He's right, you have to have value in yourself first by limiting your time, effort and energy towards someone until they are trying to earn you. Too many times we are projecting all of our interest and trying sell our ''good' qualities to someone when they haven't even qualified themselves for you on that level just yet.
Yes its really not that complicated when you boil it down. He breaks things down into huge amounts of details and behaviours and patterns. But I honestly think they are pointless. If you don't have the value for yourself you are always faking it. Value yourself and have intelligent behavioral boundaries and all the crazy games are no longer needed because the behaviours he talks about become your default behaviours.
@@serendipitousbliss6548 and value him too.... Starting when you are on a date with them, don't think he has to earn your time by paying for you. That's the shortest way to not get a second date. Value yourself and respect his time too. Go into the dating scene as equals, not thinking oh why not worse case I get a free dinner out of it somewhere nice.
@@u3962521 right or wrong,I follow through the good manners code-if i invite,I pay...If im invited well ...🤷♀️...in all honesty I would always like to pay so that people won't think God knows what which is not always nice...a man likes to feel like a man,sometimes they don't take that very well so if they insist then I insist to either pay for drinks,taxi or a next date...but can I just say that I hate when someone says let's split,I find that to be so tacky
Visual chemistry(the way you behave/talk, nothing about looks)-->Perceived value(the asset you have and how to show it)-->Perceived challenge(every guy needs to realize everything has be earned)-->Connection(get down to who he/she really is, asking why they do it)
I am a woman who always like to take care of myself, I can't deny that I wanted to be a beautiful woman not because I wanted to impress guys but I wanted to have a confident in myself. Focus on your own well-being and it will lead you to better opportunities not just by attracting men but also a career improvement.
1. Your Presence. What values you root yourself in. Yin, calm, zero inner tension or inner resistence, reseptive first, versus Yang mind spinning/tension/comparison/competitive/not enough-feeling/rush ahead habits. 2. Perceived Value, Physically practiced High Status signaling abilities. Your ability to Interpret and Respond to anyones shit, really well high quality (frame control) 3. Perceived Challenge, Standards. Requirements. Boundaries. Respect. 4. Connection. Ability to ask great questions and/or connect. Your knowledge base used to appreciate their interests versus showing off or one-upping others.
Ladies, Dont get so caught up in trying to get the guy! A guy does not want the "thirsty" women. Wait. Be patient. The guy will come to you, i can assure that.
I am watching these videos strictly so I can identify if I am doing something wrong…. Like across the board wrong that will always give me bad results… But I realize my problem is I never even meet a guy that I want. My father made fun of me one time I had a book from the library about what men want or how they think. I honestly so much happier just being myself and not caring. I only look into these things to study human behavior and natural consequences of life the way it operates because life in general doesn’t make good sense to me. But honestly my problem is that I never meet a guy that I want. Hopefully after watching all these videos I’ll learn something new but so far I haven’t. I am honestly so disgruntled by the male species and how they operate. I already know the name of the game quit looking for love do your own thing entirely fully wholly. Cut out the bullshit people. Smooth sailing. I’m looking for a year no drama. I love it when a guy will say oh this is why you don’t have a man when I get angry. Hah! You didn’t make the cut buddy boy. I’ve actually never had a guy that turned me down that I wanted to be with.. sorrrrrrrry boy. Not my problem. If you desire MY attention and affection… then it’s You who has the problem. Can’t call a woman Queen and treat her like a dog. Foolish players. I am so done with even subscribing to this channel because I literally don’t give a **** about the stupid f***ing game. I am too evolved to lower myself to this shit. Good for Matthew Hussey for identifying an amazing way to make a living . I honestly only wish I could meet a man that I would want. It just doesn’t happen! I pick up on the red flags instantly… sometimes I danced anyway, just to find my instincts are right. I don’t want to be a self-fulfilling Prophecy of bitter and alone. I already know the rules to the game and I could play it just fine if I have to. But after all these videos I realize I don’t know how to solve the problem of meeting quality men. I don’t see myself trying to be more feminine to attract a masculine man and sh*t like that… to hell with anybody who affects my life negatively. I know I am a quality woman and human being but at this point I have nothing to prove to anybody because maybe I’m just a coldhearted ruthless b*tch now. Ain’t nobody interest me. These fools are weak and stupid
(Cause I'm rewatching for the 4th time and would like to keep a reference in this page) 1. Visual Chemistry (looks + movements + facial expressiosn + body language in general) 2. Perceived Value (being able to sell yourself) 3. Perceived Challenge (people value what they earn) 4. Connection (questions - meeting their unmet needs creatively)
This is true, I recall a guy in a band who was fat, had frizzy hair, average face, and balding. The guy had all the women going after him. He had a charisma, attitude, and self confidence that was unreal. Same I am sure for women, in fact I have a friend who makes people feel wonderful about themselves thus many men and people in general want to be in her presence.
Visual chemistry: facial expression, chamelion effect, charismatic, hot Percieved value: show that you worth, bring so much to them Percieved challange: people value what they earn
Update: He ask if I had boyfriend, because he had to keep calling, and I wasn't calling him. He indicated, I was the only one he is seeing, and wants a relationship. SMH!
+Nicole E There are a few factors in how to make a man fall in love with you. One plan I found that successfully combines these is the Maras magic words (check it out on google) without a doubt the most incredible resource i've seen. Check out all the awesome info .
Dear Matthew, you are the best, you have such a gift, I don't know how you got so smart but you are just the bees knees, thank you for helping so many people, like me! You help me every time I watch one of your videos, maybe one day I will get to meet you, if not know you always have someone in your corner just so appreciative of who you are and what you do. Just wanted to let you know and give the shout out from South Florida, you are the bomb my friend!!! Keep up the good work!!!!
