We guys need to stop thinking about what's she doing or thinking there can many reasons why she's pulling away. Our job as guys is to chill and wait for her to come back with no contact. If we keep thinking too much we will go crazy
Once you'll wait, you will start thinking too much and eventually start going crazy... The tricks is, DON'T WAIT! Make yourself busy in any other things like your career or other girls if you have... :-) Just saying...
Women are predominantly emotional. They can pull away for many reasons. Don't always try to understand WHY?...just know that they do. This can be a good time for personal reflection. Have I been acting like a beta simp? Take stock of yourself and make sure you are exhibiting all appealing alpha, masculine traits. Don't chase!!! She'll be back soon. It's important to know that YOU haven't DRIVEN her away with too much feminine energy. Be a man. Stay cool. Stay strong. She'll be back.
Hi Qui Docet Discit I need advice if can help me out.. I wish to know how we Man should react with words or respond with action 1) on my Birthday she did not get me a Birthday Gift and only a Slice cake that clearly she didnt prepare in advance I react badly by saying where is my Birthday present and why my Birthday is miserable with just a slice cake… What i did for her Birthday I spend $$$ and a proper Birthday with fireworks candle ..by the sea front …she was very happy …but I told her I didnt buy her any Birthday gift because she didnt even bother to reciprocate I know I feel like Shit and act like Shit What should I had said and do? 2) One day I went haircut she got herself a Take Out fast food for herself ..she used to include dinner for me but this comeback together after the breakup..she didn’t invest much on me and put little effort. I called her out where is my dinner that she got for herself only …I felt so bad she used to share and we eat together Take Out but this time unlike all our 7 years she prefer to go home and eat alone ….leaving myself to eat alone and get my own take out..I am ok but I felt Bitter why she said she love me but her action is Not much In the past 7 years it very natural to date and text her …but now she withdraw 80% .. 3) she told me she would be sociable when I saw one her picture in her phone she with a guy in the gym What would a Alpha Musculine man do ? Please help..Thank you
@@fj4731 Hi fj...I feel for you. There are so many things that can be said here but it does boil down to one thing....Are you happy?? Then ask yourself...Is she worth your time, your energy, your money, your life?! You have already invested 7 yrs of your life with this woman! Can you honestly see things getting better or worse. How does she make you feel?...valued or worthless?...respected or despised? What makes you accept the contempt and disdain she shows you? Chris Canwell has many excellent insights on the nature of women and what attracts them to certain men. Watch as many of his videos as possible and buy his books. He has a great booklet on how to get your girlfriend back. Also look for advice on dealing with long term relationships and don't confuse your strategy with the advice about meeting a girl for the first time. It also pays to take an honest look at yourself and see what traits you are displaying that are killing her attraction for you...eg...too needy, insecure, too available, lacking confidence, too emotional...etc. Fix yourself to be a calm, confident alpha and then decide if she is worth your effort. If she doesn't appreciate you...move on!!! There are many other girls out there that you would be more compatible with....go find one of them. Final word...listen to Chris.
@@fj4731bro why do expect so much,does birthday gift mean allot? i understand you spend allot on her but bro you shouldn't expect or have any fantasy about anything,stop being grumpy and let her do her you be you and just focus on other things
@@virus9423 hi thank u so much it was last year I post...and next week is my birthday for this year ... And she dumped me soon after last year her birthday in September 2022 and she came back again in Nov 2022 for the 3rd time and I told her this will be my last time to take here back ...we were good together till this year April suddenly she pull away 1 week twice in a month ..I told her I dont like she disappear after telling she love me the night after sex...now I in No contact for the 5th time almost 2 month before my August birthday...what should I say or do if she reach out
Develop Attraction exactly, if what your saying is true then it’s no surprise why men are withdrawing from courting women or having female relations at all nowadays.
Let them go. Don’t play games! Women always try to shit test you. Don’t give in to it. The one with the most power in a relationship is the one that cares the least.
Hey this really works! Noticed my girlfriend starting to pull away, so I just waited until she contacted me first. After a couple of days she called me asked when we were going out next. Great advice!
Good point! But I’d say it differently. I don’t pull away; instead, I “push” toward something else, usually my path and purpose in life. That generally has nothing to do with “romance.”
This is so true. At first woman seems to be so into you and then all of a sudden she starts getting distant, she dosen’t seem to interested in you anymore and you ask to yourself what have you did wrong.
It's not that women pull away. It's that men attach themselves. It's much healthier to get a life of your own where your partner is a component and not the focal piece
One of my favourite videoes from you. Absolutely love this one because it’s so true. If I hadn’t forgotten that she at some point will pull away. I’d react in a different way and I would’ve gotten a totally different outcome. Got her back though and now it’s the second Pull Away. I know what to do. This video should be reminded to men once a month regurarly. POWERFUL.
Why is it all about the guy in this situation though? Don't women realize they have a responsibility in the relationship too? Like if the woman communicates properly and let's the guy know that he is still wanted then the guy won't panic.... women always wonder why they end up with assholes.. this is why... any guy that is so "secure" in himself that he can deal with behavior like this is probably a narcissist playing games as well...
Try to look at it another way though - are women hurting themselves with their own behavior? Women need to analyze their own behavior or they will lose out on good men.. yes men could adapt, but in the long run women are still creating problems for themselves by not developing maturity and communication skills. Ones that dating gurus won't be able to fix.
