I’ve never met or heard of Dr. Linker until now. I’m an HSP introvert and I feel like Dr. Linker knows me better than my own family and best friends even. It felt like he spoke to my inner self the entire time (and I can’t typically listen to an entire lecture or podcast before feeling overwhelmed with all the info and then zoning out. Lol) Thank you Dr. Linker and for the person who posted this! I ended up here doing a search on HSPs after recently discovering that I am one at age 35. It’s SO comforting to hear these things from doctors.
It really is wonderful to learn why we are different. My dad is the only person I have met who is HSP. He was awesome! Always helping others and so much more. For some reason his side of the family thinks being kind is a fault. Weird isn't it. Especially since the world is crying for kindness. It explains so much.
Ditto. My family bullied and abused me all my childhood. It's good to watch the "bigger picture" about my psychology from this man. I like the "hit the bed with a tennis racquet" to calm down. Seems a bit violent but I want to try it!
Unfortunately, many bosses demand answers to questions and. concerns very quickly and are intolerant of our need to take some time to process. In job seeking, the phrase "fast-paced environment" is almost ubiquitous. It can be very frustrating and upsetting, especially when the boss complains to co-workers behind your back. I stayed too long in a job like that and had to go out on disability after suffering from being bullied and ridiculed in the job. Despite workplace anti-bullying rules in place, which often sound good but are not enforced.
I was working at tim hortons for 9 years it literally sucked the life from my soul. I went to college for pharmacy tech just wanting to help people. And the field is just full of error that no one wants to address... I was harassed for 6 months by 2 co workers and then the boss wrote ME up. I should have sued him but i quit instead... But now through all that im on odsp and i feel wrong about it in a way. I just dont fit in anywhere at work... How do we fix society because i cant take enough meds to change me... :)
We have to be vigilant in seeking employment in a supportive environment. As example I was fortunate enough to work for a Canine Company. I got to interact with the customer in a positive family environment with their dog and you can flourish. These jobs do exist. I know what you mean though, I've been there too and it's daunting and so unnecessary, but yeah, I totally hear you on that. It's misery when you have people in your immediate environment who have no clue of being you and friction ensues.. For me, it became much more tolerable when I learned to not take it personal when others may bully you or want to make you feel inept. But indeed there are work environments where we're like a fish out of the water, exhausting drama and too much frenetic stimuli. Big hugs
You just described what i recently experienced in my last job, but most of my life, that ability for quick answers. I have e perienced so much anxiety, that caused problems getting along. I was forced to quit.
True and as most people are ambivert it seems to me that most HSP will be too. I think our need to be alone makes us look introverted to the 'normals' out there.
This video made my day! Although I'm 57 it's only during the past two weeks that I discovered a few videos about HSP. And this one finally explained to me so thoroughly why I've felt a bit of an outsider all my life! I could not live in the city, although I was born there and lived my entire life, so I bought a little rather secluded farm 12 yrs ago and I've never felt happier!!! Thanks for this video so much!🌹 The word 'treatment' does not bother me at all as I understand that some hsp pple can experience one or another symptom to the extreme and that's whe they would need treatment. Let us not take the word so personally if we don't need it.
For people reading comments first, I highly recommend this video to people with HSP and those who know a person who is HSP. This is not what I thought it was going to be. It is a way better! Thank you so much for sharing this with us. P.S. To all of you with this gene you are beautiful!
When l was a little girl, l could not cope with stacking dinner plates on a shelf, on top of each other, or the sound of someone using a hammer ...l would blink uncontrollably. Another example was whilst visiting my mother who was in hospital having had knee surgery and connected to a rotating knee machine....l felt my mothers pain so deeply, l fainted only to wake up on the floor with a nurse holding my feet in the air. l have to take labels off my clothes. l normally describe my sensitivity to the story book called 'Princess and the Pea' Now about to turn 50, l live in the country with my partner (who is also sensitive) own my power of being highly sensitive, live a peaceful life of creativity and connect with animals and nature.
Me too! I need Jesus, my creativity, my cat, nature walks, and to carry on living alone and working 1-2-1 with an elderly person. My friends used to joke that I talk and move as slowly as an elderly person, so my job is perfect for me !
I was wondering why I was listening to this talk (what did 'Treatment' mean?), but when I realised that Dr Linker had worked with Elaine Aron on Highly Sensitive People and I could relax! Then Dr Linker got on to the ways HSPs can be misdiagnosed and why, and how to deal with the situation. And then all the ways we can calm down - splendid ideas! I think however that any therapist should be prepared to deal with Complex PTSD in various forms as a result of childhood events, and perhaps referral to other videos or books could have been included. Thank you for the talk, and for posting it.
Thankyou very much for this information it is a blessing!!! I'm a mexican 39 years old and i have been struggling all my life with this different personality of mine.
THANK YOU FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART!! I hope that was not too loud,,, :)) this IS a Genetic Trait. Finding Peace, is Key! I have been often mistaken for being Borderline OR Bi Polar, OR Narcissistic by Un sensitive Narc that can't imagine WHY I don't want to be just like THEM, and go to Parties constantly, UGH!!
I thoroughly enjoyed all of this...., up until the very last section. Still felt like we have to deal our 'sensitivity' problem (handicap) in order to deal with our self-doubt and lack of confidence. And 'withdrawal' is often the only path in an overwhelming situation, not something that needs to be corrected.
I am very thankful hearing this. Together with dr Elaine Aaron's lectures this was one of the most useful, easy to follow, describing the HSP behavior techniques and how to understand and accept them, and even learn how to respons to ones needs better. How would life have been if I had known earlier? Howver knowledge and undestanding is never too late, they leed to visdom, so hard to find without struggle.
We often come across as shy or aloof, so I've learned to tell my friends that I love them but I can't go shopping or do other things as much as they do because its tiring.
That's so weird. The few people that believe they know me well have called me selfish on a number of occasions. They think all I care about is myself. That's where I relate to what you're saying about how we appear narcissistic and show self-centredness. I wish people knew about my sensitivity and how anxious it makes me because it REALLY REALLY makes me feel horrible to constantly be called selfish. They make me feel so guilty and worse about myself than I already do. If only they knew.
Narcissicists prey and project onto empaths. It is completely contradictory that the two could be conflated this advice is bogus. Suggest doing your own research into narcissism and this will make sense
@@misse7154 you say prey, but the human conscious is, in my belief, seeking home. Safety. The self is looking for absolution in some sense at a deeper, unconscious level. A "narcissist" is a complexity of symptoms from an upbringing, put into words for a meaning. Narcissism is a spectrum, like everything else.
@@misse7154 however, you are correct in regards to how a part of their psyche does become predatory. My belief from studies is that it primarily has to do with the obsession with the self to cope. It's pure survival.
