Anxiety and Insecurity Turns Women Off

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  • @BanzettiAMV
    @BanzettiAMV 4 роки тому +361

    When I was focused on the relationship - I felt depressed. Being purpose driven - I feel more like myself :)

    • @normanmacfarlane2867
      @normanmacfarlane2867 4 роки тому +8

      My friend you have hit the nail right on the head . . . totally.
      Create your purpose, follow your dream , be strong, the women will follow, they will be secondary because you MUST follow your purpose, dream, goal, reason .
      No matter what happens you will always succeed .

    • @geepee1500
      @geepee1500 4 роки тому +1

      Yes most definitely that's the Key.

    • @colinesquire2480
      @colinesquire2480 3 роки тому +1

      Healthier and women prefer it too

  • @deepeshdesigns
    @deepeshdesigns 4 роки тому +198

    Attraction Grows in Space, I repeat Attraction Grows in Space

  • @calib3r403
    @calib3r403 3 роки тому +155

    Women : Men should show their emotions
    MEN SHOWS EMOTIONS
    Women : You are weak AF

    • @user-jy6kd7xg4d
      @user-jy6kd7xg4d 2 роки тому +10

      Hell. Fucking true

    • @carlospita6442
      @carlospita6442 Рік тому +1

      Disgusting creatures that don’t offer nothing of value

    • @RohitSharma-on1ye
      @RohitSharma-on1ye Місяць тому +1

      Its a trap

    • @djcaly84
      @djcaly84 10 днів тому

      @@RohitSharma-on1ye it's a trap, because you're easily manipulated and she sees this. When she tells you to show emotion, take it as a compliance test. If you do it, you'll instantly fail, if not, she might get upset in the moment, but she will respect your strength in the long run.

  • @vme1111
    @vme1111 6 років тому +247

    The first day of no contact is the hardest. I had to keep watching your videos to remind me of why I'm doing this. I'm currently on day 3, and on my way to see another woman right now 😂😂😂😂 I feel much better. I'm not keeping myself on hold.

    • @walt2121
      @walt2121 6 років тому +2

      vme1111 Great job, any updates?

    • @vme1111
      @vme1111 6 років тому +39

      Walt I'm currently seeing someone much better as of last week. Way better looks, invests in me, and we click. I don't even have an interest in my side chicks anymore. HOWEVER! She's still a woman, and therefore shall require that I pay attention to detail. Just because things are going well now, doesn't mean it'll stay this way. The slightest hint of indifference towards me, or change of patterns of behavior, and I'll start seeking out other options again. The power of walking away is real

    • @walt2121
      @walt2121 6 років тому +14

      vme1111 Awesome man and your other chick never tryed anything again? You should always be dating other girls until this new chick hints she wants exclusivity if that is what you want from her of course. I know it's hard but sometimes you have to force yourself to keep your options open.

    • @gambit_toys6554
      @gambit_toys6554 6 років тому +7

      Having options is the natural way.
      Are you a complete human being or will you live on your knees for a woman?

    • @SmallsGang_773
      @SmallsGang_773 6 років тому +5

      It's like doing a 3 day fast

  • @iDateAdviceiDateAdvice
    @iDateAdviceiDateAdvice 6 років тому +147

    So true as women are attracted to alpha men with male energy, insecurity is female energy

    • @cameronsharp2022
      @cameronsharp2022 4 роки тому +3

      Which guys should be turned off from too.

    • @cameronsharp2022
      @cameronsharp2022 4 роки тому +8

      Girls cant just sit back and let the guy do everything

    • @mrcool665
      @mrcool665 4 роки тому +4

      @@cameronsharp2022 I find myself feeling that way too.

    • @AlwaysDecent
      @AlwaysDecent 4 роки тому +6

      No such thing as an alpha man, you just need confidence. Alpha male/wolf was an accidentally created term and the man who coined it regretted it since he did more research and he wanted to tear it down but, It became a meme pretty much and it was impossible to get rid of the term.

