’t wanna fw you all of a sudden 😔😭
I've has so many buddies in classes, i would make them laugh and play google doodle games, but they never stay with me they never try to talk to me so i stopped trying to make any interactions with anyone and it sucks i dont want to be alone but i feel like i hit rock bottom not even therapy works because all i do is talk about cats because i dont wanna talk about my problems
I went through the same thing except I got friends the first day and then they dropped me after a week and I got absolutely no new friends after that so I just fuckin sit there and hope and PRAY they never end up in another class wit me again.😭😭🙏
WT girl this just also happened to me too 😭 let’s hug and hope we get through this together 🫂
real cause so many people leave me for other groups
All of my friends drop me in senior year, so I have no one to go with at prom,school parties etc which is why I'm not going to any of those activities. My classmates act surprised when I say this like bro do you see me with ANYONE THAT I COULD POSSIBLY go with??? 😭
Everyone secretly outcasted me, no matter what I did none of it mattered to anyone, but does it matter if no one cares? No, for the perceptions of other don’t define your true self, you create your value. I would rather be alone than to pretend to be someone that I’m not, and that’s what I did and I’m proud.
“I will not bend to your narrative for I am the author of my life” one can’t control the world however one can control his soul and that’s what truly matters, even if the world hates you, love yourself for you are beautiful as you are. Live life to the fullest
I learned that chasing fulfillment from the world was a waste of energy, true fulfillment comes from within, achieve goals, be stronger, study philosophy, be kind, meditate upon the beauty of Mother Nature, discover your true self within the realm of solitude
For true happiness is from within your soul
You are as beautiful as the universe for you are the universe
Even if it’s all meaningless, I’m gonna live to the fullest and create my own meaning
I feel exactly like this right now. I am on the spectrum and I have a really hard time socializing, and I have tried before to be friends with people even though it’s so hard for me to speak, but I just end up screwing it up because I’m so bad at socializing. And seeing everyone around me doing stuff with big groups of friends while I am all alone feels so bad, and I feel like I am wasting my high school years like this and I am already in grade 10. Because all I do is sit by myself and quietly do my work and I need like teachers to walk to classes with me because I’m so afraid of just moving around the school alone which probably dosent help with people wanting to be friends with me. At this point with my anxiety being so bad I really feel like I am never going to have friends at all and it really depresses me.
Damn bruh I agree. I hate to admit it but today was the first day of 10th grade and I realized I had no one to sit with at lunch. I realized that I don’t hang out with my “friends” outside of school. I realized that I am alone. I hate it so much I want to have friends I want to party I want to go to football games and I want to drink and have fun. But I can’t and I don’t know why. I try and try and try and it never seems to work. I don’t know what to do anymore man😢. I wouldn’t even call myself introverted I HATE being alone. I just don’t understand man why it has to be me with nobody. Everyone else has somebody. I’m not weird or annoying I just don’t understand any reason why or what to do. 😢😢😢
I’m sorry you’re going through this.
At least you are trying. I’ve recently found some people that have the same interests as me after years of feeling like friends don’t understand me.
So, you never know.
You still have your identity and confidence which is all you need.
But you’ll find them.
You’re so right, there’s someone out there for everyone so I know I’ll meet my group of people soon :))
3:30 u js said everything i was doing rn. god im so alone 💀
Same
i wanna hang out with everyone in this comment section
My dad was in the military so I’ve moved a fucking lot but Indiana has been the worst expierience ever. Truthfully. I’m used to clinging to extroverts but there’s not community here for me and it’s worse because I’m bisexual so 80% of the student body practically wants me dead oh and im aetheist so I can’t even hang with the Christians like I’m just tired like I have friends but not at my school I have no friends within four hours of me and I just I’m tired of this really if anyone wants to be friends please reply to my comment just as desperate as you think you are I am.
