What to do when she pulls away (Dating advice )
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- What to do when she pulls away (Dating advice )... In this dating advice video, I will be answering a question from a viewer who wanted to know what to do after her partner started to pull away. Many men don’t know what to do when she pulls away and this can be seen on first dates, online dating, or somewhere in the dating process. I want you to be able to understand women and leave them wanting more. Take heed to this dating advice for men and be sure to watch the entire video.
Everyone can get confused and not know what to do when their partners pull away. This relationship advice will help you know what to do when she starts to pull away. It not only applies to men when she pulls away, but it can apply to women for what to do when he pulls away too!
When she starts to pull away every man will want to know how to get her back. I want you to know exactly what to do when she pulls away so that you can easily attract her back. However, if you are more into them than they're into you, then there are some specific things you need to do to become appealing and get them coming back to you.
As your wingmam, your female wingman, and a dating coach for men, I want to make dating easier for you. I hope and pray that you find this dating advice for men video helpful and be able to leave them wanting more.
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Thanks but no thanks
LOL...they'll sure pee on a tire though and poop on the lawn.
Thanks for this...it’s hard to pull away eventhough I’m facing the wall waiting to open the imaginary door and I’m still on it still trying to move on
I I used to be the cocky alpha male without trying but getting older 45 now
now my testosterone must have dipped because looking back I did become the insecure little bitch...no wonder. So weight lifting, kickboxing and being in an almost pro band( thinks I quit doing) I'm starting to do all of these things again because I truly had passion for them....without anything of my own to be passionate over I just sat home and complained about her having a life.....not smart lol.
I Love you sm kisses 😘 Thanks for the video
The person that cares the least has the most power in a relationship
Exactly. Always be willing to walk away from the deal. :)
often the one who cares the least is the most attractive in the relationship, and the least atracctive the more needy
oscar6418 A slogan that iv'e heard many times, .... absolutely 100% true.
Sure
You got this from Ghost of Girlfriend's Past😁
It just really sucks that dating has to be this way. Men can't be honest about their feelings, they can't be vulnerable, they can't be sensitive, and they can't be willing to work for a relationship and truly care about another person. Instead they have to constantly play these games in order to remain the "dominant" one in some stupid power dynamic or else women will dump them like a bad habit. I've experienced this and it really just makes me wonder whether any of it is worth it in the end.
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
Man just say “” for get about it “”
Its not really a game, its about knowing your value. Time waits for noone so if she acts like shes not interested you have to value yourself and your time enough to say ill find another and not be so deep into her that this woman who appears to be disinterested crowds your mind so much that you dont see your value. Once you see you value she will. Thats what i feel she is expressing and if that girl never does move on
You can just not with her…
Humanity WILL collapse. 💯
When she starts to pull away, let her go. Dont play her games, move on.
And focus on improving your life if you’ve slacked in that by focusing too much time on her ✔️
Improve yourself for yourself. She no longer matters. She never did in reality to most guys. We get over things quick...and live with less regret when it comes to the "Love Game".
Its amazing how they say men are for the most part simpletons yet most women haven't figured out how to sustain the bond with the man they want most. It's really easy to be a guy. Especially when it comes to dating. We know what we want without the bs...and heartbreak last only so long with us anyway. The next pretty face and amazing body is like a reset button to us. And we don't care if you forget about us. We'll be alright. Most of us aren't ready for commitment anyway. We like the conquest part...then on to the next adventure.
Gerald Balan Jr Bravo! Bravo! Bravo! Well said!!!
William Sellars on god 😂🤷♂️
You are exactly right on this!
My wife ran off with some guy, boy did I get my revenge! I let him keep her.
LOL
That poor bastard
Now she’s someone else’s problem.
Nice job.
Lmao
If she pulls away, I walk. I'm not interested in playing games.
If you weren’t being needy and suffocating her or acting like a complete jerk, then that’s the right choice❣️
@@YourWingmam Yeah, I suppose a guy acting like that wouldn't just walk away. Good point.
Everytime ive walked they come back. Every. Single. Time. Sometimes I accept them. Sometimes I don’t. But play it cool until you bail. She knows she’s messing around. No need to get angry. Just play it cool for a week, then bail. Let her beg for like some hours. Not minutes and not days. Hours are good.
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@@YourWingmam I am married not even six months I drive truck for a living something has changed and I don't want to jump to conclusions to think that she may be cheating on me I think I showed weakness multiple times she called me needy I give her her space to come back to me but I think she uses it to her advantage these are some things that I wrote and I wanted to tell her but didn't send all of via text (Stonewalling me played a big part and the demise of your past relationships you minimize me don't answer my texts barely talk to me and that's too much for you you I want to talk to my wife it's not right that's not how a wife supposed to act that loves her husband I didn't get married to be single and house you and your son in the process I tried to make you happy it doesn't seem like enough I'm not happy with the way things are going there needs to be some accountability on your half and mine we need some kind of counseling or else it's not going to work I'm sure you regret marrying me need to check your own inventory as well. Something has changed I don't know if it's something I did or said but something has changed those are underlined current a possible unresolved anger from my wife toward me I believe I don't think she loves me was she supposed to due to that) so she's very angry person if I seen these ways come out of her I would have never married her now we're expecting a child and if I divorce her she lives in my house I will lose thousands of dollars and are child is about to be born here in a little while. WingmamTV let me know what you think please thank you
Dating just sucks these days. So if I'm really into her and I want to keep her I'm supposed to give her the impression she's not that important to me. Sadly, it works. But it only works if you don't care about her. The ones I could care less about if they lived or died, I can't get rid of. Meanwhile, the ones I love with all my heart and want to give my all to, always leave.