I challenge this statements “Highly Sensitive People don’t like their work being constantly checked or people looking over their shoulder when working because they’re fearful and are afraid of rejection.” 1) No one likes having someone checking over their shoulder (micro managed). 2) It’s not because we’re “fearful” or afraid of being rejected. It’s because when someone hovers near us (like a boss) while we work, our nervous system picks up on THEIR energy field which often has heavy negative energy because they have insecurities, judgements and negative thoughts in their mind at the time the are near us. Our focus is immediately “un-corded” from ourselves and what we are working on and immediately “connects” or “attaches” to the other person. Then our hyper vigilant nervous system kicks in as it scans our energy field to asses “danger : no danger, friend: foe” we are not afraid or fearful when people hover over us while we work. Our nervous system is being activated and stimulated - THATS WHY. No one likes feeling rejected. No one. Criticizing one's work is a form of rejection but a healthy and necessary one for growth when done right although it's rarely done right. In Corporate America, when someone is criticizing someone else, most are doing it the way they were criticized by their parents). If an HSP reacts to criticism with excessive emotion, they have a trapped emotion or memory (s) that's not resolved. They were triggered. It's not an HSP trait. Anyone can be triggered in this scenario if they have trapped emotions that need to be addressed. By adulthood, many HSPs have been repeatedly exploited by caregivers and family - In other words, our kindness and the joy we experience through the act of helping someone else has been abused. Many HSPs spend their entire lives recreating this trauma pattern...only to be "double abused" when this is called being a people pleaser which we know has a negative, socially undesirable connotation to it. Why would you use such a phrase to describe an HSP? HSP children are highly susceptible and malleable and can grow up feeling intensely insecure, but this is not a trait of HSPs. This a trait of an adult who was traumatized as a child. Educated, informed, self aware HSPs DO stand up for themselves. HSPs have insecurities and heightened sensitivity when rejected because the very fabric of who we are is observed, exploited and used by the very people who say they love us such as a mother or father figure. This person is usually the one we depend on for our survival and a deep boundary is violation occurs when they milk our kindness for all it's worth while putting on a fake face to mask what they're doing. We're just children trying to please them not realizing that the very act of trying to please them for love is been distorted and used. That wound stays with us and when we grow up, we're triggered over and over. We long for truth and genuineness from the world we live in. Feedback and criticism is welcomed! but it’s rarely RARELY given. What is seen as criticism is often projection, not constructive criticism. But we build walls between us and the world because we “see “ through people’s false self or shadow self, aka the “mask” human beings wear and identify with and used to disguise their true self - from others and themselves. We see the true self, the persons true intentions and most people are so lost in their shadow side that even if we do try to tell them what we see and feel , they would vehemently deny this truth and do... and then they repel us. Understandably so - we cannot hold two opposing beliefs at the same time.
Your comment was very refreshing to read. I think what ends up happening is that a lot of HSPs may have such trauma added due to their disposition, that the focus is on that behaviour. I am relearning about HSP with fresh eyes, as it has been a while since I last looked into it, and I am looking at my self from an evolutionary process, and what my disposition means. I do stand up for myself. Unfortunately, if it is a new situation, it can take me time to process it. And I will create boundaries and be clearly assertive, but it's not that I won't feel the pain of it. I will just keep reminding myself that it is necessary and people should not have the freedom to treat me as they wish. My big issue is that I get very tired if I am outside of my alone time. And feel overstimulated very often. I am exhausted after a day of working/socialising/parenting etc I could go on!
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Wish I had known all of this a long time ago, rather than believing what I was told as a child: You are too sensitive, you are this and that...it goes like a red line through my life and I ended up with chronic pain and fatigue due to Fibromyalgia and other health issues. Thank you for putting this up here!
Heard the same things all my life. Had been told I had Fibromyalgia and eventually ended up with Mast Cell Activation Disorder from chronic stress. Having something like Mast Cell further isolates you. :(
@@m.a.c.2503 I'm so sorry for your chronic pain. And the stress? Oh yes, because we are like a sponge to all the stimulus. I would like to strongly, humbly, wish to recommend the actual ginseng root to you. There are a couple of farms that grow quality root in Wisconsin and Canada. I have had a few health issues over the years, chronic pain too, but have studied holistic healing for decades. At the very least, please know there is healing available for you. I love how "holistic" means mind and body. It's a regiment that brings healing, not just one thing, though. Wishing you healing. Big hugs
@@bluegreyfogg Thank you for recommending the ginseng root. It's been kind of hard finding any supplements that I can take because my body reacts to everything now. Have very few foods or supplements that I can take without getting symptoms because of the mast cell activation, but I'm working with a healer and am having less severe reactions so I may try the ginseng sometime in the near future!! 😊 I'm trying to stay positive! 😁🙏
I just found out I have this trait about one month ago. I am 45 years old. I am so thankful that I found out I have this wonderful trait. My daughter has it to. People know you are different than them. As a child, I was picked on every time I went to a new school. We moved around a lot. Plus, I was being abused at home by my caretaker. I have been pushed into doing things all my life to keep up with the non hsp people in my life. It’s been really hard on me and have been told all my life to “ hurry up!” This has caused a lot of anxiety and feeling like I am lazy. However, I was always taking the care to think about what I’m saying before saying it. And when doing chores or a project, I take my time and do it correctly. I am very sensitive to noises and touch. My father lives with me and gets in my personal space ALL the time. He feels entitled to hug me . I have told him I don’t like it and it doesn’t matter to him. Now I just hide and avoid him. Elaine said that you feel violated and it’s true. I just get extremely frustrated with suffocation of affection. Especially if I am having a very stimulating day. My husband pats me with a lot of pressure on my back and it makes me jump every time. I finally told him after suffering through this jumping in my skin, to please be softer and pet me instead;) This is soooo hard because your loved ones take everything personal and I don’t want to hurt their feelings. They feel rejected. I have put my own needs to the side all my life and have recently in the last 3 years to not worry so much about what others think and feel. It’s very difficult though cause I don’t want anyone to be upset. I started to say no and my family had a very hard time with this. I have a sister who is BPD and she is very demanding to the point where my needs and feelings were completely ignored. She is also very, very critical. Which was so hard to deal with. She started calling me selfish as I started to say no to her. She also said I have changed because I started to create stronger boundaries. I couldn’t handle the drama anymore. She is very emotional and a roller coaster ride of misery all her life. I have definitely have a lot of shame and guilt for having this trait. I have been used up by people in my life because of my willingness to serve and help. I have learned to say no now when it’s too much and I become overwhelmed. I am at this point in my life where I have to take care of myself and to not put my needs to the side anymore to help others with their needs. I am an attuned mother to my children and we have a beautiful relationship. Thank you for this lecture 😍
It's also like having x-ray vision into people, without even trying, regardless of how they present themselves! It's no wonder we need 8 hours of sleep, and solitude down time! Lol Spot on discussion! ❤️
Im a HSP but I love going to bars and pubs and parties. I really love being around places that have upbeat and positive vibes. I don't like being generalised as someone who hates socialising. I do find it draining and can feel stressed or very anxious and uncomfortable, it will take me a few drinks to relax.. and I need time to recuperate but I still enjoy socialising and being around people despite this, I love feeding off positive energies and atmospheres with a buzz.