MisterFuturtastic women lack reason and accountability. They are raised to believe that everything they do is amazing and they will never suffer any consequences. It’s never her fault, it’s always the mans fault, and there will always be another man waiting in the wings to save her.
Oh my God, this is gospel. Every video resonates with what is going on in my relationship. Thank you for all your content. Saving up to buy your guide. I really love my fiance but she has changed and I want the old her back. I see that the power play has shifted where I am now chasing her. I have acted needy, hope it isn't to late!
Women doesn't need weak, anxious and insecure guy, she will expect him to be confident, secure, bold and assertive; meanwhile she will opt for another guy when she herself possesses the former qualities and will wait to check if his guy doesn't have the same qualities. WOW
When a woman starts to withdraw, the key for many men is to avoid waiting around. Instead, make sure your life is brimming with dynamic pursuits and activities, whether she's in the picture or not. If you find yourself lacking excitement and purpose, it might be a signal that you've been too emotionally invested in the relationship. Shift your focus to being driven, taking risks, pursuing your goals, and engaging in activities that genuinely fulfill you.
Wish I'd seen this video a week ago. But I ended up going ghost on her and as soon as I did she came running back. We're talking about a girl I've been with for 2 years. This advice us 100% true! Stay strong stay manly!
This has just happened to me, 3 dates in, great chemistry and connection. She sent me a 'how are you' message last night. I replied within the hour as i was busy. I asked her about meeting up for food and drinks during the week. No response from her! It could be a test after three dates, to see what im made of lol
It's something i can never understand, if love is all that matters in a relationship, why do women pulled away without any common reason?.. and yet, guys took the blame for lack of understanding?
Hosea Rolyn Quindiagan. I think they are trying to test you by dropping off. They want to see if you are a high status guy who has a lot going for him. If you chase you’re essentially telling her you having nothing going for you but her. This is a major turn off obviously.
@@jameskile5113 yes sure, her bad behaviors its mens fault as usual, thats why they will keep on doing it because some of us men will always try to find them an excuse
Although this is a common theme among this channel, it still floors me as a gentleman, who was brought up to respect and care for women, that the modern woman would treat their man like this.
These videos have helped me out so much. Thank You!! It’s made me learn how I’ve failed in the past. This system has worked so well in my current relationship.
Sometimes we call her back because they're pulling away for too long...2-3 weeks is okay, even a month or two, but 6-7 months..How can't you feel abadoned?
In a way complete honesty in their behaviour. A woman/man may not tell you with her/his mouth that they may be unhinged but they will give you warning signs. Backing off and going silent and allowing your brain to cook in its own brain fluid is a sure sign that she/he is politely telling you she/he is in self distruction mode. What I would always say to the respective other is "Your only showing me what is in-store for the guy that replaces me and I thank you for showing me 😀.... You watch her behaviour shift!
I did all this and pushed her away... But she is still dating me and is giving me a chance. I panicked and I showed weakness, which I usually never do.. I started to care about shit I never do, used social media more.. But she is still with me and giving me a chance. I've figured out my problem and I'm going to start being myself again and show her it's more then words..i just hope I didn't push her to far and it's not to late..
U sound weak my friend. You are not on your Purpose..do NOT think about her. Make urself improved financialy, physically, mentally...it may take years but trust me. If u do this. You will be the one to decline women cause theres too many of em chasing u. YOU ARE THE PRIZE...focus on what u want. Stop worrying about if its too late or fearing shell forget you.. fuck that shit. Be on ur purpose!!!!!!😠 aaaaaarrrrrrr Greatness is upon you... Rise king...Rise Up!
The problem with that is you can never provide enough reassurance to a girl who isn't secure with themselves. If a girl fights against your boundaries do not bend yourself into a pretzel to accomodate her. Never compromise your truth... for anyone.
This one chick I was seeing behaved perfectly for six months and never withdrew intimacy and was in fact even more eager for it than I was. I made sure to not be too available. Generally we would see each other once every week or two and I only used the phone to set up in person meetings, nearly all of which she initiated and invited me over or asked if she could come to my place. Then she randomly went silent for 2 months now starting on my birthday. I found out about a month ago that she's extremely upset I haven't double texted and reached out to her. I'm already over it and lined up another option instead. This channel has been a huge help.
Key is to be a little selfish. Put your goals and self development first. Don’t ignore but mirror. Be busy. When you do connect treat her like a bratty sister and let her make the decisions on what the relationship.
Too much of something for a women is bad. They have no idea of how they work either. I had a girl say “oh i enjoy when we chat for a little every night” (it’s long distance and i still set actual dates but I did pursue too much by initating a lot of the end of day calls, even when she was initiating all the daily conversation) - and for most of the month was very loving and responsive. then within 2 days of saying this she’s more distant, not saying the loving things, not reciprocating and responding slowly (she still kept our date) and I went in a tailspin for a few days but finally realized i needed to match and mirror. She’s initating the contact, i just respond, and just give her same energy or a little less. Worse thing you can do is overpursue, get dopey, etc when she’s in a mood she doesn’t understand. And you have to recognize this before you just screw up and it’s too late. Like Chris and many other channels say, just march and mirror, create space and scarcity, and don’t give unearned attention or love. This has happened before and when i correctly responded, usually after she gets her emotions straight then it’s back to the all day loving messages and more excitement to interact. And if they are still contacting you, even when they are off - they aren’t dumping you.
