I have tears running down my face as they I watch your video and I can barely text this message I am overwhelmed and shocked that I truly felt loved by this person only to come to find out at the end, I was just a supply, a fucking collection of his ego...WTF
Nailed this!!! Being the best supply is not a compliment. They kick themselves for leaving and come back ANGRY at you for letting them get away if you didn't beg them back.
Spiltzville Adious Dealt with this fool for 4 years and 4 discards Re engagements I bought a building opened two stores and he walked away when it was time to open his shop which I Bought because he had problems working for others We had a Jag and BMW the Jag which he crashed twice they are ungreatful and insatiable and miss out on all kinds of opportunities in life he was already with my replacement and still wanted to return now that I know I’ve been living a fake life I’ve gone no contact hardest waste of time ever
thats exactly what happened to me after six months the psycho texted me to tell me his truth like i give a shi. oh yes he wanted some validation and i did not give it to him the odasity of these people. and then to add insult to injury his second text to me was to make me look bad as a person and all the while he is the victim. very disgusting what a loser.
CNXG CrazyNarcissistXGirlfriend what if he had a smear campaign about me saying he wants nothing to do with and I need to move on? Which of course I'm moving on
CNXG CrazyNarcissistXGirlfriend well the bad thing is my cousin messaged his new girlfriend on messenger and warned her about him without my knowledge. I came to find this out by my friends that he was talking about me. So he's in a relationship but still married to me. So IDK what he's gonna do now even tho I had nothing to do with this. It's scary
I don't want to be the best supply. I just want a DIVORCE. GOT DANG! Every excuse in the book to prolong. Every immature ignorant act he does, I just ignore. I refuse to respond one way or the other. I PRAY he finds his "best supply", cause i don' t want to be it.
It took me a long time to realize I couldn't have needs as a child. Thus I didn't know my needs as as adult. I just knew I felt good. Now I know my needs. I need your videos. Thank you. Truth.
Ok, here is my story about my ex narc. I bought her a 500$ gift for her birthday. then we had a great time " online". I said goodnight, She said goodnight. the next day, I woke up and found out that She had blocked me. She blocked my WhatsApp, my Facebook, and everything that connects me to here. Guess what, for a week, She never talked to me or gave any explanation as to why she did all that shit. no fucking reason whatsoever. 10 days later, she texted me apologizing to me and how stupid she was and so on. Yeah I was stupid and forgave her, I know, big fucking mistake. I tried to understand why she did what she did, but no answer. a few weeks later, I felt like She was up to something, I knew she was going to do the same thing. I just called her and told her " I'm breaking up with you, goodluck. but she never reacted, like nothing. two weeks later, I saw her with a guy who looked 3 months pregnant, so fucking ugly with a big belly. guess what, one month later, She was pregnant. Now she is miserable, She has no job and pregnant. its unbelievable how these narcissist people fuck themselves up. They would do whatever it takes to get your attention, and once you give them attention, they just break your heart. its been 3 months NC now. She has been trying to hoover me, sending me short texts like " Hi". but I never answered and never will. DONT BELEIVE THEM, THEY WILL LOVE NO BODY. THEY DONT KNOW WHAT LOVE IS. JUST RUN AND NEVER LOOK BACK
This dude here!!! SERIOUSLY !! Gave me a whole NEW VIEW ON NPD!!! This is my first time on this channel and i'm currently 2 months and somechange complete no contact with my ex narc.. it's been HELL.. but IM HAPPIER AND DOING MUCH BETTER WITHOUT HIM.. i'm young smart beautiful and gotta little butt ... and loves me!!! And it's videos like this you gotta hear.. STRAIGHT FORWARD AND FUCKING HONEST... AND FUNNY AS SHIT TO!!! kings and queens .. keep y'alls heads up!! think positive.. NOTHING LAST FOREVER.. especially NOT THESE NARCS.. Bless They Hearts... smh
You are spot on but for a long time i did not want to except he never loved me (stupid!), i still struggle with it. My only sanctuary is listening to people like yourself, I am so angry & upset, i hung onto him for 16 years hoping he would change, what a waste of energy & time. It's still early days for me & struggling with every emotion you can have i just hope i can stay strong & get through to the other side.
I did.....and I thought I broke his nose. His new chicken came to the doorstep and said: go away or do I have to call the police? I said: don't bother, I'll do it myself! And I did call 112 and walked home. ( there was drugs on the table at her house...yep.) When I came home I cried because I had hit him (he looked so frightened like a little child). I raised 3 sons on my own and NEVER hit one of them. But....there must be a first time for everything nah? And...I don't hit children only grown men hahahaha!!
Thanks to you I’ve discovered what I was dealing with. I am wife #4 to the most evil Narc could ever exist. At age 20 he married first wife, had 2 kids with her, dumped her for new supply. Got new supply pregnant with kids #1 and at the same time, his wife pregnant with kid #3. Divorced wife with 3 kids, married new supply. All of the sudden new supply is pregnant with kid #2 and ex-wife is pregnant with kid #4. Scandale arising with 2 families. He dumped wife #1 with 4 kids, left Mexico with wife #2, to come to US, got her pregnant with kid #3, dumped her for new supply but after discard few years later got her pregnant with kid #4. Wife #3 discovered the thing dumps him. He goes back with #2 and here I arrive : supply #4. He lies about all 3 previous wives and 8 kids. Pretended that he was never married, no kids. Love bombed me, we married, had 2 kids, I worked so hard to get our own business, a beautiful house, suddenly, he brought to surface wife #2 and her 4 kids. It was hard to see his kids thorn apart. I let him join both families, the way his kids could grow around him present in their life. He made me pay their rent, provide food and clothing to them. Convinced me to let ex-wife to babysit my 2 kids. We became 2 families united 24/7, he rent for ex a house, in the same neighborhood. Just to have her around permanently. Our neighbors were confused about the situation. He promised to go back to her and kept her waiting for 13 years. I had discovered that he was cheating on me with her permanently. Tired of waiting for him, she left to Mexico, leaving her kids behind. The youngest stayed with me for 5 years. By the time I was raising her, he would travel to Mexico alone, go on a date with #2. His financial bad decisions got us to a foreclosure and when we were homeless with 3 kids in the street and in the toughest times ever, he dumped me with my 2 kids and his own daughter to start a new life with supply #5 who happened to be my housekeeper a married woman with 5 kids. Her husband was heartbroken, my kids were devastated, my stepdaughter left behind again and again was terribly affected. I reached out to the new supply, she refused to understand and became evil. She doesn’t let him visit or see my kids. He is in my lease for new apartment cause my credit got screwed after foreclosure, he got a key from manager and here trough phases of hovering, He pops out at 1:00 am, 3:00 am or 4:00 am in my room, trying to cheat on new supply with me. I had to pretend to have filmed him during visits and threatened to give evidences to new supply, to have him stop his visits in the middle of the night. He is promising to dump new supply and come back. Thanks to all these videos I know now what I am dealing with and despite the fact that he is the only man in my life. I will never ever take him back. The harm I suffered is impossible to describe. I am chattered beyond imagination and I’m trying hard to get back on my feet. Thanks for taking time to read this messed up story but that’s how the Narcs mind is. Broken vows and broken families.
OMG what have you been through! :( When I read these stories about women, it's just such a big shock. I really really hope you never ever let that person near you. best to even move somewhere else. to another state. that's what many people with such messed up person in their lives do. Gosh... all those kids :'( How is it a crime when someone slaps you, but it's not a crime when someone sucks the life out of all these families and leaves all these innocent people behind and they just get by!! you can't go to anyone and say hey we have a vampire here! please keep it out of the society! thank you so much for sharing your story. There are some videos on how to work on yourself to avoid these people and not attract other narcs too. A very big thing in you probably is that you are very kind and empathetic. Narcs spot that and take advantage of it. I know that because I am also like that. If you haven't tried those methods already, which I'm sure you have, please do. they are great ways to save yourself and get back on your feet. keep posting, share your experience, there are many kind people out there that are willing to help you, I'm sure about that.