Vent ik but the girlies that get it get it
aw nah thats awful man I thought my situation was bad but there's like at least one other gay girl in my class so i know someone's on my side 😭😭😭 if you have discord or anything we could vent to each other there or honestly just talk about whatever
As someone who has different interests and can't relate to almost anyone in my class, I actually felt this. (´。＿。｀) I moved to this school a year ago, and I never did feel so lonely until now. Barely anyone in my class likes the things I like, or has the same humor as me, and those who do, I'm too socially awkward to talk to and maintain a friendship with them. 90% of my class being filled with assholes isn't helping with my kooky and awkward personality, either.
I literally dread going to school just because of the thought of being alone and judged every day, like a never ending cycle. I have to put on a shy and quiet act every single time I enter school, and my real personality slips sometimes from how tired I am of faking an entire personality. And it's all just for me to hardly connect with others and be made fun of when my true colors come out. I've gone home from school with tears welling in my eyes multiple times, thinking about how everyone else is having fun with friends while I'm here being sad and lonely because all my friends are 2 hours away and our friendship is slowly slipping away from the distance. .·´¯`(>▂
I bet your an anime kid
@@hhproductions8254no your just one of those wierd people they are probably talking about. I could even call you wierd because you like war stuff, if anything you would be shunned as well.
Plus saying anime is quite an understatement considering that anime doesnt really have this reputation anymore is more liked now, if anything to shun someone for it would only be possible if they wanted everyone to know.
ok but fr serious emoticons does not mean anime kid you sound a bit dumb, like you think you are better than everyone here, while i just told you that you wouldnt really
she just like me
Object show fan spotted omigosh hi!!!
@@heavilydeformedbirchtree6278 hehe hi
Another Object show fan!! Hiii!!
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That's why I always talk to the quiet kids.
I've been one before (I still am in some classes) I know how much it hurts to have no one to talk with during class.
I wish every weird kid had at least a school friend ☹️
feel you girly pop. i know it's hard. but hey, on the bright side, you'll be going to college (or not if you don't want to) in a few years and you'll be able to make new friends there. stay strong
Right about that, so excited for college !!!
I'm not starting college for the next 4 years, but my mother told me that you'll make actual friends in college
started college 3 weeks ago and still have no real friends (part of a club though)
same im so hyped i could finally prove i could make friends
anxiety is tough, but if you don't join a club or a sport it's gonna be tough to make friends if u don't put in the effort, i struggled a lot as i was homeschooled heading into highschool, but as soon as i joined a sport i made friends. put urself out there or you're gonna be lonely
Even besides the anxiety my school hasn’t always been the place where I could fit in. Everyone is into stuff that I’ve barely even stepped foot in, but I hear you on putting myself out there, I’m taking one step at a time.
I joined the golf team I just don’t relate to any of them at all just nothing for us to talk about or do other than golf and they are kindve assholes when we play
I’m just as lonely talking with people. Unless you are comfortable enough to invite them over and hang out, they are not your friend. They are an acquaintance.
Bruh my parents seriously bugging me to find a sport just to find friends. Im not a sports person and not really a big fan of it, i never found a sport i liked. There was cross country but ill never get to get back to it because my parents are stupid idiots who went crazy and got sososo depressed when they found out i had to attend meets but couldnt instantly have the endurance to run in them and had to cheer. Duh, it obviously takes a lot of practice, particularly they were really angry that they made me wear a uniform while i couldnt run. Running was fun, however having stupid cavemen iq parents isnt 😊😊
lol I’m not an emotion person but it’s definitely gotten harder to endure sitting alone at lunch. Its also been hard to get lunch since I have no where to eat. This video made me cry lmao because I just wish I had normal interest where I could connect with other people, but no matter how hard I try i am labeled weird. Thank you sharing your experience so it makes me less alone
Honestly i'm kinda jealous of the people who are like "I'm an introvert and i don't need no friends!", i wish i was satisfied with just 2 levels of maslow's hierarchy of needs. My gender dysphoria is already bad enough i don't want to feel like a pathetic loser cuz i have no friends on top of that.