Matthew, I have followed you for a while now as well [following the related videos and different channels you've been on]. I've noticed how far you've come [writing your own book, being on shows and getting more followers]. I'm so proud of you & happy to be part of your journey. Thank you for teaching my (once) clueless self how to get the guy. I adore you & hope to keep seeing you succeed [as well as meeting you one day to tell you how you've helped me :) ] May you keep being blessed! :D
Thank you Matthew, I really love your style and positive way of talking. You really hit the nail on the head every single time. I am 16 years old, which may sound very young, but love can be difficult at every age I believe. I will definitly order your book! Love from the Netherlands! x
I love it when a guy who's in good shape, has comic book hero facial features tells us how its not really about looks. It's ALL about looks. The rest is just being not creepy.
that comment actually disgusts me, im sorry that you feel so low about yourself. why would i say that? because this comment says a lot about yourself and the people who liked it. its been two years, so i hope you think more highly of yourself now:)
Totally agree with what you are said about visual chemistry! It was my first date with this guy and dinner was great and we had a lot of stuff in common and we kept great conversation and I was really excited about getting to spend time with him. Well after dinner, we then go for a walk, and wanting to walk closer to him and touch him, I wrapped my hand around his bicep (I have a weakness for guys with nice arms (its such a masculine feature)). Well then he takes my hand and holds it, which was fine, but then he started rubbing it a lot and then he put his head on my shoulder while we were walking and was like nuzzling me. I didn't feel any animal attraction anymore after that haha... I want a proud lion, not a cute kitty.
I feel like I enjoy that once you know the guy more. When he's already your bf, it's sweet when a guy puts his head in your lap or on your shoulder and shows vulnerability. It's like he trusts you enough to let his softer side show and allow you to care for him. However the first date...yah I could see why that would be offputting. It's natural for women to gravitate towards strong men.
Two years ago I read Neil Strauss' "The Game", I'm a girl, and I kept wondering whether it could be adapted to women looking for a relationship. Looks like you've cracked it Matthew :) thanks a million, regardless of what you earn, you're still doing a massive favour to all women! I am definitely getting the book, and if I get the courage, I'll try buying a copy for a friend or two who need it :)
He's totally right, this crap works. I used to be really outgoing and animated.... and I would literally end up with nutters following me about. One guy after meeting me for 5 minutes, later told me ( mind you he was on ecstasy at the time, which tends to make you overly open and honest) that he was so attracted to me that he had been dreaming about me. Since then, Ive had severe situations arise on more than one occasion...with both sexes... which have made me go the other direction, and now I generally act nearly catatonic to get the least amount of attention possible. Just know how to control this juju or you'll end up attracting all sorts of nutters you dont even want to imagine. And note well, that in any situation that turns into two guys kind of bickering over you, you will inevitably end up being the one who gets blamed. May the force be with you. PS- Im actually also 2 stone overweight so it's not looks.
Matthew's advice really works, Its amazing, i am addicted, my love life has never been this interesting! Cant wait to try all of the advice in these videos!
@Matthew Hussey I just wanted to thank you for what you're doing! It's very nearly mindblowing to see just a normal guy caring enough to do something like help women in their relationships, of all things. You've a heart of gold. God bless!
You are completely right; I've also experienced this phenomenon so often, that I actually feel attracted by the charisma of a man, not necessarily his looks...the same goes for women and their attractiveness
"You don't have to play games, but you have to set up a challenge". Contradiction. What if I don't want to bring him through a challenge? What if complete sincerity and respect is more appealing to me then playing the game of "being hard to get" ? I mean, if I like a man and want to spend time with him, I want to go for it. I don't want to pretend like I don't. And I wouldn't want the person I'm attracted to to set up a deliberate challenge for me either.
+tanyaakh I think that you dont have to pretend to be a challenge... you really have to be one, have your own activities, go out with friends, visit your family, work, gym, etc. Then you are not lying or playing games when you say ''I cant today... how about next friday?''
Not a contradiction. You're not playing games, you're simply not being a doormat. If you are so desperate that you would date ANYONE, even if they were rude or didn't have a job/goals or wanted to take up ALL of your time. Don't bend over backwards for someone you literally just met. I know girls who have skipped class for the guys in their life, who will cancel on family dinners or GNOs just because their crush wanted to hang out. It also means having your own life, goals, career, and friends. Being a challenge means that someone needs to earn you, just like you wouldn't go out with ANY guy.
bombervity I actually thought that being a challenge and having your own life/goals apart from a guy are two completely different subjects. I mean...sure I have my own life and if I don't want to go out with a guy on some particular day because I have an appointment with my friend, there's no problem with me saying no to him. What I understood by the challenge is to say no when you actually wanted and planned to say yes. That's playing games to me. It's like "oh I want to spend time with him now, but I have to be hard to get so I'll contradict myself and say no". If the "challenge" is deliberate it's insincere. Having your own life doesn't equal to me being a challenge.
Well, then you get a guy who doesn't value you as much because men always value what they had to work for more than what was tossed in their lap. Actually, that's true of most people, about anything. Playing games would be lying, or misleading. Not dropping everything to be with the guy every time he calls you is being a challenge. Not hopping into bed the first time he tries is being a challenge, not playing games. (Matthew suggests saying something like, 'part of me would really like to do that, but I don't normally move that fast'. You've shown your interest, but you've also shown him you value yourself and he needs to invest in you if he wants to be with you. Way different than playing games.)
