This is true for me as well. I have big trust issues now, growing up with a covert and overt narcissist as parents, a husband as one, and now a daughter. I too love the right coast, and when I was living there recently, I enjoyed being away from the narcissists. I am planning to return to live there very soon (Arlington VA)
Same here but I find it helpful... I used to trust too much and I got with a narcissist and a sociopath.. I needed to pass through all this to learn to don't trust and set more boundaries in my life. It been very hard but I guess this narcissist and sociopaths past through really bad things to be this way and cold as ice... Life isn't easy when we trust and are emphatic..
Great list but you forgot the lecturing that they do, their conversations are mainly one sided, they interrupt if you talk and of course they never agree with anything you say.
Omg yes. Lol. And they say they know you and they really don't lol. And I do get the lecture. I learned to let him talk. He's my ex. And sadly I'm living with him. And his family. His parents are fine with me here. He was opening up. I'm thinking he wanted to hear I felt the same. He got pissed off and said you don't give a fuck. And left the room. Before that I was talking about something with his mother and started to talk as I was talking and I laughingly said that I was talking. So we end up going to go smoke a cigarette and he got snippy with me. And said I gave him an attitude and he felt embarrassed by the way I spoke to him. But I didn't have an attitude. So until I get my shit together. I'm going to just let him talk. He doesn't know me like he claims. And I will laugh at his face before arguing with him. Which he has been trying to do. Bait and switch. I know about this. I've done extensive research on this. The best thing you can do is be as positive as you can. Because they want you to yell and scream and get mad. That way they can try to justify their behavior and what they say to the people around. I will never in my life ever take him back. I would be voiceless. Everything I say or do will be wrong. No don't think so. And once I get my own apartment. I'm going to have to phase him out. And make sure to have evidence.
@@darkpisces8125 I hope you have left. Dont waste your valuable life with a man like this, he will drawn you in his negativity and bad treatment of you.
Sounds like my step-dad always talks as if he is yelling or disagreeing and he will leave the room if you start talking about something that doesn't interest him.
My narcissistic father was also physically abusive. He made me the scapegoat, lied and manipulated my family until he could beat me for no reason in front of them, and they would believe I deserved it. He lied to my doctors and teachers about me, so that even when I tried to get help, they thought I was lying to get him in trouble. I felt so helpless. No one ever believed me. Even some friends I told. They didn't understand because how could they? It's hard to imagine when you've never been there. A couple even turned on ME after I let them in. It really messed with my perspective on life... Now in my 30s and trying to become whole. Thank you for your videos, they are very helpful, because they give me validation. Which is something I never had.
Oh my goodness! My sister did this to me when I was younger. She had my entire family, her friends and my “friends” all turn against me. It was so DEPRESSING!! I felt so ALONE and it wasn’t until years later they I heard someone on television say the words, “If GOD be for me, who dare be against me.” Those words changed my outlook on life and relationships. Not to sound “holy moly”, but I then knew that GOD had my back and He would protect me. The only ONE I needed to believe my side was GOD and whoever didn’t want to believe my side would eventually experience their own repercussions. My sister found the need to physically and mentally abuse me for so many years [an absolute bully], but I just remain focused that I am just grateful that I had made it out alive from all of her different forms of abuse. People/monsters like her really are narcissists and are a little too clever with how they can get into someone’s heads. ....There’s nothing cute about that. There are many children who think that if they could just end their lives it would be the answer and it really is NOT the answer. That’s what the enemy’s goal is. The enemy uses specific monsters that are in this world to “break us” and to pray for those young souls who didn’t know this is so important to me. GOD continue to bless, protect and guide you [in each area of your life]. I appreciate you sharing what you did here. Stay blessed.. because you truly are blessed!!
I was in a situation with a narcissist. They do apologize just to try and get more mileage out of me. It was just part of the game. The praise was just blowing smoke up my skirt, for more mileage.
They really don't care who they hurt and will never apologize. Yes they project.....absolutely no accountability. It is ALL JUST FAKE. I got so discussed with that woman who calls herself a MOTHER. She is so cold and self absorbed. Absolutely no love. It is all about the pretense. The only thing she cares about is money and prestige. Nothing else.
My narcs realized, much to their detriment, that I was not as naive as they thought I was, and by the time they realized it, it was much too late because they had already exposed themselves for what they really are.
While in grad school, I fell in love with a narc. I was battling major depression while trying to survive school and work. At the start of our friendship, she was there for me -- extremely helpful and caring (love bombing stage). However, there were times when I sensed "something was off." She had a short fuse and didn't like it when I spoke to other friends or acquaintances. Soon, things grew toxic.. she accused me of being judgmental and made her feel inadequate. I began to question myself -- how could someone so kind, hate me? I must be a bad person?! (gaslighting stage) But, in reality, it was her projecting her feelings onto me. We're no longer friends, but I miss her almost everyday with intensity. I hate that I do. I guess it's a good thing that she walked away, because I'm still weak.
the narc i encountered saw my empathic nature. he failed to take into account the fact that i was too intelligent to be taken in. it didn't take me very long at all to have his number. he dropped me and turned tail. not all empaths are stupid.
i don't know how much more vulnerable i could have been because i was a new widow. still bleeding. i had a sense that something about him wasn't right. he banked on me falling victim to him. i think that's one way he met women. came to their "aid" when they were down. it didn't work with me. it wasn't my IQ but intuition that saved me.
The same thing just happened to me. Got discarded about 3 mo. ago. Although, video and other sites have been very helpful in healing from this nightmare. Like you, their narc. behavior stood out. Wish you peace and happiness. Thanks for sharing. Many blessings to you.
Thank you beautiful soul this is actually true. Their energy vampires and will make you physically ill. Empaths attract narcissist and we need to protect ourselves. We need to leave them, send them off with love and light and move on with our lives and forgive them. Take care and love and light to everyone.
Thank you! I am so sorry you were in a relationship with a narcissist. The trauma bond is very strong with these individuals, which is why it is so hard to end a relationship with them.
Very well explained. I now understand that I was in a toxic relationship with a Covert Narcissist. I never felt that what I was doing was good enough and never was supported with making our house a home. What you have explained has helped me a great deal in terms of recognising my own flaws and those of my ex and how devastating our relationship was to ourselves and my poor innocent daughter. I have been made out to be the bad guy and no longer have contact with my daughter as she believes I must be the Narc. I just hope that I will one day be able to say that I am sorry and ask for my daughter's forgiveness. I have been on a journey of self discovery and have not entirely enjoyed what I found. My next journey will be to inform others of maintaining positivity and learning from these events and taking the responsibility on nurturing souls instead of damaging them. Some of us have to have scars to learn a lesson.
Thanks, good talk. This disorder is much more common than I ever realized.I am a loner, enjoy being alone so that insulates me somewhat.But I do enjoy others so I have to be more vigilant than ever who I start doing things with.