I really chased her and opened up myself like a book when she need space. I decided to go no contact for 1 Monty. When i contacted her again she said she was in a serious relationship and that i should never contact her again and that I just wasnt right guy for her. Man that sucks to hear.
@@Hamzak786 yes . Im Married to my dream woman right now. And she is married with that guy and have a kid. The hole thing was a learning and im thankful it went like it did. I will never make Those misstakes again
@@josefhospital allways focus on your taking care of ur self , if u cant take care of ur self then u cant take care of someone else, focus on going to the gym , eating healthy. Do this for 6 months 5 days a week no matter what. It will make you a better person and everything just falls into place. But dont scip any day no matter what.
Relationships are complex, there’s nothing easy about it but one thing is clear you can’t put her on a pedestal and viceversa. You have to be able to pull her away also, it’s a push pull technique also in a relationship not just during the dating time. This is the way you will be able to renovate on a daily basis your relation with your partner
Hi Patyfreenam.I need advice if can help me out... Last Sunday I risk giving her the ultimatum ..she said I no longer text her Baby Good nite with a Kiss or reply her Good morning text she said ever since she came back in July after my 3 month no contact I was cold and she felt I no longer love her like last year before the 1st breakup in Dec 2021..and last nite I told her my love reduce from 1000% to 33% and if she want to breakup want me my love will be zero and I will never take her back...I saw her face so sad and she beg me not to treat her so badly I told her how cruel she was on the 2nd break on 4th April ..she said she want me to forgive her I told her she must feel sorry and is all fault she left me when I love her truly and it was her decided to leave ... Deep inside me I love her bcos she in rollercoaster emotional and confuse and mentally stress and I pity her What should I do to help her get back our love ? Last Monday I fetch her from her dance class she said she felt dizzy because she didnt have good sleep for past few night ..she cried her health is no good..and want me drive her home I told her I am not her driver or part timer lover I want to spend more time with her like bf gf what we did in the past...she throw tantrums and cause a mental outcry that I forced her to stay when she want to go home..this unstable mental state I decided to bring her to counselling the next day but the lady counsellor pity her and told me not to stress her as she is mentally weak and her health condition may cause her stroke and bad anxiety...I say no standing firm that she is withholding herself and cause herself the anxiety to be a good gf ...i blame her it was her fault to break up with me and I dont trust her love even she said she love me .. I am feeling depressed she have not text me for 3 days saying she not Breaking up but she need to rest until she miss me she will contact me...i believe this is Silence treatment which will last at least one or 2 weeks.. I panic now I should not be too extreme to her she break down and cry like a crazy women...it is difficult for me to see her this way...and i could not walk away .. Please help
I get that girls will pull away, I get that I should expect it to happen. My question is WHY do they do it in the first place? Especially when everything is going great and they’re into you one day and distant LITERALLY the next?
She pulled away by calling and breaking whatever we had off at three weeks. Lots of chemistry and attraction. Two days of no contact she reached out. We started talking again. Now I have no feelings for her. I have zero fucks to give even though it was wonderful. I’ve had plenty do the pull away and come back but this is the first time I no longer have feelings. Life is weird.🤷🏼♂️haha
In todays society... pump and dump. When she goes cold there is another guy in the picture usually. Never be second meat. If she goes cold goodbye. And dont take her back. If she does it once she will keep doing it. Its not real love. Shes searching for the bigger better deal. Be smart
Hey why was there my pic, when I was crying and calling my ex? :) Damn something similar really did happen to me as well. 3 week superintensive and then she started to pull away and I started to chase. Damn how stupid I was at the time and It was only 2 years ago. But after that a lot of reading on topic. I even wrote emotional letter to her at the end :). Shameful to think about it. I was such a bitch. But life is a learning process and the times when girl kicks you in the nuts you just have to learn from your mistakes so you don't repeat them in the future. I really have learned a lot after that little incident.
About 3 months ago, we were texting and we were really good for about 8 months, until we finally decided to meet up once! After that day, things went south and she pulled away from me out of the blues, leaving me in a lot of mystery! When she started working, there was a scary level of interest from her to a friend of mine she met by coincidence at work, that it started pissing me off! Thankfully, I never mentioned it and I'm trying so hard right now to keep it cool like she doesnt even matter! Let's see how that goes 😐
Good to know, I have no idea what's going on in her head. It might be more she keeps telling me she wants to move on at least once a month but never does and we always have a great time. She told me to go out with friends. That's funny because I've been wanting to do that for a while. I think there is a genuine love for one another, but we'll see. Women are strange.
This is EXACTLY what I did yesterday: the moment she said "I have a boyfriend", I lost it! I was doing extremely well until this sentence was spoken! (Then I had to pull away when I realized what I'm doing!). - WHAT A WASTE!
I understand from a woman's POV she wants to make sure the person she is with has the traits of a good long-term partner. And as men we need to do a better job of vetting women too. But at some point if they continue to do this months or years into a relationship then they probably need to reevaluate themselves. It's not our fault they can't control their emotions
My girls pulled away from me a few weeks ago, im in my third week of no contact after I chased, She’s forever saying she’d rather be single because she can’t handle the hassle a boyfriend creates.....I even asked her to marry me after 7 months together, I was so sure about us
she isn't special guys, she is a woman not a man. if you will treat her like a Queen, She will think of you like a servant. If you will treat her like a servant, you can be her boss.