Yep that's how it works
I hate that too bro. So many women have signaled me but my heart doesnt bend ...and for the 1 girl it melted , she just started acting too aloof to handle
Exactly. The irony is we can only organically do this when we don’t care. And being in relationships that you don’t care usually won’t work either. Society has completely screwed up relationships
What a sad and nasty reality, but it doesn’t get any more real than that, I’m experiencing this right now. It sucks
If dating really works this way, and that's always the same repetitive waste of time and song and dance, then I would start to become suicidal from all the lack of results.
But my intuition tells me it doesn't always have to be this way, there's got to be some people left out there who make their intentions clear in dating, and not waste time with stupid mind games
A woman who "pulls away" isn't a woman with long terms in mind and shouldn't be invested in.
Theoretically, I disagree. In fact, pulling away is the test given by a women who she shows interests, because she has the needs to tests you, otherwise, she'll simply sees you as a friend. This is the natural instinct of female; men may subjectively dislike it, but it will never help to resolve the problem.
@Juji-Gatame how do you pass
@Juji-Gatame What if you ended it because she was acting distant and flaky? And then she expresses regret and says she wishes things were different
@Juji-Gatame Is their anyway out of it?
@Juji-Gatame I left but it hurts a lot. It feels like she got too comfortable. I can’t do shit about it, can I?
When she starts to "pull away " let her go and celebrate your own personal freedom, .....it's invaluable
Unless of course you're not married with that woman and or do not have children with her :). Otherwise you loose your family and what your fortune.
When she pulls away just be strong and walk away and never look back.
Because if that's how little she cares when you share your heart, then she was never worth your time to begin with and your better off.
Proudly
lol its sadly the truth and if she comes she comes
She doesn't respect you. When she knows she has control over you, she loses interest and probably sees you as weak. This is who she is and will most likely always play out with the same scenario. She likes the idea of you, not actually you
Damn
Women are incapable of loving a man for him. They fall in love with the way you make them feel.
You are goddamn right.
When she pulled away, I said, “ok. Take your time, I’ll be here.”
The next day she said she wanted to break it off. I said, “ok. Take care.”
Two weeks later she started calling, texting, crying.
I texted back, “lose my number.”
Get away from the crazy gentleman.
I have been there too. I dated in 2000' 2010' 2020' - this decade is the hardest even though I am dating my age group. All I see men are getting educated and seems like women are taking on that somehow aggressive role.
What a chad, you did the right thing brother!
😂😂😂
" what to do when she pulls away?" Thank Jesus and move on.
Good answer😊😊👌👌
Easy to say when you don't care about her.
nicolas rossi lol exactly
nicolas rossi ide go fishing
🤣🤣🤣
In other words, you gotta break her ego, even if it means breaking your own. When she pulls away, let her go, but stay available to her. She'll come back. Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
@Brooks Lee yep brooks she wants to have her cake and eat it to,,,if she pulls this crap once,,she will do it whenever the hell she wants because she knows the simpleton moron man will take her back...drop her like a stone and focus on money and career instead,,then find a normal girl,,if one exists
@Brooks Lee Not right now she won't :)
Incel said what?
Don't bank on that.
Available for that ? LOL, no thanks, there are sooooo manyyyy women out there...
Never make a woman your number 1 priority. They will constantly test you on this by complaining, ranting and being upset.
Absolutely true❣️ If you put her on a pedestal she will look down on you. A man should always have a passion/purpose that drives him and isn't based on his woman.
Chad Daddy 💯true... and what’s worse is that they think they do!
1000% agree
Chad Daddy
Rule #1: Don’t listen to what she says.
Rule #2: You’re the most important person in the relationship.
One of the most underrated comment Ive read in my lifetime
The best advice is this:
Don't be with the one you're crazy about. Be with the one who's crazy about you.
I need to remember that.
Unfortunately true
What if she is ugly ?
@@christophercastillo8649 If she treats you good, is reliable, faithful, clean, can cook, marry her
Bruh women will always pull back at some point even if she has high interest in you, it’s part of female nature
A while ago I began dating this woman I knew at work. Had a few dates, things were going well and I really liked her and I was pretty sure she was the same. Three weeks in, she went a little cold on me and acted a bit strange, I didn’t really know what was going on. So I just assumed things were ending and prepared myself to move on. Back at work, I basically ignored her, thinking she was no longer interested and just got on with my life. Before I knew it, she was interested in me again, big time and soon our dating was right back on track! That was 31 years ago and this year we will be having our 29th anniversary.
Then why are you watching this?