Around 8 minutes into this I just gasped because I am the "empathetic, kind" type who just got out of a 6 year abusive professional relationship with someone I now believe is a total narcissist. I realize after watching I made the right decision to get out of another contract w/ this individual, even if it means I lose money. Truly, thank you for this.
Narcs are among those scumbags that ought to be blown off the map. Every trait you have described about narcs are the reason. Especially, by my own life experience in dealing with narcs. Thank you. Keep them videos coming. I look forward to coming across more along the way.
It's incredible how much my daaady hits about 27 points or so of that list, but at the same time is a 2-3 on 5 scale sort of speak. He is not only a mean monster in life, but corresponds clearely to much of that and more! Helpful videos! :P
Absolutely spot on. I can relate to everything you said. I lived with this for almost twenty years. It wasn't until we divorced and I learnt about narcissism that everything made sense.
My work colleague hits 29 of 30 right on the button. I thought there was something wrong with me with my anxiety and general low self esteem, Thank you for this video, it has opened my eyes, i'm just a victim of a toxic relationship.
Ray Gamma find another job... I was dealing with this shit for a long time. Once you move on the NARC is drained of power. I promise your life will change if you leave. I lost the stress and then lost a ton of weight. Good luck. Never felt better
I've started to just realized a lot of the traits you describes here really reminds me of myself and my attitude. I've heard of NPD for years but never would consider or admit myself to be narcissistic even now I'm not sure if I have NPD. I've seen a psychiatrist but he only diagnosed me with Dysthymia.
If you can relate to a lot of the traits, then it might be that you are on the narcissistic spectrum. NPD is when you have more than 5 traits of those listed in the DSM: (1) has a grandiose sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements) (2) is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love (3) believes that he or she is "special" and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions) (4) requires excessive admiration (5) has a sense of entitlement, i.e., unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations (6) is interpersonally exploitative, i.e., takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends (7) lacks empathy: is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others (8) is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him or her (9) shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes
My mother in-law is a narcissistic, pathological lying, egomaniacal, self aggrandizing, storyteller! She hates women, competes with me, my daughters, her teenage girls. She drove a school bus, lives in a trailer park, has never been out of the state she was born in. 54yrs old and never been on a plane. Now on disability. Mental disability. My husband left home at 13. His younger siblings are socially awkward and two are obese. While his mother is obsessed with her weight! But is fine with her kids being unhealthy. I can not respect someone so selfish! Another great video! Thank you so much, Paula 😊
I’m just beginning to learn about the Narcs, but I’m so glad that people like you that is helping people like me dealing with my Partner who is a covert Narc. Thank you for more information
The love bomb/gaslight/discard cycle is so predictable it is unreal. I read everyone’s testimonials here and am amazed at how close it is to my experience. The love bombing phase ended with a gradual, imperceptible at the time switch to gaslighting, beginning with subtle insults toward myself and my family, always followed by a friendly giggle and “just kidding.” Then she.began hinting that our relationship was in trouble because her family did not approve of me, despite the fact that they have never been anything but nice to me. That is another narcissistic trait I would add, they love to hide behind their own family, especially children, which is really sad. It became more and more frustrating until I finally had enough and expressed my feelings. This was of course turned back on me, to make me feel guilty for standing up for myself. The next three months were sheer emotional torture, withholding of affection, snide insults, and amazing projection. Tried to tell me I need counseling for this that and the other thing, that my family was making me look bad, and that she was telling me all this only because she “cares.” Yeah, cares about spreading her misery. Funniest part is that she actually referred to videos like this and portrayed herself as a “people pleaser” in past relationships, just unreal. The only relief from it was when I finally figured out her game and walked away. She would still be taking her little shots at me and tearing me down if I hadn’t realized what was happening. The only way to deal with these people in your life is to cut them out of it, like removing a cancer from your body.
My brother is a narcissist.. once o got older an started calling him out his ego couldn’t handle it.. we rarely speak ever cause he knows I can see threw him.. like catching on to a bs artist.. once you expose them they will avoid you
That’s exactly how my son is and my ex who refuses to leave my life. With my son I feel anxious and drained when he’s around me. . When he’s at work or at school people say that he’s so kind and loving and helpful. But they don’t see this side of him when he’s at home . he calls me names tells me I’m stupid tell me I don’t know anything and he always has to be right and I’m always wrong and sometimes he tries to act like he’s my dad.
Thank you for your videos I have no one to believe me or help me, i nd to get away, but he keeps stopping me with the torture n abuse n devastation. Thank you
Kim Jbj I truly hope you have gotten out of that relationship by now. It sounded like your life was in danger. I hope you called the police on him. Be strong!
My ex wife is narcissistic I still have nerve and depression problems. Shell shock is what a doctor called it. Post traumatic stress disorder sounds soft and not as serious of a problem. I'm glad people are addressing this here. I hope it helps a lot of people.
The remorseful with the impact they have on other, the do not care. This one people have to be careful with spotting. They will be upset to be caught out or shown for who / what they are, do not confuse with remorse for the pain they caused the real victim.
Thanks for commenting! They are always upset to be caught out, this is indeed very true and they will turn it around and blame the victim. They don't feel remorse but can fake it.
Maybe they fake it, or we misinterpret it and project our own values on what we are seeing. A friend keeps reminding me that these people do not think like I do.
My sister in law is a Narcissist and it's very hard to be around her. She controls her parents and husband and she just dont care. I had to live with her for 2 years and it was very hard. All these traits are exactly what I saw and experienced with her, it's crazy. Thank you for the video, it's very accurate. 🤗
Me too my sister in law is so narcissistic... She is self centered.. Irresponsible... Has no empathy... She doesn't care about her daughter.. She lies and manipulates... She thinks everyone is jealous of her.. She controls her husband and tries to exert power and authority on him... She is mean.. And doesn't consider and respect her parents in law... And so frustrating draining and terrible to live under the same roof with her.. It sucks the life out of you... I wanna cry sometimes.. Because my family is a dysfunctional one and we have no sense of boundaries... She enjoys doing it.. Because she uses to her own advantage... Like a goddammed parasite... Worst? She won't admit it.. Because she won't blame herself
Everytime I watch narc videos like this, I feel inside that I was actually this person from youth to now. The good news was that I know some moral values, being kind, be positive, understanding feelings and enjoy life. One of the issues I have continuously are, I’m not very normal, I lack the cues in socializing (well, somehow I barely know some), I couldn’t take challenges from my parents lesson (mostly with my Mom; stick to the schedule, my Mom’s orders and pressure because her genes probably matched me), not thinking like her (which I’m used to that) and countless of my problems. Lucky Enough, I’m reading something about health while sticking some passions. I wanna tell to anyone in this comment, if you’re like this from youth to now, keep on telling your flaws. In the end, we will change regardless the conditions face we must.