You know there are times when men screw up and women flee and then we are supposed to give them space and time. Sorry we are not wired that way. I did the above and am now just giving her space. We were engaged to be married in a few months and I had a moment actually few days of insanity saying I didn't want to get married or move to a new house we planned to buy. She isn't a fighter and flees to her best friends house 102 miles away. She bought a house the day after my mess up and moved out the day after that taking 75% out of our joint money market. She was so concerned with her security and had put maybe 1/4th of the money in our account so it just hurt she did that and not the amount because I have other money. I sent a really terrific email to her laying out our future, etc. She responded and thanked me for being patient and telling me that she wanted all the things too that I put in the email but she needs to be sure of herself. So until I hear from her sometime in the future and it isn't days here guys but more like many weeks to a few months I will not know. Guys are not like this. The waiting kills us we are men of action not sit, mope and wait so it makes doing nothing contacting her seem like eternity......To be seen if no contact advice works.
I've had the best first date EVER with this girl, a week after I tried to set up date #2 (while we've been talking here and there... and she was showing interest), I role played with her "to hire her as my secretary and that I needed to interview her" -as my way to ask her out in our 2nd date , and she said: "That's so sweet" but then I asked her: "So, you accept?"... and BOOM! Radio silence ever since!
Instead of asking "so, you accept?" You could've been assertive and said "aight 7 pm friday at ...., Wear red" Then if she ghosts you, you dont contact back. She will know 2 things you are bold and high value. But now she doesn't think that you are bold. Smallest things matter while communicating with woman.
We guys need to stop thinking about what's she doing or thinking there can many reasons why she's pulling away. Our job as guys is to chill and wait for her to come back with no contact. If we keep thinking too much we will go crazy
Once you'll wait, you will start thinking too much and eventually start going crazy... The tricks is, DON'T WAIT! Make yourself busy in any other things like your career or other girls if you have... :-) Just saying...
big facts
If she pulls away, let her go and find a replacement. That's it. If she wants to see you again, she'll call you (99% of the time they don't).
So true
Correct
I love it when they pull away they find the door on their own without drama it's very nice
Hahaha 😂😂 yeah
Have they ever came back or reached out?
I rejoiced when one of them "pulled away ". Got My Money WAY UP...transformed body.
😹💯👍
This really is great
Women are predominantly emotional. They can pull away for many reasons. Don't always try to understand WHY?...just know that they do. This can be a good time for personal reflection. Have I been acting like a beta simp? Take stock of yourself and make sure you are exhibiting all appealing alpha, masculine traits. Don't chase!!! She'll be back soon. It's important to know that YOU haven't DRIVEN her away with too much feminine energy. Be a man. Stay cool. Stay strong. She'll be back.
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Hi Qui Docet Discit
I need advice if can help me out..
I wish to know how we Man should react with words or respond with action
1) on my Birthday she did not get me a Birthday Gift and only a Slice cake that clearly she didnt prepare in advance
I react badly by saying where is my Birthday present and why my Birthday is miserable with just a slice cake…
What i did for her Birthday I spend $$$ and a proper Birthday with fireworks candle ..by the sea front …she was very happy …but I told her I didnt buy her any Birthday gift because she didnt even bother to reciprocate
I know I feel like Shit and act like Shit
What should I had said and do?
2) One day I went haircut she got herself a Take Out fast food for herself ..she used to include dinner for me but this comeback together after the breakup..she didn’t invest much on me and put little effort.
I called her out where is my dinner that she got for herself only …I felt so bad she used to share and we eat together Take Out but this time unlike all our 7 years she prefer to go home and eat alone ….leaving myself to eat alone and get my own take out..I am ok but I felt Bitter why she said she love me but her action is Not much
In the past 7 years it very natural to date and text her …but now she withdraw 80% ..
3) she told me she would be sociable when I saw one her picture in her phone she with a guy in the gym
What would a Alpha Musculine man do ?
Please help..Thank you
@@fj4731 Hi fj...I feel for you. There are so many things that can be said here but it does boil down to one thing....Are you happy??
Then ask yourself...Is she worth your time, your energy, your money, your life?! You have already invested 7 yrs of your life with this woman! Can you honestly see things getting better or worse. How does she make you feel?...valued or worthless?...respected or despised? What makes you accept the contempt and disdain she shows you?
Chris Canwell has many excellent insights on the nature of women and what attracts them to certain men. Watch as many of his videos as possible and buy his books. He has a great booklet on how to get your girlfriend back. Also look for advice on dealing with long term relationships and don't confuse your strategy with the advice about meeting a girl for the first time.
It also pays to take an honest look at yourself and see what traits you are displaying that are killing her attraction for you...eg...too needy, insecure, too available, lacking confidence, too emotional...etc.
Fix yourself to be a calm, confident alpha and then decide if she is worth your effort.
If she doesn't appreciate you...move on!!! There are many other girls out there that you would be more compatible with....go find one of them. Final word...listen to Chris.
