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I relate to your story and I was eventually discarded and replaced . so for now I have no desire to be close to anyone . I just live for myself. We want to be loved but if we aren’t loved the next option is to be needed . So we do things for people That help them then they accept the help and we feel needed. But needs are just an empty container. Love is what should fill the container. You’ve got to notice if someone enjoys making you feel loved . I am now left alone and empty . But I can slowly fill my own container .
To the letter writer, please get out of this non-relationship before it makes you sick. Life can be so good, but sometimes we have to walk away from people. I know it's hard.
He found a mother for both himself & his daughter. He isn't in good enough shape mentally for a healthy relationship. He may never be. Codependency is hell.
In another words, fully accept this man for who he is and know that it will always be this way with him. So all she has to do is decide if she is ok with living this way forever with him or not.
Do not quote me on this. But I'm almost certain that I once read a research study that said that the feelings of severe loneliness can cause the body to show symptoms as if it is literally dying; at least to some people. My point is that it is easy to say that we will all easily walk away from a relationship like that. But depending on how lonely you are statements like "it'd rather be alone" are easier said than done. So if anything I think this woman deserves our sympathy.
@ Sorry but this is all low frequency stuff. Sympathy won’t spur her into action. What she needs now is courage and boldness. No one is coming to save her.
She's been a great friend sticking with him during his hospitalization, then giving him a place to live and a place for his daughter. But she expects romance back and she is never going to get it from this man. She said he's loving and devoted to his daughter, but she also said she is the bridge between them, so does that mean he never acts loving and devoted and she is doing it for him?
We can love someone deeply but that doesn’t mean we have to become enmeshed or wrapped up in other people’s drama. We must come to a point where we are able to protect ourselves wrll enough to keep our hearts safe. Some people want certain things from others but aren’t able to reciprocate. Very often, this leaves the person on the receiving end most burned out, resentful, distant, etc. A relationship is supposed to be a two way street. Anything other than that can become way too complicated and undesirable.
@@missshannonsunshine Good for you and your mother. Truly good and decent men do not need people trying to convince others they are good and decent. It just simply is. No convincing needed
Oh my goodness..finally..someone who spoke truth to my situation. Im pursuing divorce..its uncontested. He is only really sad about losing the material things we gained together..a dismissive avoidant, who at times displays narcissism ..no empathy, but most of all can't admit anything wrong with himself. Im co dependent from a vulnerable narcissistic mother. My life is falling apart, but my God will heal, repair, mend it. Takes time..its a process. Thank you, Anna. God bless to all those who suffer.. May your eyes be opened and your heart be strengthened to do what is right for you, first. Be willing to reparent yourself. Then you have the relationships that will edify, bless, and be blessed!🙏❣️
She's codependent and also just a caretaker. There's no partnership or progress. Also you can't fill love into an empty person and expect that they will change 😢
A heart attack out of nowhere a year ago, even though he’s a healthy, fairly young guy. I think Anna is secretly thinking what I’m thinking too… but I digress..
Indeed. Nobody seems to notice...nobody seems to care....what changed in the last few years, why are there so many strange heart issues, cancers, deaths all of a sudden?
It also means attempting to use spirituality as a way of avoiding the hard, painful work is dealing with past traumas and unresolved emotional business. Henc the saying, “The only way out is through.”
Yes 🙌, thank you 🙏 for addressing. I personally think religion was created by narcissists. “Turn the other cheek”. Lack of accountability. Making it so easy to spiritually bypass. 😢😢😢😢
@ Uh. No. I’m afraid you’ve got that backwards. Spirituality is about the pinnacle of human emotional development. How people interact with the world when they master their emotions and their desires. Jesus spoke of turning the other cheek as an act of compassion for the person out of control. Just like walking away from someone itching for an argument and you see the drama for what it is and choose not to play the role they are trying to assign you. Remember, Jesus admonished Peter for drawing blood at Gethsemane in effort to prevent His arrest. When we master our Fear we move with loving kindness. We don’t wish to see others harmed even to help ourselves. Because that goes against who we are at our core, once we calm our fears. Narcissism is pure fear. Someone is so damaged and feels so badly about themselves that they try to convince the world that they are perfect in order to hide it. But there is no foundation or substance to the masquerade…and underneath is the panicky self-absorption of a traumatized child. Regardless of the outward age. Spiritual bypass is a misguided but genuine effort to master one’s emotions. But it doesn’t understand that the only way to do that is to (at first) embrace them. That mistake is understandable because those prone to spiritual bypass grow up in environments where their emotional being was abused and neglected. Their survival demanded that they reject and suppress that part of themselves. So they try to fix a problem with the only tool they have. Not knowing it’s the wrong tool for the job.