I met a guy online, he seems so nice, charming and romantic at the early stages of dating. Throughout our conversation, he said that he hates people, he chose to be alone coz he think of himself as different to other people, that he thinks like Einstein or plato and treat people as lower than him. He is so moody too, there are times he seems to sweet then later so cold and used to have silent treatment to make him feel that I am more into him, but I never tolerate that, if he doesn't message me, then I will not bother him. I know my worth and I'm thankful I followed my instinct. I don't know if he's a narcissist or maybe a self centered guy. Lol. I still like him but I know I deserved someone better. So better move on. Thanks for this, big help! 😊
Excellent video and 28 of those traits depict my father who I feel like ghosting in his old age. I am getting older myself and have no more tolerance for him. The MF bought a house nearby me, thinking I was going to be at his beck and call, but I have reached the end of the line. Don’t GAF if he sells the house and gets away from my area. He is incapacitated, but can easily act the way he did 40 years ago. I read the New Testament most days of the week to refrain from doing anything I am going to regret. Cussed him out on the phone like I was a 16 year old kid, while trying to maintain a semblance of composure like my current 53 year old self. He can be narcissistic by himself, but if he ever demeans my kid, which is the only thing he has to live for, then I will pull the plug on that relationship. In fact, I will tell my kid to cut off communication with him, if there is even an iota of belittling or criticism coming from him. I dealt with that for 53 years and realize I have no more sympathy for him.
My so called MOTHER had a tax sheltered savings for my daughters College, which she decided to take for herself rather than let my daughter have it, when my daughter could have really used it for her schooling. So I took out a parent loan and helped her. Then Grandma stole her car, so I went out and bought my daughter another one.
Well, I don't know your situation, stealing is definite no no. But the college money is nothing to be offended about. The grandaughter is not entitled to her grandmas money. I paid for my college myself working full time job and studying at night. I didn't get or expect anything from anyone. Well, what I am trying to say is that your kid should go to work, and you shouldn't blame grandma for not giving away her money. You wanted/needed to take the loan, it is your decision. You could also save for 15 years a bit for the college, so the loan wouldn't be neccessary. And your mother probably think the same way, so she didn't give the money. I help my own parents financially, and not to try to be a burden for them by taking whatever they have extra. Good luck with your loans. And remember we appreciate more the things that we have to work for hard. If your kid will get stuff free, the appreciation will be adequate, and you will stay with your loans. Maybe you just should tell your kid to get part time job and help to pay the student loan you took. This way she will appreciate it more, and understand early that nothing in life is free. I wish you good luck!!!
@@babycakes8434 You missed the point of this post and likely this video... ANY person who calls themselves family and steals from a child is a parasite. And a grandparent should feel happy to help if they are able. What is the purpose of material crap? it is not what is important. the education is important and if you do not comprehend that some majors are very close to impossible to do while working, idk what to tell you. premed and prelaw for example... you have to get unpaid internships... when would one have time to work a full time job?????????????
My narc father never physically abused me, I think he learnt early on that he couldn't get away with that with the women in his life so it became emotional abuse and society has had a hard time catching up to this form of abuse.
Im in a relationship with a narcissist. I feel I'm in too deep. I recognize her behavior. However, I feel so deluded in my feelings for her. I shower her with love. There is zero physical intimacy, as she seems to totally restrain from it. But she dangles a carrot, and its just enough to hold hope. I know its unhealthy. She says she loves me with all her heart. I've tried to pull away and tell her why. I wish she would understand how this is hurting me and just let me go, but she knows I fill her emotional and fear of abandonment needs. Does not help that she is sexy and gorgeous. You could say I'm definitely co dependent. Help. Please. Lol
You should binge watch Derrick Jaxn. He speaks toward women, but I am sure you can use it in your own situation and learn from it. Good luck. Life with narc is a lonely hell. Find someone who will fulfill your life, and bring you joy, not the person who will make a zombie out of you and sucks all the joy, happiness, self esteem out of you. Good luck. Oh and find yourself a hobby, do stuff only for yourself. They don't like it, because they don't like you to be independent. And if you recognize the symptoms and red flags now. RUN. If you cherish yourself RUN.
Ted sims You should get away from her before she does what my husband just did. He depleted our savings and walked out with no conversation. Then he trashed me on Facebook & continues to do so. He orchestrated a train wreck that will require years of clean-up. Something is keeping her with you. Withhold the money & see what she does.
I still remember when my nephew, who was maybe 5 or 6 at the time, went to his room after his papa (my dad) made a nasty comment at the dinner table about my nephew's face. I noticed what happened and quietly followed my nephew to his room. When I got there, just as I expected, he was crying quietly. He even tried to toughen up when I walked into his room. So I closed the door and we had a little talk. He asked me "why is papa so mean sometimes?" And I said "papa is a real asshole sometimes." I haven't been able to tell my nephew the rest of the story but the truth is that his grandpa is the lead suspect in a double homicide investigation but that it's likely he'll never face a single day in court, much less any prison time, because of a lack of evidence despite him telling me "I know how to kill someone and not leave any evidence for the police" and the lead investigator knows more than I shared here. My nephew is now 22, and about to graduate university, and has more than a job lined up already. But no one's told him the truth yet because most people choose to go through life with blinders on, in denial of reality, just as I did for so many years. They can't tell you the truth because they don't the truth because they've ignored the signs and symptoms and evidence if you will. Then there's the other people. They know the truth. But they also know that most people live in a fairy tale world where everything needs to be good and that bad shit doesn't happen and that, if they say anything at all, some people will spin it - for different reasons - other people will be like the kid who sticks their fingers in their ears and says they can't hear you and most people won't really give a shit because they just see it as drama and they want no part of it because they're just handling their own shit. I happen to think he deserves the truth because he's headed into the world and part of the job of the previous generation is to prepare the next generation for reality. Whether that reality is good, bad or ugly.
He is now an adult so he most definetely deserves the truth. Go easy on him, if you do tell him. It will be a huge shock! It is indeed awful that people would rather deny the truth and pretend that everything is fine! It is cowardly and extremely damaging!Thanks for sharing!
I believe everyone...I mean EVERYONE has qualities of a narcissist. Some use these negative characteristics more then others. Its important to recognize your own qualities and adjust accordingly. Dropping the narcissist qualities is essential in every humans life!
Maybe a lot of people have these tendencies, but that doesn't qualify them as narcissists. It's more difficult for an actual narcissist to change, because at the end of the day... The lack of empathy prevents them from admitting they are not perfect, getting help and committing to changing. It's a huge commitment, and a big step even admitting you need help.
@@tanukiZoot I think Exotic Frequency is simply projecting her biblical belief that we are all sinners. I am down on religion, because religion is what kept me in narcissistic relationships, thinking I had to forgive and overlook the abuse.