But i'm too scared of death so i'll just keep on rolling, no matter how bad it gets.
can't relate, I have tons of friends and they're all super cool and like me😎 (I have schizophrenia)
I just started freshman year and currently have no friends. I know it's technically not been that much and I could always make some in the future but my crippling social anxiety tells me i won't and it has made me feel so horribly out of place at school. REALLY glad to hear im not the only one honestly
Don’t worry, us with social anxiety are the cool ones😂
I remembered during my junior high school days, I had some companions for like 3 months until I lost them all. Since then I've been lonely for the rest of the year, failing my grades or anything because I had none and I didn't see the point of continuing school. Even one of my teachers before called me out for being alone and It truly hurts. I never want to go back to those dark times I swear-. I'm glad It's over and made alot of friends on college, and I feel sorry for those ppl out there in the comments who had been through worse or similarly like mine. I hope you find your people one day.
I'm 19 and while I know a lot of people and many people say hi to me at University, I don't have anyone as a "friend", just acquaintances. I live in a very small village, where I and my brother are basically the only people under 30 years old, and until I could get a car I was stuck there for most days. I went to a rural school for 4 years then it closed so I had to change schools and start over, I went to a different high school than anyone else in my school because of the isolated place I live, it sucks because I know so much people but I can't physically hang out with them and as a result of that, I don't know how to talk to people, so even in the couple of occasions I have been able to have a conversation with one of the people I know I always make it awkward or don't know what to talk about because I don't know nothing about pop culture (actors, musicians etc.). I remember an occasion when I had just started fresh new in high school and some guys were planning to play minecraft, I asked them if I can play with them (which I made awkward because of course I did) but they said yes, and that night I connected to their server but because of the terrible Internet connection here, they began to have a lot of lag and ended up kicking me out. They never talked to me again, that's painful to remember, it was the perfect opportunity.
It's also quite bad at university because I'm doing German and in pronunciation class the professor says "practice with your partner", and I have no partner so I just sit there awkwardly. I have tried to sit with people but they end up always leaving.
I FEEL YOU SIS.
I was literally this in High school (I did have a ""group"") but in reality, they all had other closer friends to hang and I was always left alone... Even sadder, one of them would only hang out with me when they had no one else to hang or were angry at their actual friends... I didn't eat (cause it was a pain in the ass to eat alone or make the line alone) and god...
Then I finished HS and went to Uni... I was really scared it would happen again but they told me it was gonna be easier, that these people had my same interest and it was gonna be fun... I tried to be optimistic but... Yknow... Is kinda depressing to admit that in my 4rth semester, I'm still alone...
I had some acquaintances and... "friends" but after the semester was over we never spoke again, I don't know how to make friends and even worse keep them and... Is really sad lol, I couldn't have expressed it better than you did
I'm 20 rn and still the same lonely looser I was back in HS... It's sad
OH MY GOD GIRL you actually get it like you talked about exactly what I'm going through its like your talking about my life, glad I found someone that I can relate to
sooo true about wanting to skip to collage you DO NOT understand how much it helps to know that I'm not the only one that has been struggling with this
Awe so glad you were able to relate, you just made my day :)
I relate to the whole collapsing mental sanity thing a fair bit like ever since my parents told me ill be taking 11th n 12th grade homeschooled everyday has been for the most part exactly the same the amount of stuff to do with no friends seem non existent especially when i tell most ppl about this they all recommend the same stuff such as working out reading books finding a hobby etc which indeed r like enjoyable things in there own right but there is such a big difference between fun n enjoyability in my head like sometimes js stating at a wall can be meditative n enjoyability but that shouldn't mean that its fun ykwim i js crave going out with my friends n js fuckin around laughing talking n everything in between n am even more worried that this will fuck me over in college n will ruin any social skills i previously had am really wishing something happens of any sorts
Turning fifteen in about 10 days, I have a good friend group in high school rn, but that is really about to change.. I’m moving to a new country and school and I’m literally panicking at the thought of having no friends at all. I really hope I’ll have at least one friend who can be my bestie for graduation. 😞
this is so relatable
i've changed schools 4 times in 2 countries, and soon it's gonna be 5 times in 3 countries and i'm already in the 10th grade
the last time i had someone remoteeeeeeeeeely close to a friend *in school* (i had some internet friends and a very close one in 2020-2022, though for now i only speak sometimes to this one friend) kinda was in 4th grade lmao
the biggest struggle has always been possible neurodiversity or just generally idk it's just hard to even talk to people i'm TOO scared to even start a conversation.