@ Kelly, the Bible was written by the Illuminati to control the masses. You are among the asses for believing it. Don’t believe everything you read. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. I hate stupid people.
My mum is draining me a ton right now. Both emotionally and financially. So i feel what the woman writes. Please protect yourself ! I need to take care of my terminally ill father right now, so I cant really avoid my mum. But I do shield myself internally from her. And stopped paying for everything. I make it harder for her to be so demanding. By the way, 3 days ago, she said to my brother "do not forget: I am an angel." 😂 truly hilarious . I would love to have her self image 🤪
My first thought was, how does someone with such a healthy childhood see this guy as a good and healthy match for her? Could be more of a person in denial of their own pain, so they’re drawn to someone with an abundance of pain, enough for two people situation.
0:22 "a way to dress up big mistakes as amazing and purposeful accomplishments." What a different world we would have if our culture taught us how to acknowledge and admit mistakes, and let go of them EARLY! 15:09 "You have to look at relationships for what they are and what they make you feel like right now. That's where your answer is."
I’ve been here. Most of my friends are still there. The new age spiritual ones fixate on “he’s wounded, I can’t just abandon him, he needs grace”, while my non spiritual friends just go “I’m in love with him” even when it’s clear they’re not getting anything from the man, they just can’t walk away. New age spirituality can really confuse things for people with trauma, and I think it makes it harder for those friends than the non spiritual ones, to get out of these bad relationships. I’m so glad I’m single and working on myself right now and that I’m not in a terrible relationship.
This is what happens when we empathic types find someone who wants a mom. I wonder what would happen if she cut down to just dealing with him 3 days a week, on her terms. I highly suspect she has work to do to develop more of her own interests and do things that energize her each day. We Empathic types were trained to caretake others. Gotta unbrainwash that shit at some point. With healthy boundaries around her time and energy, she could feel less depleted by him. And eventually realize he is not doing his own work. She's deep into the healing fantasy. Break the trauma bond!! Cut down how much you do for him by half!!! And see what happens.
Sounds like a man who had an event and decided that he needed a nurse and a purse. And there you were. I’m not judging - I’ve been that person. You need to get out. I did. You can, too. ❤
I would like some advice from anyone in the comments based off of this video. I don't know this woman, but it appears to me that she's allowing this because she is probably very lonely and feels like she has no better options... Most people who feel like they have no better options usually do so not because of lack of trying, but because no one that they desire wants them back. The user or parasite is usually a person that the lonely person does desire. Yet, they do not want them back. However, they are willing to at least give them attention. Which to a lonely person is like hope when you're drowning. When it comes to limerance, Anna's solution is usually have a happy life Full of friends, fun activities, and purpose, but what do you do when you have all that and you're trying to date, yet, You still have no good options? How do we keep ourselves from attaching to a person that doesn't want us (but strings us along), or that is clearly using us? All because we're so lonely and can't find anyone else?