@@carlosvinocour378 he’s going through it again 😆
How long before you started dating again
sounds like she was dating more than just you back in the day.
Pretty simple. Walk away
Whoever is willing to walk away from the deal *and mean it* has the greater negotiating position❣️✔️
That sounds like all women lol ... but a narcissist can’t be “fixed” whether male or female, attempting to is def definitely futile
Move on and find a New one ,may find something better anyway
@@bear1more287 penis is better anywayd
@@YourWingmam I don't get it. If all women are truly like that, why deal with it? I'm not seeing the upside here at all. On the other hand, friends with Asian girlfriends who have not been americanized don't seem to have this problem. I'm concluding it may be American women.
Arranged marriages.....we need to go back to that.
What makes the red pill so bitter? Is it harder on men who as children were coddled by their mothers? Why do men get “oneitis” when it comes to women? Focus on yourselves and remember that women come and go. Stay strong and keep working on bettering yourself.
Excellent adice!!
There are many reasons for a partner to pull away. Give her space and don't contact her. When she is ready to talk or contact you she will. Play it cool and just listen. Silence is very powerful. She will be opening up to you like never before and will probably apologise for pulling away in the first place. Keep your emotions in check and be kind and respectful when you do eventually respond. She will see that you have an inner strength and emotional intelligence beyond her own and will have a greater respect for you. You will become her rock.
I agree with you bro 👍
And use that time to hang out with other women
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What to do when she pulls away" You let her go, drop her like a dead weight and move on with your life.
NBM If she starts to pull away then approach her crying and plead "why are you pulling away" And she will say , " Pulling away from what ? Remember that women don't expect heavy or wimpy emotion from men. It's counterintuitive and may well have the woman questioning you. Some women are martyrs and want to "save " men. There are women like that. But of course I would never do what I just said. I will act like some super important person to the woman in question and will make it seem as if the woman doing the chasing is slightly desirable but a speck of dust compared with my ultra important life. That should work for sure. Ha Ha.
If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they're yours; if they don't they never were.
Well said ;)
Sting sang that.
Or just give them space since normal people enjoy their alone time.
Exactly that's is reality if you are going to beg after few days they are going to repeat the same thing again...
So better option let them go..
Following this video worked 100%. She’s gone from totally pulling back and saying not ready for a relationship to calling me several times per day. It worked like magic!
What are the details of what she did to pull away, and what you did in response, and how she reacted?
When she starts to pull away, say, "Wait, don't go!" Then go get all her stuff, hand it to her, and say, "Wouldn't want you coming back, so take your shit. Buh-bye."
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"its just your own insecurity telling you that this person is the one".
Damn, that hit home.
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
Everything you said was spot on except asking a chic to define what we are. The man asking that question means he’s pushing for definition, he’s into her more than she’s into him, and it’s gonna lower his sexual market value. But everything else you said was right on the money.
Never chase those, who are not 100% into you. Life is too short for that. Nor chase those who do not support you in what you're doing, provided what you're doing is good; not just for you but good in general.
This is the advice men don't want to hear but we need to hear.
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
Excellent video which just confirms what I realised a few years back: it’s just not worth the hassle. There are far easier things in life than relationships and far more rewarding, no games involved.
“When you go out in the world.”
Man by the time I get off work I don’t want to see people at all.
CP Maverick the grind is real.
I've been lead to believe that listening to a woman's advice for men about relationships is the worst thing a man can do. And sometimes it is. But what you saying is spot on. If you find yourself in a relationship where you couldn't walk away without feeling destroyed then you need to work on yourself. Funny thing is, when you can walk away, you don't need to.
You just take it all in with a grain of salt. I was skeptical at first too but this is excellent advice and great rationale why psychologically and biologically these approaches show more value and attractiveness
life is too short to be playing games...I'm going my own way anyway
That’s a good choice for many men. Just don’t be bitter, the only person who loses there is the one feeling bitter.
@UA-cam Troll Getting even for what offense? Not being liked?
This was a fantastic video. If only I realized that sooner in my last relationship. When things grew distant I did the opposite. I pursued more. Nonetheless I grew tired of feeling unwanted and after many of talks I ended things 3 weeks ago. Life hasn’t been bad at all as a single guy. Met some good women, bringing more intensity to the gym, eating healthier..just living life out here! Thanks again
you are a normal guy doing correct.
Once again. Flabbergasted. It’s like you know on a deep level how men and women work nowadays. Spot on with everything you said. You really do deserve more views/ subs. I’m learning about all the errors I’ve made over the years, and why I could attract them, but never seal the deal with a relationship. Was always put off when they’d be talking to 10-20 other dudes while they are with me. Literally hate getting played , such a horrible feeling especially when you start to get emotionally attached. And all the heart break has really messed me up. I don’t let myself get emotionally attached because I don’t want to be hurt again, that I further mess things up. Thankyou once again!! 💯🙏🏼 and as they pull away I tend to chase more as I feel as I’m loosing what could be a relationship. All of this is so complex, especially as someone who has always had an extremely high EQ. Getting hurt over and over is brutal. I can’t even approach women anymore, I can talk to them, they get attracted to me, but inside I feel rekt.
