Dr Ramani: How to COPE In A Relationship With A NARCISSIST! | A Millennial Mind Podcast
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This week I am honoured to sit down with @DoctorRamani Narcissism Expert, Clinical Psychologist, and Professor of Psychology.
In this episode we delve into the complex world of narcissism and throughout this podcast we discuss:
How to identify different types of narcissistic behaviour
Different types of narcissism
How to spot toxic relationships in your life and navigate them
The complexity of narcissistic relationships
Is your parent a narcissistic? What should you do?
Tools to help you heal and understand the classic patterns of manipulation, control, gaslighting, and love bombing
Unpack feelings of betrayal, shame, confusion, and pain with 'Navigating Narcissism' and see the world's narcissists for what they truly are.
This episode truly opened my eyes and I hope that if you're struggling with narcissistic abuse this helps you too.
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Once you start to lose your sense of self, your identity, you know you’re in a toxic relationship.
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Interesting video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
Highly recommend getting Dr Ramani's new book on Audible, it's narrated by her and feels so validating and therapeutic to listen to!
Dr.Ramani’s tone of voice is so soothing to my nervous system. I want to hug her and thank her for shedding light on my pain.
The most powerful line I just heard recently was "you are the only one who can save you". That hit me hard. I am taking me back. ..I was on my last leg and I grew tired and stopped caring or trying as i also have a disability. I am over 40 yrs into this, both my
mental & physical health is almost depleated. Dr. Ramani, you've saved me just in time. Thank you. My eyes see, my ears hear ..im in the know❤ wheewew, thank goodness it's not me.
Yes I agree 💯 pay attention to how you feel after an interaction
Then the court system forces you to have to deal with them. Even after you leave and have a restraining order. The court system causes you to defend yourself while forcing you into a victim position while they are claiming to the court THEY are the victim.
Narcissism increasing with the collapse of joint families, hierarchies with generations living together.definion of morals changed. Social boundaries are being crossed easily. Last 2 decades there is exaggerated focus on self worth, individuality, self love, self identity, success. Nuclear families, broken families are raising more narcissists. Definition of ideal relationships are throwing egoistic people into narcissist category
My body wants to feel peace and happiness..so I am choosing me..I am choosing my body.
Yessss
Dr Ramani's presence exudes such a groundedness and beautiful intelligence 💫
When I had to testify in court, the judge told my two opponents (one of them my sister) that they both should stop picking fights and creating drama 😂 I always remember that sentence fondly 😊
the silent treatment does create panic - i was raised by a disabled narcissistic mother, her disability is being deaf and the silence has been traumatic to say the least
Crazy how these ppl want to control your life .. and their the most toxic out of control person in your life 😵💫
Many thanks Dr. Ramani and Shivani, can we please have more of this it's so insightful, isn't it🙏🌷🕊💝🤗
This interview was excellent!.. i absolutely love the questions you asked - there were so many that I’ve wanted to ask Dr Ramani myself! 😂… and Dr Ramani’s responses were awesome!.. She’s so thorough and her examples are so good!!
Super episode!🎉❤
Excellent discussion. The narcissistic behavior is so so well broken down to rule out other types of behavior.
I have started keeping my boundaries more because even for my success someone wants to control my happiness or put limits on my capabilities. Like you deserve more or you shld get a bigger raise or you are only a secondary earner whereas my success makes his life easier. So i don't give him the satisfaction of sharing my success and happiness. By doing so i have become more ambitious.
I became a doormat just to avoid conflicts but like Dr. Ramani said I've started getting angry and grieve for the last 27years I wasted. And the other person's delusions about who you are become stronger by your submission. They cannot comprehend that they are getting their way not because of love but out of fear of conflict.