@@Almamater8888 yes! You have to "forgive" because "no one's perfect" but that sort of thinking can be very toxic and enabling. It can be very dangerous if say, you're married to a narc, but divorce is seen as against god... Aka one of the reasons my mom waited so many years to leave my dad.
One of the main traits I’ve seen mentioned online is arrogance. I have a relative who fits 90% of the traits here but the arrogant part doesn’t seem to fit.
Wow I just a meat a one like that and I just pushed him always. 2 days and he was already draining me with lies miss understandings that for sure he said was my fault and even called me bipolar. Lol.
My dad is NPD - he's a handful and then some; simply evil. We share the same house (he's in the downstairs apartment, but violates my boundaries all the time and will hang out in my apartment all day. Lately I wound up in the hospital for 2 weeks for a bad infection in my spine; when I got home I was trying to rest, but he thought it was absolutely hilarious to wake me up every hour or so - he wasn't checking on me, but instead he'd open my bedroom door and say things like, "are you going to make dinner for me?" and "are you just going to lay there all day?" and, "can you check your cabinets to see if there are any snacks you don't want that I can have?"
The mood swings are unbearable... one moment things are going well and the next a bomb is dropped and BAM all hell breaks out !!! Then you are perceived to do wrong and then they walk away... temporarily... but then here they go hoovering with kisses and giggles!!!
My mom is a narcissist. In fact, I am from China, and infantilization is a cultural phenomenon. My mom is controlling. She interferes with my life decisions, she says bad things about my choices. she forces me to do the things she thinks is the best... I really don't know what to do, because I try my best not to stay with her. But cutting ties as you said doesn't go with the parents
I can think of a whole group that have most of these traits and are protected by the law. They are fascinated by the ragtrade and pastes and unguents and can be caught gazing st mirrors muttering mirror mirror on the....... Bad losers and eternal malcontents complaining about their lot in life......
Yes, narcissistic women are more materialistic if you missed to provide their demands they will withhold affection, sex and love, This is great symptoms
A great video and very typical of my BPD ex girlfriend! I found her out and I'm so glad that I got rid of her! Wasted years but a great learning curve! It never ends well for them so keep away, otherwise they will drag you down with them! Subscribed!
Bpd? Not the same thing as Narcissism. But I do have to say that "finding her out" should have brought sympathy to her plight. At that point, you realize that there's a reason for her behavior, and now you know what you are getting into... So you can make the decision to stay with her or leave. But realize also... That she can't choose to leave herself. She is stuck being that person, and whether she is BPD or NPD, she didn't choose to be that way. It's hard on her. There is always a war in her heart. She is not at peace. Not saying you have to stick around out of pity, but you can't demonize her for having this condition. It's not the life she chose.
@@tanukiZoot BPD or Narcissitic the video was very typical of how she used to behave. You're right it's not the life she chose but she made her choices. I was very empathetic for a long time and I stuck with her until I could no longer take it. I didn't want "this" to be the rest of my life as it never ends well!
Narcissism isn't always bad. She's referring to the Personality disorder "malignant" type. Everyone is born with a healthy dose of narcissism. That's ok. It keeps us alive. But NPD is a whole different animal. These people are prone to toxic behaviors that destroy social cohesion. Lying, theft, abuse etc.
Athina Ehlen. An ex who I have had min contact for a year now seeing each other again. I've studied this stuff for a year. Looking for signs beyond non cluster b indications. Staying totally emotionally detached. At least I have told myself I am. First time we were both devastated by family member loss . Tried to rebound way too soon. So as we leave the past in past, we have not forgot. So now I test my new fortitude, boundarys & self esteem. Important to remember the signs of discontent if & when they come up. I have no problem pulling the plug on this reunion of sorts. Thanks for asking , cherish your vlogs.
Dealing with a narcissist can totally screw up your future relationships. 2 years later and I still find it very hard to trust people.
This is true for me as well. I have big trust issues now, growing up with a covert and overt narcissist as parents, a husband as one, and now a daughter.
I too love the right coast, and when I was living there recently, I enjoyed being away from the narcissists. I am planning to return to live there very soon (Arlington VA)
Me too and I only lived with mine a total of 3 months! But he was my childhood sweetheart who lured me back in when I was very vulnerable.
Yep same here!
Same here but I find it helpful... I used to trust too much and I got with a narcissist and a sociopath.. I needed to pass through all this to learn to don't trust and set more boundaries in my life. It been very hard but I guess this narcissist and sociopaths past through really bad things to be this way and cold as ice... Life isn't easy when we trust and are emphatic..
Great list but you forgot the lecturing that they do, their conversations are mainly one sided, they interrupt if you talk and of course they never agree with anything you say.
Thanks for adding these! Very true!
Omg yes. Lol. And they say they know you and they really don't lol. And I do get the lecture. I learned to let him talk. He's my ex. And sadly I'm living with him. And his family. His parents are fine with me here. He was opening up. I'm thinking he wanted to hear I felt the same. He got pissed off and said you don't give a fuck. And left the room. Before that I was talking about something with his mother and started to talk as I was talking and I laughingly said that I was talking. So we end up going to go smoke a cigarette and he got snippy with me. And said I gave him an attitude and he felt embarrassed by the way I spoke to him. But I didn't have an attitude. So until I get my shit together. I'm going to just let him talk. He doesn't know me like he claims. And I will laugh at his face before arguing with him. Which he has been trying to do. Bait and switch. I know about this. I've done extensive research on this. The best thing you can do is be as positive as you can. Because they want you to yell and scream and get mad. That way they can try to justify their behavior and what they say to the people around. I will never in my life ever take him back. I would be voiceless. Everything I say or do will be wrong. No don't think so. And once I get my own apartment. I'm going to have to phase him out. And make sure to have evidence.
@@darkpisces8125 I hope you have left. Dont waste your valuable life with a man like this, he will drawn you in his negativity and bad treatment of you.
Sounds like my step-dad always talks as if he is yelling or disagreeing and he will leave the room if you start talking about something that doesn't interest him.
Damn true
My narcissistic father was also physically abusive. He made me the scapegoat, lied and manipulated my family until he could beat me for no reason in front of them, and they would believe I deserved it. He lied to my doctors and teachers about me, so that even when I tried to get help, they thought I was lying to get him in trouble. I felt so helpless. No one ever believed me. Even some friends I told. They didn't understand because how could they? It's hard to imagine when you've never been there. A couple even turned on ME after I let them in. It really messed with my perspective on life... Now in my 30s and trying to become whole. Thank you for your videos, they are very helpful, because they give me validation. Which is something I never had.
Natsu Dragneel God bless you! I pray for such children often. I hope you heal & have peace with yourself. You are a very strong person!