Listen to the video with an open heart and mind. Motivation is one thing but underlying need for self worth is the root of her problem. Anna has it right ☆
She bonded to this guy - maybe through sex - spending time with him. Anna is right she needs a break from him to get perspective. Also the idea 💡 of being needed 😢😢. “You can save this person “. My mom didn’t show up for me. She didn’t have my back. Her favorite 😍 daughter moved away and left her 😢later in life. I showed up. I hoped she would change. She could have a loving 🥰 relationship. Nope 👎. She is still loyal to her favorites 😍
It will sound terrible.. but that's how I dealt with this, I accepted painful feelings and not running from uncomfortable sensations. Also understanding my relationships with parents. Bad partners, people who don't care are quick fix for present discomfort. You are not drowning, you are going to be alright. People you like don't like you is most common dynamic. Learn dating advices, how to spot emotionaly unavable, don't open up to those people, it draws them in, but they are usless partners, better drop them ASAP ec. Sorry but it is what it is. No one is going to save you, but you. People can give only advices based on their experience. Take it or find your own way
By allowing avoidants to keep doing what they're doing- we're just enabling them. Dysfunctional patterns need attention and a lot of hard inner work and noone can do it for another. They won't change unless they want to and if you're ok with being miserable for a long time keep the insanity cycle going
When a person tells you who they are believe them. I pretended through a avoidant man loved me too at one time. Wasted 15 years of precious time. Get away sister.
He using her for room and board. He was looking for a “nurse with a personal”. If he was healthy, he would’ve breadcrumbed her and discarded her. He’s not the man she’s looking for, they’re not equal yolked. She is seeing the real him.
This woman is a codependent. Her pride and desire for an authentic, lasting relationship has blinded her from all the red flags. She is delusional. She has created in her mind her perfect mate and has tagged this guy as him. 😑 She has savior/martyr syndrome.
This is not a relationship... this man didn't wanna be with "only" her at his prime, got health problems was vulnerable and found someone who rushed to take care of him. Didnt do anything to get this woman, promised her nothing and there she is so he let things be And he got used to that he get everything and the only thing he has to do is stick around. When things get itchy all he has to do is play the sick, traumatized and avoident card. He is a leecher. I hope this video talk sense to her and I really hope she works on herself and learn to love herself more 😢
I'm just going to say it so excuse my tough love.. he's using you. He doesn't care about you. He's only with you because you provide for him. If you stopped paying for everything, he would leave. And this part will especially hurt.. if he does eventually heal, he will leave you for someone with a little more self respect. You will be shocked at all the things he does for the new women that he didn't do for you and it will hurt a lot. Please leave him so you don't waste any more of your precious time with this man.
Like trying to extract love from a stone, girl it is not coming, I understand he is hurting but this savior complex of yours is not helping you or him, you need to get out and work on you. Sending love from Sweden❤
Jesus you are my King. I have complete trust in you. But I’m fearful because being a single mom with two children with special needs is overwhelming at times. Every month is a struggle to get by the cost of everything is rising. Lord Jesus as I struggle to pay rent, and as I struggle to buy groceries give me strength.😊
Here you are again, spamming every single UA-cam channel! This person cuts and pastes the same identical comment on videos all across YT. Don't be fooled by this scammer!
Good on you for calling her out! I see her everywhere, too! Shame on those that exploit people’s good hearts and vulnerabilities in channels like this. Must be profitable otherwise we would stop seeing this.
Tow adults who are old enough to know better but aren't consider ing the child at all. This is awful. When she walks away, and she will, she's already halfway out the door, it's going to harm the poor child much more than it does these self-centered supposed/alleged adults. Just so sad.
I'm The opposite the videos where she reads a letter are more helpful to me than the ones where she just talks. Because with the letters I have a visualized context of her message VS when she just talks about her message. Remember we are all at different stages and levels of trama, life, and our journey of healing-so it's hard for me to conceptualize what she is saying on a personal level if I've never experienced it without the letters to give me reference.
I love ❤️ the letters because they are like case studies. I am fascinated by people like you and my mom who can’t learn from and lack empathy 😮for other people’s life experiences/situations.
I love ❤️ the letters because they are like case studies. I am fascinated by people like you and my mom who can’t learn from and lack empathy 😮for other people’s life experiences/situations.
Giiiiirl just RUN. Or, in this case, make him leave your house. I am rn separating from my avoidant ex. There is NO fixing them. It's a dead end. Focus on your wounds instead of focusing on his to steer away from your pain. You can do it! 🙏🏻🫂🙏🏻
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I relate to your story
and I was eventually discarded and replaced .
so for now I have no desire to be close to anyone .
I just live for myself.