    • @mrcool665
      @mrcool665 4 роки тому +3

      @@cameronsharp2022 I know they say that insecurity turns women off. A few years ago, I went out with someone who was on the clingy side, and I was put off by that. In other words, it was a reversal of that. So I get where you are coming from.

  • @yazanalmarzouqi2468
    @yazanalmarzouqi2468 3 роки тому +38

    "Expectations is the root of all evil" I agree %100

  • @birbalsalam9102
    @birbalsalam9102 4 роки тому +25

    Focus on your life .....girl will focus on you ....The option is yours🤞

  • @magnus_ducatus9684
    @magnus_ducatus9684 4 роки тому +130

    The morale: Woman can cry and Men can't

    • @josejunior1521
      @josejunior1521 4 роки тому +3

      😂👌🏾

    • @ignacioveiga2539
      @ignacioveiga2539 4 роки тому +10

      Sad but true. Lesson learned

    • @colinesquire2480
      @colinesquire2480 3 роки тому

      💯🤣

    • @phil4863
      @phil4863 3 роки тому +12

      Hypocrisy.... then people wonder why men get abusive and cold. It's because we aren't allowed express how we feel

    • @magnus_ducatus9684
      @magnus_ducatus9684 3 роки тому +6

      @@phil4863 Probably the most difficult standard in society for men..

  • @yazanalmarzouqi2468
    @yazanalmarzouqi2468 3 роки тому +26

    It's TRUE when the man is relationship focused and is trying to fix the relationship and things like that, it's a HUGE turn off for a woman. And I am now saying it from experience as well

  • @Devotchka161
    @Devotchka161 5 років тому +59

    I can deal with anxiety/insecurity from a guy, but when he puts me down because of those insecurities, that's definitely a turn off.

    • @adrianprice7959
      @adrianprice7959 4 роки тому +13

      Yeah but if you're being a bitch then you need to be told so. Saying nasty things to anyone let alone your partner is unacceptable

  • @saacidmoha5686
    @saacidmoha5686 5 років тому +37

    Never chase. But lead 🤗

  • @mrcool665
    @mrcool665 4 роки тому +69

    Expectation is the root of all evil? That's a fact!

    • @spunkee311
      @spunkee311 4 роки тому

      y though?

    • @Max_Power_007
      @Max_Power_007 4 роки тому +4

      Jaciel Torres You can’t always get what you want

  • @deadrick7163
    @deadrick7163 4 роки тому +35

    Quick guide to get a relationship:
    1. Money usually doesn't matter when it comes down to it. It helps your quality of life but as long as you're resourceful, it doesn't matter.
    2. Don't really try and pursue relationships. Not saying don't ask out the girl you've been talking for a week or so but dont get the mindset that youre actively searching. It adds pressure and maybe anxiety.
    3. There is no Alpha or Beta males. Usually its just a stigma to make some sound superior to others, usually based on wealth or ego.
    4. Get into a relationship for the right reasons. Dont get into one because you think it'll make your life better.
    5. No matter what guys, no girl is above you but dont ever think you're above them. We are all same but different.

  • @jaideepsingh8233
    @jaideepsingh8233 5 років тому +31

    I love the advice he gives men “focus on your self and focus on your mission”

  • @michaelpassmore7839
    @michaelpassmore7839 4 роки тому +36

    This is why you should never double or triple message a woman. Send your message, and wait for her response. If you don’t wait, she will not feel your strength and will lose attraction for you.

  • @MannyP7400
    @MannyP7400 6 років тому +65

    I bought his book “Atomic Attraction” the information in this book is truly Awesome I believe it will give any guy the right confidence to help build attraction with and any woman around him. Chris, by the way u are truly awesome my dude!
    Thx a lot, my friend!

  • @rmendola759
    @rmendola759 3 роки тому +14

    These short videos are extremely powerful and diret! If im going through a difficult time with a women, I watch your videos and like magic i become super alpha dominant again!! So thanks. You are the best on this subject

  • @harshh14
    @harshh14 4 роки тому +10

    This guy is 100% correct. Applied his no contact theory and it works plus an insight develops in the period of no contact. She contacted with me after 2 weeks and treated me with utmost respect. Hats off bro

    • @danielaung691
      @danielaung691 4 роки тому

      Update bro?