Oh my goodness! My sister did this to me when I was younger. She had my entire family, her friends and my “friends” all turn against me. It was so DEPRESSING!! I felt so ALONE and it wasn’t until years later they I heard someone on television say the words,
“If GOD be for me, who dare be against me.”
Those words changed my outlook on life and relationships.
Not to sound “holy moly”, but I then knew that GOD had my back and He would protect me. The only ONE I needed to believe my side was GOD and whoever didn’t want to believe my side would eventually experience their own repercussions. My sister found the need to physically and mentally abuse me for so many years [an absolute bully], but I just remain focused that I am just grateful that I had made it out alive from all of her different forms of abuse. People/monsters like her really are narcissists and are a little too clever with how they can get into someone’s heads.
....There’s nothing cute about that.
There are many children who think that if they could just end their lives it would be the answer and it really is NOT the answer.
That’s what the enemy’s goal is.
The enemy uses specific monsters that are in this world to “break us” and to pray for those young souls who didn’t know this is so important to me.
GOD continue to bless, protect and guide you [in each area of your life].
I appreciate you sharing what you did here.
Stay blessed.. because you truly are blessed!!
That sounds horrific - I am glad you are now able to validate the events of your life, take control and heal. No contact is the way forward.
I was in a situation with a narcissist. They do apologize just to try and get more mileage out of me. It was just part of the game. The praise was just blowing smoke up my skirt, for more mileage.
Dad thinks he's above apologizing and above the law. He's wrong on both counts. I won't be bothered with him anymore!
This woman is spot on and it made me realise just how many narcissistic individuals I’ve let into my life!
Great list!! Very draining to be around
I stopped bothering with my narc dad, the drain has ended!
They really don't care who they hurt and will never apologize. Yes they project.....absolutely no accountability. It is ALL JUST FAKE. I got so discussed with that woman who calls herself a MOTHER. She is so cold and self absorbed. Absolutely no love. It is all about the pretense. The only thing she cares about is money and prestige. Nothing else.
Sounds like my mother.
My narcs realized, much to their detriment, that I was not as naive as they thought I was, and by the time they realized it, it was much too late because they had already exposed themselves for what they really are.
While in grad school, I fell in love with a narc. I was battling major depression while trying to survive school and work. At the start of our friendship, she was there for me -- extremely helpful and caring (love bombing stage). However, there were times when I sensed "something was off." She had a short fuse and didn't like it when I spoke to other friends or acquaintances. Soon, things grew toxic.. she accused me of being judgmental and made her feel inadequate. I began to question myself -- how could someone so kind, hate me? I must be a bad person?! (gaslighting stage) But, in reality, it was her projecting her feelings onto me. We're no longer friends, but I miss her almost everyday with intensity. I hate that I do. I guess it's a good thing that she walked away, because I'm still weak.
the narc i encountered saw my empathic nature. he failed to take into account the fact that i was too intelligent to be taken in. it didn't take me very long at all to have his number. he dropped me and turned tail. not all empaths are stupid.
It has nothing to do with how intelligent you are. It has everything to do with how vulnerable you are in a given moment.
i don't know how much more vulnerable i could have been because i was a new widow. still bleeding. i had a sense that something about him wasn't right. he banked on me falling victim to him. i think that's one way he met women. came to their "aid" when they were down. it didn't work with me. it wasn't my IQ but intuition that saved me.
If he wanted you back he could have you.All women love a bad boy
Craig Smith This is a very stupid belief.
The same thing just happened to me. Got discarded about 3 mo. ago. Although, video and other sites have been very helpful in healing from this nightmare. Like you, their narc. behavior stood out. Wish you peace and happiness. Thanks for sharing. Many blessings to you.
Thank you beautiful soul this is actually true. Their energy vampires and will make you physically ill. Empaths attract narcissist and we need to protect ourselves. We need to leave them, send them off with love and light and move on with our lives and forgive them.
Take care and love and light to everyone.
What a wonderful video, my ex- fills all the features that you mentioned. It was very hard to finish that relationship. Now I understand him better.
Thank you! I am so sorry you were in a relationship with a narcissist. The trauma bond is very strong with these individuals, which is why it is so hard to end a relationship with them.
yocastanu You may like the "Surviving Narcissism" series here on UA-cam.
Very well explained. I now understand that I was in a toxic relationship with a Covert Narcissist. I never felt that what I was doing was good enough and never was supported with making our house a home. What you have explained has helped me a great deal in terms of recognising my own flaws and those of my ex and how devastating our relationship was to ourselves and my poor innocent daughter. I have been made out to be the bad guy and no longer have contact with my daughter as she believes I must be the Narc. I just hope that I will one day be able to say that I am sorry and ask for my daughter's forgiveness. I have been on a journey of self discovery and have not entirely enjoyed what I found. My next journey will be to inform others of maintaining positivity and learning from these events and taking the responsibility on nurturing souls instead of damaging them. Some of us have to have scars to learn a lesson.
My boss was like this to a t. I Took this abuse for far too long. Just quit and I've never felt better. They also have zero empathy!
I am glad you quit! No job is worth the abuse and toxicity!
Couldn't of explained any better 👍👍
Thanks, good talk. This disorder is much more common than I ever realized.I am a loner, enjoy being alone so that insulates me somewhat.But I do enjoy others so I have to be more vigilant than ever who I start doing things with.
It’s scary how people have become especially adults man. You just don’t know who to trust anymore smh 🤦♂️
Trust nobody!
A lot of it is from broken childhood and unhealed trauma
They are face of evil..
Around 8 minutes into this I just gasped because I am the "empathetic, kind" type who just got out of a 6 year abusive professional relationship with someone I now believe is a total narcissist. I realize after watching I made the right decision to get out of another contract w/ this individual, even if it means I lose money. Truly, thank you for this.
90% of people I come into contact with are like this.
Where do you work? Narcissists tend to be in huge numbers in certain industries!
I've worked in the Civil Service, had parents like that. Got friends like that.
Unfortunately narcissism is an epidemic :-(
Nigel Greenwood If this isn't true, I don't know what is...
Same here.
I have a friend who is a narcissist. No sense of humor. He really drains me. Loves to fued.
Bill Hodges I'd call him an "acquaintance," not a friend. Don't fuel him.
Narcs are among those scumbags that ought to be blown off the map. Every trait you have described about narcs are the reason. Especially, by my own life experience in dealing with narcs. Thank you. Keep them videos coming. I look forward to coming across more along the way.
It's incredible how much my daaady hits about 27 points or so of that list, but at the same time is a 2-3 on 5 scale sort of speak. He is not only a mean monster in life, but corresponds clearely to much of that and more! Helpful videos! :P
Sorry to hear that! Thanks for sharing!