You poor thing. It’s a year later and I sincerely hope you are getting back on your feet. It takes time but thank god you will never return to this sicko.
A red flag for me is when you are out in public and they start talking real loud about something that makes them seem important like barking orders on their cell phone or how great they are. It's weird and makes you feel uncomfortable.
I discarded him after he discarded me 10 times. He will never get a chance ever again i will not allow it. His ass will be wasting his time trust me he treated me like trash at a waste site, he's hoovering hard I'm not falling for it, I know its a trap to suck me in and discard me he will never succeed I'm on top of his mastery to attempt to try, its funny because he's wasting time and energy that he needs poor thing.
I wish to have an ability to recognize them immediatelly. I found out that great helper can be a tabloid media - VIPs and their relationships, how they talk and how they behave. Who behave as a bigger victim, who found a new partner faster, who acts like a sensitive person but behave like the opposite was true and so on... :D
I don't know how good I was, but I: 1. Taught her daughter how to walk and eat. 2. Paid for her daughter's daycare. 3. Made her car payment. 4. Paid her medical bill. 5. Paid her last tuition payment and celebrated her graduating. 6. Paid her lawyer fee against an ex. 7. Bought her plenty of gifts and meals. 8. Gave up 2 jobs for her. 9. Offered to sell my house for her. 10. Offered to propose to her. 11. Took out a loan to help her with finances. All in all I gave more love, support, and attention to her than any girl before her and spent roughly $6,000+ since February 2019 and she discarded me 3 days ago. She wanted to be friends because she said she felt safe contacting me in case anything happens, but I said no. The last thing I told her was, "you know what you're losing. Don't ever contact me no matter what happens." I blocked her on all social media and I blocked her number. Unfortunately, she still has the key to my house. I doubt she'll ever contact me or show up at my place. I think about her a little, but I'm surprisingly happier and excited about moving on. I've recently gotten serious about working out and working my 2 jobs in the medical field. I hope she doesn't try to contact me again.
This is true! I always wondered why my ex narc was friends with his ex's on fb it was like his little sick collection . He fooled me twice never again. No contact for a yr. Now and for the rest of my life!
So true , looks don't matter to them and normally this would be a good attribute ,but not these mofos, it's all about the attention they can get and the abuse you withstand 🤮🤮🤮
I have probably been the best boyfriend my narc had in ages, with copious amounts of attention given ( of course not enough....), but considerig the amount of punishment i have received I must have been a lackluster supply. As fucked up as I am after my sick little rollercoaster ride, having put up a fight without even realizing the game makes me at least a tiny bit proud.... Thank you so much for your videos, a tremendous help for overcoming those sick fucks
she had me to the point of suicide by cops..perfect set up. Was my third time going back in 15 years. I am still battling in court, these videos are pin point ACCURATE! thank you very much for helping me understand why I am so freaking tired and F'CKED up ! m
David, you are the bomb!! You don't sugar coat it. You are blunt and to the point. I truly appreciate your candour, forthrightness, and honesty. You lovingly bash me over the head until it sinks in! LOL I needed that! Thanks again for your many videos which have helped me tremendously!! The best on UA-cam, my friend! Keep up the good work!!
If you don't believe David, mine just tried to hoover on a public Facebook page almost two years after discard/no contact saying he loved me even though he still had me blocked on Facebook. I stayed no contact, didn't answer and guess what? He deleted the comment!! So much for loving me...😂😂😂
So true! They will take on anyone new just for the attention. That's how pathetic they truly are. I was shocked, repulsed, and confused when I saw who he had been getting his attention from. It really showed me who he really was.
I left my narc mid last year for good. I really got my peace back and am so much happier now. And whaala!!! he e-mailed greeting me Merry Christmas and even asking me to be his best friend. These sicko’s are relentless!! No boundaries whatsoever. Unbelievable. I was so creeped out, I closed and deleted my e-mail account.
You are awesome beyond words, thank you. Between you, reading, BPD family, Shari Schrieber and some close friends and family, I got out of the unhealthy cycle.
Please discuss when a Narc leaves you for "The greatest new person in the world" and then tries to cheat with you (after a brutal discard) Is this normal (For them) I am finally able to get mad. Oddly enough months ago I prayed this would happen. Now I cringe thinking about that.Narc accused me of insane things (because the new woman "helped him" figure out what I was. Laughable. She's literally half his age and she's got life all figured out. My jealousy and hatred for her has turned to pity. I see how quickly the "greatest love of all" turns to shit for them. I also now see that our own "epic love story" was equal bullshit. If I'd not called him out on seeing her in the first place...He'd happily stayed with me just having all of us. So..It's disgusting. I deflected his bullshit and he literally went into a narc rage. WTF. It's like none of his accusations had ever happened. As if he didn't totally insult me beyond recognition in divorce settlement. He haggled via text while on phone with attorney. That's a COWARD. He apologized for "thinking the worst of me ALL THE TIME" which is NO apology at all really~Just a narcy way of calling me a bitch again. The reidealization and devaulation is just what people say it is.A CYCLE. Jump off while you can. I did NOT understand that before. I was looking up stupid shit like "will the narc come back to me" So pathetic. The answer is YES. There is no victory in it if you've seen how quickly they cycle once their mask has slipped. I am mainly in a new form of shock...How did I not see this when I was deep in it. I swore I'd never been discarded but I had been. It was just sneakier. When he was done (for the time being) he was DONE. Still laughable. I've heard it's over when we say it is. Truer words never spoken. Just wow.
3 months after the discard she contacted me and told me that she missed the good times we had and that we had a great relationship and that i was a huge impact on her.. this is very confusing because she was with another guy within a week of leaving me. i guess i was a good source of narcissistic supply. i have not heard from her since.
Patrick Pepin Bro my ex Narc said the exact same thing I miss you BS it’s been 4 months after she discarded me & last week she flip the script on some let it be we are not together. Wtf she’s coming at me & I told her that she’s reaching out to me right then I knew she’s has gotten worse. So I blocked her number & on social media they are sick toxic individuals stay in no contact bro. She lies to much. I can’t even front I believe she has her family slick hoover me like flying monkeys. So my best advice to you & everyone pray to God for protection from all evil & stay in no contact that’s my solution. Oh yeah my Narc even admitted to me that I really took care of them I was a great supply but that’s not worth shit!
And the pathetic thing is these psychopath narcissist chicks be in another full blown relationship with another dude hoovering and stalking their ex.at the same time.
I made a video diary and sent her the episode in which I discuss stupidity and arrogance: asking for more when I have documented evidence of grand larceny. Hasn’t bothered me since.
I was considered the best supply, not proud of it at all. This makes perfect sense why they try to come back. They do not care, all they care about is supply.
Dave if only you knew how fucking much your videos are helping me bro I'm in the early stages of discard and she disappeared 40 days ago and I was hurting bad man But your videos have helped me out a ton Thank you
This has really helped. Thank you. It makes me feel like the fucked up one hoping I was the best supply for this crazy bas**d. Why would I feel this is a good thing ? I feel like I move forward loads from these videos and then watch another which proves I definitely have a long way to go.
wow David it's a good video again ! it really helps me I'm so happy with myself for going no contact for 10 weeks to the discuting narc he will never have me again it's hes loss I'm gonna meet a great guy in the future healing myself now .😋
Sara Cotgrave Thank you Sara, I am very happy. Lose these people and discover and uncover your childhood and you will find your answers. You will be just fine but never give up on yourself or be too hard on yourself.
They love to yell at you when they have you corned or trapped on a car with them. That's when they get you upset. They want you back amd they'll make the punishment worst the next time. They just amp up the game to hurt.
I’m so sorry for the experience you went thru, but you have POWER to help us, thousands of people who are in the dark and despair. We are so much higher and better than this...These narcs are pathetic. We can make it, thanks for everything, David
Knowing all that I know now, and after the abuse n disrespect, I feel so sorry for her, the fact that she's doomed to repeat this cycle over n over till, God knows. When... Thanks for all the insight. If she were to ever try n come back, She would have to play by my rules.FU part is knowing I'd still play.