You on point Sis. When a girl does that to me and make me chase. I drop her and carry on. I don't have time. I will value her if we have the same value. If she's kool sure I give it a shot.
So I’ve been dating this guy for a year and half now. We met at work. Some people kept coming up to me and saying someone at work likes me but they wouldn’t tell me who. Eventually I figured it out. What really attracted me to him was the small acts of kindness he would do for me... The signs were all there it just took me sometime for me to see it. He would always insist on giving me a ride home because he didn’t want me walking home alone in the dark. Or the one day I felt sick at work and he made sure I was ok. In the beginning I was sort of dating this guy that actually had no interest in being my boyfriend. It took me the hard way to find out. And then everything clicked! There I was, chasing a guy who already had his fill when the right guy was right in front of me everyday. So after some frustrating text messages with old boy that already got what he wanted I said “what am I doing. Someone clearly likes me for who I am and wants to get to know me more.” So I just blocked the guy and a couple weeks later got the courage to ask the guy at work out. I was so nervous because everyone was telling me how my guy was inexperience and didn’t have a girlfriend before me. So I send him a text “hey how do you feel about seeing this movie this weekend? I’ve been wanting to go see it and I think it’d be really cool if you come.” I know so cheesy but totally worked lol. Sometimes we argue a lot now, but honestly what healthy couple doesn’t? I always said, if you don’t argue or fight with someone is because you don’t care about them. Anyways, a year and half later and he’s still opening doors for me. That’s all that it’s about. It’s not about who’s paying the first date or giving you flowered and gifts and diamonds... it’s the small acts of kindness and words that really evolve love.
The video itself is "visually" distracting given the fact you are very attractive! However, this is by far, my favorite video. It is right on the dot. I don't think anyone has ever explained it better than you. Not even those "experts" ever explained this as simple yet in a empowering way. Thanks so much Matthew!
Well, i'm in my mid 20's and still most men are impressed, they thought it was a good thing. But then again, it's my choice, i don't care what they think. But really there's nothing to be ashamed of. It's not gonna scare them away.
You're right Matthew. I'm now in love with you just from watching YOU talk. OK, I'm only half serious. I'm married, happily. But if I weren't. And for the record. You are very much right. You know both men and women very well. Good job. Great videos.
Part 2 Try going out and looking for the people that clearly arent interested. Try having a convo and take note on what it takes to communicate with them. These are ques you can use to help your engagement process with others.
Ive found that people that arent as approachable are people that have a lot on their mind. Take some time to pay attention to what youre thinking about when youre out in public. Write this down or text yourself every time you realize that youve zoned out. The key here is to take charge of your existence and be more inclined to living in the moment. When you do so you can control your facial expressions and people will be able to pick up ques to spark a conversation with you.
It's so strange when you were talking about the attraction and saying "it's about how you talk, how you gesture" I was thinking- obviously you've learnt how to do that!
the attraction formula is realizing you don't need videos like these to waste more energy on "attracting" people....if you work on yourself then people will be attracted to you naturally . a woman never loses her worth she just forgets it! he does make very valid points but the point is don't put so much energy into needing a man/woman ..... imo if you're a whole spirit then you can fully love and attract positivity which includes positive people/mates
It's true, but my friend who has only focused on working on herself her whole life is now becoming really concerned because nothing is happening to her in her love life and she doesn't know what to do or how to do it. I'm recommending her Matt's videos because I think she needs it.
I agree with you, but sometimes people are confused about positivity. Some of it is the same for all people, but positive energy is DIFFERENT for men and for women, so a woman projecting male energy won’t be attractive to men. Some women need to unlearn feminist ideals that men are attracted to status, money, etc - nope, men are attracted to kind, warm, smiling, generous women. Women who did well in a man’s world and expect a man like them will be disappointed.
Hi Matthew, I l love to watching all your videos and this is probably one of the most amazing subject and tips that I've heard among all of these! I love the concept and the reason you throw it out on the table ! Just love it. I would love to go to one of your retreat one day and hopefully in this upcoming year ! Thank you X
i was in the same situation and there are a few things you can do: 1) KNOW what you want. and if someone is not fitting in - write him off your list immediately. don´t even think about a second date. #waste of time 2) SEE the guys and only(!) the guys that fit your needs in terms of visual chemistry. you are attracted to them for a reason! 3) RELAX - there are plenty of fish in the ocean. 4) FIND new places to meet men - cause mr. charming is not hanging out the boring guys you already met.
I'm so overwhelmed! Haha I just go for it and scrap the rules. When you break it down it gets so complicated kinda. But awesome advice! I needed a lot of that. Thanks for changing my life in a way.
Listen to this guy i am not celebrity looking girl, so far from it but im not ugly either but i take care of myself and never chase a man and always ready to leave them if they won't meet my standards. I am 38 years old woman and i attract even 25 year old kid. Be a challenge, and i dont do this to play games. I am really challenging by nature.
My boyfriend said the things that made him first love me were what I wore and my perfume 😂 of course he now loves my personality but whenever I wear the perfume that he fist met me wearing he always says it reminds him of that day
Soo true. its not what a person looks like but how they present themselves. found a guy with the first 3 all the way but there was no connection at all he wouldn't open up.
hey matthew, i really love your videos & think they're really on the point & thoughtful. I wondered if you maybe could an extra video about the visual attraction with the walking and gesturing? I'd think that would be very interesting :-) have an amazing day! x
Matt Hussey is the man!... in this moment we are all just running through the past relationships and trying to pinpoint moments where the Attraction Formula applied lol.