Pascal Charbonneau Lacasse Since in time you become your dad, then I'm afraid you'll have to go to psychotherapy for years 😁
Absolutely spot on. I can relate to everything you said. I lived with this for almost twenty years. It wasn't until we divorced and I learnt about narcissism that everything made sense.
My work colleague hits 29 of 30 right on the button. I thought there was something wrong with me with my anxiety and general low self esteem, Thank you for this video, it has opened my eyes, i'm just a victim of a toxic relationship.
I am sorry you have discovered this but at least now you can protect yourself and finally know its not you but your colleague! Look after yourself!
Ray Gamma find another job... I was dealing with this shit for a long time. Once you move on the NARC is drained of power. I promise your life will change if you leave. I lost the stress and then lost a ton of weight. Good luck. Never felt better
I've started to just realized a lot of the traits you describes here really reminds me of myself and my attitude. I've heard of NPD for years but never would consider or admit myself to be narcissistic even now I'm not sure if I have NPD. I've seen a psychiatrist but he only diagnosed me with Dysthymia.
If you can relate to a lot of the traits, then it might be that you are on the narcissistic spectrum. NPD is when you have more than 5 traits of those listed in the DSM:
(1) has a grandiose sense of
self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements)
(2) is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love
(3) believes that he or she is "special" and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions)
(4) requires excessive admiration
(5) has a sense of entitlement, i.e., unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations
(6) is interpersonally exploitative, i.e., takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends
(7) lacks empathy: is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others
(8) is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him or her
(9) shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes
i have 10 traits.
but from what ive been told im cptsd/bpd
My mother in-law is a narcissistic, pathological lying, egomaniacal, self aggrandizing, storyteller! She hates women, competes with me, my daughters, her teenage girls. She drove a school bus, lives in a trailer park, has never been out of the state she was born in. 54yrs old and never been on a plane. Now on disability. Mental disability. My husband left home at 13. His younger siblings are socially awkward and two are obese. While his mother is obsessed with her weight! But is fine with her kids being unhealthy. I can not respect someone so selfish! Another great video! Thank you so much, Paula 😊
Thank you , just So many channels on The cluster B personality. but I’ve arrived and subscribed. 💚👍 they are *never* wrong. Oh No!
Lol
I’m just beginning to learn about the Narcs, but I’m so glad that people like you that is helping people like me dealing with my Partner who is a covert Narc. Thank you for more information
The love bomb/gaslight/discard cycle is so predictable it is unreal. I read everyone’s testimonials here and am amazed at how close it is to my experience. The love bombing phase ended with a gradual, imperceptible at the time switch to gaslighting, beginning with subtle insults toward myself and my family, always followed by a friendly giggle and “just kidding.” Then she.began hinting that our relationship was in trouble because her family did not approve of me, despite the fact that they have never been anything but nice to me. That is another narcissistic trait I would add, they love to hide behind their own family, especially children, which is really sad. It became more and more frustrating until I finally had enough and expressed my feelings. This was of course turned back on me, to make me feel guilty for standing up for myself. The next three months were sheer emotional torture, withholding of affection, snide insults, and amazing projection. Tried to tell me I need counseling for this that and the other thing, that my family was making me look bad, and that she was telling me all this only because she “cares.” Yeah, cares about spreading her misery. Funniest part is that she actually referred to videos like this and portrayed herself as a “people pleaser” in past relationships, just unreal. The only relief from it was when I finally figured out her game and walked away. She would still be taking her little shots at me and tearing me down if I hadn’t realized what was happening. The only way to deal with these people in your life is to cut them out of it, like removing a cancer from your body.
My brother is a narcissist.. once o got older an started calling him out his ego couldn’t handle it.. we rarely speak ever cause he knows I can see threw him.. like catching on to a bs artist.. once you expose them they will avoid you
I experienced everything you have pointed out. Especially that this person sucked the life out of me.
That’s exactly how my son is and my ex who refuses to leave my life. With my son I feel anxious and drained when he’s around me. . When he’s at work or at school people say that he’s so kind and loving and helpful. But they don’t see this side of him when he’s at home . he calls me names tells me I’m stupid tell me I don’t know anything and he always has to be right and I’m always wrong and sometimes he tries to act like he’s my dad.
Thank you for your videos I have no one to believe me or help me, i nd to get away, but he keeps stopping me with the torture n abuse n devastation. Thank you
Kim Jbj I truly hope you have gotten out of that relationship by now. It sounded like your life was in danger. I hope you called the police on him. Be strong!
My mother and I agree that my father is simply one thing from all these things: Exhausting.
This is my mom to a T
My ex wife is narcissistic I still have nerve and depression problems. Shell shock is what a doctor called it. Post traumatic stress disorder sounds soft and not as serious of a problem. I'm glad people are addressing this here. I hope it helps a lot of people.
The remorseful with the impact they have on other, the do not care. This one people have to be careful with spotting. They will be upset to be caught out or shown for who / what they are, do not confuse with remorse for the pain they caused the real victim.
Thanks for commenting! They are always upset to be caught out, this is indeed very true and they will turn it around and blame the victim. They don't feel remorse but can fake it.
Maybe they fake it, or we misinterpret it and project our own values on what we are seeing. A friend keeps reminding me that these people do not think like I do.
They really dont think like we do..Your friend is right unfortunately..
My sister in law is a Narcissist and it's very hard to be around her. She controls her parents and husband and she just dont care. I had to live with her for 2 years and it was very hard. All these traits are exactly what I saw and experienced with her, it's crazy.
Thank you for the video, it's very accurate. 🤗
Me too my sister in law is so narcissistic... She is self centered.. Irresponsible... Has no empathy... She doesn't care about her daughter.. She lies and manipulates... She thinks everyone is jealous of her.. She controls her husband and tries to exert power and authority on him... She is mean.. And doesn't consider and respect her parents in law... And so frustrating draining and terrible to live under the same roof with her.. It sucks the life out of you... I wanna cry sometimes.. Because my family is a dysfunctional one and we have no sense of boundaries... She enjoys doing it.. Because she uses to her own advantage... Like a goddammed parasite... Worst? She won't admit it.. Because she won't blame herself
Everytime I watch narc videos like this, I feel inside that I was actually this person from youth to now. The good news was that I know some moral values, being kind, be positive, understanding feelings and enjoy life. One of the issues I have continuously are, I’m not very normal, I lack the cues in socializing (well, somehow I barely know some), I couldn’t take challenges from my parents lesson (mostly with my Mom; stick to the schedule, my Mom’s orders and pressure because her genes probably matched me), not thinking like her (which I’m used to that) and countless of my problems.
Lucky Enough, I’m reading something about health while sticking some passions.
I wanna tell to anyone in this comment, if you’re like this from youth to now, keep on telling your flaws. In the end, we will change regardless the conditions face we must.
Very common in business, especially involving sales. They make great sales people, and AWFUL business partners. Been down that road...twice.