OMG yes! I am the same! I love gatherings where there are nice and good vibes in the atmosphere. I love going to places full of people that are having fun and enjoying themselves and so I always thought that the "not liking to socialize or attend events with a lot of people" trait shouldn't be one that was used to define HSPs. That being said, Fun events I love but recently I found that a negative "overstimulating" situation such as a funeral had me feeling so crazily overwhelmed with the negative air and aura around me that I actually started to feel physically ill and had to leave after forcing myself to remain there after a few hours.
+Lady_Jokerz315 By your description it sounds like you are an extroverted HSP. That need to avoid parties and excessive socializing is more a result of introversion than high sensitivity, in my opinion.
I think you don't need to fit all the HSP criteria so straightforwardly. The type of socializing we prefer depends on our education, on interests. Some may like a quieter company where you can have meaningful conversations, for example. For me the loud sound or a sound made by neighbours in an adjoining apartment is the killer, but I enjoy smaller company where we discuss interesting things.
I know this is a number of years later, but just in case people actually read this! I lean in the middle with ambivertion, and I do enjoy going out at times- and really enjoy the fun vibes, but I am really tired afterwards. Even if I am hanging out with introverted types, I am tired when I get home and crash. And take the next day to 'unwind' from it. I find I get tired a lot! I am rarely energised by people and situations, and love hanging out at home. I do enjoy company but I can't do it for long.
This was excellent.... At first, the word "Treating" in the title kept me from launching the video... then, after I read several times many comments, I gave it a 'chance' and I liked all of it. It is kind and truthfull... Thank you. (I don't like that "treatment" word because to me it implies that it applies to a disease, something that 'can be cured', which HSP is not)
Before I realized I was HSP, I used all the language HSP's use. What resonated with me most was that we are always in self-preservation mode. Its taken as laziness or lack of ambition. That's just not true. Self-preservation is a biological imperative.
This video is lovely! It was explained to me that I was an HSP at 15 yrs old (I am now 30...it has never been easy as I am married to a - and surrounded by non-sensitives) but, being able to self-manage is encouraging. I am also a nurse. And this video is extremely helpful and insightful. Thank you, thank you!
"Surrounded". Yep, same here. Love the idea of a solo vacation, and although it's a bit guilt-inducing, I think it may be necessary for my own well-being... Wishing you much success in your own managing. :-)
Now, everything starts to make sense to me. I always knew I was different to most people around me but never knew why. Thank you so much for this information. However, more than an introvert I am an ambivert. So, I think that there are exceptions or different kind of HSP who might be an introvert, extrovert, or ambivert. Overall, this has been the most complete and accurate information about HSP. Again thanks 🙏🏻 😃💕
very informative and insightful... thank you.. I'm a 65 yr old extrovert HSP... Through the decades HSP has had many different names as "characteristic" were fine tuned.. I could identify most of my traits by the age of 5 because I was so different from most everyone else....... I liked the label "Spirited Child" but I like "HSP", I think that's gonna stick.. lol...
I use the term Sensory Processing Sensitivity (SPS) as unfortunately, the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) 'label' does little more than feed into the already nauseating stigma.
So....you, an HSP, must deal with the noisy world. Like most of us, we must work or be in family situations that are too stimulating. I pre-empt the overstimulation using a variety of nervines....herbs to support the nervous system.Like rose, linden, holy basil, bacopa and the list continues. I employ most of the suggestions given but too often we cannot leave a situation and may not want to so the herbs help....a lot!
I literally have been thinking the same thing. I mean aside from EST which i had thought about but ultimately felt it end up drooling and dumb AF from some mishap... But ive been labeled bipolar type 2 and social anxiety and panic disorder... Im a stigma now... I feel like the mental health field is so medication oriented and they never actually listen.... Everyone needs a label and in 20 min talking to a therapist i was marked 3 times over with stigmas... 20 min conversation and they "know" someone.... :(
I am not happy with the word "treating" it resounds with implications that there is something wrong with us and there is EVERYTHING RIGHT with us in this cold cold world we live in. How better the world would be if we were all highly sensitive!!! Typical psychologist
I agree. But as I listen to the video, I hear support and acceptance. If "treatment" starts with embrace and acceptance and progresses to development, then I'm all for it. (Sorry for the jargon.)
Christina Haslam I also agree. HSP is not something you "have" but rather who you are. It's also not an illness. Some hsps have developed emotional locks and other problems due to their trait and those should be treated but not the trait itself.
Ask Europeans what they think of Americans. Better yet, ask anyone. I've never felt at home here. ES-Types are the norm (MBTI) Most aspire to be psychopaths. We should all sing: "So long and thanks for all the fish"!
watching tv as help? its way too overstimulating. I dont watch tv anymore.. if i watch tv now, i get overwelmed by the colors, light, sounds and how fast that comes to me. And what bullshit there is shown on tv hahaha
+Miranda S plus my perspection of reality changed since i stopped watching tv and movies, series, etc. realizing how stupid i have been believing everything shown in tv or movies
+Ananth S7 Indeed, the knowledge of being a HSP did speed up my awakening like crazy, and changed my perception of life and reality (news, media and so on) too. I see HSP as a gift, first of all it makes life much easier then fighting against it... and seconds, you get to understand things a lot faster
yeah true about the understanding part, but about the gift part, a hsp Boy's life is different, always the need to be competitive with alpha boys :| , anyway, im thankful to be able to understand few real beauties of life
Ow yeah, i get what you mean by alpha boys :-/ Dont loose sight of these beauties, and remember you always have that "little" extra that they don`t have ;)
Listening to this webinar, I can see people are getting upset with this information based on their comments and it makes sense but it doesn't, its okay. Really.
Just sounds like most water signs... I've always known I'm highly sensitive- Triple water, Pisces Sun. How many of you have a lot of water/pisces/neptune in your astrological chart?
Dear people, can any of you tell your place, if you are actually being treated nice there because the people around you are well educated to treat you well.....i live in India. Ive been to few states, where the people made me cry( not literally ) every another day.., so, ur place - is it good ??