Yeah. I love Matthew's advice, not because he's good-looking, but because he is so honest, blunt, and optimistic about it all. Even if I do think he's attractive (I mean, let's face it, he is) that doesn't mean his advice is any less or more than it is in reality. I just wish all these women would take it for what it is and stop drowning in the shallow end of the pool. :)
you also need to show how much you value him if you make it a big challenge for him to show how valuable you are and he finds out that you didn't do it to other men before him then you are saying you don't value him
i recently met a guy , and i think there's something there, but it has been stagning for a little bit , and watching your videos tonight, made me realise where i was going wrong , this is verry helpful to me at the right time !! ( i've been watching your videos for almost 5 hours now lol) and i think i get what i have to do, now all i need is some beauty sleep for tomorrow ;) ( after the next video ) XD
Let's be practical we all make assumptions and profile each other. as humans we have no other way to organize all the information we get from others. Don't we all, or at least most of us, make assumptions based upon clothes, cars, body language, actions, etc ? It's very human.
But do we really always do that? I know I don't, I'm lazy, I don't try different things and that's why, many times, I don't get what I want in life... Unfortunately, life is a competition. You may not try to do your best, but you won't get good results...
can I tell you Metthew hussey .its heard for me to remember name but yours I just got it.. with so much respect.. you are an angel for me.. thank you for your guidance .
I went on a date with a friend and it turned out that he had low "perceived value" and "perceived challenge" of me. He was very rude and awful to me on the date. Fast forward 4 months, I got accepted to a top 5 pharmacy school. How'd you like that 😂 Living well feels so sweet.
so basically being animated /personality, showing what you've got (dancing, soccer w.e.) making himm EARN your time &; actuallyhaving a connection w/that person :P
personally I kind of have the same issue. In my opinion, I would rather have someone that I connect with and like and some other things than settle for someone who I can't or don't want to see myself with, i am okay with being on my own until I find that.
in 25 years no guy ever approached me. so not everyone can be attractive. To me it isn't the case, I could not like how that person walks or something like that, but be attracted by his looks. So gestures and stuff doesn't say anything to me.
Saying that men aren't interested in looks is just lying. Youth and beauty are the main things what attract men, then comes personality and finally intelligence. (The more intelligent the man the more he will value intelligence, but never underestimate the importance of youth and beauty women. Once you've lost your youth you can't get it back.)
Being picky is a good thing, you don't want to settle. I bet you're a brilliant woman who knows what she wants. Maybe just try to get to know the guys you don't find attractive because here's the thing: you can fall deeply in love with the most average guys, the most amazing people often lurk behind average initial impressions. Never settle, but try to form a connection with someone before you discard them, maybe see them as friends to start with. I hope Matthew helps out, I'm no expert!
Hey Matthew, how about a video on how to become a better speaker? I'd be surprised if you hadn't had to hone your own skills over time. Share some of that with us.
I need help!! I'm into this guy, but the type of girls he likes are the actual opposite of what I am. He likes tan girls with long black hair and thick body, and I'm extremely pale, skinny and I have curly brown hair. What should I do?
Visual chemistry
Perceived value
Perceived challenge
Connection
Thanks,
Appreaciate it! Good Job!
Thank you!
He's right, you have to have value in yourself first by limiting your time, effort and energy towards someone until they are trying to earn you. Too many times we are projecting all of our interest and trying sell our ''good' qualities to someone when they haven't even qualified themselves for you on that level just yet.
Yes its really not that complicated when you boil it down. He breaks things down into huge amounts of details and behaviours and patterns. But I honestly think they are pointless. If you don't have the value for yourself you are always faking it. Value yourself and have intelligent behavioral boundaries and all the crazy games are no longer needed because the behaviours he talks about become your default behaviours.
@@serendipitousbliss6548 and value him too.... Starting when you are on a date with them, don't think he has to earn your time by paying for you. That's the shortest way to not get a second date. Value yourself and respect his time too. Go into the dating scene as equals, not thinking oh why not worse case I get a free dinner out of it somewhere nice.
@@u3962521 right or wrong,I follow through the good manners code-if i invite,I pay...If im invited well ...🤷♀️...in all honesty I would always like to pay so that people won't think God knows what which is not always nice...a man likes to feel like a man,sometimes they don't take that very well so if they insist then I insist to either pay for drinks,taxi or a next date...but can I just say that I hate when someone says let's split,I find that to be so tacky
Jajaja!! 😂 , Damas, Solamente Relájense y Dejen Que Su Mundo Fluya!
Visual chemistry(the way you behave/talk, nothing about looks)-->Perceived value(the asset you have and how to show it)-->Perceived challenge(every guy needs to realize everything has be earned)-->Connection(get down to who he/she really is, asking why they do it)
I am a woman who always like to take care of myself, I can't deny that I wanted to be a beautiful woman not because I wanted to impress guys but I wanted to have a confident in myself. Focus on your own well-being and it will lead you to better opportunities not just by attracting men but also a career improvement.
1. Your Presence. What values you root yourself in. Yin, calm, zero inner tension or inner resistence, reseptive first, versus Yang mind spinning/tension/comparison/competitive/not enough-feeling/rush ahead habits.
2. Perceived Value, Physically practiced High Status signaling abilities. Your ability to Interpret and Respond to anyones shit, really well high quality (frame control)
3. Perceived Challenge, Standards. Requirements. Boundaries. Respect.
4. Connection. Ability to ask great questions and/or connect. Your knowledge base used to appreciate their interests versus showing off or one-upping others.