I met a guy online, he seems so nice, charming and romantic at the early stages of dating. Throughout our conversation, he said that he hates people, he chose to be alone coz he think of himself as different to other people, that he thinks like Einstein or plato and treat people as lower than him. He is so moody too, there are times he seems to sweet then later so cold and used to have silent treatment to make him feel that I am more into him, but I never tolerate that, if he doesn't message me, then I will not bother him. I know my worth and I'm thankful I followed my instinct. I don't know if he's a narcissist or maybe a self centered guy. Lol. I still like him but I know I deserved someone better. So better move on. Thanks for this, big help! 😊
Excellent video and 28 of those traits depict my father who I feel like ghosting in his old age. I am getting older myself and have no more tolerance for him. The MF bought a house nearby me, thinking I was going to be at his beck and call, but I have reached the end of the line. Don’t GAF if he sells the house and gets away from my area. He is incapacitated, but can easily act the way he did 40 years ago.
I read the New Testament most days of the week to refrain from doing anything I am going to regret. Cussed him out on the phone like I was a 16 year old kid, while trying to maintain a semblance of composure like my current 53 year old self.
He can be narcissistic by himself, but if he ever demeans my kid, which is the only thing he has to live for, then I will pull the plug on that relationship. In fact, I will tell my kid to cut off communication with him, if there is even an iota of belittling or criticism coming from him.
I dealt with that for 53 years and realize I have no more sympathy for him.
My so called MOTHER had a tax sheltered savings for my daughters College, which she decided to take for herself rather than let my daughter have it, when my daughter could have really used it for her schooling. So I took out a parent loan and helped her. Then Grandma stole her car, so I went out and bought my daughter another one.
Well, I don't know your situation, stealing is definite no no. But the college money is nothing to be offended about. The grandaughter is not entitled to her grandmas money. I paid for my college myself working full time job and studying at night. I didn't get or expect anything from anyone. Well, what I am trying to say is that your kid should go to work, and you shouldn't blame grandma for not giving away her money. You wanted/needed to take the loan, it is your decision. You could also save for 15 years a bit for the college, so the loan wouldn't be neccessary. And your mother probably think the same way, so she didn't give the money. I help my own parents financially, and not to try to be a burden for them by taking whatever they have extra. Good luck with your loans. And remember we appreciate more the things that we have to work for hard. If your kid will get stuff free, the appreciation will be adequate, and you will stay with your loans. Maybe you just should tell your kid to get part time job and help to pay the student loan you took. This way she will appreciate it more, and understand early that nothing in life is free. I wish you good luck!!!
@@babycakes8434 You missed the point of this post and likely this video... ANY person who calls themselves family and steals from a child is a parasite. And a grandparent should feel happy to help if they are able. What is the purpose of material crap? it is not what is important. the education is important and if you do not comprehend that some majors are very close to impossible to do while working, idk what to tell you. premed and prelaw for example... you have to get unpaid internships... when would one have time to work a full time job?????????????
This completely describes my ex wife. Wish I knew about it
sooner!
Loved it! Happy to got rid of such a beast.
Thank you for d list❤
Thank you for this video... 🙏🏽 😭
Spot on! Great video!
Thank you a lot, you are great to explain all the things very interesting
My favourite defense against a narcissist is to wave my hand in front of them like Star Wars and say "Your gaslighting has no effect on me."
Laugh😅
SOUNDS LIKE MY BROTHER IN A NUTSHELL
I am sorry you have come to this realisation.
Thankx so much 😇 🙏
My narc father never physically abused me, I think he learnt early on that he couldn't get away with that with the women in his life so it became emotional abuse and society has had a hard time catching up to this form of abuse.
Im in a relationship with a narcissist. I feel I'm in too deep. I recognize her behavior. However, I feel so deluded in my feelings for her. I shower her with love. There is zero physical intimacy, as she seems to totally restrain from it. But she dangles a carrot, and its just enough to hold hope. I know its unhealthy. She says she loves me with all her heart. I've tried to pull away and tell her why. I wish she would understand how this is hurting me and just let me go, but she knows I fill her emotional and fear of abandonment needs. Does not help that she is sexy and gorgeous. You could say I'm definitely co dependent. Help. Please. Lol
You should binge watch Derrick Jaxn. He speaks toward women, but I am sure you can use it in your own situation and learn from it. Good luck. Life with narc is a lonely hell. Find someone who will fulfill your life, and bring you joy, not the person who will make a zombie out of you and sucks all the joy, happiness, self esteem out of you.
Good luck. Oh and find yourself a hobby, do stuff only for yourself. They don't like it, because they don't like you to be independent. And if you recognize the symptoms and red flags now. RUN. If you cherish yourself RUN.
You should just leave. You will be okay. These types of people use people -she’ll never be able to love you the way you deserve to be loved. GET OUT
Ted sims You should get away from her before she does what my husband just did. He depleted our savings and walked out with no conversation. Then he trashed me on Facebook & continues to do so. He orchestrated a train wreck that will require years of clean-up. Something is keeping her with you. Withhold the money & see what she does.
I still remember when my nephew, who was maybe 5 or 6 at the time, went to his room after his papa (my dad) made a nasty comment at the dinner table about my nephew's face. I noticed what happened and quietly followed my nephew to his room.
When I got there, just as I expected, he was crying quietly. He even tried to toughen up when I walked into his room.
So I closed the door and we had a little talk. He asked me "why is papa so mean sometimes?"
And I said "papa is a real asshole sometimes." I haven't been able to tell my nephew the rest of the story but the truth is that his grandpa is the lead suspect in a double homicide investigation but that it's likely he'll never face a single day in court, much less any prison time, because of a lack of evidence despite him telling me "I know how to kill someone and not leave any evidence for the police" and the lead investigator knows more than I shared here.
My nephew is now 22, and about to graduate university, and has more than a job lined up already. But no one's told him the truth yet because most people choose to go through life with blinders on, in denial of reality, just as I did for so many years.
They can't tell you the truth because they don't the truth because they've ignored the signs and symptoms and evidence if you will.
Then there's the other people. They know the truth. But they also know that most people live in a fairy tale world where everything needs to be good and that bad shit doesn't happen and that, if they say anything at all, some people will spin it - for different reasons - other people will be like the kid who sticks their fingers in their ears and says they can't hear you and most people won't really give a shit because they just see it as drama and they want no part of it because they're just handling their own shit.
I happen to think he deserves the truth because he's headed into the world and part of the job of the previous generation is to prepare the next generation for reality. Whether that reality is good, bad or ugly.
He is now an adult so he most definetely deserves the truth. Go easy on him, if you do tell him. It will be a huge shock! It is indeed awful that people would rather deny the truth and pretend that everything is fine! It is cowardly and extremely damaging!Thanks for sharing!