Thank you for sharing. I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏
I don't typically put a lot of stock or listen to women giving men dating advice, but this woman knows what she's talking about. Listen, study and apply these key principles.
"being there all the time makes you seem less attractive to other women. Makes it seem like you don't have a life outside of her." Isn't that what caring for someone is about? Anytime she needs something, I'll drop what I'm doing to care for her. Make sure she feels loved and needed. Yeah my world literally revolves around her, but that doesn't mean I don't have a life. I just have my priorities in order. Shes number 1, everything else comes after
Thank you for sharing. I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏
@@YourWingmam if anything came across rude I genuinely didn't mean it to. I came to your video looking for relationship advice that one part did kind of confuse me though. Am I wrong for doing what I mentioned in the comment?
i agree. the reason u need to do this now is bc a woman can just open up social media and get whatever she wants. once a woman pulls away u just let em go. million more of them. it was just our turn
The person who cares the least has the most power. So you have a society racing to the bottom of treating each other like we don't care. Cold world. very cold world.
This. Showing care for someone is a sign of weakness in our society! The narcissism is too much man.
Well, what do you know, a woman that knows what she's talking about. You, lady are a rare breed.
If she pulls away, let her go and don't look back. If she comes running back don't answer the phone or open the door. She's just setting the stage for the games she wants to play during the rest of your relationship. Let her go be someone else's heartache. Don't waste your life on a game player more concerned with massaging her ego, adding weight to her baggage and breaking your heart.
What to do when she pulls away ?
Me: Bye "Felicia"...dont let the door hit you on your way out! :)
Lol
Fuckkkk, u are on fire
Lol
I always give women credit to know when they are screwing up or playing games. Never get angry. Just play it cool for a week and then bail. It blows their mind. Every single time they come back ime. That’s how you win a major, major power-play, or get rid of a chick just usin you if she doesn’t come back.
Yes, always be willing to walk away from the deal, that shows self respect. Women will mirror that.
My wife totally destroyed me in 1984 by sleeping with my neighbor, I recovered to live a productive life, but never wanted to get that close to anyone again, games destroy people, the truth is you want love get a dog, you want to fight, get married.
@ Mike Murray - funny, a guy I met on facebook back in 2011 through a woman from Texas (whom I also met on facebook back in 2010)...practically said the same thing. He said..."If you want true love, get a dog"
That's great advice not only for dating but for self growth
Great video, honest advice right here. Dont chase, it makes you look desperate, if she likes you she will come back. If she doesn’t, well shes done you a favour, continue on with whatever else you do, when she sees you happy and not giving a damn, it will unintentionally piss her right off.
Even though I don't believe in revenge, the best revenge *is* a happy life indeed!
@@YourWingmam yes same here hence unintentionally. Unfortunately in some cases, people fulfil their happinesses by seeing those that once chased them to have no one or nothing else which makes them feel superior as if they were the only one available. Focusing on your own life is the main goal here, nothing more. Appreciate this video. 🙂
In this new relationship, my emotions have been all over. I'm crying more. Not because I'm sad. But because she loves me so much. At first, she pulled away when I showed any caring.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that ❤️
HA! Good one... Men go about your business and make sure they know you have to make time to spend with them(not to be tampered with). Your life, passions, and plans always come first unless she earns it otherwise(not really, only in her mind), and if she does, make sure to ration it and even interrupted at times (especially when is going great but in moderation). Don't let them get comfortable with you; keep them unbalanced about their place in your life. Like Anna says "KEEP THEM WANTING MORE".Make sure that when you show up you're at your best in every way every time(this will spike attraction). When the ultimatums come, tell her to not let the door hit her on her a@$ on the way out while you savor the moment in an obvious way... also make sure to inform her that her priority status has been downgraded for her little stunt. She will walk away for good or stay having to make up for her act, but either way it goes she will never forget you.
Absofuckinglutely. I approve this message lol
When did it become a crime to need to be loved? Everyone NEEDS to be loved. But we've all been sold on the lie that we don't.
We all do need to be loved, but we gotta start by loving (respecting) ourselves first to show others how it's done :)
lylez00 I have to agree with you
It’s such a stupid pain in the ass to have to pretend you have no heart And no needs
Just keep all that from showing and your good
I’m sorry but wow. What a messed up world we are in
@@garybackstrom183 you don’t pretend you have no heart. You show how much you value it over hers
Get up and leave and never look back, ignore her. This is a head case. And that will never change. Relationships are easy, and only complicated for those who purposely make it that way.
Unless you like games and this kinda science project.
This Advice is really useful for me. I've been single and alone for a long time. And I feel that's natural to me. I'm going to improve myself by no longer being needy to any women. And I enjoy learning from your videos Anna.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
Date multiple females. That way you not operating from a scarcity mindset date.
Exactly❣️I’ve said this in several videos ✔️
Works for me....
True but i can't do that. I work too much and enjoy many more things. I'm dating a woman now and it works out good. She contacts me when she wants to hang out and if i dont have plans we hang out and spend time together. I couldnt imagine dating 2 other women ar the same time, i think it would stress me out and aggravate the hell out of me lol. I have been the nice guy before that would say good morning and hope you have a great day and found it doesnt work too well so i just decided never to do it but i was wondering do you think there is a happy medium when you should do that once in a while so she knows you care once you have decided to be in a relationship?