    • @harshh14
      @harshh14 4 роки тому +5

      Well update is I no longer consider her upto my standards as I have grown as an individual. 😅

  • @TacticalxRecon
    @TacticalxRecon 6 років тому +32

    That tone change at 2:54 is badass! Learnt this the hard way but this is perfect!

  • @deemay1651
    @deemay1651 4 роки тому +8

    Confident is a thing some of us already have , but dont be afraid of showing a weak spot of yourse with confident . Thats pure power if you okay with that . No one is perfect and if you try to be perfect no matter what but not youreself , then you gonna lose you . You need to fall once to go up stronger , accept the failure and learn from it , that's the step of self-development and self-development is success.
    Then you will understand how powerfull you are and how much attractive you became.

  • @a.fee-oh1328
    @a.fee-oh1328 4 роки тому +12

    Chris's videos "seem" redundant. Just let her go give her space and stop worrying.
    Heres the thing. He's right. He has the best advice with these videos. Short and to the point that says "look girl do what you want, you know where I am"
    Women hate when you don't care and it always makes them come back.
    3 years with a girl and 3 major relationship changing issues. Each time I just let her be. Each time she came back to me.
    Dont chase women.

  • @livehealthy959
    @livehealthy959 3 роки тому +8

    Alot of times, people have good amount of confidence but anxiety is what causes insecurities and lack of confidence. A person needs to Work on getting rid of anxiety and he or she will be automatically more confident and trust me, it's based on experience and if it's not based on anxiety, then improve what's making you insecure or less confident.

  • @MrVolcomclassic
    @MrVolcomclassic Рік тому +6

    I bought the book. One of the books I've ever bought. Highly recommend

  • @DennisNowland
    @DennisNowland 5 років тому +36

    Trouble is because of their behaviors men become anxious and insecure. That is the problem.

    • @trex9532
      @trex9532 4 роки тому +1

      Such a beta male comment. Watch some AMS videos 👍

    • @mohicanmowl
      @mohicanmowl 3 роки тому

      @@trex9532 watching Guys videos Is Alpha?

    • @jimdaniel4412
      @jimdaniel4412 2 роки тому

      yep I just commented about this, it's usually a transfer from her. They want the care and kindness to help their anxiety which in turn is just a transfer cause they don't personally work on theirs.

  • @onepercentruleeveryday
    @onepercentruleeveryday 4 роки тому +14

    insecurity is something that prevents us from achieving our dreams and stops us from persevering. We must fight insecurity in our minds to unlock our full potential!:)

  • @BekeleHT
    @BekeleHT 6 років тому +26

    I will watch this video everyday as a reminder to focus on myself n not chase the cat.

    • @joshfyans5918
      @joshfyans5918 Рік тому +1

      So true I’m in no contact and I have to watch his videos a lot to give me strength.

    • @gauravkumai
      @gauravkumai Рік тому +1

      ​@@joshfyans5918What happened bro...did it work?

  • @zeyalzee
    @zeyalzee 3 роки тому +13

    The thing is, you will have to go through a couple of breakups to realize this on your own. When you do that, you're gonna be irresistible. 💣

  • @NoName-zb1gm
    @NoName-zb1gm 2 роки тому +5

    Two weeks is a long time but you never know she might be testing you or testing herself and if the guy plays it cool she might come back forever. Kind of the "if you love someone set them free if they come back they're yours".

  • @kenross9026
    @kenross9026 3 роки тому +7

    I made this mistake, initially she chased ,text called . I wasnt easily available and had high value. Then it changed and reversed. Now I'm in no contact at all. If she reaches out she reaches out, if not I'm good . Lessons learned

  • @adambond589
    @adambond589 6 років тому +44

    great advice this guy talks sense

  • @BanzettiAMV
    @BanzettiAMV 4 роки тому +10

    If they leave, have them leave respecting you at least.

  • @skootnowornever6612
    @skootnowornever6612 6 років тому +13

    BRO I APPRECIATE YOU!!