sooo.. if you have managed to have a friend group NOW, you're gonna find at least a single friend in a different country! the language (if you don't know it) may be a problem for the first time but after a couple of months it's gonna be WAY easier to speak in it and make friends
either way, don't lose hope.
so wish you luck!!
I’ve moved twice in the past year and all I’ll say is to put your self out there even if it’s just a little and be patient because it takes time to make decent friends, I went the first 2 months of school last year with no one at all and by the end of my time at that school I was friends with I’d say 5 or so people. I’m basically doing the same thing right now with my new school too lol, tldr just put your self out there someway somehow whether it’s a club or just chatting with the people at your table
As a 24 year old who doesn’t have many friends IRL (and those I do have moved away) i feel your pain sister.
Pretty much all my friends are online, I wanna make friends IRL, but…as an adult, it’s much harder than when you’re a teenager.
I don’t have a 3rd place to go and make friends ( aside from church, but that’s limited) i just wanna find my people IRL. People who share the same morals, interests, and are in the same age group as me. Is that too much to ask? It shouldn’t be.
Experiencing this right now with the highschool I’m in.
I just moved to a new state, like new house, new environment, new school, mostly new everything. And my self-consiousness around my own voice, manner of speaking, and lack of ideas for conversations really hit me hard when it came around to interacting with people. I’m not confident in my classes, yet it feels like I’m falling behind by not taking higher ones (AP classes).
My anxiety around group presentations has gotten worst, with me bombing (still passing but failing overall in) my last and only 2 class presentations during my sophomore year.
My memory has gone to what people would call shit. My self-esteem is on the low. And my sensitiveness towards the feeling of embarrassment pushes me forward to avoid situations that causes distress. It has also seeped into my home life, such as how I don’t do things that seem out of character due to feelings of drowned out shame in my chest. Heck, that even includes me pulling out my laptop for studying. I don’t know what’s wrong with me, well I do, but I still ask so much as if I could get answers from the unknown grounds in my mind. Procrastinating on work I should be doing.
I feel so stagnated rn.
Writing this out because it is one of the rare moments where I allow myself to. I can’t even write to my bestfriends abt it, they are stressing also abt schoolwork that is much more advanced than to what I am currently taking. Plus, ever since I have been exposed to talking out one of my early friends out of suicidal thoughts, i had become too empathetic to the point where it sabotages growth in certain relationships.
I have presented to my family that I’m a somewhat normal girl who goes around school as they should be. Their expectations of me are higher than what I can currently achieve. Everything is just not aligned.
Thus, leading to the current but previously ongoing deterioration of my mental health.
I think my passive suicidal ideation is back, or atleast making a strong attempt to comeback.
I’m sorry if you see this. I just needed to write this.
My fked up handwriting is also not helping me with improving my writing. Idk how to fix it, it seems to be fixed to the muscles of my hand and to my brain 😭.
I really need help, but I can’t shatter this identity towards my family as it will break them.
I am the same person as I was 5 years ago. No, more like 8 years ago. It has been just worst.
I can’t just shake it off anymore, never have been able to.
While, my brother is progressing in life like a normal person should. My parents probably think he is somewhat of a genius, with him being able to adjust to the country during our stay in the U.S for these first 5 years. Its all his work, annnd my parents’ money and support.