That's awesome real,been thru that i use to date a lot of them,and i never had no stress coz i didnt have time to think about none of them,i was only think about who i wanna kinky with tomorror or the next day.I was receiving a lot of call every day,and they way like making a booking to wanna spend a day with me
Jean Alexandre haha! My man you’ve been listening to Bobby Rio right? Have an abundance mindset!
This is sound, I was so close to executing this, my error was making her aware I knew she had options and it didnt bother me. Her response was the comment didnt make her feel special and it could mean I was dating numerous women. Slowly getting the art of this. But it surely works. Thanks sweetness
Love your channel. Helps me pull back when I can tell she's losing interest because I have been pursuing her too much. Sometimes it'll take just a few hours of not being my usual predictable self and she'll suddenly reach out with high interest. I used to think this was just a bunch of games people play, now I realize it's real, it's human nature, it's understanding male and female subconscious thinking and behavior.
Lol happening with me rn
@@1stgencanadianscouser276 pull back, make her come to you, don't ever look desperate like she's your whole world
Yes, if they don't come to you forget about it. Very important.
When she pulls away...make sure she knows that you have options. She wont be gone long. 😉
Absolutely!
I have to accept it and go with the flow. I can't believe I'm going through it but it's my fault for being so needy.
You make sense, Lady. Twice in the past I paid the emotional price for not heeding this advice, it's basically impossible to reason with yourself when you are too involved emotionally, right?
I got on track afterwards, but honestly I hate painful lessons, they sometimes cause you to become cinical or bitter, unable to trust. A coach like you would have been invaluable at the time 🙂
Live and learn, at least you got back on track :)
I stumbled upon this video by chance. I realized that if you truly love someone and they don't realize that its their loss. Simple and plan. We live once...why waste time playing games with the soft manipulation. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks of you anyway. Her friends, her family, hell her. Only what you think of you in the end. Too many opportunities to waste on someone who doesn't see your value anyway. Let her go find what she's looking for. Do for you and at the very least if you master that you'll never feel the need to need a person that doesn't see your value. But you are 100 percent accurate With the information your putting out. My one question is why are woman still upset about not finding the right guy when the one that will go above and beyond they push away?
It sounds insane to me. He's too good to me let me find an asshole.
And I say this as a certified reformed asshole. Now I live to serve and love my family.
That requires a long answer, but to summarize: women go for what feels familiar. If they had a shitty childhood with unhealthy examples of love, that's what's familiar. Their internal barometer will make them self-sabotage. Make sense?
Amazing...I grew up seeing the worst examples of love. I mean absolute worst examples all around me and I always told myself that I wouldn't even waste my time with love at all. Then I matured and realized that its a choice. I didn't have to be toxic or in a toxic situation.
@@YourWingmam This is *precisely* the situation I'm in right now, today. She's been treated like dirt all her life by assholes, now I'm "too good to be true" and she's doing her best to drive me away... but I've seen past that and think she's worth fighting for, and she can't deal with that.
This is great advice if you want to get (or keep) a short-term girlfriend. However, women who aren't emotionally available for their partner, are not wife material. So just keep that in mind. You may be better off just letting her go and finding a woman who won't play those games. A relationship is a 2-way street, you should get back what you put in. If you are her shoulder to cry on, it's perfectly reasonable to expect the same emotional support from her as well. Just my 2 cents.
It's so sad that it's all up to the man...
Exactly that shit is so wack...get tired of that bs
I'm in a moment in my life that i was needing your valuable tips. Thanks.
I've head this over and over for years and applied it. The truth is it works at some level. It does not work every time.
there are several so called relationships experts on UA-cam. I just really appreciate your "no nonsense approach" I can simply connect and identify with your approach....THANK YOU!!! HAPPY HOLIDAYS'". you got a subscriber!
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I’m a one woman at a time guy.I put 110% into a relationship with no other relationships going on simultaneously.I think that will undermine what could be, the chance for a serious LTR if that’s what both people would like to have.Feelings can and will be hurt at some point along the way as well.If it isn’t working out for whatever reason, then,and only then,do I move on.I try to choose carefully,and my conscience would never allow me to take up with another until I feel, in my heart, free to do so.Many may feel differently which is fine,this is just who I am,and how I operate.Thank you for this insightful video.
That’s OK, Brian! You must adhere to your own value system. But that doesn’t mean you can’t heed the other tips. :))
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I’m sure I will.You provide some very insightful and valuable content in your presentations.Very much appreciated.Thank you😊
Do you, I agree with you unfortunately it seems to me these coaches show you how to attract narcissists and or turn you into one. Be true to you and respect your values. I'm the same way the 110% part but if she plays, I'm fucking done. No need to have this oh I have choices mentality as longs as your just as happy bieng alone. Narcissist always have back up supplies (the idea you have more women to choose from or supply and to let her know it, reaks of manipulation and neediness imo)
It really works. I had a girl call me after 4 months talkin bout “How come I don’t hear from u anymore?”