  • @shahrahman904
    @shahrahman904 4 роки тому +3

    ur channel is by FAR the best amazing work keep going ur rock man changed my life MASSIVELY

  • @jossell911
    @jossell911 Рік тому +1

    I just want to say thanks. You been helping so much men. Great vid💯

  • @iftekmahmud
    @iftekmahmud 6 років тому +16

    This has to be one of your best videos Chris!

  • @jeanpal206
    @jeanpal206 4 роки тому +15

    So just pretend to be single all the time, got it

  • @NewyJon7787
    @NewyJon7787 2 місяці тому

    About to listen to your audiobook. The videos are excellent, so i have no doubt i will get a lot out of it.

  • @bobthefly8271
    @bobthefly8271 5 років тому +18

    No woman or man or relationship would be worth that amount of effort. It doesn't have to be smooth sailing but if the ocean was all choppy and cavitating my boat all the time I would stay on land.

  • @awarenessandjoy3993
    @awarenessandjoy3993 4 роки тому +6

    God bless you my friend.. You are doing a great job.. Thanks..

  • @triplex2912
    @triplex2912 6 років тому +7

    Yes. Makes good sense. Thanks.

  • @hardtopart3346
    @hardtopart3346 5 років тому +40

    Interesting.. a succesfull man with money and good looking felt insecure with women... when I got some extra money I feel like a king 😀

  • @jonnychandigarh3249
    @jonnychandigarh3249 6 років тому +20

    within 2 weeks u got more than 1000 subs... keep the videos coming..very soon u will hav 1 million subs

  • @justicebrandford6828
    @justicebrandford6828 4 роки тому +3

    I wish I had come across these gems right after I entered puberty

  • @mike12fdg
    @mike12fdg 4 роки тому +8

    This is why I will always be alone

    • @andrebaxter4023
      @andrebaxter4023 3 роки тому +1

      If that's what you want.

    • @1nsaneme973
      @1nsaneme973 2 роки тому

      Yeah too much headache in relationships. Fck that shit

  • @markushauser6491
    @markushauser6491 Рік тому +1

    Best advice ever, thanks a lot!

  • @duxsy3240
    @duxsy3240 Рік тому +1

    I was in a depression i wasnt myself and the depression made me doubt her now im scared if the damage is done and the depression had nothing to do with her

  • @claudio.chiarella
    @claudio.chiarella 3 роки тому +1

    Absolutely true , mate. Cheers!

  • @andrebaxter4023
    @andrebaxter4023 3 роки тому +4

    That thumbnail though. 👌🏽 🤣

  • @skootnowornever6612
    @skootnowornever6612 6 років тому +17

    The way of the superior man!!

  • @RahulJagtap14
    @RahulJagtap14 4 роки тому +7

    Damnn, I wish I knew this 10-11 years ago. But, cool, I have still time to attract women.

  • @jimdaniel4412
    @jimdaniel4412 2 роки тому +1

    I'm not one that carries anxiety around with me, but when I do start to notice it it's usually my partners anxieties that are the root. That's tough part is to not let someone else cause yours

  • @DynamicUnreal
    @DynamicUnreal 4 роки тому +13

    Women undoubtedly care about looks. If you’re not above a certain looks threshold (individual for each woman) nothing you do will make them want you.

    • @jordangarrick669
      @jordangarrick669 3 роки тому

      Um, actually, yes - there's something even ugly guys can do to make women want them: make a ton of money. Nothing attracts women more than wealth and power....Good looking men can attract beautiful women with ease, but only a wealthy guy will keep them around.

    • @DynamicUnreal
      @DynamicUnreal 3 роки тому +1

      @@jordangarrick669 They’re not attracted to the man, they’re attracted to the money.

  • @marcusbelbi7432
    @marcusbelbi7432 6 років тому +15

    So i bought your manual and she contacted me after 23 days putting 3 missed calls on my phone back to back.
    I didn't know it was her since i didn't have her new phone number... I texted her number tomorrow and she called me.
    I said hello in the yelling way subconciously and her first saying is why are you angry and i was like i was just talking to somebody before you...
    I asked why did you call in a surprising way she said i wanted to ask a question and started asking a stupid question i answered normally and then she asks hastily how is everything with you and i'm like it's all good... and then she is like just called to see how you were doing and i was like thank you and goodbye... there she goes... :D

    • @michaelh9251
      @michaelh9251 6 років тому +6

      marcus belbi update? Is she chasing you still blowing ur phone up?