We want to be loved
but if we aren’t loved the next option is to be needed .
So we do things for people That help them then they accept the help and we feel needed.
But needs are just an empty container.
Love is what should fill the container.
You’ve got to notice if someone enjoys making you feel loved .
I am now left alone and empty . But I can slowly fill my own container .
Well put. Thank you for sharing.
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When you are not loved , you are not loved .... but being starved of real connection can make you see what you wanna see 💔💔💔
Girl, he’s using you!
Not sure why I cannot make my own comment but only add on to other comments ?
To the letter writer, please get out of this non-relationship before it makes you sick. Life can be so good, but sometimes we have to walk away from people. I know it's hard.
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The writer is held hostage by emotional priates on a relation ship!
Please call the coast guard!
Sometimes we need HARD LOVE. Thank you!
Tough love
He found a mother for both himself & his daughter. He isn't in good enough shape mentally for a healthy relationship. He may never be. Codependency is hell.
In another words, fully accept this man for who he is and know that it will always be this way with him. So all she has to do is decide if she is ok with living this way forever with him or not.
The level of self deception is astounding. If this guy who is a burden & a walking red flag is my only option then I’d rather be solo.
Do not quote me on this. But I'm almost certain that I once read a research study that said that the feelings of severe loneliness can cause the body to show symptoms as if it is literally dying; at least to some people.
My point is that it is easy to say that we will all easily walk away from a relationship like that. But depending on how lonely you are statements like "it'd rather be alone" are easier said than done. So if anything I think this woman deserves our sympathy.
@ Sorry but this is all low frequency stuff. Sympathy won’t spur her into action. What she needs now is courage and boldness. No one is coming to save her.
You can't get love out of a stone..
She's been a great friend sticking with him during his hospitalization, then giving him a place to live and a place for his daughter. But she expects romance back and she is never going to get it from this man. She said he's loving and devoted to his daughter, but she also said she is the bridge between them, so does that mean he never acts loving and devoted and she is doing it for him?
The more she wants it, the less he is willing to give it?
My heart ♥️ 😢 cries for her. Why does she know she Deserves SO MUCH BETTER!!
We can love someone deeply but that doesn’t mean we have to become enmeshed or wrapped up in other people’s drama. We must come to a point where we are able to protect ourselves wrll enough to keep our hearts safe. Some people want certain things from others but aren’t able to reciprocate. Very often, this leaves the person on the receiving end most burned out, resentful, distant, etc. A relationship is supposed to be a two way street. Anything other than that can become way too complicated and undesirable.
Whenever I hear a woman say "He's a good man." It's a red flag. 🚩
If you ask what makes the man so good. They go silent. 🦗🦗🦗
Exactly! How is he a "good" man? What does he do that's so good?!
That’s weird. I always have many reasons. My mother as well
@@missshannonsunshine Good for you and your mother. Truly good and decent men do not need people trying to convince others they are good and decent. It just simply is. No convincing needed
The comments here are extraordinary!!!! ❤❤❤❤😮😮😮😮
😮😮 OUR BODIES DO KEEP THE SCORE
Anna well spoken
An if this lady doesn't leave
Him ,shes gonna have some hardships
And deserves 😢so much more out of life. ❤❤❤❤
Oh my goodness..finally..someone who spoke truth to my situation.
Im pursuing divorce..its uncontested. He is only really sad about losing the material things we gained together..a dismissive avoidant, who at times displays narcissism ..no empathy, but most of all can't admit anything wrong with himself.
Im co dependent from a vulnerable narcissistic mother. My life is falling apart, but my God will heal, repair, mend it. Takes time..its a process.
Thank you, Anna. God bless to all those who suffer.. May your eyes be opened and your heart be strengthened to do what is right for you, first. Be willing to reparent yourself. Then you have the relationships that will edify, bless, and be blessed!🙏❣️
🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Wow that letter writer wrote that whole long letter about every single thing about this guys life.
She's codependent and also just a caretaker. There's no partnership or progress. Also you can't fill love into an empty person and expect that they will change 😢
Wow, such amazing words in the end, i will remember it
I always hoped my mom 😢would change.