I was terrible supply, did the exact opposite of what he expected repeatedly. Never hovered me because I have proof of some unsavory things he would hate to get out.
I was the best supply & told her she’d go back to her normal scummy choices to which she hung up on me 😂 (never could handle the truth!) I’m positive that’s where she’s at.
You are brilliant.!! thank you so much. I’ve just seen the light after 30 years of marriage, everything you said is so true, being devalued being used and made to feel unworthy. dedicated my life to him, so now i’m quietly getting my ducks in a row and I’m leaving 👍
I'm no contact for only 5 days now, we were together just 4 months but it was so intense in and out of the bedroom. He never verbally or physically abused me, however this is his 3rd silent treatment.. And on this very day we had just spent an amazing morning together and he actually begged me to spend the day with him, I couldn't cause I had other obligations.. Then a few hours later that same night.. He ignored all my text.. Only saw a few.. And said.. I'm home resting and no I can't respond to your messages!! The other texts weren't even seen.. So im done, even tho I'm hurting, but it's just a sick vicious cycle and I wanna get off! He does have a blank stare at times, and looks kinda creepy.. Thank you so much for all your valuable input!! Its exactly what I need right now🙏🏼
As a lover of a good writing utensil, I could relate to the marker metaphor! THATS by far, the most accurate and simplistic metaphor for a narcs approach to “relationships”.
I haven't been attracted to him in years and it's not because he isn't attractive on the outside but it's because I've seen way too much of who he really is on the inside. I always genuinely feel empathy for the next girl.
that helped so much. having a little set back from dwelling on the new supply. this is a once in a blue blood moon message. keep teaching us. thank you
Omg!! My narc did this. He came back from Europe after going ghost for almost a month. He gets me to agree to be his girlfriend again by phone, courted me, made a date only to ditch me saying “don’t you know when a guy doesn’t want you anymore” and to “fuck off.”
This was a great, refreshing, "tell it to me, baby" video! You actually had me laughing aloud at different parts because you are so authentic in telling it how it is. I shared one of your videos thus far, and this one will be shared with the same person. When she thanked me for the first one, her comment was: "I loved it! That guy cracked me up how he spoke in such a real way ... and not tons of psycho babble." Those of us whohave been into self improvement during our adult lives and over "therapied", have heard over and over again all the psychological terms and get it. What we haven't heard is someone giving us their human experiences in both a validating and, as Cher said, "Snap out of it" way! It's the best "Ahhhhh" feeling to hear you tell it straight and, like we were close friends having a beer at the Cheers bar... and without any of the "Ouch"! 😁 Thank u! Keep 'em coming!
Great Video I reached the same conclusion after the end of my relationship. The one thing my ex cared the most always seems to be the attention from other men(or women). However there seems to be a difference on her behavior based on the "qualify" of the attention she was getting. If the attention she claimed she was getting was from good looking, high class male or female, she will be very happy. But if it's from someone who she claimed to be bad looking, losers, weird people, then she will actually get mad(instead of just unhappy), "how dare he stare at me this way, who does he think he is!!!??? Freaks, weirdo!" Almost every time we went out, she will tell me some other dude/girl was checking her out, i didn't really think about this behavior too much till the end of the relationship. One interesting thing happened was right before the discarding stage. She went to a gathering with the POSOM(piece of s**t other man), at that time i didn't know they were having an affair. And there was another dude there keep talking with the POSOM, and according to her he was basically ignoring her. She came back and was really really angry, and can't stop talking smack about that guy, "that guy is so full of himself, who the hell he think he is!" Crazy crazy people in our lives....
My Narc absolutley needed what i was strong,independent ,fair and understanding,i quickly learned thru my divorce that all the raging he was doing thru our lawyers was about attention and control,,even my lawyer said "can't fix cookoo" cost me thousands of $$$ to get it all done. His new supply( he cheated ) has no bountries and is well known for having no integrity at all,, ,,he got what he wanted the house ( i sold him my share) the pets and my teenage son living with him,processions for him,,, but i kept the best parts ,, my sanity ,,my freedom,,my son comes to me and vents about his dads stingy entitled ways,,,at least my son has a lighthouse in the storm,, can't put a price on those .My son has seen his mom ( me) being extremely ill and then recover from a liver transplant ,and a nasty divorce all while his father left him and me to fend for ourselfs,,which i did along with the amazing support from my family and friends who loved and supported me thru the darkest days of my life,,,,,i have seen the Narc 2 times in last 8 months but never face to face only a quick side view,,i swear my angels have protected me from him i have to admit i will be a bit nervous if i ever meet him eye to eye,,which i will avoid at all cost ,,,he hurt me so bad,i feel i would be looking at a devil ,,,but so far so good,,,I have moved on a great deal ,,,I am still in the process of putting the period at the end of this chapter in my life,,,thank you David for sharing it has helped me a great deal ,, knowing we are not alone or crazy LOL
cathy B i have said the same thing. The last time I saw him I loved him with everything I had, but if I saw him today it would scare me because I would look into those eyes and only see evil.
I was thinking the new supply the narc got married with after a few months nc is going to have to step it up. Because I think was a good supply never giving up on him, praising him (even when I didn't want to). Which is not a good thing btw. He didn't want to marry me but was surprised when I said peacefully'' ok we're done and that means no contact.'' He lied to get me back and THEN discarded me short after. Also he was NEVER alone, always needing to be around people (job long hours, activities, charities, playing taxi driver etc) when he was just after supply!! Thanks David.
I divorced my narc 2 years ago and he is still working fervently to show me I made a mistake lol. He’s even remarried and moved the girl into our old aptmt building. And yet emailed me that I am the best ‘woman’ aka supply that he’s ever had and he’ll drop her right now. No way in hell!! I’m so glad to be free. Obviously I was his best supply. Tough! And no I’m not flattered.
The amount of time they spend with you, such as the narc spent more time with me than any of his other tramps, maybe I was the best supply, your right, who knows? But now, I am out of that disgusting harem, his main supply is discarded, by ME.
Thank you for your videos. I am free from the narc for 1 year... no contact taken seriously from august this year when he came to apologize to me saying all I wanted to hear, asking to be friends for the sake of our daughter! He even devalued his new suplly, and also his parents... I would like you to make a video on victims that truly made something to be guilt about... I was discarded because I confessed being emotionally involved with someone else... I was sincere, said we should think about our relationship and we both needed some time ... we were going through a crises in the relationship... 1 week later he grabed ALL his stuff including wine bottles and went to his parents... than the nightmare began...he told everyone I had cheated on him, a very amplified version of the truth, of course... EVERYONE... and 1 week later he was sleeping with a 10 year younger girl who worked with him... he just vanished from our lives... just asked me to split the moneys ... that all was my fault and he was done with me! Smear campaing, harrassment, spying, stalking ... he did it all while he was already with someone else... for months! He is still with her and still an absent father! He left in dec 2016 and in May he did a scandal in my building with his parents insulting me yelling and screaming! I presented a claim to the authorities... I believe he will be presented to court! I lost weight, concentration, friends but I manage to keep my daughter with me, I keept my house, my job... June this year I didn t knew how to manage the guilt and the obsession on him! I went to the psicologist... I made a resume of our 10 year relationship and of the ending of the relationship... I showed some of the text messages I was receiving ... That was when I first heard about narcisism ... perverse narcisism... I do not feel any guilt anymore... I was being devalued, non appreciated... someone in my life appeared to show me that I was a wonderfull person... I now believe the universe wanted to show me that this was not an healthly relationship because I would never ever imagine where I was and the monster with whom I was sleeping every night ! I am getting stronger... still think about it... feeling lost sometimes... feeling sad... mostky for my daughter... but... focused on healing! All the videos help a lot! I wish all the best for all of us...