@@fj4731bro why do expect so much,does birthday gift mean allot? i understand you spend allot on her but bro you shouldn't expect or have any fantasy about anything,stop being grumpy and let her do her you be you and just focus on other things
@@virus9423 hi thank u so much it was last year I post...and next week is my birthday for this year ...
And she dumped me soon after last year her birthday in September 2022 and she came back again in Nov 2022 for the 3rd time and I told her this will be my last time to take here back ...we were good together till this year April suddenly she pull away 1 week twice in a month ..I told her I dont like she disappear after telling she love me the night after sex...now I in No contact for the 5th time almost 2 month before my August birthday...what should I say or do if she reach out
Who the hell wants to deal with this anxiety? Why would a woman pull away for no good reason? She’s ruining her own happiness and relationship
Modalsoul Agree. Now try explaining that to a woman.
Develop Attraction exactly, if what your saying is true then it’s no surprise why men are withdrawing from courting women or having female relations at all nowadays.
MGTOW :D
Because women love to experience a wide range of emotions.
Logic versus emotion
Let them go. Don’t play games! Women always try to shit test you. Don’t give in to it. The one with the most power in a relationship is the one that cares the least.
This guy is perfectly on point. Brilliant as always.
Totally
Hey this really works! Noticed my girlfriend starting to pull away, so I just waited until she contacted me first. After a couple of days she called me asked when we were going out next. Great advice!
And YOU were strong enough not to lose your emotional centerdness.
This exact same thing happened to me recently. I've learned my lesson and have changed my strategy going forward...starting with a first date tonight!
I mean look at u bro, u handsome, why would a woman pull away ??
All humans pull away, man or women, your family, your friends, give them space, don't suffocate them.
you are just a simp ☺
Good point! But I’d say it differently. I don’t pull away; instead, I “push” toward something else, usually my path and purpose in life. That generally has nothing to do with “romance.”
Like a boomerang. You let them go and they'll come right back
This is so true. At first woman seems to be so into you and then all of a sudden she starts getting distant, she dosen’t seem to interested in you anymore and you ask to yourself what have you did wrong.
Yeah bro I am a lesbian a this shit happened to me to she was so into me an then all of the sudden cold as fuck
They are testing your emotional resilience=safety=respect=attraction.
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Bingo.
It's not that women pull away. It's that men attach themselves. It's much healthier to get a life of your own where your partner is a component and not the focal piece
Dude dis you ever have a gf or wife ? Women always pull away at some point of time even if you are unattached. Its just how they are.
sure go ahead, make sense out of something that shouldnt make sense, you are either a woman or a simp male.
Define attachment.
@@Igi293 u being overly caring and thinking about what she's thinking
No, they are pulling away.
Yeah true. Women always pull away, now they are doing it with their marriage too.
You can't generalize.
Your bad ass bro I loved your book you make everything so easy to understand wishing you much success in the future
One of my favourite videoes from you. Absolutely love this one because it’s so true. If I hadn’t forgotten that she at some point will pull away.
I’d react in a different way and I would’ve gotten a totally different outcome. Got her back though and now it’s the second Pull Away.
I know what to do. This video should be reminded to men once a month regurarly. POWERFUL.
"I don't chase em, I replace em." Notorious BIG.
WOMEN ARE ALWAYS TESTING YOU.
apope06 and man are getting tired from this testing women.
Always!
Yup
Always walking on eggshells with women because they have a list of SIMPs waiting their turn.
Maybe it is natural for them but modern women seem to be over doing it.
When she pulls away and comes back push her away. You dont need to lower yourself and be second choice.
Not a good advice.
@@sarbajitdattabanik7652 it's the only good advice.
You’re gonna be a very lonely guy if you push women away for the sole purpose of them being women. You might do better dating men with that logic
@@jondough3339 such a simp. Thinking a man is lonely if he doesn't have a female. Grow the f up.
@@jondough3339 🤣🤣🤣🤣👌👌
Why is it all about the guy in this situation though? Don't women realize they have a responsibility in the relationship too? Like if the woman communicates properly and let's the guy know that he is still wanted then the guy won't panic.... women always wonder why they end up with assholes.. this is why... any guy that is so "secure" in himself that he can deal with behavior like this is probably a narcissist playing games as well...
That's women nature, nothing you can do about it
john good u can go mgtow.
Nothing wrong with mgtow, but it all comes back to womens' nature. You chose to deal with it or go your own way.
Try to look at it another way though - are women hurting themselves with their own behavior? Women need to analyze their own behavior or they will lose out on good men.. yes men could adapt, but in the long run women are still creating problems for themselves by not developing maturity and communication skills. Ones that dating gurus won't be able to fix.
MisterFuturtastic women lack reason and accountability. They are raised to believe that everything they do is amazing and they will never suffer any consequences. It’s never her fault, it’s always the mans fault, and there will always be another man waiting in the wings to save her.
Oh my God, this is gospel. Every video resonates with what is going on in my relationship. Thank you for all your content. Saving up to buy your guide. I really love my fiance but she has changed and I want the old her back. I see that the power play has shifted where I am now chasing her. I have acted needy, hope it isn't to late!
Any updates? Are you guys together?
Give us some updates Gustav. Wassup
Women doesn't need weak, anxious and insecure guy, she will expect him to be confident, secure, bold and assertive; meanwhile she will opt for another guy when she herself possesses the former qualities and will wait to check if his guy doesn't have the same qualities. WOW
Guys, just have respect for yourself and treat her how you would treat a regular person if they did the same thing.