A heart attack out of nowhere a year ago, even though he’s a healthy, fairly young guy. I think Anna is secretly thinking what I’m thinking too… but I digress..
Indeed. Nobody seems to notice...nobody seems to care....what changed in the last few years, why are there so many strange heart issues, cancers, deaths all of a sudden?
What do you mean??
You can't save anyone but yourself
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My biggest issue with religion is “Jesus will save you” - we all need to save ourselves!!!!
Amazing how these videos keep on being so relevant and accurate !!
Sure is difficult.
Thanks for being some company 😊🙋
It also means attempting to use spirituality as a way of avoiding the hard, painful work is dealing with past traumas and unresolved emotional business.
Henc the saying, “The only way out is through.”
Yes 🙌, thank you 🙏 for addressing. I personally think religion was created by narcissists. “Turn the other cheek”. Lack of accountability.
Making it so easy to spiritually bypass. 😢😢😢😢
Unresolved emotional business...
Woah
Thank you for that
@ Uh. No. I’m afraid you’ve got that backwards. Spirituality is about the pinnacle of human emotional development. How people interact with the world when they master their emotions and their desires.
Jesus spoke of turning the other cheek as an act of compassion for the person out of control. Just like walking away from someone itching for an argument and you see the drama for what it is and choose not to play the role they are trying to assign you. Remember, Jesus admonished Peter for drawing blood at Gethsemane in effort to prevent His arrest. When we master our Fear we move with loving kindness. We don’t wish to see others harmed even to help ourselves. Because that goes against who we are at our core, once we calm our fears.
Narcissism is pure fear. Someone is so damaged and feels so badly about themselves that they try to convince the world that they are perfect in order to hide it. But there is no foundation or substance to the masquerade…and underneath is the panicky self-absorption of a traumatized child. Regardless of the outward age.
Spiritual bypass is a misguided but genuine effort to master one’s emotions. But it doesn’t understand that the only way to do that is to (at first) embrace them. That mistake is understandable because those prone to spiritual bypass grow up in environments where their emotional being was abused and neglected. Their survival demanded that they reject and suppress that part of themselves. So they try to fix a problem with the only tool they have. Not knowing it’s the wrong tool for the job.
@ Kelly, the Bible was written by the Illuminati to control the masses. You are among the asses for believing it. Don’t believe everything you read. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. I hate stupid people.
My mum is draining me a ton right now. Both emotionally and financially. So i feel what the woman writes. Please protect yourself ! I need to take care of my terminally ill father right now, so I cant really avoid my mum. But I do shield myself internally from her. And stopped paying for everything. I make it harder for her to be so demanding. By the way, 3 days ago, she said to my brother "do not forget: I am an angel." 😂 truly hilarious . I would love to have her self image 🤪
I'm sorry, normally shouldn't judge but sounds like a narcissistic mother, so sorry 😢
Wishing her well with kicking him out, it's going to be really hard but I hope she follows through
My first thought was, how does someone with such a healthy childhood see this guy as a good and healthy match for her? Could be more of a person in denial of their own pain, so they’re drawn to someone with an abundance of pain, enough for two people situation.
0:22 "a way to dress up big mistakes as amazing and purposeful accomplishments." What a different world we would have if our culture taught us how to acknowledge and admit mistakes, and let go of them EARLY!
15:09 "You have to look at relationships for what they are and what they make you feel like right now. That's where your answer is."
Excellent ❤❤❤
But what if it goes back and forth? Some days it’s great and makes happy enough but other days it’s deeply distressing
She’s basically his mother.
I’ve been here. Most of my friends are still there. The new age spiritual ones fixate on “he’s wounded, I can’t just abandon him, he needs grace”, while my non spiritual friends just go “I’m in love with him” even when it’s clear they’re not getting anything from the man, they just can’t walk away. New age spirituality can really confuse things for people with trauma, and I think it makes it harder for those friends than the non spiritual ones, to get out of these bad relationships. I’m so glad I’m single and working on myself right now and that I’m not in a terrible relationship.
