how to make friends & be SOCIAL | managing anxiety, fear of rejection, confidence tips
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- Опубліковано 14 кві 2023
- Hi everyone! In today's video I give you my tips and tricks on how to start building a better social life and advice on how and WHERE to make new friends!
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1. Learn to open the door and let people in. (It is ok when someone doesn’t like u)
2. Assume everyone is in the same position.
3. Be the bigger person. (Make the first move)
4. Normalise rejection & detach from the outcome.
5. Change your internal dialogue. (Tell yourself it can be a good experience)
6. Practice being present, scan the room. (Bring down your nervous system so you are not in fight or flight mode)
7. Slow down, feel your feelings. (There’s no need to always rush to take action)
8. Take your time, get into your flow, find the right energy for you in the room (So u can show up in a healthy calm way)
9. Leaving your house, change your environment, put yrself in new places.
10. Acknowledge people’s existence.
11. Be present and listen, you’ll naturally be curious and have a better flow of conversation.
12. Practice being curious and act on the thoughts. (Train yrself and have a chat with people)
13. Take things slow and nurture your friendship.
14. Don’t limit yourself, change what is on the inside and your outside world will reflect. Hope this helps! :)
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THANK U SO MUCH!!!!!!!!!!
"We need to learn to open the door and let people in"🥺wow that hit me hard today!! Thank you for these tips, I love your perspective🧡
Right ?! 🥹 sending you so much love today babe 🥰
You shared this at the right time. I’ve been trying to make new friends and get comfortable doing things on my own like I use to when I was younger. I miss out on so many things I’m interested in b/c I feel I need to have someone with me all the time. Like you said I’m blocking myself. I love your videos. Keep that good energy coming beautiful❤❤❤
I’m proud of you for being this self aware. You WILL make friends, I have no doubt in my mind. Sending you lots of love 🥰
Not walking around with a resting b*tch face was the biggest learning curve for me. I had no idea I even looked like that 😂 When it comes to solidifying new connections, I’ve found vulnerability goes a long way 💕
Some really helpful insights Elicia♥️
Hahaha omg I had that phase too girllllll. Love you 😂❤️❤️
i needed this video! i’ve always loved the idea of talking to people, but when faced with it i get too in my head. i get scared they’d have a negative reaction to either me, my curiosity, or the questions i ask them and it would leave me overwhelmed and frozen.
you’re so right about just letting go, staying in your body, and just going with what you want and respecting everyone’s boundaries. just taking things slow, staying present and seeing what happens. 💞💕✨
Needed this video! I just moved to LA a few months ago and my new job doesn’t really have people I relate to :/. I gotta start putting myself out there!
Another video that is absolutely hitting home. I get in my own way wayyy to much and am blocking my ability to make friends. Deep down I feel so called to talking to random strangers but my fear of rejection or embarrassment is hindering me. Lots of inner child work to be done there! Thanks for your tips and wonderful perspectives, I need all of this energy🧡🧡🧡
Great Video! Thank you!! Can’t wait for part 2
I love ur videos so much you just put everything I’m thinking into words, ur so wise thank u for being such a good influence👑
Im happy i subscribed to your channel!
For me, its not like i’m just mad at the world but normally if i look up and smile i come off as flirting and its not my intention
If I'm feeling alone, I watch your videos and feel so much better 😄❤️
I. really needed this, im always on edge in public places and this video is exactly what I've been looking for
wow! this really grounded me and showed me how to be more social. Recently I’ve been really trying to get myself out there especially at my school. I’ve been talking to more people and making myself more approachable to others. But I seemly still felt anxious, etc. When you explained that you have to really just let go and observe your surroundings, It really made me understand that wow. It’s not that I can’t make friends, it’s the simple fact that I am so into myself! you’ve really given me a brighter and more clear perspective on approaching others and being open to people❤
Ahh my heart 🥹 I’m so happy to hear this ❤️
Great video! I’m 51 and for the first time in my life I have moved out of state and don’t know anyone. As an introvert that struggles with social anxiety, I needed to hear this.
I’m proud of you 🥹❤️
Thank you for starting a conversation I didn’t know how to have with myself. I knew there were things I needed to change but I really wanted to understand why I was behaving certain ways in certain situations. This video helped me so much with not only knowing what to do but also knowing why I was doing what I was doing. Thank you Elicia, you’re so appreciated 🤍🤍🤍
Awww you’re so so so welcome my love ❤️
Elicia you have no idea how helpful is this video. I have brakedowns almost every evening and often the reason are people that I want to become friends with but I am to anxious to be truly myself. Thank you for opening my eyes. We need more videos about that topic. Love from Slovenia.