David duFresne Well her interest level was above 50 anyway. But this was couple years back. I lost interest in her.
If she was flirting and pull back as soon as you showed interest, that means she's playing games and she realized, she's got the hooks on you. Now, she is going to play an abusive game that will leave you traumatized and only thinking about her.. using narcissist abusive behavior. You don't have to put up with nasty stuff from anyone period. As soon as you see this going on, do not think twice, run away and don't look back... You need to go no contact, this will not change.. get someone else
yep my ex was a borderline narc and I am empathic,,talk about a mind rape job knowing it all was fake,,,,especially with the love bombing,,,,good lord it took me awhile to recover,,,but these channels have given me more power back than ever,,,,my ex is reaching out to me at this moment wanting to meet again and chat but I don't even entertain that idea,,,i moved forward,not backwards...and shes all mad about it because I have all the power
Thank you for your videos. As a nice looking physician with a good reputation for kindness and compassion I am lucky to have a lot of desire able traits. However I became a victim of political crossfire in the hospital where I work and I lost my job. It felt exactly like being dumped by a woman that I was madly in love with. My self esteem was largely non-existent and I feared that I would not find another job. I came across your videos and watched them all. I realized that finding another job is a lot like finding another girlfriend. I tried to incorporate your advice into my life and gradually my self esteem and confidence improved. Needless to say I got another job with a much better health system, one that is much more supportive than the previous one. I believe that your advice made and big difference and I am sincerely grateful.
Thanks again for the information. This helped me to understand what I have been doing incorrectly and how to change my behavior in order to get her to reciprocate.
Your videos are very helpful and give me a lot of insight into how certain behaviors can affect how she reacts. Thanks again for the information. You rock 😁🤘
Glad it was helpful! That makes me happy!!
Well said. I been doing this for years as I'm a jack of all trades. Work 2 jobs, make time to enjoy the things in life and of course never chased women. I've always kept them wondering and of course the women became interested. The more I ignored them, they loved it. 💕❤🤣😂
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Having this happen right now.
If you push me away, I'll definitely let you. Also...push me away and I don't want you back.
On the screen @ 5:02 reminds me of something I heard years ago "The Person who cares the LEAST about the relationship has the MOST control."
Let her go and count your blessings.
You have taken a genuine relationship and made it a game with rules that are dynamic. The reality is that if a guy is in to you, he is in to you, he shouldn’t act like he is not. It doesn’t mean anything more than what it is. You should be flattered and not expecting him to make himself attractive to other women.
Honestly the amount of effort you have to put in vs what you get out ...its just not worth it.
Actually, the dating game is virtually effortless if you are *not* focused on "her" or a "relationship with her" -- and truly mean it. Be focused on yourself, goals, career, hobbies, time with family/friends, whatever that's important to you. Then you are naturally busy as hell and 'hard to get.' Focusing on a woman and what she wants (which she doesn't even know 99.9999999% of the time what that is) is the only real way to fail just about every time.
@@dacritter8397 I've been reading these kind of comments, and comparing them to my own painful experience, and have to ask, if this is all true (which it very much seems to be and God knows why men never get taught this stuff) I've just got to ask: what's the point? Why even date a woman? Just have a string of one night stands, occasional dalliances. Why bother if you never get any emotional or mental or monetary or physical reciprocation? If showing any form of emotional weakness, any misstep, is enough to get dumped, what's the point, where's the fallback? You have to always show face or be a façade of yourself, you can't just enjoy? If every intelligent, witty and likeable women becomes no more than a series of holes and hormones when you date, and not a friend, if you can get 99.99% of what you need outside of a relationship, why even engage in it at all? Why even bother?
@@343-penitentnarrator8 Hi Jay. It only seems that way because of all the idiotic feminist/sexist brainwashing. I'm a bit older, from a generation prior to all this feminism horse shit (well, it was there, but not the batshit crazy delusional nonsense young men are indoctrinated with today) -- and I *was* taught these things by my dad. It's actually pretty simple -- first -- dating... the goal of a date is FUN, laughter, enjoying each other, kidding around... I think guys take dating waaaaaay too seriously.
Guys (should) pursue fun and sex. Girls pursue relationships. If the guy is focused on and pursuing relationships, trying to get a woman into a relationship instead of just creating a fun adventure and inviting her to join in the good time, then he's behaving like the SHE needs to behave so she doesn't *feel* comfortable and safe. He's doing her job instead of his. Secondly, you mention emotions/showing weakness -- women are highly emotional creatures. They are guided by emotions, and talk about emotions. If a guy has that behavior often, or worse, most of the time -- a woman will go into 'mommy' mode, and , yet again, cease to feel comfortable and safe because her rock of stability is missing in action. Even if she says that's exactly what she wants (you to blather about your feelings) don't fall for that trap. One of the most important things is, once she gets you into a relationship (yes, she will get YOU into the relationship if you're not the one trying to force it to happen) -- don't fucking change! You still date, lead the adventure, have fun and pursue sex exactly the same as before except it's better because of the positive emotions. If attraction exists at the start, and if you do your job as the guy, she will quite naturally do hers from the feminine side.