*Yes*!
When a woman starts to withdraw, the key for many men is to avoid waiting around. Instead, make sure your life is brimming with dynamic pursuits and activities, whether she's in the picture or not. If you find yourself lacking excitement and purpose, it might be a signal that you've been too emotionally invested in the relationship. Shift your focus to being driven, taking risks, pursuing your goals, and engaging in activities that genuinely fulfill you.
Broken heart is not a problem but being comfortable in that situation
Wish I'd seen this video a week ago. But I ended up going ghost on her and as soon as I did she came running back. We're talking about a girl I've been with for 2 years. This advice us 100% true! Stay strong stay manly!
TheNattyGorilla how long did it take for her to come back ?
The secret to pass any shit tests as you said
"Mirror Her Emotions"
Mirror her actions not emotions. If she is angry, dont be angry yourself.
I always pull out at some point!
This has just happened to me, 3 dates in, great chemistry and connection. She sent me a 'how are you' message last night. I replied within the hour as i was busy. I asked her about meeting up for food and drinks during the week. No response from her! It could be a test after three dates, to see what im made of lol
I guess don’t ask to meet up immediately from now on.be patient brother,women are patient creatures so do the same thing
Hang on there bro. I messed up witj a girl i like becuz i had NO IDEA ABOUT ANY OF THIS
It's something i can never understand, if love is all that matters in a relationship, why do women pulled away without any common reason?.. and yet, guys took the blame for lack of understanding?
+Daniel O A dog barks but it doesn't pulled away. Same goes to cat. But this is about women...
Hosea Rolyn Quindiagan love is a male emotion read about female hypergamy
Hosea Rolyn Quindiagan. I think they are trying to test you by dropping off. They want to see if you are a high status guy who has a lot going for him. If you chase you’re essentially telling her you having nothing going for you but her. This is a major turn off obviously.
@@jameskile5113 yes sure, her bad behaviors its mens fault as usual, thats why they will keep on doing it because some of us men will always try to find them an excuse
Although this is a common theme among this channel, it still floors me as a gentleman, who was brought up to respect and care for women, that the modern woman would treat their man like this.
I kind of new that but still surprised me when it happened to me. Hopefully I'll be ready when it happens next time.
These videos have helped me out so much. Thank You!! It’s made me learn how I’ve failed in the past. This system has worked so well in my current relationship.
You smashed it bro!💪
Just happened with me!
you are correct.
Sometimes we call her back because they're pulling away for too long...2-3 weeks is okay, even a month or two, but 6-7 months..How can't you feel abadoned?
I'm going through 'the storm' wish me luck. Lol. Great vid btw. 👍🏻👍🏻
In a way complete honesty in their behaviour. A woman/man may not tell you with her/his mouth that they may be unhinged but they will give you warning signs. Backing off and going silent and allowing your brain to cook in its own brain fluid is a sure sign that she/he is politely telling you she/he is in self distruction mode. What I would always say to the respective other is "Your only showing me what is in-store for the guy that replaces me and I thank you for showing me 😀.... You watch her behaviour shift!
I did all this and pushed her away... But she is still dating me and is giving me a chance. I panicked and I showed weakness, which I usually never do.. I started to care about shit I never do, used social media more.. But she is still with me and giving me a chance. I've figured out my problem and I'm going to start being myself again and show her it's more then words..i just hope I didn't push her to far and it's not to late..
It’s definitely not too late.
U sound weak my friend. You are not on your Purpose..do NOT think about her. Make urself improved financialy, physically, mentally...it may take years but trust me. If u do this. You will be the one to decline women cause theres too many of em chasing u. YOU ARE THE PRIZE...focus on what u want. Stop worrying about if its too late or fearing shell forget you.. fuck that shit. Be on ur purpose!!!!!!😠 aaaaaarrrrrrr Greatness is upon you... Rise king...Rise Up!
You are getting so many chances domt waste them
I like how he equated this to both short and long term relationships.
Insecure girls will want to be sought after. Some girls need reassurance that you want them and are testing your interest by pulling away.
N nobody has got time for all that crap
The problem with that is you can never provide enough reassurance to a girl who isn't secure with themselves. If a girl fights against your boundaries do not bend yourself into a pretzel to accomodate her. Never compromise your truth... for anyone.
or she met a better option while she was with you and need to explore it... either way its a mess
Never try to please a woman
From my experience, this guy is giving very good advice.
I find so much confidence after watching this video
Don’t chase em, replace em
This guy knows what he’s talking about!!
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Brilliant ❤ great advice always true
Sometimes its to test you thats why you need to remain indifferent other times they get bored and if you give them they space they will come back.
This exact thing happened to me a few months ago it was hard I have to admit it but my gut is telling she'll come back I know she will 🤘
Is she come back?
This one chick I was seeing behaved perfectly for six months and never withdrew intimacy and was in fact even more eager for it than I was. I made sure to not be too available. Generally we would see each other once every week or two and I only used the phone to set up in person meetings, nearly all of which she initiated and invited me over or asked if she could come to my place. Then she randomly went silent for 2 months now starting on my birthday. I found out about a month ago that she's extremely upset I haven't double texted and reached out to her. I'm already over it and lined up another option instead. This channel has been a huge help.