This is excellent - thanks!
Ladies, Dont get so caught up in trying to get the guy! A guy does not want the "thirsty" women. Wait. Be patient. The guy will come to you, i can assure that.
See your perfil name hahahaha...
I might need security,, and what if he doesn't come to me, what's your assurance then,
I am watching these videos strictly so I can identify if I am doing something wrong…. Like across the board wrong that will always give me bad results…
But I realize my problem is I never even meet a guy that I want. My father made fun of me one time I had a book from the library about what men want or how they think. I honestly so much happier just being myself and not caring.
I only look into these things to study human behavior and natural consequences of life the way it operates because life in general doesn’t make good sense to me. But honestly my problem is that I never meet a guy that I want. Hopefully after watching all these videos I’ll learn something new but so far I haven’t. I am honestly so disgruntled by the male species and how they operate. I already know the name of the game quit looking for love do your own thing entirely fully wholly. Cut out the bullshit people. Smooth sailing. I’m looking for a year no drama. I love it when a guy will say oh this is why you don’t have a man when I get angry. Hah! You didn’t make the cut buddy boy. I’ve actually never had a guy that turned me down that I wanted to be with.. sorrrrrrrry boy. Not my problem. If you desire MY attention and affection… then it’s You who has the problem. Can’t call a woman Queen and treat her like a dog. Foolish players. I am so done with even subscribing to this channel because I literally don’t give a **** about the stupid f***ing game. I am too evolved to lower myself to this shit. Good for Matthew Hussey for identifying an amazing way to make a living .
I honestly only wish I could meet a man that I would want. It just doesn’t happen! I pick up on the red flags instantly… sometimes I danced anyway, just to find my instincts are right. I don’t want to be a self-fulfilling Prophecy of bitter and alone. I already know the rules to the game and I could play it just fine if I have to. But after all these videos I realize I don’t know how to solve the problem of meeting quality men. I don’t see myself trying to be more feminine to attract a masculine man and sh*t like that… to hell with anybody who affects my life negatively. I know I am a quality woman and human being but at this point I have nothing to prove to anybody because maybe I’m just a coldhearted ruthless b*tch now. Ain’t nobody interest me. These fools are weak and stupid
@@sherrib4168 then its not meant for uu
(Cause I'm rewatching for the 4th time and would like to keep a reference in this page)
1. Visual Chemistry (looks + movements + facial expressiosn + body language in general)
2. Perceived Value (being able to sell yourself)
3. Perceived Challenge (people value what they earn)
4. Connection (questions - meeting their unmet needs creatively)
This is true, I recall a guy in a band who was fat, had frizzy hair, average face, and balding. The guy had all the women going after him. He had a charisma, attitude, and self confidence that was unreal. Same I am sure for women, in fact I have a friend who makes people feel wonderful about themselves thus many men and people in general want to be in her presence.
Visual chemistry: facial expression, chamelion effect, charismatic, hot
Percieved value: show that you worth, bring so much to them
Percieved challange: people value what they earn
Can I attract you with these formulas?! 😆😍
Alisha Merali I've been wondering the same thing! 😂
He said formula, one formula made up of four components.
Haha. Sad that the formula doesn't work with every crush. I want to be sexually very powerful. Lol
Alisha Merali hahaha cool joke 😁😁😁😁😘
😂😂 gold
I just did that to someone, he has called,text me more, then when we were dating. Men are strange creatures.
what exactly did you do?
flora sd I just stopped texting, and answering his text, so he started calling me almost everyday now. However, I've moved on.
Update: He ask if I had boyfriend, because he had to keep calling, and I wasn't calling him. He indicated, I was the only one he is seeing, and wants a relationship. SMH!
Are you guys still together?
@@ywang8491No I'm with someone else the last three years. That guy was a jerk, and plays too many games.
It kind of saddens me that some of these women commenting are just concerned with his looks and accent...clearly not taking any of his tips! haha
He is attractive, but that shouldn't always be the main focus.
Nicole E it isn't the MAIN focus. We are here because we like what he is saying/we learn from what he is teaching. His looks are a BONUS!
+Nicole E There are a few factors in how to make a man fall in love with you. One plan I found that successfully combines these is the Maras magic words (check it out on google) without a doubt the most incredible resource i've seen. Check out all the awesome info .
Nicole E pretty sure they’re making observations and joking around but ok.
nicole e..it's none of your business👌
Dear Matthew, you are the best, you have such a gift, I don't know how you got so smart but you are just the bees knees, thank you for helping so many people, like me! You help me every time I watch one of your videos, maybe one day I will get to meet you, if not know you always have someone in your corner just so appreciative of who you are and what you do. Just wanted to let you know and give the shout out from South Florida, you are the bomb my friend!!! Keep up the good work!!!!
he's a mix of chris evans and daniel radcliff
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Adam Sandler's Wettest Dream I always think he reminds me of Daniel Radcliff too.
Adam Sandler's Wettest Dream he is 1 of a kind Metthew hussey
Adam Sandler's Wettest Dream i agree
I cant unsee this
Love that little sound his watch does.
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Matthew, I have followed you for a while now as well [following the related videos and different channels you've been on]. I've noticed how far you've come [writing your own book, being on shows and getting more followers]. I'm so proud of you & happy to be part of your journey. Thank you for teaching my (once) clueless self how to get the guy. I adore you & hope to keep seeing you succeed [as well as meeting you one day to tell you how you've helped me :) ] May you keep being blessed! :D
Thank you Matthew, I really love your style and positive way of talking. You really hit the nail on the head every single time. I am 16 years old, which may sound very young, but love can be difficult at every age I believe. I will definitly order your book! Love from the Netherlands! x
Not only is this really good dating advice, but for all types of relationships in your life as well! Thanks for making this video!