This is what happens when we empathic types find someone who wants a mom. I wonder what would happen if she cut down to just dealing with him 3 days a week, on her terms. I highly suspect she has work to do to develop more of her own interests and do things that energize her each day. We Empathic types were trained to caretake others. Gotta unbrainwash that shit at some point.
With healthy boundaries around her time and energy, she could feel less depleted by him. And eventually realize he is not doing his own work. She's deep into the healing fantasy. Break the trauma bond!! Cut down how much you do for him by half!!! And see what happens.
The universe isn’t playing around today.
You’re channel is so invaluable 🤍
Glad you're here :) -Calista@TeamFairy
I'm so glad that you said that the universe isn't playing around today, because I hope the universe cares about all of us!
Great, reality checking advice!👏🏾👏🏾
Sounds like a man who had an event and decided that he needed a nurse and a purse. And there you were. I’m not judging - I’ve been that person. You need to get out. I did. You can, too. ❤
I would like some advice from anyone in the comments based off of this video.
I don't know this woman, but it appears to me that she's allowing this because she is probably very lonely and feels like she has no better options... Most people who feel like they have no better options usually do so not because of lack of trying, but because no one that they desire wants them back. The user or parasite is usually a person that the lonely person does desire.
Yet, they do not want them back. However, they are willing to at least give them attention. Which to a lonely person is like hope when you're drowning.
When it comes to limerance, Anna's solution is usually have a happy life Full of friends, fun activities, and purpose, but what do you do when you have all that and you're trying to date, yet, You still have no good options?
How do we keep ourselves from attaching to a person that doesn't want us (but strings us along), or that is clearly using us? All because we're so lonely and can't find anyone else?
I would upvote this comment
Listen to the video with an open heart and mind. Motivation is one thing but underlying need for self worth is the root of her problem. Anna has it right ☆
She bonded to this guy - maybe through sex - spending time with him. Anna is right she needs a break from him to get perspective.
Also the idea 💡 of being needed 😢😢. “You can save this person “.
My mom didn’t show up for me. She didn’t have my back. Her favorite 😍 daughter moved away and left her 😢later in life. I showed up. I hoped she would change. She could have a loving 🥰 relationship. Nope 👎. She is still loyal to her favorites 😍
It will sound terrible.. but that's how I dealt with this, I accepted painful feelings and not running from uncomfortable sensations. Also understanding my relationships with parents. Bad partners, people who don't care are quick fix for present discomfort. You are not drowning, you are going to be alright.
People you like don't like you is most common dynamic. Learn dating advices, how to spot emotionaly unavable, don't open up to those people, it draws them in, but they are usless partners, better drop them ASAP ec.
Sorry but it is what it is. No one is going to save you, but you. People can give only advices based on their experience. Take it or find your own way
@ nice 👍 😊
Run!!!!!
Codependency- Dianna wants to do his work.
By allowing avoidants to keep doing what they're doing- we're just enabling them. Dysfunctional patterns need attention and a lot of hard inner work and noone can do it for another. They won't change unless they want to and if you're ok with being miserable for a long time keep the insanity cycle going
its hard to put into words, but the book Magnetic Aura from Talesio completely changed my life and it's not new age bs
When a person tells you who they are believe them. I pretended through a avoidant man loved me too at one time. Wasted 15 years of precious time. Get away sister.
"Anxious leaning secure attachment" - I don't mean to be rude but there is nothing secure here.
A parasite can have a secure attachment and not provide beneficial results for both parties. Symbiosis is mutually beneficial.
So good advice
John sounds great 😂 scaling the heights there 🎉
Great 👍 video!!! This is what people get from Alan on. Yet, you can feed it to people. “If you know, you know”. ❤❤❤😅😅😅😊😊😊😊🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻
This was so helpful. Thank you.
Lol this is so true! Some spiritual people turn everything around and it is not accurate.
Thanks for sharing
He using her for room and board. He was looking for a “nurse with a personal”. If he was healthy, he would’ve breadcrumbed her and discarded her. He’s not the man she’s looking for, they’re not equal yolked. She is seeing the real him.
Hi Anna, what do you mean by 'some people's calling is to love people that can't love back'? 9:44 Thanks for the great video once again!