Trust me this is pure truth !!
Key is to be a little selfish. Put your goals and self development first. Don’t ignore but mirror. Be busy. When you do connect treat her like a bratty sister and let her make the decisions on what the relationship.
Great job!
He is a legend.
Your advice is correct perfect worked
ur knowledge is great
Too much of something for a women is bad. They have no idea of how they work either. I had a girl say “oh i enjoy when we chat for a little every night” (it’s long distance and i still set actual dates but I did pursue too much by initating a lot of the end of day calls, even when she was initiating all the daily conversation) - and for most of the month was very loving and responsive. then within 2 days of saying this she’s more distant, not saying the loving things, not reciprocating and responding slowly (she still kept our date) and I went in a tailspin for a few days but finally realized i needed to match and mirror. She’s initating the contact, i just respond, and just give her same energy or a little less. Worse thing you can do is overpursue, get dopey, etc when she’s in a mood she doesn’t understand. And you have to recognize this before you just screw up and it’s too late. Like Chris and many other channels say, just march and mirror, create space and scarcity, and don’t give unearned attention or love.
This has happened before and when i correctly responded, usually after she gets her emotions straight then it’s back to the all day loving messages and more excitement to interact. And if they are still contacting you, even when they are off - they aren’t dumping you.
Problem is that I mostly lose interest myself when they do this.
This is not a problem. I wish i had that problem where I can just lose interest and not be anxious.
Ur advice is gold! Thank you for this
I really chased her and opened up myself like a book when she need space. I decided to go no contact for 1 Monty. When i contacted her again she said she was in a serious relationship and that i should never contact her again and that I just wasnt right guy for her. Man that sucks to hear.
update?
@@Hamzak786 yes . Im Married to my dream woman right now. And she is married with that guy and have a kid. The hole thing was a learning and im thankful it went like it did. I will never make Those misstakes again
@@goodsmoke7412 are you still married? What's the tips to maintain a relationship with a woman, did your wife also pull back ?
@@josefhospital allways focus on your taking care of ur self , if u cant take care of ur self then u cant take care of someone else, focus on going to the gym , eating healthy. Do this for 6 months 5 days a week no matter what. It will make you a better person and everything just falls into place. But dont scip any day no matter what.
Nice info, very helpful thx
Nice Video... So realistic❤
You also have to realize people in general have issues
The truth Kills absolutely agree! Great point!
This happened to me. I tried to contact her to know the reason. It ended up very bad. Never to contact her
Relationships are complex, there’s nothing easy about it but one thing is clear you can’t put her on a pedestal and viceversa. You have to be able to pull her away also, it’s a push pull technique also in a relationship not just during the dating time. This is the way you will be able to renovate on a daily basis your relation with your partner
Hi Patyfreenam.I need advice if can help me out...
Last Sunday I risk giving her the ultimatum ..she said I no longer text her Baby Good nite with a Kiss or reply her Good morning text she said ever since she came back in July after my 3 month no contact I was cold and she felt I no longer love her like last year before the 1st breakup in Dec 2021..and last nite I told her my love reduce from 1000% to 33% and if she want to breakup want me my love will be zero and I will never take her back...I saw her face so sad and she beg me not to treat her so badly I told her how cruel she was on the 2nd break on 4th April ..she said she want me to forgive her I told her she must feel sorry and is all fault she left me when I love her truly and it was her decided to leave ...
Deep inside me I love her bcos she in rollercoaster emotional and confuse and mentally stress and I pity her
What should I do to help her get back our love ?
Last Monday I fetch her from her dance class she said she felt dizzy because she didnt have good sleep for past few night ..she cried her health is no good..and want me drive her home I told her I am not her driver or part timer lover I want to spend more time with her like bf gf what we did in the past...she throw tantrums and cause a mental outcry that I forced her to stay when she want to go home..this unstable mental state I decided to bring her to counselling the next day but the lady counsellor pity her and told me not to stress her as she is mentally weak and her health condition may cause her stroke and bad anxiety...I say no standing firm that she is withholding herself and cause herself the anxiety to be a good gf ...i blame her it was her fault to break up with me and I dont trust her love even she said she love me ..
I am feeling depressed she have not text me for 3 days saying she not Breaking up but she need to rest until she miss me she will contact me...i believe this is Silence treatment which will last at least one or 2 weeks..
I panic now I should not be too extreme to her she break down and cry like a crazy women...it is difficult for me to see her this way...and i could not walk away ..
Please help
Wonderful
I get that girls will pull away, I get that I should expect it to happen. My question is WHY do they do it in the first place? Especially when everything is going great and they’re into you one day and distant LITERALLY the next?
LDS Entertainment for that answer, you need to read my book Atomic Attraction.
@@DevelopAttraction having to buy a whole book for a simple answer? Cooome on I get it you need to get sales done but you cant answer one qestion ?
Simon Petkov go to ams alpha male strategies
@@simonpetkov6640 that’s not how it works. You have to understand the material on a deeper level. A one sentence answer won’t do it.