    • @marcusbelbi7432
      @marcusbelbi7432 6 років тому +4

      she did chase me bruh... but still said no to seeing me

    • @catalincata9043
      @catalincata9043 6 років тому +3

      marcus belbi dudee my ex has been like that too. She kept messaging me and id ignore her. Then i moved to her city rn for a month and i started replying to her texts. Long story short she really doesnt want to see me bacause she thinks it would be weird. So i got pissed off and i told her to delete my fking number then. Like whats the point of her contacting me and then not wanting to see me. My college is a 1 min walk away from her place. I mean i can see her appartment window from my colleges cafeteria and she knows i go there. But yet she didnt invite me. Like wtf???. Once she said i should of dropped by to say "hi" and i said maybe next time and shes like "maybe" but when i told her to grab me something from the mall she didnt wanna do it cause she would have to meet up with me

    • @marcusbelbi7432
      @marcusbelbi7432 6 років тому +1

      dude she like calls me then hangs up so i'd call her .... like wtf?

    • @catalincata9043
      @catalincata9043 6 років тому +1

      marcus belbi thats pretty fucked up man

  • @oppahadventures114
    @oppahadventures114 4 роки тому +3

    Wow this is a wake up call

  • @joeybagadonuts7332
    @joeybagadonuts7332 6 років тому +5

    Good advice.... And true

  • @michaelramirez4162
    @michaelramirez4162 6 років тому +6

    Awesome shirt Chris!

  • @Doors067
    @Doors067 4 роки тому +4

    Luckily for woman its not a turn off for men since every woman alive has both.

  • @faceripper77
    @faceripper77 3 роки тому +6

    Just get out of the habit of putting all your eggs in one basket when you start talking to a girl. Should she not reply one day... then oh well on to the next one... and the next one. True freedom and no stress

  • @cameronsharp2022
    @cameronsharp2022 4 роки тому +6

    Except people who really love you stay with you

  • @snotenglish2792
    @snotenglish2792 4 роки тому +3

    Dont even replace them
    Dont even get with them.
    If you have money they Will love your anxiety and insecurity

  • @turoniner
    @turoniner 6 років тому +2

    Your videos are the best.

  • @kusanalichan1710
    @kusanalichan1710 6 років тому +12

    So, i think only approaching woman when we're ready mentally for a drama.. am i right ? Lol

  • @elmo319
    @elmo319 8 місяців тому

    Essentially, women need to attach to a man, to take care of their needs.
    This is why confidence (not arrogance) is attractive. They don’t want a man that they have to support, you need you to lead.
    Took me several relationships and a 14 year marriage to figure this out, being more of a leader with my new partner is working wonders. Hindsight is a wonderful thing!
    Stay strong fellas 👍

  • @grantrmoore
    @grantrmoore 5 років тому +3

    This sums up how I lost my girl.. It just ain't fair. She would go out & not come back home til morning or even the next night.. And expect me to not get insecure & upset?

    • @maristoldboys5466
      @maristoldboys5466 4 роки тому +2

      *Need kills* "Don't chase, just replace." Date new women fast put it on yr social media. Out with the old in with the new. #PlentyofFish

    • @renebleu8711
      @renebleu8711 4 роки тому +3

      She was cheating bro

    • @jonjeffries3265
      @jonjeffries3265 3 роки тому

      F her.. avoid at all cost..

  • @umerhayat1590
    @umerhayat1590 4 роки тому +1

    Great video

  • @bullywongs
    @bullywongs 6 років тому +6

    Nice bro

  • @JohnDoe-js9py
    @JohnDoe-js9py 3 роки тому

    Yes exactly. This reality is actually hell

  • @southwestxnorthwest
    @southwestxnorthwest 3 роки тому +6

    Confidence is wearing a pink v-neck shirt on camera

  • @HESHFITNESS
    @HESHFITNESS 6 років тому +4

    When my gf does somthn bitchy i dont chase her but when she contacts me again..., is it ok, to scold at her to make her realize what she did?