Thank you Shivani👍
Yes, so true, the silent treatment is so toxic .. this has given me panic for reasons for decades. i have learnt to dismantle this treatment by using greyrock but still it hurts badly on the inside and i'm still learning to work with this pain and not letting this toxicity harm me even further 😢. Still a work in progress. Thanks so much for this episode.❤
I wonder how many people that walk around accusing others of being narcissists are actually narcissists themselves too. Seems like a word that gets thrown around a lot these days. I know it exists but at the same time I hope we aren’t just pathologizing people in our lives without being self aware of what our deficiencies are as well. I feel so many people are so quick to judge others without once looking about themselves.
You will know a narcissist. It’s evil -
There's a difference in a person that's just a dick And a person that has these personality traits. They're the same personality traits. You cannot deny them from the love bombing to the discarding. Even a dick don't know to do that.
I don’t think everyone understands narcissism when they use the word, but I do think it’s important to normalise it because it’s more harmful to the victim of narcissistic abuse to say their abuser is healthy than to falsely accuse someone of being a narcissist. Also the reality is that many humans are narcissists, and better to live in the real world, understand the traits, protect yourself. The fact that it’s starting to become part of our vocabulary even if it’s innocently misplaced, is healthy because we are bringing an understanding of what it is to light.
Brilliant episode, I’m half way through and so grateful for Dr Ramani, I have been watching her videos for years. Her content helped me through the most difficult times of my life. Thank you for all that you do Dr Ramani, and thank you for having such a great guest on your show Shivani.
Thank you for watching 💛 Dr Ramani is certainly the best
Help, my Narco experiencies were terrible but none were extroverts and very complimentary. I was more. They were quiet, charming and very amiable in public but chose me to abuse and bully in the house. No witnesses :( Thank you ffor a great interview in the subject with such an expert like Dr Ramani ❤❤
Dr Ramani is such a bad ass!!! You watch her stuff and it all begins to make sense.
Good video. My dad is a malignant narcissist. He threathened to kill me many times during my upbringing. He was always angry and agressive like that. I am now tryng to educate myself on this trait and diagnosis as much as I can. Thanks.
Super proud of the trajectory of this podcast Shivani! Loving the recent guests you’ve had on 🫶🏽🫶🏽👌🏽👌🏽
Thanks so much for the support 💛
It’s the 10 thousand things! Yep!
Thank you so much for this episode 💗💗
I have found all your books, videos and resources, informative, validating, life-changing/saving. Thank you. I find healing to come in stages, cycles, like grief. I have been unbelievably hard on me (destructive), to try to please parents, family, in-laws, boyfriends, friends, bosses all who didn't deserve...grieving this. Looking back is painful.
Love your feedback and your own short experiences during the talk!! Love your accent by the way❤️
Thanks so much! 😊
Thank you so so much
Thank you so much!
Really needed this clarity
So glad!
1:05:49 I like the analogy of the story of Cinderella without the prince. You will realize that the pumpkin didn't turn into a carriage. 😉
Oh my!! My 2 favs
Yep. Expected to be a mind reader when it's really their responsibility as well as no asking to do something. "Not taking an initiative to do",,, Have always told him he sets people up to fail by not giving pertinent information until after you could have used the information or when done with a task "you should have known that information",,,
'globally' yes! Belgium here, she is such an amazing lady
That contrast moment is 😢
I'm probably bad, but I literally jump up and down in gleeful joy, purposely in front of them, when he's given me the silent treatment. Ohh, the look I get. Hahaha 😅
OR you go silent because an overt malignant narcissist scares you half to death while he’s driving 80 mph on a major highway and then punches the windshield on passenger side where you sitting. Just listened to you where you mentioned shutting down. That happened to me when I married to my narc ex-husband.
You haven't talked of another aspect: being parasitic and a bully. They raise in their careers because they always find someone to do their job and get the laurels themselves and some of them even bully competitors. In this case, they bury the people that really merit to be in that post. Later as bosses, they are entitled, they bully or fire those who tell them "that cannot be done", "there are problems", those that being responsible give them a reality check. They hire other people, they keep those that do the job and do not disagree. A good example of the consequences is Stockton Rush.
my wife was secretly engaged in a romantic relationship with another man. Our conversation ended up with me apologizing how my 'mistreating her' made her cheat on me.