I love it when a guy who's in good shape, has comic book hero facial features tells us how its not really about looks. It's ALL about looks. The rest is just being not creepy.
that comment actually disgusts me, im sorry that you feel so low about yourself. why would i say that? because this comment says a lot about yourself and the people who liked it. its been two years, so i hope you think more highly of yourself now:)
Totally agree with what you are said about visual chemistry! It was my first date with this guy and dinner was great and we had a lot of stuff in common and we kept great conversation and I was really excited about getting to spend time with him. Well after dinner, we then go for a walk, and wanting to walk closer to him and touch him, I wrapped my hand around his bicep (I have a weakness for guys with nice arms (its such a masculine feature)). Well then he takes my hand and holds it, which was fine, but then he started rubbing it a lot and then he put his head on my shoulder while we were walking and was like nuzzling me. I didn't feel any animal attraction anymore after that haha... I want a proud lion, not a cute kitty.
" I want a proud lion, not a cute kitty ". :-D
I feel like I enjoy that once you know the guy more. When he's already your bf, it's sweet when a guy puts his head in your lap or on your shoulder and shows vulnerability. It's like he trusts you enough to let his softer side show and allow you to care for him. However the first date...yah I could see why that would be offputting. It's natural for women to gravitate towards strong men.
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Two years ago I read Neil Strauss' "The Game", I'm a girl, and I kept wondering whether it could be adapted to women looking for a relationship. Looks like you've cracked it Matthew :) thanks a million, regardless of what you earn, you're still doing a massive favour to all women! I am definitely getting the book, and if I get the courage, I'll try buying a copy for a friend or two who need it :)
He's totally right, this crap works. I used to be really outgoing and animated.... and I would literally end up with nutters following me about. One guy after meeting me for 5 minutes, later told me ( mind you he was on ecstasy at the time, which tends to make you overly open and honest) that he was so attracted to me that he had been dreaming about me. Since then, Ive had severe situations arise on more than one occasion...with both sexes... which have made me go the other direction, and now I generally act nearly catatonic to get the least amount of attention possible. Just know how to control this juju or you'll end up attracting all sorts of nutters you dont even want to imagine. And note well, that in any situation that turns into two guys kind of bickering over you, you will inevitably end up being the one who gets blamed. May the force be with you. PS- Im actually also 2 stone overweight so it's not looks.
Matthew's advice really works, Its amazing, i am addicted, my love life has never been this interesting! Cant wait to try all of the advice in these videos!
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I just wanted to thank you for what you're doing! It's very nearly mindblowing to see just a normal guy caring enough to do something like help women in their relationships, of all things. You've a heart of gold. God bless!
Matthew really hits the right words and right parts 💖
Watched this over 5 times now... Ths vid (and so many other) helped me out so much!
In the other words, you change your energy, change in subconscious , you will change your life and receive the result you want
You are completely right; I've also experienced this phenomenon so often, that I actually feel attracted by the charisma of a man, not necessarily his looks...the same goes for women and their attractiveness
He reminds me of Patrick Dempsey.
That's what I was just thinking about!
feeling so smart watching this
"You don't have to play games, but you have to set up a challenge". Contradiction. What if I don't want to bring him through a challenge? What if complete sincerity and respect is more appealing to me then playing the game of "being hard to get" ? I mean, if I like a man and want to spend time with him, I want to go for it. I don't want to pretend like I don't. And I wouldn't want the person I'm attracted to to set up a deliberate challenge for me either.
+tanyaakh I think that you dont have to pretend to be a challenge... you really have to be one, have your own activities, go out with friends, visit your family, work, gym, etc. Then you are not lying or playing games when you say ''I cant today... how about next friday?''
Not a contradiction. You're not playing games, you're simply not being a doormat. If you are so desperate that you would date ANYONE, even if they were rude or didn't have a job/goals or wanted to take up ALL of your time. Don't bend over backwards for someone you literally just met. I know girls who have skipped class for the guys in their life, who will cancel on family dinners or GNOs just because their crush wanted to hang out. It also means having your own life, goals, career, and friends. Being a challenge means that someone needs to earn you, just like you wouldn't go out with ANY guy.
bombervity I actually thought that being a challenge and having your own life/goals apart from a guy are two completely different subjects.
I mean...sure I have my own life and if I don't want to go out with a guy on some particular day because I have an appointment with my friend, there's no problem with me saying no to him.
What I understood by the challenge is to say no when you actually wanted and planned to say yes. That's playing games to me. It's like "oh I want to spend time with him now, but I have to be hard to get so I'll contradict myself and say no". If the "challenge" is deliberate it's insincere.
Having your own life doesn't equal to me being a challenge.
Well, then you get a guy who doesn't value you as much because men always value what they had to work for more than what was tossed in their lap. Actually, that's true of most people, about anything. Playing games would be lying, or misleading. Not dropping everything to be with the guy every time he calls you is being a challenge. Not hopping into bed the first time he tries is being a challenge, not playing games. (Matthew suggests saying something like, 'part of me would really like to do that, but I don't normally move that fast'. You've shown your interest, but you've also shown him you value yourself and he needs to invest in you if he wants to be with you. Way different than playing games.)
You on point Sis. When a girl does that to me and make me chase. I drop her and carry on. I don't have time. I will value her if we have the same value. If she's kool sure I give it a shot.