Right now, I have the resources, the family, the friends-even though they are at the other side of the country and at another countey-, the support, the privilege, but not me. I don’t have faith in my future. It’s crippling me and depriving me of life, so bad.
I wish to live for the next couple of years, literally and figuratively. Its this odd and ubsurdd shyness towards things thats blocking me from any kind of major improvement.
I searched abt it online and all it mentioned was avoidant personality disorder : D
I am fked
I wish we could all like meet up and be each others friends because no one is excited to see me in school
me too. I like your future tone pfp btw :)
sia you seem so nice and funny. i didn’t have any friends until about halfway through my junior year of high school and it sucked. i remember getting lunch and then going to eat it in the library bc i didn’t have anyone to sit with. it can be so hard to try and make friends when everyone already seems like they have their groups. i know you said that your anxiety keeps you from joining clubs and stuff but honestly… do theater or band haha that might sound lame but i auditioned for my school’s musical my junior year and that’s when i finally felt like i had friends. i had after school activities and i had people that i could talk to, even if it was just about the show. again, you literally seem so funny and genuine and i know this is the last thing you want to hear, but you’ll have no problem making friends once you leave school. high school is tough. even for the people that seem like they have a ton of friends. you don’t know what kind of terrible dynamic they have within their group or how many times they get left out of things that they really wanted to go to. obviously it’s easy for me, a 25 year old, to say this. but keep your head up girl!!! and keep making content. you’re clearly a really cool person and you won’t be friendless forever. high school just…. really really sucks. ❤ fr loved this video btw. i think you should keep making rants like this. you seem to have a good view of the world and a good head on your shoulders. just wait until you aren’t in high school anymore- you’re gonna excel far beyond most of the people you see in class everyday that look like they have it made. just wait!! it’ll be worth it, i promise.
This made me smile, I really appreciate you taking time to write this :))
I’m a junior is high school and I still haven’t kept a close friendship with anyone. I kind of stop trying to make friends because most of them move schools, get homeschooled, or just don’t keep in touch anymore. Like I love socializing, my parents have called me the “social butterfly” in the family but..high school is just so overwhelming. It feels like everyone is constantly judging you. AND, I seen so many people with the same interests as me but I could never have the courage to like actually go up to them.
even if its scary, try joining a club or sport! Its a really easy way to start talking to peoplee
Im in 10th now i spent all of 9th alone and i fucking hate being so lonely genuienly i feel like ive become a worse person im more irritated cause im constantly just mad at myself and my loneliness id consider myself an extrovert but im a shy person im also a trans woman so i am terrified of coming out in a school full of really homophobic kids i dont know what to do the situation is genuenly so dire
Nah u good, i dont know your situation but all i gotta say is jus keep tryna talk to ppl and itll work out. just cuz one year may have been bad dont mean the rest gotta be the same
@@OakMelon yeah im staying hopeful
Does your school have a pride club? They are pretty accepting and could give you a community of people of wouldn’t bully you.
@@blueischiii1575 nope
felt. I haven't had friends since I was about 9. I hate when I see people talk about how they have "no friends" while still having a friend or two. it makes me feel like no one or most people truly don't understand the pain of loneliness. ive literally lost all of social skills. my parents unschool and isolate me, which is the reason for it. having friends or even just people to talk to feels so dystopian to me. im not going to vent with too much detail because it seems that a lot of the comments are people who aren't socially isolated or homeschooled, but, yes dude it sucks. seeing all the kids around you wear matching halloween costumes, make silly tiktok dances, have sleepovers, play roblox together, play pickleball together hurts..so much. I think what bothers me, this may not apply to a lot of people because I see a lot of comments saying that what makes them feel better is having a second chance in college, but anyway, what bothers me the most is that you're only a child and teen for so long. after you hit 18, unless you're going to college, a lot of people see the things I mentioned as childish or juvenile. so you're immediately forced into adulthood full of stress, bills, toxic work environments, etc without ever having the sleepovers, the tiktok dances, the ding dong ditching, the pool parties, etc, you know, all the silly, childhood/teenager moments that most people got. I just wish there was a place where adults who never got to experience all those things can go to.(especially for the former homeschooled kids)
Haven't had a single good friend in over 2 years. It's at the point now where I don't even know how to act around people anymore lol. But it is what it is ig.