That's a tough question to answer! LOL My very personal and rough guess would generally be that the East coast is too fast paced and rough-minded/competitive for HSP's. The Southeast and Midwest are probably too rustic and backward to know or care about HSP's. But I suppose there are some towns that might be exceptions, like MAYBE Austin, Texas or Boulder Colorado, or Asheville, North Carolina? Generally speaking, I would guess the West coast is most hospitable to HSP's. Although the West coast is generally more expensive, more liberal, and has more restrictions/laws than the Midwest due to the population density. And generally speaking I think cities of over about 200,000 population are more likely to have people who know about HSP's. These are all guesses though, it's a big & complicated country! In general though, I think anywhere you go, there will only be a small percentage of people who know about HSP's - from less than 1% to maybe 5% at best. You will have to make special efforts to find fellow HSP's. Most HSP's have not heard the term, and don't even know that's what they are. But I think awareness of HSP's is very slowly spreading among the population. California has a reputation of being "nice", at least in parts, meaning more polite and relaxed.
stepahie stevens I definitely want to, and need to. I can't cope in my day to day life, I struggle and am in pain. So why should I not get help? Just cause it's not classified as a personality disorder doesn't mean I have to handle it all myself.
AudraJ12 I'm personally struggling in a world of non-sensitives, so I'm not being critical of people who need or get support. I just think it's an unevolved way of viewing sensitivity to say "treatment". I'm an intuitive sensitive and I see it as being aligned to a spiritual path.
Nifty Youniverse I'm not being critical of the sensitive. I just don't like the word 'treatment' being applied to sensitivity like it's food poisoning.
stepahie stevens I do agree, being high sensitive isn't something negative at all and I would even say, like you already said, that it's a plus, even though it's not really seen this way in our kind of society! I thing the word "dealing with" would be much better and doesn't" sound as negative as "treating".
The title is misleading, it's a talk by a therapist to other therapists about when their client is HSP. It's well worth listening to, very supportive of HSP
This frightens me that you espouse this advice under psychiatric treatment. HSPs can be completely normal, emotionally regulated individuals. Because they are intuitive and highly empathetic does not mean there is something wrong with them. There is clearly something wrong with the mental health community if they believe that these are traits that must be fixed. Let me remind you that the antithesis to extreme empathy is psychopathy. Moving down that continuum is absolutely no rational solution.
I beg to differ with the Dr...... Being a highly sensitive person is NOT a genetic trait. Being born into a family of highly dysfunctional psycopaths and anti social painful beings all choosing to give pain to everything living around them, does not make for a genetically inherited personality of a Sensitive.That comment insults my spiritual growth, guidence and hard work to get beyond the pain of what I had to survivie through my youth.A Sensitive is not a genetic product of sociopathic environs. I will not listen to anymore of your utube dsiconnect as I know you are wrong. Very wrong. Knowlegde in genetics may help. I'm noy a genetisist and would bet your are not either.Never assume.
This video is about inborn sensitivity as defined by the now famous author and psychologist Dr. Elaine Aron. Sensitivity can be defined in many ways: 1.) Inborn physical/emotional sensitivity as defined by Dr. Elaine Aron. 20% of all humans and animals have this inborn trait. 2.) Easily offended. This is primarily a cognitive function and is highly correlated with cultural and/or family belief systems. 3.) Thoughtful and mindful of taking care of others. This is usually a result of childhood training and experience. 4.) Good manners. This, too, is primarily a result of childhood training and experiences. 5.) Cultural sensitivity /awareness/skills. This may be acquired at various points in ones life. 6.) PTSD emotional reactivity. Most people have some degree of wounds from childhood and later life as well. These wounds can place triggers in the body that cause a person to “overreact” to various people, words, behaviors, situations, etc. 7.) Physical illness that cause unusual vulnerability or weakness in any of several ways, including multiple chemical sensitivities. 8.) Empathic or psychic sensitivity to be able to feel and/or see other people’s energy, aura, and emotions. 9.) There are probably more meanings to the word “sensitive” that I am not aware of. This video is about inborn sensitivity as defined by the now famous author and psychologist Dr. Elaine Aron. There are typically areas of overlap from one type of sensitivity to another, but not necessarily. Here is a link to a quick 27-question quiz that will give you a good idea about this definition of sensitivity, if this is new to you. hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-... (hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/)
low carb cleared all of my HSP problems..........don't fall for this manufactured problem......all goes back to blood sugar swings which gets people amped up and empathetic, and overstimulated, and anxious..........also , b1 deficiency symptoms are the same as HSP traits etc. thanks
@@suap309 still doing good, with occasional setbacks, but overall good when supplementing with saffron, magnesium, b1, and staying away from caffeine, chocolate, and greek yogurt. be well.
This is the first video that validated what ive felt and experienced my WHOLE life!
Thank you
I’ve never met or heard of Dr. Linker until now. I’m an HSP introvert and I feel like Dr. Linker knows me better than my own family and best friends even. It felt like he spoke to my inner self the entire time (and I can’t typically listen to an entire lecture or podcast before feeling overwhelmed with all the info and then zoning out. Lol) Thank you Dr. Linker and for the person who posted this! I ended up here doing a search on HSPs after recently discovering that I am one at age 35. It’s SO comforting to hear these things from doctors.
It really is wonderful to learn why we are different. My dad is the only person I have met who is HSP. He was awesome! Always helping others and so much more. For some reason his side of the family thinks being kind is a fault. Weird isn't it. Especially since the world is crying for kindness.
It explains so much.
Ditto. My family bullied and abused me all my childhood. It's good to watch the "bigger picture" about my psychology from this man. I like the "hit the bed with a tennis racquet" to calm down. Seems a bit violent but I want to try it!
Tq u so much doc u r the first person on earth to understand my personality type.
Unfortunately, many bosses demand answers to questions and. concerns very quickly and are intolerant of our need to take some time to process. In job seeking, the phrase "fast-paced environment" is almost ubiquitous. It can be very frustrating and upsetting, especially when the boss complains to co-workers behind your back. I stayed too long in a job like that and had to go out on disability after suffering from being bullied and ridiculed in the job. Despite workplace anti-bullying rules in place, which often sound good but are not enforced.
I was working at tim hortons for 9 years it literally sucked the life from my soul. I went to college for pharmacy tech just wanting to help people. And the field is just full of error that no one wants to address... I was harassed for 6 months by 2 co workers and then the boss wrote ME up. I should have sued him but i quit instead... But now through all that im on odsp and i feel wrong about it in a way. I just dont fit in anywhere at work... How do we fix society because i cant take enough meds to change me... :)
We have to be vigilant in seeking employment in a supportive environment. As example I was fortunate enough to work for a Canine Company. I got to interact with the customer in a positive family environment with their dog and you can flourish. These jobs do exist. I know what you mean though, I've been there too and it's daunting and so unnecessary, but yeah, I totally hear you on that. It's misery when you have people in your immediate environment who have no clue of being you and friction ensues.. For me, it became much more tolerable when I learned to not take it personal when others may bully you or want to make you feel inept. But indeed there are work environments where we're like a fish out of the water, exhausting drama and too much frenetic stimuli.