Totally agree with your formula, though I really think shared values in addition is what creates a long term relationship
So I’ve been dating this guy for a year and half now. We met at work. Some people kept coming up to me and saying someone at work likes me but they wouldn’t tell me who. Eventually I figured it out. What really attracted me to him was the small acts of kindness he would do for me...
The signs were all there it just took me sometime for me to see it. He would always insist on giving me a ride home because he didn’t want me walking home alone in the dark. Or the one day I felt sick at work and he made sure I was ok. In the beginning I was sort of dating this guy that actually had no interest in being my boyfriend. It took me the hard way to find out. And then everything clicked! There I was, chasing a guy who already had his fill when the right guy was right in front of me everyday. So after some frustrating text messages with old boy that already got what he wanted I said “what am I doing. Someone clearly likes me for who I am and wants to get to know me more.” So I just blocked the guy and a couple weeks later got the courage to ask the guy at work out.
I was so nervous because everyone was telling me how my guy was inexperience and didn’t have a girlfriend before me. So I send him a text “hey how do you feel about seeing this movie this weekend? I’ve been wanting to go see it and I think it’d be really cool if you come.” I know so cheesy but totally worked lol.
Sometimes we argue a lot now, but honestly what healthy couple doesn’t? I always said, if you don’t argue or fight with someone is because you don’t care about them. Anyways, a year and half later and he’s still opening doors for me.
That’s all that it’s about. It’s not about who’s paying the first date or giving you flowered and gifts and diamonds... it’s the small acts of kindness and words that really evolve love.
The video itself is "visually" distracting given the fact you are very attractive! However, this is by far, my favorite video. It is right on the dot. I don't think anyone has ever explained it better than you. Not even those "experts" ever explained this as simple yet in a empowering way. Thanks so much Matthew!
Well, i'm in my mid 20's and still most men are impressed, they thought it was a good thing. But then again, it's my choice, i don't care what they think. But really there's nothing to be ashamed of. It's not gonna scare them away.
Honestly SIR !! I have never been this much impressed by anyone else,the way i'm from YOU..Keep the work👏👏👏👏
You're right Matthew. I'm now in love with you just from watching YOU talk. OK, I'm only half serious. I'm married, happily. But if I weren't. And for the record. You are very much right. You know both men and women very well. Good job. Great videos.
He's so sweet and well spoken. Great advice as usual.
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Try going out and looking for the people that clearly arent interested. Try having a convo and take note on what it takes to communicate with them. These are ques you can use to help your engagement process with others.
I love your last tip: asking WHY people do what they do. Thumbsup
Ive found that people that arent as approachable are people that have a lot on their mind. Take some time to pay attention to what youre thinking about when youre out in public. Write this down or text yourself every time you realize that youve zoned out. The key here is to take charge of your existence and be more inclined to living in the moment. When you do so you can control your facial expressions and people will be able to pick up ques to spark a conversation with you.
It's so strange when you were talking about the attraction and saying "it's about how you talk, how you gesture" I was thinking- obviously you've learnt how to do that!
the attraction formula is realizing you don't need videos like these to waste more energy on "attracting" people....if you work on yourself then people will be attracted to you naturally . a woman never loses her worth she just forgets it! he does make very valid points but the point is don't put so much energy into needing a man/woman ..... imo if you're a whole spirit then you can fully love and attract positivity which includes positive people/mates
It's true, but my friend who has only focused on working on herself her whole life is now becoming really concerned because nothing is happening to her in her love life and she doesn't know what to do or how to do it. I'm recommending her Matt's videos because I think she needs it.
I agree with you, but sometimes people are confused about positivity. Some of it is the same for all people, but positive energy is DIFFERENT for men and for women, so a woman projecting male energy won’t be attractive to men. Some women need to unlearn feminist ideals that men are attracted to status, money, etc - nope, men are attracted to kind, warm, smiling, generous women. Women who did well in a man’s world and expect a man like them will be disappointed.
You are so right, Spot on! BTW my birthday is on the 9th of April! ;) Keep up the great work
pleasant surprise, don't You think😊
Matthew, I am really happy to have happen to come across your video 1-2 years ago. Thank you always!!!
Hi Matthew, I l love to watching all your videos and this is probably one of the most amazing subject and tips that I've heard among all of these! I love the concept and the reason you throw it out on the table ! Just love it. I would love to go to one of your retreat one day and hopefully in this upcoming year ! Thank you X
I like how when you talk about the 1st thing and how important is to know how to animate you are doing it soooooooo powerful :D
i was in the same situation and there are a few things you can do: 1) KNOW what you want. and if someone is not fitting in - write him off your list immediately. don´t even think about a second date. #waste of time 2) SEE the guys and only(!) the guys that fit your needs in terms of visual chemistry. you are attracted to them for a reason! 3) RELAX - there are plenty of fish in the ocean. 4) FIND new places to meet men - cause mr. charming is not hanging out the boring guys you already met.
u can talk talk and talk and I can keep listening
All your videos are very helpful and this helped me like magic.
Its also worth noting that over confidence is unattractive
hey Matt u r really handsome and if all guys wud have brains like u then relationships wud have been so beautiful Man .
Jiyana Jiyu There are a ton of guys with great brains. They just don't look like he does.
Agreed!
I'm so overwhelmed! Haha I just go for it and scrap the rules. When you break it down it gets so complicated kinda. But awesome advice! I needed a lot of that. Thanks for changing my life in a way.
Please more of the attraction formula ideas and how to use them.
"Animation creates attraction" love itt!
They need more men out there like Matthew Hussey who love women and will help women get the man of their dreams. Seriously.