CNXG CrazyNarcissistXGirlfriend Thank you for your feedback! Today is the 1st aniversary of the day everything changed... the day I confessed about having feelings for someone else... I feel ashamed for this... feel some guilt because I was the one who actually pulled the thriger... sometimes I wonder if I am the narcisist... sometimes I wonder if I was abusive... I have not been able to move on as I feel suspicious on everyone including myself! I feel I was responsible for destroying my family and worst I feel I am responsible for taking the father of my child out of her life. He stopped stalking, because of the claim I presented against him!Now he is acusing me of being bad mother and threatening me by text message! He and his family want to destroy me! They are trying to caught me in anything that might be able to proove I am a bad mother, which I know I am not! He never tried to really come back... he only tried to keep me confused and stuck on the blame so that I keept waiting for him... but since the very beggining I showed him I was not willing to wait for someone who had already slept with someone else... I think I really pissed him off with my courage and determination! I really touched his wounded twisted self being... didn t mean to, just wanted him to showed me that he regreted his behaviour because I did not spleep with no one else, I did fell in love with someone else but tried to be honest! He just took advantage and run away putting all the blames on me! I live alone with my daughter 400 kms away from my family!!! I dont know him anymore ... before we dated I didn t like him at all... during 3 years he tried to conquer me and I never let him... something did not feel right until the day I decide to give a chance to know him better, he love bombed, he rushed things and after 3 months I felt suffocated and asked him for time! He than showed me his perversion... stalked me, harrassed me, sent me flowers, text messages with lirics of songs and poems and started dating someone else... all of this in 2 weeks!!! I was so stupid I ran after him... thought I could not loose him because I was blind with jealous... I was 26 and fault for this sicked trick... I apologize for the long texts... I just believe in this channel people who may read are able to understand...Please let me know if you think that a hurted male ego is capable of such madness... despite my yesterday comment saying I was not feeling guilt... I think I am still feeling guilt, confused and paranoid while he is living is life with is new ferrari as he call her... 26 year old and very good shaped 😣 Thank u once more!!! Best rgds from Portugal
I just discarded my narc after he discarded me in August ( on my daughter’s birthday), after a particularly wonderful interaction. Since then, he returned from time to time to pick me higher up to drop me on my head harder. Here’s the thing though. Sometimes I would not see him for months and he rarely initiated the first contact ( I was predictable), yet if I let him know I couldn’t do this anymore, he went crazy. He also had two real gfs in the last 2 years, while making excuses as to why he couldn’t be with me. I don’t think I was a good supply. I could kiss his ass, see him, have a wonderful time, then silent treatment. Why? I knew too much. I called him out on the other women, the lies, the gaslighting, etc. He denied all of it and would put it back on me. I started becoming just as manipulative as he was just to see if I could still get him to see me. And he would make it better every time I saw him-just so it would feel more punishing when he gave me silent treatment. Yes, I discarded him but I am left feeling shattered. Why the other girls and not me on a more regular basis? This went on for 4 years. I can’t believe I know what I know and that it still hurts. I am assuming that the last girlfriend, whom I have met, was just easier to manipulate. I mean I know she was very accepting of all of the abuse because she didn’t know it was abuse. Then she left And I could see on social media that he was trying to Hoover her back in. It made me insanely jealous. But now it all makes sense. She was easier to control andAnyway-this video was great and helped a lot. Our daughters are best friends and I have to see him next week at a function and I fear he will punish me by being there with another woman. He already over communicates with his ex in my presence and pretends like he doesn’t know me. Even while her fiancé is there. This is really frustrating! I hope I stick to it this time! This is the third time I’ve tried to go no contact.
Your awesome David love your videos. Listening to you months after my discard still because your informative and sometimes funny to me but most importantly straight forward to the point.
but they love bomb the hell out of you so so good, all that ultimately for attention, but once you are like, hey, I keep giving and giving and get nothing back, they sence that ,I think that is when they start cheating on you!!! this is so mind blowing, cuz all the answers I wondered 25 years are like right in front of me, I never understood! !!
Thank You David. Congratulations!!! You look Stronger....Amazing professional back drop. May God continue to bless you and bring happiness into your life every day!
Yep - marriage didn't keep my ex-narc - a full-blown covert narc - from stalking/menacing my step-niece at her workplace to get me to contact her after I'd been No Contact for a solid month. Their ego rules them - and that's what makes them dangerous, as they'll go to *any* ends to get just what they want. You can't put *anything* past them - they're capable of *anything*. In the case with my ex-narc, her mindset is fucked up enough where she pulled that crap because she didn't want to seem "weak". Yeah - she actually thought she was preserving some sense of personal integrity by getting me to contact her, nevermind *what* means she used to do it. I (and my step-niece) learned first hand - these people are *dangerous*. Straight up.
I have tears running down my face as they I watch your video and I can barely text this message I am overwhelmed and shocked that I truly felt loved by this person only to come to find out at the end, I was just a supply, a fucking collection of his ego...WTF
Hey Ruby you are not alone we are all in it with you.
Nailed this!!! Being the best supply is not a compliment. They kick themselves for leaving and come back ANGRY at you for letting them get away if you didn't beg them back.
Spiltzville Adious Thank you!!
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Spiltzville Adious Dealt with this fool for 4 years and 4 discards Re engagements I bought a building opened two stores and he walked away when it was time to open his shop which I Bought because he had problems working for others We had a Jag and BMW the Jag which he crashed twice they are ungreatful and insatiable and miss out on all kinds of opportunities in life he was already with my replacement and still wanted to return now that I know I’ve been living a fake life I’ve gone no contact hardest waste of time ever
thats exactly what happened to me after six months the psycho texted me to tell me his truth like i give a shi. oh yes he wanted some validation and i did not give it to him the odasity of these people. and then to add insult to injury his second text to me was to make me look bad as a person and all the while he is the victim. very disgusting what a loser.
All they care about is attention.
CNXG CrazyNarcissistXGirlfriend what if he had a smear campaign about me saying he wants nothing to do with and I need to move on? Which of course I'm moving on
Veronica Ramos Just leave it the way it is and do nothing or you will look like the bad person. Give it time and then explain your side later.
CNXG CrazyNarcissistXGirlfriend well the bad thing is my cousin messaged his new girlfriend on messenger and warned her about him without my knowledge. I came to find this out by my friends that he was talking about me. So he's in a relationship but still married to me. So IDK what he's gonna do now even tho I had nothing to do with this. It's scary
Truth
CNXG CrazyNarcissistXGirlfriend Hi, David I just love you, you are so funny, love the idea about the markers keep up the fantastic work😍😉
this is so true..they want a harem.
These people are vile to the core. Just Insatiable. Help them lord.
I don't want to be the best supply. I just want a DIVORCE. GOT DANG! Every excuse in the book to prolong. Every immature ignorant act he does, I just ignore. I refuse to respond one way or the other. I PRAY he finds his "best supply", cause i don' t want to be it.
Alisa Moore I hope he does too!
I feel the same way. fuck being the best supply. I just want it over with
For 18 years I was the greatest supply.. they never change ever!!! NO CONTACT IS THE ONLY WAY! safe yourself, you deserve better. 😊❤️
i was the worst supply cause he couldn't crack me, i stayed cool and calm and happy in the abuse. he hated that
Maggie Mason I think it's preferred over a door mat but good for you!
that was passive aggressive..good for you
that was passive aggressive good for you
Same here Maggie..confused as shit lol and left the same way lol
Keep preaching it!
NO CONTACT = WIN!
No one is their best supply. You are never alone with them. A harem is there and you are replaced within 24 hours.
It took me a long time to realize I couldn't have needs as a child. Thus I didn't know my needs as as adult. I just knew I felt good. Now I know my needs. I need your videos. Thank you. Truth.