It’s so sad that we can’t see it ourselves and need someone else to tell that it is codependency..
The need to save him is so strong, she's not saving herself. Sad.
This woman is a codependent. Her pride and desire for an authentic, lasting relationship has blinded her from all the red flags. She is delusional. She has created in her mind her perfect mate and has tagged this guy as him. 😑
She has savior/martyr syndrome.
Cuz he's good looking...🤔
This is not a relationship... this man didn't wanna be with "only" her at his prime, got health problems was vulnerable and found someone who rushed to take care of him. Didnt do anything to get this woman, promised her nothing and there she is so he let things be And he got used to that he get everything and the only thing he has to do is stick around. When things get itchy all he has to do is play the sick, traumatized and avoident card. He is a leecher. I hope this video talk sense to her and I really hope she works on herself and learn to love herself more 😢
Denial
He was in prison😮
This sounds like a social work internship. OMG!!!
Did Ashley write this? #loveisblind
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My unhinged rant:
I very important man in my life had a
You can't get love out of a stone..
I'm just going to say it so excuse my tough love.. he's using you. He doesn't care about you. He's only with you because you provide for him. If you stopped paying for everything, he would leave. And this part will especially hurt.. if he does eventually heal, he will leave you for someone with a little more self respect. You will be shocked at all the things he does for the new women that he didn't do for you and it will hurt a lot. Please leave him so you don't waste any more of your precious time with this man.
sounds like the guy might be on a horrible anti depressant too
Like trying to extract love from a stone, girl it is not coming, I understand he is hurting but this savior complex of yours is not helping you or him, you need to get out and work on you. Sending love from Sweden❤
Jesus you are my King. I have complete trust in you. But I’m fearful because being a single mom with two children with special needs is overwhelming at times. Every month is a struggle to get by the cost of everything is rising. Lord Jesus as I struggle to pay rent, and as I struggle to buy groceries give me strength.😊
I wish you strength and abundance 🙏✨💞
Sending you love 💝 and Light 🌞 🌻🙏🥹😘💙🌻🥹🥹😘💙🌻🥹🥹😘💙🌻🙏🥹😘🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
You got this!!!! ❤❤❤
Here you are again, spamming every single UA-cam channel! This person cuts and pastes the same identical comment on videos all across YT. Don't be fooled by this scammer!
Good on you for calling her out! I see her everywhere, too! Shame on those that exploit people’s good hearts and vulnerabilities in channels like this. Must be profitable otherwise we would stop seeing this.
Omg the # of women I know who do this! I call it "gilding a turd" (sorry if language offends anyone) 😂
Tow adults who are old enough to know better but aren't consider ing the child at all. This is awful. When she walks away, and she will, she's already halfway out the door, it's going to harm the poor child much more than it does these self-centered supposed/alleged adults. Just so sad.
Don't like the letters
I'm The opposite the videos where she reads a letter are more helpful to me than the ones where she just talks. Because with the letters I have a visualized context of her message VS when she just talks about her message. Remember we are all at different stages and levels of trama, life, and our journey of healing-so it's hard for me to conceptualize what she is saying on a personal level if I've never experienced it without the letters to give me reference.
I love ❤️ the letters because they are like case studies. I am fascinated by people like you and my mom who can’t learn from and lack empathy 😮for other people’s life experiences/situations.
I love ❤️ the letters because they are like case studies. I am fascinated by people like you and my mom who can’t learn from and lack empathy 😮for other people’s life experiences/situations.
I disagree with your comment. The letters are so important
Giiiiirl just RUN. Or, in this case, make him leave your house. I am rn separating from my avoidant ex. There is NO fixing them. It's a dead end. Focus on your wounds instead of focusing on his to steer away from your pain. You can do it! 🙏🏻🫂🙏🏻
😢😢😢🙌🙌🙌🥹🥹🥹🥹🌻🌻🌻🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏😘😘😘😘
🙏🙏🙏🪷🕊️🐛⛩️🦋
😮😮 OUR BODIES DO KEEP THE SCORE
That's the name of a book by Bessel van der Kolk.