Im studying 📖 this at the moment my ex partner was with narcissist for 20 years 😢 i want to be there for her and support her Counseling aswell
I deserve a better biological father than the one I have! No-contact with him is working!
😢😢😢I keep going from one narc after another to the point where I don’t like myself and I feel it’s my fault
It's not you!
It's the love and light in you.
@@smilinglotus.kbraveThank you, you’re right
It’s time for a therapy
@@nataliabusko1432 I have been doing it since 2020 my one parent is the definition of a narc and a user
Why isn’t there talk about being in love with this person? I know I’m with a narcissist but I can’t leave him. I love him so much, he is my best friend. I can’t see my life without him. 😔 isn’t there any hope for them at all???
my EX boy friend actually got jealous, really riled, at Other People's birthday Parties!!
32:36 that was me since before elementary school
There's only one way to do something. Their way. LOL
I in no way believe narcs are only 10% of the population!😂 that would be a dream..studies can't read the population..i've honed my skills
Bit of constructive feedback, take it and apply it if you feel guided to.
Dr. Ramani is highly educated & experienced. Most of us are here to learn from her, not you. You are simply a moderator. Let your guest speak, uninterrupted. I kept getting the feeling through this episode that you were speaking OVER her & trying to perhaps educate or enlighten her on certain topics that came up.
I've watched dozens of her interviews & the hosts are always very receptive and mindful while she's speaking. Not trying to jump in and teach the little that they "think" they know. Please work on your interviewing skills. The frequent "Yes!" ..."Right!", etc. that you keep exclaiming while she's teaching the audience are simply distractions. You can nod and provide nonverbal feedback, but you don't need to be heard every 15 seconds. Let her finish her thought & THEN ask your follow up questions. Keep your anecdotal experiences to a minimum.
Would be nice to have time stamps
If someone is an arsehole doesn’t make them a narcissist. Some narcissists aren’t even overtly mean as they just want narcissist supply and do whatever it takes to get it. If that means dumping u for new supply so be it but they don’t have to be so called abusive as people think the abuser is a narcissist and it couldn’t be further from the truth
We found a narcissist 😂
@@nataliabusko1432 u found one don’t think so sorry to burst your bubble but I am an empath. Probably would prefer to be a narcissist than an empath. Empaths are always getting hurt
Well it’s time for these women to change and not to victimise themselves. Narcs are predators but I want to believe that women also are not stupid.
yep half indian. both parents narcs
Is Poppy’s grandma Filipina? 😀
What😢if you are married to a vulnerable narcissist?
🏃Prepare print bank statements, phone records, investments, do not write on them make copies. take screen shots of texts. Then run- get attorney or contact Tessa or free Legal service. You will blocked for everything. They use control and block all access as soon as you leave. MOST IMPORTANTLY DO NOT TELL THEM YOUR LEAVING.
I did
Dump his ass
Why do they look mad?
And sound mad?
@@j.g.8153because they truly hate themselves. If you try to help them they will resent you for being good. It’s a no win
I've never met a narcissist who's perfectionist, they tend to be pretty sloppy, careless, negligent, lazy and entitled, but I have met many abuse victims who were perfectionists who tried to accommodate the narcissistic parent/partner with their perfectionism and avoid their rage.
Dr. Ramani is often using the wrong terms and associations which end up demonizing abuse victims. She should stick with grandiosity when she describes narcissists, because that's more accurate.
Use mirror and u will see one 🤣🤣
Big eyes
Even if all this stuff were true. Is completely irrelevant !!!
Omg the ass kissing… 😩 this is a carbon copy of many of the interviews dr Armani has ALREADY done. What is the point of another repetitive interview