Ok, here is my story about my ex narc. I bought her a 500$ gift for her birthday. then we had a great time " online". I said goodnight, She said goodnight. the next day, I woke up and found out that She had blocked me. She blocked my WhatsApp, my Facebook, and everything that connects me to here. Guess what, for a week, She never talked to me or gave any explanation as to why she did all that shit. no fucking reason whatsoever. 10 days later, she texted me apologizing to me and how stupid she was and so on. Yeah I was stupid and forgave her, I know, big fucking mistake. I tried to understand why she did what she did, but no answer. a few weeks later, I felt like She was up to something, I knew she was going to do the same thing. I just called her and told her " I'm breaking up with you, goodluck. but she never reacted, like nothing. two weeks later, I saw her with a guy who looked 3 months pregnant, so fucking ugly with a big belly. guess what, one month later, She was pregnant. Now she is miserable, She has no job and pregnant. its unbelievable how these narcissist people fuck themselves up. They would do whatever it takes to get your attention, and once you give them attention, they just break your heart. its been 3 months NC now. She has been trying to hoover me, sending me short texts like " Hi". but I never answered and never will. DONT BELEIVE THEM, THEY WILL LOVE NO BODY. THEY DONT KNOW WHAT LOVE IS. JUST RUN AND NEVER LOOK BACK
This dude here!!! SERIOUSLY !! Gave me a whole NEW VIEW ON NPD!!! This is my first time on this channel and i'm currently 2 months and somechange complete no contact with my ex narc.. it's been HELL.. but IM HAPPIER AND DOING MUCH BETTER WITHOUT HIM.. i'm young smart beautiful and gotta little butt ... and loves me!!! And it's videos like this you gotta hear.. STRAIGHT FORWARD AND FUCKING HONEST... AND FUNNY AS SHIT TO!!! kings and queens .. keep y'alls heads up!! think positive.. NOTHING LAST FOREVER.. especially NOT THESE NARCS.. Bless They Hearts... smh
Amen, Supply Only. . I've been gone 34 days and i know know more than ever that It was always only about Supply. .
Vannessa West Thank you Vannessa.
Wow this is so true. Just an object. Huh! What a waste of space they are.
You are spot on but for a long time i did not want to except he never loved me (stupid!), i still struggle with it. My only sanctuary is listening to people like yourself, I am so angry & upset, i hung onto him for 16 years hoping he would change, what a waste of energy & time. It's still early days for me & struggling with every emotion you can have i just hope i can stay strong & get through to the other side.
yea, when my ex left me for a new supply he said: Don't take it personal!!!!! I did understand why he said that, now I know!!!! WOW
OMG, LOL, I love it!!!!wish I could do that!!!thanks that's a good one!!!!
would have been awsome!!!
Jeannette Jordan Yup, just him! Just your everyday typical piece of shit Jeannette!
I did.....and I thought I broke his nose. His new chicken came to the doorstep and said: go away or do I have to call the police? I said: don't bother, I'll do it myself! And I did call 112 and walked home. ( there was drugs on the table at her house...yep.) When I came home I cried because I had hit him (he looked so frightened like a little child). I raised 3 sons on my own and NEVER hit one of them. But....there must be a first time for everything nah? And...I don't hit children only grown men hahahaha!!
Don't take it personal? WTH? Stupid Narc
Thanks to you I’ve discovered what I was dealing with. I am wife #4 to the most evil Narc could ever exist. At age 20 he married first wife, had 2 kids with her, dumped her for new supply. Got new supply pregnant with kids #1 and at the same time, his wife pregnant with kid #3. Divorced wife with 3 kids, married new supply. All of the sudden new supply is pregnant with kid #2 and ex-wife is pregnant with kid #4. Scandale arising with 2 families. He dumped wife #1 with 4 kids, left Mexico with wife #2, to come to US, got her pregnant with kid #3, dumped her for new supply but after discard few years later got her pregnant with kid #4. Wife #3 discovered the thing dumps him. He goes back with #2 and here I arrive : supply #4. He lies about all 3 previous wives and 8 kids. Pretended that he was never married, no kids. Love bombed me, we married, had 2 kids, I worked so hard to get our own business, a beautiful house, suddenly, he brought to surface wife #2 and her 4 kids. It was hard to see his kids thorn apart. I let him join both families, the way his kids could grow around him present in their life. He made me pay their rent, provide food and clothing to them. Convinced me to let ex-wife to babysit my 2 kids. We became 2 families united 24/7, he rent for ex a house, in the same neighborhood. Just to have her around permanently. Our neighbors were confused about the situation. He promised to go back to her and kept her waiting for 13 years. I had discovered that he was cheating on me with her permanently. Tired of waiting for him, she left to Mexico, leaving her kids behind. The youngest stayed with me for 5 years. By the time I was raising her, he would travel to Mexico alone, go on a date with #2. His financial bad decisions got us to a foreclosure and when we were homeless with 3 kids in the street and in the toughest times ever, he dumped me with my 2 kids and his own daughter to start a new life with supply #5 who happened to be my housekeeper a married woman with 5 kids. Her husband was heartbroken, my kids were devastated, my stepdaughter left behind again and again was terribly affected. I reached out to the new supply, she refused to understand and became evil. She doesn’t let him visit or see my kids. He is in my lease for new apartment cause my credit got screwed after foreclosure, he got a key from manager and here trough phases of hovering, He pops out at 1:00 am, 3:00 am or 4:00 am in my room, trying to cheat on new supply with me. I had to pretend to have filmed him during visits and threatened to give evidences to new supply, to have him stop his visits in the middle of the night. He is promising to dump new supply and come back. Thanks to all these videos I know now what I am dealing with and despite the fact that he is the only man in my life. I will never ever take him back. The harm I suffered is impossible to describe. I am chattered beyond imagination and I’m trying hard to get back on my feet. Thanks for taking time to read this messed up story but that’s how the Narcs mind is. Broken vows and broken families.
OMG what have you been through! :( When I read these stories about women, it's just such a big shock. I really really hope you never ever let that person near you. best to even move somewhere else. to another state. that's what many people with such messed up person in their lives do. Gosh... all those kids :'( How is it a crime when someone slaps you, but it's not a crime when someone sucks the life out of all these families and leaves all these innocent people behind and they just get by!! you can't go to anyone and say hey we have a vampire here! please keep it out of the society! thank you so much for sharing your story. There are some videos on how to work on yourself to avoid these people and not attract other narcs too. A very big thing in you probably is that you are very kind and empathetic. Narcs spot that and take advantage of it. I know that because I am also like that. If you haven't tried those methods already, which I'm sure you have, please do. they are great ways to save yourself and get back on your feet. keep posting, share your experience, there are many kind people out there that are willing to help you, I'm sure about that.
Damn
Wow. I'm sorry. So sorry.
MsLovelylana damn that sounds like a soap opera...Victor Newman....but worse
You poor thing. It’s a year later and I sincerely hope you are getting back on your feet. It takes time but thank god you will never return to this sicko.
A red flag for me is when you are out in public and they start talking real loud about something that makes them seem important like barking orders on their cell phone or how great they are. It's weird and makes you feel uncomfortable.
I discarded him after he discarded me 10 times. He will never get a chance ever again i will not allow it. His ass will be wasting his time trust me he treated me like trash at a waste site, he's hoovering hard I'm not falling for it, I know its a trap to suck me in and discard me he will never succeed I'm on top of his mastery to attempt to try, its funny because he's wasting time and energy that he needs poor thing.
I wish to have an ability to recognize them immediatelly. I found out that great helper can be a tabloid media - VIPs and their relationships, how they talk and how they behave. Who behave as a bigger victim, who found a new partner faster, who acts like a sensitive person but behave like the opposite was true and so on... :D
My ex too
Shar Hughes yep. The harder you say NO the more they want ya. Don’t give in.