@@343-penitentnarrator8 In this backwards culture, men are taught to chase pussy, but are rarely, if ever taught to chase their life purpose. Young men spend so much energy chasing women, going on dates, chasing ONS, or learning game. Instead of all of that, they should be discovering who they are, why they are here, and becoming the person they need to be, in order to accomplish all of those things.
Along the way, all of the challenges and accomplishes grows you naturally, your confidence improves, you become more attractive through the natural drive to become stronger physically and mentally, and you will become lucrative. Women will be naturally attracted to all of those traits. But you just need to be aware that they will never be attracted to you as a person, your heart, soul or deep down spirit. She will only be attracted to your money, status, ability to protect, provide and what you earn. Sure, she might find your body attractive, and appreciate your humour. But she will never be able to love you in the same way that you can love her.
If you are ok with that, then you might allow one into your life.
If not, then you will just focus fully on your purpose and forget about women.
Yes. Always remember this, no matter how good the putang, there’s a guy that got fed-up with hitting hit.
If she's pulling away, it means you're getting a rest....& recovering from rsi....
Why don’t women understand that men also have emotions and need to talk to someone, need a listening ear, need a hug, need consoling, goes thru depression - just like women. Sigh! Having said that, I’ll just stay single.....
You should join a men’s group and find male companions to share your feelings with. Women don’t want that *until they’ve earned it.*
If they think you share your vulnerabilities with every woman, it doesn’t make them feel special, *it makes him feel like a mother.*
Make sense?
Because they're narcissistic self-centered bitches lol.
@@acsfivepall1261 Your actually correct Sir, That's the battle we have a fucking circus
Shoobbie C you are so right on
I think we both need to be loved unconditionally and be able to really trust each other with out playing games.
Imagine how good that would feel
@@YourWingmam double standard as women do nothing but bleed their emotions all over men from the get go.
I use the same tactic on police that want to talk to me
😂 Good sense of humour: ✔️😉
As a man, ignoring and neglecting a girl I like on purpose doesn’t sound like Love to me. 1- because it’s very rude and 2- because it’s a lie.
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truth is you have no control over her liking you, just feel bad and accept it and move on, you only can only feel sad longer if you hold back and dont accept the facts.
Let her go ....
Right. If you messed up big time, apologize and let her go. If she messed up big time, just let her go. Pretty much any which way you slice it, let her go.
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Last night we talked about our new relationship as friends. She just wants to remain friends because she is really enjoying her freedom as I am. We will still date as such. I asked het to think about what we can do together for next week. Ro replied: I have to think about that. However I am happy that she was upfront and honest about what she wants from me, "just friends".
I am happy that dhe didn't see me as being cheap
Good, keep your other options open and try to lead by suggesting what to do for a date. Leading allows her to follow and takes the pressure off her to have to come up with something. Make sense?
@@YourWingmam Other options? Oh yeah I don't have to cologne anymore. To me cologne and perfume are not necessary for attraction.
After the 2nd and 3rd date, We hugged good night and kissed on the lips. I also held her hand when leaving the movie. Last night she told me that those things felt " funny" to her.
I will suggest going to dinner once more to talk about her and my interests, and take if from there. What else can a looser do? 😔
"Never ask a fish how to catch a fish, ask the fisherman."
Men have more options and choices when it comes to dating. Any woman who doesn't reciprocate or appreciate your time and efforts must be dumped or replaced. This is real content. Thanks for the information 👊
When I had a "gf", and I didn't give a shit about her, just used her for sex, she non stop kept telling me she loves me, and she did everything for me. Soon as I started to say it back after like 4 months to keep her "happy", she changed. 2 months later we broke up. Very interesting phenomenom
Women like the chase
Lil it's the same phenomenon over here too
When she starts to pull away, let her. You pull away too. You don't need her games. If she is playing games now, just wait until you are married to her. If you have a good job and any assets, you have a 50% chance of losing everything to her in a divorce. Cut your losses and leave her now. Find a woman who does not play games. Really get to know her before you commit. If she has had many previous relationships or partners, please realize she has probably lost the ability to bond with you or anyone for the long haul. If you have had many previous partners, you may have lost the ability to bond as well. You need to know yourself and your partner as you truly are before you get married. I got married at 38 to a terrific woman. We raised two boys who are successful young men now. We have a beautiful and happy home we worked for together. I am glad I waited to marry the right one. Remember, your wife does not have to be perfect, but she does have to be perfect for you.
What to do when she pulls away? Move on!
For me a woman never gets a second chance. Hit the road Jack.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!
@@YourWingmam Sounds like canned responses.
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I don't know how you ended up on my recommended list... But I can't help but watch and listen to you for a spell. :)
Love has left the building
Stop chasing that batch she playing ya! Don’t chase em replace em!
What's a Batch
what if I dont value having many friends and much social life? what if my career is not that important to me but just live life?
I'm dealing with this right now. I dated a girl for a couple months and she started checking out and pulling away, saying there's no connection and doesn't wanna be with me. I mirrored her disinterested behavior and it went downhill from there.