Because they are emotional beings.....and emotions are unstable
She pulled away by calling and breaking whatever we had off at three weeks. Lots of chemistry and attraction. Two days of no contact she reached out. We started talking again. Now I have no feelings for her. I have zero fucks to give even though it was wonderful. I’ve had plenty do the pull away and come back but this is the first time I no longer have feelings. Life is weird.🤷🏼♂️haha
She lost you. You didnt lose her. Good on you man!!
Brilliant. I love your stuff. So helpful. I have used your stuff before and it works.
In todays society... pump and dump. When she goes cold there is another guy in the picture usually. Never be second meat. If she goes cold goodbye. And dont take her back. If she does it once she will keep doing it. Its not real love. Shes searching for the bigger better deal. Be smart
This is so true.
salute to you brother!
This is the video i wanted ❤️
Hey why was there my pic, when I was crying and calling my ex? :) Damn something similar really did happen to me as well. 3 week superintensive and then she started to pull away and I started to chase. Damn how stupid I was at the time and It was only 2 years ago. But after that a lot of reading on topic. I even wrote emotional letter to her at the end :). Shameful to think about it. I was such a bitch. But life is a learning process and the times when girl kicks you in the nuts you just have to learn from your mistakes so you don't repeat them in the future. I really have learned a lot after that little incident.
I needed this January 2017. But I learned.
About 3 months ago, we were texting and we were really good for about 8 months, until we finally decided to meet up once! After that day, things went south and she pulled away from me out of the blues, leaving me in a lot of mystery! When she started working, there was a scary level of interest from her to a friend of mine she met by coincidence at work, that it started pissing me off! Thankfully, I never mentioned it and I'm trying so hard right now to keep it cool like she doesnt even matter! Let's see how that goes 😐
update?
@@hackerino159 she's gone: her loss! 😜 - i learned a lot though! (And I was acting like a bit of an a**hole tbh 😑).
Explore17 Mate fuck her, in those 2 Months I learned a lot of stuff.
If a girl really wants you, you will see it!
I wish you the best!
I have met lots of wife's who cheat all of them.actuslly I have not met one that doesn't cheat.
Great content always!
I like your talking style,you have developed it so well....
Good to know, I have no idea what's going on in her head. It might be more she keeps telling me she wants to move on at least once a month but never does and we always have a great time. She told me to go out with friends. That's funny because I've been wanting to do that for a while. I think there is a genuine love for one another, but we'll see. Women are strange.
Excellent! Well-said.
Great video.
This is EXACTLY what I did yesterday: the moment she said "I have a boyfriend", I lost it! I was doing extremely well until this sentence was spoken! (Then I had to pull away when I realized what I'm doing!). - WHAT A WASTE!
that's not about love !
I understand from a woman's POV she wants to make sure the person she is with has the traits of a good long-term partner. And as men we need to do a better job of vetting women too. But at some point if they continue to do this months or years into a relationship then they probably need to reevaluate themselves. It's not our fault they can't control their emotions
Good to listen to you man. I found it very interesting what you had to say. Didn't know some a that stuff you just said. Thankyou
“Aint nobody got time for this!”
Find somebody else. Its easier than fixing shit
My girls pulled away from me a few weeks ago, im in my third week of no contact after I chased, She’s forever saying she’d rather be single because she can’t handle the hassle a boyfriend creates.....I even asked her to marry me after 7 months together, I was so sure about us
Great video and info, but at what point do you finally give in after she starts texting or calling you?
she isn't special guys, she is a woman not a man. if you will treat her like a Queen, She will think of you like a servant. If you will treat her like a servant, you can be her boss.
You know there are times when men screw up and women flee and then we are supposed to give them space and time. Sorry we are not wired that way. I did the above and am now just giving her space. We were engaged to be married in a few months and I had a moment actually few days of insanity saying I didn't want to get married or move to a new house we planned to buy. She isn't a fighter and flees to her best friends house 102 miles away. She bought a house the day after my mess up and moved out the day after that taking 75% out of our joint money market. She was so concerned with her security and had put maybe 1/4th of the money in our account so it just hurt she did that and not the amount because I have other money. I sent a really terrific email to her laying out our future, etc. She responded and thanked me for being patient and telling me that she wanted all the things too that I put in the email but she needs to be sure of herself. So until I hear from her sometime in the future and it isn't days here guys but more like many weeks to a few months I will not know. Guys are not like this. The waiting kills us we are men of action not sit, mope and wait so it makes doing nothing contacting her seem like eternity......To be seen if no contact advice works.
You pretty much did everything wrong here. You're too focused on this girl. Why do you even want to marry her? Doesn't sound like a keeper.
Why did you have a joint account???
Absolutely right
This really excellent
Easier said than done...
Teach this in high school
I think it depends.. some girls pull away to test you too. They want to know if you are serious.
thank you
Damn man, you need a lot more subs. This is facts lol
I will buy your book if on audio
I've had the best first date EVER with this girl, a week after I tried to set up date #2 (while we've been talking here and there... and she was showing interest), I role played with her "to hire her as my secretary and that I needed to interview her" -as my way to ask her out in our 2nd date , and she said: "That's so sweet" but then I asked her: "So, you accept?"... and BOOM! Radio silence ever since!
Instead of asking "so, you accept?"
You could've been assertive and said "aight 7 pm friday at ...., Wear red"
Then if she ghosts you, you dont contact back. She will know 2 things you are bold and high value.
But now she doesn't think that you are bold. Smallest things matter while communicating with woman.