I don't know how good I was, but I:
1. Taught her daughter how to walk and eat.
2. Paid for her daughter's daycare.
3. Made her car payment.
4. Paid her medical bill.
5. Paid her last tuition payment and celebrated her graduating.
6. Paid her lawyer fee against an ex.
7. Bought her plenty of gifts and meals.
8. Gave up 2 jobs for her.
9. Offered to sell my house for her.
10. Offered to propose to her.
11. Took out a loan to help her with finances.
All in all I gave more love, support, and attention to her than any girl before her and spent roughly $6,000+ since February 2019 and she discarded me 3 days ago. She wanted to be friends because she said she felt safe contacting me in case anything happens, but I said no. The last thing I told her was, "you know what you're losing. Don't ever contact me no matter what happens." I blocked her on all social media and I blocked her number. Unfortunately, she still has the key to my house. I doubt she'll ever contact me or show up at my place. I think about her a little, but I'm surprisingly happier and excited about moving on. I've recently gotten serious about working out and working my 2 jobs in the medical field. I hope she doesn't try to contact me again.
This is true! I always wondered why my ex narc was friends with his ex's on fb it was like his little sick collection . He fooled me twice never again. No contact for a yr. Now and for the rest of my life!
So true , looks don't matter to them and normally this would be a good attribute ,but not these mofos, it's all about the attention they can get and the abuse you withstand 🤮🤮🤮
I have probably been the best boyfriend my narc had in ages, with copious amounts of attention given ( of course not enough....), but considerig the amount of punishment i have received I must have been a lackluster supply. As fucked up as I am after my sick little rollercoaster ride, having put up a fight without even realizing the game makes me at least a tiny bit proud.... Thank you so much for your videos, a tremendous help for overcoming those sick fucks
she had me to the point of suicide by cops..perfect set up. Was my third time going back in 15 years.
I am still battling in court, these videos are pin point ACCURATE!
thank you very much for helping me understand why I am so freaking tired and F'CKED up !
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David, you are the bomb!! You don't sugar coat it. You are blunt and to the point. I truly appreciate your candour, forthrightness, and honesty. You lovingly bash me over the head until it sinks in! LOL I needed that! Thanks again for your many videos which have helped me tremendously!! The best on UA-cam, my friend! Keep up the good work!!
You’re awesome. “ They’ll cheat on you with an ugly person.” Made me laugh for the first time in a week.
If you don't believe David, mine just tried to hoover on a public Facebook page almost two years after discard/no contact saying he loved me even though he still had me blocked on Facebook. I stayed no contact, didn't answer and guess what? He deleted the comment!! So much for loving me...😂😂😂
Grabbing The Starfish Lol! Good job for staying no contact!
Haha that's hilarious. Good for you. What a dork!
Grabbing The Starfish Thank you!
With Love right?!?! Like it's sad I was proved right to not respond but sure enough the true colors showed through!
Angela Speer SUPER dork...
So true! They will take on anyone new just for the attention. That's how pathetic they truly are.
I was shocked, repulsed, and confused when I saw who he had been getting his attention from. It really showed me who he really was.
I left my narc mid last year for good. I really got my peace back and am so much happier now. And whaala!!! he e-mailed greeting me Merry Christmas and even asking me to be his best friend. These sicko’s are relentless!! No boundaries whatsoever. Unbelievable.
I was so creeped out, I closed and deleted my e-mail account.
You are awesome beyond words, thank you. Between you, reading, BPD family, Shari Schrieber and some close friends and family, I got out of the unhealthy cycle.
Agree. I taken him back. He left again. I am no contact. You help me close the door on toxic relationship. ❤
One of my exes invited me round for sunday lunch, and all of her ex boyfriends were there...
Please discuss when a Narc leaves you for "The greatest new person in the world" and then tries to cheat with you (after a brutal discard) Is this normal (For them) I am finally able to get mad. Oddly enough months ago I prayed this would happen. Now I cringe thinking about that.Narc accused me of insane things (because the new woman "helped him" figure out what I was. Laughable. She's literally half his age and she's got life all figured out. My jealousy and hatred for her has turned to pity. I see how quickly the "greatest love of all" turns to shit for them. I also now see that our own "epic love story" was equal bullshit. If I'd not called him out on seeing her in the first place...He'd happily stayed with me just having all of us. So..It's disgusting. I deflected his bullshit and he literally went into a narc rage. WTF. It's like none of his accusations had ever happened. As if he didn't totally insult me beyond recognition in divorce settlement. He haggled via text while on phone with attorney. That's a COWARD.
He apologized for "thinking the worst of me ALL THE TIME" which is NO apology at all really~Just a narcy way of calling me a bitch again. The reidealization and devaulation is just what people say it is.A CYCLE. Jump off while you can. I did NOT understand that before. I was looking up stupid shit like "will the narc come back to me" So pathetic. The answer is YES. There is no victory in it if you've seen how quickly they cycle once their mask has slipped. I am mainly in a new form of shock...How did I not see this when I was deep in it. I swore I'd never been discarded but I had been. It was just sneakier. When he was done (for the time being) he was DONE. Still laughable. I've heard it's over when we say it is. Truer words never spoken. Just wow.
You are so funny! Thank you for putting humor and laughs on such a dark horrible subject. Thank you. :-D
Natalie Sampson Thank you Natalie!
3 months after the discard she contacted me and told me that she missed the good times we had and that we had a great relationship and that i was a huge impact on her.. this is very confusing because she was with another guy within a week of leaving me. i guess i was a good source of narcissistic supply. i have not heard from her since.
Patrick Pepin Bro my ex Narc said the exact same thing I miss you BS it’s been 4 months after she discarded me & last week she flip the script on some let it be we are not together. Wtf she’s coming at me & I told her that she’s reaching out to me right then I knew she’s has gotten worse. So I blocked her number & on social media they are sick toxic individuals stay in no contact bro. She lies to much. I can’t even front I believe she has her family slick hoover me like flying monkeys. So my best advice to you & everyone pray to God for protection from all evil & stay in no contact that’s my solution. Oh yeah my Narc even admitted to me that I really took care of them I was a great supply but that’s not worth shit!
And the pathetic thing is these psychopath narcissist chicks be in another full blown relationship with another dude hoovering and stalking their ex.at the same time.
She will be back. And she will do it again if you allow her to.
Patrick Pepin run dude.
I was texted this shit many times
I appreciate you helping me to understand these Devils! Well done Sir.
One year. Today
Been a hell of a road but .God saved me amen
I made a video diary and sent her the episode in which I discuss stupidity and arrogance: asking for more when I have documented evidence of grand larceny. Hasn’t bothered me since.
I was considered the best supply, not proud of it at all. This makes perfect sense why they try to come back. They do not care, all they care about is supply.
Dave if only you knew how fucking much your videos are helping me bro
I'm in the early stages of discard and she disappeared 40 days ago and I was hurting bad man
But your videos have helped me out a ton
Thank you
This has really helped. Thank you. It makes me feel like the fucked up one hoping I was the best supply for this crazy bas**d. Why would I feel this is a good thing ? I feel like I move forward loads from these videos and then watch another which proves I definitely have a long way to go.
Sarah Powell It took you a long time to get here Sarah but recognize your accomplishments and celebrate your success because it does come.
wow David it's a good video again ! it really helps me I'm so happy with myself for going no contact for 10 weeks to the discuting narc he will never have me again it's hes loss I'm gonna meet a great guy in the future healing myself now .😋
Sara Cotgrave You did a good thing for yourself!
thanks David , i hope you are happy now you deserve it x
Sara Cotgrave Thank you Sara, I am very happy. Lose these people and discover and uncover your childhood and you will find your answers. You will be just fine but never give up on yourself or be too hard on yourself.
They love to yell at you when they have you corned or trapped on a car with them. That's when they get you upset. They want you back amd they'll make the punishment worst the next time. They just amp up the game to hurt.
I’m so sorry for the experience you went thru, but you have POWER to help us, thousands of people who are in the dark and despair. We are so much higher and better than this...These narcs are pathetic. We can make it, thanks for everything, David
Yep. He tried to demote me to secondary supply. He's a collector. Most of his exes are still in the harem. Not this bitch, I'm outta there.