Awww my love 🥺 I’m so happy this video helped you ❤️
Hey, Elicia! Just wanted to thank you for the content that you’re making. I’ve always wanted an older sister and even though I love being one for my younger siblings, sometimes I also need advice from someone more mature like you! Thank you for being our older sister babe ❤️❤️
Omg my HEART. I love you!! I’m always gonna be here 🥰❤️❤️❤️
I'm starting college soon... Thanks i needed this alot as a introvert
I love your videos, keep the amazing job!!
Thank you so much 🥰
excellent video. thanks 4 posting!
Wow elicia this resonated with me so deeply. I am loving the content on improving social confidence. Keep up the amazing videos❤❤
Thank you my love 😍
I am a very socially anxious person and these tips really help ❤
Much needed video Elicia.❤❤ I got in my own way yesterday.
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We appreciate your videos. They truly are helpful. God bless you.
Thank you 🥹
GIRL you're amazing 🤍 can't wait to watch 🥰
Aww thank you babe I hope you enjoy it 🥰
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Elicia, the last times I watched your Videos I was thinking about that you probably would be a great coach doing something in the coaching segment too. Just want to leave my little thought here for you :)
Thank you for the videos! They help me aligning my way
So interesting that you commented this last night as I was looking into some coaching trainings ;) I’ve been a coach before, but I’m looking for the perfect program this summer to put my time and focus in. I love that you see that potential in me, because I see it too and I’m definitely acting on it!! Love you 🥹❤️
You've basically summed up the key points from "the fine art of small talk" by Debra Fine. I highly-recommended it to socially anxious people like me.
How interesting! I’ll have to add that to my book list!!
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Omg I’ll have to try that one 😍
Do you have any tips for over self awareness during socializing? I struggle with paying too much attention to my face, my posture, my hands, I worry if my breath smells….
Thank you! I really appreciate what you’re doing. What you’re saying is so relatable!
I am a newer subscriber and have been loving your videos!! I don't comment too often but I kept wondering what the rising light reflection in the background was... And then your started your speech about curiosity... LOL So here I am?!
LOL 😂😭 omg.. my camera picks up on lighting sometimes in a really weird way!! I was hoping it wouldn’t be distracting 😂😭
Whew every thing you said is all the way 💯💯💯😍😍⚡️⚡️ I Love How My Name Has So Many Meanings- Essence ❤❤❤❤
Girl you speak facts ily
Love YOU 😍
this video hit the right spot
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This came right on time, it's my birthday and I don't have quality friends to celebrate with
Awww happy birthday babe 🥺❤️💕
This video actually woke me up in many ways loool, thanks 😭
It's honestly easy to overlook the opportunities we have to make new friends and create an energy shift for ourselves. For me, sometimes I tend to take walks to the park and not really take in the moment
When trying to talk to someone new at a gathering I feel like a predictor stalking prey. The farther i have to walk to get to that person the more pronounced the feeling. I feel like a creep, a stalker. As a result i don't initiate contact with people.
Aww this is so cute
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Dear can you pls make a video on how to build a conscious relationship with self.. 🥺🥺🥺 plssss sweetie
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Thank you my love 🥹🥹🥹
✌️😍😍love and supporter from nepal✌️
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@@eliciagoguen can we be a friend??
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The problem is building a friendship needs to be mutual. What if I try hard to make friends but it is one sided? I can follow all these tips but if people are not mutual I can't do anything
Ok so then they aren’t for you. I’ve mentioned in this video that there are going to be people who are just not meant for you/your cup of tea. Don’t let these people be the reason why you look at friendships as something that you’re not able to achieve.
There is no way you can know that if you don't interact with them. It sucks but you'll have to test the waters to see if other people reciprocate if they don't you just move on
Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. Philippians 4:6
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Bonne vidéo ! Personnellement, je conseille le livre "AISANCE SOCIALE", de Nathan Stone. Le gars est psychologue et tout, il est hyper compétent. Le livre est très complet pour tout ce qui est des relations sociales, en l'amitié, au boulot, l'anxiété sociale, etc. C'est très riche, y a tout !
I love how pro-woman you are most of the feminine energy videos are full of anti women speeches
I love women!!
thank you! really needed to hear this.🩷
You’re welcome ☺️
Wow uploaded in the perfect time for me right now. Loveeeddd the “nurturing your current friends” part because yes true I gotta go do that rn🫠
Yessss babe!!! You won’t regret it ❤️