this pretty much sums up my entire life lol. this is late as shit, but honestly what helped me out was remembering that if you're friendlier to people, talking becomes a lot more natural. it sounds cliche as shit, but its helped me a lot. i still shake a lot when i talk to ppl, but if you try to treat random ppl like your friends, they'll treat you like a friend. (unless if its a teacher or smn lmao)
i wqs so close to ending it all a while ago because of the same reason. its simply jsut so depressing going to school with no friends and haveign insane anxiety over it is even bad. thankfully ill be out of it next year thank god. ill miss it probably, idfk. this made me feel so less alone.. thank you for uploading this. i seriously thought i was the only one with this issue
Rant/vent ig:0
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Idk if anyone relates to this but I was picked on since i was in kindergarten but it got worse in middle school the ppl that i thought were my friends were just making fun of me nd it made my anxiety so bad that knowing i had to get in the car for school would make me have an anxiety attack. It gotten to the point were i had to switch to online school because I couldn't cope with my anxiety. I completely closed off to interacting with anyone my age nd now that im in highschool im prettified of entering a school building nd i dont think i know how to interact with ppl anymore
I wish you luck
Was it a large public school? If you are thinking about returning I highly recommend you do not go to one.
I hate that I relate to this. It especially hurts when you see everyone in their own friend groups and spending time together outside of school. I only have one close friend that I talk to all the time at school, but it still feels isolating. She has other friends and I don’t. So whenever I’d be talking to her and one of her other friends comes to say hi, I just awkwardly stand there just waiting for their convo to end. I’ve tried to get close to her friends but it hasn’t worked since we don’t really click. I’ve even tried to get out of my comfort zone to make new friends but it seems like everyone is so closed off and only sticks to whatever friend group they already have. Not only that, it’s just been hard to connect with people. High school has been nothing but lonely, and it’s depressing :’(
I never had friends,and guess what? I still do not have friends! It really sucks,here in Italy we don’t have to lunch at school,so we have just 5 hours of school and the rest is studying and free time,but aside school,meeting people is nearly impossible! I tried anything for having at least Someone that like the same stuff that I do or that is at least kind(usually Italian teens are the worst people you can imagine) and I can’t still find someone that doesn’t like football,dresses like a shitty trapper and doesn’t act like a total high school peaker.
This is the most realest video I’ve ever seen. I’m a sophomore in high school, but the past 2-3 years have been a pain. Every time I think I made a new friend, they somehow end up leaving me for other people. I’ve made acquaintances in school, but it never leads to anything serious. I genuinely feel like I can’t find anyone who has the same interests as me and wants to hangout after school with me. I like to be on my own, I don’t mind. But, sometimes, I would like to have someone to talk to. It gets tiring being alone all the time, but it’s just hard to make friends who genuinely are interested in you :/
As humans we are social we live to talk and communicate with others. It sucks being lonely but that doesn’t make you alone. You still have your family. Even in highschool I didn’t really have friends and that was fine. The only thing that matters is working on you. If you are genuinely 100% confident in yourself you can easily talk to someone and form connections.
this video perfectly describes me tysm for sharing!!! also talking to other teachers is somehow a little easier than talking to people my age which is just sad
bro i tried the same thing i just managed to become kinda friends with one person for a while but they stopped hanging out with me cuz we had nothing in common to talk about- my only friends are either in college, a diff school or home ed
Im desensitized to it becuase i have never hadany friends in school- even the one person i had in primary school would often just dip for this kid who bullied me. Im lucky I have friends outside of school.But it just kinda feels like if i don't pretend to not exist in school I'm gonna be bullied again becuase i never got to learn how to fit in