“Sick nasty disgusting mother fuckers” 😂😂 love your straight forward personality and your channel. 👍🏾👍🏾
Damn this TRUTH HURTS 😢
Knowing all that I know now, and after the abuse n disrespect, I feel so sorry for her, the fact that she's doomed to repeat this cycle over n over till, God knows. When... Thanks for all the insight. If she were to ever try n come back, She would have to play by my rules.FU part is knowing I'd still play.
There’s NO DOUBT
Preach brother!
LISTEN PEOPLE-
This is 💯
you are like talking to somebody I know...refreshing but painfully real
If they want you back....ur still a fool to them really...that’s all...ur soooo right
I'm so happy I found your videos ... you are helping me so much. Thank you 👍🏻💕👍🏻
Maggie P. Hello Maggie! Welcome to the channel, thank you so much and please ask me anything.
I was terrible supply,
did the exact opposite of what he expected repeatedly. Never hovered me because I have proof of some unsavory things he would hate to get out.
I was the best supply & told her she’d go back to her normal scummy choices to which she hung up on me 😂 (never could handle the truth!) I’m positive that’s where she’s at.
Man, you are amazing 😊 I owe you a lot since you really helped me to discover the toxic relationship I was in before it gets too serious 🙏
You are brilliant.!! thank you so much. I’ve just seen the light after 30 years of marriage, everything you said is so true, being devalued being used and made to feel unworthy. dedicated my life to him, so now i’m quietly getting my ducks in a row and I’m leaving 👍
He told our sons he will not stop trying to hurt me until I die .truth is he has just about pushed me right over the edge
I'm no contact for only 5 days now, we were together just 4 months but it was so intense in and out of the bedroom. He never verbally or physically abused me, however this is his 3rd silent treatment.. And on this very day we had just spent an amazing morning together and he actually begged me to spend the day with him, I couldn't cause I had other obligations.. Then a few hours later that same night.. He ignored all my text.. Only saw a few.. And said.. I'm home resting and no I can't respond to your messages!! The other texts weren't even seen.. So im done, even tho I'm hurting, but it's just a sick vicious cycle and I wanna get off! He does have a blank stare at times, and looks kinda creepy..
Thank you so much for all your valuable input!! Its exactly what I need right now🙏🏼
You are so right this is exactly how my narcissist was and I am so glad he's gone
Tough words. Very tough. Needed. Very much needed.
Correct. He has a tendency to reach back. So, sad I had to deal with this bullshit. I just take a deep breath and keep it moving.
#attentionseekers
As a lover of a good writing utensil, I could relate to the marker metaphor! THATS by far, the most accurate and simplistic metaphor for a narcs approach to “relationships”.
You nailed brother... sick nasty disgusting mfrs... I mean nasty they will do anything to keep from taking responsibility
So true @7:20 they want all the supply from all their former victims
I haven't been attracted to him in years and it's not because he isn't attractive on the outside but it's because I've seen way too much of who he really is on the inside. I always genuinely feel empathy for the next girl.
This was really good David!!!
yarnaholic1963 Thank you!
that helped so much. having a little set back from dwelling on the new supply. this is a once in a blue blood moon message. keep teaching us. thank you
3D Me Thank you, keep learning!
You are Georges!!! Spot on!!!
Give us more!
שושי סקירה Thank you!
Omg!! My narc did this. He came back from Europe after going ghost for almost a month. He gets me to agree to be his girlfriend again by phone, courted me, made a date only to ditch me saying “don’t you know when a guy doesn’t want you anymore” and to “fuck off.”
This was a great, refreshing, "tell it to me, baby" video! You actually had me laughing aloud at different parts because you are so authentic in telling it how it is. I shared one of your videos thus far, and this one will be shared with the same person. When she thanked me for the first one, her comment was: "I loved it! That guy cracked me up how he spoke in such a real way ... and not tons of psycho babble." Those of us whohave been into self improvement during our adult lives and over "therapied", have heard over and over again all the psychological terms and get it. What we haven't heard is someone giving us their human experiences in both a validating and, as Cher said, "Snap out of it" way! It's the best "Ahhhhh" feeling to hear you tell it straight and, like we were close friends having a beer at the Cheers bar... and without any of the "Ouch"! 😁 Thank u! Keep 'em coming!
Karen Kessler Pederson Fantastic, thank you Karen! Your support will keep me going!
Great Video
I reached the same conclusion after the end of my relationship. The one thing my ex cared the most always seems to be the attention from other men(or women). However there seems to be a difference on her behavior based on the "qualify" of the attention she was getting.
If the attention she claimed she was getting was from good looking, high class male or female, she will be very happy. But if it's from someone who she claimed to be bad looking, losers, weird people, then she will actually get mad(instead of just unhappy), "how dare he stare at me this way, who does he think he is!!!??? Freaks, weirdo!"
Almost every time we went out, she will tell me some other dude/girl was checking her out, i didn't really think about this behavior too much till the end of the relationship.
One interesting thing happened was right before the discarding stage. She went to a gathering with the POSOM(piece of s**t other man), at that time i didn't know they were having an affair. And there was another dude there keep talking with the POSOM, and according to her he was basically ignoring her. She came back and was really really angry, and can't stop talking smack about that guy, "that guy is so full of himself, who the hell he think he is!"
Crazy crazy people in our lives....
blahduh Definitely, thank you for sharing!
You're hilarious~~thank you for the laugh and the wisdom!
Amazing! This is so true!!! Your straight to the point attitude is everything! Thank you. These videos are healing!
You're really great....love your stuff. Straight and on point ☺
Jen A. Wren Thank you Jen.
thanks for being so real.
Wow why didn't my mom tell me about these type of ppl.
I love you. You have helped me so much break free from the loser I have wasted years on. Bless YOU!
WOW
THANKS I NEEDED THAT!!!!!!
"Sick, Nasty, MF's."...HaHaha
🤣🤣🤣🤣that part🤣🤣🤣
I absolutely love this....and your videos. Thank you so much !!! Wow !!!
Deanna Lemaster Thank you Deanna!
I absolutely love your videos. So brutally honest. People need to know this.
Excellent! David you are awesome! I needed that.
Jen Dowd Thank you Jen!
My Narc absolutley needed what i was strong,independent ,fair and understanding,i quickly learned thru my divorce that all the raging he was doing thru our lawyers was about attention and control,,even my lawyer said "can't fix cookoo" cost me thousands of $$$ to get it all done. His new supply( he cheated ) has no bountries and is well known for having no integrity at all,, ,,he got what he wanted the house ( i sold him my share) the pets and my teenage son living with him,processions for him,,, but i kept the best parts ,, my sanity ,,my freedom,,my son comes to me and vents about his dads stingy entitled ways,,,at least my son has a lighthouse in the storm,, can't put a price on those .My son has seen his mom ( me) being extremely ill and then recover from a liver transplant ,and a nasty divorce all while his father left him and me to fend for ourselfs,,which i did along with the amazing support from my family and friends who loved and supported me thru the darkest days of my life,,,,,i have seen the Narc 2 times in last 8 months but never face to face only a quick side view,,i swear my angels have protected me from him i have to admit i will be a bit nervous if i ever meet him eye to eye,,which i will avoid at all cost ,,,he hurt me so bad,i feel i would be looking at a devil ,,,but so far so good,,,I have moved on a great deal ,,,I am still in the process of putting the period at the end of this chapter in my life,,,thank you David for sharing it has helped me a great deal ,, knowing we are not alone or crazy LOL
cathy B Thank you for sharing Cathy!
cathy B i have said the same thing. The last time I saw him I loved him with everything I had, but if I saw him today it would scare me because I would look into those eyes and only see evil.
I was thinking the new supply the narc got married with after a few months nc is going to have to step it up. Because I think was a good supply never giving up on him, praising him (even when I didn't want to). Which is not a good thing btw. He didn't want to marry me but was surprised when I said peacefully'' ok we're done and that means no contact.'' He lied to get me back and THEN discarded me short after. Also he was NEVER alone, always needing to be around people (job long hours, activities, charities, playing taxi driver etc) when he was just after supply!! Thanks David.