Big hugs
I agree
You just described what i recently experienced in my last job, but most of my life, that ability for quick answers. I have e perienced so much anxiety, that caused problems getting along. I was forced to quit.
I am an HSP who likes to spend time alone, but am an extrovert. Not all HSPs are introverts.
True and as most people are ambivert it seems to me that most HSP will be too. I think our need to be alone makes us look introverted to the 'normals' out there.
This video made my day! Although I'm 57 it's only during the past two weeks that I discovered a few videos about HSP. And this one finally explained to me so thoroughly why I've felt a bit of an outsider all my life! I could not live in the city, although I was born there and lived my entire life, so I bought a little rather secluded farm 12 yrs ago and I've never felt happier!!! Thanks for this video so much!🌹 The word 'treatment' does not bother me at all as I understand that some hsp pple can experience one or another symptom to the extreme and that's whe they would need treatment. Let us not take the word so personally if we don't need it.
Similar with me.
For people reading comments first, I highly recommend this video to people with HSP and those who know a person who is HSP. This is not what I thought it was going to be. It is a way better! Thank you so much for sharing this with us.
P.S. To all of you with this gene you are beautiful!
When l was a little girl, l could not cope with stacking dinner plates on a shelf, on top of each other, or the sound of someone using a hammer ...l would blink uncontrollably. Another example was whilst visiting my mother who was in hospital having had knee surgery and connected to a rotating knee machine....l felt my mothers pain so deeply, l fainted only to wake up on the floor with a nurse holding my feet in the air. l have to take labels off my clothes. l normally describe my sensitivity to the story book called 'Princess and the Pea' Now about to turn 50, l live in the country with my partner (who is also sensitive) own my power of being highly sensitive, live a peaceful life of creativity and connect with animals and nature.
Your life now sounds idyllic :)
I too moved to the country!😄
Me too! I need Jesus, my creativity, my cat, nature walks, and to carry on living alone and working 1-2-1 with an elderly person. My friends used to joke that I talk and move as slowly as an elderly person, so my job is perfect for me !
I was wondering why I was listening to this talk (what did 'Treatment' mean?), but when I realised that Dr Linker had worked with Elaine Aron on Highly Sensitive People and I could relax! Then Dr Linker got on to the ways HSPs can be misdiagnosed and why, and how to deal with the situation. And then all the ways we can calm down - splendid ideas! I think however that any therapist should be prepared to deal with Complex PTSD in various forms as a result of childhood events, and perhaps referral to other videos or books could have been included. Thank you for the talk, and for posting it.
Thankyou very much for this information it is a blessing!!! I'm a mexican 39 years old and i have been struggling all my life with this different personality of mine.
THANK YOU FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART!! I hope that was not too loud,,, :)) this IS a Genetic Trait. Finding Peace, is Key! I have been often mistaken for being Borderline OR Bi Polar, OR Narcissistic by Un sensitive Narc that can't imagine WHY I don't want to be just like THEM, and go to Parties constantly, UGH!!
Glad you brought up distinction between physical and psychological sensitivity.
Settings boundaries is a very important skill required for all HSP.
I thoroughly enjoyed all of this...., up until the very last section. Still felt like we have to deal our 'sensitivity' problem (handicap) in order to deal with our self-doubt and lack of confidence. And 'withdrawal' is often the only path in an overwhelming situation, not something that needs to be corrected.
I am very thankful hearing this. Together with dr Elaine Aaron's lectures this was one of the most useful, easy to follow, describing the HSP behavior techniques and how to understand and accept them, and even learn how to respons to ones needs better. How would life have been if I had known earlier? Howver knowledge and undestanding is never too late, they leed to visdom, so hard to find without struggle.
We often come across as shy or aloof, so I've learned to tell my friends that I love them but I can't go shopping or do other things as much as they do because its tiring.
That's so weird. The few people that believe they know me well have called me selfish on a number of occasions. They think all I care about is myself. That's where I relate to what you're saying about how we appear narcissistic and show self-centredness. I wish people knew about my sensitivity and how anxious it makes me because it REALLY REALLY makes me feel horrible to constantly be called selfish. They make me feel so guilty and worse about myself than I already do. If only they knew.
Narcissicists prey and project onto empaths. It is completely contradictory that the two could be conflated this advice is bogus. Suggest doing your own research into narcissism and this will make sense
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@@misse7154 you say prey, but the human conscious is, in my belief, seeking home. Safety. The self is looking for absolution in some sense at a deeper, unconscious level. A "narcissist" is a complexity of symptoms from an upbringing, put into words for a meaning. Narcissism is a spectrum, like everything else.
@@misse7154 however, you are correct in regards to how a part of their psyche does become predatory. My belief from studies is that it primarily has to do with the obsession with the self to cope. It's pure survival.
I challenge this statements “Highly Sensitive People don’t like their work being constantly checked or people looking over their shoulder when working because they’re fearful and are afraid of rejection.”
1) No one likes having someone checking over their shoulder (micro managed). 2) It’s not because we’re “fearful” or afraid of being rejected. It’s because when someone hovers near us (like a boss) while we work, our nervous system picks up on THEIR energy field which often has heavy negative energy because they have insecurities, judgements and negative thoughts in their mind at the time the are near us. Our focus is immediately “un-corded” from ourselves and what we are working on and immediately “connects” or “attaches” to the other person. Then our hyper vigilant nervous system kicks in as it scans our energy field to asses “danger : no danger, friend: foe” we are not afraid or fearful when people hover over us while we work. Our nervous system is being activated and stimulated - THATS WHY.
No one likes feeling rejected. No one. Criticizing one's work is a form of rejection but a healthy and necessary one for growth when done right although it's rarely done right. In Corporate America, when someone is criticizing someone else, most are doing it the way they were criticized by their parents).
If an HSP reacts to criticism with excessive emotion, they have a trapped emotion or memory (s) that's not resolved. They were triggered. It's not an HSP trait. Anyone can be triggered in this scenario if they have trapped emotions that need to be addressed.
By adulthood, many HSPs have been repeatedly exploited by caregivers and family - In other words, our kindness and the joy we experience through the act of helping someone else has been abused. Many HSPs spend their entire lives recreating this trauma pattern...only to be "double abused" when this is called being a people pleaser which we know has a negative, socially undesirable connotation to it. Why would you use such a phrase to describe an HSP?