    • @infoage265
      @infoage265 6 років тому +3

      Just reprimand her in a calm manner and be aloof thereafter.

  • @kevinalleyne5107
    @kevinalleyne5107 2 роки тому +1

    I'm gonna start no contact with my girlfriend today

  • @TheManX023
    @TheManX023 2 роки тому +1

    Now this ain't totally true. I had told my ex I suffer from anxiety and depression right from the get go, and quite frankly she was one of the most supportive and caring people that have been in my life, it didn't phase her one bit. In fact I was the one who broke up with her over a year later because I was no longer feeling it and thought that if I had her I could get any girl in the world. One of the dumbest decisions i've made in my life so far. It's been 3 years and I still miss her, or maybe it's just the loneliness and I miss having someone who loves me and cares so damn much for me, either way I'm doomed.

  • @lordvenus7999
    @lordvenus7999 6 років тому +10

    Nowdays girl is looks more shallow.

  • @michellefreeman7559
    @michellefreeman7559 4 роки тому +1

    I'm a guy using someone else's account to type, I've been left with 10 weeks left before my son born, I'm trying not to call or message as hard as it is yet I still feel I've lost everything still

    • @gentilecannibal9454
      @gentilecannibal9454 4 роки тому

      Man you need to call her. His advice seems good for bachelors but its not good for married

  • @ihebbenkhalifa253
    @ihebbenkhalifa253 6 років тому +4

    what to do when she comes back again ?

    • @isaacjacob6986
      @isaacjacob6986 5 років тому +3

      Be respectful to her.

    • @stockaid
      @stockaid 4 роки тому +3

      Act as if nothing happened

  • @taimoorkiyani6650
    @taimoorkiyani6650 4 роки тому +2

    Sir I'm from Pakistan your videos helped me alot thanks 💯

  • @yeungarthur9796
    @yeungarthur9796 4 роки тому +3

    The thumbnail LMAO

  • @moto_rambler_prashant
    @moto_rambler_prashant 4 роки тому

    Does this works when she is older than us like a bit more...

  • @gpavl1177
    @gpavl1177 4 роки тому +3

    So basically there is no point if you don't focus on the relationship, cause the way I see it, you just let a girl chase you, period, nothing more, nothing less.
    If this kind of thinking is wrong please correct me. Because I don't know if it's right or not :/

    • @jonjeffries3265
      @jonjeffries3265 3 роки тому +3

      Just don't over focus.. be aware of her feelings, just not too much.. Not too much of anything.. moderation is the key.. after the chase, let her see a bit more of you, but in moderation..

  • @solandrerazsomoza7390
    @solandrerazsomoza7390 4 роки тому +2

    A lot of my friends thier girls friends sleeping other guy cause he dont care abouyt her

  • @chiniiya
    @chiniiya 4 роки тому +2

    Any references hehe

  • @rc2487
    @rc2487 3 роки тому +1

    I don't agree the girl has to be initially attracted to the man first before he doesn't give her attention. Women don't love men for who they are. Women love men for what they can do for them. Women are attracted to a man's Status and resources. Money is the root of all evil.

  • @bigslimsanantoniotx6483
    @bigslimsanantoniotx6483 6 років тому +2

    ♦️Ur awesome🎯🎯☑️

  • @colinesquire2480
    @colinesquire2480 3 роки тому

    💯

  • @neshifuturo
    @neshifuturo 5 років тому +1

    man i think even when you angry you act the same is no boring for woman ? :D

  • @dlx6028
    @dlx6028 6 місяців тому

    💎💎💎

  • @l0remipsum991
    @l0remipsum991 4 роки тому +4

    Anxiety and insecurity turns men off too. Find someone with strong EQ.

  • @yonylopez2480
    @yonylopez2480 3 роки тому

    Nice nice
    Bidio...Buddy....
    ...thank .straight.t the.ponit.