I love it lol.....you keeps it real and blunt......
But yes i was the greatest supply ......
Ahhh I love your describing them cracks me the fuck up boom thank you great video hon
Learn, grow Sing Thank you so much!
CNXG CrazyNarcissistXGirlfriend you are awesome
Attention from anyone nasty
I divorced my narc 2 years ago and he is still working fervently to show me I made a mistake lol. He’s even remarried and moved the girl into our old aptmt building. And yet emailed me that I am the best ‘woman’ aka supply that he’s ever had and he’ll drop her right now. No way in hell!! I’m so glad to be free. Obviously I was his best supply. Tough! And no I’m not flattered.
The amount of time they spend with you, such as the narc spent more time with me than any of his other tramps, maybe I was the best supply, your right, who knows? But now, I am out of that disgusting harem, his main supply is discarded, by ME.
Thank you for your videos. I am free from the narc for 1 year... no contact taken seriously from august this year when he came to apologize to me saying all I wanted to hear, asking to be friends for the sake of our daughter! He even devalued his new suplly, and also his parents... I would like you to make a video on victims that truly made something to be guilt about... I was discarded because I confessed being emotionally involved with someone else... I was sincere, said we should think about our relationship and we both needed some time ... we were going through a crises in the relationship... 1 week later he grabed ALL his stuff including wine bottles and went to his parents... than the nightmare began...he told everyone I had cheated on him, a very amplified version of the truth, of course... EVERYONE... and 1 week later he was sleeping with a 10 year younger girl who worked with him... he just vanished from our lives... just asked me to split the moneys ... that all was my fault and he was done with me! Smear campaing, harrassment, spying, stalking ... he did it all while he was already with someone else... for months! He is still with her and still an absent father! He left in dec 2016 and in May he did a scandal in my building with his parents insulting me yelling and screaming! I presented a claim to the authorities... I believe he will be presented to court! I lost weight, concentration, friends but I manage to keep my daughter with me, I keept my house, my job... June this year I didn t knew how to manage the guilt and the obsession on him! I went to the psicologist... I made a resume of our 10 year relationship and of the ending of the relationship... I showed some of the text messages I was receiving ... That was when I first heard about narcisism ... perverse narcisism... I do not feel any guilt anymore... I was being devalued, non appreciated... someone in my life appeared to show me that I was a wonderfull person... I now believe the universe wanted to show me that this was not an healthly relationship because I would never ever imagine where I was and the monster with whom I was sleeping every night ! I am getting stronger... still think about it... feeling lost sometimes... feeling sad... mostky for my daughter... but... focused on healing! All the videos help a lot! I wish all the best for all of us...
S P Thank you for your kindness, I'm so glad your out of this.
CNXG CrazyNarcissistXGirlfriend Thank you for your feedback! Today is the 1st aniversary of the day everything changed... the day I confessed about having feelings for someone else... I feel ashamed for this... feel some guilt because I was the one who actually pulled the thriger... sometimes I wonder if I am the narcisist... sometimes I wonder if I was abusive... I have not been able to move on as I feel suspicious on everyone including myself! I feel I was responsible for destroying my family and worst I feel I am responsible for taking the father of my child out of her life. He stopped stalking, because of the claim I presented against him!Now he is acusing me of being bad mother and threatening me by text message! He and his family want to destroy me! They are trying to caught me in anything that might be able to proove I am a bad mother, which I know I am not! He never tried to really come back... he only tried to keep me confused and stuck on the blame so that I keept waiting for him... but since the very beggining I showed him I was not willing to wait for someone who had already slept with someone else... I think I really pissed him off with my courage and determination! I really touched his wounded twisted self being... didn t mean to, just wanted him to showed me that he regreted his behaviour because I did not spleep with no one else, I did fell in love with someone else but tried to be honest! He just took advantage and run away putting all the blames on me! I live alone with my daughter 400 kms away from my family!!! I dont know him anymore ... before we dated I didn t like him at all... during 3 years he tried to conquer me and I never let him... something did not feel right until the day I decide to give a chance to know him better, he love bombed, he rushed things and after 3 months I felt suffocated and asked him for time! He than showed me his perversion... stalked me, harrassed me, sent me flowers, text messages with lirics of songs and poems and started dating someone else... all of this in 2 weeks!!! I was so stupid I ran after him... thought I could not loose him because I was blind with jealous... I was 26 and fault for this sicked trick... I apologize for the long texts... I just believe in this channel people who may read are able to understand...Please let me know if you think that a hurted male ego is capable of such madness... despite my yesterday comment saying I was not feeling guilt... I think I am still feeling guilt, confused and paranoid while he is living is life with is new ferrari as he call her... 26 year old and very good shaped 😣 Thank u once more!!! Best rgds from Portugal
S P You are beautiful! Thank you so much and you keep going. Thank you for sharing!
I can feel my brain swelling if I fall into the unintentional recollection of past events.
I just discarded my narc after he discarded me in August ( on my daughter’s birthday), after a particularly wonderful interaction. Since then, he returned from time to time to pick me higher up to drop me on my head harder. Here’s the thing though. Sometimes I would not see him for months and he rarely initiated the first contact ( I was predictable), yet if I let him know I couldn’t do this anymore, he went crazy. He also had two real gfs in the last 2 years, while making excuses as to why he couldn’t be with me. I don’t think I was a good supply. I could kiss his ass, see him, have a wonderful time, then silent treatment. Why? I knew too much. I called him out on the other women, the lies, the gaslighting, etc. He denied all of it and would put it back on me. I started becoming just as manipulative as he was just to see if I could still get him to see me. And he would make it better every time I saw him-just so it would feel more punishing when he gave me silent treatment. Yes, I discarded him but I am left feeling shattered. Why the other girls and not me on a more regular basis? This went on for 4 years. I can’t believe I know what I know and that it still hurts. I am assuming that the last girlfriend, whom I have met, was just easier to manipulate. I mean I know she was very accepting of all of the abuse because she didn’t know it was abuse. Then she left And I could see on social media that he was trying to Hoover her back in. It made me insanely jealous. But now it all makes sense. She was easier to control andAnyway-this video was great and helped a lot. Our daughters are best friends and I have to see him next week at a function and I fear he will punish me by being there with another woman. He already over communicates with his ex in my presence and pretends like he doesn’t know me. Even while her fiancé is there. This is really frustrating! I hope I stick to it this time! This is the third time I’ve tried to go no contact.
Your awesome David love your videos. Listening to you months after my discard still because your informative and sometimes funny to me but most importantly straight forward to the point.
Thanks David l love listening to your stories and words xx
Michelle Obrien Thank you Michelle!
but they love bomb the hell out of you so so good, all that ultimately for attention, but once you are like, hey, I keep giving and giving and get nothing back, they sence that ,I think that is when they start cheating on you!!! this is so mind blowing, cuz all the answers I wondered 25 years are like right in front of me, I never understood! !!
Jeannette Jordan Yes they do, now you know what to watch for!
You explain it really good!
I searched help...
You're great!! Thank you for your videos
Thank You David. Congratulations!!! You look Stronger....Amazing professional back drop. May God continue to bless you and bring happiness into your life every day!
Yep - marriage didn't keep my ex-narc - a full-blown covert narc - from stalking/menacing my step-niece at her workplace to get me to contact her after I'd been No Contact for a solid month.
Their ego rules them - and that's what makes them dangerous, as they'll go to *any* ends to get just what they want. You can't put *anything* past them - they're capable of *anything*.
In the case with my ex-narc, her mindset is fucked up enough where she pulled that crap because she didn't want to seem "weak". Yeah - she actually thought she was preserving some sense of personal integrity by getting me to contact her, nevermind *what* means she used to do it.
I (and my step-niece) learned first hand - these people are *dangerous*. Straight up.
SwingMan1938 They're dangerous to individuals and society as a whole.