HSP children are highly susceptible and malleable and can grow up feeling intensely insecure, but this is not a trait of HSPs. This a trait of an adult who was traumatized as a child. Educated, informed, self aware HSPs DO stand up for themselves.
HSPs have insecurities and heightened sensitivity when rejected because the very fabric of who we are is observed, exploited and used by the very people who say they love us such as a mother or father figure. This person is usually the one we depend on for our survival and a deep boundary is violation occurs when they milk our kindness for all it's worth while putting on a fake face to mask what they're doing. We're just children trying to please them not realizing that the very act of trying to please them for love is been distorted and used. That wound stays with us and when we grow up, we're triggered over and over.
We long for truth and genuineness from the world we live in. Feedback and criticism is welcomed! but it’s rarely RARELY given. What is seen as criticism is often projection, not constructive criticism.
But we build walls between us and the world because we “see “ through people’s false self or shadow self, aka the “mask” human beings wear and identify with and used to disguise their true self - from others and themselves.
We see the true self, the persons true intentions and most people are so lost in their shadow side that even if we do try to tell them what we see and feel , they would vehemently deny this truth and do... and then they repel us. Understandably so - we cannot hold two opposing beliefs at the same time.
This. All of this. 👏👏👏
Your comment was very refreshing to read. I think what ends up happening is that a lot of HSPs may have such trauma added due to their disposition, that the focus is on that behaviour. I am relearning about HSP with fresh eyes, as it has been a while since I last looked into it, and I am looking at my self from an evolutionary process, and what my disposition means.
I do stand up for myself.
Unfortunately, if it is a new situation, it can take me time to process it.
And I will create boundaries and be clearly assertive, but it's not that I won't feel the pain of it. I will just keep reminding myself that it is necessary and people should not have the freedom to treat me as they wish.
My big issue is that I get very tired if I am outside of my alone time. And feel overstimulated very often. I am exhausted after a day of working/socialising/parenting etc
I could go on!
Wish I had known all of this a long time ago, rather than believing what I was told as a child: You are too sensitive, you are this and that...it goes like a red line through my life and I ended up with chronic pain and fatigue due to Fibromyalgia and other health issues. Thank you for putting this up here!
Heard the same things all my life. Had been told I had Fibromyalgia and eventually ended up with Mast Cell Activation Disorder from chronic stress. Having something like Mast Cell further isolates you. :(
"You are too sensitive" story of our life, right? 🙂❤️
@@m.a.c.2503 I'm so sorry for your chronic pain. And the stress? Oh yes, because we are like a sponge to all the stimulus. I would like to strongly, humbly, wish to recommend the actual ginseng root to you. There are a couple of farms that grow quality root in Wisconsin and Canada. I have had a few health issues over the years, chronic pain too, but have studied holistic healing for decades. At the very least, please know there is healing available for you. I love how "holistic" means mind and body. It's a regiment that brings healing, not just one thing, though. Wishing you healing. Big hugs
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@@bluegreyfogg Thank you for recommending the ginseng root. It's been kind of hard finding any supplements that I can take because my body reacts to everything now. Have very few foods or supplements that I can take without getting symptoms because of the mast cell activation, but I'm working with a healer and am having less severe reactions so I may try the ginseng sometime in the near future!! 😊 I'm trying to stay positive! 😁🙏
I just found out I have this trait about one month ago. I am 45 years old. I am so thankful that I found out I have this wonderful trait. My daughter has it to.
People know you are different than them. As a child, I was picked on every time I went to a new school. We moved around a lot. Plus, I was being abused at home by my caretaker. I have been pushed into doing things all my life to keep up with the non hsp people in my life. It’s been really hard on me and have been told all my life to “ hurry up!” This has caused a lot of anxiety and feeling like I am lazy. However, I was always taking the care to think about what I’m saying before saying it. And when doing chores or a project, I take my time and do it correctly. I am very sensitive to noises and touch. My father lives with me and gets in my personal space ALL the time. He feels entitled to hug me . I have told him I don’t like it and it doesn’t matter to him. Now I just hide and avoid him. Elaine said that you feel violated and it’s true. I just get extremely frustrated with suffocation of affection. Especially if I am having a very stimulating day. My husband pats me with a lot of pressure on my back and it makes me jump every time. I finally told him after suffering through this jumping in my skin, to please be softer and pet me instead;) This is soooo hard because your loved ones take everything personal and I don’t want to hurt their feelings. They feel rejected. I have put my own needs to the side all my life and have recently in the last 3 years to not worry so much about what others think and feel. It’s very difficult though cause I don’t want anyone to be upset.
I started to say no and my family had a very hard time with this. I have a sister who is BPD and she is very demanding to the point where my needs and feelings were completely ignored. She is also very, very critical. Which was so hard to deal with. She started calling me selfish as I started to say no to her. She also said I have changed because I started to create stronger boundaries. I couldn’t handle the drama anymore. She is very emotional and a roller coaster ride of misery all her life.
I have definitely have a lot of shame and guilt for having this trait. I have been used up by people in my life because of my willingness to serve and help. I have learned to say no now when it’s too much and I become overwhelmed. I am at this point in my life where I have to take care of myself and to not put my needs to the side anymore to help others with their needs. I am an attuned mother to my children and we have a beautiful relationship. Thank you for this lecture 😍
It's also like having x-ray vision into people, without even trying, regardless of how they present themselves! It's no wonder we need 8 hours of sleep, and solitude down time! Lol Spot on discussion! ❤️
I'm sure if you have heard it but you could look up mirroring neurons
@@criticalthinker72 yes and it’s fascinating!
Im a HSP but I love going to bars and pubs and parties. I really love being around places that have upbeat and positive vibes. I don't like being generalised as someone who hates socialising. I do find it draining and can feel stressed or very anxious and uncomfortable, it will take me a few drinks to relax.. and I need time to recuperate but I still enjoy socialising and being around people despite this, I love feeding off positive energies and atmospheres with a buzz.
OMG yes! I am the same! I love gatherings where there are nice and good vibes in the atmosphere. I love going to places full of people that are having fun and enjoying themselves and so I always thought that the "not liking to socialize or attend events with a lot of people" trait shouldn't be one that was used to define HSPs. That being said, Fun events I love but recently I found that a negative "overstimulating" situation such as a funeral had me feeling so crazily overwhelmed with the negative air and aura around me that I actually started to feel physically ill and had to leave after forcing myself to remain there after a few hours.
+Lady_Jokerz315 By your description it sounds like you are an extroverted HSP. That need to avoid parties and excessive socializing is more a result of introversion than high sensitivity, in my opinion.
thank you lucky stars.