But we're not even friends on social media and she still goes outta her way to watch what I'm doing...
yep and pretend on social media if you have that your having a great time and moving on with your life,,,,she is the one who lost out
@@robertswift6101 Yup, that's what I I'm doing but I'd be lying if I say I don't miss the hell out of her, and her watching my stories everyday doesn't help, especially when she says she doesn't want us to talk and wants to date other guys
She is definitely still interested in you. It sounds like she was afraid you were getting too close and she is insecure and thinks you might find out she is nothing special in her eyes.
Play it cool and have no contact. If I am correct, she will come back and try to make up. Don't say anything but listen intently what she has to say. Silence is very powerful as it will keep her guessing as to what you are thinking. If it was insecurity then react in kindness. She will view you as a much emotionally stronger person and respect you.
Good luck. Hope it turns out the way you hope
@@brassj67 John Brass Thanks, you've been the first to give me a well thought out and explanatory answer. I actually just blocked her cause it's been since thanksgiving of her viewing me everyday without saying anything and I honestly can't take it cause I can't get over her, which she knows I still think about her.
I even called her out on it and told her doing this so much makes me think you still want something so I asked her to stop, she said I was wrong but still does it. She comes from a not so great family and has alot of self esteem issues and is really cold and cut off from people in general. I've also been told I'm intimidating, which I think might have factored into her feeling not so great around me
@@spartangreg1 It is not about you, it is about her. She lacks confidence and thinks she is not good enough for you. Some people can confuse confidence with I intimidation but you are only intimidating if you try to force your beliefs or thoughts on someone else.
I think blocking her will only send the wrong message or calling her out on things will only make things worse.
I would just send her a personal message something along the lines of "When you are ready to tall, I will be ready to listen" and leave it at that. She has to know that you are still potentially available and ready to listen to anything she has to say. She may be just plucking up the courage to start communicating with you.
If you are ready to take on this relationship it will not be easy but being strong, listening and being supportive will certainly help in this type of relationship. We all carry some baggage, some more than others and we have to be grown up enough to accept it if we hope to succeed in any relationship.. The sooner we all recognise and accept our emotions, the easier it is to move on good or bad.
I went through something similar with my current partner of 4 years and we are now closer than ever.. it involved her getting pregnant after a few months of dating and having a miscarriage. She shut me out for almost 3 months but we came back stronger. Again, I hope everything works out
NEVER ask her “what are we in this relationship?” - especially after you’ve started having sex. SHE MUST be the one to ask YOU that question!
When She pulls back or away just seek other options & pursue excellence & your goals.
Always remember “No woman wants what no woman wants”! They all are attracted to what they seemingly can’t have.
I've walked away from a few women....it was hard.......the bottom line is that none of these few women cared and
never contacted me again. Being Strong is fine but the PAIN lingers for a long time.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
You tell them that you love them and they will never go near ever again works every time
I've been reading these kind of comments, and comparing them to my own painful experience, and have to ask, if this is all true (which it very much seems to be and God knows why men never get taught this stuff) I've just got to ask: what's the point? Why even date a woman? Just have a string of one night stands, occasional dalliances. Why bother if you never get any emotional or mental or monetary or physical reciprocation? If showing any form of emotional weakness, any misstep, is enough to get dumped, what's the point, where's the fallback? You have to always show face or be a façade of yourself, you can't just enjoy? If every intelligent, witty and likeable women becomes no more than a series of holes and hormones when you date, and not a friend, if you can get 99.99% of what you need outside of a relationship, why even engage in it at all? Why even bother?
Thank God....For me its really hard to pull out so i guess its better that she would just get up and pulls away !!!
🙏 I hope you reach the point of truly doing what is best!
Question: What to do when she pulls away?
Answer: Go your own way!
I tend to go for there sisters if they are of age.
I met a girl and we got close very fast. It lasted a couple of months and she ditched me for another man who she now lives with. I tried to move on, but she kept coming back, so we agreed to be friends. Every time we go out, we seem to act more like a couple. We get on really well. She flirts with me a lot. We hold hands and kiss? Is this just being friends? I'm not sure? It's strange because she's still living with the other guy. She also gets hot and cold. Sometimes desperate to see me and other times very distant. I'm not sure what this all means?
How to know if what you're doing is in the friend category: would you do it with your mom/aunt/best male friend?
Lots of red flags here. She's cheating on her current dude. If you were in her BFs place, would her behaviour be acceptable? Hell, no.
This woman is trouble, you're playing with fire.
@@YourWingmam Thanks for your advice. I know I'm playing with fire. She was adopted at a young age. I think there are a lot of issues with insecurity, but we have a very close connection. Something I've never experienced before. People have told me to cut her off and start fresh, but that hasn't worked. I can’t work out what she wants from me, but I know her feelings are genuine.
Seriously, don't play games, just be honest with one another. If you like someone, let him or her know. If there's no reciprocity, move on. If a man doesn't make an effort, I will simply think he's not interested or not that into me, period.
Thank you for sharing, it really helps when we embrace being honest with each other ❤️ 🙏
I learnt all this the hard way so I know very word of it is true. They should teach this in school. The sooner you you are familiar with this, the happier you will be.
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