It's always about the narcissist and that person(Dad, in my case) won't take any responsibility. I gave up on his b.s.
So true.
I believe everyone...I mean EVERYONE has qualities of a narcissist. Some use these negative characteristics more then others. Its important to recognize your own qualities and adjust accordingly. Dropping the narcissist qualities is essential in every humans life!
Yes I found a couple things I might do on this list... I know I'm wrong for this and that's a form of accepting and changing my ways .
Maybe a lot of people have these tendencies, but that doesn't qualify them as narcissists. It's more difficult for an actual narcissist to change, because at the end of the day... The lack of empathy prevents them from admitting they are not perfect, getting help and committing to changing. It's a huge commitment, and a big step even admitting you need help.
@@tanukiZoot I think Exotic Frequency is simply projecting her biblical belief that we are all sinners. I am down on religion, because religion is what kept me in narcissistic relationships, thinking I had to forgive and overlook the abuse.
@@Almamater8888 yes! You have to "forgive" because "no one's perfect" but that sort of thinking can be very toxic and enabling. It can be very dangerous if say, you're married to a narc, but divorce is seen as against god... Aka one of the reasons my mom waited so many years to leave my dad.
One of the main traits I’ve seen mentioned online is arrogance. I have a relative who fits 90% of the traits here but the arrogant part doesn’t seem to fit.
Wow I just a meat a one like that and I just pushed him always. 2 days and he was already draining me with lies miss understandings that for sure he said was my fault and even called me bipolar. Lol.
My dad is NPD - he's a handful and then some; simply evil. We share the same house (he's in the downstairs apartment, but violates my boundaries all the time and will hang out in my apartment all day. Lately I wound up in the hospital for 2 weeks for a bad infection in my spine; when I got home I was trying to rest, but he thought it was absolutely hilarious to wake me up every hour or so - he wasn't checking on me, but instead he'd open my bedroom door and say things like, "are you going to make dinner for me?" and "are you just going to lay there all day?" and, "can you check your cabinets to see if there are any snacks you don't want that I can have?"
I am sorry for your experience :-(
Thank you very inciteful.
The mood swings are unbearable... one moment things are going well and the next a bomb is dropped and BAM all hell breaks out !!! Then you are perceived to do wrong and then they walk away... temporarily... but then here they go hoovering with kisses and giggles!!!
This describes most abusive men..!!
Yep
My mom is a narcissist. In fact, I am from China, and infantilization is a cultural phenomenon. My mom is controlling. She interferes with my life decisions, she says bad things about my choices. she forces me to do the things she thinks is the best... I really don't know what to do, because I try my best not to stay with her. But cutting ties as you said doesn't go with the parents
so on point
I can think of a whole group that have most of these traits and are protected by the law.
They are fascinated by the ragtrade and pastes and unguents and can be caught gazing st mirrors muttering mirror mirror on the.......
Bad losers and eternal malcontents complaining about their lot in life......
So true!
Are narcissistic women materialistic? Is that a trait?
Yes, narcissistic women are more materialistic if you missed to provide their demands they will withhold affection, sex and love, This is great symptoms
Great info thank you
Explains my ex very well
Is it possible to get a transcript of this video please. There doesn't appear to be a link to the PDF you mention
My parents are like this to me
I know exactly what this type is by my own personal life experience -
A great video and very typical of my BPD ex girlfriend! I found her out and I'm so glad that I got rid of her! Wasted years but a great learning curve! It never ends well for them so keep away, otherwise they will drag you down with them! Subscribed!
Bpd? Not the same thing as Narcissism. But I do have to say that "finding her out" should have brought sympathy to her plight. At that point, you realize that there's a reason for her behavior, and now you know what you are getting into... So you can make the decision to stay with her or leave. But realize also... That she can't choose to leave herself. She is stuck being that person, and whether she is BPD or NPD, she didn't choose to be that way. It's hard on her. There is always a war in her heart. She is not at peace. Not saying you have to stick around out of pity, but you can't demonize her for having this condition. It's not the life she chose.
@@tanukiZoot BPD or Narcissitic the video was very typical of how she used to behave. You're right it's not the life she chose but she made her choices. I was very empathetic for a long time and I stuck with her until I could no longer take it. I didn't want "this" to be the rest of my life as it never ends well!
Are there such a thing as a good narcissistic? Someone who’s actually thoughtful and caring but just extremely arrogant
Narcissism isn't always bad. She's referring to the Personality disorder "malignant" type. Everyone is born with a healthy dose of narcissism. That's ok. It keeps us alive. But NPD is a whole different animal. These people are prone to toxic behaviors that destroy social cohesion. Lying, theft, abuse etc.
Hey Cristy see if this sounds like Bobby.
Their values change according to the situation they find themselves in...ok!
This is my problem.... I'm a genuine, kind, sympathetic, and loving woman but my boyfriend is a narcissist. I don't really even smile anymore.... 😔😔😔😔
4,5,8,9,10,11,12,14,15,19,20,21,22
So your saying it's not good if I checked off all the boxes.....
It's not good..Is this for someone you know?
Athina Ehlen. An ex who I have had min contact for a year now seeing each other again. I've studied this stuff for a year. Looking for signs beyond non cluster b indications. Staying totally emotionally detached. At least I have told myself I am. First time we were both devastated by family member loss . Tried to rebound way too soon. So as we leave the past in past, we have not forgot. So now I test my new fortitude, boundarys & self esteem. Important to remember the signs of discontent if & when they come up. I have no problem pulling the plug on this reunion of sorts. Thanks for asking , cherish your vlogs.
No worries at all Brad.You sound very in control and self-aware, so I hope you look after yourself and do what is best for you.
Walk away if you can and don't ever look back. Let someone else deal with her s**t.
Oh they Listen alright!!!
Where is the PDF link that she references?
In the description
Lovely
more less most people are like this, including me.
My mother exactly
I have lost my children to a narcissist.
This sounds like my husband 😪
10/30 for me
How can that be possible...if they dont care ...at same time are sensitive ?
Zasha Zorbia whatever resources provide their benefit.. what ever card they can play it’s in their nature.. as she said they feed on nice people
Does this apply to female narcissists, as well ?
Yes. I believe they might be more manipulative. I had an ex who would play victim and I would fall for it because she was a really good actress lol
It sounds like narcissists are evil
My husband 😔
Oh my god.. What a fool I was....
We ALL were fooled by them. That's what we're all doing here. 1198 likes means that 1197 other people were fooled by the clever narc fakes.
drama queens!
Well im screwed cause im pretty sure my sister is one
you've nailed it. disgusting personalities.
Omg this is so my supervisor lol negative Nancy frfr
I think somebody close to me is a narcissist. I also think Trump and Duterte are narcissist too.
WOW. NO THANKS
WHERE IS THE LIES AND CHEATING