I think you don't need to fit all the HSP criteria so straightforwardly. The type of socializing we prefer depends on our education, on interests. Some may like a quieter company where you can have meaningful conversations, for example. For me the loud sound or a sound made by neighbours in an adjoining apartment is the killer, but I enjoy smaller company where we discuss interesting things.
I know this is a number of years later, but just in case people actually read this! I lean in the middle with ambivertion, and I do enjoy going out at times- and really enjoy the fun vibes, but I am really tired afterwards. Even if I am hanging out with introverted types, I am tired when I get home and crash. And take the next day to 'unwind' from it. I find I get tired a lot! I am rarely energised by people and situations, and love hanging out at home. I do enjoy company but I can't do it for long.
I resent the suggestion that something is wrong with HSP's by the need for treatment. We are fine thank you and we much enjoy our special abilities.
All points presented in the video match with me!!! :O :D
This was excellent.... At first, the word "Treating" in the title kept me from launching the video... then, after I read several times many comments, I gave it a 'chance' and I liked all of it. It is kind and truthfull... Thank you.
(I don't like that "treatment" word because to me it implies that it applies to a disease, something that 'can be cured', which HSP is not)
Very good and accurate description of HSPs.
HSP and Mental healther here! hooray!!! going to reference this plan and share with the community. thanks so much ❤
Amazing words !!! Thanks 🙏 for sharing !!!
Great video. Thank you!
Thank you for this....helps no end. There needs to be more education on this in general.
Thank you. It helped me to understand myself better. Im both physical and mentally sensitive. So nice to contrast the other personalities. Many thanks
thank you thank you thank you!
I was always told to "suck it up". Yes, exactly me
Thank you for this beautiful explanation....
Thank you Dr Gary Linker I watched your explanation and translate to portuguese in my notebook. Congratulations.
Impressive! That is me for a vast majority of the factors. I wish that mainstream mental health practiioners were open to this.
Before I realized I was HSP, I used all the language HSP's use. What resonated with me most was that we are always in self-preservation mode. Its taken as laziness or lack of ambition. That's just not true. Self-preservation is a biological imperative.
Thank you! So true. 🌻🌺🌼🌷
Thank you very well done
Thank you very much. I love the way you explained us.....
This video is lovely! It was explained to me that I was an HSP at 15 yrs old (I am now 30...it has never been easy as I am married to a - and surrounded by non-sensitives) but, being able to self-manage is encouraging. I am also a nurse. And this video is extremely helpful and insightful. Thank you, thank you!
"Surrounded". Yep, same here. Love the idea of a solo vacation, and although it's a bit guilt-inducing, I think it may be necessary for my own well-being...
Wishing you much success in your own managing. :-)
And to you, too!
I'm a private Carer & I'd get lonely on holiday for a week. Especially in crowded restaurants feeling like a "Billy no Mates"
thank you!
I have also or am hsp
This is really helpful to me zo thank you
Now, everything starts to make sense to me. I always knew I was different to most people around me but never knew why. Thank you so much for this information. However, more than an introvert I am an ambivert. So, I think that there are exceptions or different kind of HSP who might be an introvert, extrovert, or ambivert. Overall, this has been the most complete and accurate information about HSP. Again thanks 🙏🏻 😃💕
Are they try
thank you
This is me. Exactly. I am an empath. Thanks.
very informative and insightful... thank you.. I'm a 65 yr old extrovert HSP...
Through the decades HSP has had many different names as "characteristic" were fine tuned.. I could identify most of my traits by the age of 5 because I was so different from most everyone else....... I liked the label "Spirited Child" but I like "HSP", I think that's gonna stick.. lol...
Dear Sir, does life get easier when HSPs get older? I am at 30 y.o. right now?
That's like saying "Oh, this person has highly sensitive hearing. It's treat it and make him deaf." LOL
the touch issue: could this be related towards a person having Fibromyalgia?
Andrea Perrault my mom had fibro and she's a HSP. Perhaps they are related?
I use the term Sensory Processing Sensitivity (SPS) as unfortunately, the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) 'label' does little more than feed into the already nauseating stigma.
this is a pain in my ass :(
Does anyone know if Dr. Linker has practice or a website?
I cant seem to grasp the difference between an empath and a HSP.
The way it was explained to me, is that all HSPs, are empathic but not all empaths are HSPs.
Empath is a spiritual term, HSP is scientific 🙂
So many options... It can be a drag
Fellow HSP here. I am definitely an HSP. I feel like it's a curse. I hate feeling everything so intensely
So....you, an HSP, must deal with the noisy world. Like most of us, we must work or be in family situations that are too stimulating. I pre-empt the overstimulation using a variety of nervines....herbs to support the nervous system.Like rose, linden, holy basil, bacopa and the list continues. I employ most of the suggestions given but too often we cannot leave a situation and may not want to so the herbs help....a lot!
i had to go through lots of medication and Electric shock therapy...i thoght my personality is a mental illness.
I literally have been thinking the same thing. I mean aside from EST which i had thought about but ultimately felt it end up drooling and dumb AF from some mishap... But ive been labeled bipolar type 2 and social anxiety and panic disorder... Im a stigma now... I feel like the mental health field is so medication oriented and they never actually listen.... Everyone needs a label and in 20 min talking to a therapist i was marked 3 times over with stigmas... 20 min conversation and they "know" someone.... :(
I am not happy with the word "treating" it resounds with implications that there is something wrong with us and there is EVERYTHING RIGHT with us in this cold cold world we live in. How better the world would be if we were all highly sensitive!!! Typical psychologist
That's your sensitivity lol
I agree. But as I listen to the video, I hear support and acceptance. If "treatment" starts with embrace and acceptance and progresses to development, then I'm all for it. (Sorry for the jargon.)
I agree!
Christina Haslam I also agree. HSP is not something you "have" but rather who you are. It's also not an illness. Some hsps have developed emotional locks and other problems due to their trait and those should be treated but not the trait itself.
Ask Europeans what they think of Americans.
Better yet, ask anyone.
I've never felt at home here.
ES-Types are the norm (MBTI)
Most aspire to be psychopaths.
We should all sing: "So long and thanks for all the fish"!
One time someone passed in front of me and i got a scary feeling about them. Is that unusual.
That's not unusual at all!
i don't think so, i've had similar experience and questioned my sanity.
What is the difference between the highly sensitive person and the empath? Can you be both?
Absolutely you can be both
Yes I am both
watching tv as help? its way too overstimulating. I dont watch tv anymore.. if i watch tv now, i get overwelmed by the colors, light, sounds and how fast that comes to me. And what bullshit there is shown on tv hahaha
+Miranda S plus my perspection of reality changed since i stopped watching tv and movies, series, etc. realizing how stupid i have been believing everything shown in tv or movies
+Ananth S7 Indeed, the knowledge of being a HSP did speed up my awakening like crazy, and changed my perception of life and reality (news, media and so on) too.