Listen to this guy i am not celebrity looking girl, so far from it but im not ugly either but i take care of myself and never chase a man and always ready to leave them if they won't meet my standards. I am 38 years old woman and i attract even 25 year old kid. Be a challenge, and i dont do this to play games. I am really challenging by nature.
Control behaviour-Value yourself-Challenging guys-Connection (what, why, how your parter)
I am reading his book right now, I swear it´s such a treasure. And I keep reading it with his voice haha
just downloaded the audiobook so excited to listen now
My boyfriend said the things that made him first love me were what I wore and my perfume 😂 of course he now loves my personality but whenever I wear the perfume that he fist met me wearing he always says it reminds him of that day
Soo true. its not what a person looks like but how they present themselves. found a guy with the first 3 all the way but there was no connection at all he wouldn't open up.
just seen you on the Marliyn show and now im obsessed with you haha love your videos!
hey matthew, i really love your videos & think they're really on the point & thoughtful. I wondered if you maybe could an extra video about the visual attraction with the walking and gesturing? I'd think that would be very interesting :-) have an amazing day! x
Matt Hussey is the man!... in this moment we are all just running through the past relationships and trying to pinpoint moments where the Attraction Formula applied lol.
Matthew, thank you so much for the work that you do. Sawing good seeds! 🌱
How do we find men WE are actually attracted to?? Rarely feel animal attraction. Would love to know how to fix that!
Yeah. I love Matthew's advice, not because he's good-looking, but because he is so honest, blunt, and optimistic about it all. Even if I do think he's attractive (I mean, let's face it, he is) that doesn't mean his advice is any less or more than it is in reality. I just wish all these women would take it for what it is and stop drowning in the shallow end of the pool. :)
you also need to show how much you value him if you make it a big challenge for him to show how valuable you are and he finds out that you didn't do it to other men before him then you are saying you don't value him
i recently met a guy , and i think there's something there, but it has been stagning for a little bit , and watching your videos tonight, made me realise where i was going wrong , this is verry helpful to me at the right time !! ( i've been watching your videos for almost 5 hours now lol) and i think i get what i have to do, now all i need is some beauty sleep for tomorrow ;) ( after the next video ) XD
Let's be practical we all make assumptions and profile each other. as humans we have no other way to organize all the information we get from others. Don't we all, or at least most of us, make assumptions based upon clothes, cars, body language, actions, etc ? It's very human.
isn't it tiring to always try to prove something? to sell yourself? prove you're the best etc.?
But do we really always do that? I know I don't, I'm lazy, I don't try different things and that's why, many times, I don't get what I want in life... Unfortunately, life is a competition. You may not try to do your best, but you won't get good results...
Good luck with the book launch tomorrow x (in about an hour!) x
can I tell you Metthew hussey .its heard for me to remember name but yours I just got it.. with so much respect.. you are an angel for me.. thank you for your guidance .
I went on a date with a friend and it turned out that he had low "perceived value" and "perceived challenge" of me. He was very rude and awful to me on the date. Fast forward 4 months, I got accepted to a top 5 pharmacy school. How'd you like that 😂 Living well feels so sweet.
so basically being animated /personality, showing what you've got (dancing, soccer w.e.) making himm EARN your time &; actuallyhaving a connection w/that person :P
He always looking so handsome
personally I kind of have the same issue. In my opinion, I would rather have someone that I connect with and like and some other things than settle for someone who I can't or don't want to see myself with, i am okay with being on my own until I find that.
i would listen to you talk all day (drools)
He is so incredibly handsome and so helpful
I want to give this one a two thumbs up!!!
Matthew please make more life related videos!
in 25 years no guy ever approached me. so not everyone can be attractive. To me it isn't the case, I could not like how that person walks or something like that, but be attracted by his looks. So gestures and stuff doesn't say anything to me.
You are super adorable and fun to watch and listen too. Thank you for all of your advice
You are so smart and kind, good advice, thank you!
Saying that men aren't interested in looks is just lying. Youth and beauty are the main things what attract men, then comes personality and finally intelligence. (The more intelligent the man the more he will value intelligence, but never underestimate the importance of youth and beauty women. Once you've lost your youth you can't get it back.)
Thank you Matthew for your tips and lessons.
you're so wise, matt
How sweet of your part to put the logos on pink color :3
Being picky is a good thing, you don't want to settle. I bet you're a brilliant woman who knows what she wants. Maybe just try to get to know the guys you don't find attractive because here's the thing: you can fall deeply in love with the most average guys, the most amazing people often lurk behind average initial impressions. Never settle, but try to form a connection with someone before you discard them, maybe see them as friends to start with. I hope Matthew helps out, I'm no expert!
Sex meaning intimacy last 2 minutes to 2 hours, love is chemistry can be no-existence to infinity
Hey Matthew, how about a video on how to become a better speaker? I'd be surprised if you hadn't had to hone your own skills over time. Share some of that with us.
i always learn in every video that i watched from you mat ty so much .....
I need help!! I'm into this guy, but the type of girls he likes are the actual opposite of what I am. He likes tan girls with long black hair and thick body, and I'm extremely pale, skinny and I have curly brown hair. What should I do?
Absolutely. I love Matthew's advice. Glad someone agrees with me!
I agreed with you...the man really crazy...about me because I look feminine
this is gold, very insightful
You actually remind me a lot of Daniel Radcliffe :)
omg i know!!!!
but ways more attractive than Daniel
I don't have alot of time Matthew You are going to have to come to my part of town!
"you know me, I'm gonna towlk and towlk and towlk "
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