I see HSP as a gift, first of all it makes life much easier then fighting against it... and seconds, you get to understand things a lot faster
yeah true about the understanding part, but about the gift part, a hsp Boy's life is different, always the need to be competitive with alpha boys :| , anyway, im thankful to be able to understand few real beauties of life
Ow yeah, i get what you mean by alpha boys :-/
Dont loose sight of these beauties, and remember you always have that "little" extra that they don`t have ;)
yup !
Listening to this webinar, I can see people are getting upset with this information based on their comments and it makes sense but it doesn't, its okay. Really.
Just sounds like most water signs...
I've always known I'm highly sensitive- Triple water, Pisces Sun.
How many of you have a lot of water/pisces/neptune in your astrological chart?
My sun signs Pisces and I have 2 other water signs in my chart but my sun sign seems to really be spot on for me.
The psychological traits section describes me to a T.
Dear people, can any of you tell your place, if you are actually being treated nice there because the people around you are well educated to treat you well.....i live in India. Ive been to few states, where the people made me cry( not literally ) every another day.., so, ur place - is it good ??
Hmmm :O
That's a tough question to answer! LOL My very personal and rough guess would generally be that the East coast is too fast paced and rough-minded/competitive for HSP's. The Southeast and Midwest are probably too rustic and backward to know or care about HSP's. But I suppose there are some towns that might be exceptions, like MAYBE Austin, Texas or Boulder Colorado, or Asheville, North Carolina? Generally speaking, I would guess the West coast is most hospitable to HSP's. Although the West coast is generally more expensive, more liberal, and has more restrictions/laws than the Midwest due to the population density. And generally speaking I think cities of over about 200,000 population are more likely to have people who know about HSP's. These are all guesses though, it's a big & complicated country! In general though, I think anywhere you go, there will only be a small percentage of people who know about HSP's - from less than 1% to maybe 5% at best. You will have to make special efforts to find fellow HSP's. Most HSP's have not heard the term, and don't even know that's what they are. But I think awareness of HSP's is very slowly spreading among the population. California has a reputation of being "nice", at least in parts, meaning more polite and relaxed.
We need to be treated? It puts me off watching the video! It's just a way of being. It's actually a gift.
stepahie stevens some HSP's do engage in psychotherapy for personal reasons. Even though this is a gift does not mean we do not have issues at times.
stepahie stevens I definitely want to, and need to. I can't cope in my day to day life, I struggle and am in pain. So why should I not get help? Just cause it's not classified as a personality disorder doesn't mean I have to handle it all myself.
AudraJ12 I'm personally struggling in a world of non-sensitives, so I'm not being critical of people who need or get support. I just think it's an unevolved way of viewing sensitivity to say "treatment". I'm an intuitive sensitive and I see it as being aligned to a spiritual path.
Nifty Youniverse I'm not being critical of the sensitive. I just don't like the word 'treatment' being applied to sensitivity like it's food poisoning.
stepahie stevens I do agree, being high sensitive isn't something negative at all and I would even say, like you already said, that it's a plus, even though it's not really seen this way in our kind of society! I thing the word "dealing with" would be much better and doesn't" sound as negative as "treating".
Many over generalizations. “Some HSP people experience” would have been better. Other than that, great presentation.
As soon as I see “treating” it was a turn off.
'Treating the highly sensitive person'.... for HSP's this is clearly the wrong approach... prehistoric.
The title is misleading, it's a talk by a therapist to other therapists about when their client is HSP. It's well worth listening to, very supportive of HSP
I too think that here 'therapy' is used as a term of therapists' speak. I don't find it in the least offending.😉
This frightens me that you espouse this advice under psychiatric treatment. HSPs can be completely normal, emotionally regulated individuals. Because they are intuitive and highly empathetic does not mean there is something wrong with them. There is clearly something wrong with the mental health community if they believe that these are traits that must be fixed. Let me remind you that the antithesis to extreme empathy is psychopathy. Moving down that continuum is absolutely no rational solution.
Miss E watch the video. None of this happens.
I beg to differ with the Dr...... Being a highly sensitive person is NOT a genetic trait. Being born into a family of highly dysfunctional psycopaths and anti social painful beings all choosing to give pain to everything living around them, does not make for a genetically inherited personality of a Sensitive.That comment insults my spiritual growth, guidence and hard work to get beyond the pain of what I had to survivie through my youth.A Sensitive is not a genetic product of sociopathic environs. I will not listen to anymore of your utube dsiconnect as I know you are wrong. Very wrong. Knowlegde in genetics may help. I'm noy a genetisist and would bet your are not either.Never assume.
Definitely agree!
This video is about inborn sensitivity as defined by the now famous author and psychologist Dr. Elaine Aron.
Sensitivity can be defined in many ways:
1.) Inborn physical/emotional sensitivity as defined by Dr. Elaine Aron. 20% of all humans and animals have this inborn trait.
2.) Easily offended. This is primarily a cognitive function and is highly correlated with cultural and/or family belief systems.
3.) Thoughtful and mindful of taking care of others. This is usually a result of childhood training and experience.
4.) Good manners. This, too, is primarily a result of childhood training and experiences.
5.) Cultural sensitivity /awareness/skills. This may be acquired at various points in ones life.
6.) PTSD emotional reactivity. Most people have some degree of wounds from childhood and later life as well. These wounds can place triggers in the body that cause a person to “overreact” to various people, words, behaviors, situations, etc.
7.) Physical illness that cause unusual vulnerability or weakness in any of several ways, including multiple chemical sensitivities.
8.) Empathic or psychic sensitivity to be able to feel and/or see other people’s energy, aura, and emotions.
9.) There are probably more meanings to the word “sensitive” that I am not aware of.
This video is about inborn sensitivity as defined by the now famous author and psychologist Dr. Elaine Aron.
There are typically areas of overlap from one type of sensitivity to another, but not necessarily.
Here is a link to a quick 27-question quiz that will give you a good idea about this definition of sensitivity, if this is new to you.
hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-... (hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/)
TO the speaker...STOP the umm's! It's annoying to anyone, HSP or not!
low carb cleared all of my HSP problems..........don't fall for this
manufactured problem......all goes back to blood sugar swings which gets
people amped up and empathetic, and overstimulated, and
anxious..........also , b1 deficiency symptoms are the same as HSP
traits etc. thanks
Are you still need sensitive?
@@suap309 still doing good, with occasional setbacks, but overall good when supplementing with saffron, magnesium, b1, and staying away from caffeine, chocolate, and greek yogurt. be well.